Bobby Gill's Blog

Conservatives -v- Labour Popularity Rating Elections 2019

2019-12-12T16:36:00.002+00:00

Find out how many of your friends like Conservatives -v- Labour below.

It will only show which is more popular on FB but it still comes down to voters and the voting machines.

123 Conservative -v- 100 Labour likes for just my FB friends/voters.
(55% to 45% friends split)
(709,545 Conservative -v- 1,091,730 Labour Likes in total) (40% to 60% split)

Note: This is just a Facebook rating and you know how much opinion & crap is on the TV, Newspapers & internet. See which way your friends swing below...

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Conservatives fans

Labour fans

Bitcoin and Cryptocurrency quick start guide

2018-02-09T14:59:00.001+00:00

Prior to Christmas a lot of people asked me my opinion on cryptocurrency and bitcoin, so I put together the basic guide below.

I skipped the ‘what is bitcoin’ and jumped straight into ‘how to get started’. I'm not a guru or trying to sell you anything, just sharing some basic information below.

Here is my quick background. I've just started getting into Crypto seriously now...

I was going to mine Bitcoin ~5 years ago but couldn't get the rig I bought set up, so sold it on.

Then I spoke to my cousin about it a couple of years ago, to which he said “it's too late, prices are too high.” - I took his word on it and missed out again.

Now I'm looking at speaking to only informed people who are actively buying and trading, as it's only their opinion that counts - and learning from experts who do analyse the underlying trends, forecasts and fundamentals. Also having a group for active traders to share knowledge with each other. If you're an active trader/buyer – you can skip this mini-guide. It's really for beginners only.

There are a lot of 'scammy' looking companies, making big promises and offering guaranteed returns (!?) trying to ride the back of Bitcoin and crypto - but of course you have to join their scheme to participate – and you pay commissions and don't have control of your money or crypto wallets.

- Remember: Don't ever abdicate your responsibility to someone else to learn about investing your money.

- Also remember it is speculative so put in what you're comfortable with and can afford to lose.

That's right, if you can't sleep at night because of the amount you have in Bitcoin/Crypto – you're putting in too much money!

I'd recommend putting in £500-£1000 max. initially.

If just starting and can only afford a small amount, do only £100.

Get started TODAY – as once you have some money at stake, you will learn a lot faster and other traders are more likely to discuss other coins and methods of trading with you.

Once you build your confidence and know how it works you will want to look at putting in more and also buying Altcoins (alternative coins).

You can get the main coins Bitcoin, Ethereum, Litecoin directly from the Coinbase platform. It's quite easy to use, so split money across them evenly.

My personal strategy will be to Buy and Hold long-term (at least 12 months to start with) - and check in monthly to see what is worth keeping, buying or maybe selling.

It's best to avoid daily news and price fluctuations, as if your blood pressure can't take big gains and swings over the short to medium term, this is not for you! Your friends who don't own any, will just try to put you off, as they're either 'afraid' or 'bitter' they're not Bitcoin millionaires already ;-)

Ask them if they're interested in Bitcoin, if they waffle about some 'fear' news story, don't bother them. You will find a couple who are active and you can discuss crypto with.

The platform recommendations below are purely because I use these independent trading platforms to buy/sell Cryptocurrency.

I'm sharing a couple of referral links too, as they will give a small bonus to both of us when used.

You can use other platforms or remove the referral part of the links if you don't like people getting paid for making recommendations. I added them to compensate for my time to put this quick start guide together after investing hours of my time to find out what works.

Anything from these links is small and incidental, you need to focus on actually buying and trading the cryptos, not getting referrals to make money (hence I won't be upset if you don't click on the links or take the Coinbase bonus).

Coinbase is the easiest platform to use for beginners to get started. This is what I used.

This link will give you $10/£7 free bitcoin when you buy $100(£74) worth of bitcoin using the special link below.

They also do a full Know Your Client with ID required etc. before you can buy.
https://www.coinbase.com/join/5a355dfdc3aba20156ad82a8

This is the referral link to get the free bitcoin. If you use this link to sign up to Coinbase we'll BOTH receive ten dollars of free coins when you purchase $100 or more.

[Coinbase do not accept deposits from Nationwide Bank] You can buy with a bank card though.

You can also buy coins locally from people for Cash. Take a look at this site here:
https://localbitcoins.com/?ch=mvrz

There are also ATM's in various places to buy bitcoin.
https://coinatmradar.com/country/225/bitcoin-atm-united-kingdom/

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Popular Exchanges for more coins
Bittrex.com (US based, Gov compliant - Beware Bittrex will comply with harsh tax laws in US) Bitstamp.net
Kraken.com

Jan 2018 Update: Above were all slow at verifying accounts post Xmas rush – delays!

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Exchange with Altcoins that are currently OPEN for registrations (many have been overwhelmed with applications since Xmas and pending verification on accounts)

For Altcoins you can use...

Binance platform (I use this) - once again they do a full Know Your Client with ID
https://www.binance.com/?ref=18069932

Kucoin platform (I have an account) - easy & quick to set up account
https://www.kucoin.com/#/?r=7KNR3x

This is not a referral method to make money, just a small bonus for inviting people. It costs you nothing to use this link - and you can then create your own to invite people.

Another exchange is CoinFloor but min deposit is £2500 to use this platform
https://www.coinfloor.co.uk/ (min deposit £2500)

Note: For Altcoin purchase I found it cheaper to buy ETH and then transfer ETH from Coinbase (rather than BTC)

There will be some MLM’s out there to avoid and new ICO coins not listed to trade so avoid them or do proper due diligence. Often the money you 'invest' is being used to pay MLM up-line commissions. Learn how to trade cryptocurrencies and be responsible yourself for putting your own money directly into trading.

Regards,

Bobby

Join the Meetup Group at:
https://www.meetup.com/Milton-Keynes-Bitcoin-Cryptocurrency-Trading-Meetup/

And the Milton Keynes Crypto Facebook group here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2018841251465762/

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Disclaimer: Any investment carries a degree of risk so please do your own due diligence and play safe by only contributing money you can afford to lose. Play safe, play smart but be sure to play!

Extra info...

Wallet Creation when holding coins long term

Whilst your coins are on the Exchange platforms, they could be hacked or lost.

Initially getting started is more important than trying to figure everything out first.

Protect your login details and wallet addresses on the exchange, as you would your bank account details, and don't ever share the 'secret' addresses.

If you are putting in a considerable sum of money, then you need to get yourself sorted with some wallets and learn the method of 'cold storage'

You'll find more info at the sites below.

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www.Bitaddress.org to create a wallet

Move cursor... use paper wallet

Generate 1 address, encrypt... use passphrase

SHARE Address to give to people to 'receive' and 'load'

SECRET Address to 'spend'

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www.myetherwallet.com

Enter Password

Create New Wallet

Save your Keystore File

Download Keystore File (UTC / JSON)

... I understand

... Save Your Private Key

... Print Paper Wallet

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Desktop Wallet

https://jaxx.io/

Download... download

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What Really Matters? Advice For Someone Smart Enough To Understand

2017-09-07T16:29:00.003+01:00

What really matters? Below is a reminder from a couple of people who have been here before. Hopefully there is a lesson or two for you.

If you take a moment from being busy & productive and just look up, maybe you too will see what is really important in life.

Bobby

"I’m 76. My high school and college classmates are dropping like flies. My time is coming fairly soon. I’ve had a varied and active life from stealing food from hotel corridors to survive to owning 4 successful companies and retiring at 49 to backpack the world with my kids. 35 was my best year. I was young enough to do it all and smart enough to see the traps ahead of me.

One thing I wish I knew back then, not just philosophically, but at the basic level of my soul: It doesn’t matter. Nothing really matters. There is no point to all of the pain, stress, arguments, hassles, and the rest.

I can buy a Lambo for cash and have my clothes custom-made, but I drive a 2,000 Toyota 4Runner with 242,000 miles on it, my pants are almost as old as my sons, I wear shoes I bought in 1999 that still have miles on them, my favorite food is spaghetti, and I tossed my smartphone six year ago. It drives my sons nuts. They want my wife to buy me a new Toyota Sequoia, a smartphone, and something other than the $9 tee shirts I get off Amazon.

But I learned something years ago, long after my 30s: It doesn’t matter. None of that stuff made me happy. It gave me pleasure, but pleasure fades and the darkness falls unless you are happy at your core. I am. So, I’d have liked to know not to take life so seriously. It cost me my first marriage and bad relationships all over the place because I tried to grind my way up the “ladder of success”. And it didn’t mean a thing."

Source: Marlon Brandy on Quora

"100% true and profound based on my own life experiences. I worked for a man who is swimming in money and sinking deeper and deeper into unhappiness.

I have been in third world countries where there was no money, and there was pure heartfelt happiness. I have been betrayed by FALSE friends, used financially and emotionally, stolen from, manipulated, deceived and left for dead.

I interview people and ask them to define "success", it is as if I asked them to define the "atom", the only answer they have is "money". People have made character , ethics, integrity and honesty an under valued waste of their time.

It reminds me of the 5 Life Regrets published by "Hospice International", these are the regrets of people who are in the last hours of theirs precious lives, they are poor, middle class and mega rich, they all have the same regrets, if you take nothing of value from this post, TAKE THIS.
#1 I wish I would have had the courage to share my true feelings with people.
#2 I wish I would have been true to myself, rather than everyone else.
#3 I wish I would have spent more QUALITY time with my family and friends.
#4 I wish I would NOT have worked so long and so hard, especially doing things I did NOT want to do.
#5 I WISH I WOULD HAVE GIVEN MYSELF PERMISSION TO BE HAPPY.
You notice there is NOTHING about success, money, materialism and soul mates. When it comes to climbing the success ladder of LIFE, you better make damn sure you are not really climbing DOWN."
Source: Gary King

Theresa May -v- Jeremy Corbyn Popularity Rating

2017-05-29T23:13:00.000+01:00

Find out how many of your friends like May -v- Corbyn below.

It will only show who is more popular on FB but it still comes down to voters and the voting machines.

63 May -v- 148 Corbyn for my friends.
(390k May -v- 991k Corbyn Likes)

Note: This is just a Facebook rating and you know how much opinion & crap is on the TV, Newspapers & internet.

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Theresa May

Jeremy Corbyn

Do you want to build and grow your network or community?

2017-04-26T16:31:00.001+01:00

6 years ago Simon Zutshi asked me to work with him to create and grow the online media presence of property investors network ‘pin’.

He’d seen me online and knew I was active within various online communities, as well as hosting my own events - in Property, Business and Internet Marketing.

I’d been doing online marketing for a long time and active on Facebook using paid Advertising (since 2008) before a lot of the big corporates were even aware of online marketing.

I’d also helped at and supported many personal development events, from local YES Groups to bigger Tony Robbins UPW events and similar.

As well as booking speakers for events, it was important for me to provide outstanding customer service to attendees as well, as I’d been to too many events where the organisers lacked integrity and each person was just a 'lead'. Things sometimes do go wrong and we all make mistakes - but when no-one takes actual responsibility for actions, service suffers and so does ‘word of mouth’ (and now social media posts) about your company.

People will remember how you make them feel and if you care enough to provide excellent service, which is more than just ‘good enough’. (Thanks to Graham Hill, Regional Director – Buckinghamshire & Bedfordshire of Shopper Anonymous for that reminder yesterday #FSB)

People are the most important part of any community or business.

Working with pin was a good fit, as one of my biggest values is that people should have a good time and feel valued. I would be able to help create that community online.

When I started with ‘pin’, I took on the task of creating and building the online presence of the property investors network across various online platforms and company websites. This grew from a few meetings to 50+ meetings and I was responsible for maintaining their online presence. Once I’d systemised all this, it became easier to scale and grow the online exposure.
The online marketing was all bootstrapped but has grown to a successful and large presence, had I bigger budget to work with I’d have done an even better job.

I also provided training & support to pin meeting Hosts on how to best use social media effectively, to connect with people and increase exposure for the meetings they ran in their local areas. Another task I took on was to keep on eye on the online reputation of Simon Zutshi, the company and the meetings.

As well as the online social media presence, I supported the Mastermind community by making sure information was easy to find on the forum and help them out with any queries they had, whether it was my ‘department’ or not. Either I’d sort it out myself or find the best person to help them.

All your clients (and team) are important, especially those that have paid for first class support.
This belief is what enabled me to provide the best service I could whilst at pin for many years.

In my spare time (Entrepreneurs don’t take evenings or weekends off, unless they want to take a holiday) I would also support on other events and help other Property education providers, as long as there was no conflict of interest.

After being there for over 5 years, it was time to move on.
So I have now moved to Milton Keynes. Why you ask? Why not?
It is closer and easily accessible to all the places I usually visit, from Birmingham & London being within 1 hour or so drive. It was also good for a fresh start and to work on some new projects.

I’m now looking for a new challenge.
Are you in property, personal development or a business related field and want to improve your service and/or reach?
Or maybe you just want to create a community to share your love or hobby?
Even if your idea is to start a Nicolas Cage Appreciation Society, get in touch.

If you have a business and no time to do it yourself, then why not give me a call and see how I can help. My past experience and long-term view will help save you and your team many hours and tens of thousands by setting up things right to start with.
As I did when I advised a new property education startup earlier this month on the best way to set up and move forward.
The digital landscape has changed a lot in the last few years again, so don't think that trying to copy someone else will help you remain ahead anymore. It's not just what you see at the front end that counts but how it is managed in the background that matters.

You can find out more and contact me on Facebook , Twitter and LinkedIn

I also prefer to work with people I know, so if this is of interest to you, read the mini-CV below and get back to me if I can help you in any way 😀 👍

[full CV available on request]

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Solutions focused Systems & Operations Freelancer looking to contribute extensive experience towards supporting progressive organisations in optimising their performance. Through increased efficiency by systemising, making things simpler by automating frequent processes, serving clients and having happier customers by meeting their needs and over-delivering on expectations.

My background is in Engineering, Property, Systems, Networking and Training Events and Social Media/Digital Marketing.

Engineering has given me an analytical background and project management skills which come in useful with jobs that require attention to detail and planning.

I have been involved in property investment and education since 2001, learning valuable lessons through boom and bust, and know many of the experts and trainers in the UK.

Attended a lot of personal development, business and entrepreneur seminars and paid for high-end coaching over the last 10 years.

As well as attending these events, I've also set-up, organised and hosted networking events, as well as helping out and crewing for many training courses.

Extensive background in social media and online marketing, website design from SEO to funnel creation, including paid marketing and CRM.

