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How to Tame a Free Spirit: 9 steps - wikiHow

2012-01-18T22:12:00.000+08:00

How to Tame a Free Spirit: 9 steps - wikiHow

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About My personality

2011-10-17T03:03:00.000+08:00

Their personality type is:EXPLORER / director

About your personality

They are very curious and they love adventure, either or both intellectual and physical. So when they get interested in something, they can become extremely focused on it, sometimes to the exclusion of all around them. They pursue their interests thoroughly, too, often with originality and exactitude.

They are adaptable, competitive and a problem-solver, as well as skeptical, tough minded and determined. Because they have a lot of energy and tend to be enthusiastic about their theories and projects, they can be very persuasive. They are eager to make an impact on those around them, too, as well as in the wider world.

They are irreverent and highly independent. So they can be oblivious to authority figures, as well as to rules, schedules and social customs. And although they enjoy people and can be charming and humorous, they are not interested in routine social engagements or anyone whom they regard as boring. Instead, they seek stimulating and focused conversations; and they are comfortable being by themselves, pursuing their own many interests.

Of all twelve (primary/secondary) types, they are also the most sexual-because both dopamine and testosterone stimulate the sex drive.

With Explorer as their primary type, they can be:

Novelty seeking

Flexible

Impulsive and spontaneous

Open-Minded

Curious

Energetic

Creative

With Director as their secondary type, they can be:

Decisive

Competitive

Focused

Self disciplined

Analytical

Independent

Logical

Relating to others

They like to have good conversations on important topics; so people tend to admire them for their knowledge and innovativeness. They shy away from emotional or self-revealing conversations, however; introspection leaves them cold. Instead, they derive intimacy from doing things with friends or a partner. So they make an exciting, although at times aloof, companion.

In love and relationships

As an Explorer, they look out not in; they are foremost interested in the world around them. So they are attracted to a mate who is also intellectually and physically adventurous and interested in dissecting this complex, tangible universe. They particularly like imaginative and theoretical people, a "mind mate." And they like a partner who is sexual, because they regard sex as an important aspect of a relationship. They have nerves of steel and thrive on the edge. They are also decisive and direct. So they are unconsciously drawn to those who can balance out their highly independent and tough-minded spirit--those who are novelty seeking, yet compassionate, verbal, intuitive, trusting, flexible and emotionally expressive.

Things to be aware of

They can be highly emotionally contained, even pretending that they are fine when they are not.

They can get so wrapped up in their own interests that they spend little time with their partner.

They become impatient with cautious people or wordy conversations.

results based on Dr. Fisher's research

This is just way too true...no one really knows my feelings.

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Daily Geisha: Judge No One...

2011-08-09T02:05:00.000+08:00

Daily Geisha: Judge No One...: "'"We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path." ~Paublo Coelho

Judgment keeps us from compassion, because we close off to our own heart. We are not able to receive anything that is outside of our point of view, which is always narrow. Learning to receive is the foundation of loving people because it offers them the room to be just as they are. Our best judgments (even when they are correct) imprison us in a world that we think we are improving by our beliefs; in actuality, it cuts us from the world, because it shuts the door to the people we love and shuts us off from being connected to the largeness of how things really are...

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. ~Wayne Dyer"

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Aquarius Astrology Profile

2011-07-10T02:48:00.000+08:00

Aquarius Personality:

Aquarians present themselves in one of two ways. One on hand, you’ll see someone who is shy, and quiet. On the other, an Aquarian can be boisterous, eccentric, and energetic. Both are deep thinkers with a love of helping others. Highly intellectual, this is a sign of fierce independence that prizes intuition tempered with logic. Both personality types have an uncanny ability to see both sides of an argument without prejudice, making them excellent problem-solvers. While very much attuned to the energies around them, Aquarians have a deep need to take time out alone and away to rejuvenate themselves. The keyword for this sign is imagination. The Aquarian can see a world of possibilities even when there appears to be none.

Aquarius in Love:

Intellectual stimulation is by far the greatest aphrodisiac for the Aquarian. There’s nothing like a lively chat rich in culture and future possibilities to get this sign going. When it comes to love, people best suited are those that are not thrown off by Aquarian frankness. Open, communicative, imaginative, and willing to risk are all qualities that blend well with this sign’s perspective on life. Honesty and sincerity are essential for anyone seeking a long-term connection to this dynamic personality.

