MedWorm provides a medical RSS filtering service. Over 6000 RSS medical sources are combined and output via different filters. This feed contains the latest medical blog items that have been tagged with 'wife'. Sat, 03 Sep 2011 01:52:10 +0100 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4734481&cid=t_102942_134_f&fid=35213&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fblogspot%2FYNchP%2F%7E3%2Fq4hhlVL-2EM%2Fhappy-wife-makes-happy-husband.html Just got back from mom's.  Had a great time.  My youngest sister is a riot.  She has a motto: "A happy wife makes a happy husband and that makes a happy life"!!! I think I'm going to print that out, frame it, post it in several locations throughout the house. Do you think he might get the message?  And I will be a happy wife if he becomes a compliant diabetic! My sister really is that way.  She's sister # 3.  Sis # 2 had been to see her this past weekend.  Hubby of Sis # 2 says to boyfriend of Sis # 3, "don't sell your snowmobiles.....we need to take a trip together!" Sis # 3 turns to Sis # 2 and says, "how about you and I go to Las Vegas the same time?" Boyfriend of sis # 3 turns to husband of sis # 2 and says, "I will sell my snowmobiles!" He get... Wife of a Diabetic blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4734481 Wed, 20 Apr 2011 14:23:00 +0100 4734481 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4642676&cid=t_102942_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2011%2F03%2F27%2F8-survival-tips-for-the-spouse-of-a-terminally-ill-person%2F The other day, I had the honor of interviewing Owen Stanley Surman, M.D., a practicing hospital psychiatrist known internationally for his work on psychiatric and ethical aspects of solid organ transplantation. Following the death of his wife, Dr. Surman devoted six years to writer a memoir, The Wrong Side of an Illness: A Doctor’s Love Story, which includes a deeply personal and unique view of events both tragic and transcendent. He now lives in Boston with his new wife. Question: What words of wisdom would you give the spouse of a person struggling with chronic illness or terminally ill? Dr. Surman: Chronic illness and terminal illness have a pervasive impact on how we live our lives and in our sense of identity. Loss of a loved one affects the part of ourselves that has led us to ... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4642676 Sun, 27 Mar 2011 15:02:30 +0100 4642676 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=5118935&cid=t_102942_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fcancerlifeandme.com%2Fsongs%2FBreathe.mp3 Captain Jay and first mate Robin Today, my heart weeps… Yesterday, my sister’s dear friend passed away. His name was Jay Johnson, and he was a fellow cancer WARRIOR. I was not very close to Jay, but felt connected to him through my sister, and – even more so – through the strength and goodwill he showed as a survivor. I miss him, as I know many others do as well. My heart is also with Jay’s wife, Robin, who has demonstrated an amazing spirit and support for her Captain. Love to you BOTH, Robin and Jay. (Just Breathe by Pearl Jam) (Source: Cancer, life, and me) Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=5118935 Wed, 23 Mar 2011 13:54:59 +0100 5118935 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=4001808&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Falcoholism-is-a-disease-of-the-family-2%2F Alcoholism; a disease of families Not only is there a significant genetic component that is passed from generation to generation, but the drinking problems of a single family member affect all other family members. The family environment and genetics can perpetuate a vicious and destructive cycle. Many marriages break up over a husband’s or wife’s drinking. Domestic violence typically erupts when one or both spouses have been drinking, and drinking makes domestic violence more dangerous. Families play a critical role in recovery from alcoholism. They can be instrumental in encouraging a family member with alcoholism to seek treatment. Strong family support also increases the chances for successful recovery. Alcoholism and Problem Drinking – Pervasive in Family Life More than h... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=4001808 Sat, 25 Sep 2010 17:39:37 +0100 4001808 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3933269&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fal-anon-on-youtube%2F Al-Anon Speaks for Itself Part 1 A wife, father, husband, and daughter describe what it is like to love someone who has a drinking problem – an alcoholic. The wife says, "I didn’t live in reality at all. I covered up and made believe." The father says, "When the police came and told me the charges against my son, it was unbelievable. To see my son taken away in handcuffs was the most difficult day of my life." To the right of the YouTube panel you will find other videos about Al-anon. Click here for the YouTube video; Al-Anon Speaks for Itself Part 1 See also; Al-Anon May be able to help Alcoholic Family Roles Lifeskills for Adult Children Choicemaking Share, print or e-mail this articleAl-anon Speaks for ItselfAlcohol and the FamilySex Addictio... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3933269 Fri, 03 Sep 2010 13:22:17 +0100 3933269 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3907809&cid=t_102942_180_f&fid=38612&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fpickthebrain%2FLYVv%2F%7E3%2FyF9ti5TJROU%2F Today I thought I would take some time out and share some of the wisdom I have acquired after 4 happy years of marriage with my wife. After some careful consideration I realized that a blank page would not be an interesting post to read at all. It would be just too confusing. So what I do have for you to read today is 5 steps that I think could possibly help you not be as confused as I am written from my vast knowledge in the sanctity of marriage with my extensive 4 years of experience. Now before we dig deeper into these steps I would first like to disclose that the steps discussed here so far have worked for me. They were also written from a man’s perspective. Please use any of them at your own risk. Step 1: Compliment your partner aggressively. I tell my wife she is gorgeous everyday... PickTheBrain | Motivation and Self Improvement blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3907809 Fri, 27 Aug 2010 05:27:14 +0100 3907809 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3862196&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F_FEZFKqrYdc%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? If you have an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife, I can virtually guarantee that one of the major emotions you experience every day is anger. I know this because as a psychiatrist that treats addiction, the spouses of alcoholics are extremely angry and frustrated with the “roller coaster life” they live. What are the reasons you feel angry as h— with your alcoholic spouse? 1. Your alcoholic husband promises to quit and then breaks his promise. 2. Your alcoholic wife hides alcohol and drinks during the day when you are at work. She even drives the kids around when she has been drinking. 3. Your alcoholic spouse is choosing alcohol over you and your kids. 4. He/she lies about so many things you have lost all trust which has been the found... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3862196 Thu, 12 Aug 2010 23:20:19 +0100 3862196 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3858390&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fsex-addiction-group-saved-my-life%2F A father-of-two who successfully beat a damaging internet porn addiction said a Plymouth support group saved his life from spiralling dangerously out of control. The city 40-year-old said his compulsion to secretly download pornographic images for hours on end almost wrecked his marriage and career. In a bid to help others kick similar sex addictions, he told The Herald how Plymouth Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) stopped him destroying his life. The city SAA group is one of about 900 worldwide which aim to help people recover from destructive sexual behaviour. Pete, whose name has been changed to protect his identity, said that three years ago his wife and daughter came close to leaving because of his addiction. He said: “It culminated when my wife found pornography on the computer by a... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3858390 Tue, 10 Aug 2010 17:38:02 +0100 3858390 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3795040&cid=t_102942_140_f&fid=35433&url=http%3A%2F%2F4thavenueblues.blogspot.com%2F2010%2F07%2Fthermal-matters.html I left work at nine and drove directly to Auburn to buy some thermal compound for my processor.  I thought I had a full tube of Arctic Silver, but it was empty.  I couldn’t install my processor without it.   I reluctantly came back to the Valley to start the job at my Benefactor’s house.  I really wanted to come home and play, but work beckoned.  Installing my processor would have to wait.  As I  had expected, it was a hot and sweaty job requiring lots of physical exertion.  I earned every bit of the $50 dollars my Benefactor paid me. “You work hard and very fast,” my Benefactor told me at one point as he stood in the backyard nosily surveying my efforts. “I can’t wait to get home,” I told him. “I have a new toy to play with. Com... The 4th Avenue Blues blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3795040 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 17:12:00 +0100 3795040 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3772441&cid=t_102942_140_f&fid=35433&url=http%3A%2F%2F4thavenueblues.blogspot.com%2F2010%2F07%2Fs-e-x.html I was sitting down in the park late last evening drinking my two sunset brews and talking to Kim on the phone.  We were talking about how long someone should wait before sleeping together for the first time after starting dating. “I slept with Rachel within days of us meeting,” I told her. “You know how that ended.  Divorce.  We moved way too fast.  Before I knew it I was married.” “I slept with Bill on our first date,” Kim told me of her ex-husband. “We seem to be moving at a much slower pace,” I replied, relieved.  I wasn’t quite sure I was ready for the big commitment yet. “The other night in your car was so hard, though,” she told me. “I wanted you to come inside and for us to make love.” “There will be plenty of time for that,” I ... The 4th Avenue Blues blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3772441 Wed, 21 Jul 2010 07:33:00 +0100 3772441 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3762901&cid=t_102942_87_f&fid=39187&url=http%3A%2F%2Fgetbetterhealth.com%2Fsame-sex-vs-opposite-sex-whats-the-rule-on-friendship%2F2010.07.17 I’m stealing a post from Jay at Two Women Blogging entitled “Was Harry Right?” Here’s their post, and I discuss it below: Was Harry Right? Bluemilk got me started thinking about this. I first heard Harry’s thesis advanced by the resident I worked with on my med school psych rotation. She assured me that while I might think I had platonic friendships with men, the men didn’t see it that way. I was pretty sure they did see it that way. I wasn’t naive, I was engaged to be married and had done my share of dating and flirting — I knew what it felt like when a man was interested in me sexually and I knew the difference. I still know the difference, and I still have men friends. For most of my life, my closest friends have been men. (more…) ... Better Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3762901 Sat, 17 Jul 2010 18:00:00 +0100 3762901 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3737303&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F0D9NKIcgDoE%2F Does your alcoholic wife drink as much a Lindsay Lohan? Does she ever mix alcohol with pain pills or Xanax?  