It is easy to feel rich when the money is flowing in, but how about when it isn’t?  During tough financial days you must stay firm in the belief that the universe is a prosperous place, willing to support and bless your dreams and desires.  Step away from negative tribal beliefs and create positive thoughts around prosperity in your life.

1. Act as if what you want is already here.
2. Rich is a state of consciousness that can be developed.
3. Be grateful for what you do have.
4. Dream big and dare to be bold.
5. Be clear about what you want.
6. Focus on the solution not the problem.
7. Clear out any negative thoughts and beliefs around money. (Such as money is the root of all evil.)
8. Allow your good to come to you easily.
9. Never give up on a dream. If you’re not getting immediate results on a desire, focus and hold the vision until it happens.
10.  No matter what the economy is like there have always been people who make money. Choose to be one of these people.

 Remember you cannot create something if you are unable to picture yourself having it.  Rid yourself of fear and doubt. There is enough for all of us…..”Ask and you shall receive.”

I invite all of you reading this Blog to join me in eliminating this bad habit…after all,  it keeps you from focusing on the important things in life.  Here are my recommendations:

1. Stop yourself before the complaint comes out of your mouth.
2. Take a deep breath.
3. Ask yourself, what is the purpose of my complaining?
4. Does complaining make things better?
5. Do you have the need to be right at the expense of making others wrong?
6. Complaining is a habit that needs & can be broken.
7. Keep score and reduce your # of complaints per day….remember, life is a journey.
8. Accept yourself and others for who they are……not who you want them to be.

I believe that  if you take this step, you will start to view the world through a ‘different lens.’   Life is a gift…..including every experience and person that touches you along the way.   It, truly, is a wonderful life!

 Saturdays in the afternoon you can find me dressing women in my daughter’s boutique “Twilight.”  I have always had a passion for fashion since childhood and it really balances out the inner work I do with clients Monday thru Friday. Saturday is for feeling good on the outside.  A couple of weeks ago I was assisting a young woman in purchasing a dress when I noticed another woman scurry into the dressing room with a bright red dress.  The bright red dress was like a traffic signal to me.  Stop. I wanted to screech out.  Don’t try on that dress.  In my opinion the dress was all wrong for her body type and she was setting herself up for a disaster.  I suggested before she went into the dressing room to get a size up for the dress tended to run small.  Moments later she was calling to me to help zip the dress up, the zipper would not budge.  I saw all her disappointment, frustration and going through her body.  I kindly suggested that there were lots of other dresses and I could find one for her.  “I want this one,” she replied.  I left the dressing room but the rescuer in me wanted her to feel good.  I quickly went to the dress rack and found another bright red dress, but I knew from my styling experience would flatter and fit her curvy shape.  I showed her the dress and she exploded ” Don’t you get it? I want this one and only this one.”  ” I get it now.” I answered.  I put the dress back on the rack and watched her storm out of the store like it was my fault that the dress she wanted didn’t fit.

  The situation got me thinking about how many of us set our sights on something that isn’t quite right for us… like a job or relationship. But we stay there even though it doesn’t feel good. We want this one. We are then hurt, frustrated and suffering. We keep persisting at the expense of not feeling good.  As a healer, here is what I recommend:

 1.  Look within and ask yourself where there is pain in your life?

2.   Ask the pain what it is trying to show you, that you need to change.

3.   Know that you can make different choices that make you happy.

4.  Stop forcing things to work when you know they cannot. Let go.

5.  If there is a desire that you want and are not getting, trust that the universe is going to bring you something or someone even better than you imagined.

I challenge you to expand your wardrobe a/k/a your life!  Be daring and bold and deserve the best.  The next time your try on a pair of shoes that don’t fit maybe you’ll toss them aside and find a great pair that feel good and look great.  Walk in those shoes into a wonderful, pain free life!

The most famous spiritual teacher, Jesus said: “He who has not sinned cast the first stone.” All of us have the potential inside of us to commit any of the seven deadly sins. I know that the only person in this world I can change is ME.  I made a decision quite a number of years ago to stop judging other people. This has required a lot of mental self discipline and observation of my own inner world. Every negative aspect of humanity lies within me…it is not outside of me.  We have been given a book of rules and when any deviates from them, we all hammer our gavels with a guilty verdict. It is time to toss out the gavel and the rule book. On a spiritual level we don’t know the full spectrum of the lessons within an individual soul. For example, Betrayal can be a huge opportunity for a person to grow spiritually. ….the betrayed as well as the betrayer.

