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The Invitation: Oriah

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Mon, 02 May 2011 12:51:00 +0000

I found this one from facebook. It was set as someone's favorite quotation.

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.

Integrity

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 05:47:00 +0000

The more and more I confronted who I truly am and what I wanted in life, I more and more became a heart person.
Instead of being run by my brain all the time, I ran my brain a little.

I switched it off sometime and just surrendered to somebody else's wisdom.

I enjoyed the "Trusting someone "experience. What a liberation!!

All there is in life is "Experience". I studied, partied, bunjee-jumped, swam, switched jobs - all for an experience, I thought. A new experience.

New experiences of my being through doing.
I "did" somethings to "be" somewhat. Now I am learning "being" and "doing" things being that being.
I am no master in that. But, I practiced, practice & will practice.

I heard a saying, "They first win the war and then go to war". For its just a game, For that is the level of Integrity. For that is their mastery in integrity, whoever they are.

Integrity, I think, is being true to my deepest self and allow the expression of that through actions, when somewhere in the quest, the deepest self and the actions are one and the same.

Integrity is a word and nothing else. Just plain Nothing else.
And, I shall live for that word.

Whats so & The illusion of meanings

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 14:00:00 +0000

Whats So is just whats so. The meaning comes only from you.

I think this is one of the most beautiful motivational line you can you use when you are down. I use it mostly when I am attached to a certain task and the results let me down. To keep moving on, I need to remove the significance i gave to the result!

Law of Attraction: Guitar

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Fri, 04 Jun 2010 05:42:00 +0000

Ever since I first saw "The secret" documentary some 3 years back, the Law of Attraction concept intrigued me. I looked up and read a lot of interesting stuffs that people were doing with the concept. Many have had lots of success in attracting what they wanted. Many have had lots of failures. Also, there are lots of theories about how to apply this concept.

Well, I have had my share of trials as well. Some half-hearted trials with doubts and some real "sincere" trials ;)

Recently I experienced a success which swept me away. Let me tell about it...

Last week, after a long time, I remembered that I wanted to learn guitar. So, I thought, "I am in a place where I can actually spend time learning it. Now, I should stop giving reasons for not learning it. May be I should do something about it".

And I fixed a goal, "I want to be able to play a song with a guitar 1 month from now". For that, I first needed to buy a guitar. What I asked the universe (i think) was this: I just want guitar coming to my hands by this Saturday. I was also thinking, It'd be cool if i just get it in my hands without actually going through the process of narrowing down a model, or even spend time buying one.

The following Saturday, I walked into my clients place, there was it, a guitar just lying there waiting for me to be seen. I asked her, "Wow, this is cool, who plays guitar here? I was thinking of getting and learning a guitar, so do you know where can i buy it and give me some tips?"

She said, lifting the guitar, "Here take this. This poor thing has been lying around and been used as a stopper for the door from getting closed. Let it be of some use in your hands".

I could not believe what was happening.

I was taken aback, pondering if i should actually accept such a gift. I was like, "No... I don't know... blah... blah... this & that" and then I stopped. For a second, I got present to my want and what was happening.

After a while, I said, "OK. Cool. May be, I'll learn a song, come and play within a month or so, May be then you'll get inspired and then you can start actually using it!!"

The coolest thing was, I wasn't particularly testing or trying out Law of Attraction. I just knew that I should have a guitar with my by Saturday, and the precise day on which i got it was what still amazes me. Also, I don't usually ask the way i did.

I think, when the context of why you want - what you want is clear, the want becomes clearly understood by the universe and it responds quickly.

Now, I ask for the next step to the universe: "Send me a tutor who can teach me to play a song in a month".

Share your comments on law of attraction, Guitar tutoring or your general opinion about Saturdays! Whatever! I am so happy!

[P. S. : The dialogues are actually paraphrased. I made it in dialogue format for the interesting appeal and also that i don't remember the exact dialogues :) ]

Vicky Cristina Barcelona

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Sun, 30 May 2010 17:45:00 +0000

The simple beauty of unpredictability

I watched this movie again recently and i felt inspired to write about it.

The present system of marriage is in place predominantly because it facilitates for a wholesome, joyous and intimate living with another. But what if there could be another way where same things are possible and much more fun? How open are we to even consider it? i think, a viewer who is very rigid or righteous about relationships in general would have a lot of confrontations and uncomfortable moments and that's precisely the reason for him/ her to watch it. :).

Vicky is a conservative & goal-oriented kind of woman and is engaged to be married. Cristina is liberal, impulsive, creative and she is single. Both are vacationing in Barcelona when a charming Juan Antonio invites both of them to spend the weekend with him in oviedo for drinking, eating and making love (yes, that's exactly the line in the movie :) ). The story is about their response to the invitation and further consequences of their actions.

I am tempted to write about the specific moments in the movie and analyze how simply creative woody Allen is. But that would knock out some surprise if you plan to watch it. So...

I think Woody Allen explores brilliantly how the society evolves in relationships and as in any of his other movies, it's so much fun to watch him play through his characters with a light sense of mockery humor. Right from the way the movie starts, the way Juan Antonio approaches the girls... their intriguing nature of response... the unexpected way things turn out between the 3 of them... and then the introduction of ex-girl friend... are very unexpected and unconventional, yet shown in a temptingly possible way.

Purely about relationships, Vicky Cristina Barcelona is very romantic and adventurous.

