http://tribeofblondes.com Love Guide For Singles & Couples Seeking Happy Relationships Mon, 08 Mar 2010 19:44:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 en hourly 1 Your guide to healthy relationships & lasting love is archived by listing each radio-tv show webisode topic presented each month by host Hadley Finch. Hadley Finch no tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) Copyright by Hadley Finch, Tribe of Blondes Advice & Online Dating for Singles Seeking Love and Secrets of Healthy Relationships bad,relationship,dating,relationship,dating,sites,ending,a,relationship,find,relationship,for,online,relationship,healthy,relationship,healthy,relationships,internet,relationship,internet,relationships,long,distance,love,long,distance,love,rela http://tribeofblondes.com/wp-content/themes/tobpw/images/rss3.gif http://tribeofblondes.com Copyright by Hadley Finch, Tribe of Blondesbad,relationship,dating,relationship,dating,sites,ending,a,relationship,find,relationship,for,online,relationship,healthy,relationship,healthy,relationships,internet,relationship,internet,relationships,long,distance,love,long,distance,love,relaHealth/Self-Helptribeofblondes@gmail.comHadley Finch http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/61jJbixfGII/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/08/love-test-how-do-you-create-a-real-life-from-your-tech-relationships/#comments Mon, 08 Mar 2010 12:29:14 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1829 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/08/love-test-how-do-you-create-a-real-life-from-your-tech-relationships/feed/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/08/love-test-how-do-you-create-a-real-life-from-your-tech-relationships/ http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/gLcjYVcFMRI/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/06/episode-40-why-you-should-reconnect-with-a-former-lover/#comments Sat, 06 Mar 2010 15:26:35 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=2050 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/06/episode-40-why-you-should-reconnect-with-a-former-lover/feed/ date former lover,Hadley Finch,low divorce rate,reconnect with your ex,rekindled romances,reunited couples,search for past lover,Tribe Of Blondes Pow Wow Show If you're still carrying a torch for a lover you haven't seen in years, you're about to get some incentive to reconnect. Find out why the best place to look for your best love match may be in your past If you're still carrying a torch for a lover you haven't seen in years, you're about to get some incentive to reconnect. Find out why the best place to look for your best love match may be in your past. And learn 3 ways to locate them and set up a reunion. Why do we yearn to return to a past lover? "Returning to a past love is like returning to a former part of ourselves," says Dr. Nancy Kalish, author of Lost And Found Lovers (William Morrow Publishing). Reconnecting with an old flame can be a deliberate, assertive way of dealing with grief and regret over a break up. Dr. Kalish is an expert on rekindled romances. She directed the Lost Love Project at California State University and published her findings in Lost and Found Lovers. I've summarized these findings: * Ten percent of the population will fall in love again with someone from the past. * Rekindled romances have a high success rate, with many couples studied becoming engaged or married * Divorce rate is very low among reunited couples, only 1.5% compared to a 50% divorce rate for 1st marriages and up to 70% for 2nd or 3rd * These findings suggest the best place to look for Mr. or Ms. Right may be in your past. So how do you reconnect with a past lover? I'd like to suggest three steps that help you make a date for your reunion: 1. Be deliberate as you locate your lost love, without leaving your reunion to chance. If you're attending a school reunion and you're hoping your ex will be there, make a call and set up plans to meet in advance. 2. Use online searching services to help you find your lost love, in the event they've moved states or countries. 3. Be clear about your intentions when you reunite. Let your ex know whether you are reconnecting out of curiosity, to right old wrongs, to make sense of your break up, or to revive the spark of love that made you carry the torch for so long. The odds are in your favor for a positive reunion with your lost love. What if it's not possible to reconnect with a former lover? I invite you to enjoy a FREE month membership in the exclusive dating site and travel club I started for positive, commitment-minded singles. No more blind dates, since you meet the savvy Tribe Of Singles in cozy video chats and exciting, no-pressure travel vacations for every budget. You don't post your age, so you can find love at any age. Start meeting singles free when you click