Our belief systems are an integral part of our consciousness and reality. Since childhood, we have been bombarded with beliefs from our parents, teachers, friends and religious institutions about what is true. But what is truth and have you ever spent time with yourself examining your own personal belief systems?

Thoughts are energy and beliefs follow our thoughts and perceptions. We have personal beliefs but then we have “tribal” beliefs that our society has outlined for us to believe. Some of our beliefs are outdated like old computer software.

Scientific studies have proven that the placebo effect is powerful. The Discovery channel  featured a program called “Placebo Mind over Medicine.” One of the examples they used was a shoe salesman from Nashville that got diagnosed with esophagus cancer. The man died weeks later after his diagnosis. An autopsy later proved that he had very little cancer in his body and the cancer did not kill him. His doctor posed the question did he die because he believed that he was going to die?

As a shaman healer I have witnessed unusual techniques of healing by indigenous medicine people that are incredible. Most Americans would not believe it because it does not fit in with our idea of “scientific healing”. Shamans believe that illness is a sickness of the soul. Drugs and surgery are an American first choice.  Humans have a gift that they often forget about and that is the power to “choose.”

I encourage all of you reading this blog to spend some time self-reflecting and go through your closet of unconscious negative beliefs and throw them away like old clothing of habitual bad patterns and behaviors that no longer serve you. Why would you want to hold on to the belief of dis-ease rather than wellness?

Dr. Emoto, a Japanese researcher claims that consciousness has an effect on the molecular structure of water. His research proved that if one sent a positive thought and visualization to the water that the water produced a beautiful, crystalline geometric structure. But when a negative thought was sent that water produced was polluted, distorted and randomly formed. Sixty per cent of our bodies are water. Wouldn’t it be logical that the power of belief and thoughts are affecting our bodies?

Occam’s razor philosophy basically says that we should choose the simplest solutions when faced with a choice. Imagine if our lives could be that simple as changing beliefs and thoughts?  Love, beauty, wisdom, health, prosperity, peace and harmony could replace fear, hatred, lack, illness, poverty and war.

Simple…… Believe it or not!

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I have been married for 46 years, so a lot of people ask for my advice on relationships.  Recently talking to an old friend, she lamented to me that marriage should bring out the best in each other and not the worst.  My first split-second reaction was: ”Yes of course!” but then my next reaction was that worst coming out of you was actually a good thing.  Let me explain.

We all want love and want to feel loved in a relationship, but in most relationships when we behave in a negative way we blame the other person instead of reflecting the shadow that resides in us.  Our own insecurities are scary, but it’s easier to see it in another person.

So the next time your partner brings out the worst in you and ‘pushes your buttons’ be grateful.  Learn to love and heal that aspect of self that has been hiding.  Turn more deeply inward and stop pointing fingers at your beloved.  Our relationships are our best teachers, if we look with eyes open wide.  Loving our own darkness and not acting out with it can transform us.  Establish a loving relationship with yourself, as a firm foundation.  Watch and witness the worst in you with love and compassion.  Then extend it to all of your other relationships.

Accept & Love Yourself……the 1^st step in improving all your relationships!

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“Prove It” is the calling card that we continue to hear as we journey through life.  Relationships, jobs and so many other aspects of life demand that we continue to prove who we are and we are worthy of the prize.  Unfortunately by trying to be something that we’re not, this effects our happiness and our ability to be genuine.

Imagine if there was nothing to prove!  We could simply be ourselves and have a life surrounded by the right friends, doing the things that we liked and having relationships that were built on real trust and understanding.  Simple but complex, I agree.  Take time every day to be conscious of this and be genuine.  You have nothing to prove if you’re in the right situations; if you’re not it’s a time to reflect and adjust!

         “You alone are enough; you don’t have to prove anything to anybody.”  – Maya Angelou

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Bruce Jenner, now Caitlyn Jenner, after many years of hiding and disguising his true feminine nature has exposed himself. This took a lot of courage. Now with his Vanity Fair cover shoot all over the airways, it is creating tremendous reactions. Pictures of veterans with loss limbs declaring they are the real courageous ones and there’s no argument there. Let’s not forget:

…….people battling cancer are courageous.
…….homeless people are courageous.
…….alcoholics and drug addicts are courageous.
…….single mothers raising their children are courageous.
…….rape victims are courageous.
…….parents who lose children are courageous.