1. Stop yourself from judging and criticizing another person.  Let’s make a commitment to ourselves not to engage in gossip and purchase material that preys off the difficulties of others.   See if what you’re judging in another person’s character is inside of you.

2. Cultivate the virtue of compassion for others as well as for ourselves because ultimately one day we all will fall down from grace.

3.  Offer each other a helping hand, rather than a life sentence of guilt and shame.

Remember, mistakes can be our greatest teacher…….however, you are not the Judge or Jury for others - be compassionate!

Every night we are bombarded with ‘Jon and Kate’ stories both proclaiming the love and concern for their children while their actions are totally the opposite.  It’s easy for all of us to sit in front of the television and judge these people and self righteously declare that we would never do that. But we all do this, one way or another.

 All the great religions of the world proclaim that love is the answer, but how many of us truly know how to love?  It is time to remember.

 1.  CHOOSE differently.  Each day choose peace, harmony, truth, integrity, and love.

2.  FOCUS on creating a firm foundation for yourself and family of health, prosperity, and love.

3.  LEARN from the lessons of your life experiences. Stop repeating old patterns of negative behavior and blame.

4.  FORGIVE and it will fortify you. Our history shows that all of us  readily pick up a weapon to retaliate. Jesus said it best: “Father forgive them. They know not what they do.”

5.  BREATHE in love and thoughts of love. This is your true purpose. 

 CHERISH yourself.  CHERISH life.  CHERISH your children, family, community and friends.  So, I challenge you to look inward and find where you are withholding love……be the love you seek!

Bridget Jones, the beloved character of books and movies depicts how most of us are riding the wave of weight gain fear. Our whole sense of our self seems to weigh-in on what the number on the scale says. WOW! Is this how we want to spend our energy…worrying, and grading who we are as woman by the size of the dress or jeans that we wear? Hundreds of years ago a woman were considered to be poor if she was thin. A full size woman was considered to be wealth and beauty. Now after the sixties era of Twiggy, rich and skinny is still in. As a stylist on the weekend in my daughter’s boutiques, I watch women of all sizes look at themselves in the mirror with self judgment and criticism.  Eating disorders among women is rampant, as our society preys on your low self-esteem.

It’s time to end this madness. Do you think that when you die, the source of all of creation is going to ask you how much you weighed? I think not. Our physical size is not who we are …lets start today thinking and acting differently about ourselves.

What to do / Action Steps:

1. Stop judging yourself about your weight.
2. Stop comparing yourself to other women.
3. Spend more time growing spiritually.
4. Love yourself no matter how much you weigh.
5. Eat mindfully and bless your food.
6. Exercise playfully.
7. Practice the power of presence.
8. Be still.
9. Forgive yourself and others.
10. Be grateful for all that your body does for you.
11. Practice giving without expectations
12. Love your life and this world more deeply.

The entrance of your soul into paradise will hopefully be weighed by how much you have loved.  When I cross over to the other side and step on a scale, I pray that all the love in my heart tips the scales. This is what I wish for…….a full heart!

You have been studying the Golden Rules and it’s time for Game Day (OK…… I compromised on this term with my husband)!  Preparing yourself for motherhood is the most important thing you can do in your life. We spend time preparing for exams, events, and many other outside activities, but we give little thought to this most sacred happening.

We all know by now, that the stork doesn’t drop off a baby in a bundle to earth. The sexual act creates life. Many couples come to a point where they decide to get pregnant and suddenly, the act of making love becomes a job, as depicted in the TV Show Sex in the City with Charlotte trying so hard to get pregnant!

We all celebrate the day we were born but really the most important day was the moment of conception. You need to know how important this moment is. In a split second a life is being creating and formed and don’t you want to do more than screwing? So how do we, as women, create the immaculate concept?