Woody Allen is a master in showing our life situations to ourselves through his characters. Almost of all his characters go through a phase of unbound, limitless exploration finding exquisite fun and happiness in the process, going beyond their judgment of moral (right/ wrong). Then, all the characters gets pulled back to the past life style because of limited beliefs and the morals, gets pulled back to the state of perpetual pseudo happiness, always short of the potential happiness.

Its a knock at you to take a look at yourself where you are holding back from exploring the unexplored.

Moral: The experience of wonder always comes from the place of the unexpected and the uncertain, beyond your reasons.

On Being Present

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 04:45:00 +0000

We are absent most of the time. We spend time thinking or wishing to be in some other place, there by, being absent for current situation. Be it in a conversation, or in a movie hall or even while at work, we always have an alternate reality going on inside our head. The disadvantage of this absence is that we are half-assed in the current situation, loosing the focus on what we are doing.

In my Yoga Class I often encounter such absence in people. From keeping the eyes closed for 5 minutes, to holding a difficult posture, I see various levels of absence. Heck, I see absence in myself. The reason is not the incapability in doing a posture or that pain is involved, its just that there is an inner voice in the head that keeps asking question "why do I have to do this?, cant it be any other way?" or such similar questions. If you notice it, that inner voice is not just inside the class, its everywhere in life; not just while doing uncomfortable things but even while doing comfortable things. And that voice does not cease to exist, ever.

Now that we know the presence of inner voice, what can we do with it so that we can be completely present? The answer is easy. Kill the inner voice get back to the current situation. But, killing it is not as easy as it sounds, because if it was, you would not go through the absence phase for such a long time.

The key here is to get present to what the inner voice is saying. What are the reasons it is giving for creating the alternate reality in the head. And to answer that, you need to look from a broader perspective. You know that there are 2 parts of you, one part wants to be present here (and do the postures, in case of the yoga class) and the other part constantly judges the situation as to whether it is right or wrong, whether it will work or not, etc.

At this level of clarity, you might be able to choose which voice to listen to and which voice to kill (To kill for now and focus on it later). But, at this point, you have to choose.

If you choose to listen to the judging voice, honour it. Cut off the voice which says you to be here and instead walk outside and give full concentration to the judging voice, so that you can gain clarity and come back when you are ready. Else, Cut off the judging voice for later and choose to be present completely and honour your choice. There are no good/ bad or Right/ wrong in them. It is choice/consequences.

Since both parts belong to you, in the quest for clarity, you can’t ignore one for the other. And, if you are not able to gain clarity even at this point, then get in touch with the vision/ goal that brought you to this current situation on the first place. In this case, why did you choose to do yoga? Access that goal and see if you still want to be here.

Now, considering that your goal was to enjoy the yogic mental journey, your next action will be clear. Get present and push through the pain & disturbances for realizing the goal of experiencing the journey. If you choose to listen to the inner voice and still continue to stay in the class or choose to do yoga and continue to listen to the inner voice, know that it would be an in-congruent action towards your goal. You would be stuck in between deprived of the consequences of both the choices.

Know that you have to choose based on the consequences that you want to experience and you have to be the choice completely, 100%. So, be happy about your choice, either ways.

Not only in the Yoga class, you can take this distinction to every aspect of your life. Every time you start rejecting your reality (every time you stop being present), admit that you have just lost in touch with your goal and forgot why you are there. Take a moment and ask yourself, what was the goal I had in mind because of which I am here? Once you access your vision/ goal, the reason for being here becomes clear, and getting present becomes easy & natural.

The reason why you are unable to focus on one thing is because there is some other thing that demands your attention. Give your attention to it, gain clarity on it and then the choice will come naturally to you. Then you can be 100% committed to the one thing which you chose.

Avatar: Review

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 09:15:00 +0000

I am not a great fan of "something for everyone" movies. Because, I sincerely believe that when you try to please everyone, you inevitably compromise on many other aspects and the result comes out to be mediocre at best. And yet Avatar has breached some grounds on this forte. A fantastic combination of action, mystery, romance and beauty, all of this with great plot. Movie running time does not matter to me, as long as it is good and has an interval :).

A movie involves 2 major components: A great story (the what?) and the way it is told (the how?).

The HOW

These days, with the visual effects and sound technology constantly improving, movie experience has been constantly improvising that many movies are doing a wonderful job in providing the "eye-treat". However, once in a while a movie comes that sweeps the audience and lifts the movie watching experience to a whole new level. AVATAR is one such movie. (I can remember The Matrix doing this kind of effect before).

3D being the highlight, Avatar provided a wonderful world PANDORA, injecting beauty of colours, the art in the wild and grace in the humanoids. I was actually a little somber at the end of the movie to come out the avatar world. (I later visited Pandora 2 more times by the time i wrote this review). Even though the discomfort of wearing the 3D glasses persisted throughout, this is a movie which can be watched more than once, as it was treat to the eyes and ears even the third time.

With all that hard work being there in the behind-the-scenes, it is even more hard to tell a story in such a way as to convince the audience to side with aliens in a war against humans. Certainly good story telling there.

None of these would have worked well without a strong plot.

The WHAT (the deeper aspects)

True, the movie had a huge wake-up-call-for-humanity message; which is a recurring theme in recent past, like in District 9. But what i appreciated was the thought on how all the living beings - the plants, animals, entire planet - all connected together and a network of energy flowing in them acting as a communication channel. At one point, I wondered if the movie talking about earth and the humans had become those wonderfully evolved beings.