I'm more than competent in a lot of fields, although not a self-proclaimed expert or goo-roo. I realise I can always learn more and be better at everything. I'm a polymath (Renaissance man) with curiosity and many hobbies, talents and areas of interest and expertise, therefore I have a wide knowledge base that I can draw on and use in other areas to solve problems and for success. I can explain what needs to be done in simple language, by removing fluff that some experts use to complicate things to justify their position. I will listen to your ideas and recommend creative solutions & improvements. I offer highly professional consulting and honest opinions and feedback, always acting in the client's best interest.

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So if any of that is of interest, contact me today on Facebook , Twitter and LinkedIn or call if you've got my number and not rung me for a long time anyway. Always happy to meet up and have a chat.

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Hillary Clinton -v- Donald Trump Popularity Poll

2016-11-07T20:49:00.003+00:00

Find out how many of your friends like Hillary -v- Trump below.

It will only show who is more popular on FB but it still comes down to American votes and the voting machines.

63 Clinton -v- 620 Trump for my friends.

Note: This is just a Facebook poll and you know how much opinion & crap is on the internet.

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Hillary Clinton

Donald J. Trump

Happy Days, Moments, Feelings & Memories

2016-01-23T23:01:00.004+00:00

Why I don’t celebrate/do Birthdays in the traditional sense… and where I’m at now.

My new year usually starts on my birthday, when I reflect on life, where I’ve been and where I’d like to go.

What is it about birthdays and completing another full orbit of the Sun from the first day we are born and see it? Some people enjoy them, others don’t.
The day of birth itself, of a star child choosing to be born on planet Earth, should be enough in itself and the only ‘birth day’ of importance or consequence.

First we want to have as many birthdays as soon as possible, in a rush to grow up, then we wish time would slow and we’d have longer to make the orbit.
Too many people then start to count and worry about the orbits that they have around the fire at the centre of our solar system (that we barely know anything about, never mind the rock that we stand on).
Shouldn’t we be more concerned about what we do with the time we have than the ‘time’ passing by?

So why don’t I celebrate birthdays?
(You can substitute birthdays, with Christmas, New Year, Valentines Day or any holiday where you’re made to feel you can’t be alone and/or made to feel that you must buy stuff for others to show you care).
Well birthdays (holidays) are supposed to be wonderful days with energy focused on them and everything happening as you wish. But how often didn’t the day go to plan, someone let you down, nobody showed up, you didn’t get what you wanted or something horrible happened?
Was it more often than something amazing happened on that day? Wishes weren’t fulfilled, hopes weren’t met creating an unpleasant memory.

The problem is expectations. Reality can’t always meet them. And these days are ‘meant’ (pressured) to be perfect through expectations, wishes and others telling you.
Yet all the other days of the year without the expectations often turn out pretty well if you let them, without attaching so much emotion. Many of them are pretty outstanding if you think about it.

Oh, another reason I don’t enjoy them much is a lot of these days happen in Winter for me - a time when it’s cold, wet, miserable and as other sensitive people that are tuned in and affected by the environment will tell you; it’s just a nice time to be indoors, less social, relax and hibernate as nature intended.

So I don’t value birthdays as much as others do, hence I may not remember yours or wish you a happy one.
That does not mean I don’t care about you - or think about you more often than once or twice a year.
It’s the idea of the birthday itself I don’t value as opposed to the people that have them :-)
I’d rather see you, meet with you and laugh with you any day of the year - to make it worthwhile and memorable.

With regards to gifts, people usually give others what they themselves value highly and would like.
As a recipient, it is your job to just be grateful for the thought and person doing the giving, no matter what you get (or don’t).
Yes it would be nice to communicate what you like and get that - but gifts are about giving, not the item itself.
You’ve probably heard about the ‘five languages of love’, which is a nice thought to please other people, so you are speaking their language, with gifts being one of them - but there is something called ‘real love’ that is unconditional.
‘Real love’ doesn’t rely on people doing the things you want them to, you are just grateful and love them for who they are, as they are, for doing the best they can and being their true selves.

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So, what did I do for my birthday?
The day before I went to finally watch the new Star Wars reboot.
A quiet matinee showing at a time I chose, in a quiet cinema.
(It’s great not following the media and society to need to watch/do things when they want you to)
I received a food hamper of ‘healthy-ish’ snacks from my sister, that she chose.
My current diet suggests I don’t eat a lot of the stuff but I needed the calories so tucked in (I’ll cover that in a moment)
I also Skyped my nephews in Canada (aged 6 and 9) and told them I’d bought them tickets to Star Wars for my birthday and my sister would take them.
(I hadn’t but if they’d been here I would have taken them. Yes they enjoyed the film!)

On my birth day I went for a local pub lunch with my parents and uncle - because that’s all I wanted to do.
In the evening I went to the supermarket to get some milk for the following day and some food. Not very exciting but it also beats getting drunk and hungover!
(Which was expected as a teenager, in your 20’s and unfortunately for the rest of some people’s lives if they haven’t learned or matured much since)

The following day, I got back to the gym and did 40 laps.
New years resolution is start getting fit and healthy again, something I’d stopped doing after getting ill in late Autumn.

Did I need more stuff to be happy? No. Just to do some nice things that I wanted to do.
One of my better birthday weekends to be honest.

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I usually don’t tell/remind people it’s my birthday but I’d not been well recently so it’s the first time I’d left it on my FB and left my status open for people to leave messages, as I could really use that extra ‘juice’ and goodwill to get over this last hurdle.
I wasn’t expecting the first-time messages from ‘networkers’ cloaked as gifts and self-promotion - or people I’m not even sure how they got on my friends list, good time to have a purge I guess!

I do appreciate everyone that has sent a card, gift, message, good wishes - and I also appreciate those of you that didn’t, for still being there for me when I need you.

Of course birthdays aside, I’m still grateful for EVERY day I wake up and there’s no wood (of the ‘coffin’ variety as opposed to ‘morning glory’)

A few years ago my life and health started fluctuating, getting worse just before this Xmas but now on the mend. Like seasons, it was just a time and phase we all have to go through to some degree at different times in our lives.
Losing my business, work, home, health, relationships and having ’nothing’ was a humbling experience. Although one I would never want to wish away as if it never happened.
I remember a friend who I worked with that used to say “If only they had my problems and me theirs, then they wouldn’t complain!”
I’d reply that everyone is fighting a hard fight and has challenges and we should be grateful for just our troubles - and not wish them on anyone else or ask for theirs.

It is in those low moments of visiting nothing, where you find out what is real. I say visiting, as some people forget and stay there leading to severe depression and worse.

This of course did lead to depression (which can come in many forms) and is also known as “the dark night of the soul.”

The reason people have problems is because they think it’s only them and don’t share them, with the aim of getting another viewpoint and solution (as opposed to having people give you attention and ‘feel sorry’ for you.)
Tell someone, talk about it, ask for help and be prepared to accept it.
Most people won't judge you as they have similar problems themselves.
You just have to be vulnerable and put yourself out there.

On top of that my nerves were shot as well and I literally had no energy… I’d lost my ‘mojo’ :-(

Stomach issues, meant I was not travelling much and the simple social interaction of meeting for lunch or having a drink was difficult - so I wouldn’t. It also meant I'd inadvertently found a new rapid weight-loss plan (being ill is definitely a plan I wouldn't recommend).
Not wanting to get up on a morning or leave the house, which rolled one day to the next.
I thought it was life and stress that was causing a clear out of all the shit in my life.
I tried all sorts, from homeopaths, nutritionists, acupuncture, chinese herbal medicine, meditation, Qi Gong, psychic surgeons, intuitives etc.. all with no permanent solution. Just a knowing that I would be well again soon.

Being near a bathroom was my biggest concern… too much information?
Having to do a Usain Bolt beating 100 metre dash at a moment’s notice was priority most of the time.
Well I finally went to the hospital in the New Year and put my faith and trust in the doctors. I had a camera up my bum and down my throat (different cameras, not the same one!) to finally give me the all clear. Now is that too much info?
I did ask if they did souvenir DVD’s for me to upload to Youtube but they don’t (now that would be too much).

Funnily enough I’ve been feeling much better since. I think they give you the hospital food and procedures so you DON’T want to stick around!

It was a great experience being unwell, as although I may not have got all the answers I needed to help me, I learned loads and probably gathered enough info to help people with their random problems. When we have a challenge in our lives, it forces us to look at it and find the lessons we need to learn so we can move on.

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Now if birthdays aren’t important to me, what is?

Moments are what is important.

I’d rather have more magical moments, feelings and memories than revolutions around the sun. It’s special moments that make it all worthwhile.

What is a moment?
When you are happy, grateful and enjoying yourself.
Be it alone, in nature or with other people.
All we need to do is share a smile, hug, a few kind words to create a moment and memory that you can cherish. It doesn’t have to happen at a particular time, it can be anytime and even when you least expect it.

'At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.' - Maya Angelou

There used to be a time when I’d catch up will people all the time, I’d even jump on a plane if I’d promised to be somewhere to meet someone.

I realise I’ve not seen or spoken to a lot of people but that doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten you or not thought of you. I know everyone else is going through their own challenges, so expecting them to be part of mine would have been unfair.

Well I’ve started to get my energy back and the mojo has returned.
So it’s time for me to make amends for my extended absence and give solace to others.

- So now, if you want to catch up and chat, about anything, from life, health, relationships, love, depression, personal development or fun times. Send me a message.
I’ll even help you find your mojo if it’s been missing for a while!

- If you want to meet up to talk about your properties, business, online marketing, then you can buy me lunch and I can help you make/save money. I used to do free Skype calls but after putting in many hours helping people (because I wanted to), I found it strange that if I asked them to take 5 minutes to write me a two sentence testimonial, I wouldn’t hear back.
Not that it was an expectation, it just made me wonder if people valued my time if I didn’t value it.
Hence now you’re going to have to come to me and at least buy me lunch if it’s a money related discussion you’re after. I love to help, so would do it for free - but it’s good to be fed and eat as well.

I know I need to get out more and I’m sure you do too! So give me a shout.

The great thing about varied life experiences is that everyone has a lot of experience to draw upon and learn from, as well as share with other.
Also once you’ve been in some dark, strange, weird places in life, they make great stories that you can laugh about afterwards. A sense of humour is a must to survive life without going completely mad.

This invitation is open to any of my friends I know, have spoken to, met in person or chatted online. So if that isn’t you, it would just be weird.
Also I’m not suggesting you invite me to any ‘business opportunities’ or ‘cult meetings’ (as much as I secretly enjoy such things and a good social), I like to be told in advance where I’m going.

Don’t worry my rants aren’t as random/mental in real life (or are they?)
I like to get my thoughts out of the way on my blog when I can, it’s a safe place for them and believe it or not they’re edited as well!
Remember think about anything you want, while you still can - before thinking is made illegal!

Anyway, I’m not going to wish you a happy birthday in advance or later - I just want to wish you HAPPY DAYS as often as possible.

See you soon and lets create some memories,

Bobby :-)

How to stream TV and movies using Kodi

2016-01-15T18:43:00.007+00:00

I spoke to a friend a Christmas who told me about a program called Kodi for watching TV and films. I'd heard of it and it previously when it was known as XMBC.

Here's a quick guide to check it out. Excuse my grammar and spelling as its late and I'm typing on a tablet with crappy auto-correct.

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Get Kodi

This works on Mac/Pc and ios and android tablets.

Go to http://kodi.tv/download/

Download and install the app.

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Get Wookie (other addons are available, this was just an easy "how-to" to link to so you know how it works)

Google "install wookie on kodi"
Best result is at http://kodicommunity.com/how-to-install-the-wookie-wizard-on-kodi/
Scroll down to read the Install Instructions, follow them carefully!!
You won't break anything but if you miss a step or get it wrong, it won't work.

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Once installed, go into Kodi > movies > add-ons > genesis
It will list latest TV shows and movies.

Easy...

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Now if you get it to work and like how it works, you can find similar add-ons at https://addons.tvaddons.ag/

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If you want to watch on TV either
A/ hook up your laptop to TV
Or
B/ go to ebay and search "amazon fire fully loaded"
Filter by...
Min price £40
Location uk only
Buying format: buy it now
Sort by: lowest price
Average price is £50-£60 for the amazon fire stick

Hopefully this link takes you to that search: http://ebay.co.uk Search

Find an ebay seller with a high rating 98%+ and at least 50+ feedback! Also one that offers some support in their description.
Note: if you have kids or easily bored partners/husbands ask the ebay seller to remove the "XXX" option!

When it arrives, plug into your HDMI port on your TV and ENJOY!!

*Important: the software and product IS LEGAL but what you choose to access may be in that grey area of illegality!

Ok. Sleepy time, I've got a busy day tomorrow.

Bobby :-)

P.S. Doctors and nurses at the NHS rock, just because the Government and the system is shit doesn't mean they don't care, as human beings they're doing their best just like the rest of us.

P.P.S. Here's something call Showbox that you may also want to try out...
https://cable-wizardz.co.uk/topic/6930-how-to-install-latest-ads-free-showbox-apk-working-on-firetv-box-stick/

P.P.P.S. Stream directly on your laptop/tablet on these sites: http://9movies.to/ http://video2k.is/ https://www.popa.cr/ http://coolvideoapp.com/

How To Have Better Luck This Month / Year

2016-01-01T18:28:00.001+00:00

Well as the New Year is upon us, many will be reflecting on the past and thinking about their hopes for the future. Too many people will be looking back and thinking what they didn't achieve, do or make happen last year and feel disappointed.

It is all a matter of perspective though. Do you really want to think about what went 'wrong'!?

What if you focus on what you DID achieve, do and make happen?
Wouldn't you then be grateful for everything instead...

This is something that Dr John Demartini posted that you should read carefully and meditate upon.

"As you reflect on 2015, think about what you have accomplished during the course of this year. It is wise to think of what you have achieved in the different areas of your life.

Exercise:

1. Spiritually what have you achieved?
2. Vocationally what have you achieved?
3. Mentally what have you achieved?
4. Financially what have you achieved?
5. Familial what have you achieved?
6. Physically what have you achieved?
7. Socially what have you achieved?"

Do you now see how successful your year actually was? The great things that DID happen and achievements that make you happy when you think about them.

Let's talk about NOW! Note how this post is title "How To Have Better Luck THIS Month"
People tend to make plans for the future, then when it is time to do something, they fail to take the right actions. How familiar does this sound... "Tomorrow (next week/month) I will do X"?
I used to be a first class procrastinator, so I know from experience. How does "Now I will do X" feel?

