tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609469838740247886Fri, 22 Apr 2011 03:53:09 +0000personal experienceradical queer on the looseprivilegeattractioncoming outkyriarchyvisibilitycommunitylanguagemarriagepositivityqueernesslabelsspiritualityLGBTWASP movementself-acceptancesexbisexualityidentityidentity politicspolyamorymythstransgenderbiphobiagenderqueerliving between the linesA personal and political exploration of bisexuality, queerness, identity, and what it means to live between/outside the lines.http://queeringthelines.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Rien)Blogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609469838740247886.post-7863629414751073134Tue, 07 Apr 2009 04:43:00 +00002009-04-07T07:25:17.601-07:00personal experiencecoming outvisibilityidentitypolyamorySo I had lunch with a old and very dear friend of mine and I said something offhand about the gay clubs in our area and how they, like the rest of the local nightlife, pretty much sucked. And she said, "Well, you wouldn't be able to meet guys you could date there anyway."Yeah, she doesn't know. It just never seems like the right time to tell her. She is just so straight and vanilla that I http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/queeringthelines/~3/B6NvMQPDdOs/its-not-for-you.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Rien)1<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/queeringthelines/~4/B6NvMQPDdOs" height="1" width="1"/>http://queeringthelines.blogspot.com/2009/04/its-not-for-you.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609469838740247886.post-8345164123154278062Wed, 25 Feb 2009 17:15:00 +00002009-02-25T09:16:56.355-08:00personal experiencemythssexbiphobia"Greedy" is an epithet often aimed at bisexual people. It reflects the myth that we are all oversexed and promiscuous, insatiable and indiscriminate sex fiends. I heard it first from my own father, oh I don't remember when, but I do remember the way my stomach clenched up at his tone. Even though I identified as straight at the time, that was quite an argument. I may have cried. Funny how wehttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/queeringthelines/~3/mdBblCk2Lxo/greedy.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Rien)1<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/queeringthelines/~4/mdBblCk2Lxo" height="1" width="1"/>http://queeringthelines.blogspot.com/2009/02/greedy.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609469838740247886.post-4491764581001891751Fri, 20 Feb 2009 06:17:00 +00002009-02-20T00:41:35.328-08:00mythsLGBTWASP movementprivilegeradical queer on the loosepolyamorybisexualitykyriarchymarriageOne of the common myths about bisexual people is that we are incapable of monogamy.One of the truths about bisexual people is that many of us are polyamorous--in numbers probably disproportionate to the general population, although of course no one has done any studies.I'm guessing the main reason for this is not because our multi-gender-loving natures make us particularly suited for http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/queeringthelines/~3/GT7Jyx_McR0/be-afraid-be-very-afraid.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Rien)1<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/queeringthelines/~4/GT7Jyx_McR0" height="1" width="1"/>http://queeringthelines.blogspot.com/2009/02/be-afraid-be-very-afraid.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609469838740247886.post-1120314873825837197Tue, 17 Feb 2009 03:56:00 +00002009-02-16T21:56:10.305-08:00personal experiencegenderqueerqueernessattractionliving between the linesbiphobiaself-acceptancetransgenderbisexualitypositivityspiritualityInspired by Gay Aspirations and by various other signs and portents this weekend that told me to remember the positive, I thought I would write about the good things that owning my queerness and bisexuality has brought into my life.First of all, let me just say: I was never anything else. I was twelve years old when I experienced my first same-sex attraction. But when I discovered I was http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/queeringthelines/~3/rZuX50-2h0I/loving-my-queer-nature.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Rien)1<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/queeringthelines/~4/rZuX50-2h0I" height="1" width="1"/>http://queeringthelines.blogspot.com/2009/02/loving-my-queer-nature.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609469838740247886.post-4347671377725841097Fri, 13 Feb 2009 21:36:00 +00002009-02-13T15:16:38.572-08:00visibilityqueernessidentity politicscommunityidentitybisexualitylabelslanguageI've been very pleased to find a few other bi-identified bloggers through other folks' blogrolls and have been doing a lot of reading today. Some of my reading led to further thoughts on definitions and labels.Aviva at Bi-Furious! writes that for her, "queer" is an oppositional identity:Broad and welcoming as it is, it means some very specific things to me. It means setting myself against what http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/queeringthelines/~3/9bvQcksp_SA/more-on-bisexual-versus-queer.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Rien)3<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/queeringthelines/~4/9bvQcksp_SA" height="1" width="1"/>http://queeringthelines.blogspot.com/2009/02/more-on-bisexual-versus-queer.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609469838740247886.post-2203980337948300512Fri, 13 Feb 2009 07:46:00 +00002009-02-13T00:45:14.367-08:00visibilityidentitybisexualitylabelslanguageBisexual(ity) is the wrong word.It's wrong from beginning to end. "Bi" implies binary: only two genders, two sexualities. "Sexual" implies that this is all about sex and with whom we have sex, that we must all be sexual or sexually active people. It excludes trans people and asexual people and genderqueer people. It ignores the fluid nature of sexuality, identity, gender. In defining "in http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/queeringthelines/~3/okFzROHI9wQ/wrong-word.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Rien)0<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/queeringthelines/~4/okFzROHI9wQ" height="1" width="1"/>http://queeringthelines.blogspot.com/2009/02/wrong-word.html