Also, Since being a human is all about connecting with others, I did not find the romance out of place at all. Rather, the movie was made more delightful because of the romance and the on-screen chemistry was way more enjoyable than just palatable, even though it was romance between alien species.

Science-wise speaking (as they often refer in the initial scenes), In the pandora world, defining the network of energies as a advanced bio-chemical phenomenon, trying to provide an explanation as scientifically as possible instead of leaving it as a spiritual-unknown was quite respectful of the director. However, even the basic science behind the AVATAR concept, (the transporting of human-in-dream-stage into the avatar body) was ill-explained, which was rather disappointing, making the movie less of science in the science-fiction part.

As with the epic movies, Everyone in Avatar has strong characters and a deep sense of attachment with their principles and a clear boundaries on their actions, except for Jake, the protagonist, for who is the only character forced to go through a lot of challenging situations, forcing him to constantly question his own faiths and actions. Highlighting the bravery and deep sense of adventure in Jake, the tremendous growth in the character is shown impeccably, i think every child should watch this film.

The Punch-line: AVATAR was not a movie, but an EXPERIENCE.

District 9: Review

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 13:54:00 +0000

District 9 has aliens in it, but it definitely is a movie about us, humans and what we are evolving into.

Plot

It is set in a near future where millions of alien species have have been colonized in District 9, in Johannesburg, where their spaceship is stranded. It has been 20 years since their arrival and the concept of alien existence has been accepted in the society to a level where legal and civic rights are in place for the aliens for a supposedly peaceful co-existence with humans. Due to pressure, the government with the help of Multinational United (MNU), a private military corporation, is set to relocate the millions of aliens to a more secure location, 240 KM outside the city, called District 10.

The movie unravels as Wikus van de Merwe (played by Sharlto Copley), a MNU field operative, leading the relocation and serving of eviction notices to the aliens. The first few scenes, interspersed with interviews of experts from various fields, runs documentary-like in an attempt to help the viewers catch up with situations and reasons behind them.

What starts out as a slow paced documentary gradually picks up pace. With the DNA activated alien weaponry and special effects, the second half is a nail-biting thriller with action packed chase sequences giving the viewers a direction as to where the movie is headed.

The Message

This movie is more about the message than the scientific / philosophic inquires as focused in other alien movies like contact. Neither does it bother with gadgetry display of big machines fighting.

Also, questions like how the aliens ended up here on earth?, how much different are they from us humans? or what planet are they from? are conveniently and blatantly avoided. Only information we get about the aliens' past is a huge alien space ship hovering over the Johannesburg city, suggesting the aliens are technologically more advanced.

The movie invites the viewers to witness a question that has never been asked before in other alien movies. A question that is asked from totally opposite perspective. How kind can humans be, if they really had all the powers? And, the answer is of course, quite daunting.

And, even better is the whole movie does not cater to the mainstream media's needs, especially the end stands out on this. (Although, I personally felt certain clichés like the appearance of the alien species, with gross exoskeleton and human-like figure could have been different). Since the aliens are not necessarily portrayed as villains, the end gets quite unpredictable and justified.

Bottom Line

District 9 made me wonder, Is technology without compassion, an efficient way for human evolution?

Read another review of the movie at Reelviews by James Berardinelli

Other Science Fiction Movie recommendations:

All of them have completely different and deep view point to offer which has been presented exquisitely. I hope to be writing a review on them.

How to get Google Wave Invites in 10 minutes using twitter?

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:55:00 +0000

8 Steps to get Google wave invitation in 10 minutes

Note: This is a proven technique and I got the Google wave invitation within 10 minutes following the below steps.

Do you badly need Google wave invite and getting none, even after asking/requesting a lots of people?

Do you know? On one side, there are lots of people who need the Google wave invites and don't find any. On the other side, there are people who have invites and don't have a clue on what to do with them.

How to solve this imbalance?

While eating dinner today, I was speaking to my brother and realized we needed Google Wave immediately for testing some firefox extensions. After dinner, I typed a few emails and in the next 10 minutes, I had a Google wave invitation waiting in my inbox.

Do you want to know how?

Simple step to get Google wave invite:

Go to http://twitter.com/#search?q=google%20wave and find the tweets that offers Google wave invites. Send an email requesting for an invite.

Detailed steps to get Google wave invite:

Visit http://twitter.com/#search?q=google%20wave which is the real time search results of the trending topic "Google Wave".
Click on at least 10 tweets that offers Google wave invites (Tweets like "I have 5 google wave invites left. want one?" or "I just got my google wave. I dont know what to do now" or something similar to this).
Click on the twitter user name and go their twitter page.
Find out their email address send an email to them requesting for Google wave invite.
To find the email address, Check out their back ground image for any mention of email address.
If not available there, Look for the email address from the user's website (that is published below the user's Name.) or reach for the "contact me" link to request for an invite.
Send an email requesting for the invite.
Some twitter profiles do not update their email or their website. So, you can just "reply" them for an invite.

Things to keep in mind until you get a reply:

Twitter updates are very frequent and tweets with Google wave invites come in the range of at least 20 per minute. Tweets with invites get exhausted quickly. So, don't give up after sending just 1 or 2 requests. Chances are high that you get response in the first 10 minutes.

Getting a fast response depends upon who sends the invite.

In comments, let me know your success, suggestions.