Also 'luck' is a completely different subject which I'll cover another time - for now you'll just have to create it with some decisions, commitment and a little work.

Instead, ask yourself if what you are doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow. The actions don't have to be huge or drastic, they just need to be in alignment with what you really want.

Of course it's good to make plans for the future to know where you're going but you need to take the right steps regularly as well. So if there is something you want to achieve, why not START today...

Let's look at 3 areas that people are usually concerned about and the language they use.

- Health
- "I want to lose weight" or "I want to get fit"
Is that what they really mean? Do they believe if they lose x lbs/kgs they will be happier?
Do they see 'fit' as the (fake) or extremely 'perfect' people on TV and magazines?
Maybe thinking about it as "I want to be healthy" would be better...
This way the focus is on a healthy lifestyle and if you're overweight, your body knows what it's ideal weight is (not a 'right' weight from a textbook) and will get back there, as long as you work with it, instead of eating crap food and excess calories for the sake of it.

- How about... "I want to quit drinking" or "I want to stop eating so much junk food"
This time it is about stopping something, which is probably now a habit on auto-pilot. Society, family and you have trained yourself to make this something that you just do without even thinking most of the time.
It's simple to make the decision not to eat the wrong foods - but it isn't necessarily easy when that's what you're used to. Also the habit needs to be replaced with something else, something that is beneficial and will do you good.

Maybe rephrase it as "I want to start drinking more water and fresh juice" and "I want to eat healthier foods". When you've decided this is what you want to do instead, commit to it!
Don't say "I'll just finish this off first though." Take action and either give away the alcohol (to friends) and fizzy drinks, biscuits and other poor food choices, lying around the kitchen, to a charity. Or simply pour it down the sink and throw it in the bin. You don't have to finish it (as you eating it won't benefit those 'starving people' with any twisted logic or justification you can dream up.)

Remember you've not started on your new path until you're moving off the old one.
You can eat crap sometimes later, if you want - but give yourself a fighting chance by avoiding it altogether for at least a couple of weeks!
When I stopped drinking around 8 years ago, I used to go out with my student and work friends 3-4 times a week. During my first 2 weeks of tee-total (and vegetarian) they tested me and gave me so much grief and pressure to conform to my (their) old habits. But I persevered and won and felt better for it. I do occasionally drink now and eat meat but the difference is that I don't need to and it doesn't control my food choices. I committed and stuck with my plan, regardless of outside temptations. It was a test of will-power but you CAN do whatever it is that you really want to achieve.

- Wealth
- "I want to make more money"
Will making more money make you happier? Will it ease your financial burdens or will you just spend more on stuff that you don't really need?
Maybe say "I want to utilise money smarter". This could mean looking at your expenditure and reducing any waste. Cancel the Direct Debits for subscriptions you don't need or use that much. Find a cheaper insurance company and utility supplier. Don't waste as much money on crap you don't need but just wanted one day. You'll find you'll end up with more money.
Of course you can also look at ways to make more money as well - but if you've not reduced your costs where you can save it today - you may find your bad habits spend/waste any extra you would earn as well.

- Relationships
- "I need to find a partner who will love me."
Do you really need someone else to be loved? Of course it's great to be appreciated by others but if you have low self-worth, lack confidence and don't really love yourself, finding a partner to fill that gap will only be a temporary fix.
How about a mantra of "I am worthy of love" and "I am enough as I am"
"I am going to be more confident" - find out how you can be more confident in life and happy being with yourself. You will then also become more attractive to others, as they will see you are love and happy - and who doesn't like to be around those kinds of people!? You know when you're around someone like this as you feel good about yourself too. You don't need someone else to be love - but once you find love within yourself, you will find it around you too.
(Of course this is a deeper topic, I just wanted to touch upon it here to give you another perspective if you'd not considered it before).

How could you rephrase what you think about these areas and others that you want to see improvements in? Can you change the words you use, so they make more sense, have more impact and are easier to achieve?

Once you've done that, you also need to get started on making things happen.

- Commitment
First you need to decide your new goals that you want to take action and make a commitment to actually DO things differently. To tell people publicly is a sign to show the world that you are actually serious about the new cause and activities you are going to embark upon.
This leads into the next step...

- Accountability
After deciding and committing to a course of action, you need to make sure you actually do it and take steps towards your goals. You can reach your goals without this but what better way than for someone to ask you regularly how you are getting on?
To be held accountable, tell a friend (who won't let you off easily) and trusts that you will do what you say. They will keep you on track and support you in making sure you honour your word (commitment).

- Honesty

You have to be honest with yourself and your accountability partner.
What do you have to gain by lying to yourself about what you want or are prepared to do? If your heart isn't in it, simply don't commit to it. You'll only end up feeling bad when you don't do what you said you would.
Also why lie to someone who you've asked to help you stay on track. The whole point of accountability is to be held responsible to your commitments.

If you're unable or unwilling to be honest, then this is something you really need to work on.
Too many people, lie too often and think it is inconsequential. It is not!
Your character is built on what you say, mean and is true.
Actions speak louder than words anyway - and if you lie, you will not be congruent and out of alignment with yourself and life. Don't live a fraudulent life but an honest one.
Maybe this could be the one thing that makes you luckier and changes your life drastically this year?

Now you may need need some new strategies to achieve the goals you've committed to.
You might already have strategies to get to your goals.
Ask yourself, have they worked for you in the past?
Do you believe they are the only way to do it?
Some people are only interested in doing things 'their way' and what they already know. They don't like to find out more or do things a different way. Others don't like to ask for help or accept it - they'd rather remain 'stuck' than do and get what they say they really want.

Why not find someone who has the results you want and ask them how they achieved it.
Wouldn't it be simpler to do it by following their strategies?
Seek out a coach or mentor. There are people that love to help others, as it makes them feel good about themselves, valued and they are also making your life better and the world a better place.
You just have to be vulnerable, share your challenges and ASK for help.

Joining the gym in January and quitting in February might not be working for you.
Getting a personal trainer instead, to hold you accountable as well, would be a better solution.

Of course if you decide what you said you wanted to do changes - or you don't want to do it anymore, then that's OK too. It's not failure if you decide you want to do something else instead or you don't really value what you thought you did. Other things might be more important to you and trying something new will show you what you do and don't value in life.

Remember change is simple, although it might not always be easy.
You know what you want to do, the next step is doing it consistently.

Take The Correct Actions AND Do Them Often To Create New Beneficial Habits!

I've coached and worked with people and entrepreneurs, who started off on one path but then decided they didn't want to continue, it was too much hard work or they wanted to do something else instead.
That's fine! It's your life and you can do whatever you want to. No-one should decide your goals or force you to do something you really don't want to. Of course sometimes it's worth persevering but it's always YOUR choice! People should love you and accept you as you are!

Send me a message to let me know what you're committing to and I'll even check in regularly to see how you're getting along if you want. It doesn't matter what area of your life you want to improve, it always helps to have someone supportive hold you accountable to doing what you say.

Well this was a stream of consciousness that I typed up, then tried to structure so it was easy to read. Forgive me if I go off on tangents - if you know me though, I usually do but everything has a point in the end!

I hope this has been useful and if you want to make a public commitment to do something, then do so. Post it on Facebook/Twitter and tell people that you know. Or send me a message if I can support you in any other way.

Let's make this day/week/month/year a most excellent one!

House prices at all time highs - what next?

2015-09-17T23:56:00.002+01:00

Do you believe in market cycles and that forecasts can be accurate?

Take a look at the following chart from economist Martin Armstrong who has been predicting these things for Governments and Banks for a long time.

(Note: Graph is 'not to scale' just indicative of Dates and direction
Source: Martin Armstrong, see below)

Also note that the average UK house prices overtook the pre-crash record for the first time recently and US home sales also reached eight year peak and prices all time high. (sources below)

Many people may have forgotten what happened when the prices were this high last time and in a bubble just 7-8 years ago.

The inevitable crash was postponed/minimised by Government intervention and keeping dishonest bankers in business. Politicians supported their friends at the Banks with taxpayer money, so they could continue to launder for criminals, charge excessive fees, rig interest rates in their own favour, pay big bonuses and all the other fraud that has been going on and continues.

This money has flowed away from the 'people' and into the stock market, corporations and CEO pockets. The FED didn't raise interest rates as they probably want a good Christmas of spending from people and enough time to fill their boots.

Politicians have been giving themselves pay rises, whilst the public coffers have been emptied.
Banks don't have enough real assets to cover all the money they gamble with and pay their 'top' employees.
Governments all over the world are in debt and many take out new lines of credit, to try and pay the interest on their previous borrowing. Eventually this will stop.
The race is on between America and a European country to finally admit it can't pay it's debts.

On top of that, the wars and instability being caused is creating mass migration of people looking for a better way of life. So when 'immigrants' turn up expecting a little help, everyone forgets how well off they have been in the past and the fact they are also 'children' of migrants themselves.
These poor people have seen the media and 'adverts' stating America and Western Europe are the richest and best places to live in the world, especially as they have accumulated so many of the worlds resources over the decades/centuries.
(See the TV and movies that sell you the ideal lifestyle, as opposed to the News which is designed to keep you in fear and looking for answers/protection from the Govt.)

OK, I think I'm ranting now so let's get back on track.

So what is likely to happen next?

The bankrupt Governments can't continue printing money at these rates to put into the stock market and interest rates only have one direction to move. When that happens and the markets contract, the stock market bubble and property (real estate) bubble will deflate as well.

My guess is that there is about 1 year (maximum) to get your investments in order and get ready to stick it out for the long term. The first signs will be from America or a defaulting European country in the next few months before it goes mainstream.

What can you do to hedge yourselves against it happening?

- Sell any properties that are highly leveraged right NOW, which are bringing in a low yield.
When interest rates increase and prices drop, these are the ones that will suck your cashflow and reserves dry.

- Don't buy house for the sake of growing your portfolio (or because you want to move to a new house), only invest for yield with bigger deposits than you would normally want to put down.

- Leverage can work in your favour in an up trending market but it is even more dangerous in a down market.

- Speculators and those investing in new build, big blocks and the new bubble of student accommodation will likely be hit worse.

- Pay down as much as you can on your principle residence.

- Property and business is once again going to become about the long term sustainability as opposed to short term and quick returns.

I learned my lessons the hard way from experience 7/8 years ago. Fortunately I don't have to repeat it this time. Will you learn from past experience or is another rude awakening required?

The good news is property will become more affordable for people to buy their own homes and there will be the opportunity to buy businesses based on income and yield, instead of simply speculating with borrowed money.

More information here:
http://www.economicconfidencemodels.com/
http://www.theguardian.com/money/2015/jul/28/house-prices-in-england-and-wales-hit-record-high
http://www.propertywire.com/news/europe/us-existing-home-index-2015072310783.html

Hit The Reset - UPW Power Walk

2015-06-15T20:33:00.000+01:00

You ever get that feeling where things aren't going to plan, you're feeling tired and sluggish or you just need to hit the reset?

I've just started to walk more whilst listening to my mp3 player and the following track is AMAZING! (or Amaze-Balls as youngsters call it these days)

Playing Zombie Nation on continuous loop and going for a Power Walk will hit the reset and definitely get you charged up again ready to get back to what it is you need to do.

With a smile on your face and a spring in your step, people in the street will think you're on a mission - heck, even YOU will believe your body is taking you on a mission!

WARNING: The power walk may turn into a run or even a dance-walk, with you chanting or mouthing "Woah Oh Oh Ohh..." UPW'ers will know what I'm talking about with all those positive anchored feelings.

Anyway give it a go and let me know what you think.
Does it clear your mind, give you more energy and make you feel 'Tony The Tiger' GRRR-E-A-T?

This one goes out to my UPW family and mia famiglia Italiana!

You can paste the youtube link into http://www.youtube-mp3.org/ and download the mp3 ;-)

This post is 100% Tony Certified and Approved!

Life Captured In A Brief Moment In Time

2015-06-14T23:01:00.001+01:00

In case you've forgotten what life is about and you no longer have 'time' to do the things that you want and to meet people you say you care about, just take a brief moment in time, to watch this short video that will put it all into perspective. It will be over as quickly as it started but give you a memory that will hopefully stay with you for a very long time.

Haunting and beautiful, honest and true... I promise you that if you still 'feel' something alive inside, that this will bring a tear to your eye. You can read about it below afterwards as the words are not what is important or of value - but the experience and feeling.

When was the last time you sat in silence with someone and were fully present?

Bobby x

During 2010, the Museum of Modern Art held a major retrospective and performance recreation of Abramović's work, the biggest exhibition of performance art in MoMA's history. During the run of the exhibition, Marina Abramović performed The Artist Is Present, a 736-hour and 30-minute static, silent piece, in which she sat immobile in the museum's atrium while spectators were invited to take turns sitting opposite her.

Many people showed up, but her response to one person in particular encapsulates it all. Her former lover for many years sits down across from her. Marina and Ulay broke up more than 30 years ago and this is the first time that they have seen each other again since then.

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“I was fortunate enough to wander into the MoMA just in time for "The Artist Is Present". Equal parts unsettling, absurd, and profound; I couldn't shake the experience. Later, I stumbled onto the video wherein Ulay and Marina reunite and was overwhelmed with only one sentiment: this is a song.” - Jon Burr

Not long after this sentiment was realized, was it brought to life in the form of “Ulay, Oh” - the second single off their forthcoming EP Adonis

Relationships Aren't Always Easy - So Go To The Movies

2015-05-13T17:52:00.000+01:00

Apparently there are four things that kills relationships stone dead according to Professor John Gottman:
- repeated criticism
- lots of expressions of contempt (like sarcasm)
- being defensive
- stonewalling, which is where there is NO communication.

If you're at the stage where it may not be working (and before you go to therapy or decide to quit), how about agreeing to watch a film together?
I'm not on about the usual ideal, 'happy ending', Hollywood blockbuster but something with maybe more substance, where you may learn something about people, relationships and yourself.

A new three-year study finds that divorce rates and break-ups were more than halved by watching movies about relationships and discussing them afterwards.

"You might not be able to get your husband into a couples group, especially when you are happy. But watching a movie together and having a discussion, that’s not so scary. It’s less pathologizing, less stigmatizing." - Ronald Rogge (the study's lead author)

After watching the film together, the couple then talk about certain aspects of it, that will reveal what they each think, areas of conflict, possible solutions to work on - and most importantly COMMUNICATION. As if you can talk about the problem, you are on your way to solving it.

Check out the video below and list of films and questions.

