Relationship Phoenix : Relations Never Dies

heart wall : Concerns

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 12:53:29 PDT

1. What is the heart wall?

Have you ever wondered why your relationships never last or why you feel like you have financial blocks to success? What Dr. Bradley Nelson had discovered is that 8 out of 10 of us build something around our heart called a "Heart Wall". What happens is that there are trapped emotions that create a wall around our heart, which blocks us from living life to its fullest.

2. Why is removing it so important?

This is a wall that seemingly protects us from getting hurt. It actually may protect us to some degree from heartache and heartbreak. However, it closes us off from building effective relationships with everyone we come in contact with including our "true love".

3. Why would I want to remove it?

By releasing this wall you will notice that your relationships will improve and you will feel more centered and balanced. For some, they finally find their one and only true love. Others may see doors open that lead them to financial success that were previously closed. Releasing the heart wall could actually change your life as you know it.

4. How do I remove or release this wall?

Any emotion code practitioner can release all of the trapped emotions that make up this wall by locating and releasing all of the trapped emotions by using "Applied Kinesiology" or "Muscle Testing". It normally takes anywhere from 3 to 5 sessions to remove it.

5. Is it painful to remove it?

The majority of the time you will feel no pain. However, after each session you could possibly feel emotional, a mild headache, or fatigue.

6. Once this wall is removed, what can I expect?

For some it is very obvious, your relationships change immediately. Maybe people are drawn to you when they were not before. Maybe you are willing to do things you were not open to before. For others, it is not as obvious. However, when you are in the middle of your daily living you will notice the change. For instance, when my heart wall was removed I did not notice a change for over a month. I finally became aware of the change, when I didn't get emotional at the thought of my mother's passing any longer. I realized my depression had subsided and felt more balanced with life. I felt more at peace.

7. Once my wall is removed, will it come back later?

The trapped emotions that were released that formed the wall will be gone forever. However, new trapped emotions could possibly form a new wall. My experience shows that it is rare that you form another wall. If you do form another wall, there isn't but a few trapped emotions to release and will probably only take 1 short session.

It is time to enjoy life when this wall has been removed and live life to its fullest to include finding the "love of your life" or financial success. If you have not experienced life without your heart wall, it is time. I wish you the very best!

Leading with Passion...

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 07:05:30 PDT

Light a match in a dark room and watch as the light instantly overcomes the darkness. Observe the power and grace of that single, solitary flame dancing with life. Now light several candles or kindle a fire and experience the added warmth and comfort extending from that first, vulnerable flame through others. This is the heart and soul of leadership - the essence of inspiring others. It is about courageously casting off fear, doubt and limiting beliefs and giving people a sense of hope, optimism and accomplishment. It is about bringing light into a world of uncertainty and inspiring others to do the same. This is what we call passion, the fire within.

Passion is a heartfelt energy that flows through us, not from us. It fills our hearts when we allow it to and it inspires others when we share it. It is like sunlight flowing through a doorway that we have just opened. It was always there. It just needed to be accepted and embraced. Under the right conditions, this "flow" appears effortless, easy and graceful. It is doing what it is meant to do. It is reminding us that we are meant to be purposeful. We are meant to be positive. We are meant to be passionate. We feel this when we listen to and accept our calling in life. We feel it as inspiration when we open the door of resistance and let it in.

Inspiration springs forth when we allow ourselves to be "in-spirit," aligned with our true essence. Stop and think about it: When you feel truly passionate and inspired about someone or something, what frame of mind are you in? What are you willing to do? What kind of effort are you willing to put forth? How fearful are you? Chances are, you feel motivated to do whatever it takes, without fear or doubt, to turn your vision into reality. You grow in confidence. You believe you can do it. You are committed from the heart and soul.

Loved this book by John J. Murphy

Avoid worrying about the future

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 07:05:23 PDT

In her memoir Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert writes about a friend who, whenever she sees a beautiful place, exclaims in a near panic, "It's so beautiful here! I want to come back here someday!" "It takes all my persuasive powers," writes Gilbert, "to try to convince her that she is already here."

Often, we're so trapped in thoughts of the future or the past that we forget to experience, let alone enjoy, what's happening right now. We sip coffee and think, "This is not as good as what I had last week." We eat a cookie and think, "I hope I don't run out of cookies."

Instead, relish or luxuriate in whatever you're doing at the present moment—what psychologists call savoring. "This could be while you're eating a pastry, taking a shower, or basking in the sun. You could be savoring a success or savoring music," explains Sonja Lyubomirsky, a psychologist at the University of California at Riverside and author of The How of Happiness. "Usually it involves your senses."

When subjects in a study took a few minutes each day to actively savor something they usually hurried through—eating a meal, drinking a cup of tea, walking to the bus—they began experiencing more joy, happiness, and other positive emotions, and fewer depressive symptoms, Schueller found.

Why does living in the moment make people happier—not just at the moment they're tasting molten chocolate pooling on their tongue, but lastingly? Because most negative thoughts concern the past or the future. As Mark Twain said, "I have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened." The hallmark of depression and anxiety is catastrophizing—worrying about something that hasn't happened yet and might not happen at all. Worry, by its very nature, means thinking about the future—and if you hoist yourself into awareness of the present moment, worrying melts away.

The flip side of worrying is ruminating, thinking bleakly about events in the past. And again, if you press your focus into the now, rumination ceases. Savoring forces you into the present, so you can't worry about things that aren't there.
Happy Reading... more ..

