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Kimmy's 200 Top Songs (in no order)

2009-07-14T08:22:00.001-05:00

Lovin the music today!

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

Trauma

2009-07-12T12:48:00.009-05:00

Sometimes a person can take on fears from other peoples energies.

Have you owned someone's trauma?

Specifically ask your higher self where in your body you are holding the feat, and you may find the locked in energy accessible to heal.

When one finds some sort of fearful thought, it may be well worthwhile for you to stop and consider if you didn't pick up the thought from someone else around your energy.

Blessing the fear with light, love; darkness with light.

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

It is within you

2009-07-04T12:52:00.003-05:00

It’s within you: the answers you seek, the direction you want, and the power to be whoever you want to be.

Your dreams are not yours by mere whim.

They’ve been meticulously matched to the gifts you’re now developing. Designed to lure you within, where your true power lies, and then out into the world, beyond imagined limitations and fears.

You have the right stuff, you know what to do, and it can all be yours….

You are legend.

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

Forever

2009-07-01T12:19:00.008-05:00

you're so lost all the time

you don't know where you are

you don't know where you've been

and you don't know where you'll go

I'll be right there
right beside you
I'll hold your hand
and never let go

they try to take you over
but you never let them win
you shut them all out
and anywhere you go

I'll be right there
right beside you
I'll hold your hand
and never let go

you try to hold on
but forever seems so long
you make it through the day
and you fight the demons away
but then they come back
like they always come back

and anywhere you go
I'll be right there

I'll hold your hand
and never let go

I'll never let go
of you

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Sharing light with Ravi - SickBlindAngel@aol.com

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2009-06-29T00:15:00.000-05:00

Yesterday, I saw one of my friends join a suicide CrisisLink cause group on Facebook. Sadly, I have, and have several friends that have lost friends, and family members to suicide.

I felt inspired to join the group, and also volunteer to help in anyway that I can.

So many people are available to help, love, listen, and hug you! I want to help. Period.

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

If you, or someone you know, is in suicidal crisis or emotional distress please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

The Lifeline Network answers thousands of calls from people in emotional distress. There are many reasons for their calls. Please call with for any of the following reasons:

* Suicidal thoughts
* Information on suicide
* Information on mental health/illness
* Substance abuse/addiction
* To help a friend or loved one
* Relationship problems
* Abuse/violence
* Economic problems
* Sexual orientation issues
* Physical illness
* Loneliness
* Family problems

Who should call?
* Anyone who feels sad, hopeless, or suicidal.
* Family and friends who are concerned about a loved one.
* Anyone interested in mental health treatment and service referrals.

Who and where am I calling?

* When you dial 1-800-273-TALK, you are calling the crisis center in the Lifeline network closest to your location. To find out what center is closest to you search the Crisis Center Locator.
* Lifeline’s service is free and confidential.
* The hotline is staffed by trained counselors.
* We are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
* We have information about mental health services in your area that can help you.

What will happen when I call?
* You will hear a message saying you have reached the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.
* You will hear hold music while your call is being routed.
* You will be helped by a trained crisis worker.
* You will be given mental health services referrals if needed.

How can I call?
* Dial 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
* If you are a TTY user, please use our TTY number: 1-800-799-4TTY (4889).
* Para obtener asistencia en español durante las 24 horas, llame al 1-888-628-9454.

For more information http://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Change will come

2009-06-28T15:54:00.002-05:00

When we are faced with any weakness of ours, we usually think about it so much that it is totally blown out of proportion and it seems bigger than it actually is. This leads to negative thinking, which in turn doesn't let us work on improving ourselves. Some will then just remain the way they are, not being able to bring about progress or change.

What we need to do in order to win over our weakness is to change our focus. Instead of thinking about the weakness, we only need to think, "I am not where I want to be yet, but I am working towards it and I am slowly improving." Change will come with positive affirmations rather than complaints.

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

Coincidence?