SINGLES CLUB in the menu bar and sign up now. Enjoy! Dedicated to our dating and relationship happiness, Hadley Finch Hadley Finch clean 4:12 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/06/episode-40-why-you-should-reconnect-with-a-former-lover/http://tribeofblondes.com/wp-content/uploads/episode-40-why-you-should-reconnect-with-a-former-lover.mp3 http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/cz0lnBXVyjU/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/03/love-test-how-do-you-burn-a-big-block-to-love/#comments Wed, 03 Mar 2010 12:29:57 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1813 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/03/love-test-how-do-you-burn-a-big-block-to-love/feed/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/03/love-test-how-do-you-burn-a-big-block-to-love/ http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/THu3p5VSUWA/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/01/love-test-how-do-you-rewrite-a-happy-ending-for-your-sad-love-story-without-lying/#comments Mon, 01 Mar 2010 12:29:29 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1806 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/01/love-test-how-do-you-rewrite-a-happy-ending-for-your-sad-love-story-without-lying/feed/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/03/01/love-test-how-do-you-rewrite-a-happy-ending-for-your-sad-love-story-without-lying/ http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/Mb_9W73mvw4/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/26/episode-39-3-ways-to-increase-your-love-luck-in-the-bedroom/#comments Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:29:12 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1996 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/26/episode-39-3-ways-to-increase-your-love-luck-in-the-bedroom/feed/ bedroom feng shui,feng shui miracle,Hadley Finch,happy couples,happy love life,increase love luck in bedroom,Mohan Deep,Tribe Of Blondes Pow Wow Show World-renowned Feng Shui Master, Mohan Deep, reveals 3 simple ways you can create a feng shui miracle in your love life by the way you arrange and use your bedroom. Here is my summary of his teachings. World-renowned Feng Shui Master, Mohan Deep, reveals 3 simple ways you can create a feng shui miracle in your love life by the way you arrange and use your bedroom. Here is my summary of his teachings. 3 Ways to Increase Your Love Luck In the Bedroom: 1. Balance the yin and yang energy You spend a third of your life asleep so the feng shui of your bedroom is vitally important. Yin energy is peaceful, and the bedroom used to be reserved for lovemaking and sleep. With space at a premium, office equipment entered the bedroom and added active yang energy, which should not dominate peaceful yin energy. Balanced harmony is best. 2. Clear negative energy You need to remove negative energy of frustration, depression, anger, fear that often arises during divorce or a breakup. Giving away your clothes you once wore is one way to let go of your past. Remove all living plants from your bedroom because they emit carbon dioxide at night. 3. Add symbols of love and happiness and remove symbols that clash Fire is the element that plays a vital role in your love life. Water clashes with fire, so water or images of water do not belong in your bedroom. Adding red candles sparks the fire of desire. Moon energy streaming in from a full moon balances yang energy of the sun and increases your love luck. Ideally, you'll make these 3 simple changes to create a feng shui miracle in your love life. And if you're single and seeking your best match, I invite you to enjoy a FREE month membership in the exclusive dating site and travel club I created for positive, optimistic singles. No more blind dates since you meet the savvy Tribe Of Singles in cozy video chats and no-pressure travel for every budget. Ready to meet singles FREE for a month? Click SINGLES CLUB in the menu bar and sign up now. Enjoy! Dedicated to our dating and relationship happiness, Hadley Finch Hadley Finch clean 4:15 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/26/episode-39-3-ways-to-increase-your-love-luck-in-the-bedroom/http://tribeofblondes.com/wp-content/uploads/episode-39-increase-your-love-luck-with-3-feng-shui-tips.mp3 http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/19Zgby3SpSY/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/24/dating-guide-how-do-you-love-your-way-to-a-happy-relationship/#comments Wed, 24 Feb 2010 12:29:30 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1798 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/24/dating-guide-how-do-you-love-your-way-to-a-happy-relationship/feed/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/24/dating-guide-how-do-you-love-your-way-to-a-happy-relationship/ http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/mYvGEVM4H_s/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/22/love-test-what-kind-of-love-do-we-write-about-in-songs-and-films/#comments Mon, 22 Feb 2010 12:29:50 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1764 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/22/love-test-what-kind-of-love-do-we-write-about-in-songs-and-films/feed/ fire of love,forever love,Hadley Finch,infatuation,lasting love,love guide,love scene in film,love song,love story,love test,romantic What's the difference between love and infatuation? Find out how some song lyrics and love scenes in film reveal smart love tips for happy relationships. You're about to find out how a love scene in film will help you move beyond infatuation and into genuine love. And how love songs can heal a broken heart and reveal smart love tips for happy relationships. First let's take a look at love songs that have the opposite effect. Many love song lyrics are written about limerance. A term coined by a researcher named Tenov in the 1960s, limerance is a period of passionate, intense infatuation with another person. It is the falling in love experience when we think about this person all the time. We see them as perfect, as if we are blind to their flaws. Song lyrics about a limerance phase include, "Can't live, if living is without you"; and "Why can't I breathe when I think about you?" and, "I'm desperate for your love." This phase of love-is-blind obsession is nourished from within, while our bodies make plenty of feel-good, in-love chemicals known as dopamine. I call them "Cupid's Cocktails" when I write song lyrics about limerance. The rush of Cupid's Cocktails often causes couples to bond as a team. When the rush wears off in the first few years of a relationship, a couple may wake up and realize they have little or nothing in common. They may feel the desire for a new rush of Cupid's cocktails in a new phase of limerance, making them vulnerable to emotional or sexual affairs. Limerance is not a guide to a happy relationship, because it is fleeting pleasure. I've written lyrics about the letdown when limerance wears off during a marital affair. "Cupid's curse feels like a blessing that breaks the chain of the mundane. Cupid's fury always fizzles, leaving pain in Cupid's wake." -- Song Unsung This limerance cycle often sends couples to divorce court and makes dating sites big business. How do we break the limerance cycle? How do we find a love that is deeper than the flow of Cupid's Cocktails? I often recommend a Love Guide in the film, Captain Corelli's Mandolin (2001), based on the book by Louis de Bernieres. A wise father and physician (played by John Hurt) explains the difference between genuine love and infatuation to his daughter (Penelope Cruz) in this perceptive scene: Iannis says, "When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn't sound very exciting, does it? But it is!" Yes. Long-term love is exciting, when you see the beauty of your life tapestry woven together with your beloved's. I often tell my online community how to spark a lasting Fire Of Love in a committed relationship--when you create a life together that is far richer than you ever could have created on your own, or never could've imagined with anyone else. How do you and your romantic partner move beyond infatuation and spark a forever love? Clint Black's song lyrics reveal the commitment you need. "When I said I do, I meant that I will 'til the end of all time. Be faithful and true, devoted to you. That's what I had in mind, when I said I do." Couples who've gotten off track can rededicate themselves to each other and rekindle a forever love. How do singles choose a match on this love wavelength? Be clear about what you bring to a relationship and what qualities you desire in your partner. Be sure to reveal this information when you create your dating profile and during conversations wi Hadley Finch clean http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/22/love-test-what-kind-of-love-do-we-write-about-in-songs-and-films/http://bit.ly/6pxxyB http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/2Gdk6Xmo-EQ/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/20/episode-38-love-lessons-from-tiger-woods-confession-of-infidelity/#comments Sat, 20 Feb 2010 14:45:43 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1958 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/20/episode-38-love-lessons-from-tiger-woods-confession-of-infidelity/feed/ Hadley Finch,marriage advice,rebuild trust after affairs,song Pardon Me,survive infidelity,Tiger Woods affairs,Tiger Woods apology,Tiger Woods asks forgiveness,Tribe Of Blondes Pow Wow Show Tiger Woods has proven himself to be a more courageous leader for modern couples than a recent President, some Senators, CEOs and celebrities who've been caught while taking advantage of perks of power