Travelling and meeting successful people who can crush it at work
but still fall into disappointing relationship patterns–

something became painfully clear.
Many high achievers I speak to unconsciously
get into relationships expecting their partners
to resolve their self-worth issues
or fill those emotional gaps they’ve been using success to hide.

That “not good enough” wound that can’t be seen
when they are on stage performing.

That fairy tale we hoping for It’s often just a projected fantasy,
and when reality hits —
boom —
The disappointment kicks in,
like a kid who just realized Santa doesn’t exist.

Here’s the thing:
at some point, usually midlife,
when we’ve been humbled by life circumstances,
we get summoned to a wake-up call.

The task becomes to realize
that it’s not about blaming the other person anymore.
It’s about taking ownership of how we show up,
our reactions to our triggers that are happening within us.
Emotional triggers aren’t personal attacks.

They’re signals.
Doorways to level up your self-awareness
instead of falling back into blame.

The ability to distinguish being “harmed”
and being “triggered”.
A big piece I love to teach:
How to expand that space between stimulus and response.

What we do in that gap
is how we can become “trigger proof.”

Whether we reflexively fight, run, or hide
determines the quality of our relationships and leadership.
Also, watch out for the fawn response —
that people-pleasing trap
where you ignore your own needs just to “keep the peace.”
That one will sneak up on you if you’re not careful,
building up a wall of resentment over time.
When you develop the skill of spotting old wounds
getting poked by current relationships,
it becomes an invitation to pause and choose differently.
At the end of the day,
it’s not about finding a perfect partner to save us.
It’s about using relationships as mirrors to grow
into someone more emotionally solid.

This is the secret of secure attachment:
Trusting yourself speak your truth,
because you know you’re able to repair
in moments when it matters the most.
Because success doesn’t mean
sacrificing intimacy.

If you’ve been strong with one,
and challenged with another,

You’re not alone.

The good news is that you can become Trigger-Proof
in love, and leadership together.

Your fulfillment depends on it.
Your wingman on the journey,

Nima

I want to tell you about the moment that things clicked for me.

I'd been running my business for years—

Building a solid reputation.
Getting great results with clients.
Making decent money.

But I was exhausted.

And resentful.

And secretly terrified
that if I stopped overdelivering,
people would realize I wasn't that special.

Then I had a somatic group training session
with a group of embodied somatic teachers
(I’m in consistent self reflection and self-inquiry)

She asked me:

"When you're working with a client who's struggling—
what happens in your body?"

I paused.

"My chest gets tight.
My jaw clenches.
I start thinking about everything I need to do to help them.
I feel responsible."

She nodded.

"And when a client cancels or doesn't show up?"

"I feel... pissed off… and….relieved.
But also worried they're going to leave.

So I usually reach out immediately to check in."

"Nima— Do you know what that is?"

I didn't.

"That's anxious attachment.
Your nervous system thinks their transformation
is proof of your worthiness.

When they struggle, you panic.
When they pull away, you pursue.
When they succeed, you finally exhale."

Fuck.

She was right.
I never thought of it this way.

I'd healed this pattern in my romantic relationships—

I could stay when my partner was struggling.
I could give space without panicking.
I could hold steady when emotions got intense.

But with clients—

I was still running on:
"Prove yourself or they'll leave."

And that was the shift
that changed the game for me.

Not immediately— (healing never works that way).

But it started me on a path of asking:

"What would it look like
to serve from overflow instead of fear?"

"How would I show up if I trusted
that my value wasn't tied to their results?"

"What if I could be present with clients
without abandoning myself?"

The shift wasn't about doing less work.

It was about practicing how I showed up
from a regulated nervous system
instead of a dysregulated one.

From that place—

I stopped saying yes to everyone.
I raised my prices (significantly).
I stopped checking email compulsively.
I created boundaries that felt good, not guilty.
I let clients have their own process without making it about me.

And something wild happened:

My business grew.
I could delegate and scale.
My impact deepened.
My clients got better results.
I stopped burning out.