Leading with Passion

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Thu, 05 May 2011 06:05:10 PDT

Are you a passionate and effective leader?

Do you walk the talk?

Do you know how to bring out the very best in those around you?
Achieving the goals you set for your organization goes beyond creating year-end objectives. It takes a passionate leader to inspire others to go beyond the norm...and the discipline necessary to measure performance and to challenge both you and your team to reach new heights.

Leading with discipline requires motivation and effort. It is easy to say we are going to do something. It is quite another to let our actions speak for themselves. It is common to dream. It is less common to turn those dreams into something beneficial, something truly inspiring.

Leading with discipline requires initiative, action and stewardship. This means taking the required steps, doing the homework, working with others, committing to service and following through. It means accepting a certain degree of risk and sacrifice to challenge oneself and raise the bar.

Discipline means showing up early, staying late and doing whatever is ethically necessary to get the job done well and on time. Discipline means saying "no" to negative thinking and disempowering actions and saying "yes" to getting involved and being part of the solution. Discipline means going the extra mile, where there is typically less traffic.

When we act with discipline, we demonstrate care, concern and dependability. We account for ourselves, our teammates and our results.

Leading with discipline requires setting goals and establishing measurement. With effective goals and metrics, we set expectations, assess performance and make adjustments as needed. Without access to the score, we lose the means to accurately measure performance against standards and evaluate progress.

Setting goals and keeping score is motivating. Consider any sport as an example. Without clear goals and score-keeping, the sport can quickly lose momentum and enthusiasm. Often, it becomes boring. However, when a scoreboard lights up and the clock is ticking, the same physical requirements take on new meaning. Something within us lights up. We want to perform well. We want to set a new record. We want to do better than we did before. The simple act of setting goals and measuring performance is a powerful strategy for leading with passion and discipline. It triggers the heart as well as the mind.

Within every passionate leader is a deep sense of conviction. Goals are set to drive focus and accountability. Metrics are in place to assess balance and performance. Heartfelt commitment is embodied to fuel courage, initiative and action. There is a keen sense of discernment, responsibility and decisiveness. Work gets done on time. Good habits are formed. Bad habits are broken. Balance is maintained within and among tasks, activities and relationships, resulting in a sense of harmony and oneness. Think of this like conducting an orchestra. Without discipline, each functional unit could play at will, resulting in a great deal of noise. The passionate leader teaches the value of discipline, timing, practice, participation, patience, teamwork, measurement, and balance. Together, we can make beautiful music, but it does require discipline as an essential habit.

Take a moment now - a moment of discipline - to evaluate your own habits and tendencies. What do they tell you about your sense of passion and leadership? Are you actions inspiring? Do you finish what you start? Do you set clear, specific, measurable goals? Do you keep score, and if so what specifically do you track? Are you holding yourself and your team accountable for performance? Are you stretching yourself and your team to rise to new heights? Are you identifying obstacles to peak performance and removing them? Are you pulling the weeds?

To achieve more...

Turn problems into solutions

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Mon, 02 May 2011 00:45:52 PDT

I find joy!

You can live each day in a world filled with "problems," or rise each morning and embrace a world filled with unseen solutions... eager for you to find them. The decision is yours...both worlds exist. The one you choose is the one you will create.

Just click here to watch the Pink Bat movie.

India bonded together against corruption - Its our call now...

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 01:10:37 PDT

Common guys, what are we doing? Egypt has shown us what unity can do. This is the time to show what we, the people of India can do if they decide. Let's support this 72 years old man and show some respect to his commitment and our country.

Every second 2 tweets on Tweeter; more than 1 lack people supporting from Facebook and other social networking sites. Are you one of them? Ask this question to yourself.

World cup is over now. So what? New World Cup has started. And I'm in being an proud Indian.

Civil society's battle against corruption acquired its sharpest edge ever on Tuesday as veteran social activist Anna Hazare began a fast unto death at the capital's landmark Jantar Mantar demanding greater public role in the Anti-Corruption Bill (Lokpal Bill), which has now been considered and put aside by successive regimes for the last 42 years.

Anna Hazare ignored several pleas of the government to defer his fast as he stood firm on his demand for a joint committee comprising government and civil society leaders to rework the current draft Lokpal Bill. He maintained that the current Bill covering only politicians was inadequate as politicians often colluded with officials to indulge in corruption.

Hazare wants the Lokpal's office to subsume the CVC so that both political leaders and officials come under its ambit as well as the judiciary. He also wants the Lokpal to have police powers — that is, to not just be a recommendatory body but an effective office that can file FIRs, chargesheet the accused and file cases. Hazare and other activists have been demanding for the Prime Minister's Office to come within the ambit of the Lokpal.

It appears that the 72-year-old activist's protest is taking the contours of a popular movement. Thousands of people, including students, teachers, artistes, retired government officers and activists, joined Anna at Jantar Mantar to lend him support. On the Net, support for Anna is already a viral movement. Unless the government concedes to the demand, this support is only likely to grow.

