Passion – a word that has so much energy and promise. It brings lovers together; it wins wars; it creates fine art and literature; it makes money; and it works miracles.  Those who find it have the potential to do all of the above and more.  What are you constantly drawn to do that gives you that feeling of accomplishment and joy?  Though this may have nothing to do with your purpose, it’s likely that it can give you a clue – a direction in which to start seeking.

“Passion is contagious, and when you have the courage to share your passion for life with those around you, it can inspire others to find the path to their dreams!”
~Michele DeVille

Keep in mind, though, there are passions that serve you and others well – and those that don’t. Just as the honorable, passionate woman brings beauty and love to the table, her counterpart, the naughty, greedy (equally passionate) gal can ruin lives faster than you can say Desperate Housewives.  Is Your Passion Honorable?  In a perfect world, I could give you a perfect answer, but we all know that is not going to happen anytime soon.  So, instead, I will give you the best one I know: it depends on what you believe is honorable.  And in that perfect world we would all understand the legitimacy of honor.  It is simple and really does fit in a nutshell: Love.  If what you desire is driven by love for someone or something else other than self, it’s honorable.

Acting from a place of love and intuition will honor you as well as mankind.  Secondly, it will make room for you.  That means you won’t be fighting tooth and nail to express or work within your passion.  Furthermore, others notice you can’t stop talking about it with a broad, natural smile on your face.  It expands your world and makes your heart beat faster.

***This post is an excerpt from Kellie Stone’s book, “The Butterfly Payoff“.  Stay connected for upcoming information about obtaining a copy of this gold nugget-filled work!

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Fighting Candida

If taking antibiotics concerns you or medical costs are too high, you may want to think about treating your yeast infection naturally. Many essential oils and herbs effectively treat yeast infections. Not only do they treat the acute infection, but they help prevent future outbreaks.  Remember to consult with your health care provider before using any natural remedy. You may also want to consider a Candida Cleanse before adding essential oils and herbs to treat yeast problems.

Candida microorganisms are common, and as long as the good bacterium controls the population – there is no problem, however, if the Candida multiplies, a yeast infection can occur. Introducing antibiotics to the system is often a culprit as well as a poor diet.  Natural remedies and cleanses are a viable way to keep Candida under control, but dietary changes increase success. The Candida cleanse clears the way for treatment and can be done even when you are healthy or in between infections.

The Cleanse

Step 1: Find a reputable Candida cleanse product.  Consider cleaning out your colon prior to starting the Candida program. Candida lives in the intestines, and natural remedies may not have sufficient strength to completely eradicate the colony if there is impacted waste present. Colon cleansing products vary in quality, so do some research.  Follow the product recommendations carefully and move on to the Candida cleanse when you finish with the colon cleanse regimen.

Step 2: Use the Candida cleanse product as directed.  After two weeks start an anti-fungal remedy. Raw garlic is a natural anti-fungal,  as well as olive leaf extract, carrot juice, apple cider vinegar, Caprylic acid .

Step 3: Find a quality probiotic product at your local health food store and follow the recommended dosages. Probiotics help your body build up good bacteria it needs to strengthen the immune system and fight the yeast infection.

Be well-be beautiful-be happy!

***The content of this post is not intended to replace professional advice from your health care provider.  Women’s Life Link, it’s authors, associates, commentators, or linked sites do not claim that any information will diagnose, treat, improve, or cure any disease or condition.

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Have you ever met someone who whines about everything? She never accepts responsibility for her actions; it’s always the fault of someone else.  It’s fair to say that this perpetual attitude is precisely why she is living a life of despair and frustration.  She has never realized that it’s her Journey to own and treasure.  After all, isn’t it much more fun to pass the proverbial buck on to Aunt Millie or anyone who willingly enables us to do so?  For a while, perhaps, then it gets old…excruciatingly old.

A remarkable woman comes to mind; her name is Helen Keller. Though everyone has at least heard of her, the story told in most text books and biographies may not make the point that I’m about to.  Helen was someone who knew how to own her circumstances and make the best of the hand she was dealt.  Where so many fail and get tripped up, she succeeded.  Why?  I believe it was her circumstance of limited senses that gave her a unique perspective about “who she was and why she was here”.