The "Sales Guy" Experience

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 06:58:00 +0000

I recently had a garage sale kind of a thing at my place. As I was moving out, I was selling My PC, some accessories and some furniture. I posted advertisement in a couple of online forums like Craigslist and a private forum of my earlier workplace. I interacted with a lot of potential buyers and I learnt a few things from the overall experience even though my brother Prasanna helped me in the process with his own wisdom. I would like to share details on how to do some key things, in the process of placing the advertisement to making the actual sale, once you have fixed the price range.

I am not going to talk about

How to lie well and sell at high price.
General Tips and Tricks on how to make safest deal as you all know that making CASH transaction and that too DIRECT, IN PERSON is the safest. You can take a look at craigslist or some similar sites for more tips.
Ascertaining the value of the item

Now, My Wisdom Nuggets:

Don't furnish the actual amount you are intending to sell it for. The buyer is definitely going to bargain and never going to settle for the actual furnished amount. Even if you are in urgency and quoting the lowest possible price. Do adequate research and fix a price range. The quote price should be the largest value of the range. This is not a deceiving technique but a necessary step to deal with the buyer's mind set to bargain (Sometimes very irrationally).
Don't ever mention that you are in a urgency to sell it. There is a good chance you will be taken advantage of.
Take some photos of the items in adequate angles (in case of furniture) or provide as much details (like configuration details in case of computer) and furnish it to the potential buyers as saves time for both you and the buyer.
Know that only a very interested buyer arranges for a meeting and visits you to check out the item you are selling. So, Don't ignore them. Give more weight-age to such buyers compared to those who close the deal just over phone.
If the item is in warranty, HIGHLIGHT it. If it was bought new, HIGHLIGHT it
Always have a strong reason for selling. Make them aware that you are not selling it because the item is defective. (In my case, I had to move away from my place and i could not carry it with me where i was going).
Stick to and make it clear to the potential buyer, "First Come First Serve" especially for those who close the deal over phone. As the last minute doubt makes them not buy and you end up loosing other potential buyers.
Stick to Spot Payment, Full Payment!
Remember: The deal is not made until it is made. Only when you get the full cash in hand, you can consider it a done deal!
Give least priority to those who just leaves a comment and never calls. There are lots of people who just quote a price without any intention of buying. If he had any interest in buying, he would have called you.
Finally, Have a friend with you while making the actual exchange of the item for money. It helps with your morale while tackling the last minute bargaining.

I am sure many of you are aware of the things i have mentioned . I am interested in hearing from people who have had experience in this and can share more tips from your experience!

Having said all that, it is best when you do it honestly so that neither party feels ripped off.

Adaptivity, Parents, Life Syle and A Joke

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:03:00 +0000

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” – Charles Darwin

Have you ever thought that "If only my mom is more understanding..." or "If only dad could learn about internet..." or "If only my parents are more adaptive..." ?

Sometimes, it is frustrating that our parents are not very adaptive as we are. Isn't it? Well, you know what? Tomorrow your kids are going to think the same way about you. You might be thinking you are very adaptive and forward thinking. But you’re only partially true. You are adaptive only compared to your parents and not to your selves. Sometimes your are not adaptive enough compared to your friends or peers.

Let me tell you a small story. Small, but true story.

Recently my friend went through confusion in deciding something. He was saying, "I am searching for a cook, but I am not getting a proper one. Interviewed a lot of them but they all have disadvantages - Either they do not cook my style (south Indian), charge too much or does not agree to my convenient time. Well, I am getting tired of this and don't know how to choose". So, he got stuck in the deciding-state for so long that he ended up hiring NO cook at all, even though he needed one.

So I said, "If you're going to be staying in the same place for more than 3 months, then take a cook that costs more, but is agreeing in all other aspects. After all, you and your roommate together can afford the cost, even if it is slightly higher than standard rates". Yes it is a simple thought but because of his trained thinking he just over looked some of the advantages and forgot to see the situation from a better perspective. Advantages with this new agreement, are that:

He gets meal every day
He avoids eating outside and hence less money spent on food
Eating without having to search for a different and better place every day.

Here, the advantages outweigh the only disadvantage (which is a little extra money) over a long term.

The Problem and The root cause

It’s not that my friend was poor in cook-interviewing. He was just stuck in his old way of thinking. He was adhered too much the general convention that "paying more than this-standard-rate is too much" and showed almost no focus on the other factors of his problem.

Because he stuck too much to the standard-rate concept and shied away from paying a little bit more, he ended up not having a cook and also,paid extra money unconsciously by eating outside, for a while.

Adapting means reconsidering the relevance of age-old advices and then acting upon them.

If you’d asked your parents advice on personal finance, they would start with “saving” and go on to “No credit cards” and probably end with talking about “savings” again. But, that advice is kind of outdated. You probably already know that and are doing lots of other things with your money like mutual funds, investments, bonds, insurance, credit cards, balance-transfer, etc along with saving. And, that's what is smart for this age. Your parents advice on saving were relevant only to their times as the earning style was different back then. Entrepreneurs were less and discouraged. A stable day job and savings was the best strategy then. But times have changed where work-from-anywhere is the new hip. I am not an expert in Personal Finance, but you should check out Ramit Sethi’s iwillteachyoutoberich.com. He's got some cool points to speak on money.

You can’t continue to keep having the conventional mind set and approach the daily problems. Our society and the world around us is evolving and we need to adapt. The sooner, the better! When unsure, just try and focus on all possible factors involved in the problem and brainstorm with a friend. Even the most obvious and trivial ones.

