By Style (Neil Strauss)

If a guy is dating a girl, and she goes out to a bar… and gets drunk and makes out with a GIRL for fun, is it cheating?

Yeah, I know, new opinion openers are getting tired. But there IS a hole in opinion openers, and this one fills it. The problem is that the most commonly used opinion openers (jealous girlfriend, david bowie, who lies more, etc) appeal mostly to women. And most of us are approaching MIXED sets.

So this new one, which I’ve been using consistently for months now (and am loathe to give away but just can’t help myself for some reason), is designed to do several things. It appeals to guys first and foremost; women get super- into it also; and it provides a way to AMOG guys in front of women.

So, without further ado (okay, maybe a little more ado), I humbly present for your consideration…The Two-Part Kiss Opener.

PUA: Hey guys, we’re having a debate and need a quick opinion on something. If a guy is dating a girl, and she goes out to a bar with her friends one night and makes out with a guy just for fun, is it cheating?
GROUP: Yeah, it’s cheating.
PUA: Okay, that makes sense. So here’s the real question. And I’ll tell you why I’m asking in a second: If she goes out and gets drunk and makes out with a GIRL for fun, is it cheating?
GROUP: (the responses will vary, but if any guys say “no,” you can bust on them for having a double-standard etc.)
PUA: Okay. Interesting. The reason I’m asking is because my friend over there has been dating this girl. And she likes to go out and get drunk and make out with girls. Now, some guys might be into that, but it pisses him off and he thinks it’s cheating. She says it isn’t. So we were trying to figure out who was right.
GROUP: (discussion ensues, which you will have to soon cut off and move into your next piece of material because they will go on and on about this and stale the topic and convo)

Enjoy. It’s a nice change of pace for those who love Jealous Girlfriend but are tired of it. Report back on your results.

Style

Two-Part Kiss Opener is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

An original and highly underrated opener by kooper.

Open a girl by telling them how they would look even better to you and other guys. Conveyance is important here. Go up to her and say, “wear your hair open”, “open that up one more button”, or just fix their clothes. Tell her how much better she looks now.

This opener has a double effect, it trains the PUAs eyes to see style and to look for imperfections in other people’s style.

This routine sets an interesting frame. first of all, you are teaching her how to please you, if she reacts well, praise her for being a good puppy. Second, it is obvious that you are the prize, that you have standards and that you know what you want.

Women love the idea of seducing you, you just gotta teach them HOW and they will comply.

This is *not* delivered playful or c&f or anything, just a genuine comment.

From there, it’s easy to launch right into a routine or conversation piece.

Keep in mind that your own style and avatar plays a big part – no one is going to take genuine fashion advice if you are dressed as a computer nerd in a trendy bar.

Fashion Tip Opener is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

How to Respond when a Girl doesn’t Remember You

Guest post by Rob Judge

It’s Monday afternoon. You scroll through your phone about to “play the numbers,” meaning you’re about to text all the girls you met over the weekend. Some girls were hot, others were…well…nice.

Regardless, you send them all a personalized text: her name, a flirty greeting, and a little joke the two of you shared. Then you sit back…and wait.

Almost immediately, your phone lights up with a response. You read the sender’s name and get excited! It’s a gorgeous little hotty—a girl you thought would be a TOTAL flake! Amazed at how fast she hit you back, you do a little dance to the gods of game and then flip open your phone. Your heart’s pounding, your hands are shaking, you hold your breath, and read…“Who is this?”

The ultimate buzz-kill.

You can’t BELIEVE it. You’d called her phone on the spot, precisely to PREVENT this situation! Now it’s as if you’re back at SQUARE ONE. You wonder if it’s EVEN worth responding AT ALL…

Well, for those who’ve experienced such (un)forgettable disappointments, I certainly feel your pain. Any guy who’s been out collecting his fair share of numbers is bound to hit a few amnesiac babes. But I’ve found the situation to be salvageable if you make a few crucial moves.

