My Verbally Abusive Marriage

Cycle of Abuse and The Goose Who Laid The Golden Egg

Kellie Jo Holly — Mon, 14 May 2012 14:21:16 +0000

Written November 2009 while still married to my husband: Abuse is wildly twisted and warps the minds and hearts of everyone it touches. The ones who we call abusers are as tortured as the ones we call victims. There is no excuse for any abuse one person afflicts upon another. It is not noble or [...] Related posts:

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Emma’s Story of Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Sat, 12 May 2012 05:16:33 +0000

I have a master’s in mechanical engineering and recently returned from Germany back to my home country in India. The reason being that I am preparing for my career in pure mathematics and had no other option than do my preparation at home (with my parents living in the same house obviously). Basically my dad [...] Related posts:

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Connie’s Story of Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Sat, 12 May 2012 04:04:23 +0000

Connie struggles to live with her husband who constantly confuses her with his words and actions. He has not physically abused her at this point, but many people do not know that blocking doors, grabbing arms, and pushing is physical violence. He verbally, mentally and emotionally abuses Connie almost daily. She’s been with him a [...] Related posts:

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Penny’s Story of Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Tue, 01 May 2012 02:19:43 +0000

Penny felt embarassed, stupid, and emotional pain during her abusive experience. She found out she was being abused when she “felt something was not right”, lost, and unloved (among other things). Penny writes: I went back to this relationship 3 times, I was 29 when I first met her and I was 52 when I left for good. I felt that I could change her - but that didn’t happen. She [...] Related posts:

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Maribel’s Story of Verbal Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Tue, 01 May 2012 01:57:38 +0000

Maribel described her abusive relationship with the words threatened, scared, hopeless and hurt. She found out she was being abused when her partner threatened to slap her. She writes: It all started when he said for me to bring him his phone from the room. He did not say it in a polite fashion, although [...] Related posts:

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Mick’s Story of Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 04:42:58 +0000

I guess people don’t often think of men as victims of abuse, but I’m one. I’ve been married 8 years and have one child. My wife and I met and got married pretty quickly – a few months. Everything was great until the wedding day when she had some sort of anxiety or panic attack, [...] Related posts:

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Less Than I Am Gallery

Kellie Jo Holly — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 16:00:51 +0000

I’m writing my blog on healthyplace.com about “trust” and found a picture page on this website that I’d forgotten existed. [Did anyone else just hear the song "Picture pages, picture pages, time to get your picture pages, time to get your crayons and your pencils..." Bill Cosby, I think. Anyway...] I drew some pictures in the [...] Related posts:

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Begging for It

Kellie Jo Holly — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 13:58:57 +0000

My brain muddles when I wish it were clear. I want time, more time, more time…but for what? This pessimistic vibe infiltrating my outlook feels controlling and mean. I see visions of failure where visions of success once played. I feel forsaken when I’m cared for and lost although I’ve been found. I think of [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.

Little Update

Kellie Jo Holly — Thu, 05 Apr 2012 12:22:46 +0000

My grandma is really sick. I’m worried about her. Please keep Granny in your prayers and ask that she be able to return home soon because she isn’t going to like the nursing home at all. Also, I apologize to those who have emailed stories to me and have not seen them posted as of [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.

Celebrate what makes you great!

Kellie Jo Holly — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 20:18:30 +0000

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Wife beating caught on video

Kellie Jo Holly — Sun, 25 Mar 2012 06:09:03 +0000

The abuser received 36 years in prison, the longest sentence given to someone who abused (but did not kill) his wife in New York. The judge viewed the visual evidence afforded by the tape, and finally saw what happens behind closed doors. Many other judges won’t see it. If you know a judge, send him/her [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.

Blame – Feature Film About Abuse in Relationships

Kellie Jo Holly — Sat, 24 Mar 2012 16:23:00 +0000

This film is not yet produced. The link takes you to a page from where you can donate to get production off the ground. About the Film: “Blame” is a full-length feature independent film that explores the world of abusive relationships. “Blame” captures the brutality of an emotionally/verbally abusive relationship in a story that many [...] Related posts:

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Missing Link

Kellie Jo Holly — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 16:35:21 +0000

I’m confused. I’m missing a link somewhere between where I am and where I am headed. I am working from home and in school full-time. I am surviving on a small settlement in the interim, planning on it to last until I make the money I need to support myself. I do not want to [...] Related posts:

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The Tapping on the Window

Kellie Jo Holly — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 17:59:57 +0000

I am 14. I have opened my window, rotating it out just enough to see his headlights reflect in it when he turns down his driveway. I want him to return home, want him to come tapping on my window. I want to be his girlfriend. He is the boy who raped me, on his [...] No related posts. Related posts brought to you by Yet Another Related Posts Plugin.