What to do / Action Steps:

1. Study the art of tantra. There is a reason why tantric scenes are sculpted in temples…it is not pornography. The temples honor the power of sexuality. It is important to experience pleasure in conceiving a child.
2. Deepen the love connection between you and your partner as I have described in Golden Rule #1.
3. When two people come together to make love consciously to create a life, there is no higher state of being. Make sure as a couple that both your intentions are to create an incredible being, who will be a blessing to earth.
4. Know that you have the capability to create a Christ, Buddha, Krishna or Mohammed within your being.
5. Use in your everyday living the noble truths: right thoughts, right speech, right actions.
6. Raise your vibration by bathing in rose petals with rosewater and oil. Roses carry the highest frequencies….bathing in it cleans and purifies your body and soul.
7. The more you are able to love unconditionally, the more you will create heaven on earth.

Children hold the key to our future. We want them to be spiritually evolved and created in the spirit of pure love. You have the power to create this!

I have often heard excited new mothers stating that they felt complete after giving birth. It is wonderful to feel complete with a new baby, but really believing your words can ultimately lead you down a difficult road with your relationship with your child.  No one here on earth is here to complete you. This is your job. Wholeness comes from within.  The more you accept this as a truth, you will not be placing unrealistic expectations on your child. How many people have you witnessed that are living through their children?

What to do / Action Steps:

1. Right now, in this moment, review things that you dream of being doing or having. Becoming a parent doesn’t equal giving up on your fondest dreams. The more you explore the uncharted areas of your life and consciousness, you will start to discover the treasure within you.
2. Be present with your thoughts, feelings and actions. If you observe and understand you, life will become a lot of easier. This is the magic you want to pass on to your child. A loving, caring parent, complete within themselves is the greatest gift you can offer a child. The more you are ‘the real you.’ the more you allow your child to grow into being themselves. Can you imagine what the world would be like if people could just be themselves? This is possible…..but only when the mother and father experience the truth within themselves.
3. Take time out every day to connect within, through pray and meditation. Love you enough to be the real you. We can all create heaven on earth just by being the love we seek. The love is in you. So much of our lives are wasting energy of being what we think the world wants us to be. The media bombards us with false images of being feminine or masculine.

As we contemplate bringing a life into the world, we must learn to love ourselves first, in a deep spiritual way (not narcissism) Find out who you truly are. Are we our education, our clothes, our cars or our homes? We would quickly say that we are not ‘our’ things, but isn’t that how we really live our lives?  There is something more. Each one of us is divine and when we start to live from our hearts and not our heads, we can usher in an era of children who will develop and grow as their spirit has intended.  Remember…..the magic is in you!

A  V.I P. is coming to your home for dinner (possibly President Obama or the Dali Lama).  What would you do? You would probably clean your house; dress in your finest clothing and prepare a glorious feast. Your upcoming pregnancy needs to be viewed with the same perspective…. an important guest is arriving soon. Your body is the temple which will be hosting this great guest. What will you do to prepare? 

What to do / action steps: 

1. Clean and detoxify your body of any bad habits such as smoking, drugs, and excessive drinking and eating. Sweep away these habits before pregnancy.
2.  Alkalize your body. You can purchase PH strips that you can test your own urine and saliva at home and see what your PH levels are. Most people have too much acid in their bodies. An alkalized body is a healthy body for you and your child.
3. Drink lots of fresh, clean water and add a lime to it. This will assist in alkalizing the body.
4. Develop good nutritional habits. The most important key is to have a “balanced” diet. Lots of fresh fruit and vegetables with protein and carbohydrates. You don’t have to eliminate sugar but keep it in check. Sometimes a woman decides that being pregnant is giving her permission to get fat and over indulge…wrong. This is the time to eat better than ever.
5. Build a strong fit body. This is important for you as well as the baby. Choose an exercise that you enjoy. I played tennis for six months of my pregnancy.  One day after a tennis match my body said no more. Listen to your body. It will guide you what to do or not do.
6. Walk in sunshine. Yes, make sure you’re exposed to sunlight. We need the vitamin D for a strong healthy body.  Add supplements and vitamins to support a healthy body.
7. Love yourself and just do the best that you can.