She had no distractions (TV, radio, eye candy, Face book, fussy kids) from the powerful emotions and drive she felt inside. Some of those emotions were dark but only because she wanted to communicate so badly.  Just think how many times we hesitate to speak out or be ourselves due to confusion or fear.  Not Miss Keller; nothing stopped her from pushing (working) through her challenges to become one of the most renowned motivational icons of the twentieth century; an inspiration to all, not just the physically-challenged, an astounding achievement if you consider her limitations.  Like Helen, I tend to believe that our “limitations” are the key to making a distinct mark on the world. It makes me believe in miracles to read about her life.

Be well-be beautiful-be happy!

***This post is an excerpt from Kellie’s new book, “The Butterfly Payoff: a woman’s guide to discovering purpose, fulfilling needs…And getting paid for it!”. Stay tuned for more information about this tell-all powerhouse of Kellie’s life-changing tips!

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I want to tell you about some fabulous skin care products I’ve had the pleasure of using. Dr. Michelle Copeland, renowned plastic surgeon and author, created a line that surpasses most out there in quality and effective ingredients.  My first exposure to Dr. Copeland was when I read her book, “The Beautiful Skin Workout”, which details a healthy skin regimen for all ages.  After looking for products to use myself, I graciously received some complimentary full-sized bottles from her company.  And just to let you know, I’m offering a starter set (valued at $126.00) to one lucky reader during the upcoming September 15 and 16 Blogmania.  Trust me; you want these products!

Recently, I started to break out with what has now been diagnosed as Adult Inflammatory Acne…yes, it sucks. And especially for someone like me who never experienced frequent breakouts in her life.  Well, the Copeland skincare has kept it at bay and even cleared most of the existing areas of redness.  Specifically, the AHA face creme has offered a dynamic exfoliation that I wasn’t getting from just masking or using scrub.  This daily product helps to remove dead skin cells while making room for the new ones.  I’ve noticed improvement in my skin’s texture and clarity over the past several weeks of using this creme.

I’m especially pleased with the Daily Cleanser that has a luxurious creamy feel that I’ve not come across in my search for good skincare. At first you think it’s not going to clean well because of the rich consistency, but after rinsing it’s clear that this soap-free product removes makeup, impurities, and oil build-up.

The Advanced Face Serum is formulated to help “rewind” the affects of aging and sun-damage by smoothing skin and diminishing fine lines and discolorations. I use it everyday and have evidence that it really does work!  I love the fact that the products don’t have any scent, an added feature for those who are sensitive.

I’ve also enjoyed the spray toner and Hydrating Mist. Blasting my face with a couple of spritzes totally refreshes me in this horrible heat that we’ve been having here in the Midwest.  The Mineral-free formula is made from the purist water available and is affordable at only $10.00 for a 7 oz bottle.

Overall I’m impressed with the line and would recommend it for anyone who wants affordable, quality skincare. Dr. Michelle’s books are quite informative and give you everything you need to know about face and body care.  So, here’s the deal…

On September 15th and 16th, Women’s Life Link will be one of the blogs participating in this year’s Blogmania giveaway. By the way, our theme is “Make Over Your Life”.  All you have to do is show up here sometime during those two days and leave a comment to be entered for our giveaway!  We are featuring 2 prize packages valued at over $400 each.  Along with the skincare products, we are giving away a 4 session mini life-coaching program called “Jump Start Your Journey” and a gift certificate for image consulting by a licensed cosmetologist and fashionista!  For more info on the Blogmania event, click on the icon in the right sidebar.

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Be well-be beautiful-be happy!

***No one affiliated with this site received revenue for this review.  However, complimentary products were furnished for the trial.

