Quick Definition: A request for compliance that requires a level of trust from the target.

Full Definition:

This is a technique to get feedback within a particular social interaction with a girl. This is different than a compliance test in that in requires a higher level of trust. Compliance can be nonverbal, such as playing a hand on the girl’s shoulder. A trust test requires some strong non verbal or usually verbal indication. “Close your eyes”, would be a trust test. The girl will ask, “Why?” and you must give her a plausible reason. If she does not have enough trust with you, she usually will not. If she’s in a negative emotional state, she will not.

Imagine if a stranger walked up to you and asked you to close your eyes. You probably would not, right? A level of rapport and comfort is required for a trust test. A simple trust test from MM is to ask the her to put her hand out, and move your hands down. If she follows you down, she likes you or feels positive towards you. If she does not, it generally means she hasn’t warmed up to you yet. Or, she could just be a bit slow, so don’t over-read any one particular social interaction.

Watch Mike run a trust test at 3:30 for a gum technique that ends in a spectacular kiss close:

Usage:

Use a trust test to see if you have enough rapport with her at this point.

Related Terms: AFOG, AMOG, Alpha Female, Alpha, Lifestyle, Social Circle, Wing, High Value, Lifestyle, Value, Social Value, Social Hierarchy, Alpha Male, Host, Emotional Connection, Rapport

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Quick Definition: A person that enjoys socializing with many different people, and usually has become good at meeting new people.

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Social Butterfly has become a word that is used to describe any person that can “warm up” a room in different situations. A salesman, a politician, an attractive and outgoing woman, a friendly old grandma can all be social butterflies.

The essential similarity between butterflies is theirs ease at flying from one social tree to another with seeming ease. Social butterflies read body language cues well, and open well. They are quick to calibrate on social pressure and move on quickly from groups that do not warm up, knowing that this is all a numbers game and that everyone can have a bad day.

Urban Dictionary defines social butterfly as:

While can can be true, real skilled social butterflies / connectors can belong strongly in one group, and still reach out to another. For example, Hefner is a member of the playboy family (founder, actually) and still is able to connect with people who share very different views than him in sexuality and the cultural revolution.

Lady Gaga's Ultimate Social Butterfly Outfit

Not every Artist if built to be a natural social butterfly. However, artists should strive to make new connections with strangers with relative ease, as it is an essential part of expanding one’s reality, social circle, and views of the world.

The drawbacks of a social butterfly is his or her apparent lack of concern for close friends. Sometimes, a host of a busy party may feel like a social butterfly in a hurricane managing all the party details. To avoid this trap, plan beforehand, or hire an event planner specifically to handle these situations. Never forget about your close friends, and give them the attention and value that they so rightly deserve. In making new connections, one should never forfeit or burn bridges with old ones.

If, on the other hand, a social group hates or dislikes a person, that person, being a PUA, can often create new connections easily. For example, on a trip to Vegas with a work group, I traveled with some well meaning but boring colleagues. I reached out to local PUAs and made friends with the girls there, and had a lot of fun and closed a cute girl before I left that week. Do not be afraid to step out of the tribe. Our brains are not wired to do so, because stepping out of one’s tribe is very difficult back in the hunter gatherer days. These days, there are so many people that it is no longer an issue. So don’t let a social circle that hates you get the best of you. Move on and expand and do not put up with lower standards than what you believe you deserve.

Usage:

Use a trust test to see if you have enough rapport with her at this point.

Related Terms: AFOG, AMOG, Alpha Female, Alpha, Lifestyle, Social Circle, Wing, High Value, Lifestyle, Value, Social Value, Social Hierarchy, Alpha Male, Host, Emotional Connection, Rapport

Social Butterlfy is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Quick Definition: A process of taking someone else into and out of a mental state rapidly and thereby intensifying that mental state for them, or de-emphasizing the emotion for them (if it was a bad experience).

Full Definition:

According to Stingray (From Inward Quest):

If you mentioned Fractionation then I assume you have some NLP knowledge so I’ll talk in those terms…

Let’s say I anchor someone to some good-feeling state. If I trigger the anchor, they will obviously move into that state to some extent. Now if that state only had a slight intensity when I set the anchor, the triggered state will probably also only have a slight intensity.

If I wanted to increase the intensity of that state, I could apply Fractionation.

This means triggering the anchor, allowing them to move into that slight state, then move them into another (probably neutral) state, then trigger the anchor again, then back into a neutral state, then trigger the anchor again…and so on.

Each time the state is retriggered, it becomes more intense.