It may save your relationship or at least give you some good films to watch :-)

Original Movie List from the Study

A Star Is Born (1954)		Mr. Blandings Builds his Dreamhouse (1948)
	Judy Garland and James Mason		Cary Grant and Myrna Loy
Adam's Rib (1949)		My Favorite Wife (1940)
	Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn		Irene Dunne and Cary Grant
Anna Karenina (2012)		Nina Takes a Lover (1994)
	Keira Knightley and Jude Law		Laura San Giacomo and Paul Rhys
As Good as it Gets (1997)		Nine Months (1995)
	Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt		Hugh Grant and Julianne Moore
Barefoot in the Par (1967)		On Golden Pond (1981)
	Robert Redford and Jane Fonda		Katharine Hepburn and Henry Fonda
Children of a Lesser God (1986)		Pat and Mike (1952)
	William Hurt and Marlee Matlin		Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn
Days of Wine and Roses (1962)		Penny Serenade (1941)
	Jack Lemmon and Lee Remick		Cary Grant and Irene Dunne
Desk Set (1957)		Phffft [Pfft!] (1954)
	Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn		Judy Holliday and Jack Lemmon
Dying Young (1991)		Red Firecracker, Green Firecracker (1994)
	Julia Roberts and Campbell Scott		Jing Ning and Gang Wu
Fools Rush In (1997)		She's Having a Baby (1988)
	Matthew Perry and Salma Hayek		Kevin Bacon and Elizabeth McGovern
Forget Paris (1995)		Steel Magnolias (1989)
	Billy Crystal and Debra Winger		Shirley MacLaine and Olympia Dukakis
French Twist (1995)		Terms of Endearment (1983)
	Patrick Aubrée and Josiane Balasko		Shirley MacLaine and Debra Winger
Funny Girl (1968)		The Devil's Advocate (1997)
	Barbra Streisand and Omar Sharif		Keanu Reeves and Al Pacino
Gone With the Wind (1939)		The Egg and I (1947)
	Clark Gable and Vivien Leigh		Claudette Colbert and Fred MacMurray
Guess Who's Coming to Dinner (1967)		The Male Animal (1942)
	Spencer Tracy and Sidney Poitier		Henry Fonda and Olivia de Havilland
Hanover Street (1979)		The Out of Towners (1970)
	Harrison Ford and Lesley-Anne Down		Jack Lemon and Sandy Dennis
Husbands and Wives (1992)		The Thin Man (1934)
	Woody Allen and Mia Farrow		William Powell and Myrna Loy
Indecent Proposal (1993)		The Way We Were (1973)
	Robert Redford and Demi Moore		Barbara Streisand and Robert Redford
Jungle Fever (1991)		Untamed Heart (1993)
	Wesley Snipes and Anna Sciorra		Christian Slater and Marisa Tomei
Love Jones (1997)		When a Man Loves a Woman (1994)
	Larenz Tate and Nia Long		Meg Ryan and Andy Garcia
Love Story (1970)		Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? (1966)
	Ali MacGraw and Ryan O'Neal		Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton
Made for Each Other (1939)		With Six You Get Eggroll (1968)
	Carol Lombard and Jimmy Stewart		Doris Day and Brian Keith
Mississippi Masala (1991)		Yours, Mine and Ours (1968)
	Denzel Washington and Sarita Choudhury		Henry Fonda and Lucille Ball
Move Over, Darling (1963)
	Doris Day and James Garner

Additional Movies

American Beauty (1999)		Obsessed (2009)
	Kevin Spacey and Annette Bening		Beyoncé Knowles and Idris Elba
Anger Management (2003)		Something's Gotta Give (2003)
	Jack Nicholson and Adam Sandler		Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton
Autumn in New York (2000)		Surviving Christmas (2004)
	Richard Gere and Winona Ryder		Ben Affleck and Christina Applegate
Bee Season (2005)		Sweet Home Alabama (2002)
	Richard Gere and Juliette Binoche		Reese Witherspoon and Patrick Dempsey
Before Sunset (2004)		Sweet November (2001)
	Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy		Keanu Reeves and Charlize Theron
Blue valentine (2010)		Terms of Endearment (1983)
	Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams		Shirley MacLaine and Debra Winger
Coal Miner's Daughter (1980)		The Five-year Engagement (2012)
	Sissy Spacek and Tommy Lee Jones		Jason Segel and Emily Blunt
Couples Retreat (2009)		The Back-up Plan (2010)
	Vince Vaughn and Malin Akerman		Jennifer Lopez and Alex O'Loughlin
Crooklyn (1994)		The Big Wedding (2013)
	Alfre Woodard and Delroy Lindo		Robert De Niro and Diane Keaton
Date Night (2010)		The Bounty Hunter (2010)
	Steve Carell and Tina Fey		Jennifer Aniston and Gerald Butler
Deliver Us From Eva (2003)		The Break-up (2006)
	Gabrielle Union and LL Cool J		Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn
Devil Wears Prada (2006)		The Campaign (2012)
	Anne Hathaway and Meryl Streep		Will Ferrell and Zach Galifianakis
The Devil's Advocate (1997)		The Door in the Floor (2004)
	Keanu Reeves and Charlize Theron		Jeff Bridges and Kim Basinger
The Family Man (2000)		The Glass House (2001)
	Nicolas Cage and Téa Leoni		Diane Lane and Leelee Sobieski
Fatal Attraction (1987)		The Good Girl (2002)
	Michael Douglas and Glenn Close		Jennifer Aniston and Jake Gyllenhaal
Father of the bride (1991)		The Horse Whisperer (1998)
	Steve Martin and Diane Keaton		Robert Redford and Kristin Scott Thomas
Fool's Gold (2008)		The Marriage Chronicles (2012)
	Matthew McConaughey and Kate Hudson		Jazsmin Lewis and Darrin Dewitt Henson
Four Christmases (2008)		The Mirror Has Two Faces (1996)
	Reese Witherspoon and Vince Vaughn		Barbra Streisand and Jeff Bridges
Her (2013)		The Money Pit (1986)
	Joaquin Phoenix and Amy Adams		Tom Hanks and Shelley Long
Hope Springs (2012)		The Notebook (2004)
	Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones		Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams
It's Complicated,(2009)		The Story of Us (1999)
	Meryl Streep and Steve Martin		Bruce Willis and Michelle Pfeiffer
Julie & Julia (2009)		Think Like a Man (2012)
	Amy Adams and Meryl Streep		Chris Brown and Gabrielle Union
Jumping the Broom (2011)		True Lies (1994)
	Paula Patton and Laz Alonso		Arnold Schwarzenegger and Jamie Lee Curtis
Just Married (2003)		Unfaithful (2002)
	Ashton Kutcher and Brittany Murphy		Richard Gere and Diane Lane
Life as we know it (2010)		Waiting to Exhale (1995)
	Katherine Heigl and Josh Duhamel		Whitney Houston and Angela Bassett
Longtime Companion (1989)		Wanderlust (2012)
	Stephen Caffrey and Patrick Cassidy		Jennifer Aniston and Paul Rudd
Love and other drugs (2010)		What Lies Beneath (2000)
	Jake Gyllenhaal and Anne Hathaway		Harrison Ford and Michelle Pfeiffer
Marley and Me (2008)		When a man loves a woman (1994)
	Owen Wilson and Jennifer Aniston		Meg Ryan and Andy Garcia
Meet the Fockers (2004)		Why did I get married? (2007)
	Ben Stiller and Robert De Niro		Tyler Perry and Janet Jackson
Monster-in-law (2005)		You, Me and Dupre (2006)
	Jennifer Lopez and Michael Vartan		Kate Hudson and Owen Wilson
Mr. & Mrs. Smith (2005)		Don Jon (2013)
	Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie		Joseph Gordon-Levitt and Scarlett Johansson
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004)		Before Midnight (2013)
	Jim Carrey and Kate Winslet		Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy
The Best Man Holiday (2013)		This Is 40 (2012)
	Monica Calhoun and Morris Chestnut		Paul Rudd and Leslie Mann

After watching the films, the couple then go through a series of questions as follows:

1. What was the main relationship portrayed in the movie? This is the relationship that you will focus on in the following questions.

2. What main problem(s) did this couple face? Are any of these similar to the problems that the two of you have faced or might face as a couple?

3. Did this couple strive to understand each other? Did they tend to accept one another, even if they were very different? Or did the couple tend to attack each others' differences?
- In what way was this relationship similar to or different from your own relationship in this area?

4. Did the couple have a strong friendship with each other? Were they able to support each other through bad moods, stressful days, and hard times? Did they listen to each other like good friends? Did the couple in the movie do considerate or affectionate things for each other?
- In what way was this relationship similar to or different from your own relationship in this area?

5. How did the couple handle arguments or differences of opinion? Were they able to open up and tell each other how they really felt, or did they tend to just snap at each other with anger? Did they try using humor to keep things from getting nasty? Did it feel like they were really trying to understand each other?
- In what way was this relationship similar to or different from your own relationship in this area?

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Sources:
Article at:
http://www.spring.org.uk/2014/02/10-psychology-studies-every-lover-should-know.php
http://www.spring.org.uk/2013/07/the-four-things-that-kill-a-relationship-stone-dead.php

Dr. Ron Rogge - Associate Professor in the Department of Clinical and Social Sciences in Psychology at the University of Rochester
http://www.courses.rochester.edu/surveys/funk/

Guide To Beating Addiction with Ian Young at Addiction Interventions UK

2015-03-01T15:40:00.000+00:00

Let me introduce my friend Ian Young.

Ian is an Addiction Specialist and helps people overcome their addictions and improve their lives. Having successfully beaten addiction and become clean and sober himself, he has the experience, understanding and skills to help others through the same journey now.

Having personally had family members suffer from addiction and seeing the effects first hand, I'm committed to helping Ian spread the word and help as many people as possible.

If you know anyone who is dealing addiction, you will know the pain, heart-break and despair that everyone that loves them goes through, along with the suffering addict.

Not only is Ian helping the addict but their entire families and communities in the process as well.
He truly wants to bring about permanent change in the people suffering or struggling with their addictions and for the families who feel trapped, hopeless or lost trying to figure out how to confront the illness.

If you are dealing with an addict, then visit this site and grab yourself Ian's free new eBook "The Guide to Beating Addiction" that's written specifically for helping family members living with an alcoholic/addict.
http://www.addictioninterventionsuk.org

This 38 Page guide is packed with tips and advice. It will give you a plan to follow if you or a loved one is suffering from any addiction.

Get it NOW for FREE and help someone start their path to recovery today.

What you will learn:
- How To Get The Right Help
- The 3 signs of an Alcoholic or an Addict
- The Self-Test
- 6 ways to Influence an Alcoholic / Addict to Accept Help
- 10 Tips for Quitting
- Four Helpful Suggestions When Seeking Addiction Help
- Improving Your Chances of Recovery
- What To Do Next

So, please do visit the site and sign up for your free copy, which will then give you the opportunity to connect with Ian directly for a complimentary consultation if that's required.

I do hope you'll help us spread the word and bring about positive change and addiction recovery within the UK.
If you know anyone that is an alcoholic/addict or has a problem and may need help, then kindly share this link with them as well:
http://www.addictioninterventionsuk.org

Here's to helping more families heal and contributing towards even more spiritually based recovering alcoholics and addicts.

Regards,
Bobby

P.S. The link to share on Facebook & Twitter or to email to your friends to help spread the message is: http://www.addictioninterventionsuk.org

Christmas Gift From 100 Years Ago... Joyeux Noel

2014-12-25T14:36:00.001+00:00

Wishing you a Merry Christmas, Joyeux Noel, Buon Natale, Feliz Navidad, Happy Hanukkah
and whatever holiday you may be celebrating around this time.

I just wanted to remind you of something extraordinary that happened 100 years ago...
On Christmas Eve in 1914 during World War 1, the Germans, French and Scottish soldiers on the front-line called an informal and unauthorised truce - with the other men, who they'd tried to kill every day because they were the 'enemy'.

Original post at: http://www.bobby-gill.blogspot.co.uk/2011/12/joyeux-noel-peace-one-day.html

So whilst the News, media and politicians try to shape your mind into seeing differences and being afraid - remember to take the time to remember your similarity to 'others', your fellow humans.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

Most of the time that battle is not visible on a battlefield but inside. So don't judge others as you don't know what they've been through.

Wishing you hope, kindness, understanding and peace for 2015.

Best Wishes,
Bobby :-)

Remember When You Were a Kid and Life Was an Adventure?

2014-10-08T23:54:00.003+01:00

Do you remember when you were a kid?
Your friends were really your friends... Friendship would last forever...
You'd hang out all day... and Summers were eternal too...
You lived where you did and would do till the end of time... and you were never going to leave the house you grew up in...
Anything out of the ordinary, like a trip through the woods or down a street you'd never been was an Adventure... Just like staying out late after dark or having sleep-overs!
Enough money for a bag of sweets was more than you ever needed...
Where the idea was to stay out as long as possible and not in...
When not having a bike would have been worse than today's equivalent of not having the latest 'games machine'...
A time when kids were kids and your life was infinite with no end in sight.

How times change; you may have even completely forgotten what it was like growing up - until I reminded you just now.

Some of you reading will now have kids, so you still get to experience 'being a kid' once in a while. Fortunately I get to borrow (and return) my nephews when I want to remind the kid inside me how simple life used to be. We hang out, play, talk nonsense, discuss possibilities of things that are 'out there', watch films - even though they think the last Star Wars trilogy is the original and prefer the Lego versions anyway.
Yep, I also admit to watching the latest Disney and Pixar flicks and use them as an excuse.

Now, if you're like me you'll remember those feeling mentioned earlier and great 80's films like ET, The Goonies, Stand By Me, Flight Of The Navigator & The Explorers. As kids and young teenagers they were wild rides of the imagination, yet real enough that it could be you.

Well I got to watch 'Earth To Echo' with the nephews recently and it's the nearest to all of those films these days, with the memories and feelings you're likely to get that I mentioned earlier.
It has been updated to modern times, to include camcorders and mobile phones - but these kids are ready to hit the dirt road on their bikes and ride into the night to see how far they can go, rather than hide inside.
Borrow a couple of kids if you have to or just watch it yourself to feed the 'inner child'.
If you've not seen the 80's films I've mentioned earlier, check them out too.

Remind yourself how great life used to be and can be again; if you just treat it, once more, like a kid on the ADVENTURE of a lifetime - your lifetime! THIS Lifetime!

Let me know when you've watched it and what you thought.