See how Lokpal Bill can curb the politicians,

Existing System	System Proposed by civil society
No politician or senior officer ever goes to jail despite huge evidence because Anti Corruption Branch (ACB) and CBI directly come under the government. Before starting investigation or initiating prosecution in any case, they have to take permission from the same bosses, against whom the case has to be investigated.	Lokpal at centre and Lokayukta at state level will be independent bodies. ACB and CBI will be merged into these bodies. They will have power to initiate investigations and prosecution against any officer or politician without needing anyone’s permission. Investigation should be completed within 1 year and trial to get over in next 1 year. Within two years, the corrupt should go to jail.
No corrupt officer is dismissed from the job because Central Vigilance Commission, which is supposed to dismiss corrupt officers, is only an advisory body. Whenever it advises government to dismiss any senior corrupt officer, its advice is never implemented.	Lokpal and Lokayukta will have complete powers to order dismissal of a corrupt officer. CVC and all departmental vigilance will be merged into Lokpal and state vigilance will be merged into Lokayukta.
No action is taken against corrupt judges because permission is required from the Chief Justice of India to even register an FIR against corrupt judges.	Lokpal & Lokayukta shall have powers to investigate and prosecute any judge without needing anyone’s permission.
Nowhere to go - People expose corruption but no action is taken on their complaints.	Lokpal & Lokayukta will have to enquire into and hear every complaint.
There is so much corruption within CBI and vigilance departments. Their functioning is so secret that it encourages corruption within these agencies.	All investigations in Lokpal & Lokayukta shall be transparent. After completion of investigation, all case records shall be open to public. Complaint against any staff of Lokpal & Lokayukta shall be enquired and punishment announced within two months.
Weak and corrupt people are appointed as heads of anti-corruption agencies.	Politicians will have absolutely no say in selections of Chairperson and members of Lokpal & Lokayukta. Selections will take place through a transparent and public participatory process.
Citizens face harassment in government offices. Sometimes they are forced to pay bribes. One can only complaint to senior officers. No action is taken on complaints because senior officers also get their cut.	Lokpal & Lokayukta will get public grievances resolved in time bound manner, impose a penalty of Rs 250 per day of delay to be deducted from the salary of guilty officer and award that amount as compensation to the aggrieved citizen.
Nothing in law to recover ill gotten wealth. A corrupt person can come out of jail and enjoy that money.	Loss caused to the government due to corruption will be recovered from all accused.
Small punishment for corruption- Punishment for corruption is minimum 6 months and maximum 7 years.	Enhanced punishment - The punishment would be minimum 5 years and maximum of life imprisonment.

Join the cause...

I am there are you ...

Cricket World Cup 2011 - Bond Unbroken amid Indians

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Sat, 02 Apr 2011 23:20:07 PDT

Mumbai, (AFP): India captain Mahendra Singh Dhoni admitted he took a World Cup final gamble on Saturday, a high-stakes strategy which paid dividends with a first world title since 1983. He included wayward seamer Shanthakumaran Sreesanth instead of steady spinner Ravichandran Ashwin and pushed himself up the batting order where he made an unbeaten 91.

Call him dhoni .Maahi, The Gambler but he has done something incredible that we Indians are never gonna forget. He has created a strong bond amongst the payers of different state into one single nation INDIA...

Relationship Successful shares...

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 22:38:08 PST

There are certain traits inside successful peoples that have made it possible for them to exist above the level of simple survival. Are there any particular characteristics they all share that are the basis of their accomplishment? A deeper insight into their lives will show that they have some things in common.

They dream big: All people who have touched the zenith of success have an inspiring dream that motivates them to move ahead into the future. They don't limit themselves to mere words like "realistic" or "possible". They go beyond them. They dream as big as they can and adjust their dream with an organized plan as they progress. They clearly distinguish between perception and reality. As Dhirubhai Ambani, who showed that nothing is truly unattainable for those who dream big, once said, "You should dream big, but dream with your eyes open."

They think outside the box: All people who have touched the zenith of success have an inspiring dream that motivates them to move ahead into the future. They don't limit themselves to mere words like "realistic" or "possible". They go beyond them. They dream as big as they can and adjust their dream with an organized plan as they progress. They clearly distinguish between perception and reality.

They learn from failures: As we go through life, we're going to make mistakes. But those mistakes provide us with a great opportunity to find a lesson and learn from it. Former President of India Dr. APJ Abdul KalamI once said, "I have gone through many successes and failures. I learnt from failures and hardened myself with courage to face them. This was my second stage, which taught me the crucial lesson of managing failures." Dr. Kalam's contribution to India's defence capabilities is very significant.
They create and seize opportunities:A man of success is the one who has the ability to create and seize opportunities to act on a goal. Successful people don't wait for opportunities to knock at their door. They go and create opportunities for themselves and whenever they come across any, they seize it to make full use of it.
They never say 'die' :All people face challenges in life, but unlike others, successful people deal with situations with one view: Do it again if they are fail at their previous attempts. They don't tolerate flaws; they keep on working on them until they fix them.
They take up responsibility:Those who are really successful don't hesitate to take up responsibilities. They don't worry about blames or waste time complaining. They truly believe in making decisions and moving on. They take initiatives and accept the responsibilities of success.
They take calculated risks:All successful people inherently do take calculated risks all the time. They always assess what kind of a risk they are going to take. They know it well that risk taking doesn't mean jumping headlong into something that they don't know.
They are solution focused:Successful people look for solutions and when they are focused on a solution, the rest of the world seems to disappear until they stop. They don't simply stop at finding or pointing out at a problem. They move ahead and look for better solutions for that particular problem.
They review and celebrate successes, even small ones:Success matters a lot for successful people and they don't forget to celebrate for successes even if they are small. They truly believe that even the smallest success builds into the big picture. They list all the small steps they took that worked well or that they are pleased about. As Warren buffet, the legendary investor, says, "In the business world, the rear view mirror is always clearer than the windshield".
They ask the right questions:The simple "Why?" when asked about five times can help us get to the root cause of many problems. All successful people ask the right questions and try to find out the causes the put them in a productive, creative, positive mindset and emotional state. According to Jack Welch, former CEO of General Electric, risk is stepping outside your comfort zone to a place where you cannot predict with any degree of certainty the outcome of your actions. Risk is taking on something that holds an enormous chance of failure. Most importantly, risk is the only key to outrageous success.