2009-06-27T10:57:00.003-05:00

Psychologist Carl Jung theorized that synchronicities occurred when universal forces were aligned with the experiences of an individual, leading to coincidences that appear to be more than just chance.

These incidents happen because everything is innately connected. He believed that such events can be called forth by an individual's unconscious needs.

Nothing occurs randomly.

Rather, we draw certain people, situations, and blessings to ourselves.

A chance encounter can be positive, negative, or neutral, and feel deeply mysterious or commonplace.

Some coincidences are obvious while others are not apparent until after careful analysis.

Perhaps during an ongoing financial crisis, you always found just enough money to get by.

Or a recurring dream prepares you for an eventual physical event.
Many times, synchronicities represent opportunities to learn about ourselves and the external world. If you feel touched by multiple coincidences or intrigued by a single one, ask yourself why you may be attracting the people involved or the situations. Is it highlighting some aspect of your life or suggesting a course of action?
The soul, believed Jung, whispers to us through synchronicity calling us to attention.

Seeking the meaning behind a synchronistic event can help you know yourself better, kick start your creativity, or show you future pitfalls to avoid. The most profound coincidences often occur at life's crossroads, stopping us in our tracks and leaving us to find the meaning within.
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Master of your being

2009-06-24T18:55:00.004-05:00

And inside you is your real freedom, because your consciousness cannot be touched by anybody else.

You are the only master of your being.

Kimmy sharing light with Osho

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Being True To Yourself

2009-06-20T09:31:00.008-05:00

This truth is subtle and yet profound.
This inner knowing is the key to my peace.
Could it be that if I find MY peace...
AND if each person did the same...
We would all live in peace?

This concept
So simple.
Not so easy to live.

I choose to hear my inner truth.
I choose to know and respect me.
I choose integrity with me in every moment.
I choose to respect me in this quiet place.
I am in the Eye of the Storm.
I am in the center of ME.
I AM.

Sharing light with Marlana. Please visit Marlana here!

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Willingly Embraces YOU

2009-06-18T00:01:00.002-05:00

If someone comes in your life and becomes a part of you but for some reasons they couldn't stay,
don't cry too much...

Just be glad that your paths crossed,
and somehow made you happy even for a while.

The greatest challenge in our life is to find someone who knows our flaws and differences and yet still willingly embraces you with so much love.

Love is a means of self giving and self sacrificing.

If he/she knows your flaws and still willing to accept you, you are blessed!

When you love, it is not for you to be understood but for you to understand;
Not for you to take but for you to be taken;
To listen not to dictate;
To sacrifice and not to demand;
Not to count or measure,
but to LOVE !

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

To be tolerant

2009-06-15T00:01:00.000-05:00

This is something I am working on!

Find yourself considering beliefs and opinions that you might otherwise reject out of hand because you can understand how they add value to the lives of those who embrace them.

We should endeavor always to be tolerant of viewpoints that differ from our own as we can never know when our circumstances will transform.

Over the course of our lives, we have adjusted our values, expectations, and personal philosophies to account for the changes that have taken place in our hearts and minds as we grew as individuals.

It is likely that we will need to make further adjustments as we trek resolutely into the future.

If we are open-minded enough to understand that what does not serve us in the present may meet our needs in the future, we can look tolerantly upon alternative perspectives.

Choose not to criticize the beliefs and opinions others hold dear today, you will not feel compelled to reject these thoughts outright later on in your life.

Readers, this one hit home,
Kimmy

(Parts of article taken directly from DailyOm.com, author of excerpts unknown)

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I love this

2009-06-14T10:32:00.003-05:00

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Sending Love and light

2009-06-10T12:45:00.001-05:00

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☆«•.*★ Peace & Love ★*.•»☆
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This week let us

2009-06-07T10:30:00.008-05:00

Remember the beautiful learning and glorious experiences of the past, taking lessons from each and every moment that has been.