Loving and nourishing and taking care of your body is a gift to yourself and the baby. This child is a spark of light descending from the world of spirit down to earth. The baby is choosing you. The child is divine and remember…. your body is the sacred vessel.

How often do you think about your soul or spiritual self?  We spend so much time thinking about our physical being, but sparing moments contemplating our own soul. The soul is everlasting but our bodies are mortal. Get in touch with your spirituality …whatever that means to you. 

Our spiritual nature needs to be a daily happening. The more you get in touch with your true spiritual nature, the more positive influence you’ll be for your unborn child.  Bliss and beauty are eternal principles available to all, but it comes from an “internal” experience with the Divine. 

What to do / action steps: 

1. Set aside time everyday to get in touch with a state of being. Meditate and watch your thoughts, while you listen to your breath. Allow your spirit to move through you in a deeper and more profound experience of life.
2.  Connect with nature. It can be as simple as witnessing a sunset or watching a bird in flight. Nature assists us in reconnecting to our spiritual selves.
3.  Listen to uplifting music that makes your heart soar.

 Start to follow your inner guidance and more joy will flow into your life. A happy, serene mother equals a happy, peaceful baby. You are the life force that nourishes an infant. Nourish your soul and self by developing your true inner spirit. Pray with passion and fill your body with grace.  Love is our true essence!

“Ludicrous” was my reaction to a friend twenty years ago, when she shared her rebirthing healing session with me.  What a bunch of new age nonsense, I arrogantly thought.  I felt that people were just addicted to healing and searching for another reason to why they were so unhappy.  I don’t have any birth trauma……..boy was I wrong!

On my first visit to Ecuador to study with Shamans, one of the members in my group was a psychotherapist from Colorado.  We had a four hour layover between our travels and she offered the group a rebirthing session.  I had nothing else to do so I agreed. A few hours later I was shocked by my experience.  My subconscious memories through a simple breath-work technique starting to release tension and trauma I never knew existed inside of me.  The experience was so profound that it even touched me on a deeper spiritual level where I spoke to my spiritual guides before my entrance into the tiny infant body of Cynthia.  Energy washed through my body and even at one point my arms became completely paralyzed.  Through conscious breathing with the assistance of the psychotherapist all the tension untied itself.  I started to experience more freedom as light filled my up my body. I felt renewed.

Unconsciously when we are about to give birth, we recreate what our own mothers went through with us. I was a forceps delivered infant and three out of my four children came into this world the same way. I repeated my mother’s pattern until I realized the mind body connection with my fourth and she just popped out into this world on her own. In preparing for your upcoming pregnancy it would be optimal for you to experience a rebirthing session.

What to do /Action Steps:

1. Transformational Breath-work (which is what I did).  You’ll lie down on the ground with a trained Re-Birth Healer and start learning to breathe simply and more deeply.
2. Water Re-Birthing- You’ll be taken in a pool or a hot tub and with the guidance of a Re-Birth Healer, you will start to release cellular memories in your own DNA of the trauma of being born.

Hogwash? ….maybe, but don’t judge it unless you experience it. You might be surprised and healed by this experience.  This will be a monumental step in preparing and creating a blessed birth for your child!

  Whether you’re conscious of it or not, most of us are carrying in our subconscious minds issues with our birth parents. Most of us did not live in a television sitcom as pure as “Happy Days.”  Dysfunction exists in ALL families one way or another. How we relate to others is interconnected from our conception and early childhood experiences.

 The ideal situation is to start doing some inner housecleaning before you get pregnant. The more you sweep away the hurts and resentments towards your parents, the more it will enhance the relationship between you and your child. The Mother-Child bond is a core foundation to every infant, as Freudian psychology points out.