Make sure she knows you’re not offended or angry—One of THE most important things to remember about cold approaching is that it’s NO BIG DEAL. If you ask an attractive girl, most will tell you that meeting new guys is a fun and (somewhat) meaningless activity. Hot women simply don’t invest too much of themselves into an interaction, so it always just stays “fun” for them.

And you should have the same attitude. If you can demonstrate you don’t care, then she’ll relax and know you’re “fun.” Women don’t view giving their numbers out as signing a social contract to see you again. Until it seems “fun” for her, she’s simply not going to meet you again.

Here’s a text I usually send after a “who is this” bomb:

Rob: lol player play3r how many hot guys named Rob did u mack it 2 this wkend?

Everything about that text—down to the typos—is carefully crafted. Essentially, you want to give the impression you really don’t it seriously—you actually find it amusing (“lol”). I like using words like “player” and “mack it” because they’re humorous and they help to reverse the roles a bit, making it seem like she “picked me up.”

Give her a “hint”—After sending my “player play3r” text, I usually wait 10 or 15 minutes. Sometimes women remember you, other times they don’t. Often though, they just don’t respond. The unfortunate reality is that you’re now just a “random guy” texting her. But, again, don’t sweat it—you can still get her out, but you have to work a little text magic.

As such, I usually send a “funny” text that’ll get her laughing. In my upcoming book, The Four Elements of Game, I’ve written all the do’s and don’ts of proper text game. One of my major texting caveats is that humor is often lost in textlation. Whenever guys try to be “funny” on text, it often backfires and either comes off creepy or downright offensive. Learning the difference between “funny” and “weird” took me quite a few botched attempts (and angry responses that read “Delete my number!”), but I think I’ve cracked the “humorous text code.”

As such, here’s the follow up text I usually send next:

Rob: btw after I met you @ (venue or place you met) I got molested by a grabby cougar w arm fat. She may or may not have been rocking a fanny pack. Sympathy pls, it was traumatic :-0

This (somewhat) edgy text is a “lol” and not a “wtf” because of one key word: “COUGAR.” Generally, young, hot women have a natural disdain for “cougars.” By making a joke of a “grabby cougar” with “arm fat” and a “fanny pack,” you can get her laughing while also developing some “text rapport” with her.

Most likely, she was also “molested” by a few unsavory characters, as well. I’ve even had girls write back with stories of their own, describing creep-masters gone wild. So it becomes not only a joke, but an instant rapport builder.

Retard disclaimer: This text is NOT supposed to be a “DHV” nor am I sending it to show I’m “preselected.” It’s only function is getting her to see I’m a normal, cool guy.

Oh, and if the girl you picked up WAS a cougar, you might want to substitute “cougar” for “crazy college chick.” (Remember: young babes and cougars are natural enemies.)

The Perfect Response to “What do you look like”—Now that you’ve got her giggling and intrigued, like clockwork, her next text will often be, “What do you look like?” Most guys think they’re home free at this point since the girl now seems interested…but it’s a TRAP. If you answer with anything that even resembles a real response—or worse, actually send a picture of yourself—I can almost guarantee you won’t EVER see her again. I know some of you are thinking, “But I’m good looking!”

I’ll bet you are, but by trying to “prove it” over text, you’re only shooting yourself in the foot. On text, only two things matter: 1.) getting her emotional, and 2.) getting a meet up. Volunteering a serious description of yourself or sending a picture is a LOGICAL response—the antithesis of what you want do on text.

The absolute best way to respond is:

Rob: well. I lost a little weight since we met, so I’m down to 467 pounds and I’m only missing 5 teeth now. You gotta check me out

By answering her question in a completely illogical (and totally playful) way, she again sees you don’t take the interaction too seriously. She’ll feel MUCH more comfortable meeting up with you since she knows that even if she doesn’t like you at least you won’t get all weird and offended. Plus, you got her laughing on text (which is no small feat), so she’ll think you’re probably even funnier in person.

Closing for the Date—After hitting her with a rapid-fire succession of comedic gold, you don’t want to pussyfoot around and keep trying to be “cute” and “funny.” Once a girl is “playing ball,” you setup the date. Period.