Friends and Family:

Even though Aquarians are great with groups of people, it takes a bit when it comes to making close friends. Deeply sensitive and cautious, closeness means vulnerability to an Aquarius, and this is not something to be taken lightly. Aquarians' direct, no-nonsense approach in combination with their strong values can make it challenging to get to know the inner person. Yet those who are able to do so will discover a friendship that lasts through the years. An Aquarius will go the distance for a loved one to the point of self-sacrifice if necessary. They look for creativity, intellect, and honesty in their friends. When it comes to family, the expectations are no less. Although dedicated to a sense of duty to relatives, the Aquarius isn’t one for developing close bonds unless the same qualities they expect in their friendships are there.

Career and Money:

Aquarians bring enthusiasm to the work they do, especially when it involves expression. They have an exceptionally high ability to put their imaginative qualities to the task and to think outside the box. Careers that allow for concept development or demonstration can suit this sign well. "I know" is the key phrase for the Aquarius. High intellect combined with an Aquarius' willingness to share their talents inspires many who work in the same environment. Being visionary types, Aquarians love to engage in careers that aim to benefit humankind in the long-run.

When it comes to money, this sign really has a knack for keeping a healthy balance between having the things that they need and putting money away. When they are out shopping, the shiny, glittery, and extravagant will catch their attention even though their homes are generally decorated with great taste. It’s not uncommon to find the Aquarius turning heads dressed in daring, brightly colored outfits. Most are well-attuned to their individual sense of style and aren’t afraid to show it.

Careers that suit the Aquarius are acting, writing, teaching, photography, or piloting. The best environment is one that gives the freedom to tackle the task without a lot of strict guidelines. The Aquarius is unconventional, and given the opportunity to show their true talents, they can perform amazing feats

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10 Steps to Mastering the Art of Joyful Living

2011-07-08T00:54:00.000+08:00

10 Steps to Mastering the Art of Joyful Living

By Gail Brenner on June 16, 2011

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.”
~Hafiz of Persia

Are you moving too fast to enjoy life? Are you caught up in problems and struggles? Are you pressing forward on automatic, burning the candle at both ends?

This post is all about slowing down – and I’m writing it for myself as much as for anyone reading this. Because it’s time to stop, be still, hop off the treadmill, and return to sanity.

It’s so easy to slip away from being aware. Even with the best of intentions, before we know it, we find ourselves moving mindlessly through life. We go through the motions, taking care of obligations, inhabiting habit patterns, and meanwhile longing for a time when the to-do list is empty. Our minds are caught in mental whirlwinds while we are missing out on what is already here.

We feel separate, deadened, and half-alive.

Joyful living takes commitment. It asks us to be awake and aware in the moments of our lives. It invites us to stem the momentum of our habits so we can reclaim peace, appreciation, wonder, awe, presence.

Do you want to master the art of joyful living? Integrate these 10 steps in your life, and the seeds of joy will flourish endlessly.

1. Bring silence and stillness into your life

If we turn down the volume on all the noise in our lives, we discover the amazing fact that silence and stillness are already here. And when we intentionally allow ourselves to be still, we naturally open to a deep appreciation of the present moment. We become relaxed, grounded and clear, and stress begins to melt away.

How can you bring silence into your life? When can you stop and be still?

2. Clean up

Someone recently told me she feels disgusted when she looks into her closet because of all the clutter. It”s a shame because every moment of disgust is a moment empty of joy.

If there is anything you are procrastinating about, anything you can easily fix, anyone who drags you down, pay attention. Don’t wait or settle for good enough. Carve out the time, figure out a solution, and clean it up. You are making the space for joy, peace, and happiness to illuminate your life.

3. Mind your own business

Do you want to be unhappy and frustrated? Then try controlling things you can’t actually do anything about. Like other people or most situations or the past or future.

If you are caught in an emotional reaction, turn the mirror onto yourself. Let the story go, and see what is actually true in your direct experience. Bring compassion right into the places where it is needed most.

Diligently work on the areas where you get stuck, and joy will naturally shine through you.

4. Give to others whatever you feel you are lacking

So many of us want attention, love, and understanding. We live in a state of lack, thinking that life can begin if only we get what we think we need.

Consider that you may not actually need what you think you need. It might just be an old story that has outworn its welcome.

Instead of living in lack, contemplate generosity. Give out to others what you want or need. Pull out the stops in offering attention, interest, and caring. Your sense of lack will be transformed into fullness. Believing you don’t have enough becomes love overflowing.