and success Tiger Woods has proven himself to be a more courageous leader for modern couples than a recent President, some Senators, CEOs and celebrities who've been caught while taking advantage of perks of power and success. Instead of passing blame or making cowardly denials and cover ups, Tiger astonished the world by telling the truth during his Press Conference to admit his indiscretions. Tiger seemed humbled as he accepted full responsibility for having many extramarital affairs, because he'd come to believe that some rules didn't apply to him. He felt justified in partaking in many temptations that were presented, because he thought he'd earned these pleasures after years of hard work and great success. He never anticipated how his behavior, which he now sees as selfish, would hurt everyone he loved and everyone who trusted and held him in the highest regard. Tiger said he now realizes how far he'd strayed from his core values. He apologized to his wife and children who were not present for the televised confession. He also apologized to his mother, friends and colleagues who were gathered together for the conference, and to everyone watching his startling admission on television. Tiger Woods asked for the help of family and friends as he works to save his marriage and family life. He asked the Press to give his family privacy as he attempts to rebuild trust in his actions, not just his words. His ruthless honesty and sincere desire for forgiveness and a second chance to prove himself will fuel his growth during these challenging times, whether or not his marriage can survive the devastating fallout from his affairs. Tiger said, "It's not what you achieve that matters. It's what you overcome." Tiger Woods has shown us that he has what it takes to overcome this marital crisis, because of his unvarnished honesty, his sincere apology and his commitment to rebuild trust through consistent action. The courage Tiger exhibited in the most vulnerable period of his life may have inspired us to root for an enduring reconciliation with his wife. Yet as he asks for forgiveness, he has no control over whether he receives it. Neither does any man or woman who slides down the slippery slope into a sexual or emotional affair. What if you are in the same position as Tiger? Healing the wounds of infidelity can be the toughest Love Test in a relationship. If you want to climb back up that slope and rebuild trust, Tiger Woods is a courageous Love Guide. I also wrote a song that shows you how to reach the peak of forgiveness and reconciliation. It's called "Pardon Me", and it's sung by Michael Umphrey of New Christie Minstrels fame. You can listen to the song at the end of my audio by clicking the play arrow in the audio box at the top of this page. I've included the song lyrics for those of you who are reading my blog on Kindle. I'm sorry I hurt you, caused so much pain Ill will keeps our hearts locked in a cage Could you let go of anger, look through loving eyes Let your heart pardon my betrayal and lies Pardon me, to free yourself from past heartbreak Pardon me, to heal all wounds from my past mistakes from my past mistakes Pardon me please, not my misdeeds Cross the bridge over anger with my offer of peace Choose love over fear See the best in your friend Please pardon me family Let me love you again --Pardon Me Dedicated to our relationship happiness, Hadley Finch Hadley Finch clean 6:54 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/20/episode-38-love-lessons-from-tiger-woods-confession-of-infidelity/http://tribeofblondes.com/wp-content/uploads/episode-38-love-lessons-in-tiger-woods-confession-of-infidelity.mp3 http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/hvgzUUnSS-c/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/17/relationship-sabotage-are-you-blocking-love-and-marriage-without-knowing-it/#comments Wed, 17 Feb 2010 12:29:26 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1670 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/17/relationship-sabotage-are-you-blocking-love-and-marriage-without-knowing-it/feed/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/17/relationship-sabotage-are-you-blocking-love-and-marriage-without-knowing-it/ http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/tribeofblondes/~3/iFVJNRZiSUc/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/14/love-test-does-the-michelangelo-effect-make-you-a-smart-lover/#comments Sun, 14 Feb 2010 12:29:33 +0000 tribeofblondes@gmail.com (Hadley Finch) http://tribeofblondes.com/?p=1745 http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/14/love-test-does-the-michelangelo-effect-make-you-a-smart-lover/feed/ http://tribeofblondes.com/2010/02/14/love-test-does-the-michelangelo-effect-make-you-a-smart-lover/ Hadley FinchnonadultAdvice & Online Dating for Singles Seeking Love and Secrets of Healthy Relationships