Often a girl will write back some indication she found the text funny (e.g., “lololol omg! ur crazy!!”). When that happens, you’ve successfully transitioned yourself from “random guy” to “funny, interesting guy.” And that’s PRECISELY when you push for the date. If you hesitate and keep sending texts, you’re going to transition from “funny, interesting guy” to “text goofball guy.” (Don’t be that guy, he’s celibate.)

Again, I can’t stress enough how tenuous texting a girl who doesn’t remember you can be. You’re literally doing a tightrope walk between keeping her intrigued and not going completely overboard. So practice a healthy minimalist approach and save your comedy routine for the meet up.

Successfully transition into setting up a date:

Rob: Alright, meet me for a drink. No pressure. It’ll be like a blind date of sorts, but you know to look out for a 467-pound sexbomb. Let’s meet at 8:03 in front of (Date location).

And ka-boom, there it is: either she’ll say yes or no, but your chances are MUCH higher considering she didn’t even REMEMBER you initially. In my experience, I’ve found most girls will agree initially, but then try to flake at the last second. But if you just keep pummel her with a few more witty texts she’ll almost always meet up.

And once she does, GAME ON.

To learn a foolproof method to recover girls who are FLAKING, check out Rob Judge’s blog at www.robjudge.com

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Who, What, Where? is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

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Review of Love Systems Ultimate Guide To Text and Phone Game.

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Braddock on Flaking

A Personal Account of My Experience of Text and Phone Game by Braddock

“I once thought the cell phone was the worst invention ever created. When I had a serious girlfriend, my cell phone was essentially a ‘wireless leash’ that my girlfriend used to make sure I wasn’t having any fun. Invisible handcuff, if you will.

Early on in my journey as a single guy trying to learn Love Systems, I felt like my cell phone was my worst enemy - my kryptonite. After approaching countless women and finally tasting decent success at getting numbers, it was as if the phone was yet another huge roadblock thrown in the path to sex.

I had become confident enough to approach women and ask them for a phone number, but I had zero understanding of what work needed to be done during that first encounter. Often, I found that a number wasn’t worth the paper it was written on. For months I would go out and get a bunch of phone numbers, only to have most, if not all, turn into nothing. It was the same thing every time – I either found myself nervously talking to a girl’s voicemail or calling a girl and awkwardly getting off the phone with her minutes later, having murdered any attraction that she once had for me.

The problem was that I had NO understanding of what it took to convert a phone number into something tangible, whether this be by phone or text.

It took countless phone numbers, endless awkward conversations, angry hair pulling, and trial and error before I finally began to see the writing on the wall. But once it clicked, I began to see the cell phone as the greatest discovery since sliced bread. It was as though I had an Uzi in my hands for all these years and only just realized how to turn the safety off!

Soon, I was converting a phone numbers into a date almost every time. It was blowing my mind how easily numbers, which would have been worthless to me in past were panning out into solid dates. This was holding true with phone numbers pulled from hot girls in five minutes, numbers taken when either I was drunk, or old phone numbers that went ‘dead’ because of some logistical road block (e.g. maybe she got a boyfriend).

I began to see patterns forming. I noticed that different situations required different tactics. Like any good game, high level Text and Phone Game requires Calibration. The key is to understand how far along you are with the woman. This usually depends on what happened in the initial meeting. Most guys try a ‘one size fits all’ approach to Text and Phone Game, without understanding that each encounter creates a different terrain and each terrain has a specific vehicle specialized for handling that terrain. You wouldn’t drive a Monster Truck on the autobahn and you wouldn’t drive a Ferrari on a rocky mountain trail. Having great Text and Phone Game often comes down to choosing which vehicle is best.”

Braddock hit on a big nerve in the community in addressing text and phone game. Right off the bat, he explains his frustration with landing numbers and yet experiencing flakage. This stage of the game often plagues many aspiring PUAs, and is often a point of people quitting the game because of lack of persistence or faith.