5. Use your senses

Life is so abundant right before our very eyes. Slow down and take the time to see, hear, taste, touch, and smell. Eating an apple becomes a sensual delight, doing the dishes a symphony.

6. Recognize what is working

It is so easy to focus on problems and unhappy feelings. They grab our attention and won’t let go like a dog feasting on a juicy bone.

Take stock of what is working in your life. Is your living situation a good one? Do you know people who you love and appreciate? Do you enjoy your daily runs or a good home-cooked meal? Simply look around you, and you may be surprised by the bounty that is already present.

7. Live in forgiveness

If a grudge is interfering with your joy of life, then it requires your loving attention. Don’t let the minutes tick by while you live in self-righteousness or regret. Neutralize the stories from the past, and make the choice to live joyfully now.

Then live in amends. If you feel wronged by someone or you hurt another, deal with it. Don’t let it fester. Make a lifestyle of living free from hurts and grudges. You will feel strong, clear, and empowered.

8. Learn from life experiences

Sometimes the road of life is a bumpy one. If you want to master joyful living, be open to learning from the challenges that life brings you. Be honest about what buttons get pushed and recognize when you have dropped into a hole that you can’t seem to find your way out of.

Difficult life experiences are designed to show us the areas in our lives where we are not yet free. Use these situations well for your own liberation. You might have noticed that the teachings come until we understand the lesson. If there is a self-defeating pattern playing out in your life, slow it down so you can become conscious of what you are doing. Then make different, better choices with your eyes wide open.

9. Be pleasant

No matter what is going on in your life, show up in an open, good-natured way. No one likes a Negative Nancy. Stop complaining, and instead be patient, open, kind, and agreeable in your day-to-day life.

10. Move in the direction of joy

Every moment offers a choice. Take a look at your life, and it will show you what you value. Are you choosing stress, conflict, and unhappiness?

Joy provides the perfect barometer for navigating through life. All you need to do is recognize what brings you joy, then follow it. Simple, right? Make room in your life for what is positive, light, and life-affirming. You will have mastered the art of joyful living.

Do you live joyfully? Where do you get stuck? What other suggestions do you have? I’d love to hear…

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Life Path Number 4: The Pillar

2011-07-04T00:46:00.000+08:00

1 + 9 + 8 + 5 + 2 + 6 = 3 + 1 = 4 = 4

Your Life Path Number: 4

Life Path Number 4: The Pillar

Those with a Life Path Number 4 are the earth on which everything good is built. You are probably the most trustworthy, organized and practical person you - or your friends - know.

Life Path Number 4 people have a gift for planning and following through with their plans until the end (a rare and powerful combination of characteristics). Although you have an idealistic nature and constantly strive for perfection, your feet remain firmly on the ground. Unlike the more dreamy numbers, you are always looking for ways to make things perfect using the tools at hand. You are an idealist, but only in the sense that you refuse to quit until you have built your ideal world. This may show itself professionally, where you will probably not be in a leadership role but instead apply your talents by attending to every detail and ensuring they are completed. You leave the big talk to others, preferring to put your proverbial shoulder to the wheel to see the big plans come to life.

This may come as a surprise to you, but you are famous for your will power. While you are walking along not even noticing the effect you have on those around you, you quietly develop a reputation for personal strength that borders on sheer stubbornness. You don't mean to be stubborn, it's not due to your ego - it's simply that once you have made a decision (after careful and lengthy deliberation) it takes an earthquake to change your mind. ->OMG! This is godamn true!!!

This is one of the challenges of being a Life Path Number 4: changing paths mid-race. Even though you are very intelligent and may see the wisdom of changing a plan, it cuts to your core to do so: you like to see a decision through to the very end, good, bad or ugly.

This may be frustrating for others at times, but shows its beauty in the fierce and eternal loyalty to give to your spouse, your workmates and your family. Everyone needs a Life Path Number 4 in their life.

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The Aurora

2011-05-15T23:17:00.000+08:00

The Aurora from TSO Photography on Vimeo.

love <3

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El Teide

2011-05-15T22:02:00.001+08:00

Spain´s highest mountain @(3718m) is one of the best places in the world to photograph the stars and is also the location of Teide Observatories, considered to be one of the world´s best observatories.
Loveliest scenery...i would love to experience this one day...