Real simple secrets to getting coaching clients that experts don't tell you!

2014-09-24T20:52:00.000+01:00

By the way, this started as a short post but turned into a conversation (with myself) so I'd recommend reading to the end if you really want to know the whole truth.

(Sidenote: This took me around 3 hours to write and edit for you, in which time I could have almost authored a book!)

There's no squeeze box to get these golden nuggets. I was going to share privately or just leave it as another unshared passing 'genius thought' in my head - but what's the point of having a blog if you can't share the good stuff that will help people!?

Right. Are you sitting comfortably? Then let's begin.

Having been out of the picture for the last couple of years, due to my own life going to shit (literally), I'm now on the mend and want to start doing what I used to; which is helping people by sharing the energy and love that we have within us. Then I thought why not just start coaching again!

A not so long time ago (like the beginning of this week), I simply just got started again doing what I love.
And it's been Awesome so far, as it has also helped me increase my energy, creativity, thoughts and life, whilst giving others what they need/want, which is hope, clarity and help. It also gets me out of my 'story' and thinking about my part in their growing stories (a shared vision).

So, a friend asked how I'd managed to get 4 coaching clients this week, like I had a secret strategy.
So I wondered how I could 'fluff' it up so he'd believe me (like building the tension in this post now), then I thought to myself "Do I really need to make it sound secret, ground-breaking or amazing?" (Now that is what people have been taught to expect by marketers, salesmen, media and mind manipulators.) The answer was no, keep it simple and say it as it is.
K.I.S.S. = Keep It Simple Sexy!

The honest and truthful way is often the easiest, by also making it simple as well.
Does someone really need to sell you loads of books, ram it down your throat through a motivational presentation; sell you hundreds/thousands of pounds of products for you to 'GET' what the right thing to do in life is?
Do you really need to go to lots of events to find that spark of inspiration that lies within you already, is already lit and waiting to burn brightly?
(I say already lit, as if it wasn't you'd not be here right now).

The media has confused people intentionally and the real thought leaders pushed aside for trashy pop-stars, celebrities and those that are only famous for being famous (or public screw-ups). The lifestyle and 'cribs' of the rich and glamourous (who have been touched up by photoshop to look that way) has been put on view for you to aspire to. Is that really what you (or they) really wanted? You can tell from their behaviour that many are screaming out for help and 'peace of mind'.

[littleVoice]OK, get back on topic Bobby, everyone loves a good, engaging story but you did have a point didn't you!?[/littleVoice]

Here's the simple answer I gave my friend, to the question "how did you get the clients."
(I will 'fluff' it up a little so you get the background as well)

- I have always been honest, truthful and helped people in the past.
It didn't matter who it was or why. I've had 2 hour conversations with people, where I got the coffee, they got their notebook out and I answered all their questions. At the end they've asked, "Oh… and is there anything I can help you with?" The answer was usually always the same, "I'm good thanks." Those people that 'get' life, understood. Those that didn't always felt a little confused and like they'd 'taken' from me.
The truth is, I don't remember the names of a lot of these people and it's not important, as anything good that happens to you and 'repayment' from the Universe comes from right angles. Thanks to Roger Hamilton (creator of wealth dynamics) for that lesson.
To make it clearer - no matter who you help; your repayment, karma, help, will come from another source that is out of your vision at the time.

- Getting back to this 'energy' of giving unconditionally (as mentioned above) is key.

Also having been 'around the block' of life, it feels like many times over, I got to learn, grow and help in various areas. Be it engineering, web design, property investing, stock trading (poorly, it's not for me), internet marketing, legalese, dealing with corporations, events management, health, fitness etc… Yep, you're probably thinking you only knew I did one of these things - or 'none' of these things as I have a 'lazy/efficient' reputation to keep ;-)

People ask what I specialise in and what my niche is. Yes, Harry Singha (Youth Coaching Academy) keeps asking what I do; Daniel Priestley discusses KPI (Key Person Of Influence).
Everyone goes on about how to not go an inch deep and a mile wide, but an inch wide and a MILE DEEP in a subject and niche. They are absolutely right (and wrong at the same time). Let me explain, there are many goals in life for people and many ways to get to those goals. You need to pick what works for you.

Well I know who I am and what I do now. I'm a half mile deep 'Generalist'.

As a generalist I have knowledge of 'content' (information) and an increased awareness of 'context' (a view of the bigger picture and how the information can be applied in a wider field).
I usually see the end vision of what is possible but I'll only 'release' it a piece at a time in bite sized chunks, whilst sharing a mid-point goal. This helps others see where something is headed without being overwhelmed with what the 'impossible dream' at the end could look like.
Dr John Demartini is a great guy to listen to if you ever want your mind massively expanding in a short time-frame!

Being a Leading Learner, I love to learn about everything, life, people, various topics, different subjects. If someone mentions something, I tell them what will help them with their challenge. Most of the time I refer them elsewhere, as my work is done and I save my time to just chill and hang out (I need to do more of that!)
Other times I help out personally and simply synthesise things I've learned and help them apply it to their specific problem.
There are times when people discuss a subject I know nothing about - so if I have an interest (I'm generally interested in most things), I'll go and find out more.

That is why I like reading and editing friends' manuscripts before print (as I learn more about them, their life and new topics). It doesn't feel like work but more like 'educational fun'. Yes I'm a writer (can't you tell) but not an author yet.
Hey Mindy Gibbins-Klein (The Book Midwife), I'm not trying to put you out of business, I do point people your way as well; to get their book written, properly formatted and published ;-)

- As well as being open and honest about your thoughts and feelings about general topics, also share your personal life with people, the good time, the fun times and (some) of the bad times if you're feeling up to being vulnerable.

- By helping, sharing and being this way, three things happen - people get to know you, (may) start to like you and will then even trust you.

This does not need to be 'engineered', just be AUTHENTIC!
Be yourself, honest, truthful, let people know your values, character and what you stand for - and always do the right thing whenever possible.
There will then be those that will then get to know the 'real you', like you for being yourself and trust you if you've shown traits of being a decent, honest, trustworthy human being.
Of course there will be those that dislike you, as your ideas will conflict with their values of hidden dishonesty and corporate mentality - but don't worry about them, their time will come to change their minds too!

Also, there is no competition, absolutely zero competition, for YOUR coaching clients!
Why? Well if you're authentic and your awesome self, there is nobody like you. If you try to copy others… well you're just a poor carbon clone.
If YOUR friends read this post, they will still LIKE you more than me.
Mine will have a preference to hang out with me instead.
There is no you -v- me -v- them.
That is a mind parasite planted by those that live in lack.
It just takes a little time to finally accept it but once you do, everyone else is a friend or collaborator. Do you think Tony Robbins worries about people trying to be him!?

OK, back to my friend's question...
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Their question (verbatim): Care to share your strategy?
My simple answer: I only sent it [application] to a few Facebook friends that expressed interest in coaching. Of the 8 invitations sent, 4 followed through with the application as they know & trust me already.

Yep, that was my simple strategy.
(Backed up by my character, value, integrity etc. that they already knew about)
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- So, to get more (four) clients, I just put it out there (on Facebook) that I was looking to have a conversation with some people and help them with their businesses, no obligation.
I knew (generally speaking) that mainly people that already know, like and trust me would say yes.
They know already that I can help them (somehow), they like me (enough to want to talk to me) and trust me (enough to believe me about the 'no obligation').
Around 10 or so people contacted me in total so far and four (maybe five at time of writing) followed through.

- Make it clear what kind of people you want to work with.
This is what I posted on Facebook, when I still had space for a couple more people:

"I've got time for 2 more coaching clients to help you with your business plan.
If you know, like & trust me already - you will know exactly how I can help you.
If not contact me for more info and I'll answer all your questions.
My ideal client has at least one of the following:
1) A published book or a book in progress/being written
2) An existing business or start-up draft business plan ready-to-go (be it shop, internet or property based - but not MLM)
To answer your first questions that come to mind:
a) Is it free? No
b) Is it affordable? Definitely
c) Can you quit/cancel at any time? Of course
I'd also prefer applications to be from people that I actually know, like & trust as well (you will know if that applies to you).
If you're interested and want to get started, contact me right away and send me a PM for more details.
P.S. When I say TWO more places, I mean it.
I don't do B.S. marketing/sales pitches or use fake scarcity tactics.
Keeping it real & authentic :-) "

You see how clear it is on what I do want to do and what I don't?
I also made it clear about the 'money' question, as I don't want to be having people asking about just that or looking for 'quotes'.
It will also attract those that it resonates with and hopefully get rid of the time-wasters and those looking to just get something for nothing (you know the type).

- Learn to say NO.
If you don't think you'll be able to work with someone, refer them to somebody they will suit.
I also have to be careful, for the sake of my sanity and reputation, that I did not take on anyone that may conflict with the interests of my current clients in any way.
This is only an issue in the 'property education' niche at the moment and I appreciate the approach from those that have contacted me so far - this may of course change in the next 6 months if I come up with a mutually beneficial plan for everyone involved.

- So how did I convince them to stay on as a client?
Well that was easy too, I didn't try to convince them of anything. What, I hear you say!?
Heck, these are my friends and I would help them for free anyway! I didn't need them as clients to force my help on them (just kidding, genuine tip: NEVER try to force help on people, they will not like you for it!)
We just had around a 1 hour discussion about what they could do to make changes to their business - various pricing strategies and improvements to what they were already doing well.
I then put a summary together on what they needed to action immediately, what a month's goals would be and then a longer term stretch goal. They knew most of this but may not have had timeframes on getting these things done.

[image teamwork makes the dream work]
Even the 'un-coachable' client was "ready to get it done" after we'd finished talking.
Now why would I take on an 'un-coachable' client? Or even worse publicly mention it, in case they read it?
Well they're just like ME! We are both people that aren't easy to coach or be told what to do. We may ignore good advice because we 'know it' anyway and accept that we can't be arsed at times. Yet there are other times, when no-one needs to tell us what to do and we will do it anyway (and some) and keep going to make big things happen. Also we know that teamwork makes the dream work. And even if we don't reach that dream, we'll get half way there and the journey will be fun.
Once we'd agreed that it was in both our interests to make this happen, we had an outcome we'd work towards - taking out the 'coaching' aspect of it.

Also being openly lazy (efficient) - I don't like to spend more time on 'work' than necessary. So I opted for a mentoring model for the coaching, which simply means I won't try to 'draw out the answers from them', there will be times when I just say: "these are my ideas, are we good to go with them or do you want to add something else or do it differently?"

This harks back to my 'informal' coaching days, when problems were fixed over a drink/coffee in half an hour, then we could enjoy the rest of our 'catch up' and just hang out. Whoever thought coaching needs to be 'by the hour' and billed as such really needs to get out of the employee mindset and be shot! (with some chill-out serum)

Even though I am a Supporter profile and blaze energy, I can run around the Wealth Dynamics profile all day long (see it helps to be a generalist) and as long as I am supporting others, I can do anything in the other quadrants pretty well. If I can't (or don't want to) I always know someone who can.

- Be clear on your 'value' and 'terms'.
We (I) are always thinking we're not good enough and working our way with self-worth challenges.
I tell my friends/clients and now you as well, value yourself more and others will too. Yep, I'm stepping up as well.
Make things mutually beneficial! Many coaches get into coaching because they want to help people but forget that it(they) should be valued too. Money is the standard form of value exchange we all understand and respect.

It's not always about the money though. If you can be clear on what terms work best for you, then communicate that and it is still a "win-win" situation when you're helping someone with their business and to earn more money.

Also a couple of the friends/clients wanted to refer people to me but I had to decline.

Here is the conversation on my genuine reasons why:

Them: "Meanwhile, I may recommend you to some other people along the way who may need a new coach. Nice one"
Me: "OK, sounds good. Let's see how it goes over the next 4 weeks then. Also please ONLY recommend me to people I already know, as I'm more likely to make time for them then. Others, let me know so I can check them out first. In business we can't always be choosy; in life we CAN ;-)"
Them: "Refreshing attitude, but I respect and admire it. Let's see how [they] gets on with the Coach I've already suggested. But if I do recommend you to anyone else… No other reason than I want the best for my friends."
Me: I completely understand. It's just… I can only commit so much time. Also I knew my coaching/mentoring would end up taking on a more intensive role. So I want to dedicate my time to serving you and the 4 other friends/clients as well."

Yes I have a big capacity and energy to take on more - but I have finite time and focus.

I have a permanent position working for one of the best property investment educators in the UK, Simon Zutshi. This takes up most of my time.
I'm also that good and efficient that I can support my team, get stuff done well and quickly, whilst still having energy to spare.
I just wanted some variety and to help some of my friends out at the same time, who may be currently blocking their BIGGER success, that is long overdue to them and they deserve! I have made the coaching/mentoring relationship clear as well - I'm not there to be their fun 'friend' on sessions.

- I've also learned to say NO, sometimes you just can't help everyone. Be polite and refer them elsewhere. You may not get along with them or be able to get excited about their projects. There's nothing wrong with that, you can't please all of the people all of the time - I've learned that lesson by trying to! Some would call it a fail, the enlightened ones would call it a 'learning opportunity'. Know when to quit and not repeat actions that don't serve you or the other person.

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So what's the key to success and getting more clients?
You don't need more, you just need ONE (another one).
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Here are the "Real simple secrets to getting coaching clients that experts don't tell you"

So the process is simple:
- Do good work, be a good person, be honest, put value out into the Universe all the time without an expectation of return.
- Define your ideal client.
- Put the offer to people you already know.
- I then have a simple form for them to fill in and a small token payment to review their business plan.
(As they're friends I'd do it for free (for love) for them anyway, I just want them to value it as well. The payment creates that energy exchange of value.)
- On the first session, give them all the info and ideas you can think of and can come up with.
- Be clear on your 'value' and 'terms' to continue - make it mutually beneficial so it's simple for them to decide.

Oh I remember why I wrote this post now. I was driving back from the gym and has another great idea for one of my clients/friends.
By taking on fewer clients, you can concentrate your energy and thought processes. The ideas start to cross-pollinate.
You will come up with great ideas specific to the person you are thinking about at the time.
You can create a bigger and more specific change for fewer people, than if you tried to for many people. It pays to be focused with your time and energy.

Finally, why did people agree to let me help them. Well that's simple too!
People said YES "Because I'm Bobby Gill" (spoken in a "I'm Batman" voice, which you did anyway after seeing the logo!)