Beckstar explains the 5 Cs and Fractionating as a NLP term:

Related Links:

• http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/1990/what-is-fractionation-and-why-is-it-considered-a-dark-art

Usage:

n/a – NLP Technique

Related Terms: End Game, NLP, Anchor, AI, IOI, Approach, Comfort, Grounding Sequence, Seduction, Emotional State, Emotional Connection

Fractionating is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Every year we find ourselves with newer and cooler movies. Romantic Comedy alone generates billions of dollars a year in revenues. But what of movies from the past? Here are my 12 favorite movies that portray iconic characters who fit the PUA / seducer profile. Let us know your thoughts on our top 12 choice in the comments below.

Warning: the rankings below include spoilers for the movies mentioned. Skip if you wish to watch these movies for the first time.

12. Bedazzled

Elizabeth Hurley as The Devil

Why she’s a PUA: Seductive, playful, and a master of teasing, the devil nurtures Elliot Richard’s dark side and teaches him a few lessons along the way. Her comedic and flirtatious demeanor, despite playing the devil, has earned her the title as one of the world’s sexiest women.

Favorite Quote: You’re very glib. I bet you’re a wiz with the ladies.

Morality: Dark with a light comedic flair

11 Dawg (AKA Bad Boy)

Dennis Leary as Doug

Why he’s a PUA: Dated multiple women and is still a “dog”. Throughout his journey, finds redemption through a journey of self discovery between the women he used to date.

Favorite Quote: One door closes, and another door opens.

Morality: Womanizer, becomes mature towards the end of the movie.

10. SwordFish

Who: John Travolta as Gabriel Shear

Why he’s a PUA: Manipulate the whole game, steals a shit load of money, pimps Ginger out, and gets away with everything.

Favorite Quote: Misdirection. What the eyes sees and the ears hear, the mind believes.

Morality: Dark side, with own set of code and ethics.

Interview Process with Gabriel

9. The Social Network

Who: Justin Timberlake as Sean Parker

Why he’s a PUA: Games his way into Mark’s heart, makes a billion dollars, sleeps with Stanford college girls.

Favorite Quote: 1 million dollars isn’t cool anymore man. You know what is? A Billion!

Morality: Negatively portrayed in the movie, mixed in real life

Sean Parker in Stanford – Nice to meet you!

8. Fight Club

Brad Pit as Tyler Durden

Why he’s a PUA: A subculture icon, Tyler Durden represents all that is against the system. A symbol for anarchy, Tyler believes in the letting things be, and the natural process of destructive creativity. His character is stronger, better looking, and more powerful than the person who invented him.

Favorite Quote: The things you own, end up owning you.

Morality: Dark, with his own reverse ethics

 A scene when Tyler first fights with the protagonist:

7. Spread

Ashton Kutcher as Nikki

Why he’s a PUA: Seduces rich cougars and gets deep into the world of players.

Favorite Quote: Never show you’re impressed, it lowers your market value.

Morality: Bad, becomes good towards end of movie

Spread Trailor:

6. Crazy, Stupid, Love

Ryan Gosling as Jacob Palmer

Why he’s a PUA: He decides to take Cal under his wing and show him the ropes of a true seducer.

Favorite Quote: Cal… be better than the gap!

Morality: Misogynist, falls in love in the middle of the movie.

Ryan Gosline’s best scenes show you his character’s morals and stance on dating:

5. Superbad

Christopher Mintz-Plasse as Fogell

Why he’s a PUA: From zero to hero, Fogell gets a badass fake ID, gets laid, and gets arrested by the cops!

Favorite Quote: Break yourself fool!

Morality: Good dorky kid on an adventure to discover himself

Fogell walking to his own beat:

4. Limitless

Bradley Cooper as Eddie Morra

Why he’s a PUA: Becomes super smart, outwits the stock market, gets the girl

Favorite Quote: I was blind, but now I see

Morality: Light, becomes clouded and regains his sense towards the end

The first scene after Eddie takes the “pill”:

3. Van Wilder

Why he’s a PUA: Enjoys life, icon in school, gets hot college girls,  makes things happen

Favorite Quote: Don’t take life too seriously, you may never get out alive. Write that down.

Morality: Light, good guy who sees potential in others

Van negates Richard the AMOG.

2. America Pie

Steve Stifler

Why he’s a PUA: Perfect asshole game, funny frat boy

Favorite Quote: Check it out. Potential lesbians, leaving the building

Morality: Asshole with a sense of endearment 

His favorite F-word moments:

1. Office Space

Ron Livingston as Peter Gibbons

Why he’s a PUA: Has a revelation, change of heart. Decides to take things into his own hands. Icon against the man and authority, gets the girl.

Favorite Quote: I would do… absolutely nothing!