So go ahead and win the world...

Happy Reading...

By Kukil Bora, SiliconIndia

If Life is a Game...These are the Rules

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Wed, 05 Jan 2011 01:37:55 PST

Life has often been compared to a game. We are never told the rules, unfortunately, nor given any instructions about how to play. We simply begin at "go" and make our way around the board, hoping we play it right. We don't exactly know the objective of playing, nor what it means to actually win.
That is what Ten Rules for Being Human is all about. These are the guidelines to playing the game we call life, but they are also much more than that. These Rules will provide you with a basic spiritual primer for what it means to be a human. They are universal truths that everyone inherently knows but has forgotten somewhere along the way. They form the foundation of how we can live a fulfilling, meaningful life.
Each Rule presents its own challenge, which in turn provides certain lessons we all need to learn. Every person on the planet has his or her own set of lessons to learn that are separate and unique from everyone else's, and these lessons, as you will see in Rule Four, will reappear until they are mastered.
The Ten Rules for Being Human are not magic, nor do they promise ten easy steps to serenity. They offer no quick fix for emotional or spiritual ailments, and they are not fast track secrets to enlightenment. Their only purpose is to give you a road map to follow as you travel your path of spiritual growth.
These Rules are not mandates, but rather guidelines as to how to play the game. There is nothing you absolutely must do. I hope this book will help you to become more aware of them. By learning the valuable lessons and wisdom they offer, your journey on the Earth might just a bit easier.
by Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D

Wisdom of Wolves

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Sun, 19 Dec 2010 02:59:36 PST

Just wanted to share this...

Twyman Towery, Ph.D., a professional speaker and consultant who studied the lessons of leadership in nature, has captured them in a book for Simple Truths called Wisdom of Wolves. Twyman shares the parallels between the wolf pack and human behavior...in business life, family life, and personal life.

The attitude of the wolf can be summed up simply: it is a constant visualization of success. The collective wisdom of wolves has been progressively programmed into their genetic makeup throughout the centuries. Wolves have mastered the technique of focusing their energies toward the activities that will lead to the accomplishment of their goals.

Wolves do not aimlessly run around their intended victims, yipping and yapping. They have a strategic plan and execute it through constant communication. When the moment of truth arrives, each understands his role and understands exactly what the pack expects of him.

The wolf does not depend on luck. The cohesion, teamwork and training of the pack determines whether the pack lives or dies.

There is a silly maxim in some organizations that everyone, to be a valuable member, must aspire to be the leader. This is personified by the misguided CEO who says he only hires people who say they want to take his job. Evidently, this is supposed to ensure that the person has ambition, courage, spunk, honesty, drive - whatever. In reality, it is simply a contrived situation, with the interviewee jumping through the boss's hoops. It sends warnings of competition and one-upsmanship throughout the organization rather than signals of cooperation, teamwork and loyalty.

Everyone does not strive to be the leader in the wolf pack. Some are consummate hunters or caregivers or jokesters, but each seems to gravitate to the role he does best. This is not to say there are not challenges to authority, position and status - there are. But each wolf's role begins emerging from playtime as a pup and refines itself through the rest of its years. The wolf's attitude is always based upon the question, "What is best for the pack?" This is in marked contrast to us humans, who will often sabotage our organizations, families or businesses, if we do not get what we want.

Wolves are seldom truly threatened by other animals. By constantly engaging their senses and skills, they are practically unassailable. They are masters of planning for the moment of opportunity to present itself, and when it does, they are ready to act.

Because of training, preparation, planning, communication and a preference for action, the wolf's expectation is always to be victorious. While in actuality this is true only 10 percent of the time or less, the wolf's attitude is always that success will come-and it does.

by Twyman Towery

carzy time

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 04:23:43 PDT

I have been away quite long .. didn't felt like writing for weeks. Life has been damn slow and its just the "crazy time" again that will pass tomorrow not if today.

So, what goes to humans when he/she is going through this crazy time period. They are struggling with the happening just happening cuz its not going their way. Lot of pressure, lot of fighting back to change things but the things just becomes more worst then what they were earlier.

There are few things that we can not fight back. The best way to defeat them is to accept them.

You won't understand

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 14:41:38 PDT

I am certain that we all happen to say it to peoples around us in relations,"You don't understand". There are times when its really hard to prove oneself to others, even to one we love and with them for a long time. The only part matters that what they mean to us.

We have to take initiative even though we know its difficult to make someone understand something which is true for us but to them its a vague action. Even for simple things the situation becomes so tough that we give up and say you don't understand and move ahead but its a decision that we make either accepting the defiance or losing the patience to take the pain to make them believe in our thoughts.