In my friend's case, he just needed a little bit of "long-term" thinking and reminding-of-some-things-he-already-knew. And in a little time of our conversation, he realized he needed to change his thinking style to solve his problem and arrive at a desirable outcome for long term. Hence he hired the cook paying him a little extra and is benefits and is happily living ever after [Heard that now, my friend and his cook are teaching each other more cooking].

My own story

I was brought up in a middle class family background. My take on money, while I was growing up, was fairly conservative just as I was taught to be. I was very careful even spending 10 bucks. I could say that this general conservative idea towards money continued even in my college while I was not earning and was depending upon my parents for money.

As I started earning, the amount i had in hand started increasing way more than what i had in college and I was still stuck in the same old mentality (even in places where i could have easily been more lenient with money). This showed up while i was purchasing a gift for my sister and I was with my very good friend who chose a way costlier (and much better) gift than what i bought and that too she chose it for my sister. I felt bad because I knew my sister deserved it and I was able to afford that better gift. I adapted to a new mind set then and there. I realized that I had been a little conservative when it came to money and decided to change and get a better perspective to improve my mind set. That was when I went ahead and shopped a lots more of stuffs for myself (and more for my sis too).

Some places where you can adapt to a new mind set

Just like the above cases, there are many places in our lives where we subconsciously stick to the old mindset and think from that point of view, which when upgraded to latest version could get better results. Here are some things where you might not be state-of-the-art adaptive:

Choosing a place to stay

Credit Cards

Multiple Credit Cards

Shared Internet connection

Learning the local language

Acquainting with various types of books (even the books you don’t agree with)

Practicing on Laptop Finger touch pad and not just relying on traditional mouse

Meeting new people

Finding the dream career

Picking a religion (There are many other religion and have you ever dared to try other religion before? I hear that Buddhism is pretty cool).

Philosophy

and so on...

A small case study

My mom (before 3 years): "Internet is too hi-fi. I am not made for it. And by the way, I forgot the password for the email account which you set me up 2 months back."

My Mom (now): "why don’t we hang up the phone and do skype chat? And, where are those photo attachments which you said you'd send in 10 minutes?”

Why Should You Blog?

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 21:49:00 +0000

How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live. - Henry David Thoreau

The best way to become acquainted with a subject is to write a book about it. - Benjamin Disraeli

These are 2 contradicting quotes. Aren't they? On different levels both are correct. The first one motivates me for taking action. The second one motivates me for writing. I shall explain below.

What is Blog?

Wikipedia defines it as "A blog (a contraction of the term web log) is a type of website, usually maintained by an individual with regular entries of commentary, descriptions of events, or other material such as graphics or video."

It is the easiest and simplest way to express your creative ideas and sharing (expressing) it to the world. Just like music, painting or dancing, I think writing an art, a form of expression. It has manifested into many forms such as Books, Blogs, Twitter, etc.

Blogging vs. Other Journaling Techniques

Journal or a diary is where you record your personal thoughts, ideas, happening or feelings. There are many ways of writing a journal and many advantages to them. Simplest being, Solving problems – if you write your problems down (rather than retaining in your mind), you gain more clarity, thereby a step closer to solving the problem. Blogging is a way of journaling.

The advantage of blogging compared to other forms of journaling is that, presenting of the ideas creates a mild pressure for you to work on an idea for a longer period of time and actually completing it. Earlier, before my blogging days, when I had an idea, I rarely recorded it. Even if I had recorded it, I didn’t have enough push to pursue on the idea later or I was just embarrassed to look at it and work more on it. I could not get the motivation on the idea back. But now, if I have an idea, I immediately note it down. Later, I choose on the various idea bits that I have and work on them because I am going to present it to an audience [Sometimes I assume that I have a huge audience]

Even if you don’t have audience (now), the reason that it will be presented in public is enough to work on it and finish it. I am not saying that that reason alone is enough. But, that surely is an important reason to give you a nudge in right direction.

For me, Blogging is the first step towards efficient journaling.

Self Exploration: Tool for Unearthing Your Creative Talent

Have you ever had a conversation with a friend that went for a long time and you got insights and ideas through the course of conversation that you were surprised to know that you had them in you?

Have you experienced great ideas popping up in your head while reading a book?

What happened to those ideas? They just float away. This has happened to me many times. There were some topics/ideas that I was very much interested in and wanted to explore more on it. But, the next activity consumed upon it and eventually, I dropped those ideas as I lost touch with the emotional splendor that the idea created when I first conceived it.

As I mentioned before, when ever I have an idea while talking to someone or reading a book, I immediately make a note of it – a small piece of paper, type it up in a notepad, compose an email and send it to myself, or sometimes I even record it or tweet it. Later I go and work on those ideas to convert them into blog posts.

Blogging helps me to consciously choose on an Idea and explore on it with my current knowledge on the subject. It urges me to do active research on the subject and gain more knowledge rather than reactively spend (waste) time watching TV. [I say ‘waste’ because I later regret having spent time on TV].

If you keep blogging regularly, you are in constant touch with your creative self, Creative either in the ideas or while communicating it or both. It’s an interesting experience. Try it

If you keep constantly digging within yourself, you will keep proceeding closer to your heart and find out what is in it. I think it is better explained in this article: How to find your life purpose in about 20 Minutes

Share without Care: To create happiness for yourself & Value for Others

Until recently before I started blogging, I believed that I did not have anything worthwhile to share to others that they could gain value from it. That thinking got me nowhere in my desire to become a writer. I did not write a word, but the feeling of emptiness because of not writing remained.