Because I was finally leading from secure attachment—

Not anxious.
Not avoidant.
Just present.

If this resonates with you at all,
this is what I want to help you access in this webinar
hosted by my friend Tara:

Trigger-Proof: Healing Attachment Styles in Love AND Leadership

Tuesday, December 16th 4-5pm PST /
7-8pm EST /
11am-12pm AEDT (Wed Dec 17)

We're going to explore:

The exact body sensations that signal
you're in anxious or avoidant patterns

How to catch yourself before you abandon yourself (again)

The difference between boundaries from fear vs. boundaries from security
Why raising prices is actually a nervous system issue
How to serve from overflow instead of extraction
What secure leadership actually feels like in your body

This isn't theory alone.

This is the real,
embodied work of shifting your nervous system
so you can show up differently—

In your business.
With your clients.
In your relationships.
In your life.

Because life is relational.

Investment: only $25

Live Q&A format.
Intimate container.
Hosted by my friend Tara.
Maximum 40 people.

We're already at 23 registered—

So if you're feeling the pull,
don't wait.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima

Yesterday I shared how I healed my avoidant attachment in relationships—
Only to discover I was anxiously attached to my clients.

Had a bunch of replies asking:

"How do I know which pattern I'm running in my business?"

Great question so I thought I’d share

Because unlike romantic relationships—
where you can usually feel the anxiety or the distance—

Your business attachment patterns are sneaky.

They disguise themselves as:

"Professionalism"
"High standards"
"Good boundaries"
"Strong work ethic"
"Being selective"

Or as one public speaker told me:
“I’m a private person,
I don’t like social media”

But underneath—
He was terrified of being criticized publicly.

So his biz was stalled.

Your nervous system is running
the same survival strategies you learned decades ago.

Here's how to spot them:

If you're ANXIOUSLY attached to your work:

You check email/DMs constantly—
even on vacation, even at dinner, even at 2am.

You overdeliver to the point of exhaustion—
then resent people for not appreciating it enough.

You undercharge—
because you're terrified they'll say no
if you ask for what you're worth.

You say yes to everything—
even when it drains you,
even when you don't want to.

You feel responsible for other people's results—
and take it personally when they don't do the work.

You can't put yourself out there—
because criticism or rejection feels unbearable.

Your sense of self worth is tied to your performance—
so you're constantly proving yourself.

If you're AVOIDANTLY attached to your work:

You sabotage opportunities
right when they require deeper connection—
pulling back when your client clearly needs more of your presence.

You create "professional boundaries"—
that are actually walls to keep people at a distance.

You judge clients who are "too needy"
or "not getting it fast enough"—
(really, you're uncomfortable with their dependency on you–
the dependency you created for yourself initially when you started
– this one has been a painful lesson for me).

You prefer systems and automation—
not for efficiency, but to avoid dealing with people.

You pull away when things get "too real"—
ghosting opportunities that feel too vulnerable.

You keep one foot out—
always ready to pivot,
rebrand, or start over.

The kicker here is—

Both patterns keep you stuck.

Anxious attachment—
You burn out from overgiving and hiding.

Avoidant attachment—
You cap your income by pushing people away.

And here's what most people miss:
You can't think your way out of this.

You can know you're overdelivering—
and your mouth will still say yes
(even when your body is constricting).

You can know you're sabotaging—
and you still will pull away.

Because it's not a cognitive problem.

It's a nervous system problem.

Your body learned early:
"This is how you stay safe."

And until you teach your nervous system a new way—
You'll keep running the same pattern.

Different relationship.
Different client.
Different business.

Same wound.

That's why I'm doing this live Q&A webinar:

TriggerProof: Healing Attachment Styles in Love AND Leadership

Tuesday, December 16th 4-5pm PST /
7-8pm EST /
11am-12pm AEDT (Wed Dec 17)

This isn't a masterclass where I talk at you for an hour.

