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Most people assume (even those in the community) that the goal is to grow a harem and sleep with hot girls forever. In reality, the game teaches you how to get girls so that option to sleep with girls on a limitless basis is available to you. For most of my friends who are coaches, a rewarding relationship is far better than sleeping with girls non-stop. Most guys are not aware of this. As Style says in The Game, “winning the game is leaving it”.

The point of learning game is that the choice of monogamy is up to the player, and his choice is never based on a fear of losing a girl or a lack of abundance. Instead, his priority really comes down to whether he wants to be in a relationship, and if he is in love with the girl of his choice.

Nick Kho, Adam Lyons and others have trained to bceome PUA coaches, and subsequently married the love of their lives

Owen Cook explains one way of looking at relationships and how to make them work for you, instead of following mass “group think”. Monogamy is not always bad:

Usage: Monogamy is a choice, use it to your advantage and make it a choice with a great girl.

Related Terms: LTR, MLTR, LDR, Harem, Relationship Management, Social Circle, Girlfriend

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Quick Definition: A routine or multiple routines that stack on top of one another an in interaction.

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A stack forward is the process of moving the interaction along, usually when one routine or conversation topic has ended, and sometimes to reach a hook point in a stalled set.

Stacking in general just means that multiple routines or techniques were used in set at different times. You can stack routines, or openers, or any type of canned material in a set as long as it relates to the general conversation and nature of the interaction.

Being able to stack properly is a key skill of any artist, and comedians do this well, with material after material and proper transitions.

Katt Williams is a master comic with many smooth transitions and stacking forward of his jokes:

Usage:

Stacking routines is key to structured game.

Related Terms: Ploughing, DHV, Grounding Sequence, Stack Forward, Routines, Opener, Canned Routine, Transition

Source: Mystery

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AKA Delivery of lines (acting) are ways an actor can say the same words of a script. Mystery has a game where you say something, and he will say the exact same words with more emotion and more emphasis. Delivery is key in creating attraction and making an impact.

Good actors have to possess great line delivery

Without it, we are just monotone and just words. As such, it is extremely important to practice one’s delivery not only in pick up, but in our jobs and everyday lives.

Example of bad line delivery by Kristen Stewart:

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It doesn’t matter how you say, it’s how you say it. Delivery is key.

Related Terms: Ploughing, DHV, Grounding Sequence, Calibration, Social Pressure, Structured Game, Eye Contact, Body Language, Swagger, Moxy, Seducer’s Aura

Source: Mystery, Lovedrop

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In the 1991 book “Crossing the Chasm” by Geoffrey Moore the concept of the “chasm” was introduced to marketers of technology and innovative products.

Similarly, athletes that start training for a new sport will tell you of a training chasm. There comes a certain point where by they decide to give up, or breakthrough to the next level. In workout sessions, your body will generate heat and it will also reach a point of either fatigue, or burning energy to keep going.

Similarly in pick up, newbies may experience this chasm and call it a day, or simply give up. This is why the majority of guys who learn game do not become good at it.

Once aware of this chasm, PUAs learning game can monitor their progress. They give up less because they know that there’s a chasm and there is land on the other side. Newbies can stop worrying about the future, and focus instead on the present moment and small, incremental improvements. The most important thing about the chasm is that it will deliberately make you feel like you have a long way to go, or rationalize reason to give up. Once crossed, a certain improvement is gained that is permanent, cant cannot be taken away from you.

Usage: Once you cross the training chasm you will be glad to you did what you did.

Related Terms: HB, Green PUA, aPUA, PUA, Rejection, AA, AI

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Because 70% of our communications is non-verbal, it makes sense that a nonverbal FTC is generally more efficient and subtlety dramatic than a verbal one. Plus, you don’t have to lie verbally to demonstrate a nonverbal FTC.

There’s no easy way to explain the actual moves, but the person basically moves as if he’s about to leave. This may include a body rock position as Mystery does, or a simple look the other way to check for… whatever it is you’re looking at.

The purpose of nonverbal FTCs is to put the girl at ease, so that she’s knows you’re not overly invested in this interaction and that you’re looking to leave soon. It also demonstrates higher value by letting her know that you have other priorities on your mind.