Understand that our past difficulties did not come to crush us but to strengthen our determination, to use our limitless powers to succeed.

Enrich our future by reinforcing the beauty of our past experiences making our every action of this moment - beautiful.

Take a promise not to repeat the mistakes of the past, but to move forward with determination, courage and enthusiasm.

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ALERT Jury Rigged - From Snopes

2009-06-01T17:29:00.004-05:00

Identity thieves trick victims into revealing their personal details by telling them they've failed to report for jury duty and that warrants are being issued for their arrest.

Here's a new twist scammers are using to commit identity theft: the jury duty scam. Here's how it works:

The scammer calls claiming to work for the local court and claims you've failed to report for jury duty. He tells you that a warrant has been issued for your arrest.

The victim will often rightly claim they never received the jury duty notification. The scammer then asks the victim for confidential information for "verification" purposes.

Specifically, the scammer asks for the victim's Social Security number, birth date, and sometimes even for credit card numbers and other private information — exactly what the scammer needs to commit identity theft.

So far, this jury duty scam has been reported in Michigan, Ohio, Texas, Arizona, Illinois, Pennsylvania, Minnesota, Oregon and Washington state.

It's easy to see why this works. The victim is clearly caught off guard, and is understandably upset at the prospect of a warrant being issued for his or her arrest. So, the victim is much less likely to be vigilant about protecting their confidential information.

In reality, court workers will never call you to ask for social security numbers and other private information. In fact, most courts follow up via snail mail and rarely, if ever, call prospective jurors.

Action: Never give out your Social Security number, credit card numbers or other personal confidential information when you receive a telephone call.

This jury duty scam is the latest in a series of identity theft scams where scammers use the phone to try to get people to reveal their Social Security number, credit card numbers or other personal confidential information.

It doesn't matter *why* they are calling — all the reasons are just different variants of the same scam.

Protecting yourself is simple: Never give this info out when you receive a phone call.

Origins: This helpful heads-up began appearing in inboxes in August 2005. While this particular attempt to coerce information from potential identity theft victims is not new, it is real. In a number of U.S. states, con artists have been contacting people by phone to assert those they've targeted have evaded jury duty and announce warrants are being issued for their arrest. When the about-to-be-duped protest they never received such notifications, that surely a mistake has been made, the sharpies go after what they really want, which is their pigeons' personal and financial information. Under threat of being hauled off in paddy wagons unless they succeed in straightening out this terrible mess, many folks who would otherwise be more wary about what they reveal of their personal data will find themselves reeling off their birth dates and social security and credit card numbers in an effort to convince their callers the notifications that never arrived actually went to other addresses or were never meant for them in the first place.

However these calls conclude — whether those who have been approached are left with the impression they've failed to show up for jury duty and are still expected to discharge their civic duties, or that a big misunderstanding has now been resolved — their true purpose has been accomplished: the scam artists now have the information necessary to open accounts or charge goods in the names of their victims.

The scheme outlined in the message quoted above might be categorized as a "social engineering" scam — a technique which preys upon people's unquestioning acceptance of authority and willingness to cooperate in order to extract from them sensitive information.

On 22 August 2005, the Minnesota Judicial Branch issued a warning about the bogus calls. The Minnesota Judicial Branch points out its courts always use the mail to send jury service summons, communicating by telephone only after prospective jurors have returned completed summons information forms.

In New Mexico, Rep. Tom Udall has been warning citizens about the scam. As he points out, Federal courts do not require anyone to provide any sensitive information over the telephone. Most contact between a federal court and a private citizen is conducted by mail.

The Superior Court of California has posted an alert on its web site, warning that identity thieves posing as court officials have been trying to get confidential information through phone calls about jury duty. Once again, callers have been telling potential victims they failed to report for jury duty, then demanding their Social Security numbers. While court personnel may occasionally call people at home, "We never ask for Social Security numbers or personal identifying information," said Marita Ford, chief deputy executive officer for Riverside Superior Court.