The book addresses the different stages of phone game, from getting the number to calibrating each approach for different types of girls. Each chapter is arranged into main learning points addressed. An example of Chapter 8’s sexualization via text and phone messages is described below:

One of the really cool things about Braddock and Mr. M is that they have a wealth of experience, failures and successes to share with the readers. As such, many passages are included to illustrate a lesson. In the example below, Braddock explains how in some cases, persistence can pay off via text game:

Drawbacks

Some of the drawbacks of Text and Phone game:

• Some of the ideas in the book were previously addressed by others on the forums. For example, role playing via text message. Braddock does expand on this with specific examples.
• We have no idea if the texts were formatted and romanticized for the book, or if they really occurred as written.
• There needs to be an acknowledgement that all flakes, to some degree, is reflective of the initial quality of the player. As such, good text and phone game can dramatically escalate a normal PUAs success if his initial presence is relatively solid. However, if the initial close was weak, good phone and text game is rarely able to correct this.

Overall, the book is a great read and ongoing resource for the sticking point of number flakes that plague many intermediate PUAs. I will conclude with one of the best pieces of advice I received from my mentors: “if your numbers are flaking, fix your in-person game.”

Love Systems Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Review of the Brad P Presents Brad P’s Fashion Bible.

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The Fashion Bible Review by AlphaWolf As I was reading this PDF I realized that it looked really familiar. I had seen it before. It was then that I remembered receiving a copy from a fellow PUA back in the beginning of my entrance into the seduction community in San Francisco. The book was instrumental in helping me develop a fashion identity as I was stepping out of my comfort zone. Of particular value of Brad P’s Fashion Bible are:

• All pictures are taken by Brad P as he travels around. These are candid pictures of good looking and bad looking guys in everyday life. These are mixed with images of celebrities and fashion runways to compare and contrast style and what makes it work.
• Brad P products a evolutionary explanation for style, relating style back to science.
• Brad explores the different stereotypes of what women find attraction in men’s looks
• He also explains the subcommunications of style: mainly, the major characteristics of high class, selectivity, and therefore power and how these act as attraction triggers before you even say a word.

Why Fashion is Important (Evolutionary Biology) Quoting from the introduction of the book, Brad P explains why Style is important, no matter who you are:

It is also a statement of elitism and exclusivity. It is saying “I am better than other peacocks who cannot produce this plumage.” Make a mental note of these four qualities:

• Dominant
• Attractive
• Elite
• Access to resources

These are the qualities animals look for when choosing a mate. It is also a statement of elitism and exclusivity. It is saying “I am better than other peacocks who cannot produce this plumage.”Make a mental note of these four qualities:- Dominant- Attractive- Elite- Access to resources. These are the qualities animals look for when choosing a mate.”

A word about nice guys

Nice Guys, Bad Memories Most women have had bad experiences with nice guys. It takes many forms. - The annoying guy buying drinks and pestering her. - A serious relationship where her boyfriend allowed her to walk all over him. - The stalker who sends flowers and gifts in an effort to show how well he could treat her. - An encounter with a “bubbling cauldron of resentment” Nice guy. Many nice guys are ticking time bombs. They’ve been mistreated for so many years that they’re about to go postal. One encounter with a guy like this, and the woman isn’t talking to any nice guys in the future.

Brad then contrasts the everyday, lonely nice guys to the more sexual stereotypes of everyday looks. He then takes an extreme of fashion models and breaks down what they do:

I know, I know… they are snobs, and they’re not that cool… but in fashion, that’s just the way people talk. You can learn a lot from the snobs if you stop shutting them out. Let’s give it a try. Here’s a few snippets from a well known fashion writer. “AT Gucci there was a serious Fifties theme going on for menswear spring/summer 2008. Frida Giannini took her signature silhouette one step further this season by introducing the check, from miniature to macro, with window-pane for day and houndstooth for evening.” -Antonio Berardi, Vogue.co.uk