So Instead, I thought, I would share whatever I can assuming it is going to be of greatest use to a huge audience that is going to read it. I just changed my perspective of looking at the problem. And that did the trick, gave the motivation I needed. At least I am able to create something as against creating nothing and this process has made me immensely happy in the past few weeks. And about the value creation to others, I still don’t know if I could provide some big value to others. To find that out, I have to share what I can and see how it helps others. I have decided to wait on it for feedbacks.

But, I believe this: No matter what situation you are in, if you are a person who is not dead, you can provide value to others.

Revenue Generation

The awesome part!

It’s generally said that, if your content is good, you can attract more readers, the more the clicks on ads, the more revenue you can generate through Google Adsense.

I have taken the first step towards it. I signed up for Google Adsense and my approval came through 4 days back.

I earned $1.39 in the first 2 days. It was an awesome feeling.

I have just started on revenue generation and not going to focus much on it yet. Anyway, I am doing more research on it which I shall share in the future.

Motivation & hunger to learn

The more you write (blog), the more you will consume your ideas. The more you consume ideas, the faster your resource gets used up. You will start to consciously pursue for ways to generate ideas. You need to take in a lot of input in order to generate output.

Books, movies, Blogs are the main sources of input for me. I have been reading Robin Sharma’s “The Greatness Guide” and there was a chapter of his book based on him asking a bottle of water to the the air-hostess. Indeed, it was a very short but it was a very educational chapter.

I see myself getting more engrossed in consciously searching for topics and doing research for my blog post. In the process, I am learning a lot.

Conclusion

I don’t have to write on how the “internet” and “being online” is stunningly awesome. If I have to tell you, open your orkut or facebook account and you will get it. A blog is more like that, except it is more tailored towards expressing what you are doing as against asking someone. If you are a kind of person who spends time in above mentioned kind of social networking sites, then it’s a safe bet that you like expressing yourself. Just try blogging and see how much fun it is.
There are lots of interesting people and ideas involved in the blogging that are waiting for you to join them.

There are certain tips and ideas I had implemented to fuel my creative flow and generate some ideas. My favorite blog post by Scott on the topic – how to increase your creative output is very insightful.

There are some other tips (other than what is mentioned in the link) that have used some of them to keep myself motivated. I shall write that in my next post.

9 Reasons I Quit my IT job

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Fri, 29 May 2009 15:29:00 +0000

"The word safe is both an adjective and a noun. As an adjective it means “being free from danger.” As a noun it’s “an enclosed storage container with a lock on it.” If you’re living the adjective, you’re living the noun too." - Steve Pavlina

I am no more an "IT Proffessional". I have been a Software Engineer for 2 years in Bangalore. It was not resonating with my heart’s desires and the value-add was reducing. Even though it made me grow well in one area, it decelerated the growth in other areas.

I have had lots of moments when I hated my job but could not get out then because of so many reasons; fear, lack of clear vision about my life and financial ties being some of them. Finally, I overcame all of them and I took the decision that I wanted to take. I quit.

I have mentioned some of the most predominant reasons here. I hope this gives insight to those in college (or not just them), thinking of joining a similar kind of job.

1. A Stupid Theory on Productivity & Time Management

We are at a time now that it has become an unwritten rule in Indian IT environment that, we need to spend more time than what was actually agreed upon. [Mostly you end up working somewhere more than 25 hours extra in a week]. The saddest reason for the manifestation of this kind of an environment to prevail is that, most of the managers stupidly equate productivity just with time spent in office.

It is one thing for you to get involved in work too much because it challenges you in a very interesting and growth-oriented way that you forget to eat food in time or stay late night to focus & deliver the project within the timeline. It is completely another thing if you are forced to do that. You are pushed in a situation where you end up working like a slave even though you had other things planned – Weekends included.

With a schedule like this, you don’t get to manage your time, as your time is not always yours to manage.

2. Good Work is rewarded with more work

Mostly, even if someone finishes the work ahead of time, they wait till the end of the day to report it to the Manager. This is because the fear of more work allotted which would eventually consume lots of time making you to stay late.

This kind of unproductive strategies could be reduced if the manager respects his employee's early task finishing and rewards appropriately. Instead, the managers load them with work without any consideration of the time lines and the employee has to end up staying late.

This does not improve productivity, neither yours nor the employer's.

[With some managers, the above mentioned tactic does not work after a while. I used to work with a manager who liked to retain people till at least 8:30 PM by giving more work. Fortunately, I moved away from her, to some other project. I heard that the time increased from 8:30 PM to 10:00 PM. She was a true sadist]

3. Motivating the donkey

Money, (often a raise in salary) is perceived as a motivation factor. However, the major motivation factor used on the employees is fear. When I say fear, it’s the Fear of losing the job or fear of losing the bond money that was agreed upon while joining. They instill that fear upon you, to keep you whipped. So, there is just no happy and cheering motivation to work.
Lack in motivation here affects the overall energy levels, making the whole day bad.

4. Too much micro managing

Its too frustrating when the managers try to manage and scrutinize every second of your time, assuming that is going to add up to the productivity.

You might not believe if said that once I was asked an explanation for taking too many toilet breaks. What can I say then? I have extraordinary capability to pee?

And, hovering just behind while you try and get the work done.
Asking for status every half an hour, when both of you know that it is going to be over not before the end of the day.