 What to do/Action Steps: 

1.  Start examining issues with your parents. If we start to self-reflect and observe the friction we have with our parents, we will begin to develop more self understanding.
2.  Realize that your parents are human and stop resenting them for not being your perfect ideal.
3.  Go back into your past and start to FEEL painful memories. ‘Feeling the feeling’ is a powerful tool to release old baggage. Don’t be afraid to experience hurtful feelings.
4.  Write down all your poisonous, hateful feelings and memories. Read them out loud and then rip up the paper;  say “these feelings are no longer part of me.  I forgive you for not being whom I wanted you to be.”
5. When revisiting the past experience with your parents, visualize the painful experience in a more positive and uplifting way. Create the resolve that your inner child craves for.
6.  Stop blaming your parents for your own unhappiness as an adult. It is time to allow mature and accepting feelings to flow through you.
7.  Allow your childish and immature feelings to surface. Don’t judge these feelings. It is healthy to let them surface, then bury them deep in your unconscious,

 As you explore and release childhood feelings and emotions, the more room you create for loving, peaceful feelings.  All these exercises may seem silly, but when you excavate your dark, destructive emotions it allows you to love more. You cannot love unless you feel and it is vital to feel painful feelings. All this inner work will help you grow emotionally, as well as spiritually.  Learn to love your parents unconditionally and forgive them for past mistakes. You will begin to like yourself more and more, and this is how you become a better Mother and human being. This love, like an umbilical cord, will connect to you and your child.  Love is never broken!

 This should be your main priority. Personal relationships are key to your spiritual growth.  We walk on sunshine early in our relationship and then as time marches on. the dark, shadowy clouds descend. “He doesn’t bring me flowers anymore.” “She never wants to have sex.” “He’s never home.” “All she does is nag!” “He’s a slob.” Does any of this sound familiar? BLAME, BLAME, BLAME!!! It is always someone else’s fault that you are unhappy. Here lies your first mistake.  IT IS YOUR JOB TO MAKE YOU HAPPY! This is no one else’s responsibility. No one can make you feel anything. These are your feelings.  NEVER EXPECT THE OTHER PERSON TO CHANGE…. Many people get married thinking that all the things that bothered you about your mate will change once the wedding band is on the finger. False…..it is just the opposite. All those things that triggered you before, intensify. People mirror back to you what you’re feeling about yourself. Realize that you don’t have any power to change another human being. You can only change yourself.  We are all human and sometimes we cannot control our feelings. In a healthy relationship it is important to be expressing our truth without belittling or accusing another person. Creating a loving relationship starts with stopping the dualistic patterns of right versus wrong. Divorce court is filled with this energy. If we speak with kindness, love and truth with our partners we will start to shift our relationship into a supportive one.   If someone is angry at you, choose not to match their feelings. The more you love and approve of yourself, the more you have the capabilities to love others.   Remember that true love never has an opposite. Love is love and it never deviates.

 What to do / Action Steps

 1.  Allow a deep, compassionate loving for you to sift through negative emotions.   Feel them and embrace your darkness. As your negative feelings surface ….explore them and find out where the root comes from. (Early childhood experiences may be a clue.)  Realize if the roots come from the past why are you allowing them in the present? Take a breath and a time out if you need it. See if you can raise your vibration to love.

2.   Nurture yourself and allow higher, euphoric feeling to come. I play uplifting music to elevate my mood. If you want flowers…buy them for yourself

3.   If there is a personality flaw you see in another person, find where that flaw is hidden within yourself. Accept that it is in you and then transcend that trait to a more positive and spiritual attribute. Take for example; ENVY. Maybe someone has something that you want. Instead of getting jealous, you can shift your lower feelings into positive ones. “Good for them for creating such goodness in their life. I can create that in mine also.”

4.   Develop Healthy Communication…. Give up the need to be right and making another wrong. Take personal responsibility for your actions and reactions.

5.   Treat People the way you want to be treated… If you want love and respect, then treat yourself and others that way. You can choose to be commanding rather than demanding and constructive but not destructive.

6.   Let Go of Expectations…. Stop expecting people to behave in the way that you think they should. Disappointment will disappear and love and acceptance can be the replacement.

7.   Invest time and energy in your relationship and the benefits of a loving home will benefit you, your Partner & especially your children!

 Regardless of where you are in your life journey - Maiden, Mother or Crone - creating a loving partnership is critical to enlightment!