The list goes on and on. Courage is apparent in many people. We, as humans, need to stop this comparison and ‘en-courage’ each other. Simply acknowledge and honor courage in its many sizes and shapes.

Remember….this is not a contest on who is more courageous!

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October is the season filled with displays of witches, ghosts, skeletons and ghoulish items.  They represent the dark side of us all and the fears that permeate our minds.   Horror movies pique interests on watching the terror a person must face to survive.  The HBO series Dexter is an example. (He’s a serial killer that kills other murderers;  a hero and a villain, all at the same time.)

Do we need to watch horror flicks to stimulate our fears and darkness when the daily news fills our minds with fear everyday?  Ebola flashes across the TV screen like a red flashing light warning us that death is around the corner.  The terrorist group videos slashing innocent people throats can fill fear and hatred into most human beings. Our culture is constantly bombarding us with news of diseases, wars, earthquakes, tsunamis, meteors crashing, school killings and on and on.  We are being tricked into believing that we are helpless victims of an evil world.  We are so capable of creating destruction but it is time to flip the switch from fear to happiness.  Why not choose to create constructively and joyously?

We, as humans, need to stop blaming evil forces for all of our problems.  We scoff at our ancestors for their superstitious beliefs, but are we that different?  We still kill, steal, and harm each other.  The weapons are just more technologically  sophisticated, so let’s not pretend that these things are not happening.

I still believe in the goodness of humankind.  We must continue in a forward direction and stop associating violence with some sadistic pleasure.  Practice loving every day amongst your own family and communities. Trust in each other and have faith that we have an unstoppable power collectively to create a peaceful world.  It’s starts with you; refuse to be terrorized and stand tall in the peace within you, no matter how many stones are being thrown at you.  Love and forgiveness is the only answer.  Listen to your heart, not your mind.  Allow the sweetness of life to feed you.

 Choose to live life fully everyday.……..no more tricks, just treats!

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Trust, according to Webster’s dictionary is: “the belief in and reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc, of a person or thing.”  If you look back on your own life experiences, how many times your trust has been violated on many different levels of life?  I think every single one of us can share a story of how a trust was broken and how painful it was.  We can look at organized religions that have broken a sacred trust, as well as governments, banks, businesses, and personal relationships in which trusts are broken frequently.  You might ask ‘Is trust humanly possible in our reality?’  I think so.

Trust begins by trusting yourself.  The only way to develop trust is to fully accept responsibilities for all your experiences.  You have to trust in the wisdom of your soul that has attracted some of these uncomfortable experiences and find the golden nugget in each one of them.  All of us are great at pointing fingers at others and blaming, but if you step outside your ego and dive inside your heart you will discover a gold mine of love & trust that will alchemize every part of your being.  Trust in love, no matter what disguise it comes in.

Trusting sometimes means jumping and not knowing where you’re going to land.  Trying to control all of our experiences that makes us feel safe can stall our spiritual growth.  Trust in life no matter where you land.

  “None of us knows what might happen even in the next minute, yet we still go forward.  Because we trust; because we have faith”  –  Paulo Coelho

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Americans are obsessed with dieting; billions of dollars are spent by consumers on weight loss companies and diet literature.  Yet, one third of Americans are obese and out of shape.  Eating disorders are rampant on college campuses and women who are petite, lament how fat they are.  The new word for diet now is “CLEANSE” OR DETOX.  No one is happy with themselves, no matter what weight they are and the joy of eating is gone!

Food experts are everywhere; everyone has an opinion about food:

…..Do not eat meat it’s not spiritual.

…..Raw food has all the nutrients in them so do not cook food.

…..You need to cook food because it will make your body cold.

…..Dairy products make you mucous.

…..Wheat will give you a belly; now, more and more people are becoming gluten intolerant.

…..Just eat lean protein if you want to be thin.

…..Don’t eat fruit, it has too much sugar in it and oh carrots, beets and peas are sugary.

…..Bananas have too many carbs but yet the potassium in them would be good for you.

…..Fish has too much mercury in it or pollutants. Sushi will give me parasites.

