Guest post by RedpoleQ

Anti-Slut Defense is any action a girl takes to shut down sexual escalation, often suddenly and quite opposite to her previous behavior. Often by breaking a sexual mood through sudden, often irrational, inexplicable verbal or non-verbal non-compliance.

It tends to strikes just when you think everything is lined up and the full-close is inevitable.

Why does it exist?

It boils down to the Madonna/Whore dichotomy.

Madonna(not the singer)-Jesus’s mother, a woman so perfect and pure that not only did she give birth to the son of god, but she did it without having to resort to dirty, dirty sex

Whore-A woman who will do any sexual act with anyone for the right price, as often as necessary.

Every culture has there own scale that runs from Madonna to Whore and you can place any behavior somewhere on that scale. Each culture draws a line somewhere along that scale and anything on the right half of the scale is Whore behavior and anything on the left is Madonna behavior.

In particularly conservative cultures a woman showing her face, for example, or being in the presence of a non-family male without a chaperon is whore behavior. In more liberal cultures a woman can wear a mini-skirt with no panties, get sloshed, make out with every guy in the bar and then if some guy tries to take her home she can still say with a totally straight face, “I’m not that kind of girl.” << Anti-Slut Defense!

Anti-Slut Defense happens whenever you start to get close to the border(or cross the border) and a girl wants to preserve her Madonna status. For some behaviors in some cultures, once a whore always a whore, while in others it's a matter of balancing the amount of Madonna behaviors with the amount of Whore behaviors to maintain the right image.

This is why the longer your with a woman the kinkier sex becomes. She might have wanted you to hang her from the ceiling and drip candle wax on top of her while watching lesbian porn the first time you had sex with her, but she doesn't want to ask.

She knows that if she saves that for later, you'll see her as a “really nice girl who's a tiger in the sack” rather than as a “total freak who can't get enough”. In fact, she knows that brining out her Whore too soon could even disqualify her from long term relationships with the guys that she most wants to do the most depraved things her imagination can conjure.

Anti-Slut Defense can range anywhere from, “I don't usually do this,” right before a woman gives you a blow job on ferris wheel on the first date, to a girl refusing to give you her phone number because, “I don't give my number to people I just met,” to “Don't touch me!” when you've gotten full compliance to kino escalation, to a girl agreeing to come to your house and then remembering she has to paint her toenails for her big presentation on the evolution of frog spinal cords.

In milder cases the simple re-assurance, of an “I know, baby,” will do it. In other cases more qualification(especially) or more comfort will do the trick.

Setting up lots of plausible deniability, handling logistics very smoothly, and pull-push can make the interaction slide so smoothly that her Anti-Slut Defense doesn't have a chance to engage.

Thus you should save hardcore sexcalation for a sex location whenever possible and stay away from cheap thrills where you play your hand too soon.

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Talk soon,

RedpoleQ

Anti-Slut Defense is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

The momentum that is created as a result of having the target jump through progressively larger and more frequent hoops.

A key concept in gaining physical compliance, compliance momentum is the idea of influencing the behavior of the target by increasing each compliance request. Starting from small compliances to larger requests, a PUA can reward the target accordingly through each request. Compliance should be a derivative of genuine attraction, and not from social pressure, fear or power plays.

Negative compliance momentum is the opposite, whereby a large hoop is thrown, and the target becomes less and less willing to comply with the artist’s request. It can also occur when the PUA incorrectly rewards bad behavior and punishes good compliance behavior. Creating compliance momentum is key to physical escalation of a target.

Antonio Banderas gains compliance from his class by demonstrating a tango routine in the movie Take The Lead:

Usage:

Her compliance momentum towards you is extremely low right now.

Source: Mystery Method

Compliance Momentum is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

The beautiful woman syndrome is a condition that affects a large percentage of HB9s and HB10s whereby the individuals start developing desirable characteristics because of their superior looks. It can also apply as the Beautiful Man Syndrome for male models and good looking men, although to a lesser degree as men’s sexual attractiveness is based on more than just looks alone.

The beautiful woman syndrome (BWS) is a light-hearted parody of the failings of very beautiful women. They are characterized by the following traits:

1. Lack of personal and intellectual development. As good as they look, the conversation with them isn’t very interesting.

2. Tendency to treat less-attractive people as members of an inferior species. In PUA terms: because generally, a woman’s social value is directly proportional to her looks, girls will generally only befriend other girls of the same class or physical beauty.

3. Failure to appreciate the attributes of less-attractive people.

4. Predisposition to overestimate their intelligence and other attributes. Scientific research has substantiated that people think more attractive people are smarter, more capable, than their less attraction counterparts, all things being equal. Furthermore, AFCs generally over-compliment beautiful women way too much, telling them they are interesting, smart, funny, witty, etc. When really, he is just trying to fuck her. After hearing such compliments countless times, the women start to believe it too.

Usage:

That girls has BWS!

Source: http://www.bwsyndrome.com/

Beautiful Woman Syndrome (BWS) is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

The concept of assuming that the opposite sex is attracted to the same thing as the artist is.