One of the things I liked is his use of examples of guys who get it and guys who don’t in everyday life. Here is a guy who is normal, well dressed. He might get laid once in a while, but in a high end club he’s just another normal guy: Here is a guy who is well put together for a high end New York business venue: However, I did not like the lack of illustrations for the positive extremes – that is, everyday club guys or day game guys who are dressed really well for sexual stereotypes. Perhaps these guys are just hard to come by, which gives us PUAs a huge advantage in game. If you are beginning your development of style and identity of in the midst of improving you game via the looks dimension, this is a great read. The actual PDF contains examples from the animal kingdom, and more extreme examples including the rockstar avatar, the ironic geeky / metro-sexual avatar among other solid examples and how to find the look that fits your identity, as well as ways to get other the “incongruent” first feeling when you try a new style.

Brad P’s Fashion Bible is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Review of the Routines Manual 2 from Love Systems

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Routines Manual Table of Contents

Routines Manual 2 Review:

I really enjoyed Routines Manual 2. It was well thought out and where the first one fell short, the 2nd one delivered. This particular e-book covers the basic structure of getting the girl, and then gives you the right routines that can be corrected used as part of the seduction process. The basic structure of the non-routines section follows a breakdown and analysis of the Love Systems Triad model:

In all honesty, I felt like this was a repeated and slightly more detailed variation of the M3 model originally developed by Mystery. It may be helpful to newcomers, and may serve a good review of the foundation for experienced MM guys or intermediate PUAs.

The manual follows the best field tested routines and illustrates the correct way to use them. One of my favorite ones is the blond hair and blue eyes routine, which we develop on our own in field as a way to start conversations with blond girls:

BLOND HAIR AND BLUE EYES

• This intrigue-based routine should be used in the Attraction phase. It explains in a fun way to women how certain characteristics make a woman beautiful and, most importantly, why.
• All women know how to turn on men’s attraction switches but few know why men find certain characteristics of their looks attractive and that there is often a biological basis for it. It helps you demonstrate value by showing intelligence on a subject that women value highly.In a group, you can point at the women with blue eyes and state that they are the most attractive to men. If you can’t see the eyes of all the women, just take your time to look into their eyes one by one while saying “I need to take a look at your eyes.”
• If there are no women with blue eyes you can just tease the entire group by saying:“It is a pity that men will not find you girls attractive.”(Normally one of the women will ask: “And why is that?”)“Because blue eyes are what most men find attractive… And there is a reason for that. Blue eyes are a freak accident of evolution and normally all freak accidents are wiped out within one generation. Imagine for example somebody being born with blue skin or three legs… But blue eyes were not wiped out for the simple reason that they are more seductive than brown eyes, which is the original eye color all people had. You see, when a woman finds a guy attractive her pupils will dilate and there is nothing she can do about it.”
• At this point you can point at one of the girls and say jokingly “It is quite obvious that you are attracted to me,” which will make her feel self-conscious or make her laugh.“Pupils are black and you can see them much easier in blue eyes. And the pupils in your eyes are the window to the soul and blue eyes let you see into a woman’s soul easier than brown eyes and that is why blue eyes are more seductive. And this isn’t only the case for women’s eyes but also for men’s.”Normally they will really be looking at your eyes now.
• If you have blue eyes, all the better but if you have brown eyes, like myself, then you can say the following and make yourself a bit of a challenge to them: “By the way, that is also the reason why men with dark brown eyes are considered by women to be sexier… Because they are so mysterious like (name some attractive male actors with dark brown eyes).”
• You can also use a variation of this routine with blond hair instead of blue eyes:“Blond hair is more attractive than other hair colors because blond hair is the only hair color that evolves, that is, darkens, with age. Because women started to wear clothes when man reached into territory where there was a cold climate, for example in Northern Europe, men could no longer use a woman’s naked body to assess her health. So the blond hair (another freak accident of nature) was one of the few characteristics left that men could use to correctly assess the age of women and the younger a woman is, the more fertile and attractive she is. That’s why so many women dye their hair blond: to look younger and therefore more fertile and attractive. Roman women were already dying their hair blond over 2000 years ago, so before Cosmo and other media ‘created’ blond as being the beauty ideal it was a natural way to look younger. Essentially, dying your hair blond is a subconscious way of lying about your age.”Here you can also use the fact that they dye their hair blond for a cold read about their honesty.“The darkening of blond hair with age is also the reason why blond girls are stereotyped to be dumber or having more fun than other girls… Blond equals younger equals less experienced in life which is perceived as dumber or more fun depending on who you ask.”
• Ask blond girls to picture themselves when they were still just little girls, and how much lighter their hair was then compared to the natural color now.