This is a live container hosted by my friend Tara
where you can:

Ask about your specific pattern
Get real-time guidance on what's keeping you stuck
Understand the nervous system work required to shift it
Learn how to recognize when you're operating from fear
vs. secure leadership

I'll share:

The exact moment I realized I was anxiously attached to my business
How to spot which pattern you're running (and why it made sense)
The somatic shifts that actually change the pattern (not just awareness)
Why traditional business coaching misses this completely
How to move from extraction energy to contribution energy

Investment: $25

Intimate container.
Real-time Q&A.
Maximum 40 people.

If this message landed in your body
before your mind made excuses—

That's the signal.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima

After spending years healing my avoidant attachment
in romantic relationships—

somatic therapy,
shadow work,
nervous system regulation,
the whole deal—

I finally got to a place where I could actually stay.

I was no longer making mental lists of my partner's faults.
I wasn't keeping one foot out the door.
I could lean in when things got emotional
instead of finding reasons to leave.

I thought:
"I've done the work. I'm good now."

Then I looked at my business.

And realized I was anxiously attached to my clients.

Wait, what—
How does someone who's avoidant in relationships
become anxious in business?

Here's what it looked like:

Overdelivering to the point of exhaustion.
Saying yes when I wanted to say no.
Checking email compulsively, terrified I'd missed something.
Feeling responsible for other people's transformation.
Beating myself up if they weren’t happy.
Resentment building because
I was giving from an empty tank.

Terrified of hearing criticism or "no"—
so I didn't put myself out there or make any offers.

In my romantic life,
I'd learned to stay—
to not run when emotions got intense,
to not create distance through criticism.

But in my business—

I was running the opposite survival strategy.

Abandoning myself to keep clients happy.
Overgiving to prove my value.
Walking on eggshells to avoid disappointing anyone.
Hiding from visibility because rejection felt unbearable.

Here's what I've discovered
working with hundreds of high achievers
over the past year alone:

This split shows up in two ways—

Pattern 1: Avoidant in relationships → Anxious in business

You're self-reliant in love—
maybe even commitment-phobic,
emotionally distant,
always keeping one foot out.

But in your business—

You're overdelivering.
Undercharging.
Terrified of disappointing anyone.
Saying yes to everything.
Confusing your worth with how much you give.
So afraid of criticism you stay invisible.
Hiding.

Pattern 2: Anxious in relationships → Avoidant with your audience/clients

You're the pursuer in love—
checking phones,
needing reassurance,
afraid of abandonment.

But in your business—
You go from feeling confident to pushing people away
right when they need to go deeper.

Sabotaging opportunities that require more visibility.
Creating distance when your client need more of you.

Pull back when things start to feel "too much."
Judge clients who are "too needy"
or "not getting it fast enough."

Same wound.

Different survival strategies in different contexts.

Because here's the thing:

Your attachment style doesn't live in just one place.
It lives in your nervous system.

It’s how you react to distress.

And your nervous system will use whatever strategy
it thinks will keep you safe in whatever context you're in.

For me—
In relationships, I learned early:

"Don't get too close.
People leave.
Keep an exit plan."

So I became avoidant—
craving connection but pulling away when I got it.

In business, I learned:

"Your worth is your value to others.
Don't be replaceable.
Be indispensable."

So I became anxious—
constantly proving my value through performance,
terrified of being seen as "not good enough."

For others I work with—

They learned in relationships:
"Love is earned through pursuit.
If you stop chasing, they'll leave."

So they became anxious—
constantly seeking reassurance in love.

But in business:
"Success means independence.
Don't need anyone. Be self-sufficient.
Never ask for –or ever show you need help"

So they became avoidant—
pushing away the very people who want to support them.

The exhausting part is that
You can heal one arena and still be stuck in another.

Because the wound isn't about the relationship or the business.

It's about whether you've learned that you're valuable just by existing—

Not by staying distant to protect yourself.
Not by overgiving to earn your place.
Not by chasing to prove you're worthy.
Not by pushing away to stay safe.
Not by hiding to avoid rejection.

Just by being.