In September 2005, in an effort to alert the public nationwide about the scam, the FBI issued a press release which explained that "the judicial system does not contact people telephonically and ask for personal information such as your Social Security number, date of birth or credit card numbers" and those so contacted should "not provide any personal or confidential information to these individuals."

Though the 'jury duty' information-gleaning scam has been garnering attention in 2005, it is not new. In 2004, residents of Franklin County, Ohio, were hit by this scam. At least five people called the Franklin County Municipal Court in September 2004 to ask where they were to report for duty after someone telephoned to obtain personal information. In Ohio, as in Minnesota, jury summonses are sent by mail and court workers do not call potential jurors to ask for Social Security numbers or dates of birth.

In February 2004, the scam was active in Charles County, Maryland. Once again, the fraud came to the attention of authorities via residents who had been contacted by phone afterwards asking the County Clerk about the attempts to wheedle personal information from them. They too had been asked for birth dates and Social Security numbers, that time by callers who claimed such intelligences were needed to assemble a pool of jurors for selection in upcoming trials. The Charles County Circuit Court does not telephone residents who are selected for jury duty. Potential jurors are sent notices in the mail.

In 2001 the Erie County Commissioner of Jurors reported someone in that area had been staging telephone scams about jury duty in Chautauqua, Seneca, and Jefferson counties, seeking information about home addresses and bank accounts allegedly "for reimbursement purposes." Targets of that fraud were being told by the swindlers attempting to deceive them that this information was required for the purpose of directly depositing their $40-a-day jury duty stipends. Erie County officials point out their jurors' checks come directly from Albany and not from local jurors offices, nor are these payments deposited directly into jurors' bank accounts.

Though the 'jury duty' information phishing scheme is not new, it has been heavily put to use around the U.S. in August 2005. Be wary of any calls of this nature and refuse to give out your personal information.

How to Avoid Falling Victim to 'Jury Duty' Scams:

• Court workers will not telephone to ask for personal information because you've supposedly missed jury duty or they are allegedly assembling juries and need to pre-screen those who might be selected to serve on them, so dismiss as fraudulent phones call of this nature. About the only time you would hear by telephone (rather than by mail) about anything having to do with jury service would be after you have mailed back your completed questionnaire, and even then only rarely.

• Do not give out bank account, social security, or credit card numbers over the phone if you didn't initiate the call, whether it be to someone trying to sell you something or to someone who claims to be from a bank or government department. If such callers insist upon "verifying" such information with you, have them read the data to you from their notes, with you saying yea or nay to it rather than the other way around.

• Examine your credit card and bank account statements every month, keeping an eye peeled for unauthorized charges. Immediately challenge items you did not approve.

The URL for this page is http://www.snopes.com/fraud/identity/juryduty.asp

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Happy Graduation Alyssa

2009-05-30T15:40:00.004-05:00

Congrats 2009 Crystal Lake South Seniors!

Alyssa and Dad

8 Toxic Personalities to Avoid

2009-05-29T06:00:00.000-05:00

Written by Brett Blumenthal

Although we like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn’t so. Personally, I’ve had moments where I’ll be skipping through my day, happy as can be, thinking life is grand and BAM, I’ll be blindsided by someone who manages to knock the happy wind out of my sails. Sometimes it is easy to write it off and other times, not so much.

Maybe you are a positive person, but when you are around a certain individual, you feel negative. Or, maybe you have an idealistic view of the world and when you are with certain people, you are made to feel silly, unrealistic or delusional. Or, maybe you pride yourself in being completely independent and in control of your life, but when you are around a certain family member, you regress into a state of childhood.

Some of these situations, and yes, these people, can have a tremendously negative impact on our lives. And, although we are all human and have our ‘issues,’ some ‘issues’ are quite frankly, toxic. They are toxic to our happiness. They are toxic to our mental outlook. They are toxic to our self-esteem. And they are toxic to our lives. They can suck the life out of us and even shorten our lifespan.

Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them:

1. Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your ‘buttons’ are, and push them to get what they want.
Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don’t necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.

2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them “It isn’t always about you.”

Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.

3. Debbie Downers: These people can’t appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they’ll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.

Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.

4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people’s unique perspectives refreshing, they find them ‘wrong’. If you like someone’s eclectic taste, they find it ‘disturbing’ or ‘bad’.

Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.

5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can’t do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.

Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.

6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a ‘there, there’ type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.

Why they are toxic: People who aren’t sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won’t be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.

7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.

Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don’t respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.

8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.

Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.

All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don’t see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.

Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending mucho time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you’ll feel a lot happier. Have you encountered these personalities? What have you done? Any personalities you would add?

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To Brett,

Thank you so much for allowing me to share your insight. I think I can be #4 Judgemental Jim more than I want to admit. I appreaciate your insight and your help to look within myself.

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My daughter's goodbye to Crystal Lake South

2009-05-28T11:28:00.004-05:00

Dear South,

If there is anything that I have learned in the last four years at South is that living in the moments is fun, until there are no more moments to live. The last four years have flown by. Each year, it feels like you are becoming more mature, and you can see it in your own behavior as well as in friends. While this is probably the dorkiest thing I can do, I want to thank all of the people that have been there for me along the way. From the friends that have been there through thick and thin to the people that have just been there within classes that I have been in.

Another two people I have to thank is my parents. They were the only two people that have pushed me not to fall into the crowd and the problems that normally come with high school.

My friends are by far the only people that can make me laugh no matter what mood I am in. They are who make me a better person and the people that make waking up early everyday worth it; they make life more interesting.

Out of all the people around me, several are friends I want to be in my life long after high school.

Now that my time at South is over, I realize that we as students have everything ahead of us, and high school is just another bridge we have FINALLY crossed.

Sincerely,

Alyssa Garcia

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Come back down to Earth

2009-05-26T06:01:00.000-05:00

Be free without being reckless. Be generous without being naive. Be smart without being conceited. Be strong without being a bully. Be confident without being arrogant. Be courageous while also being careful.

Go far without going over the edge. Achieve, but not to the point of hopeless obsession. Even the best things can become a burden when you get too much of them.

Even the fastest car has a good brake system. Even on the highest flying aircraft are wheels with which to land.

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Nothing that has passed can be regained

2009-05-25T00:01:00.001-05:00

All that I possess and use

Is like the fleeting vision of a dream.

It fades into the realms of memory;
And fading, will be seen no more.

Nothing that has passed can be regained.

- Shantideva, The Bodhicharyavatara (2.36-39)

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Power of Choice

2009-05-23T11:48:00.003-05:00

If you had the power to decide what types of opportunities would come your way, what opportunities would you select?

In fact, you do have the power to choose the way that much of your world will be. You do have the ability to decide what kinds of events, experiences, opportunities and circumstances come your way.

For the world you experience is the world with which your dreams, your thoughts, your expectations and your actions most closely resonate. The world you see and live in, is the world you most sincerely expect to see.

With your thoughts, with your actions, with your values, dreams and expectations, you do indeed choose what kind of world you live in. The way you are, is closely mirrored in the world you see.

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Blue Mirror on the Wall

2009-05-18T05:00:00.003-05:00

Guest Post by Susan Murphy Milano

The saying "Blue Defends Blue" or "Brotherhood of the Badge" is a concern for all women in relationships where their husband or boyfriend is a law enforcement officer.

In most cases there is a clear reluctance on the part of responding officers to arrest a fellow officer.

An example of how police look away when it is one of their own is Kathleen Savio.

Prior to the discovery of her lifeless body in the bath tub of the marital home she and Drew Peterson shared, Bolingbrook police never once arrested their Sergeant when Kathleen called for help.