Another one of my favorites, which actually come from Chinese cultural mini-games:

I will leave the details of this routine for you to discover.

Overall, Routines Manual 2 is a solid read. If you have to buy only 1, get the 2nd one. It is a great addition to build up a PUA’s structured game.

Love Systems’ Routines Manual 2 is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Review of the Routines Manual 1  from Love Systems

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Routines Manual 1 Introduction:

The routines manual starts out with a good introduction making the case for structured game:

So, here it is. The highly awaited, forever requested “Routines Manual.” Contained inside are some of the best, most consistently successful routines as compiled by the dating industry leaders: Love Systems, Fast Seduction, Badboy Lifestyles, and Brad P. Presents and others. These are the workhorses used by Love Systems instructors and other asters around the world. A routine is any piece of prepared verbal or non–verbal material used for attracting women and beginning a romantic or sexual relationship. The variety and types of routines included in this book range widely and are divided mainly according to the objectives they seek to accomplish: e.g., building attraction, creating comfort, creating physical intimacy, etc.

We offer you this book as a means to see what the masters use, so you can develop your own material. Having a repertoire of good routines is the bread and butter of good “game.” They are what help us to replicate success. They help us avoid awkward silences and “mind blanks.” They teach us what women like to talk about. They demonstrate the kinds of things naturally charismatic people do and help us develop the social skills to attract beautiful women when we encounter them: at bars, parties, during the day, or wherever.

Pro-routines and structured game message

The idea behind routines is to use it as a tool in the process of seduction. The premise is setup quite well in the beginning of this product. The authors illustrate that routines must be used in order to assist the general transition of a pickup interaction. They call this the Emotional Progression Model:

Love Systems’ Routines Manual 1 is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.

Hey do you ever watch The Simpsons? Why has Marge never left Homer, I mean she’s a sexy bitch and he’s a deadbeat who fucks up all the time.

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The power of Troy Dizon Dating’s teachings is that they were derived by watching naturals who had never consciously tried to develop a method of picking up women.  They were discovered by Troy after going out over and over again, meeting dozens of men who learned their own ways to attract women, and carefully putting together what they all had in common.

I mean, let’s be realistic here.  I have a life that involves performing as an actor and as a musician.  Not only do I write for my website, Chicago Falcon, but I also write sketches and screenplays.  I have a day job.  I rehearse several times a week.  I exercise.  I live a life that I’m very happy with.  Where am I supposed to fit in time to go out and meet women?

The answer of course, is that meeting women is a part of this lifestyle.  By living the life that I enjoy, even though it’s extremely busy, the quality of it, and my enthusiasm for it, is more than enough to show women that I am the kind of man who knows what he’s looking for out of life, and is not afraid to go after it.  And they find this very attractive.

From talking with and watching naturals I have determined that there are only three elements necessary to draw a woman into my world and show her enough of my personality to have her coming home with me or waiting for our next date together.

The first element is the development of my core values in life.  These are the rules and philosophies that guide my life, both my day-to-day life and my long term, lifelong goals as well.  How well do you know own habits and behavior?  Have you ever gone on a date with yourself?  How about meditated?  Or perhaps taken an acting class?  Or moved to a new city without knowing anyone?

I ask because these are all things I have practiced and done throughout my life, and the experiences I have had shaped me into the person I am today.  By understanding how the experiences in my life affected me, I’m able to talk about them in relatable ways that give women quick understanding of the person I am, and draw them into my life.  If all you do is try to pick up women several days a week then its obvious why you can’t ever stop.  There’s no chance that any girl will call you because they don’t connect with you.  They’re not interested in you as a person.