For men, attraction circuitry projection will assume that women value youth, beauty, physique, etc. because he himself is attracted to youth and beauty. A woman’s attraction circuitry projection will assume that men value personality and charisma because she herself is attracted to personality and charisma. While there is some truth to this: women to care about looks and men do care about personality, the extend to which it matters is skewed. For example, a man may think that, because of his own attraction circuitry that women are also 90% influenced by a man’s appearance and physical attributes, when in reality, it can be anywhere from 30% to 50%. This influence induces the feeling of “being attracted” to someone, and therefore understanding what triggers these cues are all the more important.

In reality, men and women’s attraction circuits are very different. Generally speaking, women are influenced by looks but attracted to charm, wit, charisma, personality and lifestyle. In general, most men are attracted to a woman’s beauty, physical appearance, style, and the general way she carries herself. Both sexes are attracted to the way these primary attraction triggers illustrate how he or her “moves through life”.

Who lies more? Note how women tend to enhance their looks much more than men in this Chris Rock skit. To some degree this is influenced by what triggers sexual attraction the most in men:

Usage:

You’re falling into the fallacy of attraction circuitry projection when you think she’s won’t like you because of your looks.

Attraction Circuitry Projection is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

A ‘target’ that is approached with the intention of practicing game rather than any specific desire of a result.

Warm up sets are great as arbitrary targets because it is the artist’s first approaches of the day/night. Practicing with arbitrary targets also help the artist develop a outcome independent mentality.

It is important to note that sometimes, an arbitrary target can express genuine interest, in which case the PUA should shift gears and genuinely engage the target as well to take advantage of mutual attraction.

Usage:
Don’t think so much about the outcome, try to pick some arbitrary targets.

Arbitrary Target is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

When newbies (and sometimes veterans) spend way too much time analyzing past sets instead of moving forward and gaining new experiences, either in pickup or in life.

Analysis paralysis in decision making studies is a term used to describe when the opportunity cost of decision analysis exceeds the benefits that could be gained by reaching a decision. It can also refer to a situation where the sheer quantity of analysis far exceeds the decision making process itself or any type of benefit from analysis of such a decision. For example, deciding how many different components are in a meal when the person is starving.

In pickup, the same scenario happens, where some newbies may spend all night debating whether he should have negged the HB8 to get to the HB9, etc. These types of debrief discussions are usually helpful for 10-15 minutes from a few hours of fieldwork. However, they often become useless when the reason for the debate is for each artist to show off his or her skills and over analyzing a particular situation. In some cases, it is better to move onto new sets and scenarios for the purposes of learning. The answer may reveal itself through a pattern later down the road.

Usage:
New AFCs that often get approach anxiety often get analysis paralysis as well as rationalize why a set wasn’t approachable, where as a mPUA would have simply approached.

Analysis Paralysis is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Refers to a natural or master PUA who has an ongoing magnifying force that creates attraction and charisma at his “normal” state.

An artist who has internalized the triggers of attraction and has built a lifestyle around this will seem to attract the opposite sex without conscious effort. A master PUA oozes out attraction. Just having girls around, the women will FEEL attraction for him.

Female models do this. So do most HB9s and 10s. Simply based on their physical build, men will feel attracted to them. Male models also command some state of active attraction, as looks do factor into a part of attraction. More importantly, an artist will have some base level of style, body build and demeanor that creates attraction. When you look into their eyes, you will see a sparkle, usually a passion for life or a flare of intent.

Some active attraction triggers are based off of a person’s frame. For example, the belief that men are of the same value as women, and that they deserve a perfect 10. In Brazil, most men are mediocre looking, but the women are true 9s and 10s. Yet, within their culture and overall mentality, the men believe that they are deserving of these women, and hookups happen all the time. Naturals have active attraction. They are naturally attractive just based off of their personalities. Many PUAs also become attractive through their developed habits. Examples of this include looking a girl in the eye without flinching, holding a meaningful conversation, moving through the room with intent, being relaxed and not reacting to other people.

Active Attraction can also be built off of lifestyle. A celebrity, for example, has active attraction based on their perceived personalities through fame. A well known businessman can have attraction via his reputation. His wealth. His social networks. His job. His business. His overall lifestyle. These things take time to build up, but will create a stable foundation of active attraction.

Example of active attraction in Vincent Chase

Usage:
Jay just oozes out active attraction so try not to keep a new girl around him too much. They will end up having sex!

Active Attraction is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Refers to a girl who is out alone or waiting for her friends and is alone for an extended period of time.

Because of the physical relationship of men and women, a girl going out alone at night is generally rare. However, when spotted, 1-sets are excellent sets to open. Often, a 1-set HB is looking to have sex and is therefore going out alone so the logistics and social pressure/judgment of friends are not in the way. A 1-set is also not subject to groupthink mentality of the wrath of mother hens.

1-sets exist more frequently in day-game as people go about their business and are subject to the variations present in day game. However, when spotted in night game, it is generally wise to quickly approach any 1-sets that give approach invitations before another player does.