For many overweight women, the problems begin during childhood. When I was a little girl, I was punished every night for not eating all of my supper; the Sisters in the parochial school that I attended would retrieve my discarded lunch out of the trash and make me eat it. Then, during adolescence, the messages shifted, as I started to put pounds on my once-thin frame. Mom told me that I needed to go on a diet because I gained ten pounds during one year of my growing period. She lectured me about what a woman should look like until my body awareness became distorted. I formed serious misperceptions about my physical attractiveness, and the dieting began: low carbs, no sugar, cutting out meals — you name it. Every one of my female friends was dieting, too; for us it was a personal battle, and Diet Coke was our weapon of choice.

The awakening

Finally, during my last year of college, I had an awakening. I tossed aside my last diet drink can and said, “Nevermore.” At that defining moment, I made a promise to myself never to diet again. I began visualizing what I wanted to look like, and the act of concentrating on that imagery enabled me to tap into my subconscious mind. Researchers say that, normally, we use only 10 percent of our brain. I managed to tap into something that freed up more of my brainpower; with my new creative and intuitive capacity, I started on the road to becoming the shamanic healer and teacher that I am today.

Now at the age of fifty-six (56), I maintain my weight without dieting — by providing my body with the love and nurturing that it needs. How did I do this?

The process was straightforward.

• First, I put an end to negative self-talk. Instead, if I had put on a few extra pounds, I called myself a “luscious woman” — never fat.
• Second, I stopped creating an internal culture of deprivation. I replaced Diet Coke with water; if I wanted a soft drink, I selected one with sugar and enjoyed it. At parties, I would look at all the goodies and tell myself that I could have anything I wanted. Usually I chose not to have anything. Choosing not to do something, rather that thinking you can’t, is a far more powerful way to change your behavior. Feelings of deprivation will sabotage all your attempts to lose weight.
• Third, I listened to my body. I noticed how I felt after eating junk food: lousy. I made better food choices for my body because it felt good, not because I was supposed to.
• Fourth, I examined my beliefs about my body. My mother had planted a negative belief system about eating and gaining weight in my young teenage mind, and I had to change that. Do you believe you are heavy because you gave birth? Because gaining weight is a natural consequence of getting older? Because you have a “fat gene”? These are belief systems - in order to lose weight, you will need to alter your thinking.

Belief and biology

In his best seller, Your Sacred Self, Dr. Wayne Dyer claims that our external appearance reflects our inner critic: “…manifestations like excess weight are fear-based projections of yourself.” I think this is accurate. This past year, a female client told me that she would not be happy until she lost ten pounds. I ask why she couldn’t be happy now — in this present moment. Weight need not be such a powerful influence on our personal happiness. After months of teaching her how to release negative emotions and develop her inner power of self love, she lost twenty-four pounds and is thinner than she was in high school.

In his book Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, Deepak Chopra, M.D. and former Chief of Staff at Boston Regional Medical Center, wrote, “You can free yourself from aging by reinterpreting your body and by grasping the link between belief and biology.” The same is true for weight loss.

How can we begin doing what Chopra suggests? How do we “reinterpret” our bodies and transform our old beliefs?

You can do it!

The best way to start is by developing some simple practices, such as the following.

• Write it and rip it. Silence your inner critic. Write down all your negative feelings. Ask yourself: How did I eat as a child? How did my family view food? How do I feel about food? What’s really eating me? Then, rip up the paper you used, declaring out loud: “These feelings are no longer part of me.”
• Visualize your perfection. Concentrate on an image of yourself at your desired weight, and know that you can achieve this. Perhaps find an old photograph of yourself when you were “just-right.” Then, take time at the beginning and end of each day to visualize yourself becoming as you were in the photograph.
• Treat yourself. Do something special each day for yourself. It could be something as simple as a nice cup of tea or a warm bath.
• Select only foods that nourish your body. If you know that a food contains empty calories, pass it up. Eat consciously and slowly; enjoy what you are eating. Attend to what your body tells you after you eat the food. If you do not feel good, don’t eat that food again.
• Move your body in a way you really enjoy. Select a favorite activity such as walking, biking, running, yoga, or gardening. Do it routinely every day at the same time.
• Let feelings come out. Begin to feel your feelings rather than stuffing them inside your body. Allow them to come out in constructive ways. Tell people how much you care about them. Also tell them when you’re angry, so that you can get past it and move on. Develop more honest communication patterns in all your relationships, and honor your commitments..
• Appreciate your body. When you shower or bathe, talk and caress your body as if you were speaking to a baby: “Thank you, my eyes, for letting me see all the beauty around me. Thank you, my legs, for taking me wherever I want to go.” The body responds to love, not criticism.

