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Warning: Cannot modify header information - headers already sent by (output started at /home/mykaddish/ in /home/mykaddish/ on line 8 A place to learn about Kaddish Thu, 17 Dec 2009 20:11:26 +0000 en hourly 1 Kaddish with Oprah Wed, 03 Jun 2009 15:21:16 +0000 admin Excerpted from “LIVING KADDISH” - compiled and edited by Rabbi Gedalia Zweig. With permission of Targum Press.


The phone rang in my New York hotel room. It was 1995, and I was saying Kaddish for my late father, of blessed memory, Joseph Jacobovici. I live in Toronto, but I’m a filmmaker, so I move around.


During my eleven months of saying Kaddish, I ended up in various minyans from San Francisco to Halifax. Once I extended a stopover in Detroit and rushed to the basement of an old shul, where I was greeted by nine octogenarians as if I were the Messiah himself. But the phone call in New York was the start of what turned out to be perhaps the most interesting Kaddish experience of them all.


I had just finished a documentary film called “The Selling of Innocents.” The film won an Emmy, attracting the attention of Oprah Winfrey, the American icon and celebrated TV host. The producer at the other end of the telephone line asked if I could fly to Chicago and appear with my fellow producers on the Oprah show the day after next.


I was taken aback. This was the Oprah show. The big time. Great publicity for the film, and great promotion for me and my company.


“I’d love to do it,” I said, “but I don’t think I can.”


“Why not?” the producer asked, her voice betraying her surprise. Nobody says “too busy” to the Oprah show.


“I have a problem,” I answered.


The producer’s voice, Lisa was her name, became steely. All business. “What’s the problem?” she asked.


“It’s complicated.”


“Try me,” she said.


I began the process of explaining to a non-Jewish television producer from Chicago about the Jewish ritual of Kaddish.


Whenever I had to explain this, people never quite got it. I would tell them that I need a minyan, and they would drive me to an empty shul…. It never quite worked out. But this was Oprah. So I gave it a try.


“I’m Jewish. My father passed away. In our religion it’s incumbent on me, three times a day, to say a certain prayer, a glorification of God’s Name, really. It’s called Mourner’s Kaddish. To do this, I need to be in a ‘Jewish quorum.’ It’s called a minyan… So I can’t miss this ritual. If I come to Chicago, I would have to attend morning services prior to being on Oprah.”


“No problem,” she said. “You need a minyan to say Kaddish. Ten Jewish men. For morning services. I’ll arrange it.”


“It’s not so simple,” I said. “You may find a synagogue, but it might not have a minyan in the morning. Or the Jewish community may send you to a synagogue that’s open… which wouldn’t do the trick for me.”


Lisa tried to be patient. “I’ll fax your flight information to your hotel. You will be met in Chicago by a limo. The driver will have the minyan information. You will say Kaddish for your father.”


The rest unfolded like a military operation. The next day the ticket came. Then the limo came. The driver took me to a hotel and said, “I’ll be here at 6:30 a.m. Your minyan begins at 7 a.m. I’ll pick you up at 8 a.m. You’ll be at the Oprah show by 8:30 a.m.”


The hotel room was beautiful. I slept like a baby. At 6:30 in the morning, I came down and stepped into my limo. There was a newspaper on the seat.


I could get used to this, I thought.


The driver pulled up in front of a downtown office building and told me that there was a Chabad Lubavitch minyan on one of the upper floors.


When I got there, the rabbi looked at me and said, “So you’re the guy saying Kaddish. I was warned by the Oprah show that I’d better have a minyan.”


We smiled at each other. I was really impressed with Lisa and Oprah. And I felt that my father was surely amused. After davening, my driver took me to the Oprah show. I was met by Lisa, a black woman in her thirties. She got straight to the point.


“You had a minyan?”

“Yes, thank you,” I said.

“Was it proper? Did you say Kaddish?”

“Absolutely. Couldn’t be better,” I answered.


She looked at me with that look that star surgeons have when they come out of the operating room. Or maybe it’s the look that battle commanders have when coming back from a military operation. It’s a look that says, “Nothing is too complicated.”


I was on Oprah. She was very professional. I had my five minutes of fame. But all I can remember of that day is the Kaddish.

The Soul After Death Tue, 12 May 2009 02:40:37 +0000 Esther Wein The soul embarks on a mysterious journey once it departs the body.  We can best describe it as the reunion of the soul with its source, the Creator.

Sometimes a single word can speak volumes. We find that the Hebrew word for grave, kever, is also used frequently in the Mishna and Talmud to refer to a Womb. How are we to understand this? Is birth really about death? I think the opposite is the case:  It is not that the birth process is likened to a grave, but rather that the death process is likened to a birth.


Imagine if you were a fetus still in the womb. If you already had the gift of intelligence and rational thought, what would be your most troubling question? Not much troubles you. Everything is provided - nutrients, a warm and sheltered environment. Who could ask for more? If anything troubled you, it might be this: Who is giving this all to me? You hear a heartbeat; you hear conversation; and you know someone is taking care of you, cushioning you; but WHO?  Who is my mother? 
  We all live our lives breathing G-d’s air, walking G-d’s earth, hearing G-d’s messages spoken by the prophets of old and recorded in our Holy books.  We, like the fetus in the womb, live our lives asking a similar question, and we yearn to come face to face with our “mother”. Often this yearning is muffled. It grows stronger when we experience personal moments of enlightenment. We ask this question most furtively when we don’t understand the contradictions inherent in this world. We ask this question when we contemplate the complexity and intricacies of nature.


  We know intuitively that we have a “mother” and we yearn to see “her”, but we can’t, not here and now. As the body is put into the kever, the grave, the soul begins to go through its rebirth.  It begins a process like birth that will bring it face to face with its source and the source of all life and truth. Like a new born baby, it enters a new world that it could never have imagined. All the impressions that seemed so hazy before will be understood in sparkling clarity, as it’s “eyes” gets used to seeing in a whole new way. Finally, the soul after death achieves the answer to all those questions — through the ultimate reunion with its creator.


It is a general rule of human nature that preparation pays off; preparation always yields a more satisfying experience in the end.  The more one yearns to know and be connected to one’s “Mother”, the more joyful the eventual reunion. When we find ourselves confronting experiencing that makes us ask who created us and what our responsibilities to our Creator are, we would be wise to embrace those situations. They are our most precious gifts!