These are just some examples for too much of micro managing

5. Feeling Dissatisfied even after delivering a project

Any work coming out of an employee who is made to work out of fear, obligation or compulsion will always be in poor quality. Now, imagine a project you are involved where majority of team members are such employees.

Mediocre project delivery is just an eventuality, even though you were not one such employee.

6. A balanced a lifestyle? Keep Dreaming!

The way to have a balanced life style is compartmentalizing the 2 major and different areas of life: Work life & Personal Life. But, when a conflict arises, i.e. when both work & personal life need immediate attention, the priority is automatically given to work (because of) and slowly the work encroaches the personal life’s territory.

With all the above points considered, your balanced life style becomes a far-fetched goal.
It’s a sad truth that your lifestyle depends upon what kind of manager you get.

7. Diminishing attention to physical fitness

There is very less or no physical activity in the job. Also, as the job pressure slowly takes over, even a regular physical activity like going to gym gets tossed off often, eventually ending up with a big tummy and much regretted fat ass.

If I kept continuing this, I am sure to face an illness before I hit 35.

8. A Boring Society

The work environment isn't fun anymore. The conversations with your colleagues become mendacious, phony and boring.

Initially, when I joined, I enjoyed the diverse population that I interacted with and the various curious minds. But, slowly the interactions get constricted within a closed circle of people and more pretentious. Even though the fun part was there, it was drastically reducing.

The interest in meeting new people gets saturated so soon because, after one point there is nothing new and only repetition of what was once new and interesting.

9. Balls to competitive growth

This point might be little naïve of me and it happens probably everywhere.

The scenario is such that, if a person is good in his work, then, he/she is always trusted with the most important & critical work. The learning curve is reduced and soon you become an important employee.

This seems a good and best way to move up in the ladder.

Well, you are wrong. That’s not enough.

You have got to be a good sycophant too (some times, just that is enough) to have better visibility, to have a better movement up the ladder.

Conclusion

Even though there were many perks being in the job, they all either vanished or eventually got saturated or transformed into some other desires, either way, making that place no more reasonable for me to stay.

What am I going to do for money? I guess I am pushed more towards aligning myself with my true desires and finding & doing the right thing and (possibly) making it lead to financial Independence.

The adventurous Sirsi [May 15, 16 2009]

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Sun, 24 May 2009 07:19:00 +0000

“The Art of Travel is to deviate from the plan” – from the movie “The Art of Travel”

This is about the 2 day trip to Sirsi and Yana. I have made this as short and sweet as possible. If it’s lengthy, that is because I’ve tried to capture most of the exhilarating moments that we had during that trip (or simply because I am a bad writer)

It started when Deepak told that he was visiting Bangalore for 10 days and wanted to visit some place in western Karnataka. All I needed to hear was the word “Western Ghats” and I was in. Deepak and I started the trip at 10:30 PM in Bangalore. The primary location was a temple Sonda (15 Kms from Sirsi) which Deepak wanted to visit.

Day 1 – Sonda & Around

Reaching Sirsi (Time: 7.30 AM)

My first impression of Sirsi was not that great as the first lodge we approached was closed down because of some financial troubles! And, the next one did not welcome us very well. Anyways, we got a room for 2 people for Rs.145 for 1 day. Some signs of happiness started appearing.

The Sonda Temple (Time: 10:15AM)

‘Boring’ is the first thought that comes to my mind when I think of temples. And Sonda temple didn’t do much to change it. But, it did transform Deepak to a religious man. And, I tried to keep my spirits high as well. Deepak was involved with all “religious” activities while I was ogling at chicks (at least I was trying to). Finally, the free lunch (God’s Prasad) was announced, we were all served. And that’s all I could remember about that!

The short Pilgrimage tour around Sonda (Time: 1:30 PM)

After the Sonda temple, we went on a small tour which the local tourist department had arranged for Rs.50 which covered the following places. These places are really good with lakes and forest surrounding them.

Lakshmi Narayana Temple & vyasaraja mutt.

Venkata Narayana Temple.

Sahasra Linga (1000 shiva lingas have been made on the rocks on which the river flows. On a rainy day, the lingas are just covered)

Swarna valli mutt

Tapovana (half KM walk through forest which lead to rocks on the path of a river where a certain sage who had witnessed GOD in Horse’s form had done some carving for sitting and keeping his stuff, etc).

The Evening in Sirsi (Time: 6:00 PM)

We returned to sirsi, freshened up, had some snacks, made enquiry for bike renting for the next day and had some talks on the walks.

Day 2 – Yana & Vibhuthi Falls

The Bike Ride to Yana (Time: 7:00)

Yana is 41 KMs from Sirsi.

We started our bike on a chilly morning with 3 liters of petrol and 30 bucks/hour tab with hopes and expectations for adventure. As we went on, we rode through those narrow roads, villages disappearing, forests getting denser and thicker on both sides & the roads transforming into hair-pin bends and Ups & downs. The thrill kept on increasing with both of us wanting to and switching over to driver’s seat often.

It got really scary at one point when we stopped to take a leak. forests were dense on both sides. The road was completely lonely. We both wondered, if we would dare to take that during dark.

Then came the Iron Gate guarded by 2 at least-50-year old trees on both sides. The gate was supposed to stop only 3 or 4 wheelers and not us. We continued through the same road which had now transformed to mud road and in less than half Kilo Meters, there was this huge rock standing in front of us very tall.

Yana!! Gigantic!! Majestic!!