Maybe I should just live on oxygen!  Unfortunately, the quality of our air makes this a challenge, as well.  Years ago, researchers conducted a study… if children are left to their own food choices, they will unconsciously pick the correct foods that their body needs. We are all individuals with different chemistry, and therefore must listen to our own bodies to know what foods give us proper energy and nutrients.

I suggest that we return to the joy of cooking, as well as eating. We must bless our food and send love and happy thoughts to whatever we eat.  Stop the negative thoughts we are ingesting with the judgments we make of certain foods.  Personally, I like the way the French eat – everything in small portions!  Italians enjoy their food, as well – we can certainly learn from them.

On this upcoming Thanksgiving Day, cook dinner with your utmost joy and gratitude. We are so lucky to have this abundance of food, so please eat with total happiness and without an ounce of guilt!

 Bon Appetit &Blessings on the Cornucopia of Life….

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Integrity is an important virtue to cultivate. In our fast paced society many people over commit themselves and never follow through on their promises.  Honesty goes hand in hand with integrity like a harmonious chord.  People are conditioned to say what people want to hear, rather than speak the truth.

Recently I made hotel arrangements with an online company that had “ Price Assurance”; I thought that this was the lowest rate possible.  I booked with them and then discovered I was over charged by hundreds of dollars.  The travel service told me that the hotel did not have the right to disclose to me the true cost and they did not refund my money.  How they advertise themselves with the lowest price guarantee turned out to be false and lacking any ethics.

I know that I cannot control others and all I can do is to be diligent about my own integrity. For example – Do you tell someone you are going to call and do not?  Do you tell white lies to not look bad?  Do you commit to something and don’t follow through?  If someone under charges you in a store, do you bring that to his or her attention?  Look around in your everyday life and notice if you’re out of alignment.

Take some small steps today to adjust these behaviors to be in full  integrity; you will certainly not regret this action.  Hopefully it will grow as tall as a cornfield and branch out to influence others in a viral way.

“Do what is right, let the consequences follow.”

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Do you feel like life is one big struggle?  There is always some inner or outer conflict that seems to be upsetting our inner peace.  The lists of obstacles are endless: money, health, jobs, relationships, traffic, weather and so on.  I had a client come to me recently and tell me how tired she was of the struggle.  I decided to tell her this story.  A man discovered a chrysalis on his property one day.  Observing the progress of the metamorphosis fascinated him.   But after a period of time he watched helplessly as the caterpillar was struggling to be free of her encasement.  He felt sorry for the struggle and decided to assist the butterfly.  He ripped opened the chrysalis and the butterfly dropped into his helping hand and then died.   My client looked at me and asked what are you trying to say to me?  The man thought he was being kind ending the struggle of the butterfly, but the truth is that the struggle was giving the butterfly the opportunity to develop strength so it could truly fly.

Sometimes in our own life when difficulties arise, we have an opportunity to gain wisdom and inner strength from these obstacles.  If we resist, then it will persist.  This is called the ‘moment of surrender.’  It’s a powerful consciousness.  Please do not confuse it with giving up.  Surrender is an active choice to no longer be a victim; always keeping in mind that we create our own realities.  If you want your life to be different, that you must change how you perceive your experiences.  Trust the process of your experiences.  It’s all perfect for your soul.

Be bold, be brave, be the butterfly!

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How much of your life do you feel like you are pretending?  Since our early years, we have been schooled, trained and handed over a set of beliefs from everyone around us.  We are told what is appropriate, who and how we should be behave and what to believe.  Education drills and dictates knowledge and society frowns on being different or controversial.  But do ever wonder who you really are?

Identities are formed at an early age.  A child learns very young how to perform to get the love and attention they desire.  Some children give up on themselves, believing a judgment by a teacher or a parent or some other voice of authority that they are in some way inadequate and flawed.  So the inner-child believes this and learns how to fake it.  People are pretending every day.  We often do not even tell our close friends the truth, in fear that they will not like us anymore.  We allow people to manipulate us and don’t call them on it and then we feel like a victim.

All this pretending reminds me of the fairy tale of the Emperor’s new clothes.  The king was totally naked, yet everybody – starting with the tailor – lied to him until a young child in the crowd pointed out the king’s nakedness.  A few questions to ask yourself:

·      Are you willing to be naked to the whole world and have the courage to discover the real you?