Morality: Good guy who hates work

Office Space Trailor:

Honorable Mentions:

• Jack Sparrow in Pirates of the Carribean
• King Leonidas in 300
• Michael J Fox in For Love or Money
• Tom Cruise in CockTail
• Hans Solo in Star Wars
• Alex Hitch in Hitch
• Robert Downy Jr. as Tony Stark in Iron Man
• Pierce Brosman in The Thomas Crown Affair
• Ryan Goslin in The Notebook

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Credit: PersUAsian

Quick Definition: Disarming obstacles with a non-contrived magic trick and then a roll-off (immediately after the magic trick is performed) to quickly reach the hook point.

Full Definition:

It may have a lower hook rate compared to conventional opening but it is much faster at getting to the hook point. Instead of taking 5-10 minutes trying to hook a set using conventional opening and disarming, a set can be hooked in as little as 10 seconds with blitzhooking.

This especially beneficial for PUA’s who use direct or sexual tension game (such as 60 years of Challenge or Gunwitch Method), for they often have difficulty with sets that have obstacles. Once a set is blitzhooked, one gains a window of opportunity to engage and escalate with the target.

There are actually three ladders that women use for categorizing men: friend, boyfriend, and secret lover. To be placed in the secret lover ladder, one must escalate and reach an It’s On Moment (IOM) within the first 15 minutes. Thus it is important for one using sexual tension game to quickly disarm obstacles. The speed of a blitzhook allows the sexual tension game user to disarm obstacles quickly so he can focus on escalating with the target hooked. No time is wasted on unhookable set

Usage:

That HB is surrounded by three guys and two girls. I’m going to blitzhook them so I can engage her one-on-one.

Related Terms: End Game, Opening, AI, IOI, Approach, Comfort, Grounding Sequence, Seduction, Transition, Merging, Takeaway, Eject, Social Cue

Blitzhooking is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Quick Definition: A period in game where the girl and the artist are getting to know each other and the core identities are being revealed.

Full Definition:

“Who are you, really?, is the tagline of most mid-game scenarios. Unless it was a SNL or instant pull, most women need some level of comfort that she knows exactly who the guy is before deciding to sleep with him.

As opposed to end game, mid-game is filled with personal questions while the feeling of attraction is still present. The usual “what do you do for work” works because they are not asked in the beginning and attraction has been established (this theory is based on the M3 model of game).

Here is an example of a video showing Van Wilder in Mid Game with Tara Reid’s character.

The mid-game in chess is also a period where chess players get to differentiate their strategies and show off their true feelings about the game. Similarly, this is where most guys differ in game based on who they are, their family, their core values, and so forth.

Mid-game can be longer or shorter depending on many factors such as time bridges, the number of locations, the time of the date or event, and so forth. Getting from mid-game to end-game can happen very smoothly, usually the artist is the one that needs to lead the escalation in a way that is comfortable for the woman.

Usage:

Midgame is often the most revealing part of the seduction process in terms of character development.

Related Terms: End Game, Opening, AI, IOI, Approach, Comfort, Grounding Sequence, Seduction

Mid-Game is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Quick Definition: The context of a particular social situation that dictates a certain meta frame or foundation for a particular situation, that, when taken out of that context, can have a completely different meaning than before.

Full Definition:

Normally, under this situation, how do people respond? What if the situation changed?

In the movie City of Gods, the main characters are heavily influenced by the violence in the Favellas that permeate all aspects of their life. In such a situation, guns and shooting become routine and regular life. “People can get used to anything”.

At the playboy mansion, as long as you were decent and nice to everyone, there was a good chance of having guilt free sex on the premises. What makes these locales so influential in affecting our behaviors? One must examine the social context. The social context is the frame that’s built around a particular situation. If reinforces the place or owner’s frame of mind and establishes a power that either siphons enemies or empowers the user. “Home-field advantage”, if you will.

In Wolverine and the X Men, there was a scene where Wolverine leads his team to confront Magneto in Genosha, as a way to recover professor X. Magneto easily defeats all of the X Men because his fortress was made out of metal. In controlling the different rooms and having his helmet against Emma Frost, he nullified all the X men enemies. This was possible because of the context of Genosha and his metallic fortress.

Wolverine’s Berserker Rage is powerful in this context, and dangerous in others:

In pickup, it is important to understand the social context of a house party, or event. Who the power players are, and who influences which levers. Understanding this fully will give the PUA leverage in getting what he wants. For example, is it alcohol, befriend the bartender and ask him about his night. Is it money? Ask to the club owner and offer to promote the place for him free of charge the first time.

Usage:

Social context can often influence a person’s behavior patterns.

Related Terms: Body Language, IOI, IOD, Subcommunication, Nonverbal communication, Eye Contact, Kino, Kino Escalation, Proximity, Micro-expressions, Cold Reading, Norming, Social Situation, Frame, Meta Frame, Social Cues, Social Value, Influence

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Quick Definition: A body language technique used to determine the natural response of a person to a specific scenario. In scientific experiments, referred to as the “control” group.