It's also a matter that to them our step or activity is not a true thing to take place but not everyone is perfect. So one just need to put a point that even his actions and steps are wrong but he/she wants the other person to be on his side and see things through his/her perspective which will let them understand the situation in a better way. None of us like to be wrong but we fail to make an attempt to make that understandable to the persons we love.

So, do take initiative to explain yourself even you know he/she wont understand.

Fathers Day : How special is it for you

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 05:57:59 PDT

I just didn't wanted to miss this auspicious day to wish my father and al fathers a happy fathers day for been with us since our birth and all of the hard times when we need them the most.

As a friend to play when we dont have a language to communicate but he knows what we are saying and manages to communicate back too. A person yo count on for everything, a friend, a guardian and all what we wish to have in our lives and also things that we didn't wished are fulfilled by him in all his possible ways.

We learn to learn all the survival ways , the first teacher of us in all ways, a friend to listen all our issues and concerns, happiness and sorrows, advicing best with his sheer experince expecting nothing in return.

Thank you father for been there for all times. Friends and brothers do wish your father not only on this day but in the days amid.

Happy Fathers day to all Fathers for been with us when we needed them the most and always.

Decisions with realtionship

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 01:24:38 PDT

We take decisions now and then in our daily life. Few small one's and few big one's. There are decisions that are personally focused but there are more which we think as personal decision which tends not to be the one. There are decisions as such which just don't involve us as an individual rather there are more persons attached to it directly or indirectly.

We tend to take decisions not for ourselves but for others too may it be your friend, parents, kids, spouse or anyone. The point is that not all decisions make them happy. There are things that we fathom on parameters which are in-important for the one or they feel like that. We happen to measure things our way but we need to be double sure of the parameters we chose to come to a decision. We should always be sure that the pain our loved ones are going because of the "decision" we are making thinking better of them really worth that pain or not. We ignore this point and we will left our loved ones hurt.

I would rather chose a discussion on the same before making a decision as there are perspective we may ignore or consider not important when in the matter of fact they are equally important. We are not sharing things and that is where we fail to make our first decision that I as an individual can make better decision. One may be correct but the probability to be so increases when we have a different opinion on the same.

So be sharing and be a good decision maker cuz that is what will make you a better individual and more trustworthy amongst your loved ones. Trust others first to share and feel the difference in what your decision entails on.

Happy decision making peoples...

Excerpt from The 100/0 Principle, by Al Ritter

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 04:58:33 PDT

Just felt sharing this part with you all,

What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.

Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.

The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.

STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.

STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.

STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.

STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.

At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.

Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!

Principle Paradox

This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.

Challenges are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 07:20:49 PDT

I was going through one of the article by Dr. Y.L.R.Murthy and felt to share with you all that how important it is to have a perspective and a viosion in life beyond what we fail to think on. Happy reading....

Have Breakfast Or Be Breakfast

Who sells the largest number of cameras in India ? Your guess is likely to be Sony, Canon or Nikon.

The answer is - None of the above ! The winner is NOKIA whose main line of business in India is not cameras at all, but Cell Phones – the reason being, that cameras bundled with cellphones are outselling stand alone cameras. Now, what prevents the cell-phone from replacing the camera outright ? Nothing at all. One can only hope the Sonys and Canons are taking note of this fact !

Try this. Who is the biggest in music business in India ?

You think it is HMV Sa-Re-Ga-Ma ?

Sorry. The answer is Airtel. By selling Caller Tunes ( that play for 30 seconds ) Airtel makes more than what music companies like HMV make by selling music albums (that run for hours).
Incidentally Airtel is not in music business. It is the mobile service provider with the largest subscriber base in India. That sort of competitor is difficult to detect, even more difficult to beat (by the time you have identified him he has already gone past you). But if you imagine that Nokia and Bharti ( Airtel's parent ) are breathing easy you can't be farther from truth.

Nokia confessed that they all but missed the Smart Phone bus. They admit that Apple's i-Phone and Google's Android can make life difficult in future.

But you never thought that Google was a mobile company, did you ?

If these illustrations mean anything, there is a bigger game unfolding. It is not so much about mobile or music or camera or emails ?

The "Mahabharat" (the great Indian epic battle) is about "what is tomorrow's personal digital device"?

Will it be a souped up mobile or a palmtop with a phone ? All these are little wars that add up to that big battle. Hiding behind all these wars is a gem of a question –

" WHO is my competitor ? "

Once in a while, to intrigue my students I toss a question at them. I ask " What Apple did to Sony, Sony did to Kodak, explain ? " The smart ones get the answer almost immediately. Sony defined its market as Audio ( music from the famous ‘Walkman’ ). They never ever expected an IT company like Apple to encroach into their Audio market domain with the I-Pod.
Come to think of it, is it really surprising ? Apple, as a computer maker, had both Audio and Video capabilities.

So what made Sony think they won't compete on pure Audio ?

"Elementary Watson".

So also Kodak defined its business as Film Cameras, Sony defines its businesses as "Digital." In digital camera the two markets perfectly meshed. Kodak was torn between going Digital and sacrificing money on camera film, or staying with Films and getting left behind in Digital technology.

Left undecided, it lost in both. It had to. It did not ask the BIG question " WHO is my competitor for tomorrow ?"

The same was true for IBM whose mainframe revenue prevented it from seeing the PC. The same was true of Bill Gates who declared "internet is a fad !" ... and then turned around to bundle the browser with windows to bury Netscape.

The point is not who is today's competitor. Today's competitor is obvious. Tomorrow's is not.