Usage:

I just gamed a 1-set on the street corner and made out with her.

1 Set / One Set is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

AKA “Party Girls” or “Club Girls”. The type of turbo girl who takes control of a club and treats it like her own palace.

The nightlife princess usurps her power over her territories of clubs via her beauty and her party girl ways. Typically the the ex-model, the “princess” didn’t quite make it in the modeling industry given her excessive partying and her inability to focus on the needs of her clients and her agency.

However, she is still hot and her partying ways are appreciated by the men in clubs and other girls who get validation from her. This type of girl is a social master are getting attention, given if it involves crying or doing something shameful.  In the club, she’s usually the social zombie with ADD that follows the most shiny new thing around. She thrives on the nightlife and party life, where she usually receives the most attention.

the nightlife princess loves to party

Celebrities such as Lady Gaga can also be nightlife princesses

The nightlife princess usually does not have strong family ties and lacks inner game congruence for a long term girlfriend. Sometimes, this could be a phase a pretty girl goes through to find out who she really is beneath the beautiful flesh. Nightlife princesses are hot, and closing them isn’t easy. However, they do not always make the best relationship material. Taking a page from The G Manifesto:

You know the type: skips the line for the Nightclub like hop-scotch, knows all the bouncers, bartenders, waitresses, club promoters, party girls, DJ’s, drug dealers (kind of sounds like the G….). But this is not the G, it’s The Nightlife Princess. Every (legitimate) city has at least one. Typically, she is fly, bordering on beautiful, maybe has some tear sheets, wasn’t a successful model for a variety of reasons (lack of focus, too much partying, missing castings, too short, too exotic of a look, etc…), has traveled (sometimes extensively), has bisexual tendencies, has names like Adriana or Lavender, knows DJ’s (current or ex-boyfriend is often a DJ), Never misses the Winter Music Conference, can dance like a Coca-Cola mixed with Pop Rocks, family often has summer cribs in Italy on the Adriatic, and sometimes but not always comes from Big family money. The difference between her and regular party girls is that she is the Top Party Girl. Examples, of Famous Nightlife Princesses are Madonna and Ingrid Casares to name a few.

Usage:

Sasha is what we would call a nightlife princess.

Nightlife Princess is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

500

500. That is a lot of freaking posts. I still remember the day Casual and I sat in my room, with sheets of paper, pickup books and Internet pages will staring at us in their purest forms and definitions. Since then, we have launched in 2009 with 350 posts, and grew the site to 500 just last week.

When we started this, we thought that an aggregation of the appendix of The Game, The Venusian Arts Handbook and FastSeduction would do the trick. Boy were we wrong. New words came from everywhere. New products. Instructors from new schools. Guys we go out with. Instructors visiting San Francisco from out of town (Troy D). Our own gaming experiences. And so on. Game will always be innovative, because the very concept of an “artform” never stays static. Like water, it flows and evolves, adapts the different situations as the world changes. Therefore, look for many more definitions to come. As always, we welcome guest bloggers and post submissions, with a thank you backlink to your own blog or site.

Are you a master yet?

As the owner of PUA Lingo and Partner as AlphaCasual Productions I get this a lot. Truth be told, I can hold my own. However, I would not consider myself a master. Rather, Casual and I focus on organizing the information and making it useful, accurate, and accessible to anyone who wishes to learn about game. On some nights in the field when I feel lost, I find myself looking up certain definitions and finding clarity in principals such as abundance mentality, congruence and identity.

Game & Life

Even after being in the game for over 2 years now, my best nights and experiences still reside in times when I felt love. The love of close friends and that inner peace you find when you know that you are loved, and that you can give love to the world. The concepts you learn here are in their purest form, but always remember that routines and techniques are only tools to help you find your inner nature.

Life Artists

The term “pickup artist” has become a double-edged sword. Some see it as a secret identity, others see it as a burden, a label that people use to simplify that which they do not fully understand. In some ways, the industry has also become very commercialized. No longer is game about ideas, philosophy and seduction. Rather, it is about who has the best selling product and the latest “technology” on getting laid.

To play devil’s advocate, you probably are seeing AdSense ads to your right and also display banner ads as you are reading this. Most of our revenue does not come from PUA Lingo. Despite the traffic, the payouts for this industry remains quite low. Most of the money still remains in bootcamps, and rightfully so. Casual and I are also seeking a way out of the financial boundaries that often chain us down. Many still remain unaware of its effects on the soul. When we achieve this level of success, both of us are planning to pursue being a life coach full time.

A life coach to me is not only about pickup. It is about maximizing a person’s full potential. I had a dream not too long ago where there would be a school built for the purposes of seduction. It reminded me of the X mansion in the X-men series. Where different youngsters would bring different gifts of social intuition, and learn about seduction together.  All are welcome. Men. Women. Children. Adults. Brought together by the vision of understanding human dynamics.

But for now… to the next 500 definitions!

-AlphaWolf

500. Life Coaches. Seduction Mansion. is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.