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One of the most poisonous thoughts anyone can have is this: I can’t. Have you ever considered how many times you’ve rehearsed that statement in your mind?  You don’t even have to say the words out loud or clearly identify them consciously for them to have a negative impact on your life.  After a while the implication of not being able to do or receive something comes in the form of what I call “drive-by feelings.” Let me explain…

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

Limitations

I’ve always loved beautiful things, clothing, furniture, jewelry, etc. but have lacked the income to purchase most of what I find attractive…it’s felt like a curse at times.  I would look at photos and touch the items with unfulfilled yearning time-and-time-again just to be disappointed by my mind that always initiated words and emotions of discouragement.  It was like an invisible flash card in front of me that emphatically said: You can’t have that!  Most of the time I wouldn’t even hear the words; I began to feel instant emotional let down without even thinking anything.  I knew I had to change this devastating “auto-pilot” response to the desires of my heart; otherwise, I would never have them.

Change Comes

One day, I opened my Internet Home Page as usual and saw an article/review for a new car created by Porsche called the Panamera. I have loved all things Porsche since I was a young teen.  The photo of the new car intrigued me, so I opened the link and even researched further on the Porsche site.  Surprisingly, I felt like a kid in a candy store with a pocket full of money!  I didn’t feel the violating “drive-by” negative emotion, nor did my mind rehearse any “I can’t” lines.  WOW!  I had a HUGE breakthrough in mental awareness.  This, my friends, is how you create your future!  It has to happen on the inside first before you see it on the outside.  I’ll let you know when I pick up my new car!`

Now, let me clarify something:  you don’t have to do this with $100,000.00 cars or anything luxurious for that matter. You can be much more practical if that’s your desire.  Be aware of your reactions to anything that typically has been mentally “off limits” to you; such as, overcoming chronic illness, landing a new job, a fulfilling marriage or relationship, obedient kids.  Start small and work up bigger things.

Introspection

This week ask yourself what things and/or events that you truly want in your life. Write down your answer in your journal.  Now, next to that list, record how you feel and what you think when you think about those things.  Is it negative, positive or indifferent?  Focus on why wanting those items and changes causes subsequent emotions whether they be pleasant or discouraging.  Remember, awareness is your first step to changing.  Also consider this is not going to change overnight.  Practice makes perfect in this case.

Be well-be beautiful-be happy!

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Well, ladies (and gents), I’ve been loving my new apartment with a lake view. It has given me some true relaxing time, staring out at the reflection that somehow always looks more interesting than the real thing.  I’ve been paying attention to a group of ducks that lives by the lake.  They are out swimming, flying, and playing every day.  I’m thankful for the fact that I get on-the-spot epiphanies from nature’s performance quite often.  This week was no exception.

The ducks launch from the lake’s edge frequently. One day I noticed the white raised wake that follows them to their destination.  It’s point is always at their tale.  It then spreads into arrow formation that, as the duck swims, gets wider and wider.  The wake points touch both sides of the lake by the time the duck reaches the upper end (see photo for reference).  And, if the duck stops, it stops and fades away.  If the duck changes direction, it follows him…

My initial thought prompted a nugget: The ducks, doing what they are supposed to do, create an ever-spreading effect on the lake that is totally controlled by their movement.

Application:  YOU and I can live with purpose (doing what we were meant to do) and affect the world with an ever spreading message that we can control by our movements.  I thought it was cool!

So, today, think about what message you want to bring to the world; how you will spread it; how far you want it to reach; and whom you want to receive it.

Be well-be beautiful-be happy!

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Here at Women’s Life Link we focus on being well, beautiful, and happy. Joining us today for Wellness Wednesday is our own Dr. Lamse.  Read on for a few of her marvelous tips and remedies.  I recommend that you save this post under favorites or just print it out for quick reference.  Be well-be beautiful-be happy!

˜Kellie

Home Remedies: Be Prepared

By Anca Lamse, MD

WELLNESS: being healthy physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually; feeling good, looking good, smelling good, BEING good!

The Flu

Try to keep at least some of  these things in the house, so you can act RIGHT AWAY when the situation arises. If you come down with the flu, for instance, and you feel like you’ve been hit by a truck, you will most likely NOT go to the pharmacy at that time to get oscillococcinum.  The remedy works best if you take it right away, when the symptoms first emerge.

Two weeks ago I came home from work, felt GREAT, took a walk. 10 minutes after the walk my muscles and my joints started hurting all of a sudden, and I felt feverish+ had chills. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I took the oscillococcinum, sweated it out that night, and went to work the next day and functioned normally (albeit a bit slower). I felt perfect the following day.  It DOESN’T ALWAYS work this way, but it’s worth a try; no side effects! Inexpensive, too!