I'm doing a live Q&A webinar next week specifically on this topic:

Trigger-Proof: Healing Attachment Styles in Love AND Leadership

Because becoming Trigger-Proof
isn't just about your romantic relationships—

It's about how you show up everywhere.

In your business.
With your clients.
With your team.
With your audience.
With your family.
With yourself.

If you've done the work in one area of your life
but you're still exhausted, resentful,
sabotaging opportunities,
hiding from visibility,
or feeling like you have to earn your place—

This might be the missing piece.

I'll share:

• Why your attachment style can show up differently in different contexts
• The exact patterns for both anxious and avoidant attachment in business
• How to recognize when you're leading from fear vs. secure leadership
• The nervous system shifts that create sustainable success
• How I moved from extraction energy to contribution energy in my business

It's $25 for the live session,
Hosted by my friend Tara.

Intimate container.
Real-time Q&A.
Maximum 40 people.

When: Tuesday December 16th
from 4-5pm PST (7-8pm EST)

HERE is the link: 

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima

I asked him what was different now–

(After the somatic work,
after facing what he'd been avoiding his whole life.)

"I believe in myself now.
I feel stronger inside. I love myself."

He'd never been able to say that before.

But here's what got me:

His daughter is 11.

Before the work,
if you asked her to look in the mirror and say
"I love you" to herself–

She'd start crying.

His son, 9 years old–

Same thing.

Now–

They can both look in the mirror and say it.

And they feel it.

His wife had enough.

After years of trying to connect with a man
who was there but not really there–

Who'd escape to his garage, his tools,
anywhere but the discomfort of being present–

She initiated the separation.

70% of divorces are initiated by women.

The reason is consistent–

Not because the love disappeared,

but because they've been trying to reach someone
who's been dissociated from themselves for years.

He thought he was always right.

Everyone else was wrong.

(Classic avoidant shutdown.)

The wakeup call came when she said:

"I'm done. I'm moving out."

That's when he reached out.

The Overview Experience was where we began–

A meditation where he finally connected
with the younger parts of himself that he'd abandoned.

He started shaking.

Trembling.

Releasing decades of held emotion.

"I've never had that connection before."

Six months later:

His kids are excelling in school, sports, life.

He told me what neighbors have been noticing–

"The kids are wanting to hang out with me now.
It's amazing."

He got a promotion and a raise at work.

(Leadership emerges when you're no longer at war with yourself.)

He went from angry at his ex to grateful–

"I love her for what she did.
Everything she's done has been amazing."

They're co-parenting peacefully now.

The best part–

"If I know how to connect with me,
I know how to connect with them."

His kids learned by watching him heal.

They didn't need therapy.

They didn't need special programs.

They needed a dad who could look in the mirror and love himself–

(So they could learn to do the same.)

The work we avoid doing on ourselves
doesn't just affect us.

It spills.

Onto our partners.

Our kids.

Our teams.

Our entire lives.

And the beautiful thing about healing–

It's contagious too.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima

Think back to childhood. Recall if you’ve ever been told:
"Don’t cry," or "Stop being so sensitive"…
Maybe even, “that didn’t happen.”
It’s a subtle, but deeply painful cut to a sensitive soul.

Many high achievers I work with
grew up in family systems where certain emotions—
like anger, sadness, or vulnerability—
were basically off-limits.
So they adapt by learning to quiet parts of themselves just to get by.
This is a contributing factor in what’s called the “fawn response”:
When you start silencing your own feelings
to keep the peace and get acceptance.

Because “I’m only safe when others around me are happy.”

But here’s the thing—
this emotional exile messes with your self-worth
and your ability to really connect.

Relationships end up feeling fake, transactional, and manipulative.
Now, from a spiritual angle
(where I find a lot of my own truth),
my psyche doesn’t just let these buried parts stay hidden from me.

It mirrors them back to me through people and situations
that irritate me the most.

Think of this as a mirror from Carl Jung’s idea:
other people’s behaviors that trigger us
often reflect what we’ve shoveled into the shadows.

