So a couple days ago we talked about how using the word NEVER can limit your possibilities and life experience.  And in that post we were talking about big things like bungee jumping that may seem out of the realm of possibility for some people.

But what about saying NEVER to things you think are wrong or immoral?  Or just a matter of personal choice? For instance:

“I’d NEVER steal.”

“I’d NEVER prostitute myself for money.”

“I’d NEVER abuse drugs.”

“I’d NEVER live in THAT neighborhood.”

“I’d NEVER allow myself to go broke.”

Isn’t it a good idea to say NEVER to these types of things?

From a Law of Attraction standpoint, no… it isn’t a good idea to say NEVER to these things.  In fact it isn’t a good idea to say NEVER to anything.  Here’s why:

1. Saying NEVER limits your possibilities. Not just in the thing you’re saying NEVER about but in all areas of life.  It’s like each NEVER slightly contracts your bubble of experience.  And if you say it often enough about enough different things you could find yourself living in a tiny little bubble that is “safe” but also really boring.  As an example from my own life, as a kid I always said that “I’d NEVER drive a stick shift!”  In fact I was quite emphatic about it and refused to learn when given the opportunity.  And honestly, that shouldn’t have been a big deal.  But it was to me and to this day I can’t drive a stick.  Ok I can but very badly and it freaks me out to have to do it.  So I’ve limited myself a lot as to what I can and can’ t drive.  In fact, there was a time in my life that I was practically housebound because the only car available was a stick shift and I was too scared to drive it.  So it limited my life in many other ways.
2. Saying NEVER puts the focus on the thing you don’t want. Most people say NEVER because they feel pretty strongly against the thing they’re saying NEVER about.  So a surge of emotion goes along with the words.  And what do surges of emotion do?  That’s right… they send a signal to the Universe saying, “Oooo emotion means I want that…. more please!”
3. Saying NEVER can cause you to become prejudiced or biased against people who have different standards than you do. And it could also lull you into adopting a “holier than thou” attitude which could then lead you into focusing on the differences and negatives about people rather than the positives.  In Law of Attraction we attract more of what we focus on…. can you see what kind of people you’ll be attracting in your life?
4. Saying NEVER can cause a lot of shame and self-judgment if later on you are in a circumstance where you have to do the thing you said you’d never do. I knew a woman who was rather well off and scoffed at people living in apartments.  She lived in a huge, beautiful house and insisted she’d NEVER living in an apartment building (yeah, I know… not a big deal to most of us but she saw it as terrible).  Well her husband became very ill and eventually died and the medical bills took up every cent they had.  So she found herself living in not only an apartment but one of those low income housing complexes.  She was very much humbled, and so ashamed that for a while she cut herself off from the world.

So the bottom line is ‘NEVER SAY NEVER.”
Got it?

Ever hear these words come out of your mouth….

“Oh I’d NEVER go bungee jumping.”

“Oh I’d NEVER juggle flaming knives.”

“Oh I’d NEVER….”

Ok well maybe you haven’t said exactly that.  But I bet you have said NEVER about many things that you think you wouldn’t want to do.

What you may not realize though is every time you utter the word NEVER, you are actually limiting yourself.  You are saying NO to one possible life experience and that limits your possibilities.  Not just about that one thing but about many things relating to that thing.

Sure, in reality you may not be interested in bungee jumping.  And so you may think you’d wouldn’t ever do it.  That’s fine.  Just understand that your NEVER may also keep you from participating in activities that “could” lead to bungee jumping.  Or that could be risky in other ways.  So that one NEVER not only cuts off that possibility but also many other related possibilities.

Which could leave you with a life experience that excludes many potentially fun and rewarding things.

So never say NEVER.  Instead, say that you don’t see yourself doing that right now, but you never know…. it could happen :)

Just a quick note to let you know that I’m starting the 21 Day Detox Challenge today.  Just posted the first update over at: www.21daydetoxchallenge.com.  Check it out :)

Ok so earlier today I wrote about how sometimes you want something but you also resent the very people who have that thing.

Here’s another example of how that might play out:

Let’s say you want a new car.  A a specific car.  A really expensive specific car.  A really expensive and super cool specific car.

So you’re thinking about it and visualizing and watching for it on the road and maybe even test driving it.  You’re all over that car… you really, really WANT it!  With me so far?

Ok so tomorrow morning you pull into the parking lot at work right next to that very car.  You get all excited about it because surely this is another sign from the Universe that your car is on the way!  Then as you walk into your office your boss casually says “happen to notice my NEW car out there today?”  Oooooo!!! Now that goes right through you!  Here you are working your hind end off and this boss… this boss who doesn’t work nearly as hard as you and if you think about it really doesn’t even deserve the position of “boss,”  has sniped “your” car right out from under you!

So immediately your day is ruined.  You’re on a mental tirade about how it isn’t fair that you still don’t have your car while people who don’t work nearly as hard as you know how to take advantage of the system to get whatever they want.  And it’s not just that lousy boss either.  It’s all those rich snobs who like to show off by living in huge houses and driving super expensive (and impractical) cars and vacationing in places you’ll never see in this lifetime.  It’s just not fair!

Ever feel that way?  I know I have before.

Unfortunately it is exactly that type of feeling that KEEPS YOU from getting what you want.  Remember that in Manifesting we have to send a very CLEAR request to the Universe.  And that little scenario above is actually sending out all sorts of conflicting vibes.  So the result is no manifestation.

Get it?

Ok here are some of the vibes you’re sending out:

1. I want a car… “that” car.
2. That car is expensive but I deserve it.
3. I’ve worked hard for this car.

So far so good.  But you’re also sending out these vibes:

1. People who have cars like that are rich snobs and I hate them.
2. Only dishonest or unethical people who take advantage of the system drive cars like that.
3. Omg that guy is totally showing off in that car… what a jerk!

See the conflict?  Based on your thoughts and feelings about other people who have what you want, the Universe cannot give you that car.  Because if you get that car then you will BE everything you hate!

• You will BE the rich snob driving that car.
• You will BE dishonest and unethical and take advantage of the system to get that car.
• You will BE that jerk driving down the highway showing off that new car.

See…. You can’t possibly have it!

Take a few moments to think about this with all your manifesting projects.  How do you feel when others have the thing you want.  Are you happy, appreciative, grateful that someone else has the same excellent taste you do and gets to enjoy the exact same thing?  Or are you jealous and a bit resentful and perhaps even secretly wish (just a little) that they didn’t have it?

You have to get in the place of cheering them on and being genuinely happy for them and totally allowing and supporting them in their new thing.  And then you’ll be in sync with the perfect vibe to bring it’s twin right to you :)