Your friends and associates will say Yes to you - because you're uniquely YOU.
Fill in the blank with your name and say it out loud:
"Because I'm ____________"

The Rules for helping people are also simple:
- Put your energy into helping one person at a time.
- Add value to their life (and it will add value to yours and everyone else's too!)
- [repeat]

If you enjoyed this article (inane rambling), please leave a comment and share it.
If you don't want to, that's OK as well, I still love you :-)

Your friend,
Bobby Gill

Success Secrets From a Teenage Arnold Schwarzenegger

2014-09-19T15:28:00.001+01:00

A short documentary on the early life and success philosophy of the great Arnold Schwarzenegger!

When people say that you can't do something and tell you to give up - don't listen to the 'no'.

Arnold shares some of his blueprint that he learned as a teenager on Goal-setting, Vision, Focus, Rules, Risks and Consequences.
Watch this short, highly charged and emotional video of the lessons learned and getting support from unexpected sources by giving them credit.

Over to you Arnold...

What are You Teaching the World?

2014-08-22T16:43:00.000+01:00

Remember even after you leave formal education and school you are always learning and teaching others. From your words, your behaviours and your actions, what are you teaching those around you?

No longer is this world run by those who learned something a long time ago and repeat the same over and over again.

Become a Leading Learner... be eager to learn constantly and grow, then be a leader by teaching others all the cool stuff that you are learning.
As always, the world changes starting with you. Grassroots change is the way forward, not the outdated top-down approach.

Now... What do you really want to be teaching?

Go out and start learning about it. Be forever an inquisitive student.

Bobby

Kid President: It's time to wake up people. This one goes out to teachers, teachers and students.

It's time to get our learn on, and we got a lot to learn too. I don't know it all, but I know a few things. Science. You're here. You take up space. You matter. It's just science, man. Don't be a bully. Don't even be a bully to the bullies. It just makes more bullies. We can all be awful sometimes, but we can all also be awesome. It's time to be more awesome, and that's what it's time for.

History, we got to study it, so we don't repeat it. But as history does repeat itself, now I'm going to name my pet dinosaur, Reginald. I just hope he doesn't eat me. We can't just study history, we got to make history, and history is made by ordinary people. Ordinary people like you and me and that guy. The world's greatest thinkers, Confucius, Albert Einstein, Justin Timberlake, they put their pants on one leg at a time, just like me. Well, I put my pants on one leg at a time while I'm dancing. You can go, bye. Yeah, you're going to be in the video though.

Life is a school, and you got to show up. You can't just sleep in. You can't be late, and you can't just hang out in bathroom, that's gross! It's like Walt Whitman said, "Yolo." Except he didn't say that, but you would know that if you would read the book. Baby! Seriously read a book, any book, except the vampire ones.

You want to change the world, you got to know about it. What if Shakespeare didn't go to school? His plays would be even more confusing, "To be or not to be?" Is that the question? I don't know what a question is, I didn't go to school. Anybody? Help me out here. I've got a question for you, "What are you teaching the world? How to be boring? How to make the world sad?" No, no, you're not. We're teaching the world what it looks like to be awesome. No matter who you are, somebody is learning from you. Everybody is a teacher, and everybody is a student.

Look for the awesome. Teachers see things, they see when you run down the hall, they see when you're passing notes, but they also see the person that we can all become someday: a writer or a speaker or Martin Luther King. Teachers keep teaching. Students keep studenting. That's not a word, sorry about that.

Here's to teachers that see the awesome. The homework is this. What do you want to teach the world? Do it, let's make some history together because it's simple math. Together, we're louder. Those girls are a little too loud. Is there a teacher that inspires you? Let him know. This is for teachers everywhere. So, share it with them. We got to make the world awesome. Somebody is learning from you. I'm out. Get your learn on. We're making history. I'm gone.

Awesome.

Keep learning, people.

Boss or Leader - Which Are You?

2014-08-04T13:51:00.001+01:00

Are you a Boss or a Leader?

You may recognise your employer and those in management positions.

A boss is someone who tells people what to do, bosses them around. Employees usually work out of fear and not respect. Mainly fear of upsetting the boss and therefore getting fired. You may recognise people in your organisation that live off the backs of others and don't do much themselves, other than give orders and always looking for an easy ride. They usually use fluffy words and turn the conversation to actions of others, rather than being accountable and sharing themselves.

A real LEADER is someone who leads by example. They are prepared to 'get off their high horse' and get their hands dirty, to both learn how a job in an organisation is done - as well as show others how it is done.
Leading by example brings you real respect. People will follow you because you know where you are going (by being at the front) and they know that you are all on the same journey together.

Many 'lazy' people aspire to be a boss and do nothing.

Why not choose to be a Leader and be respected instead for putting energy into everything you do....

The Wisdom of Bruce Lee: 25 Quotes on Mastery, Martial Arts & Consciousness

2014-07-23T21:13:00.005+01:00

"Bruce Lee was a phenomenon. When he emerged into stardom in the early 1970′s, the world was blown away. A martial artist at the top of his form, a captivating presence on film and in person, he was humble, intelligent and well spoken, a combination that successfully shattered the one-dimensional stereotype of the Chinese people as portrayed in Hollywood cinema up to that point. Obsessively driven, he accomplished more in his short 32 years than most do in their entire lifetime, his fame growing to an iconic level after his death in 1973. In 1999 he was named one of Time Magazine’s most influential people of the 20th century, and the awards, honours and accolades he received, both while living and posthumously, remain too numerous to name here.

He was also a philosopher and a poet. Though less well-known, this side of his personality undoubtedly played a large role in the near-mystical qualities many claim he brought to his life and work. In the creation of Jeet Kune Do, his personal style of martial arts, Lee shed many of the traditional techniques of the fore-running schools in an effort to distill and improve upon the core elements therein, creating a style more in line with the flow of life itself. His personal philosophy was no less controversial. Influenced by much of the wisdom from the east, he nonetheless held no doctrine as the sole arbiter of truth, didn’t possess a belief in a higher power and claimed freedom from limitation as the highest liberation. Beyond doubt, a self-made man."

Here, then, are 25 of his most famous quotes. True to form, they are short, simple and direct in their wisdom.

Man, the living creature, the creating individual, is always more important than any established style or system.

What you habitually think largely determines what you will ultimately become.

Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.

Reality is apparent when one ceases to compare. — There is “what is” only when there is no comparison at all, and to live with what is, is to be peaceful.

A good teacher protects his pupils from his own influence.

To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.

Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.

If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.

Do not deny the classical approach, simply as a reaction, or you will have created another pattern and trapped yourself there.

Real living is living for others.

I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.

Many people dedicate their lives to actualizing a concept of what they should be like, rather than actualizing themselves. This difference between self-actualization and self-image actualization is very important. Most people live only for their image.

It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.

The stillness in stillness is not the real stillness; only when there is stillness in movement does the universal rhythm manifest.

As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.

A good martial artist does not become tense, but ready. Not thinking, yet not dreaming. Ready for whatever may come. When the opponent expands, I contract; and when he contracts, I expand. And when there is an opportunity, “I” do not hit, “it” hits all by itself.

If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Moving, be like water. Still, be like a mirror. Respond like an echo.

Things live by moving and gain strength as they go.

Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.

A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.

If you don’t want to slip up tomorrow, speak the truth today.

A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.

The knowledge and skills you have achieved are meant to be forgotten so you can float comfortably in emptiness, without obstruction.

If you want to learn to swim jump into the water. On dry land no frame of mind is ever going to help you.

If there is a God, he is within. You don’t ask God to give you things, you depend on God for your inner theme.

Original article source: http://www.wisdompills.com/

The Hidden Dynamics That Inspire Leadership and Trust - Simon Sinek

2014-05-25T17:15:00.002+01:00

Great lessons on Leadership. How to build trust and connection with people around you.

I felt it was a great video and wanted to share it with you.

Email is great for exchange of information, phoning and meeting people is actually better. It shows you care and prepared to put time and energy into your communication and relationships. I meet up with friends as often as possible and give people my time.
At times it is quicker/easier to reach a lot of people via email or other mass media. This connection is weaker but I still hope you value it and take time to watch the video to benefit yourself and those around you.

People feel more comfortable around those they can trust in an organisation/team/family/company and know they've got their back. Do you feel this way around your colleagues? What about companies you deal with? Are they looking out for themselves only or for your interests? Do they give others credit or try to steal credit from them because they don't feel safe?
Groups like this cause stress and cortisol, which makes people self-interested, less empathic and less generous - only caring about themselves. This has a negative knock-on affect to those around them.

Leadership is not a rank or position in an organisation, it is about a decision to look after the people around you.

Watch the video and meet your Happy chemicals: endorphins, dopamine, seratonin and oxytocin

Remember, I got your back!

Regards,
Bobby :-)

In this in-depth talk, ethnographer and leadership expert Simon Sinek reveals the hidden dynamics that inspire leadership and trust. In biological terms, leaders get the first pick of food and other spoils, but at a cost. When danger is present, the group expects the leader to mitigate all threats even at the expense of their personal well-being. Understanding this deep-seated expectation is the key difference between someone who is just an "authority" versus a true "leader."

A trained ethnographer and the author of Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action, Simon Sinek has held a life-long curiosity for why people and organizations do the things they do. Studying the leaders and companies that make the greatest impact in the world and achieve a more lasting success than others, he discovered the formula that explains how they do it.

Sinek's amazingly simple idea, The Golden Circle, is grounded in the biology of human decision-making and is changing how leaders and companies think and act.

His innovative views on business and leadership have earned him invitations to meet with an array of leaders and organizations, including Microsoft, Dell, SAP, Intel, Chanel, Members of the United States Congress, and the Ambassadors of Bahrain and Iraq.Sinek recently became an adjunct staff member of the RAND Corporation, one of the most highly regarded think tanks in the world. He also works with the non-profit Education for Employment Foundation to help create opportunities for young men and women in the Middle East region. He lives in New York, where he teaches graduate level strategic communications at Columbia University.

For more on this topic, check out Sinek's latest book Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don't.

Rich Dad Predictions - The Good, The Bad and The Opportunities (2014)

2014-03-08T23:01:00.000+00:00

The three things you should work hard for in life are:
1) Health
2) Wealth
3) Happiness

The following are notes I made from (and expanded on) Rich Dad Robert Kiyosaki's 2014 Predictions webinar earlier this year.

- Robert says in the next 5-20 years a Massive correction in the stock market.
Well in my opinion even a broken clock is right twice a day, so allowing himself such a big period to be right.
Although those with market linked pensions and other long term investments DO need to pay attention NOW, else in 5-20 years they will see the inevitable happen, as predicted.
So 2019 is the date, which will be here very soon.
(I believe the market will dip before mid-2014)

Stock market is rigged and insiders depend on it, so trying to keep it that way. Beware of financial planners/advisors, as they are just sales people, not real investors.

A market 'Investor' has a 'buy and hold' strategy that benefits the brokers and market makers, who make money whether you win or lose.

- Traders go with the market, Traders aren't concerned about controlling the market, they are concerned about controlling their position.

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Unsustainable resources, such as peak oil.
A lot of manipulation is happening, trust yourself if something doesn't seem right.

Everything comes from the earth, then at the top of the pyramid is the paper derivative which is the most risky. That is where everyone is.
Stocks, bonds, mutual funds, pensions (US 401K) will lose the most and the fastest, with electronic trading. 90% of population will get wiped out financially.
Also your house is not an asset.

- If you're not prepared for upcoming market correction, you still have time to do so.

- Bucky Fuller said in the industrial age you could see change coming - but you can't see it coming today!

People are now doubling up and up to 3 generations are starting to live in one home again.

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- Understanding the relationship between a "policy" and a "demographic" will help predict the future.
eg. Baby boomers are going to all retire at the same time and need health care.
More people pulling out of the stock market than going in.

Tax laws show what the policy is, Govt makes tax allowances to make people put money where they want it.
Currently Govt wants investors to provide 'low cost housing' so benefits are there.

In business investment a cap rate is a return a business will provide for the investment you put in.
In stock market this is called the P/E ratio (stock price/earnings per share), which has traditionally been 13/14, now at 19 ratio, giving less value than usual.

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Financial advisors aren't educated in the market, similar to mortgage brokers, who are trained to sell you a product and make a commission versus being investors/traders themselves.
Also most accountants only understand maths, not making money.
- Ask the what they are studying!

- When the market crash hits, most people will be wiped out because of their lack of financial education.

- Most people don't address their financial issues because they are intimidated by what they don't know.

- Advice isn't education. Be sure to work with those who can teach you what you need to know.

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There are three levels of wealth:
1) Primary (real resources like fish, oil, gold)
2) Entrepreneurs (get the resources and use them)
3) Paper (stocks, bonds, mutual funds, savings)

Price of oil and resources is always going up.

- The financial crash will be quick and massive due to exponential progression/change.
(The bull goes up the stairs, the bear goes out the window!)

Entrepreneurship is best place to be and get in a business that you can do well in during an up and down market!

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Most people in stock market and property/real estate are relying on false security of prices going up.

- When the financial environment changes, you need to be able to change with it.

Robert is now a 'prepper' as well. Financial preparation, ask "how can I protect my situation"?
Have friends you can count on. Make sure have food, water and defences/guns. Get prepared and stocked up.

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- When investing in property/real estate, take into consideration what industries and economies will affect your investment.

Energy, healthcare, technology and education are four industries that are growing.

- Migration drives real estate prices.

Read "Shaping Our Nation" by Michael Barone if based in the USA, as it's about US migration and politics.

Taxes are going to go up.

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- Rethink your position in the stock market.

- When it comes to investing, it's never too late to start.

- You are ultimately responsible for your money. Take action!

- Make your financial well-being one of your top priorities.
People say they are too busy with work, career, family, children etc…

- Think 'preparation' instead of 'panic'

Derivative are mass weapons of financial destruction.
In 2007, there were $700 trillion of derivatives, which caused the crash (not sub-prime).
Now in 2014, derivative market is $1.2 quadrillion, which is waiting to be triggered!!

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Those who have lost it all have to go back to zero and start again - with 1-bed flat, with a small business.
Taken it easy all their life, being an employee, saving and investing in stocks as they've been told.
Not qualified to play the game in the future.
You can only handle things in the PRESENT!

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Your greatest asset is your brain, your mind and your friends.

The more you know, the more you realise you don't know!
Continue to study, get more information and listen to different people.

There is a difference between spending and investing.

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Difference between education and a sales pitch:
Sales pitch only gives you the good side,
eg: go to school and get a secure job (= pay more in taxes and feed the system)
OR put your money in the bank to get interest (= get little in interest and inflation runs much higher)
EDUCATION gives you BOTH sides, the good and the bad!