Shadow work—that practice of leaning into your triggers
and physical sensations without running or getting defensive—
is where the magic begins.

When you get curious about those uncomfortable feelings
instead of pushing them away, they lose power.

You stop fighting what you’ve exiled
and start "integrating" it.

That’s when old pain turns into fuel for growth and connection.

Becoming Trigger-Proof is a messy process,
but what’s awesome about this is it builds emotional resilience
and reconnects you from your reactive self to your authentic self.

And that means better relationships with yourself and others.

If your career success isn’t translating to emotional freedom,

this might be why.

You’re not broken—
just stuck in a family pattern that’s had you fawning too long.

The good news is, you can turn it around.
Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima

Register for The Overview Experience.

I had the pleasure of working with a successful millionaire entrepreneur this year
who has been able to turn her toxic relationship around,
and I can say with conviction that this is what I mean
when I say healthy relationships ONLY require 2 things:

Self-Awareness + Nervous System Regulation when Triggered

If we master these 2 foundational elements,
we can finally break free from the relationship patterns
that have kept us stuck in frustration and disconnection for decades.

SELF-AWARENESS requires that you know exactly what your attachment wounds are
and how they show up in real time—
and I don't mean just on a cognitive level.

You need to understand the very specific triggers,
body sensations, and automatic responses that hijack you in moments of conflict.

Once you've mapped that out
(which I can show you how to do btw),
there is a very specific process for catching these patterns before they take over.

This is exactly what I teach inside my Trigger-Proof methodology.

Your body is a GOLD MINE of clues.
You just need to know what you're looking for, and where to find it.

I've been teaching people this since 2019,
after I accidentally discovered these patterns
in my own toxic relationship at the time,
and I've since shown hundreds of keen folks how to do it too.

You'll find obvious patterns once I teach you how to do this,
so navigating conflict will become way less terrifying—
but only once you know what you're actually looking for.

NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION
(especially when you get triggered) is all about how you show up
in the moments that matter most.

How you respond when activated,
what you do with big emotions,
your capacity to stay present during conflict,
your ability to repair after disconnection,
and the overall safety you create for yourself and your partner.

If you nail the self-awareness piece first,
and then learn to regulate your nervous system in real time,
you'll unlock the secure attachment you've been chasing.

Like this one client I worked with recently.
Six months in:

• Ended a 15-year cycle of on-again, off-again chaos

• Finally trusts himself to choose a healthy partner

• No longer checks his phone 47 times a day analyzing texts in “waiting” energy

If you know your triggers like you know your business strategy,
and you know where to look in your body for all of the above...

It becomes incredibly predictable and simple to win.

So before you have your next difficult conversation,
ask yourself:

1. Do I actually know what just triggered me, or am I just reacting?

2. Can I feel the sensations in my body right now, or am I completely in my head?

3. Am I trying to control my partner's response, or am I focused on my own nervous system?

4. Have I done the deep work on my attachment wounds, or am I just managing symptoms?

(PS - I've built out a specific framework for this)

Am I willing to look at my side of the pattern, even when it's uncomfortable?

If the answer is no to any one of these, you'll keep struggling in the same ways.

Bring it back to the basics.

Self awareness and Nervous System regulation when you’re triggered.

If you haven’t mastered this, you’re not alone,

but the good news is,
that safe secure relationships with elegant boundaries where you’re not in needy waiting energy, where you’re the chooser rather than waiting to be chosen and stuck in the anxious avoidant loop….. Is all possible if you’re willing.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima

If you’re a leader who wants to grow,
Here’s how to avoid this same mistake.

I had a client earlier this year—
we'll call her Denise—
who runs a seven-figure company.

Successful.
Driven.
Making more money than most people dream about.

And completely numb to the fact that
her business manager had been stealing from her for over a year.

High achievers have a specific blind spot:

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱 𝗮𝗻 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗲,
𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗱𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁.

The gap between what you can achieve professionally
versus what you can handle emotionally isn't about weakness in character.

𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗮 𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘀𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 𝗶𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗲.

And if we're being honest,
you’ll notice it everywhere right now:

The employee who isn't performing
but you can't seem to let go (you don’t want to be the bad guy).

The client who crosses every boundary
and you keep making excuses for them, or you don’t speak up.

The family member who you can’t say no to.

The conversation you need to have but keep postponing.

The physical exhaustion that no amount of sleep seems to fix.

I was never told this about growth in my life or business:

𝗙𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹,
𝘁𝘄𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝘂𝗹𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗲𝗼𝘂𝘀𝗹𝘆:

𝗙𝗜𝗥𝗦𝗧: 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘀𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵.

Think of this as neuroscience instead of a philosophical debate.
When Denise's was tipped off a year earlier that
"your manager is stealing from you,"
she didn't want to look.

Not because she was stupid.
Because looking meant disruption she didn't have capacity for.

(Think of the NBA player’s wife that turns a blind eye
to her husband’s infidelity because
she doesn’t want to give up the lifestyle and fame).

Denise had a new baby.
A struggling marriage.
A house.
A business supposedly running itself.

Her manager "rescued" her by running everything—
and Denise felt indebted to her.

Think of the guilt of indebtedness
as an eight-year-old part of her that learned:
I have to rescue others to be worthy.
I have to perform to be lovable.

The same pattern that made her successful
was the exact reason she couldn't see what was right in front of her.

I've been studying this somatic psychology since 2019,
after I found myself staying in a relationship
(where we were both abusive to each other) despite being trained as a healer.

I've since worked with hundreds of high achievers
facing the same paradox—
and there's a very specific system to break through it.

𝗦𝗘𝗖𝗢𝗡𝗗: 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆
𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗴𝘂𝗶𝗹𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.

When Denise finally looked at the books,
she discovered roughly $100,000 missing.

The old Denise would have spiraled.
Blamed herself.
Maybe even kept the employee on because of guilt.

But something had shifted in her nervous system.

Instead of collapsing into "how could I let this happen,"
she saw it clearly:

"What she took was worth it for what I learned."

She had to fire an employee (who was also a family member)
earlier that year—
a brutal boundary that left her feeling sad at family outing
when they wouldn't engage with her.

Through the work of becoming Trigger-Proof,
she'd already been expanding her capacity
for people being displeased with her.

It’s not fun being seen as the bad guy.

And now, facing $100k in theft,
she wasn't over-run with anger any more.
She was calm.

𝗦𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻.

Here's what her business coach asked her:
"Based on the numbers, is what she took worth it for you?"

Without hesitation: "Yeah. Yeah it is."

Because that $100k bought her:

• A guilt-free exit from an employee who wasn't right
• Proof that her business made so much money she didn't even
notice it missing
• The story that will make her more money than she lost
• The capacity to finally run her business like the CEO she is

The transformation didn't come from any business strategy.

It came from nervous system work that addressed
where the pattern was actually stored—in her body.

If you've hired the coaches,
read the books, built the systems,
and you're STILL tolerating people who shouldn't be in your business…
Or you hide from visibility because of the fear of being judged…

𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

It's because knowing isn't embodying.

You can understand you need boundaries intellectually
and still feel guilty setting them.

You can know someone's not right for your business
and still keep them because firing them feels worse than keeping them.

You can want to grow but unconsciously sabotage it
because your nervous system doesn't feel safe at that level.

Before you hire that next person,
have that confrontation,
or make that big move, ask yourself:

1. Am I avoiding this because my nervous system genuinely
doesn't feel safe—even though logically I know I should do it?
2. Do I feel indebted to someone who's actually draining my
business?
3. Am I choosing comfort over truth because I can't handle the
guilt?
4. Is my inability to set boundaries costing me more than the
boundary would?
5. Am I ready to feel uncomfortable in order to break through?

If the answer is no to any one of these, you'll keep cycling.

The cognitive work got you 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙘 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚.