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What is the normal behavior levels of this person? Norming attempts to answer this question with each new person we meet. PUAs will often ask a clear cut question, such as, “what was the last time you remember being very happy?”, and then read the girl’s response. Her natural response will give the artist an indication that her normal facial expression for “happy” is that expression.

The artist can then use that as a “control”, knowing that particular expression and body language cluster to be her “normal” response to thoughts of happiness.

The concept of norming is extremely important. PUAs often confuses extreme IOIs from girls who may already be in that state. Imagine a girl who just go out of a Snoop Dogg concert and is on E. Her extreme emotions may make her very prone to sexual advances and the PUA thinks he has her. In fact, she has been trying to make out with the last 10 guys she passed by on the street. In this extreme case, her norming behavior is that of a floozy, and IOIs should be read as such. The opposite example involves a shy librarian who may look up at you as a sign of her IOI. Amateurs may mistake this for lack of interest, when in fact, because her normal behavior is so shy, she’s actually giving the PUA a strong invitation to seduce her.

An average party for these boys wouldn’t turn out a hit like the movie “Project X”. Normal here is out of the realm of reality and the definition of “big enough to be cool” is a little different than most:

Because body language generally influences at least 40-70% of what we say, it is important to read these correctly to reveal what people are really thinking based on their normalized behavior patterns. See 10:00 to the 2nd half of the video for examples of norming among celebrities.

A documentary on body language of famous icons:

Usage:

Make her you understand her normal behavior patterns before you jump to a conclusion, we just met this girl.

Related Terms: Body Language, IOI, IOD, Subcommunication, Nonverbal communication, Eye Contact, Kino, Kino Escalation, Proximity, Micro-expressions, Cold Reading, Anchor, Comfort Zone, IOI, IOD

Norming is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Quick Definition: A cluster of body language signals that combine to give the social artist a good pattern and idea of what the observed person is thinking.

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Body language cues are often misread by beginners of social studies because they are read in singularity and not as a pattern. One needs to understand that body language cues are read in clusters. For example, if a person is folding their arms, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are closed off. If the closed arm position is followed by their foot pointing towards you and head nodding, they could very well be listening carefully to you, albeit feeling cold in the weather.

A good book on reading body pattern clusters: The Definitive Book of Body Language

Someone may have an itch and be rubbing her nose, and this signal on its own could be interpreted as “she’s hiding something”. If you read the pattern in clusters: rubbing nose, eyes watering, body seated openly, head tilted towards you, touching her face… these clusters suggest that the girl is interested in you, she’s just a big allergic to the weather.

Because body language generally influences at least 40-70% of what we say, it is important to read these correctly to reveal what people are really thinking.

A documentary on body language of famous icons:

Usage:

Read body language cues in clusters, never alone on a single action.

Related Terms: Body Language, IOI, IOD, Subcommunication, Nonverbal communication, Eye Contact, Kino, Kino Escalation, Proximity, Micro-expressions, Cold Reading, Norming

Body Language Clusters is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

AKA Social Validation

Quick Definition: A feeling of being validated by the larger social group within a venue or given context of “Social tribe” and “hierarchy”.

Full Definition:

Validation is an important part of the social hierarchy and how each individual within a tribe receive feedback relative to their position within that tribe. One might argue that an alpha male is simple the member of the tribe that receives the most social validation.

Experiments have shown that authority figures tend to give more validation to people in new scenarios and situations. In certain companies, a conforming to corporate culture gives you professional validation. For example, at an innovative tech company, disruptive personal projects may be encouraged, while such innovative projects may be too disruptive for a more traditional industry. The corporate culture determines the types of employees that excel in that corporate environment. One skill may promote an employee to a manager, while at another company, deter them from further advancement.

Elliot (Bedazzled) listens to the Devil about not catering to “being good enough” and seeks another wish for Allison’s validation:

Always keep in mind that we are no longer single tribe members, but rather, a kaleidoscope of tribes among different groups.

The most important part of validation is that of SELF VALIDATION – a process that comes from satisfying the ego. As PUAs, we get validation from getting girls and dating multiple girls. Fine. Do not let this twist your original goal of happiness. The ego may feel good about a MLTR, however you yourself may prefer an exclusive relationship.

Usage:

Don’t seek validation externally – you will never be satisfied.

Related Terms: Social Validation, Social Hierarchy, Tribe, Social Cues, Alpha Male, Beta Male, Social Value, MLTR, LTR, AMOG, AFOG, Social Connector, Social Trees

Validation is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.