When you study the data, you start to see the trends.

Read books; study; learn; get a coach; take action. Do something.

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Recommended reading Prophecy (by Robert Kiyosaki) and The Crash Course (by Chris Martensen)

Below is an audiobook version of Rich Dad's Prophecy on Youtube

Rich Dad Prophecy audiobook - http://youtube.com/watch?v=9egVgFjPrFQ

20 Transformational Truths From Sages Throughout the Ages

2013-11-12T21:10:00.000+00:00

Throughout the ages, there have been many who have had gotten a taste of incredibly mesmerizing higher states of consciousness. Rather than keep their experiential knowledge and wisdom about the higher and deeper elements of existence to themselves they spread the word to others, be it through spoken word, written works, or other methods. Thanks to the sages, luminaries, spiritual teachers, thinkers, and every-day people who had an enlightening experience we can ignite the light of expanded awareness about the higher and deeper aspects of the human experience and of existence itself from such people. When the future looks bleak and the motivation to excel and advance seems pointless we can look up to those who have lived and are still alive who possess that inner wisdom which they had realized through their own personal experiences of an enlightened state of awareness.

The transformational truths that such guiding lights to humanity express to us can raise our level of hope once more to the domain of energy that makes us more proactive. Reignited excitement and passion can drive us closer to the successes we imagined and dreamed would come true. We are all capable of incredible feats. Ask yourself if your state of mind is stopping you from realizing that realized life success story that you undoubtedly had played within your head so many times before.

Don’t let it stay a dream, let it become a reality. Living in the 21st century of our archaic timeline we have the amazing opportunity to taste such consciousness-shifting words of wisdom and we will take a look at 20 such enlightening truths from sages throughout the ages. Allow for these timeless words nourish your mind, heart and soul.

Transformational Truth 1

A human being is a part of a whole, called by us a universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest … a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.

Albert Einstein

Transformational Truth 2

You should be an island to yourself, a refuge to yourself, not dependent on any other but taking refuge in the truth and none other than the truth. And how do you become an island and a refuge to yourself? In this way. You see and contemplate your body as composed of all the forces of the universe. Ardently and mindfully you steer your body-self by restraining your discontent with the world about you. In the same way, observe and contemplate your feelings and use that same ardent restraint and self-possession against enslavement by greed or desire. By seeing attachment to your body and feelings as blocking the truth, you dwell in self-possession and ardent liberation from those ties. This is how you live as an island to yourself and a refuge to yourself. Whoever dwells in this contemplation, islanded by the truth and taking refuge in the truth–that one will come out of the darkness and into the light.

The Digha Nikaya

Transformational Truth 3

“Life is what you make it,” this is very true.
Find beauty and magic in all things,
and the Love that sees you through.
When you look at the world where you live,
seek not your gain, but what you can give.
When a man is poor, and hungers, and thirsts,
serve not yourself til you serve this man first.
When a man is down and seeks shelter from cold, give him shelter.
You’ll receive blessings untold.
Live by the Golden Rule:
Do unto others as you’d have done unto you.
And always remember:
When you destroy, you destroy a part of you, too.
Life is what you make of it!

Unknown

Transformational Truth 4

Loving this world, seeing the beauty in everything.
Appreciating every moment as a beautiful, wholly contained,
pearl of eternal nature, this is the world to me.

A never ending string of pearls…. every moment is in and of it’s self a life time,
and when we have affection and let ourselves experience life without expectation…
that is when the majesty of the world opens her petals to us…
And welcomes us home.

Carlos Castaneda

Transformational Truth 5

We may liken truth to a mountain, and the various interpretations of that truth to different paths leading up to the summit. Many people are traveling along all of these paths and every one, while he is at the bottom, thinks his path is the only one; he sees only a small part of the mountain, and may therefore be justified in crying to his brothers, “You are wrong! Come over to my path; this is the only one that leads to the top.” But as all these people progress upward, they will see that the paths converge at the top and that they are all one in the ultimate.

Max Heindel

Transformational Truth 6

Stop attributing names and shapes to the essentially nameless and formless, realize that every mode of perception is subjective, that what is seen or heard, touched or smelled, felt or thought,expected or imagined, is in the mind and not in reality, and you will experience peace and freedom from fear.

Nisargadatta Maharaj

Transformational Truth 7

Do not believe anything
because it is said by an authority,
or if it is said to come from angels,
or from gods,
or from an inspired source.

Believe it only if you have explored it
in your own heart
and mind and body
and found it to be true.

Work out your own path,
through diligence.

Gautama Buddha

Transformational Truth 8

Every man has his woman within him and every woman has her man within her. Only the meditator comes to know his whole being. Suddenly his inner woman and the inner man melt and merge into each other. That creates an orgasmic state in him. Now it is no more a momentary experience that comes and goes; it is something that continues, day in and day out, like the heart beating or breathing.

Osho

Transformational Truth 9

When you find the way
Others will find you
Passing by on the road
They will be drawn to your door
The way that cannot be heard
will be reflected in your voice
The way that cannot be seen
Will be reflected in your eyes

Lao Tzu

Transformational Truth 10

When we experience the pain of another person, we instinctively want to take away that pain. But by taking away the other person’s pain, we also take away his or her opportunity to grow. To be truly compassionate, we must be able to share another person’s suffering and pain — knowing there is nothing we can do to relieve it and that we are not responsible for it, and yet knowing and understanding what that pain feels like.

John Gray

Transformational Truth 11

How people see the world is often a reflection of how they see themselves. If they think that the world is just a cesspool of lies and deceit, then they themselves may be full of lies and deceit. Watch out for those people who are always telling you just how corrupt the rest of the world is. As the saying goes, “It takes one to know one.”

David J. Lieberman

Transformational Truth 12

Throw away holiness and wisdom,
and people will be a hundred times happier.
Throw away morality and justice,
and people will do the right thing.
Throw away industry and profit,
and there won’t be any thieves.
If these three aren’t enough,
just stay at the center of the circle
and let all things take their course
Lao Tzu

Transformational Truth 13

Ego is a structure that is erected by a neurotic individual who is a member of a neurotic culture against the facts of the matter. And culture, which we put on like an overcoat, is the collectivized consensus about what sort of neurotic behaviors are acceptable.

Terence McKenna

Transformational Truth 14

Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive, because your words become your behaviors.
Keep your behaviors positive, because your behaviors become your habits.
Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values.
Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny.
Ghandi

Transformational Truth 15

All the forms of Life in the Universe may be looked upon as being manifestations of the One and Universal Principle of Life in various forms; the whole of the Cosmos, being a product of the Universal Mind, may be regarded as universal, absolute consciousness becoming relative in separate forms. The universal consciousness of the Universal Mind forms spiritual centres of consciousness in living beings, whereby each being may feel and know its surroundings; and as the kind of living beings expands, their consciousness and power of sensation and perception expand with it; for all their powers belong to the mind. and not to the body: the latter without the mind is merely a form without life.

Franz Hartmann

Transformational Truth 16

If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely.
If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative.
In our thoughts and words we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths.
Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts.
We can always replace negative with positive. Bettie Eadie

Transformational Truth 17

Since time without beginning, the nature of Awakened Mind and Emptiness has consisted of the same, absolute non-duality of no birth or death, no existence or non-existence, no purity or impurity, no movement or stillness, no young or old, no inside or outside, no shape and form, no sound and color. Neither striving nor searching, one should not use intellect to understand nor words to express Awakened Mind. One should not think that it is a place or things, name or form. One should not think that it is a place or things, name or form. Only then is it realized that all Buddhas, Bodhisattvas and sentient beings possess the same natural state of great Nirvana.
Huang Po

Transformational Truth 18

As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery. We have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger and attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion, a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.
Dalai Lama

Transformational Truth 19

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.
John Lennon

Transformational Truth 20

Greet everyone you meet with a warm smile, no matter how busy you are.
Don’t rush encounters with coworkers, family and friends.
Speak softly. Listen attentively.
Act as if every conversation you have is the most important thing on your mind today.
Look your children and your partner in the eyes when they talk to you.
Stroke the cat, caress the dog.
Lavish love on every living being you meet.
See how different you feel at the end of the day.
Sarah Ban Breathnach

Source: http://shift.is/

Look After Where You Live - Healthy Body and Mind

2013-09-12T18:50:00.001+01:00

This is my journey through health and nutrition in the last year. Due to various health issues, dis-ease and stress, I decided to research things that would benefit me and make my life better, I consider it 'health' or 'home insurance', as things had gotten so bad that I needed to ensure I have somewhere to 'live' in the future and call home. So never mind about the stories for now, on how we got here, lets move forward with the solutions. Here are my findings…

Of course there could be an entire book on each section, so be grateful I've put the 'highlights' into one short(ish) blog post for you to check out. (That was the intention and I have been adding bits since I started).
This has been compiled from many random ideas and areas, so may not 'flow' so well but all the information I want to share can be found if you read it all, then back to front and dip into the different sections.

This is what I'd recommend that you look at and USE to find out if it is good and works for you.
Of course it takes work and habit building to get used to a diet change (diet meaning "what you eat" not "lose weight plan"). Once you do make the changes though, you'll feel better for it.

Buying REAL food will cost more money than you're used to, I know as I spent most of my money on this in the last year. But if you don't invest in yourself and prefer to waste it on other stuff, then that's your choice. People always find time and money to spend on those things they VALUE. Is valuing your health, nutrition and wellbeing more important than everything else?
Look after your body as it's the only place you have to live.

Remember your diet and food intake is only part of the important stuff to ensure you have somewhere to live (your body).

As well as the food stuff listed below, also keep in check your mind, associations and environment. I'm going to cover the basics of the others briefly.

The issue is never what you originally think it is or as complicated. Remember a car (your body) is a complicated machine but it usually only takes a small simple part/nut/bolt that may become loose and cause problems elsewhere in the vehicle. It's about finding that small tweak that you need, diet helps but you also need to check on all the other factors.
You can go see a mechanic/specialist (doctor, energy healer, acupuncturist, herbalist, homeopath etc.) or if they can't find the problem, keep looking and maybe train/become a specialist yourself. It does not take as long as 'they' want you to believe to become knowledgeable about anything, you just need to be good at asking questions, finding answers and listening/learning.

What goes in is what comes out, so GIGO (garbage in=garbage out). This applies to your physical body through digestion and your mind. Your mind is very powerful and will manifest most of your ill health and dis-ease, so dealing with the food intake is only a small part of getting back to full and vital health.

Body: What you eat (covered below) and exercise. Check out "4 Hour Body by Tim Ferris" book for the exercise stuff. Create better habits for eating and exercising. Even if you just start with gentle exercise such as swimming and a sauna. http://fourhourbody.com/

Mind: Relax and meditate more. Meditation has two forms, there is the stuff that relaxes you and puts you to sleep and then there is the wakeful meditation, that wakes you up and makes you AWARE of everything.
The Vortex by Abraham Hicks http://www.abraham-hicks.com/

Use your computer less or mindfully. Safari Browser add-on 'Mindful Browsing' - http://www.mindfulbrowsing.com can block access to time wasting sites like Facebook and Gmail etc.
Firefox Browser use 'Consciousness Bell' to stop and become mindful for a moment: https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/consciousness-bell/
Go to the bar at the top of Firefox Browser, then Tools > Add-Ons > Extensions > Consciousness Bell > Preferences, to change the settings

Habits- become aware, choose to consciously stop, stop, replace with new empowering habit. Don't beat yourself if you slip, just breathe and start again.

Remember these are my experiences and may not work for you. (Although your resistance might be from your mind to the idea of changing)

Associations: Avoid people that talk negative, always seem to have problems, bring you down. Seek out and replace them with people that are positive, work their way through things, uplift your soul!
It is common sense - you don't need to save anyone, it's THEIR journey, dump them if it is affecting you! Nope don't need to hear your rationalisation and excuses/reasons.

Environment: The things that are around you and what you allow to enter your mind and body.
TV, media, radio, where you live and work/career. Avoid watching crap TV. Don't read/listen to 'News' daily (if it's important for you, you will hear about it eventually). I'm not saying ignore the 'bad' (perceived) news, just see the benefits of it and solutions - not the fear and problems they are selling!
A lot of the stuff that you see and hear throughout the day is subliminal and you unconsciously pick it up, be aware of it and reject it. Are those that live around you inspiring or is it time to move?
Fill the gaps with good material (films, documentaries, books, audios) that inspires you and supports you. Find a hobby you enjoy to keep you busy and occupied.
Don't give your 'energy' to pendulums and false idols that will feed off it, ie. don't get emotionally invested in some other celebrity's journey or TV show. Put that emotional investment into your own life.

Sunlight - make sure you go out in the sun as often as possible. Not too long that it burns you though, best times are early morning or late afternoon. Lack of sun affect you in winter? Get a SAD (seasonal affected disorder) light from http://www.sad.org.uk/recommended.php
If lack of sunlight affects you that much, move somewhere sunny.

Oxygen - Remember to BREATHE. Properly and deeply. Can help with doing aerobic exercise and/or listening to breathing meditation CDs. I still need to work on my breathing regularly, sometimes breathing shallow or forgetting to breathe properly. Of ALL the personal development events and seminars I've been to this is the MOST important lesson I've ever learned.

Work - do you enjoy your job? If not see if you can improve conditions, eg. Transfer to different department, ask to go on a training course to improve your skills, work from home, ask for flexible hours. Really dislike it? Get a new job or start a business on the side.
Many businesses can be started cheaply, provide training, you can do part-time and from home.
Look into Internet Marketing business which you can do from anywhere in the world from a laptop, for example: check out www.NetworkMillionaire.net/biz/

Energy: This will be noticed more by sensitive people, especially if your energy is low or not well protected it will be affected by weather change, big 'news' on Earth, other planetary effects, other people around you.
Look after your energy fields and your sensitivity around other people. A lot more can be said on this but it still won't answer your questions. To keep it simple look after your energy, rest if you need to; say 'No' to requests if you don't feel like it, stay away from people that make you feel 'bad' and find out more about managing your energy.

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” -Nikola Tesla

Energy blockages are from the past/present/future when something happened to you or somebody said something, you interpreted it a certain way and locked it in. Be responsible for your own thoughts and how you react to situations.
Learn to trust people more. If they betray that trust, forgive them, remember the lessons learned and move on. Being defensive may protect you but it also limits your experience and learning. Don't grip onto heartache and bad feelings.

Hope I covered enough there, see my compiled food info below.

