As the founder of a dating site based in Southern California I’ve never heard of hiberdating, and a quick Google search reveals 30 (there are no zeros or decimal points missing in that number) references.

J’ACUSE TELEGRAPH!

Not only are you re-printing a press-release fromYahoo! Personals, you don’t even have the testicular fortitude to check the veracity of your copy. As for the suggested reasons for the failure of wintertime relationships – a lack of daylight and the stress of the holidays – wouldn’t that mean divorce rates would be highest furthest from the equator? Shouldn’t you have checked that?

Pathetic.

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Today I saw a profile in which the man had described himself as “tactile”. I’m sure he thinks that suggests he’s warm and friendly, but a straw poll of women in my immediate vicinity makes it clear it suggests to them he’s an octo-pervert who needs mace, restraint and therapy.

More seriously, if there’s an appropriate time for physical contact on a date you’ll know. There’s no point in pointing out it’s something you desire. You only suggest you’re likely to lunge inappropriately and make what should be organic opportunities to get close to someone awkward and tense.

Standing out online is harder than it is in person. You can post an amazing photo, but many people will assume it’s not real. You can write a brilliant profile, but then have to rely on people taking the time to read it. So what other options do you have?

If you’re talented you can do what Brian did and, though the content might be considered a little… (what’s the word… pathetic?) the execution is stunning and smart and makes brilliant use of Craigslists formlessness.

I bet he’s got more offers than he knows what to do with.

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This woman has put the effort in and I bet it’s yielded significant dating dividends. Geekiness pays off again.

Sturdy chassis, lightly used (but highly driven) seeks new prospects.

The author dredges up the creme of the crap along with his own commentary. Ironically, some of the people featured must meet dates thanks to the unintended celebrity the blog delivers. That said, you really shouldn’t be dating these people, put down the keyboard.

The month log revelry, held in Lisdoonvarna (which sounds more like a Finnish Death metal band than an Irish town) it’s a chance to stuff the coffers of visit a charming Irish town and perhaps make a drunken mistake which lasts a lifetime meet the person of your dreams.

Which woman wouldn’t trust a matchmaker for whom Willie Daly’s not a promise, it’s a name?

Asian women are most likely to marry outside their race, with 20.13% marrying white men and 1.12% marrying black men. Asian men are less diverse with 6.45% marrying white women and .28% marrying black women.

Black men marry almost identically to Asian men. 6.83% marry white women and .87% Asians. Black women are more conservative with only 3.16% marrying white men and .19% marrying Asians.

White men are the second least open group with a minuscule .24% marrying black women and a hardly impressive 1.27% marrying Asians – though that is the most commonplace interracial Asian relationship and represents more than a fifth of all Asian women’s marriages. White women win the prize for most racially homogeneous long-term relationships, .55% marry black men and .35% Asians.

I would have guessed these numbers completely differently. Even in 2009 98.49% of white men and 99.10% of white women marry people of their own race. It’s not much of a melting pot.

Possible reasons why? I’m not going to touch that with a barge pole. However, Jen Kwok does make a solid argument for dating Asian men in this YouTube clip.

Their other points are more interesting but I disagree with some of their analysis. Here’s an alternate take.

1. Be literate

They say: Netspeak/textspeak are a turn off (excluding “haha” and “lol”).

We say: Only Prince can get away with texting abbreviations in email.

2. Avoid physical compliments

They say: Saying “You’re gorgeous” is “icky”.

We say: Saying “Your’re gorgeous” is both insincere, based on a photo, and obvious. Don’t.

3. Use an unusual greeting

They say: “Hi”, “Hey” and “Hello” are all bad online openers.

We say: They don’t work because the messages that follow them are normally devoid of all original thought. Surprise people, pleasantly – and they’ll return the favor.

4. Don’t try to take it outside

They say: Don’t share email or phone numbers too soon.

We say: …because it’s spamy and desperate. You’re already on a dating site, play a little bit hard to get just so the people you’re meeting can retain a little dignity.

5. Bring up specific interests

They say: Discuss shared niche interests, show you’ve read their profile.

We say: Be interesting and demonstrate you can talk about something other than yourself. Passion – about anything – is attractive.

6. If you’re a guy, be self-effacing

They say: Vulnerability is attractive.

We say: Confidence is attractive and confident people can admit their weaknesses without feeling diminished by them.

7. Consider becoming an atheist

They say: Being an atheist is way more potent than declaring a religious affiliation

We say: Have you seen truly devoted evangelists? It’s not sexy. Additionally, as a relatively small slice of the population, atheists are likely to be highly responsive to anyone who won’t try to convert them.

You can read the full report here