·      Are you willing to believe something different than everyone else around you?

·      Are you willing to stop pretending and allow the real you to shine through?

I challenge you to become authentic and stop pretending.   Take the time every day to reflect on your words and actions to insure that you are being truthful & genuine.  Work hard to give up the need for approval from the outside; be patient, it will happen over time with commitment and focus.  The moment you allow this freedom to occur, it opens up the gates of happiness.  A big relief will come over you and your true friends will emerge.  You will begin to really like yourself!

No more pretending.   I triple dog dare you!

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The f-word, a popular word in our vocabulary…… but the f-word I am writing about is forgiveness.  Forgiveness starts with you forgiving yourself.  Our careless gossiping, criticism and judgments of each other keeps our heart locked up.   Open your heart and clear all the angry junk inside of you.  We all make mistakes and in some way or another have hurt others. Feel the remorse and get over it. It is really a selfish act to forgive someone, but by doing so, you release all that hurt and negativity that is actually poisoning you.

Someone posted on Facebook (another f-word) recently, that she just could not forgive the young Jane Fonda for her past actions;  her judgment was harsh.  How many times in our lives do we judge others with self-righteous indignation?  The press and the media do it daily, as well as talk show hosts for ‘entertainment’ purposes;  I have to admit that I’ve also been guilty of judgment – it’s the human condition!  A famous person once said: “He who has not sinned, cast the first stone” at the crowd who wanted to stone to death an adulterer.  Yet so many of us are not just casting stones, but hurling boulders at each other.

Call up someone today that you have had an issue with. Give up the need to be right and just simply forgive.  Forgive them for whatever you are holding against them. Let go and be free – ‘forgiveness is the key.’

 “To err is human, to forgive divine.”

Alexander Pope (1646–1717) – An Essay on Criticism

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The 4^th of July is a pivotal day in history not only for Americans but for the world.  A group of rebellious colonists said: “no more” to the King of England.  It took great courage and sacrifice for these brave souls to battle one of the most powerful empires in history.  They made a choice not be the other V word…..a Victim.

In my healing practice, one of the services I provide to my clients is an archetypal chart based on Jungian philosophy.  Universally all of us carry the energy of the victim somewhere in our personality.  It is your job to discover where in your life you feel continually victimized.  The victim always blames others for their own unhappiness.  They love to get positive feedback from others in the form of pity to feed the victim mentality.  The time is NOW to stop feeding the monster.

If there is an area in your life where you are a victim or even victimizing others, gather insight into your unconscious behavior and take a stand for yourself.  Look at all areas of your life daily and remind yourself to no longer behave like a victim.  Learn how to cope with your own fears and challenges.  Victory can be yours in all areas of your life.

Happy 4^th of July……victory not victim!

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The recent controversial cover of Time magazine with a young, blonde mother nursing her three year old son created waves of media attention.  But besides the image of a three year attached to his mother’s bare breast, what caught my attention was the caption :  “Are you Mom ENOUGH?”

How many of us man, woman and child have had this word – ENOUGH – dangling over your head like a noose?  Constantly pondering the question, “am I enough?”

Am I rich enough?                  Am I thin enough?                  Am I successful enough?

Am I smart enough?              Am I educated enough?        Am I attractive enough?

Am I happy enough?             Am I liked enough?                Am I doing enough?

Am I healthy enough?           Am I talented enough?          Am I big enough?    

This cycle of enough is endless; once the mind continues to compare and measure yourself with others, your self-esteem is caught in the web of illusion.

A couple of weeks ago, I held in my arms my first grandchild.  Tears fell as I admired the beauty of this perfect child.  My prayer for her is that she always knows that she is very loved and is enough.  This is my prayer for all of us.

 “He who knows that enough is enough, will always have enough”

– Chinese Philosopher, Lao Tzu

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Valentine’s Day scents are in the air with roses, candy, cards, candles and love songs… then why in the world is Adele the British pop singer, the #1 entertainer in the world with her songs about heart break?  Millions of people relate to her sad songs. Is humanity addicted to pain?  As I‘m writing this blog, Rhianna’s recent hit: “I Found Love”…is playing on the radio. Is love hopeless? Real love can never be hope-less. Love is hope -ful.  People you love, can leave you, stop communicating and disappear from your life but the love that you FELT will always burn brightly inside of you. No one can take love away from you. Love is YOU…..the real you!