You gotta go deep, because success and growth aren’t for the faint of heart.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima

I'm doing market research for something new I'm launching,
and I want to offer a trade.

If this doesn't apply to you — disregard this message.

THIS OFFER IS FOR THE RIGHT PERSON.

See if this resonates:

You can run a team, close deals,
solve complex problems at work that others can't even touch.

People respect your opinion.
You make decisions that affect dozens or hundreds of people.
Professionally, you’re doing quite well.

But when it comes to love... everything shifts.

You feel like you're "too much."
You're always the one chasing.
Always waiting.
Always worried they're going to leave, cheat, or find someone better.

Maybe you've been betrayed before,
and that fear lives in your chest now.

A constant tightness that never fully goes away.

You keep attracting (or are in a relationship with)
the same unavailable energy —
distant people who make you work for scraps of attention.

And the harder you try to connect,
the further they pull away.

It's maddening because your professional superpowers
are actually relationship kryptonite.

The strategic thinking that makes you successful at work
turns into obsessive overthinking about every text message.

The persistence that built your career
becomes desperate chasing that repels the very connection you crave.

The caring nature that makes you a great leader
shows up as anxious,
overwhelming energy that repels and makes people want to run.

Here's what I'm researching:

How successful people's work strategies completely backfire in relationships.

And more specifically —
how there's a blind spot in your own energy that you can't see,
but it's attracting the exact mirror of what you don't want.

The same avoidant patterns you despise in others
are actually living in your shadow, creating this endless loop.

Most high achievers can't see this about themselves,
even though they can spot every red flag in someone else.

Over the last year,
I've worked with dozens of successful professionals
who finally broke this pattern.

They stopped seeking external validation for their self-worth.
They stopped believing they were "too much."
They became willing to walk away
from connections that weren't aligned —
without trying so hard to prove their worth.

That shift in energy was a game changer for them.

The same people who used to ignore their texts
started chasing them.

The avoidant patterns they kept attracting
suddenly had no place to land.

Like they'd been speaking a language that repelled love,
and finally learned to speak one that attracted it.

So here's my trade:

I'll give you a blind spot audit —
from someone who understands both the successful achiever mindset
AND the relationship patterns that keep you stuck.

I'll look at your communication patterns,
your relationship history, whatever you want to show me.

And I'll share the specific energy you're putting out that's creating this loop,
plus what needs to shift to break it.

In exchange, I want 30-45 minutes of your time to understand:

• How your professional success strategies are sabotaging your love life

• The specific patterns that keep showing up with avoidant partners

• What you've already tried that hasn't worked

• What it actually feels like to be "too much"
  in a world where you're used to being "just right"

This is for you if:

You're successful professionally but feel powerless in relationships.
You're tired of being the one who cares more, tries harder, waits longer.
You keep attracting people who make you prove your worth.
You want to feel chosen instead of tolerated.
You're ready to stop chasing and start attracting.

There's no catch, no cost — just a mutually beneficial conversation.

But only if you fit this specific profile.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima

Today at 12 noon PST, everything changes.

Imagine this time next week:

• Your partner says that thing that normally sets you off…
  and you respond with calm clarity instead of rage
• Your boss criticizes your work…
  and you actually hear the feedback without crumbling
• That family member pushes your buttons…
  and you feel amused instead of activated

This isn’t fantasy -
it’s what happens when you finally understand
the REAL purpose of conflict.

Today at noon, Karen McMahon and I will reveal:

• Why conflict is never about the present moment
• How to identify the past wounds being triggered in real-time
• The exact process to go from reactive to trigger-proof
• How to reclaim your emotional power — even in the middle of chaos

But here’s the non-negotiable part:

This training will be available LIVE.
The magic happens in real-time
with the energy of everyone
showing up committed to change.

Your next step is simple:

Sign up now and
show up LIVE, when it’s time.

This is your final warning before the door closes on this transformation opportunity.

Share with someone who needs to be in that room with us.

With warmth,

Your guide to sovereignty,
and wingman on the adventure,

Nima
(I stand for healed families)