Guest Blogger!

Kellie Jo Holly — Tue, 06 Mar 2012 15:07:54 +0000

I am so excited! A woman who is in the process of leaving her abusive husband decided to blog her story here on My Verbally Abusive Marriage! She’ll go by the name RedVelvetRiches, and will post as often (or infrequently) as she likes. Welcome to the blog, RedVelvetRiches. Thank you so much for your willingness [...] Related posts:

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Destiny’s Story of Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 00:24:12 +0000

My husband is a soldier and currently deployed. There is so much I truly don’t know where to start… We just had a baby boy – he is 3 months old – and 2 weeks after he was born, my husband went to a rave, which he knows I absolutely hate, and lied to me [...] Related posts:

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Kim’s Story of Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Sun, 12 Feb 2012 00:20:02 +0000

When I met Mr. Abuser he very quickly wanted to spend all his free time with me. I work 7 days a week so it was a little challenging. I did like him, so I worked it into my schedule. When I didn’t see him, he “needed” to talk at least once or twice a [...] Related posts:

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Joe’s Story of Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 00:17:43 +0000

My memories are like an old thriller that keeps replaying the same scenes when I go back and try to rethink it. I often catch myself trying to justify my childhood. When I think back to the horrible events that have happened over the years, I can tell you I’m grateful for my life today. [...] Related posts:

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Hurt by your church?

Kellie Jo Holly — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 23:32:20 +0000

Have you been given bad advice by a member of the clergy? Did you feel blamed for the abuse in your relationship instead of helped? Have you been told to carry the water and serve the one who abused you? If so, then you know that some clergy must be better educated about the dynamics of abuse. [...] Related posts:

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Three Stories of Domestic Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 14:30:02 +0000

This month, so far, I’ve received three stories from brave women. Two of them speak to financial abuse also, and Sarah has a blog. These are their stories: Rose Felt Worthless, Stuck, and Crazy Laura Felt Devastated, Frustrated, and Shocked Sarah Felt Betrayed, Sorrow, Brokenhearted (Sarah’s Blog: Sarah Found Her Voice) Related posts: New Stories [...] Related posts:

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Too Tired to Cry

Kellie Jo Holly — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 14:49:46 +0000

Not too tired to care The pain in my chest comes and goes The pain in my heart is always there But I’m just too tired to cry The days turn into weeks The weeks turn into months The months turn into years And still, I’m too tired to cry Exhausted from the fear Worry [...] Related posts:

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New Blogs About Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 19:31:09 +0000

Une Vie, a new blog, stands on the threshold of liberating its writer and many others who care to follow her story of abuse. The writer contacted me to let me know she identified the issues in her marriage as abusive and is ready to do something about it. I’m so excited for her! Running [...] Related posts:

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An Anniversary Worth Celebrating

Kellie Jo Holly — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 06:28:44 +0000

On January 22, 2012, it will be two years since I left my marriage. I’ve come so far since then; I did the right thing for my children and myself. I’m having some “issues” today that I was going to discuss in this entry. But before I did that, I went back and took a [...] Related posts:

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New Stories of Abuse

Kellie Jo Holly — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:51:58 +0000

Unfortunately, the stories of abuse keep pouring in. Whereas I like to see them because I know these courageous women’s stories will help someone else, I don’t like them because they’re happening, right now. What would our world be like if there was no abuse? We’ll have to wait awhile to find out. In the [...] Related posts:

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Domestic Violence Mentoring

Kellie Jo Holly — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 05:47:00 +0000

There are agencies designed to help victims of domestic violence when they’re ready to leave the abusive relationship. Those same agencies may counsel victims of domestic abuse who are not yet ready to leave, but need support and information as they try to salvage their relationships. If you have access to those groups, then please [...] Related posts:

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