The correct response is a “wait don’t leave” feeling in the target

Nonverbal FTCs should be used sparingly, sometimes when used too often it can signal massive disinterest and the target will assume you’re not that invested in her.

Harvey Specter (Suits) is a great person for non-verbal FTCs, you never know if he’s about to leave or staying:

Usage: Once you cross the training chasm you will be glad to you did what you did.

Related Terms: FTC, Nonverbal Communication, Body Language, Subcommunication, Body Rocking, Takeaway, False Takeaway, IOD, Neg, Disinterest

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Every city has its own social energy field. AKA Collective Energy Field by Eckhart Tolle. Think Magneto’s metal fortress on Genosha in the X-men series – the overall social energy field affects the artist’s skill-set and his calibrated value in that environment.

Genosha was built for mutants and enhances Magneto’s control over metals – the whole city is built from metallic materials

For example, in the movie Avatar, Jack’s marine background (warrior) helps him connect with the Navi.

Similarly  in countries or cities that are more open to meeting strangers, a PUA can fare better doing cold approach. In other areas like Asian countries or Russia, approaching someone on the street is usually culturally shunned, and girls may turn away even if they like you.

Certain cities excel for cold approach pick up if the overall social energy field is supportive of tourists, strangers meeting, and overall friendly people. In the US, Hawaii, Miami, San Diego are known for its friendly, tropical tourists. NYC is also known for its abundance of models and beautiful women.

If you are an engineer, the San Francisco bay area will reward you with a high salary job, and your worth will be higher versus an engineer is a town like Miami, where real estate, lawyers and models are the most socially valued. However, the bay area is full of engineers and less models and super pretty girls. Each city has its own “energy field” of what it deems the most important, and how fluid a certain type of person can move within that environment.

The next time you take a trip, take a moment to notice the social energy field of that location, and try to use it to your advantage. In the event that it is to your disadvantage, identify exactly what the core issue is (i.e. cultural norms) and work around it (i.e. meet girls via a social connector)

The concept of the Social Energy Field is also important as the PUA should pick the best location (usually near a major metropolitan city) to leverage his skill-set and his chances of increasing his exposure to meeting and attraction women.

Usage: Once you cross the training chasm you will be glad to you did what you did.

Related Terms: HB, Social Connector, Cold Approach, Social Cue, Merging, Sets, Propinquity

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Alex (RSD) talks about the 4 times rule – if you reopen a girl 4 times she will generally give you the real reason why she’s not talking to you. Whether the issue is a serious conversation, or they just broke up, or something else. Social stamina is different than clueless pushing. It requires social calibration and the knowledge that there’s nothing to lose.

That’s social stamina right there.

For example, watch how Triumph the Insult Comic Dog insult and push the Atlanta housewives just enough, but then keeps going. He has both comedic stamina (not giving up) and the smarts to calibrate. A PUA who can’t read social situations and just pushes will run into a hard wall, even if he has social stamina.

Triumph and the Real Housewives of Atlanta:

The guys from Simple Pickup and Vitaly definitely have a lot of social stamina:

Alex talks about Social Stamina:

Alex continues about using social stamina to get turbo girls

Usage: Vitaly has a lot of social stamina

Related Terms: Social Proof, Social Pressure, Social Hierarchy, Social Circle, Social Connector

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The book “Dance Floor Decoded” will teach you what you need to know to meet and attract the women in clubs. You will discover non-verbal techniques, tactics for physical escalation and ways to build attraction.

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While the community started out as a means to get laid, one cannot talk about seduction without a basic understanding of the feeling of love. There are many definitions and cultural viewpoints on love. One cannot deny that throughout man’s history, love letters have been discovered that cover the love feelings of great men and normal men alike, across cultures and ages.

Helen Fisher conducted extensive studies on brain level MRI scans on the feeling of love. She differentiates love between “romantic love” vs. “normal love”, and studied the effects of love between people who have loved over many years, and those who have been rejected by love.

She summarizes years of her work in this TED talk here:

Fisher explains the 3 brain circuitries around love:

1. Attachment – the feeling of being closely connected to a person. Attachment can happen between friends, men, or women who we are not having sex with.
2. Romantic Love – the feeling of “falling in love” and being high on dopamine when thinking of or with that person.
3. Lust – this is the feeling of sexual needs being fulfilled – sexual attraction is not always compatible with romantic love, however orgasms release dopamine and oxytocin in women, and it is more likely (for men and women) to fall in love if they have sex over a long period of time.

