NLP Connections

Pattern Interrupt

szaby_n — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:32:54 GMT

Hello guys,

I`ve started my NLP practioner but unfortunatly i`ve learned then during both practionner and master practioner i would not learn how to do pattern intterup instant inductions.
Any ideas on how i can learn them

Richard bandler in rome 18-20 may 2012 ,price?

vas333 — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:48:49 GMT

hello i am Vasilios from greece and i am interested in attending the special nlp event in rome in18-20 may by Richard Bandler.but at the italian nlp website they dont give information such as the price for it .so please if you can find for me how much it is i would be grateful.
thank you very much.
Vasilios

Rejections Make Me Intensely Angry/frustrated, How Could I Better Deal/reframe?

Synergy — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:11:42 GMT

I've read the 'common anecdotes' of stuff like 'don't take it persoanlly', 'it's just a learning experience', 'it's their loss' etc but these havent helped.

I've tried to do 'buddhist detachment' but I've just been too attached to let go as I feel the other person deserves to feel how they made me feel and I keep turning it over and over in my mind til I eventually manage to forget about it.

At the time such snubs can make me intensely angry. I had a great day yesterday throughout and one rejection on an online dating site has had me angry ever since. Logically it seems really stupid but my anger just doesnt subside for ages until time eventually wears it out.

In person Ive managed to minimise such situations but with online dating such minimization seems rather out of my control. So ironically real life I can deal with or rather avoid it better but online makes me even more angry.

For example I'd sent a message to one girl and in reply I simply got 'sorry, Im not interested'. I tried to send something to save face but got rebuffed yet again with 'fragile egos bruise easily ;)' which of course only enraged me more.

What makes me so angry is how girls can just sit there and gain pleasure rejecting men day and night. Another common nugget is that 'everyone gets rejected' implying itll be their turn next but this is total bullcrap since women can go their whole lives not getting rejected and make men feel like shit as their little hobby.

I know these are not good mindsets to have and they have made me really really bitter and angry in the past which only hurts me. At the same time I havent been able to figure out a better way to frame such situations- all the stuff I've read seems like stuff someone who's never been rejected says they think you SHOULD deal with it from their ivory tower.

Advice welcome.

NLP Liverpool Practice Group - Thursday 23rd February Dealing with Negativity

Julie_Cunningham — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:15:56 GMT

NLP Liverpool continue to run their popular NLP Practice group for all comers.

We're a friendly bunch and everyone is welcome, whatever your level of interest, curious beginner to expert.

NLP Liverpool Practice Group
23rd February
Dealing with negativity
6:30 - 9pm
Quaker Meeting House, Liverpool

This month's NLP practice group looks at negativity, your own and other peoples, and the effect it can have. We'll look at verbal and written communication, and help you be more positive in both. We'll also help you resist other people's negativity. So if you know someone who drains the life out of you with their negative energy or if you just want to feel more positive - come along.

For anyone in a management role, we'll also be looking at business communication and how you can deliver your message (emails, presentations, appraisals) in a far more positive way, and get the result you want.
Bring your stories along to the session, and we'll teach you some NLP techniques to keep you positive, at home and at work, you'll notice the difference straight away.

People like positive people.

Head to the website now and get more details and book your place, as these events are very popular. Whle you're here, email me to enrol for our mailing list and we'll keep you up to date with all our events and training opportunities.

We lookforward to meeting you at an event soon

Julie Cunningham

Subliminal Messages.

Jan_Schneider — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 00:46:38 GMT

Are any of you curious about subliminal messages? Have you ever wondered if they could actually work in terms of personal change, inducing some new and wanted behaviors?

After doing some research about subliminal messages, I decided to test them, and developed a small software that does this thing.
I've been exposed to this software for 3 days so far,( it is running constantly on my computer while I'm working) and probably I've experience already some changes. It is really hard to tell since it is my own project and what I experienced might be biased by my momentary enthusiasm.

Anyway if any of you would like to try it and share with me your results, feel free to contact me.

Cheers,
Jan

Science Decodes 'internal Voices'

Maniac — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:33:53 GMT

Science decodes 'internal voices'

By Jason PalmerScience and technology reporter, BBC NewsThe studies focused on a part of the brain associated with sounds called the superior temporal gyrus
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Researchers have demonstrated a striking method to reconstruct words, based on the brain waves of patients thinking of those words.
The technique reported in PLoS Biologyrelies on gathering electrical signals directly from patients' brains.
Based on signals from listening patients, a computer model was used to reconstruct the sounds of words that patients were thinking of.
The method may in future help comatose and locked-in patients communicate.
Several approaches have in recent years suggested that scientists are closing in on methods to tap into our very thoughts; the current study achieved its result by implanting electrodes directly into a part of participants' brains.
In a 2011 study, participants with electrodes in direct brain contact were able to move a cursor on a screen by simply thinking of vowel sounds.
A technique called functional magnetic resonance imaging to track blood flow in the brain has shown promise for identifying which words or ideas someone may be thinking about.
By studying patterns of blood flow related to particular images, Jack Gallant's group at the University of California Berkeley showed in September that patterns can be used to guess images being thought of -recreating "movies in the mind".
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The development of direct neuro-control over virtual or physical devices would... improve quality of life immensely for those who suffer from impaired communication skills�

Mindy McCumberFlorida Hospital
Now, Brian Pasley of the University of California, Berkeley and a team of colleagues have taken that "stimulus reconstruction" work one step further.
"This is inspired by a lot of Jack's work," Dr Pasley said. "One question was... how far can we get in the auditory system by taking a very similar modelling approach?"
The team focused on an area of the brain called the superior temporal gyrus, or STG.
This broad region is not just part of the hearing apparatus but one of the "higher-order" brain regions that help us make linguistic sense of the sounds we hear.
The team monitored the STG brain waves of 15 patients who were undergoing surgery for epilepsy or tumours, while playing audio of a number of different speakers reciting words and sentences.
The trick is disentangling the chaos of electrical signals that the audio brought about in the patients' STG regions.