Does this sound too easy or too good to be true? Just watch the pounds slip away, as you fill yourself up with love and intention.  The mind-body-spirit connection is a powerful force that can make a significant difference in all aspects of our lives.  Remember….the magic is in you!

• The first and most important thing to do to prepare for the upcoming pregnancy is to being physically fit.  This will benefit both mother and baby.  You should improve your nutrition and adjust your diet and maybe consult with a nutritionist to guide you.  A professional might suggest some supplements.  This is a very important step to take in the welfare of you and unborn baby.
• Yoga and mediation will assist to calm your nervous system,  learn to relax & get in touch with your body, as well as open up the energy chakra system that keeps the” chi” flowing inside of you.  Learning to get in touch with your breath and improving your breathing will assist you not only in improved health and vitality but also prepare you for a focus in labor.  Yoga teaches you how to relax into discomfort and surrender to what your body is feeling rather than resisting.  Prana is the energy that flows like an electrical wire along our spine.  Once you learn to use slow mindful breath you will develop an inner calm that benefits you and your baby, bringing vitality to your health.
• Acupuncture will prepare you before and during pregnancy.  It will keep the “chi” flowing and bring in vital energy to all the important organs of your body.  This ancient practice of healing is presently being verified by medical professionals across the world.
• Get in touch with your emotional body.  This is one of the most important steps to take BEFORE you get pregnant.  Unresolved issues with your own birth mother could and will probably surface.  As much as you could release any emotional garbage you are holding inside about your childhood and parents will be the best gift you could give to yourself and unborn child.  It doesn’t mean that you need to be in a “Perfect” state of being, but if you do this step with the proper therapist or healer, it will enhance your pregnancy and birth process and essentially your relationship with your baby.
• Develop a close intimacy with your mate to insure a blessed conception….learning to love each other more deeply and connect on a soul level.  The art of tantra or sacred sex is a skill that few people take the time to develop within a relationship.  Many of us are so busy that sex becomes a chore or an act to get to the point of orgasm. If you practice or buy some tapes that will help enhance you sex life this will bring in more than positive results in your relationship.  Temples in Asia depict different sexual acts and positions because these holy places knew the power and the sacredness of sex.

Bringing a baby through your body is a blessed event.  Preparing the mind, body, emotions and spirit with love and ardor for the arrival of a new soul will uplift the conception and birth experience.  Good luck and remember that every baby is a gift!

Whether, a baby boy or girl, I don’t know if there is any woman who is pregnant, who at one time didn’t lean toward a certain gender preference for their unborn child.  In my experience, I have seen many women who did not receive the baby boy or girl that they wanted and, due to their disappointment, bonding did not immediately take place. This deprives both the mother and the child. Someone once said that if women were able to choose what gender they would like, there would be far too many male children born and our population would experience a crisis with not enough women to bear children. I have found this to be untrue. Most of the women who came to me had two sons and ached to have a female child. I think it would be great if we could all experience children of each gender… assuming that is your choice for a boy or girl!

What if |  baby Boy or Girl

Well, if money wasn’t a problem for you regarding having a baby boy or girl, then you could undergo a lengthy scientific process that separates your husband’s sperm. Sperm is the determining factor in the gender of a child. A woman’s egg has nothing to do with gender determination. But most of us are unable to afford such a a process to have a boy or girl,  and, even with this scientific process of separating a male’s sperm, it is not guaranteed that you’ll have the gender you desire, whether it is a boy or girl.  On the other hand, The Secret Baby Recipe is simple, economical and pleasurable. Sex is still sex and there are no special added effects to take away from a special moment.