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溫嵐-刺蝟 KTV

2011-05-10T00:41:00.000+08:00

最后一抹的微笑

在转身之后

我闭上眼哭了

仅存的一点点骄傲

华丽的外表终于丢掉

很彷徨很孤单是寂寞或

悲惨一个人该怎么办

像是刺猬般防范

伪装的勇敢

不轻易让你看穿

我以为可以很坦然

面对分开时不觉得伤感

然而将灯关上一片无

声黑暗心痛的大声呼喊

我想我没那么坚强每个女孩其实一样

渴望着爱情的好渴望被拥抱

却都害怕爱让人受伤

承认我没那么坚强

不过是一而再的逞强

小心将情绪收藏比傻瓜还傻

刺猬的坚强全都是假象哭吧

像是刺猬般防范

伪装的勇敢

不轻易让你看穿

我以为可以很坦然

面对分开时不觉得伤感

然而将灯关上一片无

声黑暗心痛的大声呼喊

我想我没那么坚强每个女孩其实一样

渴望着爱情的好渴望被拥抱

却都害怕爱让人受伤

承认我没那么坚强

不过是一而再的逞强

小心将情绪收藏比傻瓜还

傻刺猬的坚强全都是假象

我想我没那么坚强每个女孩其实一样

渴望着爱情的好渴望被拥抱

却都害怕爱让人受伤

承认我没那么坚强

不过是一而再的逞强

小心将情绪收藏比傻瓜还傻

刺猬的坚强全都是假象哭吧

Just like how i feel..

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Aerial Pole International 2011 - Oona Kivelä

2011-04-29T22:06:00.001+08:00

This? Is super hotness!!!! Incredible!

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Strangers, again

2011-04-23T04:53:00.000+08:00

Every relationship goes through stages. Where and how each stage develops is ultimately up to each person. While we always hope for the best, we often can't avoid the inevitable.

Josh and Marissa are at a crossroads and their future is uncertain. Josh guides us through each stage of the relationship as it formed and as he predicts it will end up as.

Written and Directed by Philip Wang

Produced with Wesley Chan and Ted Fu

Assistant Producer: Christine Chen

Production Assistant: Regina Fang

Featuring:

Cathy Nguyen http://youtube.com/lilcdawg

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Original music by George Shawhttp://georgeshaw.bandcamp.com/album/strangers-again

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"Cambridge" by Kina Grannis http://youtube.com/kinagrannis

"So Weightless" by David Choi http://youtube.com/davidchoimusic

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Sleep position gives personality clue

2011-04-17T03:41:00.000+08:00

Recently somebody said something that suddenly reminded of the position I sleep in every night. I realized I mostly sleep in the Foetus position and sometimes Yearner position. And after reading this article I think its super true. I may look tough on the outside but I keep a lot of thoughts to myself. Sensitive at heart but I do not show it. It feels weak to do so. I have a open nature, easy going and yes maybe cynical about things until I find out about the truth or experienced it myself. I may take a long time to make decision but yes, once I've made up my mind, there's no turning back. Nothing will change my mind. Call me stubborn or what. But since I've already took a long time to make that decision, its a choice I've made and will not regret doing so. Well now I learnt something about myself! =D

Read more below on the other sleeping positions

Scientists believe the position in which a person goes to sleep provides an important clue about the kind of person they are.

Professor Chris Idzikowski, director of the Sleep Assessment and Advisory Service, has analysed six common sleeping positions - and found that each is linked to a particular personality type.

"We are all aware of our body language when we are awake but this is the first time we have been able to see what our subconscious posture says about us.

"What's interesting is that the profile behind the posture is often very different from what we would expect."

To see the six positions studied by Professor Idzikowski

click here.

The Foetus: Those who curl up in the foetus position are described as tough on the outside but sensitive at heart. They may be shy when they first meet somebody, but soon relax.

This is the most common sleeping position, adopted by 41% of the 1,000 people who took part in the survey. More than twice as many women as men tend to adopt this position.

Log (15%): Lying on your side with both arms down by your side. These sleepers are easy going, social people who like being part of the in-crowd, and who are trusting of strangers. However, they may be gullible.

The yearner (13%): People who sleep on their side with both arms out in front are said to have an open nature, but can be suspicious, cynical. They are slow to make up their minds, but once they have taken a decision, they are unlikely ever to change it.

Soldier (8%): Lying on your back with both arms pinned to your sides. People who sleep in this position are generally quiet and reserved. They don't like a fuss, but set themselves and others high standards.

Freefall (7%): Lying on your front with your hands around the pillow, and your head turned to one side. Often gregarious and brash people, but can be nervy and thin-skinned underneath, and don't like criticism, or extreme situations.