So it was no surprise when the coroner's inquest which by the way carries no weight in a criminal court of law was used as the sole "excuse" the Illinois State Police decided to close the case on Kathleen Savio.

Politics also played a key role in looking the other way. Had the then former State's Attorney Tomczak not been friends with Drew Peterson it is likely he would have faced criminal charges.

(Jeff Tomczak's private practice link here)

Those married to abusers in law enforcement face the same obstacles as my own mother twenty years ago. Not much has changed as I recently learned while in Will County assisting 2 police officers wive's whose life mirror's that of Kathleen Savio. Police refusing to take a police report against their officer abuser's or taking her to the hospital for medical attention as the blood drips down her face. Employee's within the Will County State's Attorney's office being fed fear if they contact me on a case directly or refer officers wives in my direction.

Politics continue to play a major role into officer involved abuse cases. If Will County State's Attorney James Glasgow takes a step back , he will recall I never compromise an investigation or a victim's life.

It is when employees without your knowledge fail the victims. That is when I arrive, treating the process and your office with respect, only to be knocked down upon walking in the court house doors.

Sharing Light with my friend Susan Murphy Milano. Please visit Susan's blog here!

I enjoy Susan's energy, passion, and love for others.

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Author says Divorce Doesn't Scar Children -- Selfish Parents Do!

2009-05-17T09:08:00.004-05:00

Author Rosalind Sedacca, says divorce doesn’t scar children. It’s selfish parents, blind-sighted by their emotions, that do the damage.

She says “it’s not divorce that harms children. It’s wounded parents who do not care, understand or see that their behavior is hurting the children they love.

It’s vindictive parents who put down the other spouse in front of their kids.

It’s parents who decide they should have sole custody or primary influence over the children with little regard as to the child’s relationship with their other parent.

It’s parents who confide their adult dramas to innocent children who just want to love both Mom and Dad.

It’s parents who put financial gain and material decisions over the emotional well-being of their children.

In essence, it’s selfish parents who put their own needs ahead of those of their totally dependent children when making life-altering parental decisions.”

I fill the Divorce Support site with articles on all aspects of divorce. The least read articles I write and publish are articles about children and divorce. The majority of the visitors to this site have children but the research they do on the subject of divorce rarely has anything to do with how their divorce will affect their children.

That is the most discouraging aspect of the work I do here at Divorce Support…the lack of interest my readers show in their children’s welfare.

I’m the mother of two. My sons were 7 and 14 when their father and I divorced. My youngest is now a very troubled teenager and it’s my opinion that his problems are directly related to the actions of a selfish parent. My son has been scarred because he had a parent who could not or would not see how his actions were hurting my son.

For example: He and his father were very close. His bond with his father was far deeper than the bond he had with me. When his father decided he no longer wanted to be married and left the home, it devastated our son. He went from having a father he adored and saw daily to a father he saw every other week. No phone calls or vistis in between.

My son went into a depression, started having panic attacks and had emotions to deal with that were heartbreaking. One night he went to his knees, grabbed me around my legs and begged me to call his father and tell him to come home. I called his father and told him our son needed his help. His father’s response, “I can’t deal with his pain right now, I have to deal with my own. You will have to take care of him.”

I remember thinking to myself, after that conversation that I didn’t realize there was a time that a parent was allowed to or would choose to put their own pain before the pain of their child. I was in pain, it is impossible to describe the rejection and fear I felt during that time. My main concern was not my pain though. It was the pain my children were experiencing and helping them cope.

The best advice I can give to parents who are divorcing is to put your own self-interest behind your children’s best interest. Let go of your vindictiveness, work together on custody issues so your children will be able to spend an equal amount of time with each parent. Fight for what is yours financially but don’t let you desire to come out on top trump your child’s emotional needs.
You are your child’s security. You and how you handle yourself during your divorce will influence the quality of life your child lives and the kind of adult they grow into. Please, make that your main focus!

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