Any famous mountain (or even a rock for that matter) in India will have a temple with a myth around it and an eatery stall to make business (wasn’t a very money-making one in this case). It was 8.45 AM and no one other than us was there. We were the first ones to reach there.

There was a way into the cave of the mountain. Being the adventurers that we are, we went in and tried to trek by divulging from the usual path hoping to reach the top (and may be pee from there?!). Anyways, that was not possible as the any possible route the top seemed closed which was later confirmed by locals that came by later. We came back to the starting point, taking some pictures along the way. We had our breakfast (tea and biscuits) in that shop, and got some information about nearby falls and started towards it.

The vibuthi falls (Time: 11:00 AM)

Vibhuti falls is 10 KMs further from Yana in the route of Gokharana.

This journey was even more thrilling and exciting, mainly because we were headed towards waterfalls. We traveled further down to pass through the village of Mabige to reach the Vibhuthi falls. There was a mud road that led us and it abruptly ended with a serene stream crossing, and a beautiful water fall nearby, seducing the passers-by to take a dip.

No people around except us. And, I could not find any litter which made me feel like we wandered where not many people (tourist people mainly) had.

We first got down in the pool-like area between the stream and the water falls. Trying to get away from the fish biting, we moved here and there in the shallow rocky water.

By then, another group of tourists (more than 10 people) had come. However, they took off soon without dipping their feet or wetting their head. We got off the water and decided to hike further along (and through) the water fall towards the top. We crossed another small water fall, up stream and went further up and reached another fall.

Of course, as inspired photographers, we took lots of pictures with some crazy poses.

Even after spending an hour in the shallow waters and hiking for a little bit to notice some crazy rock formation and crystal clear waters, I was not satisfied without getting beaten by the forcibly falling waters. So, I chose a small rock from which water was flowing and decided to get in there. With no idea about its depth and with all the fears of skidding and falling (due of the algae), I took 1 step at a time and finally, I was there, in the middle of those falls and it wasn’t very deep. But, the beating was very harsh on my heads and back.

It was only matter of seconds before Deepak joined there. We both felt that it was the best moment of the trip!!

The Conclusion

Even though we had planned the trip with more people and different plans, we both thought the trip came out to be a very interesting and fun.

Certain things got reinforced in my mind

When you open up your mind, adventure enters.

No matter how the plan deviates, just choosing to have fun time makes all the difference.

There is a lots of adventure yet to be covered in western ghats!

No Reservations & After fight Brain Storming

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 20:19:00 +0000

I was watching movie "No Reservations" and i came across a quite usual scene, but it made me to think for a while. It is the scene where Kate (Catherine Zeta-Jones) and Nick (Aaron Eckhart) had a fight and were not talking to each other. When Kate's 12 year old niece, Zoe (Abigail Breslin), who is living with her, asks Kate on whey they were fighting, Kate gives a pause, like a pause at the starting of an explanation, but then just dismisses her by saying that its just silly adult stuff.

While I was watching that scene, I was actually expecting how Kate was going to reply to that kid, even though I was following the story. Weird Curiosity... eh?. Anyways, later, I was just imagining, what if Kate had actually tried to explain honestly to that kid why she was fighting. The conversation could have been something like this.

Zoe: So, whey are you guys fighting?
Kate: I told Nick that he betrayed me. And, he did not agree with it.
Zoe: What did he do to betray you?
Kate: Well, He was doing a good cooking and was handling my kitchen in my absence. But, I think he lied to me saying that he wanted to learn from me. And, I think he went behind my back and tried to rob my job. And, later he said that he has been offered my job.
Zoe: So, you are only sure of him being offered the job and not sure of the reasons and you are assuming them.
Kate: True. But, he was doing things that was threatening my job.
Zoe: Did you ask him about the reasons?
Kate: Yes. But he disagreed about the reasons. He said he did not betray me. But, I don't believe him. And that is why we are in a fight.
Zoe: So, You don't trust him?
Kate: No.
Zoe: OK, have you lost your job? Has he taken your job.
Kate: No & No
Zoe: Seems like he was not lying as he not taken your job which was the basis of you assumptions.
Kate: True.
Zoe: So, why are you still angry at him?
Kate: I don't know. Now I realize, I couldn't take it that Nick was succeeding and I feared that I might be replaced as Nick was advancing in his talents. So, I got angry at him.
Zoe: So, you got angry at him because of your insecurities?
Kate: well, yes.

As you might have noticed, Kate was wrong about the reasons which was why the fight came up. Until she had this [imaginative] conversation, she was convinced about the reasons. If only, she had this conversation, she could have called up Nick and patched things up.
Now, from the above conversations please note the following:

Most of the time when we get in a fight, its better to revisit the whole scenario, to actually get to the root cause of the problem. So, try to have this conversation [with a Zoe of your choice] whenever you have had a fight/row with your friends or close ones.
Your Zoe character might not necessarily be a 12 year old kid. You might not be well received if you try that. But, it could be your friend who is unaffected by the problem/fight. Or you can have the conversation with yourself.
At the whole conversation, if you are still convinced, then your fight was meaningful. But, most of the times, you will gain many insights about yourself in the middle of the conversation itself.
The outcome of this kind of After-fight-brain-storming might actually help you get a perspective and help you get over your ego and actually resolve a fight.

Now, let me think. When was the last time i had a fight? And who is going to be my Zoe?

Truth

noreply@blogger.com (San) — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 10:57:00 +0000

Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth.
- Henry David Thoreau.