Ekhart Tolle has as similar, more spiritual definition of love, and explains what the difference is between selfish and unselfish love:

Addictive vs. Enlightened Relationships

Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form. In the stillness of your presence, you can feel your own formless and timeless reality as the unmanifested life that animates your physical form. You can then feel the same life deep within every other human and every other creature. You look beyond the veil of form and separation. This is the realization of oneness. This is love.

Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. IT does not make one person special. IT is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of the ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. The bond that connects you with that person is the same bond that connects you with the person sitting next to you on a bus, or with a bird, a tree, a flower. Only the degree of intensity with which it is felt differs.

Usage:

Love is all that we need.

Related Terms: LTR, MLTR, EC, Commonality, Attraction, Grounding Sequence, Identity, Congruence, Lifestyle

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About The Author

Eric Disco is a guy who used to suffer from extreme social anxiety and was unable to talk to women he didn’t know. She’s Six Steps Away is his account of how he learned to deal with his anxiety and, impressively, how he taught many other guys to do the same.

When it comes to approaching women, many guys feel somewhat anxious at the thought of talking to a woman they don’t know. But for some guys, this level of anxiety is so extreme that it prevents them from ever taking any action whatsoever. This is who the book is designed to help with that specific problem. Even the title of the book makes it seem easy – there it is man! Only 6 steps away from you.

Rather than just telling you to go out right away and start trying to have conversations with women, Eric lays out a plan to slowly desensitize yourself to the negative feelings you experience at the prospect of approaching women. So you might first start out by putting yourself in the same vicinity as attractive women, just being near them but not trying to talk to them. This removes any pressure while at the same time gets your body accustomed to moving towards an attractive woman when you see one.

From there you gradually take more and more action over time as your confidence increases and your anxiety decreases. Done this way, even the shyest person should be able to work up to starting a conversation with a stranger.

After the Approach

There’s a lot of emphasis in the book on having short, innocuous conversations with women. For the purpose of getting past your approach anxiety, this will be quite effective. But when it comes to getting results with women such as phone numbers and dates, it’s not quite as solid. Once you use the steps here to overcome your approach anxiety, you’ll likely need to find some other information that will focus more on what to do next, specifically in the area of attracting women.

The subject of rapport is covered here in great detail, with some great advice on how to form connections with women. The problem I see many guys facing if they use all of the advice here is coming across like too much of a ‘nice guy’.

Some of the openers are quite weak and indecisive, and more or less put you on the back foot right away. If you follow this up by moving straight into rapport and forming a connection, there is only a slim chance of the woman being interested in you in a romantic or sexual sense. Instead, there really needs to be some flirting and challenging going on, to create some sexual tension. This is something that is lacking completely in this book. So the advice is great up to getting you to approach and take action, but after that becomes less effective.

The last section of the book covers the area of approaching women directly. This is something that most guys will have to gradually work up to, but IMO is the most effective approaching strategy out of all those described here. Eric himself says that he often feels better when approaching directly and many of his best clients feel the same way.

Live In-Field Recordings

The book comes with bonus audio recordings, which are of Eric approaching women in various situations. They’re divided up into segments to correlate with each of the individual six steps that you learn about in the book.

The audio quality is very good, which is a plus. It’s great to be able to hear the steps put into action, and to see how simple it can be to approach a woman you don’t know. Most of the openers are quite functional, meaning the only purpose they hold is to begin a conversation. In terms of wanting to actually pick women up, I wouldn’t recommend most of these openers. It also gets a bit tedious hearing the same few openers used repeatedly.

There are also some bonus interviews that make up this course. They feature Eric talking to various dating and seduction teachers about a number of subjects that directly relate to the six steps. Some of the interviews are better than others, but it’s a nice bonus.

Overall if you have real trouble approaching women, this is definitely worth checking out. It’s designed to slowly get you over your fear of talking to women, and provides realistic exercises that you can practice that will help you get over your anxiety. If you follow the advice here you will feel more comfortable about approaching women, but in terms of getting any success beyond just approaching, the advice here is quite limited.

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