If you’re sad that a lover left you, feel the sadness but then remind yourself about how lucky you were to experience loving another. Some relationships have a short expiration date and like a shooting star, they are brief but beautiful. Love is like a beautiful bird that should never be caged, but set free fearlessly.

Real love is a boomerang…the more you love, the more it comes back to you. So toss your boomerang now.  There are many people to love in this world. Tell someone today that you love them. It can be man, woman, child, animal or thing.

“Yes, love is a many splendored thing.”  1955 American Film Classic

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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One of my favorite childhood stories was Pinocchio, the toy made by loving hands of Geppetto who created the puppet.  Pinocchio like the prodigal son goes through a series of experiences that hurt and disappoint his Father.  One of the scenes in the Disney movie that stands out is when Pinocchio lies and his nose grows with each lie.  His lies are so extensive that it grows as long as a tree branch.  It is only when Pinocchio starts to speak the truth, that the natural size of his nose is restored.

How many of us are like this character?  It is time NOW to be truthful with ourselves.  If we want our lives to be harmonious, we must seek within our self to discover the truth.

1.  What is my life story?

2. Do I want to continue to live my life this way?

3. How do I believe my own lies and mistruths?

4. How can I heal my misperceptions?

5. Am I still blaming others for my own unhappiness?

6. What is the mirror reflecting back at me that I don’t want to see?

When we take time to self reflect, we can shift old patterns that we have become addicted to.  We must accept the responsibility for creating our own reality .  The moment we live in the now in total truth, we shift our consciousness to new heights……the truth shall set you free!

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Back blogging…..just recently returned from an annual family vacation in Bermuda. I have been in Bermuda the last week in August for over twenty-five years. It’s hurricane season and in all my years there, it never happened during our vacation. On our arrival, the island was buzzing that hurricane Danielle was heading straight towards Bermuda. I watched many friends & acquaintances in Bermuda track it on line and I asked them all why? I also received numerous emails from concerned friends hoping that my family and I were safe. I really appreciated the concern, but it got me thinking how a part of us are feeding into fear and negativity. Why not focus on what we want? I enjoyed my vacation …sunning, swimming, eating and sipping my Dark ‘n’ Stormy’s – a famous island drink. The night before the predicated doomsday Danielle, the waves crashed on the beach with an extra powerful rage.

The storm never arrived and as we headed towards the airport my husband asked the cab driver about the stalled storm. The cabbie, in his laid back Bermuda mode, smiled and proceeded to tell all of us how wonderful hurricanes are. The powerful winds of a hurricane take the sands and bring it out into the depths of the ocean and wash, spin, detoxify the sand. After the storm is over the beaches and everything is pristine again. Nature knows how to heal and restore naturally. Hurricanes are good.

In our personal lives there are times that hurricanes are all around us, whether in our relationships, health, finances or other areas of our life. Storms can be our greatest healers and teachers. The winds of a storm enable us to explore aspects of ourselves that we ignore on sunny days. If we stop holding on so tight and let go who knows where we might land; but just in case…… I’m putting on my ruby slippers!

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It’s healthy to have dreams, goals and desires in life.The real trick is to accept the outcome realizing that there is good in everything.It’s truly a balancing act!

How many of us live life without any expectations?  I know that I don’t.  As a human being I have a perspective of how things SHOULD be or how people SHOULD behave.  So with all these great expectations what usually follows is disappointment.  Then our story within ourselves starts to take a life of its own and our disappointment starts to fester like a sore filling up with pus of anger, hurt and resentment.  “You did this to me after I been so good to you.”  Then you become a victim and start defending yourself against the world. The inner turmoil and conflict grows. Sound familiar?

If you really want to develop and grow spiritually this lesson could be number one on your bucket list.  A daily practice of letting go of any expectations of how your day or life needs to be or look like could be tremendously freeing and transformative.  Stop making your life WRONG.  Be patient with yourself as you cultivate this new way of thinking and feeling.  It’s like a new muscle that needs time, practice and patience to become really strong.  But like a strong, fit physique brings good health, working on your inner mind will bring peace, tranquility and harmony.