Using Essential Oils

GLOSSARY: essential oils (EOs): volatile compounds extracted from plants by distillation; can be quite POWERFUL; talk to a professional, if you have not used them before, or if you don’t know much about them. Dilute with vegetable oil if too strong.

• Keep out of reach of children; don’t rub your eyes after touching them without first washing your hands with dish soap.

• Mandarin and other citrus oils (bergamot, orange, grapefruit, lemon, lime) sensitize skin to the sun; do not expose area to the sun for 12-24 hrs after application; that’s why the citrus oils are often more handy in the winter than in the summer.

• I personally love mint-based oils for the summer.

• If you develop a rash, stop using the oil and call your doctor, if rash persists.

Homeopathic Remedies

See Dr. Weil’s post below (and also keep in mind that homeopathic principles were recognized in the Indian medicine for thousands of years, and Dr. Hahnemann from Germany rediscovered it in the 1700s). In Europe homeopathy is very popular, and it is used alongside with conventional medicine. Some argue that the remedies are so diluted, that the beneficial effects are actually placebo effects (they work because the person is expecting them to work). However, homeopathy often works well with children and animals; where is the placebo effect there? Anyway, like all alternative remedies, some people respond better to homeopathy than others.

You may get them at the health food store, and I also carry the most popular ones in my office.

Homeopathic Medicine, by Dr. Weil

Help for Common Ailments

• FLU (sudden muscle and joint aches, +/- chills/fever): oscillococcinum homeopathic remedy, available at most regular pharmacies

• DIARRHEA/food poisoning: charcoal and psyllium pills; may get at the health food store or my office. Take one of each, 2-3 times a day as needed. Do NOT take at the same time with meds/supplements because the meds/supps will not be absorbed. Separate the meds from the charcoal/psyllium by 2-3 hrs or so. Your stool may turn black from the charcoal.

• TUMMY ACHES/INDIGESTION: chamomile tea +/- essential oils. Play music that feels good (usually slow music, but listen to your body). Massage oil on abdomen and take regular, comfortable breaths.  There are many choices of EOs for abdominal discomfort.  Ginger-based, if you like the smell. Great in the winter, as it’s a warming spice.  Peppermint-based, especially in the summer.  Sandalwood- or mandarin-based.

• BUG BITES: niaouli- and amni visnaga-based essential oils.

• SMALL BURNS: lavender essential oil, apply 2-3 times a day. Studies have shown that small wounds (such as the patients in the Intensive Care Unit, who had their blood sugar checked every 4 hrs or so) heal faster if lavender is applied. Do not rely on lavender if wound/burn is severe. Make sure your tetanus shot is up to date.

• RESPIRATORY AND SINUS ISSUES: peppermint and eucalyptus-based essential oils for steam inhalation (put 3-5 drops of EO in 1 teaspoon of sea salt; add to 2 cups of hot water); hover over the hot water for 5-10 min twice a day as needed.  Be careful NOT to burn your face. Close your eyes, as the EO steam may bother them.

• FEELING BLUE: (depression also needs to be treated by a physician, if severe): neroli EO; citrus (orange is perceived as a very bright, ,”happy” oil by a lot of people; bergamot EO (diffusion only, as bergamot is very PHOTOSENSITIZING and you may get SUNBURN IF YOU PUT IT ON YOUR SKIN and then go out in the sun).

• FEELING ANXIOUS: chamomile homeopathic (if you feel irritable, like the person next to you is breathing too loud, maybe? coffea homeopathic if you feel jittery and cannot turn off your mind.  EOs: marjoram, may chang, lavender, sandalwood, palo santo.

• GROUNDING: cedar wood-based; you can also hug a tree

• UPLIFTING SCENTS: citrus (orange, grapefruit, lemon, lime) mint- or basil-based.  Mandarin, though a citrus, calms you DOWN and is not considered uplifting.  I love putting a combo of peppermint/rosemary/spearmint/cardamom EO on a Kleenex in my car, and enjoy it while I’m driving.  Quite exhilarating!

