Pegasus NLP Blog

Sympathy vs. Respect?

Reg — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 21:16:47 +0000

I’ve recently had reason and opportunity to think about the concept of sympathy. The feeling of sympathy, that is, for somebody who is unwell or unhappy or in difficult circumstances. It’s quite normal or natural or understandable to feel sadness or even unhappiness for somebody who is going through a difficult time. And, if this person [...]

Raising the bar – on self esteem

Reg — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 21:08:35 +0000

When a pole vaulter or high jumper is competing the bar over which they are jumping is raised each time they successfully clear it. Until, eventually, they cannot clear it. The bar has been raised to the limit of their current skill/ability. They accept this as an indication of where their current limit lies – and [...]

Get it right or learn-by-doing?

Reg — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 17:53:40 +0000

This months Pegasus NLP Newsletter arose out of observing the differing approaches and styles of different NLP Core Skills groups when doing the Spiders Web challenge on the Low Ropes course – and afterwards reviewing their experience with them. The Spiders Web challenge is web a made of light rope and is about 2 m square. [...]

NLP Bore (2): You mustn’t talk about problems!

Reg — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 18:16:29 +0000

In the second NLP Bore trait other people are not allowed to ‘be negative’. They must remain in a permanently positive frame of mind otherwise they’ll be ‘NLPed’. So you can’t discuss your problems – that’s not positive. You can’t talk about your difficulties – because we have to deal with process and not with content. [...]

Are you an NLP visual or kinaesthetic or auditory?

Reg — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 21:07:21 +0000

Diagnosing or categorising or labelling people contradicts the spirit of NLP. So somebody who labels others as a “visual” or a “towards person” or a “Blamer” or a “Placater” is demonstrating their lack of understanding of what NLP is all about. In one of the best original books on NLP, NLP Volume I, Robert Dilts and [...]

NLP and solving other’s problems

Reg — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 17:10:57 +0000

It’s something that comes up in every one of our NLP Practitioner Programmes – probably because the people who gravitate to NLP and to our programmes have self selected by being there. It’s central to NLP and it’s especially noticeable in the marketing of NLP programmes and NLP coaching services with phases along the lines: Learn [...]

Don’t dither – get on with it – and finish it!

Reg — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:03:20 +0000

It shouldn’t, but it does. Amaze me, that is, that after 30 years of using NLP I’m still learning about myself – and will, undoubtedly, still be doing so in 30 years time. Take for example, my most recent lesson. It can be encapsulated pithily: “Don’t dither – get on with it – and finish it!” I’ve [...]

Okay, so what exactly is this NLP?

Reg — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 20:46:01 +0000

One of the things which a lot of people find difficult to explain simply and succinctly, despite their enthusiasm for the subject, is what exactly is NLP? It’s certainly a question I used to have difficulty in answering briefly and in plain English. Someone would ask ‘Okay, so what exactly is this NLP?’ And 5 to 15 [...]

UK TV’s Channel 4 has some ‘poignant’ 9/11 money spinners

Reg — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 20:24:40 +0000

There seems to be no depths to which the media will slither to cheaply fill viewing time and/or get ratings. For a moment I thought I was seeing things when I noticed that UK’s Channel 4 is tonight running a 1 hour and 40 minutes special called ‘9/11: Phone Calls from the Towers’. They have decided [...]

NLP & 6 Relationship Freedoms (6) Freedom to change

Reg — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 18:59:11 +0000

Freedom to evolve and change In relationships many people run an interesting program: it’s okay for me to grow, develop, evolve, change, etc but my partner must remain just as they were when I first met them! He/she mustn’t get old, get slim, get fat, get fit, take up new interests, change their habits, their appearance, their [...]