Set yourself free! Oops…is that another expectation?

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Rainy week here in New England and you can see on people’s faces that the lack of sunshine is bringing them down. I use to feel the same way, until I realized that I always have a choice to feel differently.  Why would I allow the weather to affect my inner sunshine? This past week I put on my bright yellow rubber boots humming my favorite song by Katrina and the Waves…”Walking on Sunshine.” Wow, I immediately felt brighter.All of a sudden, additional positive thoughts rushed over me:

1. How lucky we all are in New England just to have some rainy days versus what some people had to experience in Japan.
2. Ah……rain is good. It moisturizes my skin.
3. I don’t have to water my flowers.
4. I can write more because I won’t be distracted by the siren call of sunshine.

Life is like a large menu with lots of options, but the choice you make on how to react is yours.  If you choice to be gloomy acknowledge that it’s your choice.  The moment we all become self responsible, we can then realize that no person, place or thing can make us feel any which way.  It is our mind judging and categorizing.  Remember the old expression that the only difference between a flower and a weed is a judgment.  I love dandelions…they are bright and sunny! What is your choice?

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Crisis is an opportunity to readjust things in our life that we have been unwilling to change.Our egos obstruct change so the consciousness will create a crisis that will facilitate the change.It comes in different forms to all of us: such as illness, loss of job, divorce or a death of a loved one.The more painful the upheaval, the more it is showing you your own resistance to shift circumstances in your life.Change is an integral part of the universe. In order to grow spiritually, you need to set yourself free from your own negativity, destructiveness and build a life based on spiritual truths of harmony, love and beauty.

We can choose another way of growing……make a conscious decision to be in touch with our inner most feelings & desires, in order to facilitate changes without resistance. If you find yourself in a challenging situation, accept things as they are and stop lamenting that this shouldn’t be happening to you. Ask yourself these questions:

1.  Do you believe that you are capable of creating a wonderful life?

2.  Do you know that you can resolve all your problems?

3.  Do you trust that there are infinite possibilities for you?

If you want your life to be different, you have to be willing to address your resistance ‘head on’ and drive for lasting change.Be aware of why this is happening and focus on the positive outcome of the change! All those dark days and nights will turn into a “Light “switch. Flip it on!!!!

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As we walk through our life journey, most of us are filled with anxiety and stress; ourthoughts are loaded with fear.We mask our pain by pretending to be positive when underneath the facade is intense emotional pain. Inside of most of us is a small child who developed misperceptions and distortions about life based on fear.

You must face your fears head on and with an open heart, if you want to be truly empowered. It is an easier process if you face fears consciously, rather than have your unconscious mind create a difficult situation for you to experience suppressed emotions. Here are some suggestions.

1. Take total responsibility for your healing transformation.
2. Sit in a meditative state and then bring in something you fear the most. Create a negative fantasy of this fear and then resolve it.
3. Be an observer of yourself….when you find yourself experiencing emotional pain, find the truth inside of you that you have been resisting. Dig it out to the open.
4. Take a look at your own dark side honestly without judgment. We are all both darkness and light and pretending that darkness is outside of you will only bring in unwanted problems because of these suppressed feelings.
5. Teach yourself how to live life without fear.

Release your fears today!Confront them and you will start to experience a freedom, peace and joy that you never thought was possible. Make your healing process the number one priority in your life. As you heal, this passes on to family and friends and ultimately the whole planet.

“ the only thing to fear is fear itself”Franklin Roosevelt

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We have online dating services, social media, and other ways of connecting to a potential partner, but many people still feel lost and lonely. Why does one feel so alone in the world?People come to see me with a variety of personal issues that are troubling them and one is them is the search for their “BELOVED.”Some people are divorced and others remain single, longer than they ever expected.I often joke with them that the married ones wish that they were single again.  They are treading on the walk of FEAR & not the path of LOVE.  The human mind is filled with concepts, beliefs, and distortions about love.