In 2008, who was the toughest competitor to British Airways in India ? Singapore airlines ? Better still, Indian airlines ?

Maybe, but there are better answers. There are competitors that can hurt all these airlines and others not YET mentioned.

The answer is video-conferencing and telepresence services of HP and Cisco. Travel dropped due to recession. Senior IT Executives in India and abroad were compelled by their head quarters to use video-conferencing to shrink travel budget.

So much so, that the mad scramble for American visas from Indian techies was nowhere in sight in 2008. (India has a quota of something like 65,000 visas to the U.S. They were going a-begging. Blame it on recession! ).

So far so good. But to think that the airlines will be back in business post recession is something I would not bet on.

In short term yes. In long term a resounding NO.

Remember, if there is one place where Newton's law of gravity is applicable besides physics it is in electronic hardware.

Between 1977 and 1991 the prices of the now dead VCR ( grandparent of Blue-Ray disc player) crashed to one-third of its original level in India. PC's prices dropped from hundreds of thousands of rupees to tens of thousands. If this trend repeats then telepresence prices will also crash. Imagine the fate of these airlines then. As it is not many are making money. Then it will surely be R.I.P !

India has two passions. Films and cricket. The two markets were distinctly different. So were the icons. The cricket gods were Sachin and Sehwag. The filmi gods were the Khans ( Aamir, Shah Rukh Salman and the other Khans who followed suit ).

That was, when cricket was fundamentally test cricket or at best 50 over cricket. Then came IPL and the two markets collapsed into one. IPL brought cricket down to 20 overs. Suddenly an IPL match was reduced to the length of a 3 hour movie.

Cricket became film's competitor. On the eve of IPL matches movie halls ran empty. Desperate multiplex owners requisitioned the rights for screening IPL matches at movie halls to hang on to the audience. If IPL were to become the mainstay of cricket, as it is likely to be, films have to sequence their releases so as not clash with IPL matches. As far as the audience is concerned, both are what in India are called 3 hour "tamasha" (entertainment) . Cricket season might push films out of the market.

Look at the products that vanished from India in the last 20 years. When did you last see a black and white movie ? When did you last use a typewriter that had a limited memory. Then came the computer and mowed them all. Today most technologically challenged guys like me use the computer as an upgraded typewriter. Typewriters per se, are nowhere to be seen.

One last illustration. 20 years back what were Indians using to wake them up in the morning ? The answer is "alarm clock." The alarm clock was a monster made of mechanical springs. It had to be physically keyed every day to keep it running. It made so much noise by way of alarm, that it woke you up and the rest of the colony. Then came the quartz clocks which were sleeker. They were much more gentle though still quaintly called "alarms."

What do we use today for waking up in the morning ?

Our Cellphone !

An entire industry of clocks disappeared without warning - thanks to these cell phones. Big watch companies like Titan were the losers.

You never know in which bush your competitor is hiding !

On a lighter vein, who are the competitors for authors ? Joke spewing machines ? Steve Wozniak, the co-founder of Apple, himself a Pole, tagged a Polish joke telling machine to a telephone pole much to the mirth of Silicon Valley. Or will the competition be story telling robots?

The Future is scary !

The boss of an IT company once said something interesting about the animal called “Competition”

He said " Have breakfast …or…. be breakfast "!

That, sums it up really well !

Y.L.R. Moorthi

I want to explore the unknown

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 10:00:59 PST

Don’t impose on me what you know,

I want to explore the unknown

And be the source of my own discoveries.

Let the known be my liberation, not my slavery.

The world of your truth can be my limitation;

Your wisdom my negation.

Don’t instruct me; let’s walk together.

Let my richness begin where yours ends.

Show me so that I can stand

On your shoulders.

Reveal yourself so that I can be

Something different.

You believe that every human being

Can love and create.

I understand, then, your fear

When I ask you to live according to your wisdom.

You will not know who I am

By listening to yourself.

Don’t instruct me; let me be.

Your failure is that I be identical to you.

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 10:28:09 PDT

We sometimes forget to admire things when they are around and fail to assess the true value of the relations around until they happen to be away from us. It might be an intentional or unintentional behavior to praise but its hard to make for the small loss that we just ignore.

Relations around us are always there, we never are really alone but we fail to notice this till we really happen to feel lonely. There are several ways to acknowledge if you have made the same mistake of ignorance to praise the relations around you. I know the people may not ask or is waiting for you appraisal but take my words it does matter, and it matters the most. Try thanking or saying sorry to someone near to you and just see how you make them overwhelmed with your words.

Its not that we should say Thanks when someone really did good thing or say sorry when we did something wrong to others... Sometimes these magical words simply works as always and work in a different way when we say it just like that sometime to the near and dear persons around us to tell them that its not that we may have failed to say it at the right time but its not like that we don't care...

try it once and see the magic... Thanks for reading... Happy Reading...

Art of living is art of giving

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 23:42:36 PDT

To master the art of living you must be ready to give... even the saint believe that true happiness comes with renunciation.

Its not actually that hard to give up something that we have to someone else but believe me it gives you a lot happiness within when you see the person you bestowed your thing is happy and enjoying.

Its not what you should gift its just the matter of choice to whom you are gifting. Its the choice of the person and the choice of thing that will make him/her happy irrespective of the nature or the price of the gift.

every single act of love, kindness and generosity will multiply and return to you many times over which you can feel every time you do the mentioned activity.