Starfish (5%): Lying on your back with both arms up around the pillow. These sleepers make good friends because they are always ready to listen to others, and offer help when needed. They generally don't like to be the centre of attention.

The remainder of those in the poll said the position they fell asleep varied or did not know.

Health effect

Professor Idzikowski also examined the effect of various sleeping positions on health.

He concluded that the freefall position was good for digestion, while the starfish and soldier positions were more likely to lead to snoring and a bad night's sleep.

Professor Idzikowski said: "Lying down flat means that stomach contents can more readily be worked back up into the mouth, while those who lie on their back may end up snoring and breathing less well during the night.

"Both these postures may not necessarily awaken the sleeper but could cause a less refreshing night's sleep."

The research also found that most people are unlikely to change their sleeping position. Just 5% said they sleep in a different position every night.

Duvet position

Professor Idzikowski also found that one arm or leg sticking out of the duvet is Britain's most common position, followed by both feet poking out the end.

One in ten people like to cover themselves entirely with the duvet.

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Chris Medina - What Are Words

2011-04-14T00:40:00.000+08:00

Anywhere you are, I am near

Anywhere you go, I'll be there

Anytime you whisper my name, you'll see

How every single promise I keep

Cuz what kind of guy would I be

If I was to leave when you need me most

What are words

If you really don't mean them

When you say them

What are words

If they're only for good times

Then they don't

When it's love

Yeah, you say them out loud

Those words, They never go away

They live on, even when we're gone

And I know an angel was sent just for me

And I know I'm meant to be where I am

And I'm gonna be

Standing right beside her tonight

And I'm gonna be by your side

I would never leave when she needs me most

What are words

If you really don't mean them

When you say them

What are words

If they're only for good times

Then they don't

When it's love

Yeah, you say them out loud

Those words, They never go away

They live on, even when we're gone

Anywhere you are, I am near

Anywhere you go, I'll be there

And I'm gonna be here forever more

Every single promise I keep

Cuz what kind of guy would I be

If I was to leave when you need me most

I'm forever keeping my angel close

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萧亚轩 - 最熟悉的陌生人

2011-03-24T22:50:00.001+08:00

还记得吗窗外那被月光染亮的海洋

你还记得吗是爱让彼此把夜点亮

为何后来我们用沉默取代依赖

曾经朗朗星空渐渐阴霾

心碎离开转身回到最初荒凉里等待

为了寂寞是否找个人填心中空白

我们变成了世上最熟悉的陌生人

今后各自曲折各自悲哀

只怪我们爱得那么汹涌爱得那么深

于是梦醒了搁浅了沉默了挥手了却回不了神

如果当初在交会时能忍住了激动的灵魂

也许今夜我不会让自己在思念里沉沦

心碎离开转身回到最初荒凉里等待

为了寂寞是否找个人填心中空白

我们变成了世上最熟悉的陌生人

今后各自曲折各自悲哀

只怪我们爱得那么汹涌爱得那么深

于是梦醒了搁浅了沉默了挥手了却回不了神

如果当初在交会时能忍住了激动的灵魂

也许今夜我不会让自己在思念里沉沦

我们变成了世上最熟悉的陌生人

今后各自曲折各自悲哀

只怪我们爱得那么汹涌爱得那么深

于是梦醒了搁浅了沉默了挥手了却回不了神

如果当初在交会时能忍住了激动的灵魂

也许今夜我不会让自己在思念里沉沦

I wanna sing k...for the longest time...

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Bitter Heart

2011-03-22T17:48:00.000+08:00

	Zee Avi - Bitter Heart .mp3

	Found at bee mp3 search engine

Sun rays come down

as seen when they hit the ground

Children spinning around

Til’ they fall down down down

I wait for you

It’s been two hours now

and you’re still somewhere in town

your dinner’s getting cold

I rest my case

you are always this late

and you know how much I hate

waiting around, round, round

Bitter heart, bitter heart

tries to keep it all inside

Bitter heart, bitter heart

shadows will help you try to hide

Bitter heart my bitter heart

is getting just a little fragile

Bitter heart bitter heart

of mine

And then you come

and tell me the same reason

that you did yesterday

so tell me what’s her name

Du du du du

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Say my Name..Say my Name!

2011-03-21T23:28:00.000+08:00

Yes truth is definitely a important factor. Rather hear the truth than a white useless lie. Love to strive for new exciting & interesting things! Finally bought my camera & I've yet to explore new things yet! Can't wait!