Most of us think we are capable of loving, but because of past negative experiences, this capability is not firing on all cylinders.People’s ego, pride and fear that they could be rejected, locks the door to this possibility. Love me first and then I’ll see if I’ll love you back is the voice of fear within.  So how do we breakthrough this and attract genuine, healthy love?

1. Never try to force yourself to love.
2. Do a thorough self examination of yourself truthfully.
3. Find where your vanity, ego and pride rule your relationships.
4. Fall in love with yourself first and not in a narcissistic manner.
5. Be willing to give love freely without any expectations.
6. Connect inwardly and lovingly to the Divine and discover harmony within.
7. Stop wallowing in self pity and extend yourself to love or help someone.
8. Change your attitude towards your pain.
9. Stop looking for love…love is found inside.
10. Be willing to risk heart break!

Surrender all your false insecurities and fall truly in love.  Real love isn’t selfish.  Let go of the need to control and allow the natural feelings of love, kindness and generosity to generate a magical relationship.Love comes from a place deep in the heart….not your mind.  Trust your heart to know love and give love.  Your homework assignment is to take the take the next 10 days and work on a single item above from my recommendations for the entire day; be conscious of it throughout the day and write down your feelings in a journal.  You are on your way to attracting genuine, healthy love……….it’s that simple & you deserve it.

True love always creates happiness!!!!

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Why did I eat that box of chocolates, drink too much or overeat again?

Craving comes in many disguises.  Most of us associate this craving with food, alcohol, shopping, drugs or sex, but it is present in many other areas of our life if we just take the time to place a magnifying glass on an area of our life and really see.  Food, shopping, gambling, money, working, exercising, abusive relationships, illness and even spirituality can become extreme.Did you ever have a moment when you ate a pint of ice cream or drank a whole bottle of wine and the gratification lasted only seconds?  You vow to yourself to never do this again.  Next what happens is that the craving starts tip toeing in from behind us and tapping us on the shoulder wanting some MORE.

Our sense of self is through some form of gratification which ultimately leaves us unsatisfied and the feelings of “Not Enough.”  Now you’re trapped into a vicious self loathing and waiting for the day that you are fixed and no longer need a fix.How do we get off this treadmill?Here are some suggestions:

1.  Stop compulsive thinking.

2.  Accept who you are now.

3.  Stop identifying yourself with things.

4.  Use a crisis or challenge as an opportunity for growth.

5.  Everything that you have experienced has benefited you.

6.  Forgive yourself for things you have done.

7.  Supply your consciousness with new and positive information.

8.  Stop waiting and live in the NOW.

9.  You can do it!

Excessive craving arises from pain.  Look at your own pain in whatever form it shows itself and feel it.  Let go of your attachment to pain. Love it free!  Dissolve everything from the past and create a still space.

“He who has once known contentment, that comes simply through being content,will never again be otherwise than contented.”

– Tao Te Ching

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We can start to choose to cultivate love through grace, beauty, wisdom, non -judgment and acceptance. The ego always craves more, but the heart gives more. All that love that you’re looking for, will open the door to yourself by just BEING you and knowing that is enough. The sun doesn’t choose to illuminate upon one person …… it shines on all of us.

The past is over and look back with gratitude for all that you’ve experienced in 2010.  If there are things you are resolving to change as we approach 2011, go beyond the mind and the ego and allow your life to flow.  Create an opportunity for new doorways of higher consciousness to open up inside of you.  These doorways can bring you to new places and experiences.  Walk through the door with shoes of love.

Happy New Year!

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Find gratitude in the simplest things that you take for granted everyday.  You can walk, talk, speak and hold your own coffee mug.  You can hug those that you love.  Enjoy the tiniest things in life, as it is truly a miracle to be here on earth. If life has you down right now because of some circumstances, take in a deep breath and exhale fully.  Ancient mystics always used breathing techniques as a tool to higher consciousness. We all have the ability to choose how we deal with & perceive an experience.  Be grateful for everything that you have drawn towards you……even if it is painful.  The ability to feel is a gift.

George Weiss and Bob Thiele wrote in their classic song ” I see skies of blue and clouds of white, bright blessed days, dark sacred nights and I think to myself, what a wonderful world.” Take a moment & enjoy the famous Louie Armstrong. Happy Thanksgiving!!

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