• SUDDEN BAD NEWS/GRIEF/TRANSITIONS/BREAK-UPS: Ignatia homeopathic cypress-based EO.

• FEARS/ANXIETY/CLAUSTROPHOBIA: I call the homeopathic Aconite “natural Xanax, or Valium” without the side effects.  Again, some people respond better than others to homeopathics.

• MUSCLE ACHES: after physically working unusually hard: Arnica homeopathic.  Epsom salts (contain magnesium, don’t use if you have kidney problems)  Marjoram-based essential oil bath salts. Marjoram is a great muscle relaxant (skeletal and smooth muscle), so it’s good for uterine spasm during menses, and for the big muscles. Don’t drive while smelling this; it’s very relaxing!

Here’s a few PERFUMERY tidbits, because genuine, unadulterated EOs have therapeutic properties. EOs are also antibacterial to a certain degree; some more than others.  So: this is perfume that can be healthier than conventional fragrances.

• FEMININE SCENTS: these may help women feel more attractive: ylang-ylang, jasmine, gardenia.  If you like more musky scents, or for evening events: sandalwood, patchouli, ginger-based oils.

• MASCULINE SCENTS: cedar wood, patchouli, sandalwood (musky, spicy scents can be unisex, i.e. both women and men may use them).

I wish you all to feel good, look good, smell good, BE good! This  is a topic of great interest. Please don’t be offended if I don’t respond to all of your email questions.  If condition persists after you’ve used the remedy, or the condition is severe to begin with, or if you are in doubt AT ALL, please consult your doctor!  Respect natural remedies and be safe.

Blessings,

Dr. Lamse

***The content of this article is strictly informational and is not meant to replace the advice of your health care provider.  Women’s Life Link, its authors, associates, linked sites, and commentators do not claim that any of the content will diagnose or lead to a cure or improvement of any disease or condition.

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How many of are ready for your deepest desires and dreams to come true?  Now, how many of you don’t believe it can happen for you?

I’m Journey Coach, Kellie Stone, and I’m here to tell you that you can see your dreams manifest before your eyes. There is a saying that goes like this: You have not failed unless you stop trying.  Boy, have we all heard that one or others that tell us that we simply need to keep going, to hold vigil to our innermost dreams with each passing day; it gets a little redundant hearing the message.  Here’s the thing:  Why do so many give up, stop trying, even turn their backs on what it is they thought was SO important to them?  Quite an Introspection…

I’ve spent many days “pumped up” about the future, my desires, my hopes and dreams. On the contrary, there have been many that I’ve wallowed in the depths of despair due to the lack of motivation and faith to continue on the Journey to success.  You see, sometimes people whom you think have everything “together” are really struggling with many of the same things you are.  Life Coaches, Doctors, Counselors, Teachers, Ministers, and even Spiritual Gurus come to places of concern, challenge, and disappointment in the pursuit of life goals.  In fact, EVERYONE experiences this at one time or another!

What I’m going to tell you, anyone can do…anyone! That’s important considering too many women out there really believe that you have to posses some kind of X-Factor to get what you truly want and need.  Not so!  If you are teachable; you can accomplish anything you desire to! I’ve done these six steps and understand how they work. And, yes, doing all of them together DOES work!  My life is full of manifestations of dreams and goals.  Some I’ve had for years, and some are newborn babes.  OK, now for the keys to unlocking your dreams!

Step One:  Inception (origin: an event that is a beginning; a first part or stage of subsequent events)

You know how sometimes things are ugly at the beginning, ie., the pile of paint supplies before you paint; the mess of ingredients on the counter before the gourmet dinner; the wrinkled, red-faced newborn baby (still cute, but not pretty).  These examples are meant to help you see how “beginnings” are not always glorious, nor do they normally resemble the end result in any way, shape, or form.  The point is that you have start somewhere; it might as well be today, right?  The key is your intention: Are you making Lasagna or Spaghetti?  Do you want to write a book or a poem?  Clarify the what first.  And don’t worry about what it looks like.  Starting is a key to manifesting your dreams.