True giving is without expecting anything in return, like the love of a mother. A mother does and gifts materialistic and im-materialistic things without expecting anything from us.. and you know you can see the happiness on her face when the child plays and enjoy the gift.

Enjoy gifting.. happy reading...

Emotional Intelligence and Relationship Building

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Fri, 29 May 2009 02:13:54 PDT

The best things in life – success, happiness, love – depend on our ability to create and maintain great relationships. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the start, only to stumble down the road. Why do relationships develop such challenging problems?

Oftentimes, relationship problems are due to a breakdown in the skills of emotional intelligence. Fortunately, it’s never too late to develop these skills and raise your emotional intelligence abilities. Once you’ve learned the five key emotional intelligence skills, you’ll be able to create and sustain secure, successful, long-lasting relationships.

Many people put their best foot forward in a new work setting or when looking to attract a mate, but stumble while trying to maintain their relationships over the long term. That’s because keeping a relationship healthy and fulfilling requires a unique skill set that many of us don’t have. This skill set is known as emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, control, and effectively communicate our own emotions, and to recognize the emotions of other people. When our emotional intelligence skills are well developed, we have a solid emotional foundation that helps us build strong relationships and communicate clearly.

The skills of emotional intelligence help you:
>>Build rewarding, lasting relationships
>>Stay calm and focused, regardless of the circumstances
>>Understand your own motivations, feelings, and needs
>>Recognize the difference between damaging and helpful communication
>>Accurately “read” other people
>>Defuse arguments and repair wounded feelings
>>Find more playfulness and joy in your relationships
>>Transform conflict into an opportunity for building trust

Emotions are the building blocks of each relationship in our lives, and the power of those emotions cannot be overlooked. Emotions override our thoughts and profoundly influence our behavior – often without our awareness.

Most people seek relationship advice to find answers to problems they believe are responsible for their conflicts—without realizing there are more fundamental issues at the core of those problems. They are attempting to heal the surface symptoms of their dysfunctional relationships, without examining the real emotional issues that are simmering beneath. But until those fundamental issues are addressed, the problems and conflicts will continue.

Enjoy reading more on Emotional Intelligence on helpguide.org

Happy reading....

Still waiting for your second chance

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Fri, 29 May 2009 02:10:51 PDT

Just wanted to share this short story with you all...

Hi friend,
I loved reading this...
It’s another morning..
….. Again I have to go to office
Ohh, this is me… I shouted having a glance on my snap in today’s news
paper.
But what the HELL it is doing in the death column??
Strange…
One sec... Let me think, last night when I was going to bed I had a severe
pain in my chest, but I don’t remember anything after that, I think I had a
sound sleep.
Its morning now, ohh….. It’s already 10:00 AM, where is my coffee?
I will be late for office and my boss will get a chance to irritate me.
Where is everyone…??? I screamed.

“I think there is a crowed outside my room, let me check.” I said to
myself.

So many people….. Not all of them crying…
But why some of them crying…
WHAT IS THIS??? I m laying there on the floor…
“I AM HERE” … I shouted!!! No one listen.
“LOOK I AM NOT DEAD” … I screamed once again!!! No one is interested in me.
They all were looking me on the bed.
I went back to my bed room.
“Am I dead??” I asked myself.
Where is my wife, my children, my mom-DAD, my friends?
I found them in the next room, all of them were crying… still trying to
console each other.
My wife was crying… she was really looking sad.
My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just coz his
mom was sad.
How can I go without saying my kid that I really love him, I really do care
of him. ??
How can I go without saying my wife that she is really most beautiful and
most caring wife in this world..??
How can I go without saying my parents that I m … just because of u ??

How can I go without telling my friends that without them perhaps I have
done most of the wrong things in my life… thanks for being there always
when I need them… and sorry for not being there when they really need me..

I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears…
Ohh… he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part,
and we both have strong enough ego to keep us disconnect.

I went there.. And offered him my hand, “Dear friend… I just want to say
sorry for everything, we r still best friend, please forgive me.”
No response from other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his
ego, I am saying sorry… even then!!!

I really don’t care for such people.

But one sec…. it seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my
extended hand.
My goodness… AM I REALLY DEAD???

I just sat down near ME; I was also feeling like crying…
“OHH ALMIGHTY!!!! PLEASE JUST GIVE ME FEW MORE DAYS…”
I just wasn’t to make my wife, my parents; my friends realize that how much
I love them.

My wife entered in the room, she looks beautiful.
“YOU R BEAUTIFUL” I shouted.
She didn’t hear my words, in fact she never heard these words coz I never
said this to her.

“GOD!!!!” I screamed… a little more time plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..
I cried…
One more chance please… to hug my child, to make my mom smile just once, to
feel my dad proud on me at least for a moment, to say sorry to my friends
for everything I have not given to them, and thanks for still being in my
life….
Then I looked up and cried!!!!

I shouted….

“GOD!!!! ONE MORE CHANCE PLEASE!!!!”
"You shouted in your sleep," said my wife as she gently woke me up. "Did
you have a nightmare?"
I was sleeping….
Ohh that was just a dream….
My wife was there… she can hear me…

This is the happiest moment of my life…

I hugged her and whispered…. “U R THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND CARING WIFE IN
THIS UNIVERSE…. I REALLY LOVE U DEAR”

I can’t understand the reason of the smile on her face with some tears in
her eyes, still I m happy…. :)

“THANK YOU GOD FOR THIS SECOND? CHANCE.”