Don't believe everything I write about, research it yourself and most importantly try it out and experience it for yourself.
None of it is likely to kill you, slow death foods can be bought from McDonalds and your local supermarkets (read the ingredients on labels). Quicker death supplements can be prescribed by your regular doctors (read the warning labels).

>> Use Google to find out more info on these products and why they are beneficial/good for you, then try them out <<

Regards,
Bobby

P.S. Please share the link to this page if you find it of value (it took me a few hours to write and months of education and experimentation on myself)

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You know what to avoid! Usually you just don't want to as you are addicted to the products.
Stop buying them or keeping them in your fridge, even if it is for your partner/family etc. If they want crap, let them go out and get it for themselves. They may even benefit from the good stuff that you are going to take. (my 4 and 7 year old nephews love to try new stuff I get, especially the different juices and they've taken a liking to chia seed too!)

So let's get the "what to avoid" list out of the way first. By 'avoid' I mean things you know you should 'cut down' on as much as you can/are prepared to:
Alcohol
Sugar
Wheat
Dairy
Coffee
Meat
Refined food
Processed crap
Fast food
Fake juices and flavoured water (read the label to see if the main ingredients are water, then SUGAR)
Replace your regular salt and pepper with whole pepper and rock salts, that you need to use a grinder for. You will find that they also taste much better as well.
Regular fruit and vegetables, as many as 50 pesticides can be found on many of them and you can only wash off so much, the rest of course finds its way into the food and into your body.
Companies and food producers are not required to label GMO (genetically modified) foods, fruit, veg. So if it doesn't say "Organic" it probably isn't (Google:"Monsanto")
Buy ORGANIC Fruit and vegetable whenever you can!
You can't always guarantee an Organic 'label' as it costs money but your local health food shop will be able to tell you the source of their products and if they are 'natural' (eg. grown in the wild/Amazon etc.) You can also tell after eating the organic/real/natural fruit and nuts if it tastes 'real' and natural or is relatively tasteless and processed.
It is supermarket 'packaged' products you have to watch out for that is not labelled Organic!

If you must eat meat and eggs, make sure it is locally farm reared. When you eat it, think about and be grateful for the animal that you're about to consume.
Eat consciously, read labels and research non-natural ingredient names you do not understand to find out what addictive and/or dangerous chemicals companies encourage you to put in your bodies so they can make profit.

Food:
Dark Leafy Greens - Kale, spinach, asaparagus, broccoli
Hemp Seeds (contain all 22 amino acids, and a balanced ratio of essential fatty acids)
Nuts
- Chia seed for Omega 3 (organic, dark) - sprinkle on food or mix with water to drink - contain essential fats, dietary fibre, protein, vitamins and minerals
- Brazil nuts (organic) contains good quantities of vitamins, anti-oxidants and minerals. Including vitamin E, B-complex, protein, calcium, iron, zinc, selenium, magnesium, copper, manganese, potassium, and phosphorus.
- Walnuts (organic) are rich source of energy and contain health benefiting nutrients, minerals, antioxidants and vitamins that are essential for optimum health. Include omega 3, vitamin E, manganese, copper, potassium, calcium, iron, magnesium, zinc, and selenium
Many people recommend and swear by a 'raw food' diet. I personally prefer to have at least one hot meal a day, especially in cold weather. Jacket Potatoes (these are not essential but I do love my JP's for dinner, so I'm recommending them)

Check out the Hippocrates Health Institute and Dr. Brian Clements: http://www.hippocratesinst.org/

Eat less Acidic foods and more Alkaline foods.

"Cancerous tissues are acidic, whereas healthy tissues are alkaline. Water splits into H+ and OH- ions, if there is an excess of H+, it is acidic; if there is an excess of OH- ions, then it is alkaline." - Dr. Otto Heinrich Warburg on The Root Cause of Cancer; effectively stating that 'Cancer can not exist in an alkaline body'!

Click on image below to Enlarge. Source and more great charts (go take a look) at:
http://www.phreshproducts.com/ph-charts/

Drink:
Lots of water, ideally with a slice of fresh lemon (lemon actually alkalises the water making it better for you)
Coconut water for better hydration, potassium and electrolytes (I prefer www.VitaCoco.com)
Fresh Vegetable juice, made yourself from organic vegetables
Fresh Fruit Juice
Find juice recipes from Jason Vale here www.juicemaster.com
Remove cow juice (dairy milk) from your diet, alternatives to try are Soya milk (organic of course), Almond milk, Coconut milk.

Read about the Dairy Delusion here, written by Eric Edmeades: http://www.thehumandiet.com/

Want Juicing recipes? Check out Juicemaster Jason Vale: http://www.juicemaster.com/recipes/

Greens in general are good but taste like swamp water
The following are nicer but still have a slight gritty/muddy taste ;-)
Well worth it for the benefits though.

Athletic Greens (see below for ingredients and suppliers)
Amazing Grass Green Superfood Drink Powder (see below for ingredients and suppliers)
Vega One (see below for ingredients and suppliers)

Essential Supplements:
- B12 drops
- Vitamin D drops
- Calcium and selenium will be covered by the nuts
- Omega 3 will be covered by the Chia Seeds

Diet programmes, fads and supplements are only good for people who eat lots of crappy processed food and have a poor diet to start with.
Anyone who changes their diet away from refined, processed foods to a lower calorie 'shake' will see an improvement, although I am wary of the contents and trying to decipher the questionable ingredients of many of them.
If you are already eating sensibly and want to improve your diet and health, then check out Vega products for "clean, plant based nutrition" - http://myvega.com/
Vega One is similar to (in my opinion and to give you an idea) a 'slim fast shake' - not for the purpose of losing weight but the fact it works as a meal replacement by making you feel full, from all that good stuff they cram in there.
You should look at real health supplements and changing your eating habits for the long term, not a get fit quick scheme or fad diets.

Your GI Tract (gastrointestinal) is apparently like a second brain and hosts 80% of the body's immune function.
All-In-One for Immune system, digestive health, muscle repair and brain function:
GlutImmune (www.red23.co.uk or www.health-organic.co.uk)
Body Ecology Vitality SuperGreen (see below for ingredients and suppliers)

Leaky gut and body tissue repair:
L-glutamine (maximum recommended dose up to 40g daily)
Probiotics (check out "Ultimate Flora" with multi Billion cultures per capsule www.rednewlife.com)
Chia Seed

Google or Ebay suppliers of L-Glutamine and Ultimate Flora
Organic Chia Seed you can find in your local health food stores

Skin:
Coconut oil (www.coconoil.com) - can be used for body, cooking and many other uses
Olive Oil (Cold pressed virgin) for body and face and cooking
Raw Skin Food, natural products for face (www.rawskinfood.com)
Don't put on skin what you wouldn't put in your mouth! As it always finds it's way into the body.

Hair:
Check out the following site for more info: www.nicehair.org

Body:
Back pain and/or posture issues - consult a "Bowen Therapy" Practitioner or Kinesiologist to get 'balanced'

Other interesting stuff:
- Chlorella (broken cell wall) for detox
- BioAstin Astaxanthin, powerful antioxidant - http://www.bioastin-uk.com/bioastin_astaxanthin.htm
- Coconut milk or coconut water Kefir (probiotics) - google for more info
- Skate Fish Liver Oil (omega oils, Vit A and Vit D, pineal gland)
- Horse milk capsule for skin conditions (to research http://www.equilac.co.uk/ )
- Bovine Colostrum for development of a sound body, effective and efficient metabolism and increased immune function ( to research http://www.immunetree.com/colostrum.php )
- Coriander (aka Cilantro) Seed Oil (only essential oil therapeutic grade, to research)
- Panaseeda Five Oil Blend (to research/USA Only)
- 'Silicea 30c' pills for skin and hair (consult homeopath and research before use)
- For diarrhoea, buy Loperamide - this is a 'legal' over the pharmacy/chemist counter Opioid (google "opioid" to see benefits of opium, poppy seeds, morphine)
- Turpentine 100% Pure Gum medicinal grade for candida (DO NOT take until you have researched fully)

"On the topic of stress and inflammation, Adam explained that when you’re upset, there’s a direct neurological connection to your gut. Interestingly, your skin and gastrointestinal tract (GI tract) are continuous, like a donut shape, so any gut issues will show-up on your skin. Inflammation in your gut is largely due to stress and diet. An inflamed gut attracts water (bloating) which can be a temporary discomfort. However, when the GI tract is inflamed over a long period of time, the chronic inflammation damages the cells and results in something called “leaky gut”. In a healthy gut, cells are positioned tightly together. In contrast, the damaged cells in a leaky gut are held loosely together which results in particles leaking into the blood stream that shouldn’t be there. This can break down the immune system and result in a wide range of chronic diseases including skin cancer, diabetes, Alzheimer’s and congestive heart failure. To improve your nutrition he suggests adding glutamine, probiotics and omega 3s. "
Source: http://dreamhealer.wordpress.com/2013/08/14/the-gut-connection/
Source: http://dreamhealer.wordpress.com/2013/08/28/adam-mcleod-dreamhealer-in-toronto/

Healthy living is a way of being and commitment to better eating habits, the same way people commit themselves to 'bad' habits such as eating chocolate bars, drinking fizzy pop, alcohol consumption and smoking cigarettes for example. These are choices that have been made and a continuing commitment to continue with.

Decide today to replace chosen 'bad' habits with better ones that serve you and your health.

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Athletic Greens (www.athleticgreens.co.uk)
Athletic Greens Ingredients

Alkaline, Nutrient Dense Raw Superfood Complex 8393mg
Organic Spirulina, Lecithin (95% phosphatides), Organic Apple powder, Organic, Inulin (F.O.S. pre-biotics), Organic Wheatgrass Juice powder, Organic Alfalfa powder, Chlorella Powder, Organic Flaxseed Powder, Organic Barley Leaf powder, Acerola, Cherry Fruit Juice powder Extract (10:1), Organic Broccholi Flower Powder, Carica Papaya Powder, Pineapple Fresh Fruit Concentrate (10:1), Brown Rice Bran, Organic Bilberry Fresh Fruit Extract (100:1), Organic Red Beet Juice Powder, Rosehip Fruit Powder (Rosa canina), Carrot Root Powder, Organic Spinach Leaf Powder, Cocoa Bean Polyphenol Extract, Grapeseed Extract (120:1) (std.95%O.P.C.), Green Tea Extract (Camellia sinensis) (10:1), Licorice Root Powder, Ginger Rhizome Powder, Slippery Elm Bark Powder (Ulmus rubra), Kelp Whole Plant Powder
Nutrient Dense Natural Extracts, Herbs, and Antioxidants 3063 mg
Alkaline Pea Protein Isolate, Citrus Bioflavonoids Extract, Globe artichoke extract (15:1), Citric acid (Anhydrous), Siberian Ginseng Root Extract (10:1), Gotu Kola Extract (4:1), Rosemary Leaf Extract (4:1), Milk Thistle Seed Extract (70:1), Schizandra Chinesis Fruit Extract (5:1), Alpha-Lipoic Aci, Withania somnifera (Ashwaganda) Extract (20:1), Co-enzyme Q-10 (Ubidecarenone)

Digestive Enzyme and Super Mushroom Complex 220 mg
Astragalus Membranaceus Root Extract (20:1), Bromelain (dietary enzyme), Burdock Root Powder, Reishi Mushroom Powder, Shiitake Mushroom Powder

Dairy Free Probiotics:
Lactobacillus acidophilus (freeze dried Non Dairy Pro-biotic)     3.5 Billion
Bifidobacterium bifidum (freeze dried Non Dairy Pro-biotic)     3.5 Billion

Other Ingredients: Naturally flavored in an organic base of papaya, broccoli, cherry powder, carrot, pineapple, carob and natural vanilla

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Amazing Grass Green Superfood Drink Powder (www.blueherbs.co.uk)
Amazing Grass Green Superfood Drink Powder Ingredients

Wheat grass, barley grass, alfalfa, spirulina, spinach, chlorella, broccoli, acai, maca, carrot, beet, raspberry, rosehips, pineapple, goji berries, green tea, acerola cherry, flax seed powder, apple pectin fibre, L. Acidophilus alpa and beta amylase, protease, lipase, lactase, cellulase.* Exact ingredients vary depending on flavour.

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Vega One (www.red23.co.uk or www.blueherbs.co.uk)
Vega One Ingredients

Complete Protein Blend: pea protein, saviseed protein, hemp seed protein, sprouted whole grain brown rice protein,

Omega 3 EFA Blend: flax seed, chia seed,

Green Blend: chlorella (cracked cell, high CGF), alfalfa (grass), spinach (leaf), broccoli (floret), kale (leaf)

Antioxidant Blend (ORAC 1000):
grape seed extract, maqui berry, goji fruit, acai berry, pomegranate seed, mangosteen fruit,

Probiotic blend: lactobacillus acidophilus LA-14, Bifidobacterium bifidum Bb-02,

Digestive Enzyme Blend: Protease (plant and bacterial), aminopeptidase, HemiSEB (amylase, pectinase, phytase, hemicellulose, pectinase, phytase, hemicellulose), Organic gelatinized maca root, Inulin (from chicory root)

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Body Ecology Vitality SuperGreen (www.red23.co.uk or www.health-organic.co.uk)
Body Ecology Vitality SuperGreen Ingredients

Algae: Yaeyama Chlorella; Red Marine Algae; Dulse powder (Palmaria Palmata) Cereal Grass: Barley Grass Juice; Alfalfa Juice Intestinal Support Blend: Glutimmune (peptide-bonded Glutamine); Chicory Root Inulin (fiber); Flax Seed Fiber; Fermented Soy Lecithin (GMO free); Aloe Vera Extract (200:1) Fermented Vegetable Blend: Organic Spinach, Organic Parsley, Organic Kale Fermented Algae Blend: Spirulina, BioAstin Astaxanthin, Chlorella, Dunaliella Salina, Kelp, Barley Grass, Oat Grass, Alfalfa Grass, Barley Flakes, Malt Extract Probiotics: Lactobacillus Acidophilus, Lactobacillus Delbreukii (caseii, bulgaricus, causasicus, fermenti, plantarum, brevis, helveticus, leichmanni, lactis.) Bifidabacterium Bifidum, Saccharomyces Boulardii, Saccharomyces Cerevisiae Super Supplement Blend: Rice X (stabilized anti-oxidant from rice bran); Acerola extract; Rhodiola Rosea; Bilberry Extract; Biovin Grapeseed Extract; Beta 1,3 glucan (dual standard) Vanilla and Stevia

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