Does she deny having a drinking problem? Here are 10 alcoholism signs: Does she need more and more alcohol to feel the effects she used to (feel intoxicated)? Does your alcoholic wife get defensive if someone confronts her about her excessive drinking? Does she look forward to drinking during the day? Does your alcoholic spouse drink to relax? Has she quit participating in her usual activities? Does your alcoholic wife ever lie about how much she drinks? Has she ever had black outs from drinking? Liver problems? Seizures? Has her job or role as a mom or wife  been affected by her excessive drinking? Has she tried to quit drinking alcohol or cut down, but has not been successful? ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3737303 Fri, 09 Jul 2010 00:32:40 +0100 3737303 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3721705&cid=t_102942_83_f&fid=34856&url=http%3A%2F%2Finsidesurgery.com%2F2010%2F07%2Funiversity-wisconsin-surgeon-dr-hani-hennein-shoots-wife-kills%2F University of Wisconsin pediatric cardiothoracic surgeon Dr. Hani Hennein has reportedly shot and injured his estranged wife, then killed himself in suburban Chicago earlier today. His wife had reportedly filed for divorce last month, citing mental and physical abuse (Source: Inside Surgery) Inside Surgery blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3721705 Sat, 03 Jul 2010 01:47:42 +0100 3721705 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3707009&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FBHy-aw-WSGw%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Are you trying to get your alcoholic husband  or alcoholic wife to go to Alcoholic Anonymous meetings and your spouse says they hate AA and won’t go? What are the most common complaints that I hear from my patients tbeing treated for an alcohol problem? AA is too religious. A number of people will complain if it is held in a Church. The stories people share about what they have gone through can seem really extreme and can be frightening. Your alcoholic spouse doesn’t feel like he fits in. Your alcoholic wife doesn’t feel comfortable talking about her problems in a group where men are present. Your alcoholic husband claims his problem is not as serious as the other people who attend. The people at Alcoholic Anonymous meetings are now add... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3707009 Mon, 28 Jun 2010 18:08:10 +0100 3707009 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3701813&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FOYHpqU8DdN8%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Do you sometimes have the impression that your alcoholic spouse wants to quit drinking alcohol, but can’t? As a psychiatrist that treats addiction, I see this problem on a frequent basis. What are the obstacles that your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife face? Living sober is a foreign concept to them. The idea is very scary. The only coping skill your alcoholic spouse knows is drinking alcohol to combat stress. Getting through a work day and putting up with his boss’s demands, getting through a day coping with the stress of being a mom with 3 young kids, being alone with a spouse who has been angry with you for many months …this has all been dealt with by relying on a substance; alcohol. The brain of your alcoholic spouse has become ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3701813 Sat, 26 Jun 2010 14:19:01 +0100 3701813 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3695820&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F6WflqCrTvZI%2F Does your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife suffer from panic attacks? A panic attack is when you can feel your heart racing, you feel like you need more air, you sweat, feel nauseated, and can experience a sense of impending zoom. Does your alcoholic spouse get “beside themselves” when they experience panic symptoms? Why is this happening to them? Your alcoholic spouse may be suffering from an Anxiety Disorder (Panic Disorder). Anxiety Disorders tend to run in families (in others words has a genetic component). The more anxiety someone experiences, the more likely they will self medicate with alcohol to “calm down”. Over time, this can lead to your brain becoming alcohol dependent. If your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife has recently quit drinking alcohol, th... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3695820 Thu, 24 Jun 2010 17:21:03 +0100 3695820 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3687366&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fcav-rXtbPBY%2F There is hope that exercise can help your alcoholic spouse quit drinking alcohol. A recent circadian rhythm study in hamsters showed that hamsters that “exercised” (more “wheel running” ) drank less alcohol than those restricted from exercise. Does your alcocholic husband or alcoholic wife go to sleep at all hours of the night and get up at different times during the day? Has your alcoholic spouse lost a routine for both their sleeping habits and eating habits? Bottom line: their alcohol abuse is disrupting their circadian rhythm which can also trigger alcoholic relapse in someone who has been abstinent. Dr. David Glass, Professor of Biological Sciences came to this conclusion after studying hamsters and “wheel running”. The hamsters that were restricte... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3687366 Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:13:42 +0100 3687366 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3678663&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FEABcc0EnuE8%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife willing to undergo alcohol detox treatment in order to get clean and sober? Are you wondering if they can be treated as an outpatient or if they need to be in a hospital setting? This question can best be answered by a medical professional and is based on how much they have been drinking and if they are a chronic drinker. Alcohol withdrawal symptoms can be life threatening and should be supervised by a medical professional. What are typical alcohol detox symptoms and how long do they last? Typical signs of mild alcohol withdrawal include: Tremulousness Sweating Irritability Abdominal pain Anxiety Nausea Vomiting Insomnia It begins within 6-48 hours after the last drink and can last several weeks. Withdrawal sym... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3678663 Sat, 19 Jun 2010 19:32:08 +0100 3678663 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3666236&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fo6YF5GhsJt8%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse that has always been disorganized and that you have helped keep on track? Does your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife start tasks they never finish or constantly lose their keys, bills, important papers etc? Are they eaasily distracted by noise? Do they procrastinate? If you answered “yes” to most of the questions, your alcoholic spouse may have an Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) diagnosis. I am a psychiatrist that treats a lot of addiction. A number of my patients suffering from alcoholism and addiction have an ADD diagnosis. It seems so common, I have wondered to myself, “What is the deal”?  These two diagnoses seem to go hand in hand. So here’s the scoop: 15% of adults with an ADD diagnosis have a substance use di... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3666236 Tue, 15 Jun 2010 20:39:19 +0100 3666236 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3659162&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FUhLiEJoG9r0%2F Are you living with an alcoholic? Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife lying about their drinking habits even to their own doctor? If you suspect this, what can you do? Call your spouse’s family doctor or psychiatrist and let the doctor know much your spouse is drinking. Basically, “tattle” on them. As a psychiatrist specializing in addiction, I appreciate when a family member of a patient calls me and lets me know their alcoholic spouse is “hiding” their alcohol problem from me. I recognize that the patient may be trying to self-medicate unresolved anxiety or depression. However, alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. Drinking alcohol reduces the beneficial effects of the antidepressants and can cause depression. If a patient’s relative ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3659162 Sat, 12 Jun 2010 00:26:48 +0100 3659162 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3645064&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FqusgXaSiM7o%2F If you are married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife, you are most likely feeling isolated. At first, your spouse probably drank often, but it wasn’t as clear to you that your spouse was an alcoholic. However, over time they have been drinking more and more and you find yourself making more excuses for them to family and friends when they do not show up for planned dinners or special family functions (including important holidays). Your alcoholic spouse has disappointed you so many times that you rarely make plans now with friends to go to lunch or coffee. You have quit even calling many of your friends because you feel embarrassed and ashamed that you put up with your alcoholic wife or alcohol husband. Your marriage centers around your alcoholic spouse’s drinking habit... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3645064 Wed, 09 Jun 2010 12:00:08 +0100 3645064 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3636030&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FH15AVdpwYTM%2F Are you married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife? Do you feel totally frustrated and resentful watching them drink everyday and throw their lives away; their family life, their marriage, their work, and their health in the process? Addiction makes no sense. It is a chronic, progressive disease. The brain of your alcoholic spouse hears two voices. The biochemical voice in their brain is “screaming”  at them to drink alcohol. Your voice is nagging, pleading, pressuring them, making them promise to quit drinking alcohol. Which voice will your alcoholic spouse ultimately listen to? In my experience as a psychiatrist treating alcoholism, there is only one reason that any addict gives up the substance they are addicted to. The pain of continuing to drink must outweigh the ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3636030 Sun, 06 Jun 2010 14:17:26 +0100 3636030 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3629882&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F3BrhnocKcLA%2F Has your recovering alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife quit going to alcoholic anonymous meetings? At first, they were engaged in their alcoholic recovery, but now they feel disenchanted with 12 step meetings and feel they can remain clean and sober without going to an alcoholics 12-step program. Many alcoholic spouses when they get to this point are not open to discussion about it. What does this mean? Often, this is the first step toward an alcoholic relapse. In my 21 years treating addiction, this represents the alcoholic’s desire to do things “their way” which as you know never worked out well before their recovery. Why are 12 step programs so important? The best chance of maintaining sobriety is participating in AA. Yes, there are some that do well without it. Howev... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3629882 Fri, 04 Jun 2010 14:53:07 +0100 3629882 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3629567&cid=t_102942_83_f&fid=34856&url=http%3A%2F%2Finsidesurgery.com%2F2010%2F06%2Ffishermans-wife-kindra-arnesen-takes-bp-spill-health-risks%2F Kindra Arnesen is organizing local fisherman to force BP to take more responsibility in protecting the health of workers hired to cleanup the BP oil spill. (Source: Inside Surgery) Inside Surgery blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3629567 Thu, 03 Jun 2010 21:28:56 +0100 3629567 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3625788&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FjCjvSOQs7vo%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse? Having an alcoholic wife, especially if you have children is extremely disruptive. Nowadays, there are multiple stresses that women bear including: Balancing work and family. There are many more dual income families, yet the responsibility for childcare and domestic duties still falls primarily on women. Women have a harder time moving up in the workplace because they are still competing in a “man’s world”. Women spend a lot of time “chaffeuring” their children to various activities which can get overwhelming when they are doing this for several children. Also, keeping a household running and keeping everything organized is a never-ending job and can feel unfulfilling. Divorce- there is a 50-60% divorce rate in t... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3625788 Wed, 02 Jun 2010 23:44:12 +0100 3625788 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3614698&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FtECRzFPzuWY%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse who is cheating on you? Unfortunately, this is not uncommon at all. Alcohol abuse  and marital affairs go hand in hand.  Other “alcoholic behavior” includes: Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife demanding to be the center of your life. Your alcoholic spouse showing an unwillingness to compromise and expecting to always get their way. It does not feel like a partnership to you, ever. Your alcoholic spouse having very high expectations of you and wanting to control you. Your alcoholic spouse being unrelaible. Plans which include them are broken. The cycle is promises followed by disappointments. Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is sexually promiscuous. Even worse, they do not feel remorse  over their sexual affairs when they ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3614698 Sat, 29 May 2010 16:20:19 +0100 3614698 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3612071&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FtECRzFPzuWY%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse who is cheating on you? Unfortunately, this is not uncommon at all. Alcohol abuse  and marital affairs go hand in hand.  Other “alcoholic behavior” includes: Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife demanding to be the center of your life. Your alcoholic spouse showing an unwillingness to compromise and expecting to always get their way. It does not feel like a partnership to you, ever. Your alcoholic spouse having very high expectations of you and wanting to control you. Your alcoholic spouse being unrelaible. Plans which include them are broken. The cycle is promises followed by disappointments. Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is sexually promiscuous. Even worse, they do not feel remorse  over their sexual affairs when they ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3612071 Sat, 29 May 2010 16:20:19 +0100 3612071 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3599313&cid=t_102942_83_f&fid=34856&url=http%3A%2F%2Finsidesurgery.com%2F2010%2F05%2Fappeal-murder-conviction-dr-robert-bierenbaum-denied%2F Plastic surgeon Dr. Robert Bierenbaum has lost another appeal of his murder conviction in the death of his wife in 1985. Bierenbaum supposedly strangled his wife Gail Katz-Bierenbaum and then dumped parts of her body into the Atlantic Ocean from the window of a small plane. The crime was the subject of the book “The Surgeon’s Wife” by Kieran Crowley. (Source: Inside Surgery) Inside Surgery blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3599313 Wed, 26 May 2010 03:11:16 +0100 3599313 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3595908&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FiPMqNgTqLv8%2F The decision for your alcoholic spouse to go to an alcohol rehabilitation treatment center should be made by a medical professional, a therapist, or interventionist with the support of the family. Professional interventionists are knowledgable about the different treatment centers around the country. As a psychiatrist specializing in addiction, here are factors I take into account in making the decision about the treatment plan for someone struggling with alcoholism: Will it benefit your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife to be away from their home environment and their other triggers for drinking alcohol? In other words, do I think your alcoholic spouse can succeed quitting drinking alcohol if they stay at home? How committed is your alcoholic spouse to quit drinking alcohol? If a person... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3595908 Mon, 24 May 2010 14:29:07 +0100 3595908 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3590504&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FPck5U97nb_w%2F Does your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife refuse to acknowledge they have an alcohol problem and/or refuse to do anything about it? The tough part of this is their alcohol problem has become your biggest problem because it impacts your life and your children’s life daily. Your “alcoholic family” is falling apart. What if you have tried talking to your alcoholic spouse multiple times and despite many promises, nothing has changed? What can you do?It’s probably time to arrange an alcoholic intervention. A professional interventionist does the best job of coordinating and leading an intervention. An alcoholic intervention is complex. Usually family members and close friends of your alcoholic spouse are included. Every one involved writes a letter addressing what yo... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3590504 Sat, 22 May 2010 22:08:43 +0100 3590504 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3577647&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FlWGPn9SmFG8%2F Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife suffering from depression? If so, your alcoholic spouse is definitely in a bind. Why? Alcohol is central nervous system depressant and can cause depression. What is the scoop on alcoholism and depression? Here are typical situations I face as a psychiatrist treating people with an alcohol problem: 1) Your alcoholic spouse no longer feels depressed after stopping alcohol and they do not need to take antidepressants. 2) Your alcoholic spouse may have started drinking frequently in the first place because the “buzz” from alcohol lifted their spirits temporarily. In other words, they were self-medicating depression with alcohol. 3) Your alcoholic wife may have been depressed, started taking antidepressants and still feels depressed. Even ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3577647 Tue, 18 May 2010 13:47:31 +0100 3577647 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3570069&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F7bnCf9h_FGw%2F Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife taking Xanax or Klonopin? Both these medications are in class of drugs known as the benzodiazepines (anti-anxiety drugs) and they are addicting. If combined with alcohol, the effects of these drugs intensify and someone can have a fatal overdose. Common drugs in this class are Valium, Klonopin, Xanax, and Ativan. They are anti-anxiety drugs. As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, I will not prescribe these addicting drugs to anyone with an alcohol problem for 3 major reasons: Your alcoholic spouse will abuse the drug by increasing the dose prescribed at their own discretion. This class of drugs is a known trigger to the brain for triggering an alcoholic relapse. At high enough doses in combination with alcohol, your alcoholic husband o... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3570069 Sun, 16 May 2010 17:41:52 +0100 3570069 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3566817&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FdTJqTqJOn0Y%2F Does your alcoholic spouse love alcohol more than you? The most common theme I hear as a psychiatrist treating alcohol problems and drug addiction is how selfish an alcoholic husband or an alcoholic wife can be. Even people whose  alcoholic spouses have died of alcoholism are still incredibly angry at them for the selfishness they showed during their life. Do you feel like your alcoholic spouse doesn’t love you enough or that you are not worthwhile enough for them to stop drinking? What a terrible feeling! Behind all the anger and frustration you feel is usually a deep sadness at your core and a feeling of uncertainty that you have driven your alcoholic spouse to drink, in some way. Here are examples of typical selfish “alcoholic behavior” that you probably are enduring:... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3566817 Fri, 14 May 2010 13:28:03 +0100 3566817 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3560507&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FThp5lNIh_9s%2F Are you married to an alcoholic? Whether you are married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife, you must wonder how serious is their alcohol problem anyway? Questions that go through people’s minds are : Is your alcoholic spouse hurting their health, is their alcohol problem getting worse, why don’t they seem drunk after drinking so much, are they even thinking about the family anymore or just thinking about alcohol? There are 3 stages of alcoholism. Which stage of alcoholism is your alcoholic spouse at? Early stage: The typical early stage starts out as drinking to unwind. Drinking becomes an escape and is used to boost their mood or relieve stress. Patients in my psychiatric practice will tell me they drink to “forget” their troubles. Middle stage: The middle ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3560507 Wed, 12 May 2010 17:29:26 +0100 3560507 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3552565&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F2nbbijLem-c%2F Are you married to a functional alcoholic? My heart goes out to you. What a tough situation. Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is able to stay in denial because they are somehow managing their work and home responsibilities despite their alcohol problem. When you confront them about their excessive drinking, you hit a wall. Ask yourself if you are enabling the situation in any way such as: Are you making excuses for them to their work, your family, or your friends? Are you changing your behavior in any way to accommodate their drinking? Have their issues become your issues? Have you become isolated because of their drinking? Have you ever threatened to leave, but not followed through? Do not help or enable your alcoholic spouse be “functional” is my best advice. Let yo... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3552565 Mon, 10 May 2010 18:54:28 +0100 3552565 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3542893&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FvrhzRoJ_qLo%2F You are worried about your alcoholic wife. She used to have a glass of wine on occasion at lunch with a girlfriend. Then she started drinking here and there with other moms when the kids were on the playground. Lately, you have found wine in her coffee thermos in the morning. When you try and talk to confront her about it, she gets angry and defensive. Other common signs you have noticed that you have an alcoholic wife are: You have taken over driving the kids to school sometimes because your alcoholic spouse is too hungover to get up on time. You have taken over some of the household responsibilities because she has let them go. You can’t always rely on her to participate in all the kids activities. She seems more interested in alcohol than you. In addition, you have noticed there... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3542893 Thu, 06 May 2010 20:09:48 +0100 3542893 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3534114&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F2IjwM9y5Mk8%2F An alcoholic wife is very disruptive for a family, especially if children are involved. Here’s the bottom line: an alcoholic wife or alcoholic mom is less likely to seek help for excessive drinking than an alcoholic husband. One third of alcoholics in our country are women- it is a very significant problem. Children are deeply affected and their safety is jeopardized if their alcoholic mom is picking them up from school “under the influence”. What are the main reasons an alcoholic wife/alcoholic mom drinks? She drinks … to fill the void. She gets bored with the drudgery of cleaning up, household chores, and being the chaffeur. because she feels overwhelmed and anxious. She is trying to juggle her role as a mom, wife, and possibly even a professional. because she fe... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3534114 Tue, 04 May 2010 19:20:52 +0100 3534114 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3522838&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FDB7O-b9wlLo%2F Living with an alcoholic husband  or alcoholic wife when you don’t drink is particularly difficult because you feel like you are modeling the right behavior to no avail. Maybe you even used to drink too much, but you were willing to stop drinking alcohol. You feel you are being very supportive and keeping the home environment free of triggers for his/her alcohol abuse ( which is more effort than many other spouses make), so what else can you do to help him/her quit drinking alcohol? Recognize that you can’t control your alcoholic spouses alcohol problem. Let your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife suffer the consequences of their excessive drinking. This is the most positive influence you can have in encouraging alcohol recovery. Do not cancel appointments for them, call the... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3522838 Fri, 30 Apr 2010 17:26:59 +0100 3522838 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511786&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FOsdgkNv5FJU%2F Does your alcoholic husband ever blame his drinking on you? For example, does he say things like, “If you didn’t nag me so much I wouldn’t drink”. “If you took better care of the house and the kids, I wouldn’t be so stressed”. Does he say this often enough, you start to wonder if he’s right? Is his alcohol problem your fault? Of course not, but he wants you to think so. Are you married to an alcoholic spouse and wondering if you are responsible for his alcoholic behavior? As a psychiatrist that treats a lot of spouses in your position, I can tell you this is a very common feeling. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Why do you feel responsible for his alcoholism? Here are 3 common reasons why: He blames his excessive on you because he says you cause him t... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511786 Wed, 28 Apr 2010 14:35:41 +0100 3511786 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3508457&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F9wmNpf3zG5Q%2F Do you ever wonder if your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife will die from alcoholism? The late stages of alcoholism is characterized by a complete obsession with alcohol. Alcoholic spouses by this stage are utterly consumed by drinking. By now, your spouse is no longer working and depends on you for food, shelter, and alcohol. They have withdrawn completely from any kind of social life or even participation in the family. Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife suffering from any of the following physical problems?  heart problems including high blood pressure? inability to absorb nutrients which has led to malnutrition? alcoholic liver disease such as cirrhosis? chronic pancreatitis? cancer? multiple black outs and poor memory (note: alcohol shrinks the brain)? As a psychiatrist... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3508457 Tue, 27 Apr 2010 00:49:42 +0100 3508457 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3502995&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FWZC9hTb8fGg%2F Are you living with an alcoholic wife and wish more than anything that she would quit drinking alcohol? Listen up! What kind of treatment might help her succeed? A very recent study published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology (by Barbara McCrady and Ellizabeth Epstein) showed that cognitive behavior therapy for alcohol dependent women, delivered during couples therapy worked better for maintaining sobriety than when it was delivered during individual therapy. It involved 20 sessions over 6 months. It is considered short term therapy. According to the authors of the study, 4-8% of women under the age of 44 are alcohol dependent and 65% of women who are alcohol dependent have another psychiatric diagnosis. Are you wondering what cognitive behavior therapy is? Cognitive b... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3502995 Sat, 24 Apr 2010 16:05:07 +0100 3502995 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511787&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fmn5QlmEPVKo%2F A common sign of an alcohol problem is hiding alcohol. Alcoholic spouses who are hiding drinking typically lie about their drinking, often will drink alone (common in women), and are secretive about how much they drink and where they drink. Have you noticed any of the following signs with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife? Hiding empty alcohol bottles around the house or car (ex:laundry hampers, under clothes in a drawer.) Filling a thermos bottle with orange juice and liquor. Using the extra refrigerator in the garage to store alcohol. Going to different places to buy booze. Your alcoholic spouse goes to great lengths to cover up the smell of alcohol (as you know from living with an alcoholic- NOTHING covers up the strong smell of alcohol). Why do alcoholic spouses hide their dr... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511787 Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:12:25 +0100 3511787 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3502997&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FtLae3kukSfY%2F Are you experiencing the nightmare of  living with an alcoholic spouse?  Do you beg or plead with your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife to stop drinking alcohol? Does your alcoholic spouse “cave in” under pressure and promise to quit drinking only to have an alcohol relapse within a few days or a few weeks? Why is your alcoholic spouse breaking a promise to you that is more important to you than anything in your life right now? Here are 5 typical reasons why eliciting a promise to stop drinking alcohol fails EVERY time: Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is experiencing alcohol withdrawal symptoms because his/her brain has become alcohol dependent. Drinking alcohol relieves these symptoms. Your alcoholic spouse has strong alcohol cravings. These alcohol cravings pr... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3502997 Sun, 18 Apr 2010 17:19:32 +0100 3502997 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3502998&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fq-jPdOoZjhw%2F Are you wondering how in the world alcoholic spouse, alcohol relapse, and vanilla fudge ice cream are related? If you have ever eaten vanilla fudge ice cream you know that you cannot have the vanilla without eating the chocolate ; they go together, no matter what. An alcoholic spouse and alcohol relapse go together in the same away. You can’t have an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife without the alcohol relapse. Sorry, It just doesn’t work that way. Here’s an example of this “sobering” fact: I just treated a wonderful woman from another state who has a serious alcohol problem. I treated her for alcohol withdrawal and then treated her depression and anxiety with medication. She also was in therapy and participated in an intensive outpatient program. She went ... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3502998 Fri, 16 Apr 2010 15:13:55 +0100 3502998 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511789&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fu1BpFb53wa0%2F Are you married to an alcoholic spouse? Is your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife unlucky enough to be suffering from another diagnosis in addition to their alcohol problem? The most common dual diagnoses I see in my psychiatric practice that accompany an alcohol problem are an anxiety disorder, depression, attention deficit disorder (ADD), and bipolar disorder. If these underlying mental health disorders are not treated with the appropriate medications, alcohol is often used to self medicate symptoms. Here are some danger signs. Does your alcoholic spouse do any of the following: Drink too much after work to “unwind”. This shows an ability to manage daily stress (anxiety disorder). Drink too much to “feel good”. Your alcoholic spouse is altering his/her depresse... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511789 Wed, 14 Apr 2010 15:45:51 +0100 3511789 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3511791&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F5XV596Fga-0%2F Are you “co-dependent “on your alcoholic spouse? Living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is a nightmare. An alcoholic spouse chooses his/her marriage partner carefully. Think of 2 pieces of a puzzle that fit together perfectly. One piece: the alcoholic (selfish tendencies) fits with the other piece: the  ”nurturing, giving” person (who has self esteem issues). This way, the alcoholic spouse can continue to drink alcohol and “get away with it“. Sound harsh? Here are 5 signs of codependency: Fear of abandonment. You will avoid feeling alone at all costs (in other words, not leave your alcoholic spouse even though you are miserable). Low self esteem. You are willing to “put up with” whatever your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife... Alcoholic Spouse Advanced Help blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3511791 Sat, 10 Apr 2010 18:48:31 +0100 3511791 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3443989&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F2fnYg4L3Fl0%2F Many times it can feel very lonely living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife. You find yourself waiting for your alcoholic spouse to come home in the evening and you are lucky if he/she even shows up at a reasonable hour. Your multiple calls and texts are ignored. Do you feel you have been taken hostage by your spouse’s alcohol problem? Here are examples of why you feel so lonely: Sometimes your alcoholic spouse doesn’t even come home at night and you are left to sleep alone. The sexual intimacy in your marriage is virtually non existent. There is not much emotional intimacy either. You take care of the kids almost to the point that you are in a single parent role- you get your kids up in the morning, take them to school, help them with homework, after school activiti... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3443989 Wed, 07 Apr 2010 16:50:33 +0100 3443989 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3441070&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FAQQ3X0RzLUM%2F One of the hardest parts of living with an alcoholic spouse is the seesaw of hope and disappointment. The spouse of an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife feels hopeful when his/her spouse doesn’t drink for a few days or a week (in response to the non-addicted spouse’s begging and pleading) only to have his/her hopes dashed when the inevitable return to drinking takes place. Do you try and get your spouse to quit drinking alcohol by doing the following? nagging pleading begging yelling instilling guilt threatening to leave the marriage How well are these ways working? Are you approaching your alcoholic spouse when he/she has been drinking? Most alcoholic spouses will learn to ignore your “drama”. Begging , pleading, and yelling don’t work. Empty threats ... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3441070 Mon, 05 Apr 2010 22:26:42 +0100 3441070 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3429463&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FasVuJ34aBbM%2F Are you married to an alcoholic wife or alcoholic husband? If so, do you put up with behaviors that most of your friends and family would be appalled to to find out that you do? For example, does your alcoholic spouse not call you if he/she is late from work? Does he/she stumble in plastered at all hours of the night? Does he/she miss work or neglect the kids because of being hung over? Here are 5 other examples of “alcoholic behavior”: Lying. Hiding alcohol. Denial that he/she has a problem with alcohol. Not responsible about domestic/job/relationship actviites. Doesn’t participate in the family. You most likely have taken over many of your alcoholic spouse’s responsibilities. Do you resent this? Are you surprised over what has happened to your marriage? Do you f... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3429463 Thu, 01 Apr 2010 15:21:15 +0100 3429463 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3425136&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FiM6hBlpEC88%2F Most people I know who are married to an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife are miserable. Yet, many people stay in this desperate situation even though they are filled with resentment about their spouse’s alcohol problem. Do you wonder why you stay married to your alcoholic spouse? In my experience as a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, here are the 7 most common reasons: Financial dependence- this is especially true in marriages where the woman isn’t working. For example, stay at home Moms have been out of the work force for many years and are often not “marketable” when they return to the work force. Many women in this position do not want to give up the lifestyle they have become accustomed to (the house, the cars, the good schools). Conversely, wome... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3425136 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 22:51:08 +0100 3425136 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416339&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FWqULirAl8t8%2F Your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife probably relies on you for so many things that you can’t even count. You are constantly making up excuses for your alcoholic spouse. Are you tired of living this way? What can you do about it? Just say no! Say no the next time your alcoholic spouse asks you to call the boss because he/she is too hungover to go to work. Don’t lie to your friends the next time your spouse asks you to. Don’t give your alcoholic spouse money that he/she can spend on alcohol. Scary to think about saying no, isn’t it? You are both stuck in a rut. This pattern won’t change until you change. It will feel terrifying to say no to your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife for the first time. Your alcoholic spouse will be surprised and angry. He/she... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416339 Sun, 28 Mar 2010 16:36:33 +0100 3416339 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416340&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FyydlGQeyKRQ%2F Is your alcoholic wife or alcoholic husband depressed? Is your alcoholic spouse already on antidepressants, but is still depressed? Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant and can cause depression, It also counteracts the benefits of the antidepressants. Don’t panic, there is still hope that your alcoholic spouse can overcome both depression and his/her alcohol problem! Read on to find out how: The American Journal of Psychiatry published a study on line on March 15, 2010 showing that combining Zoloft, an antidepressant, with natrexone, an anticraving drug was more effective than either treatment by itself. (There were 140 participants who were randomly assigned to 14 weeks of either sertraline (the generic for Zoloft), natrexone, both drugs, or placebo. The group on both drug... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416340 Fri, 26 Mar 2010 16:51:26 +0100 3416340 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416341&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fdh6QuvZWSyk%2F Do you have an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife? Are you acting more like a parent than  a spouse? Most alcoholic spouses become more and more irresponsible as their alcohol problem progresses. Bills are left unpaid, there are increasing absences from work, not coming home “on time” or not coming home at all, and a lack of participation in family/children activities etc. How do most non addicted spouses handle this? Most non addicted spouses try to “control” these behaviors which tend to backfire. Examples of controlling behaviors are: texting or calling your alcoholic spouse multiple times when they do not “show” up on time. getting them up in the morning. calling their friends to “track them” down. checking their cell phone to see wh... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416341 Wed, 24 Mar 2010 16:02:54 +0100 3416341 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3395377&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FnbVUbymk-gI%2F Alcoholism is a disease experienced by the family. Not only is there a significant genetic component that is passed from generation to generation, but the drinking problems of a single family member affect all other family members. The family environment and genetics can perpetuate a vicious and destructive cycle. Many marriages break up over a husband’s or wife’s drinking. Domestic violence typically erupts when one or both spouses have been drinking, and drinking makes domestic violence more dangerous. Families play a critical role in recovery from alcoholism. They can be instrumental in encouraging a family member with alcoholism to seek treatment. Strong family support also increases the chances for successful recovery. Alcoholism and Problem Drinking Pervasive in Family ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3395377 Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:13:17 +0100 3395377 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416343&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fa5F0zGSxXCM%2F You probably never imagined in your wildest dreams that you would be going through the daily turmoil of living with an alcoholic spouse. Your friends complain that their husbands watch too many sports on T.V. or spend too many hours on the computer. Their complaints are so trivial compared to the psychological consequences of living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife. What is the main consequence? As a psychiatrist that specializes in addiction, the main psychological consequence you may suffer from living with an alcoholic spouse is the loss of your self esteem. Why? You probably feel like your alcoholic spouse treats you like a doormat. Do you put up with his/her rude, obnoxious, inconsiderate behavior? Did he/she even come home last night? You probably feel totally unappreciat... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416343 Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:35:38 +0100 3416343 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416345&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2FWoAsJxJJ1oU%2F As you watch your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife drinking today, do you wonder what in the world will ever get them to quit drinking alcohol? Are you absolutely amazed at how much your alcoholic spouse can drink? How and when did you spouse’s alcohol problem get so bad? Should you give up on your marriage? How long should you brew in your resentment before you pull the plug on your marriage? Don’t lose hope. Here are the 5 most common reasons I see in my psychiatric practice that spur a person with an alcohol problem to  quit drinking alcohol: Loss of job. For your alcoholic husband, this is a big one. Losing a job is losing his ability to support his family, his children. He may be risking losing his home. If his wife doesn’t work, this is an extremely stressfu... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416345 Sun, 14 Mar 2010 21:02:15 +0100 3416345 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416346&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2F1ykiqK5aBS0%2F Is your alcoholic spouse in recovery and struggling with alcohol cravings? Do they have  a plan in place to prevent an alcoholic relapse? For example, are they going to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings on a regular basis? Do they have a sponsor they can call if they feel like relapsing? Are they working the 12 step program? Do you live in fear thinking your alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife may relapse? Their alcohol problem impacts you and your children, so you have a vested interest (to say the least) in their success in alcoholic recovery. (For additional help turning your situation around, click here to register for my free special report on, The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’s life. The information in this... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416346 Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:27:32 +0100 3416346 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3416347&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=39090&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2Fhelpalcoholicfamily%2FxITS%2F%7E3%2Fty9GDoyTYls%2F Are you living with an alcoholic spouse? If not, I am sure you have a family member or friend going through this ordeal. I am a psychiatrist that specializes in treating alcohol problems and drug addiction and living with an alcoholic husband or alcoholic wife is a nightmare for all involved. Most non addicted spouses feel a great deal of shame about their broken marriage and are very reluctant to share the details of what goes on “behind closed doors”. Are you in this boat? (For additional help turning your situation around, click here to register for my free special report on, The 5 Most Effective Ways To Turn Your Marriage Around To Your Alcoholic Spouse. It may save your family’ life. The information in this report gives you very simple strategies that could very w... blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3416347 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:03:21 +0100 3416347 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3267205&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FJIqYh2Sos6A%2F Al-Anon Speaks for Itself A wife, father, husband, and daughter describe what it is like to love someone who has a drinking problem. The wife says, “I didn’t live in reality at all. I covered up and made believe.” The father says, “When the police came and told me the charges against my son, it was unbelievable. To see my son taken away in handcuffs was the most difficult day of my life.” To the right of the YouTube panel you will find other videos about Al-anon. Click here for the YouTube video; Al-Anon Speak Part 1 Al-anon Speak part II Al-anon Speak part III Al-anon Speak part IV See also; Al-anon / Alateen Recovery MP3 tracks for all 12-Step Fellowships Self-care Boundaries Language of Letting Go A Woman’s Way Through The Twelve Steps Related R... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3267205 Thu, 11 Feb 2010 19:01:47 +0100 3267205 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3185599&cid=t_102942_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2010%2F01%2Fthank-you-telly%2F In the last post, I wrote about how my resolution for 2010 is to focus on improving myself and my family emotionally/mentally. In that spirit, here’s a video weeks in the making. It is dedicated to my wife, Shawntel, a.k.a “Telly”: Watch Thank You, Telly in Family  |  View More Free Videos Online at Veoh.com I love you, bebe! Thank you to everyone who participated. Can you believe Lexi kept the secret? I filled her in about 2 weeks ago. I also want to give a special thanks to my wife for INSPIRING me. You make me want to create. I’m smiling, are you? (Source: Cancer, life, and me) Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3185599 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 00:38:30 +0100 3185599 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3159957&cid=t_102942_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2010%2F01%2Fresolve%2F The holiday break is over. Well, not for me. I’m still relaxing at home. But it’s over for my wife and daughter. On Monday, Lexi reluctantly woke up early and went back to school. That evening, she finished her first pages of homework for the week, also reluctantly. My wife, Shawntel, resumed her night classes (medical assisting) this week as well. It was a nice break for us, though. Christmas eve was spent here (bro-in-law’s place). It went surprisingly well. No stress. No nausea. No back pain. At the end of the night, we were left with a fridge full of leftovers. Good times. On December 27, we went down to the Bay Area to visit my dad-in-law’s family for a post-Christmas party. It also went well. For New Year’s Eve, we headed to Elk Grove to visit my parents... Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3159957 Sun, 10 Jan 2010 20:32:27 +0100 3159957 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=3153645&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FRecoveryIsSexycom%2F%7E3%2FPl24dKNFKLc%2F How can I tell if someone I love is alcoholic? Even though he was a practicing physician, Bob got drunk nearly every night for 17 years. Somehow believing he could hide his alcoholism from Anne, his wife, he constantly looked for new places to stash his liquor. “When my wife was planning to go out in the [...] (Source: Recovery Is Sexy.com) Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=3153645 Fri, 08 Jan 2010 02:05:00 +0100 3153645 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2985000&cid=t_102942_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2009%2F11%2Fwere-outta-there%2F We moved out of our apartment this past weekend. The week or so before that was spent packing, cleaning, and trashing/donating most things we forgot we even had. Our official last day is November 21, but just about all of our belongings are now moved. I’m now coming to you live, from my same couch, but on the floor of my bro-in-law Gary’s house. He’s going through a loan modification process on his home. In the meantime, he and his family are in an apartment. He knew of our situation, and called me recently and offered us his home, rent-free (while the bank takes it time figuring out the home loan), as a place to stay. My wife and I thought it would be a good idea, and help to catch up with our debt. Best case scenario: Gary’s loan modification goes well and he keep... Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2985000 Thu, 12 Nov 2009 08:22:53 +0100 2985000 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2920461&cid=t_102942_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2009%2F10%2Fwhen-life-gives-you-lemons%2F Lemonade? Really? …sometimes you get a bunch of rotten, putrid fruit. This is a tough one to write, but here goes. Deep breath in… Step aside, pride…and go: What happens when a family of three (plus a dog) suddenly makes about $300.00 less per month due to my leave of absence? We were doing all right at first. It was tight, but manageable. But then, our single car completely broke down, and we had to scramble to get a replacement vehicle. The purchase of the new car hurt us financially, but it was a necessity. We began leaking money each month. My EDD (Employment Development Dept.) checks were barely enough to cover rent. Some bills lapsed. Then others. My wife, being the super woman she is, decided to enroll in school to become a medical assistant. The goal is to get a h... Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2920461 Fri, 23 Oct 2009 08:23:26 +0100 2920461 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859103&cid=t_102942_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2009%2F10%2Ftwo-nine%2F Whew… You ever completely surprise yourself? Until I wrote it down, I never really analyzed my life and actually sat down and FELT these dark feelings. They were only ever felt in short bursts, only to be quickly locked away in my vault. The last post I wrote hit me HARD. And in the interest of full disclosure, I’ll say this: 9.26.09: I became 29 years old. This year was different, though. I was still very much processing what I had last written. I woke that day with sadness. That hasn’t happened on any other birthday of mine. I cried to my wife, explaining to her that, “I’m just sick of being sick.” I’m wallowing. This is what I was afraid would happen. I don’t like wallowing. In the past, if I ever WAS stuck in a rut, I’d focus on wha... Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859103 Fri, 02 Oct 2009 02:45:33 +0100 2859103 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2809717&cid=t_102942_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2009%2F09%2F19%2F8-survival-tips-for-the-spouse-of-a-terminally-ill-person-an-interview-with-owen-surman-md%2F Recently I had the honor of interviewing Owen Stanley Surman, M.D., a practicing hospital psychiatrist known internationally for his work on psychiatric and ethical aspects of solid organ transplantation. Following the death of his wife, Dr. Surman devoted six years to writer a memoir, “The Wrong Side of an Illness: A Doctor’s Love Story,” which includes a deeply personal and unique view of events both tragic and transcendent. He now lives in Boston with his new wife.   Question: What words of wisdom would you give the spouse of a person struggling with chronic illness or terminally ill? Dr. Surman: Chronic illness and terminal illness have a pervasive impact on how we live our lives and in our sense of identity. Loss of a loved one affects the part of ourselves that... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2809717 Sat, 19 Sep 2009 13:55:18 +0100 2809717 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859105&cid=t_102942_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2009%2F09%2Fmy-foundation-dads-response%2F Not too long ago, I wrote about my father. He called me yesterday and asked if I was ready to hear his response yet. I said, “Sure.” I was curious. He actually read this to me over the phone. Can you say emotional? Between him choking up and me reaching for tissues…well, I’ll let you read it. He left this as a comment on the blog yesterday, but I’m elevating it to full-on blog post, baby! My comments are in GREEN. His reply: Hi mi hijo, After I read “My Foundation” I was crying for awhile, and so many memories to to my mind and heart. I remember how many of my plans (as a dad) for you suddenly collapsed right before my eyes. I figured maybe you would be a great soccer player. But, most of all, a martial artist that I could be teaching and coaching. (My Dad... Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859105 Thu, 17 Sep 2009 20:12:51 +0100 2859105 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2744253&cid=t_102942_131_f&fid=34989&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FGeneticsHealth%2F%7E3%2FvOmV_OHO5s8%2F If you’re looking for some date night romantic flick this weekend, I suggest watching THE TIME TRAVELER’S WIFE. But leave your genetics behind the theater door. THE TIME TRAVELER’S WIFE is a movie-adaptation of the novel by Audrey Niffenegger. I just saw the movie and I loved the idea of a love so deep and true that it endures beyond time… Or in geekspeak – the space-time continuum known as time travel.     The movie revolves around Claire’s love for a man named Henry, who has a genetic condition that causes him to involuntarily travel in time. His condition is called Chrono-Displacement Disorder, which is apparently heritable. I don’t want to spoil the movie too much, so I won’t give away the storyline (you can Google it up). But if you’re like me who w... Genetics and Health blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2744253 Sat, 29 Aug 2009 06:33:04 +0100 2744253 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2716203&cid=t_102942_137_f&fid=35426&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeedproxy.google.com%2F%7Er%2FTheAlzheimersReadingRoom%2F%7E3%2FLN_2jFhSo1I%2Falzheimers-in-living-room.html Advice and Insight into Alzheimer's diseaseSubscribe to The Alzheimer's Reading RoomI was over on the Alzheimer's New Zealand Facebook page, and I noticed a link to a story I first read back in 2004 on the New York Times--Alzheimer's in the Living Room: How One Family Rallies to Cope.At the time of my first reading, I thought this was a well written story. After this read, I would have to say this article by Jane Gross is really remarkable. Keep in mind I was a 'young' caregiver when I first read the article.The article captures much of the real life trials, tribulations, emotions, and angst of a family dealing with Alzheimer's from the front row.Here are a few snippets from the article."It's overwhelming, worse every day," Mrs. Dillon said recently, wincing from stomach pain and steadily ... Alzheimer's Reading Room, The blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2716203 Thu, 20 Aug 2009 03:32:03 +0100 2716203 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2699896&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=35818&url=http%3A%2F%2Frecoveryissexy.com%2Fhelp-an-alcoholic-4%2F Address the drinking problem directly Over and over, people shared comments like these: "Let them know that you are aware of their drinking problem. I thought I had everyone fooled, and they never told me otherwise." – alcoholic lady. "Hold a mirror up to the person, showing his or her behavior clearly and honestly." – wife. "Be open to discussing the behavior – it makes the loved one uncomfortable, but it needs doing." – partner. "Explain that you think they have a problem and which of their actions gives you that idea. Offer to help." – husband. Although nagging and complaining are certainly ineffective, so is the contrary tack of ignoring a drinking problem. Avoiding the problem is counter-productive. A wife told me, "In our ... Recovery Is Sexy.com blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2699896 Thu, 13 Aug 2009 15:16:00 +0100 2699896 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2859115&cid=t_102942_136_f&fid=39027&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lrdlc.dreamhosters.com%2F2009%2F07%2Fmemories%2F July 14, 2002. That was the night Shawntel and I officially became boyfriend and girlfriend. How cheesy Seven years ago! Time flies. I remember one of the very first gifts I gave her was a drawing I made of a rose (I had carefully torn it from my sketch pad). Later, a 2-year old Lexi found the little rose drawing and ripped it up! She LOVED shredding things back then. Shawntel felt horrible, but I had no hard feelings. After all, Lexi was only 2. In honor of my wife here is a rose, also drawn by me, that can NOT be torn apart: That’s a fresh drawing, since I drew it today. Literally, just minutes ago. You inspired me enough to do just want to do it out of thin air. I was just going to come online and WRITE about our 7 year anniversary. On a really bad day, too (physically). That is... Cancer, life, and me blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2859115 Tue, 14 Jul 2009 21:32:36 +0100 2859115 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2405892&cid=t_102942_133_f&fid=35096&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAutismVox%2F%7E3%2FcGjA948UUVU%2F Sometimes Jill says she’s the worst mother in the world. Other times she simply says she’s the worst mother in the world for an autistic child. She yells. Her Times is splayed all over the dining room table, and that probably does nothing to maintain Alex’s sense of order. Yes, Jill may be right, but only at terribly rare moments. Her average as an outstanding parent in both categories is at least as good as mine, and in fact a lot better. She’s the one who picks them up from the bus, sits through Ned’s trumpet lessons and signed him up for youth soccer, and she’s the one remembering to get only the strawberry yogurt, the Hebrew National hot dogs, and the Utz Extra Dark Pretzels for Alex. She has a number of greatest hits as a mom: Alex’s toilet... Autism Vox blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2405892 Sun, 10 May 2009 15:05:34 +0100 2405892 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=2205007&cid=t_102942_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2009%2F02%2F21%2Fovercoming-depression-do-it-yourself-or-get-a-professional%2F About a month ago, I put in a new faucet. Our old one was leaky, old, crusted over, and the dripping, dripping, dripping was torture to my ears. Imagine trying to sit and write something brilliant with that going on in the background every 1.7 seconds? Finally, I took it upon myself to take care of it. I thought I’d suffered enough with this thing, more misery than it was worth hoping something would happen. Since my husband wasn’t too enthused, I decided I’d tackle it myself. I was going to “fix” my faucet. I did get the right parts at the store, wrestled with the old faucet for a while, and finally got the thing working. What pride I had in doing it myself! I was reluctant even to ask help from my husband after a while when I was stuck on the last piece &#... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=2205007 Sat, 21 Feb 2009 19:42:49 +0100 2205007 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1970828&cid=t_102942_177_f&fid=38134&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbabybound.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F11%2F18%2Fwell-well-i-see-ive-hit-a-nerve%2F For the record, Mark and I are still in a fight.  But also for the record, I suspect it will end soon.  (Thankfully he does not read my blog and therefore is still miserably stewing at his desk at work.) Thank you all for the great advice.  I will definitely look into some adjustments to our current agreement.  Most notably, Mark’s new lack of plastic to wear down his pockets.  He cut his card in half in some sort of passive aggressive attempt at getting me to shut the fuck up not be mad at him.  Of course it didn’t work.  What a dum dum. I must say, it is oddly comforting to know that there are other people out there that struggle with this same issue.  It makes me feel better knowing that Mark isn’t the only fuckwit out there and that it is clearly a genetic dis... B a b y B o u n d blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1970828 Tue, 18 Nov 2008 23:42:27 +0100 1970828 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1739551&cid=t_102942_129_f&fid=36035&url=http%3A%2F%2Fblog.healthtalk.com%2Fchronic-pain%2Flife-with-chronic-pain%2Fwe-interrupt-this-blog-to-give-an-update-on-sue-wood%2F Editor’s Note: Reporting from Astoria, Oregon, your reporter, the son-in-law. Sue’s recovery from surgery last week has had a slight setback. Sue has been unable to eat and keep things down. Taking her various medications on an empty stomach hasn’t been going well. The wife went over to keep Sue company yesterday afternoon, and returned with the report that Sue has a future career in the movies if she wants. Sue was able to reprise the classic Linda Blair role from “The Exorcist“. While I’m not sure that Sue’s head was able to rotate 360 degrees like in the movie, apparently Sue had the green projectile vomiting scenes duplicated fairly realistically. Just before dinner, Sue called looking for some help. The wife made me fix Herb’s, the kids&... Life with Chronic Pain blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1739551 Thu, 28 Aug 2008 16:24:11 +0100 1739551 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1686645&cid=t_102942_109_f&fid=36089&url=http%3A%2F%2Fthesituationist.wordpress.com%2F2008%2F08%2F07%2Ffractured-bonds-abstract%2F This article presents a unified analysis of all race based annulment cases for the first time. Simultaneously public and private affairs, these dramas impacted far more than the individual couples or courtrooms, sending out shockwaves that reverberated beyond their points of origin. The results of the cases are startling and contrary to previous work on the subject. Using this unique set of cases, this article argues that while declaring these women white appears like a deviation from white supremacy, the courts’ decisions were used to preserve white racial dominance. Through the annulment case decisions, the court stepped in to protect women with a taint of blackness, declaring them pure and worthy of the mantle of whiteness. By legally erasing the women’s potential racial tai... The Situationist blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1686645 Thu, 07 Aug 2008 04:01:41 +0100 1686645 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1522046&cid=t_102942_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2008%2F06%2F16%2Fequally-shared-parenting-could-it-work-for-you%2F This week’s New York Times Magazine has an interesting article about the benefits and problems associated with “equally shared parenting,” also known as “shared care”. The basic idea, according to the couples profiled in the article, is that “gender should not determine the division of labor at home.” Marc and Amy Vachon, for example, decided …they would not be the kind of parents their parents had been — the mother-knows-best mold. Nor the kind their friends were — the “involved” dad married to the stressed-out working mom. Nor even, as Marc put it, “the stay-at-home dad, who is cooed at for his sensitivity but who is as isolated and financially vulnerable as the stay-at-home-mom.” Instead, they would create their own model, one in which they were parenting... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1522046 Mon, 16 Jun 2008 15:29:07 +0100 1522046 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1360663&cid=t_102942_133_f&fid=35096&url=http%3A%2F%2Ffeeds.b5media.com%2F%7Er%2Fb5media%2FAutismVox%2F%7E3%2F267111196%2F Seven extra hours of washing, dusting, vacuuming, tidying up, putting away: A new study from the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research has found that that’s how much more housework women who are married do. From Science Daily: “It’s a well-known pattern,” said ISR economist Frank Stafford, who directs the study. “There’s still a significant reallocation of labor that occurs at marriage—men tend to work more outside the home, while women take on more of the household labor. Certainly there are all kinds of individual differences here, but in general, this is what happens after marriage. And the situation gets worse for women when they have children.” The researchers did find that the amount of housework that women have been ... Autism Vox blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1360663 Wed, 09 Apr 2008 16:07:33 +0100 1360663 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1093051&cid=t_102942_109_f&fid=34750&url=http%3A%2F%2Fpsychcentral.com%2Fblog%2Farchives%2F2007%2F12%2F13%2Fdoes-eminem-have-bipolar-disorder%2F According to a new tell-all book by his mother, Eminem — the famous singer, producer and actor — has been grappling with some form of bipolar disorder (also known as manic depression) for most of his life. The book, entitled, My Son Marshall, My Son Eminem, was written by Eminem’s mother, Debbie Nelson. In her new book, she revealed that her rapper son, Eminem, 35, whose real name is Marshall Bruce Mathers III, has grappled with manic depression his entire life. Eminem’s manic depression as an adult reportedly worsened when his ex-wife Kim Mathers birthed their daughter Hailie (now 11). He apparently had another bout with bipolar disorder again when the couple divorced in 2006. A “family friend” told Life & Style magazine, “She just hopes h... World of Psychology blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1093051 Thu, 13 Dec 2007 21:36:14 +0100 1093051 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=1033445&cid=t_102942_140_f&fid=35433&url=http%3A%2F%2F4thavenueblues.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F11%2Flove-puts-on-new-face.html I've had some of the most vivid dreams of my ex-wife lately. I wake up feeling lonely and missing her. Tonight, we were lying in the bed after making love in my dreams -- laughing and teasing each other. It was the first sexual arousal and avarice I've had in months coming off all those many psychiatric medications and I woke up elated. Her eyes looked into mine in my dreams and I just melted. She could be such a pretty woman in her own way and had her special moments. I'm just glad my dreams were pleasant, and not of the many vicious arguments we seemed to have on a regular basis during our tenure as husband and wife. I don't know how many nights she locked me out of the house. That truly would be a nightmare in its most vivid sense to relive those old moments. She's working at a local ba... The 4th Avenue Blues blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=1033445 Sat, 17 Nov 2007 09:00:00 +0100 1033445 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=795095&cid=t_102942_87_f&fid=34865&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thecancerblog.com%2F2007%2F08%2F13%2Fopera-great-luciano-pavarotti-hospitalized%2F Filed under: Chemotherapy, Pancreatic Cancer, Celebrity newsItalian opera superstar Luciano Pavarotti, hospitalized on Wednesday with a fever, is doing better and should be discharged within the next few days, according to his wife, Nicoletta Mantovani.The 71-year-old tenor underwent surgery for pancreatic cancer one year ago and has since endured at least five rounds of chemotherapy. Although not confirmed, some sources say Pavarotti has pneumonia.Read | Permalink | Email this | Linking Blogs | Comments (Source: The Cancer Blog) The Cancer Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=795095 Mon, 13 Aug 2007 04:00:00 +0100 795095 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=788177&cid=t_102942_140_f&fid=34838&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbipolarmale.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F08%2Fmrs-mo-cracked-up-at-work-today.html (Source: Bipolar Mo) Bipolar Mo blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=788177 Wed, 08 Aug 2007 18:54:00 +0100 788177 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=781848&cid=t_102942_151_f&fid=35793&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thejunkyswife.com%2F2007%2F08%2Fwhat-you-think-they-all-mad-at-me-for.html That question is from Beyonce's Upgrade U song. I like that line best. Vowels and I have been singing it and singing it...we have a whole mix tape of magic to share. I don't have time for it now, though, while she's here.I've done some serious soul-searching and blog-searching, and we're going live again, now.Woohoo! (Source: Heroin Addiction Codependence) Heroin Addiction Codependence blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=781848 Mon, 06 Aug 2007 04:22:00 +0100 781848 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=764201&cid=t_102942_87_f&fid=34867&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thediabetesblog.com%2F2007%2F07%2F28%2Fmagazine-industry-loses-a-giant-peter-a-banks%2F Filed under: Type 1, Type 2, Childhood, Adult Onset, Magazines, Support, PersonalitiesPeter A. Banks, renowned past publisher of the American Diabetes Association's (ADA) Diabetes Forecast magazine died on July 21 at his home. Mr. Banks had colon cancer. For years and years, my parents subscribed to Diabetes Forecast. My brother had been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes in the mid-1970s, and in an effort to gather the latest news on type 1, my parents were avid readers. Mr. Bank's career with the ADA spanned 20 years from 1986-2006. He was named publisher of Diabetes Forecast in 1999. Over the next seven years as publisher, Diabetes Forecast circulation rose nearly 20 percent. Before that time, he also served as editorial director. In his last year with the ADA, Mr. Banks was recognized one... The Diabetes Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=764201 Sat, 28 Jul 2007 04:00:00 +0100 764201 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=716544&cid=t_102942_87_f&fid=34866&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thecardioblog.com%2F2007%2F07%2F05%2Fmarriage-good-for-your-health-and-heart%2F Filed under: Daily news, Women Heart Health, Men Heart HealthI'm not married but maybe I should be, because according to this, marriage is good for your health in pretty much any respect, from back pain to emotional health to headaches to longevity. Married people are less likely to drink excessively or smoke. Married people also have healthier hearts, but tend to be heavier than non-marrieds.What I think is particularly interesting is that long-term couples who don't tie the knot don't have the same benefits. I wonder why? Isn't living together for years the same as being married? Apparently not ...Read | Permalink | Email this | Linking Blogs | Comments (Source: The Cardio Blog) The Cardio Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=716544 Thu, 05 Jul 2007 04:00:00 +0100 716544 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=522842&cid=t_102942_87_f&fid=34865&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thecancerblog.com%2F2007%2F04%2F05%2Fa-song-for-women%2F Filed under: Breast Cancer, All Cancers, Cancer SurvivorsMy husband heard this song yesterday on the radio and I wanted to share the lyrics. You can listen to Craig Morgan here singing Tough. She's in the kitchen at the crack of dawnBacon's on, coffee's strongKids running wild, taking off their clothesIf shes a nervous wreck, well it never showsTakes one to football and one to danceHits the Y for aerobics classDrops by the bank, stops at the storeHas on a smile when I walk through the doorThe last to go to bed, she'll be the first one upAnd I thought I was toughChorusShe's strong, pushes on, can't slow her downShe can take anything life dishes outThere was a time Back before she was mineWhen I thought I was toughWe sat there five years agoThe doctors let us knowShe'd have to fight to liv... The Cancer Blog blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=522842 Thu, 05 Apr 2007 04:00:00 +0100 522842 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=478979&cid=t_102942_140_f&fid=34838&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbipolarmale.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F02%2Fmy-father-in-law-got-through-his-op-ok.html My father in law got through his op OK and got home on Friday. Unfortunately he was rushed back into hospital at the weekend but returned home in good form again today. All seems well now.Mrs Mo is much, much better, back to her annoying, controlling, effervescent self again. She saw Dr Portillo this morning and has been declared fit for further abuse by her employers. Later she spoke to her boss and as she has a few days holiday left to take before April, it was agreed she could take them now and return to work next week. So we're going to spend a couple of days at my brother's later this week (a fortnight in the Maldives would probably have been ideal but two days in Glasgow will provide adequate respite for us working class heroes).On the downside... I stayed up once again on Friday nig... Bipolar Mo blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=478979 Tue, 20 Feb 2007 22:24:00 +0100 478979 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=478981&cid=t_102942_140_f&fid=34838&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbipolarmale.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F02%2Fyesterday-i-crawled-out-from-of-my.html On Sunday I crawled out from of my earthen lair and shuffled out into the sunlight shielding my eyes. Well, maybe “sunlight” is stretching things a bit, it was a cold, damp, overcast, dreach day. The world looked pretty much as I’d last seen it… grey. Mrs Mo and I were going out for the afternoon in an attempt to cheer her up a wee bit. We drove around for a while then parked and went for a walk in the rain as is frequently recommended by Barry Manilow.Looking above at that dreadful picture I can now see why people used to call me “Barry”. That could be me in the photo! That is exactly what I looked like in the 1970s, even the same hair (Mo can almost hear your mouse clicking on the Home button). Even worse… thirty years later, despite now being in his 60’s, thanks to good ... Bipolar Mo blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=478981 Tue, 13 Feb 2007 00:41:00 +0100 478981 http://www.medworm.com/index.php?rid=478982&cid=t_102942_140_f&fid=34838&url=http%3A%2F%2Fbipolarmale.blogspot.com%2F2007%2F02%2Fi-got-very-drunk-last-saturday-and.html I got very drunk last Saturday and continued drinking through to the dawn when eventually the booze ran out. I posted crap stuff on here, no prob, deleted. Unfortunately I posted offensive stuff elsewhere, some I have been made aware of and subsequently apologised for but there'll be other stuff, I'll maybe hear about later or maybe never. The not knowing what you did is a big bummer. I vowed never to drink again. It turns out "again" was last night. Things have gone downhill with Mrs Mo. She was back at the doctors on Monday, couldn't get an appointment with Dr Portillo so saw nice TV doctor lookalike, Dr Hilary. Dr Hilary was surprised she was still at work, signed her off sick for 2 weeks and made her an appointment to see Portillo this Monday. She has been crying all the time, looks di... Bipolar Mo blogs http://www.medworm.com/rss/comments.php?id=478982 Sat, 10 Feb 2007 08:23:00 +0100 478982