Step Two:  No Looking Back (Forward MARCH!)

You have now stepped onto a path…Your Journey. The length, breadth, and challenge level of that path is as unique as you and your dream.  As much as we all love to look back over our shoulders at what is behind us, this is not the time to do that.  Have you ever watched an Olympic track event?  Notice that the competitors don’t look around or back at who is near them.  They focus wholeheartedly on the finish line.  That is where the reward is.  If runners lose concentration for just one second, it could mean losing their position, falling, and eventually losing the race.  Sound familiar?  Forward focus is a key to manifesting your dreams.

Step Three:  Set Goals: (Goal Setting involves establishing specific, measurable and time-targeted objectives.)

This imperative step carries your “what” along the path with steadfast determination.  I’ve read and heard a lot about this step to success, and honestly, I think there is something that most people don’t understand: they don’t set obtainable goals.  Why aren’t they obtainable?  Because they don’t believe in their ability to obtain them.  You see, you can’t manifest anything you don’t believe…including the completion of a goal.  Setting believable goals is a key to manifesting your dreams.

Step Four: Invest Time, Emotion, and Effort Wisely:  (investment – the commitment of something other than money (time, energy, or effort) to a project with the expectation of some worthwhile result.)

A dream deserves your best, right?  It does if you want it to be a reality . You can’t just lay around and expect things to happen on their own (well, at least not everything).  Let me explain.  There is a thing called working smart that is WAY too often overlooked in leu of working harder.  Putting forth effort the right way and toward the right dream-enabling things will get you there far faster and with less stress than you can even imagine.  Your mind and emotions have more to do with your dreams than your toil and trouble do…really.  Keeping your mind, heart, and spirit focused on the positive outcome and how it will change your life is a key to manifesting your dreams.

Step Five: Track Your Progress (observe or plot the moving path of something).

It’s somewhat like following a map to your destination. If you don’t know how to do that, get a navigator or a Journey Coach.  Just make sure you know where you are with your goals at all times.  This is where you facilitate changes for an efficient passage to the end.  You also will see your finish line more clearly and with emotional gratitude.  Tracking your progress is a key to manifesting your dreams.

Step Six: Enjoy (derive or receive pleasure from; get enjoyment from; take pleasure in)

I highly recommend that you start step six from the beginning, carry it through the whole process, and lavish it at the finish line. You must find a way to love this path you’ve chosen or you WON’T get too far. Joy is a key to manifesting your dreams.

Now, if you notice, the six steps are actually an acronym for the word IN-SITE.  Inception-No looking back-Set Goals-Invest-Track-Enjoy

IN-SITE is also a coaching package that I will be offering on the new Women’s Life Link and corresponding sites that are under construction.  I will talk more about it in the coming weeks as I’m in the depths of my own IN-SITE process for my dream.  But if you can’t wait to hear about this opportunity to make your dreams come true, email me at womenslifelink@gmail.com.

Be well-be beautiful-be happy

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Confidence: assurance: freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities

Since I can remember, I have been a confident girl/woman. Now let me tell you exactly what that means, at least to me.  It means that I don’t freak out when asked to speak in front of people; I don’t mind walking into a crowded room; I’m not afraid to try new things (most of the time); and it doesn’t take much persuasion for me to talk about myself to others.

Now, let me tell you about a time when I crossed the line into the world of vanity. It went something like this:  I would not leave the house unless I had on full make-up, hair done, every article of clothing in place, and I knew I looked good.  Nothing wrong with looking good, but it was a little extreme when it caused me to be late, miss out on opportunities, and even hinder relationships.  I also would not shut up long enough to let anyone else talk.  I couldn’t because it was all about me.  I now know how much I missed by not listening to others.

Vanity: extreme love of self : feelings of excessive pride

The line (the really thin one) is almost invisible to those of us who are confident. We even use the “I’m a confident woman” as an excuse for our behavior.  When every thought, action, and plan we have becomes about ourselves, it’s time to take an inventory.  I did.  Vanity is something that can capture you, wrap you up, and render you as helpless as being without confidence.  It repels people and opportunities.

What is Confidence, Really?