Now, I'm not quite "Noble" bah? lol..I can be affectionate to the people close to me =D, Terrific? Ya..maybe terrible at times also..haha.. Not angelic please..lovable? apparently only to my BFFs bah..Inventive! YES! eg: DIY! Which i haven't touch for a long time...miss doing that..Endearing..quite i guess..only to certain extend..

My dearest sweetest Friend told me this:" U know what "Natalie" means? it means Christmas..Haha..so u are supposed to be a gift..Rare one that brings bless n happiness" well it surely made me happy! hehe...that prompted me to google my name meaning...and these photos I saw...I just have to post it...I'm one in a million ok! hahaha...

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Japan Tsunami Footage & How We can HELP Them

2011-03-15T23:52:00.000+08:00

Reading the news everyday just saddens me =( Whoever who read this please try to help them. Its gonna take tremendous effort for the Japaneses to regain conditions back. Consider ourselves fortune that we do not have natural disasters. Millions of people may have survived but they are now suffering in the blistering cold with no food and drinks. Lets try our best to help them.

Japan was hit by one of the largest earthquakes ever recorded on Friday, 11 March. The 8.9-magnitude quake triggered a massive 10-metre tsunami that swept away entire towns, ships and even fighter planes. Hundreds of people are dead, many more are missing or injured. Officials have predicted the death toll could top 10,000.

Millions of survivors are left without drinking water, food and electricity. They are taking shelter in schools and stadiums to escape near-freezing temperatures.

Major aftershocks are expected in the coming days.

Japan has often donated when other countries have experienced disasters. Here’s how you can help them now.

Mercy Relief: The organisation is accepting donations to procure relief supplies. It has deployed a two-man preliminary disaster response team to Japan to ascertain ground needs and procure relief supplies.

The MR team will help distribute supplies with UN agencies. It will also collaborate with local non-governmental organisations to support their relief efforts. With an initial tranche of USD $20,000 provided by SAP Asia Pacific Japan, the team will help address the pressing needs for food, water and quilts.

For cheque donations, please make the cheque payable to Mercy Relief Limited and send it to the Mercy Relief office at Blk 160 Lorong 1 Toa Payoh #01-1568 Singapore 310160. On the back of the cheque, indicate ‘Japan Quake and Tsunami Relief’’.

Cash donations can also be made at the Mercy Relief office. Office hours are Monday-Friday, 9am - 7pm.

For ATM transfers/internet banking, Mercy Relief’s DBS Current Account is 054-900493-6

Credit card donations can be made via eNets at www.mercyrelief.org

Singapore Red Cross: The organisation has started a hotline (6334-9152 / 6334-9153 / 6334-9154) to help those in Singapore get in touch with relatives in Japan. The SRC will take down details of the missing person and forward the information on to its sister national society, the Japanese Red Cross Society and the International Committee of Red Cross. It is also working with the Japanese Association to raise funds.

For cheque donations, please make the cheque payable to Singapore Red Cross and mail to the SRC office at Red Cross House, 15 Penang Lane Singapore 238486. On the back of the cheque, indicate ‘Japan disaster 2011′, name of donor/organisation, contact numbers and address.

Cash donations can also be made at the SRC office during office hours, Monday to Friday, 9.30am - 9 pm, Saturdays, Sundays and Public Holidays, 9.30 am - 6pm.

The public can also SMS “Red Cross” to 75772. Each message will cost $50. The SRC is also working with banks like DBS, OCBC and UOB, to allow donations through ATMs and the Internet.

World Vision Singapore: A World Vision assessment team has arrived in the quake zone to assess the needs of the survivors and prepare supplies and programmes for the homeless. The team brought baby supplies, warm clothing, food and daily necessities for distribution.

World Vision also plans to establish child-friendly spaces so children affected by the disasters can resume normal childhood activities and experience structure and security.

For cheque donations, please make the cheque payable to World Vision International and mail to the World Vision office at 750B Chai Chee Road, #03-02, Technopark @ Chai Chee, Singapore 469002. On the back of the cheque, indicate ‘Japan disaster’.

Cash donations can also be made at the World Vision office. Office hours are Monday-Friday, 9am – 5pm.

You can donate online at http://www.worldvision.org.sg/japandisaster/

News taken from http://sg.news.yahoo.com/how-you-can-help-japan.html

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How Self-Motivated Are You?