So, Now it’s not late.. Forget your egos, past……….., and express your love
to others………. Be friendly…………… keep smiling and be happy for ever… or you still waiting for your second chance..........

Valentines Day Past Present and Future

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 02:33:11 PST

Valentine's Day or Saint Valentine's Day is a holiday celebrated on February 14 by many people throughout the world. In the West, it is the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other by sending Valentine's cards, presenting flowers, or offering confectionery. The holiday is named after two among the numerous Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

There are many alternative and more stories to that but the love birds don't mind to have one more reason to spend one more day together with some liberty to roam in the favorite places whole day.

I it needs some special day to say what you feel within... I feel the day you speak your heart should be the special one and not a day where you plan to speak your heart. I don't feel things like these have a schedule... or do they have...

I also wonder how politics has found its way in to valentines day... means is this some sort of way to make money for the gift shops, a day to make politics count the most, a day for social dogma to strain out their happenings or what ???

In between all this people find their own sweet time to show love and respect to the relationship they are in is the beauty of the day. I wish you all happy valentines day and if this is the day we are going to have great time together then let everyday be a valentines day....

Satyam Ramalinga Raju and History

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 03:02:51 PST

Today when I type satyam in my google search the results what I get really questions to all we Indians that do know only to react on situations or do we really have the gutts to stand to it... results like "Raju brings down Satyam, shakes India.." really made me think why india is a democratic country where anyone can say whatever literally whatever without giving a thought what could be its effect on the readers...

The facts remain the same that there has been such a scam undertook over a period not in a day but reactions should be monitored too.

One of my friend send me a mail today that I would like to share with you guys... have a look and think over all again...

Dear all of my Satyamites,

Yesterday will be a memorable day to us throughout our life. Little bit of business & human nature knowledge is forcing me to write few of my thoughts (Please ignore them if they doesn’t make any sense).

Ask yourself who is worst affected by all this mayhem. Is it u & me (employees), Govt or Satyam & Ramalingaraju ?. My conviction says that employees of any MNC are associated to that company as long as they don’t have any better option, the best thing government can do for a company is to keep itself away from it. But there was a visionary who created wealth for a nation for 20 years, the only thing that cannot be separated from Satyam for these 20 years & ahead also if Satyam remains was\is a name called “Ramalinga Raju”. Fortunately I got some 15 min of time talking to him when i was an ELTP. He’s much softer then we see him.

Imagine what would be going on in his mind when he was writing yesterday’s letter accepting all the things which he did only to save his company. All have made him scapegoat for what has happened & left the company keeping their integrity intact. He was cursed badly for putting the money of a public limited company into his family driven company but it only now clear that how he was transferrring the risk from 50,000 people to his two sons & his known-integrity.

The worst which can happen to we the employees is that we are out of our current job, jobless for time being & then again getting a job which we deserve & our families will be worried for us(as they are always). But a relatively bitter truth will be for the Raju-family who will be annoyed for ages & will be treated as miscreants by those who do not know the truth or more about Greedy investors & money market. And the truth is that he has not stolen some thousand crores rupees into his own pocket, it was a bubble he created which busted. (And every other company on earth does so, being wary of not getting trapped)

One more thing which annoys me is does a philanthropist guy deserve this disgraceful exit ? I really feel sad about the way he’s been portrait in the media. Our rustic fellows have already started comparing him with Harshad Mehta. Tell me any incident in corporate India where any chairman has dared to confess such irregularities in his own firm. And believe me it takes hell lot of guts to accept all this publicly. And as I read the news today morning it was published there that even his community members have suggested him not to tell anything and later on he can play with the Indian laws as every politician does in India. But as he mentioned it was all deep regret in his conscience which lead him to confess all this.

I am not at all saying that he’s totally innocent and unaware of what’s been going there but a person who has started a journey called Satyam 20 yrs ago with few associates and made it 4th largest IT Company in India, done all this for sake of his 50000 Satyam family members. In the end i’ll ask only one question to all of my friends,” for whom he has created this bubble, if it was he who was going bankrupt? ”

The day before all this mayhem started, we all were proud to be called as Satyamites and were wearing the Satyam tag displaying our esteem to others, and now due to a single incidence u are feeling awkward to show the same Satyam tag in public?? I don’t know about others, but still I am proud to be a SATYAMITE!!!

after reading this mail first thought that came to me was that all peoples are not simply rats on the sunking ship running for their life but few are always there to stand strong and face the storm.

freshness to relationship

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 02:43:55 PST

Let the bygones be bygones of 2008 and bring some freshness to your relationship.
They year 2008 would have brought some good and some bad memories but decision is yours whether you want to relish only the good ones by carrying them forward with you to cherish them your whole life forth.

Just want to make you realize let the sorrow part that bring bitterness to the relationship and make good memories count and make many more to be relished.happy new year 2009 and may it brings freshness to the relationships you have made.

Any problem in the world can be solved by dancing

amritanshuu@gmail.com (Amritanshu) — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 01:20:10 PST

"Any problem in the world can be solved by dancing : By James Brown"

Going through Techcrunch.com I found one interesting post on the "First Round Capital" groups and partner companies dancing their problems away.. ha ha haaaa I loved this ...

I would like you all to see this and learn how to dance your problems away for a healthy corporate and personal relstionships. If you are dancing, you are happy and so are the people around you... happy viewing...