Confidence is not a trait that many are just born with. Though some seem to possess it from a very young age…the preschooler who always starts the games and activities; the first-grader who always raises her hand; the middle school girl who tries out for the cheer team “just because” and actually makes it.  You know those types, don’t you?  Usually confidence is gained over a period of time by being yourself and having positive results come from your thoughts and actions.  Others notice you for being genuinely caring and interested in them and the world around you.  Confidence.  Then you have the ones who fly quickly past confidence and go straight to vanity.  Here’s some insight into how they might act:

What is Vanity, Really?

The vain woman is a delicate creature who needs to have praise, attention, and be as perfect as possible at all times. They think that everything and everyone around them is focused on them; therefore, they have to obtain perfection.  The funny thing is that though perfection is the goal, the woman may be clueless to what is expected or even wanted by those around her.  For example: a businesswoman- a vain one- gets a new position at a prestigious company.  She is determined to show off her goods in beauty and in talent.  Barely passing the office door, she is already flirting with the men, making the women uncomfortable, and assuming that the boss is putting all of his or her eggs in her basket.  She has inadvertently shot herself in the foot with her inappropriate behavior.

Everything is Not About You…or Me

Time to get a clue, ladies and gentlemen (I know you men read WLL, too). You know who you are.  At this point in our existence and the crucial time in our history, we need to start thinking about the greater good of mankind as opposed to “what can I get out of  this?”.  Don’t get me wrong; I’m all for give and take and getting something in exchange for your hard work.  But here’s the thing:  keep in mind that there are 6 billion other people on the planet who are just as valuable as you are.  Furthermore, they are not all alive to serve you, to love you, to praise you, or to even look at you for that matter.  So, start thinking about your actions and thoughts in terms of how you can bring a little more focus on others and get it off of yourself.  Vanity is nothing more than a tool of self-destruction.

For the sake of creating a short book on the issues of vanity, I will end this post here. However, if this is a topic that you’d like to hear more about, leave a comment or feel free to email me directly at womenslifelink@gmail.com.

Be well-be beautiful-be happy!

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Women’s Life Link  is participating in one of the Web’s premiere blog giveaway events this coming September called Blogmania.  To be exact, it’s September 15th and 16th.  Trust me; you want to join in on the fun and generous giveaways we and our fellow bloggers are bestowing on our readers!  We will be highlighting our vendors and their fabulous prizes over the next couple of months, so hang with us for more details.  I also wanted to tell you about an upcoming Twitter party that is coming up in a month that includes prizes!  Thanks for visiting! 

Be well-be beautiful-be happy!

Blogmania bloggers are all about building relationships – between our blogs, our cherished readers, the online community and business owners. We value each other’s opinion as we all are endeavoring to make the best choices for our home life. So it seemed natural to partner up with The Lane Real Estate Team and Breebee’s blog to bring you our first ever twitter and blog blast party.

The Lane Real Estate Team is all about building relationships through communities – specializing inKennewick Homes for Sale. And Bree is a blogger – and a mom – trying to think outside of the box and help build community ties in NW Columbus OH via her Kid event website! Our other twitter party sponsors also offer items to help strengthen and maintain relationships – from stationary to hand stamped sentiments.

Our Party Theme: “Building toward Blogmania with The Lane Real Estate Team” [http://www.joelane.com/]

Info on the Blog Blast:

If you post on your blog(s) our announcement between now and the twitter party you will be entered to win $100 cash. If we reach 500 blogs there will be two additional $50 drawings, totaling 3 winners! You can email me,breejanderson@gmail.com or blogmaniapr@gmail.com for the HTML code for blog(s) links and some posting specific OR ask the post owner for info and that blog owner will provide you an HTML code.

Please return with your specific blog post links on Bree’s Blog, under her Twitter Party PAGE tab.

Info on the Twitter Party:

9:30-10:30pm, Sunday, EST we will party!

There is a custom tweet grid and a linky for early RSVP. RSVP’ing early also enters you into special drawings. You do not have to RSVP to tweet and win but the ‘extra’ will not be available.

You can win both the blog blast and at the twitter party!

RSVP at BreeBee’s:

Photo by Ady-MUM