2011-03-02T01:16:00.002+08:00

Saw a friend posted a link in Facebook and thought that its worth to blog about it =) Not everyone can be totally Self-Motivated. People have their Ups and Downs, some people need encouragement from friends and family to pick themselves up from a downfall while some people are strong minded enough to pick themselves up.
While I was doing the quiz I thought I've probably fallen to those of a normal Ok kind of Self Motivated. I used to be very Self Motivated. At least what I think I am. But after experiencing some pitfalls, I felt that I'm no longer as motivated to do things I set out in doing. This is except my own business of course. I find utmost satisfaction in doing my business therefore, this context I'm talking about doesn't apply.
What I'm talking about here are the other aspects of my life. Just like the book I read,"Quarterlife Crisis". I felt that I have seriously been through the so-called quarterlife crisis describe in that book. I have been through some really tormenting times that has resulted in me feeling really horrible. I thought through many times what is the next step that I should take and finally I've made my decision. Although not easy, but I'm gonna make the best out of it.

Now try this Quiz and see how Self-Motivated are you? Below is how I scored. =)

The Self-Motivation Quiz

Instructions:

For each statement, click the button in the column that most applies. Click the 'Calculate My Total' button to add up your score and check your result using the scoring table underneath.

Statement

Not
at all

Rarely

Some
times

Often

Very
Often

I'm unsure of my ability to achieve the goals I set for myself.

When working on my goals, I put in maximum effort and work even harder if I've suffered a setback.

I regularly set goals and objectives to achieve my vision for my life.

I think positively about setting goals and making sure my needs are met.

I use rewards (and consequences) to keep myself focused. For example, if I finish my report on time, I allow myself to take a coffee break.

I believe that if I work hard and apply my abilities and talents, I will be successful.

I worry about deadlines and getting things done, which causes stress and anxiety.

When an unexpected event threatens or jeopardizes my goal, I can tend to walk away, set a different goal, and move in a new direction.

My biggest reward after completing something is the satisfaction of knowing I've done a good job.

I tend to do the minimum amount of work necessary to keep my boss and my team satisfied.

I tend to worry about why I won't reach my goals, and I often focus on why something probably won't work.

I create a vivid and powerful vision of my future success before embarking on a new goal.

Total =

Score Interpretation

Score	Comment
44-60	Wonderful! You get things done, and you don't let anything stand in your way. You make a conscious effort to stay self-motivated, and you spend significant time and effort on setting goals and acting to achieve those goals. You attract and inspire others with your success. Treasure this – and be aware that not everyone is as self-motivated as you are!
28-43	You're doing OK on self-motivation. You're certainly not failing – however, you could achieve much more. To achieve what you want, try to increase the motivation factors in all areas of your life. Read the relevant sections below, and work on them to strengthen your self-motivation.
12-27	You allow your personal doubts and fears to keep you from succeeding. You've probably had a few incomplete goals in the past, so you may have convinced yourself that you aren't self-motivated – and then you've made that come true. Break this harmful pattern now, and start believing in yourself again. The tools and tips below will help you get back your motivation.

Factors in Self-Motivation

Self-motivation is complex. It's linked to your level of initiative in setting challenging goals for yourself; your belief that you have the skills and abilities needed to achieve those goals; and your expectation that if you put in enough hard work, you will succeed (or at least be in the running, if it's a competitive situation).

Four factors are necessary to build the strongest levels of self-motivation:

Self-confidence and self-efficacy.
Positive thinking, and positive thinking about the future.
Focus and strong goals.
A motivating environment.

By working on all of these together, you should quickly improve your self-motivation. Let's look at each of these factors individually.

1. Self-Confidence and Self-Efficacy (Statements 1, 2, 6, 8)

Your score is 15 out of 20

Part of being self-motivated is having good levels of self-assurance, self-confidence, and self-efficacy. More on these below!

Being highly self-assured means you will set challenging goals for yourself, and it's also a resiliency factor for when you encounter setbacks. If you don't believe in yourself you'll be much more likely to think, "I knew I couldn't do this" instead of, "This one failure isn't going to stop me!"

Albert Bandura, a psychologist from Stanford University, defined self-efficacy as a belief in our own ability to succeed, and our ability to achieve the goals we set for ourselves. This belief has a huge impact on your approach to goal setting and your behavioral choices as you work toward those goals.

According to Bandura's research, high self-efficacy results in an ability to view difficult goals as a challenge, whereas people with low self-efficacy would likely view the same goals as being beyond their abilities, and might not even attempt to achieve them.

It also contributes to how much effort a person puts into a goal in the first place, and how much he or she perseveres despite setbacks.