I would recommend you stop to consider one of the founding core values we teach: women want men, and a man is someone who can clearly and unashamedly pursue what he wants out of life.  I do not talk to women just to practice approaching.  I will talk to a woman who, for one reason or another, seems interesting or attractive to me.  Are they projecting a positive energy and vibe?  Or maybe they’re actresses that are relaxing after their show.  Or we made accidental eye contact in a store and she smiled instead of flinching?  Sometimes the reasons can be deep and passionate, or they can be light and flirty.  But I encourage you all to get out there and start to experience life, as it is only through developing a library of experiences and lifestyle choices that you will have a reservoir of knowledge to draw on when talking to a girl.

The second necessary element is sexual insinuation.  Yes, it is the man’s responsibility to introduce the element of sex into the conversation if he’s attracted to the girl he’s talking to.  The ironic part is, men all want to get laid, but they’re extremely nervous about talking about it to girls.  This usually results in them nervously talking about everything but sexual topics, and then, in one giant bomb, dropping everything they’ve wanted to say for the past hour:

“I think the way you read lots of books and like your family is really attractive and I think we should maybe hold hands or make out or get to know each other better if you’re not like that because I don’t really know what you’re like even though we’ve talked for an hour!”

Okay, let me give you a moment while you stop laughing.

Here’s a better example.  One that I said to a girl in a bar some months ago:

Me: “The lighting in here looks really good!”

Her: “I know!”

Me: “It actually reminds me of a late night Cinemax movie.  One of those softcore films where the actors keep their underwear on while they have sex…”

Her: {laughs} You’re right!  Oh wow, I don’t know if I can come back here anymore now…

Me: “I know what you mean.  I can’t watch those movies anymore either.  Good thing I have a better bar to go to later tonight…”

This is the simplest, safest way to insinuate sex.  Right away I’ve established myself as a sexual guy, and as a fun guy.  That was a fun conversation to have, and this ensured that she would always be in my line of sight that night, waiting for me to talk to her again.

Don’t be afraid of sexual topics.  Everyone is interested in sex, and therefore talking about sex will make you the most interesting person in the room.  This will also go to show how comfortable you are with the topic of sexuality, and make sex, either that night or later down the road, a very real possibility.

The final topic is called foreshadowing, and this is letting women know what they can expect from you in the future.  My last example ended in a foreshadow, when I said “Good thing I have a better bar to go to later tonight….”  This introduces the idea of going to another venue together later, and is essential in giving women the time to arrange to follow your lead.  The following examples are all excellent uses of foreshadowing….

“I’m hungry.  I’m gonna need some food soon!”

“Sex is nice.  Just because two people have sex doesn’t mean they’re committing to anything long term.  But I like how comfortable I feel with someone after we’ve had sex.”

“I’d like to show you how I make pasta.  After eating Barilla you’re whole life you’d go nuts over the stuff I roll!”

“Just wait until I get you alone….”

Think about a kid on Christmas morning.  She sees her presents and wants to open them so badly, but needs to wait for everyone else to wake up…. but she’s just dying to open one…. she wants to know more about them….

Foreshadowing is showing a girl the present, and letting her think about what she’ll get if she opens it.  After a period of time, the question is no longer, “Do I want to open it?”  It’s now, “When do I get to open it?”

These three elements – core values, sexual insinuation, and foreshadowing – became obvious after watching dozens of naturals interact with and attract women.  We still see them all the time, especially in people who have never heard of the PUA industry, and have had success after success with our students when training them.  It still amazes me how simple man-woman dynamics really are.

The 24/7 Attractive Way is a new guest column by Troy Dizon Dating instructor Philip Marinetti, aka the Chicago Falcon.

3 Elements to Draw a Woman Into Your World is a post from PUA Lingo, a glossary of PUA and Pick Up Artist terminology.