To do that, the team employed a computer model that helped map out which parts of the brain were firing at what rate, when different frequencies of sound were played.
With the help of that model, when patients were presented with words to think about, the team was able to guess which word the participants had chosen.
They were even able to reconstruct some of the words, turning the brain waves they saw back into sound on the basis of what the computer model suggested those waves meant.
The technique hinges on plotting brain activity across a number of frequencies
"There's a two-pronged nature of this work - one is the basic science of how the brain does things," said Robert Knight of UC Berkeley, senior author of the study.
"From a prosthetic view, people who have speech disorders... could possibly have a prosthetic device when they can't speak but they can imagine what they want to say," Prof Knight explained.
"The patients are giving us this data, so it'd be nice if we gave something back to them eventually."
The authors caution that the thought-translation idea is still to be vastly improved before such prosthetics become a reality.
But the benefits of such devices could be transformative, said Mindy McCumber, a speech-language pathologist at Florida Hospital in Orlando.
"As a therapist, I can see potential implications for the restoration of communication for a wide range of disorders," she told BBC News.
"The development of direct neuro-control over virtual or physical devices would revolutionise 'augmentative and alternative communication', and improve quality of life immensely for those who suffer from impaired communication skills or means."

Input on Advert Appreciated

Biomech — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:50:05 GMT

Hello!

I was wondering if you would be kind enough to offer any input on this advert I am creating for a newspaper. For me, it just doesn't "feel" right (no I'm not a Kinesthetic ;))

The ad will be run in a wedding suppliment as a quater page to coincide with the NEC wedding show in March.

http://flickr.com/gp/41731611@N03/71vxK0

Any feedback is very much welcomed.

TIA!

Sales Prospection and Cold Reading

Chris2 — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 16:01:36 GMT

Does anyone have some ideas about using cold reading as a tool for B2B sales prospection?

Here's the context:

I'm into a new project for my company. I'm prospecting for new customers. This is Business To Business prospection, on pretty big ticket items (50K�), mostly directed to upper management of medium sized industrial companies.

Basically I've got a big list of phone numbers of companies who I phone up to try to sell them our products/services. I'm having a lot of fun doing this I must say.

The phone number is simply the companies public phone number, so first step is to speak a line which gets me from whoever answers (secretary) to someone in upper management (best is the big boss, and if not the financial director, commercial director, production director, ...).

This step is working OK for now, I usually manage (after many tries and recalls) to get into contact with someone worth talking to.

Next step is tougher... I get a few minutes on the phone to explain what we do and to get the director interested so he accepts to meet me.

Until now I've set up a speech which cuts through from something pretty objectable (too expensive, we already have that, don't have time for this, ...) to something pretty much "to good to be true" and un-objectable.... with a graduate process. The idea is that they can often object to my initial proposals, but they basically can't object to the last ones.

However, this isn't working as good as I'd like... I think I need to have something that sounds more specific, my speech is too generic.

So, this lunch time at the caf� I suddenly though that what I needed was some super B2B phone "cold reading" capacities to be able to be specific about what my prospects' problems are and what he's looking for to fix them, only then can I formulate my offer in a pertinent and specific way (basically make sure that my offer sounds like the answers he expects to his problems).

This sounds pretty much like cold reading to me.

Any thoughts?

Presentation Skills

Alistair_Donnell — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 15:10:38 GMT

Some of my classes are preparing for a presentation this week and I wondered if anyone had some ideas for what they could do to prepare for it. Kind of activity based activities. There's a Dilts book out I've found but I won't get it quick enough as the lessons start on Tuesday. I've got some stuff for nerves I was just wondering if anyone had any good tips for making a good presentation and also preparing for it. For example I know the Disney strategy is in the Dilts book but i'm not quite sure how to use it for the preperation part. Any ideas?

NLP Doesnt Really SUCK, Does It ?

john santangelo — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 17:53:15 GMT

What a great language pattern!
Haven�t you heard something "like this" many times about the profession you choose to work in?
Yes, I�m sure we all have. It IS unfortunate that, to this date, there are no FORMAL
scientific studies performed and evidence that is DOES WORK. I know Robert Dilts is accumulating resources and money to put together clinical trials for NLP. So until THAT day arrives, hopefully soon, we all have to wait and continue to hone are craft/profession.

The real question here is NOT whether it works or not, it�s DO YOU WORK IT?
It�s about CONFIDENCE in yourself becoming a competent trainer, KNWOLEDGE about what you're communicating, and almost MOST importantly, MARKETING your services to your specific niche and/or community.

Can I ask you a question, WHAT marketing tactics, tips, & strategies are YOU using to promote your NLP, hypnosis or coaching business in todays (Jan. 2012) market? What could you share with everyone about what has worked best for YOU?

So here's your question; what ONE piece of advice would you have given yourself IN THE BEGINNING knowing what you know now???

If you'd like to lend your thoughts or ideas about the true, pure NLP you originally learned,
I'd love to hear from you. We're compiling a new book about the true nature of NLP.
What chapter titles should I include?
What should be the MAIN focus to teach beginngers?
What would make it EASY-IER to read?
What would YOU want to see it it? (visual question)
Any other ideas?

To Your Success, John James Santangelo
www.LANLP.com
Los Angeles' Premier NLP Training Company