Baby boy or girl recipe

For more than 25 years, women having been dramatically increasing their odds for a Baby Boy or Girl using the magic ingredients of this recipe that includes:

1.  Believing

2.  Visualizing

3.  Predicting Ovulation

4.  Creating (Sex & Timing)

5.  Loving

6.  Meditating

7.  Accepting

You are pregnant and family members, friends and acquatiances celebrate your good news.  All of a sudden you are bombarded by every woman that you encounter with their “war stories.”  Women wear their childbirth experience like a purple heart on their chest!  You will hear horror stories of forty-eight hour labors and on the opposite spectrum, women who  did it naturally and the baby slipped out.  I guarantee that you’ll be polite and listen, but keep this thought in mind……. their experience does not equal yours.  The more important question is ” What type of childbirth experience do I want to create?”

Childbirth Fears |  Eliminating them

Three out of my four deliveries were forceps assisted.   My mind had been previously filled with limiting childbirth fears that my pelvis was small, labor would be long and etc.  However, the more I studied the mind-body connection,  I began to realize that I had the power to create a different birth experience.  Every day I would visualize my daughter’s birth and that she would just pop out into the world.  I saw it in my mind’s eye;  I affirmed it. I knew it and when Jacqueline arrived in the world she popped out exactly as I had visualized with the mind and body completely synchronized.  Take time to write down all your worse childbirth fears about the upcoming birth. Read it out loud and the rip up the paper you wrote on into tiny pieces. You can even burn the paper if you prefer.  Then flush it down the toilet and say out loud “these feelings are no longer part of me and my child.”  Next write down how you want the experience to be.  See it!  Feel it…calm, easy and natural. Sit everyday for five minutes contemplating a safe passageway for you and your baby. Let love and peace be your constant companions. Trust the process. This is what your body was designed to do.  You are a woman and a Mother……a vessel for a soul to arrive on earth.  What a gift!!

Doubt, insecurities and fears will come up.  Will my baby be healthy?  What if I can’t do this?  I will never have fun again or you might worry that your body will be ruined.  Feel the doubts and fears….. cast them aside like unnecessary clutter.  Pour in some beautiful thoughts such as:  This will be an incredible experience.  My body will remain healthy and fit, as my pregnancy expands.  I will be a wonderful Mother.  I am blessed to be able to carry a child.  Fill your consciousness with loving and embracing feelings and I guarantee that your motherhood abilities will blossom like a rose!

We all assume that when our new born baby arrives, our motherly hormones kick in and we will be in ecstasy…. coddling, suckling & bonding with our child.  Yes, this indeed happens for some new mothers, but for others it is just the opposite.  The ‘baby blues or postpartum depression’ begin to set in like a deep, dark cloud over the mother…..you are hurt, angry, confused and most of all, ashamed of your feelings.  How could a “good” mother feel this way?  What kind of person am I?  Doctors blame these feelings on the blast of hormones bombarding the woman’s body, but as a Shaman Healer I strongly disagree.  Our hormones are acting as a catalyst to release pent-up emotions in our body that a woman has suppressed during pregnancy.  These layers of mental and emotional unexpressed feelings are like a volcano erupting, pushing a woman into her pain.  Instead of accepting her true feelings, she goes into shame.  Unfortunately, this is like adding gasoline to an already hot fire.

Women’s Collective Consciousness | additional impact on the Baby Blues

In women’s collective consciousness, there is still a tremendous amount of hurt and pain that also impacts your emotions.  The largest holocaust that has ever taken place on this earth has been the obliteration of women.  China is a perfect example of a country rejecting feminine consciousness, as most women abort or give their daughters up in favor of a male.  ‘How does this affect me’,  you might ask.  It certainly does since we are all connected.  Every time that we look at the feminine energy as weak, all that energy collects in our female bodies.   Unresolved issues with our own birth mother are also stored in our subconscious and manifest themselves during this period.

What to do | Shaman Mother’s Tips for the Baby Blues

Allow these negative dark emotions to surface, talk to a good friend or healer about these feelings and most importantly, have compassion for yourself. Accept these feelings and stop identifying with this pain.  Observe yourself from an objective perspective, as if you were watching a movie, and notice your reactions and trigger points. The moment that the Ego stops perceiving that this is me, the sufferings stops.  Shift these feelings and emotional pain into enlightened consciousness.  You are on your way to setting yourself free, as these painful feelngs will shift into a blessed bliss!