By developing a general level of self-confidence in yourself, you will not only believe you can succeed, but you'll also recognize and enjoy the successes you've already had. That, in turn, will inspire you to build on those successes. The momentum created by self-confidence is hard to beat.

Take these steps:

Think about the achievements in your life.
Examine your strengths to understand what you can build on.
Determine what other people see as your strengths and key capabilities.
Set achievable goals for yourself, work to achieve them, and enjoy that achievement.
Seek out mentors and other people who model the competencies, skills, and attributes you desire.

As you begin to recognize how much you've already achieved – and understand how much potential you have – you will have the confidence to set goals and achieve the things you desire. The more you look for reasons to believe in yourself, the easier it will be to find ways to motivate yourself.

Our article on Building Self-Confidence teaches you how to develop this self-confidence, and gives you steps you can use to start feeling great about yourself. It will also put you firmly on the path to self-assurance and self-efficacy.

2. Positive Thinking, and Positive Thinking About the Future
(Statements 4, 9, 11, 12)

Your score is 17 out of 20

"Your life today is the result of your attitudes and choices in the past. Your life tomorrow will be the result of your attitudes and the choices you make today."

- Author Unknown

Positive thinking is closely related to self-confidence as a factor in self-motivation. It's important to look at things positively, especially when things aren't going as planned and you're ready to give up.

If you think that things are going to go wrong or that you won't succeed, this may influence things in such a way that your predictions will come true. This is particularly the case if you need to work hard to achieve success, or if you need to persuade others to support you in order to succeed. Your thoughts can have a major influence on whether you succeed or fail, so make sure those thoughts are "on your side."

Positive thinking also helps you think about an attractive future that you want to realize. When you expect positive results, your choices will be more positive, and you'll be less likely to leave outcomes to fate or chance. Having a vivid picture of success, combined with positive thinking, helps you bridge the gap between wanting something and going out to get it.

To apply "the power of positive thinking", do the following:

Become aware of your thoughts. Write down these downthroughout the day.
Challenge your negative thoughts, and replace them with positive ones.
Create a strong and vivid picture of what it will be like to achieve your goals.
Develop affirmations or statements that you can repeat to yourself throughout the day. These statements should remind you of what you want to achieve, and why you will achieve it.
Practice positive thinking until you automatically think about yourself and the world in a positive way, every day.

For even more tips, see our article on Rational Positive Thinking. You can also take our short quiz, Are You a Positive or Negative Thinker?.

3. Focus and Strong Goals (Statements 3, 7)

Your score is 5 out of 10

As we've said above, a key part of building self-motivation is to start setting strong goals.These give you focus, a clear sense of direction, and the self-confidence that comes from recognizing your own achievement.

First, determine your direction through effective goal setting.

To set comprehensive goals in all areas of your life, use our Life Plan Workbook.

When you set a goal, you make a promise to yourself. Part of the strength of this is that it gives you a clear direction. Part is that you've made this promise to yourself, and you'll want to keep this promise. And part is that it's a challenge, and it's fun to try to meet that challenge!

But don't set just any goal. According to Locke's goal-setting theory, your goal should have the following characteristics:

Clarity - Effective goals are clear, measurable, specific, and based on behavior, not outcomes.
Challenge - Goals should be difficult enough to be interesting, but not so difficult that you can't reach them.
Commitment - Goals should be attainable, and should be relevant – that is, they should contribute in a significant way to the major objectives you're trying to achieve.
Regularity of Feedback - Monitor your progress towards your goals regularly to maintain your sense of momentum and enthusiasm, and enjoy your progress towards those goals.
Sufficient Respect For Complexity - If the goal involves complex work, make sure that you don't over-commit yourself. Complex work can take an unpredictably long time to complete (particularly if you have to learn how to do the task "on the job").

When you have a variety of goals, be sure to schedule your time and resources effectively. You can achieve the "focus" part of self-motivation by prioritizing and establishing a schedule that will help you succeed. It doesn't make sense to work until you're exhausted or give up one goal to achieve another.

Using tools like the Urgent/Important Matrix and the Action Priority Matrix, you can quickly and easily see how each goal activity fits into the bigger picture of your overall objectives. If you fully understand your priorities, you probably won't feel as pressured to do everything at once. This can reduce stress and help you to concentrate on the most important strategies.

See our article on Prioritization for a summary, and for links to our top time management and prioritization tools.

4. Motivating Environment (Statements 5, 10)

Your score is 7 out of 10

The final thing to focus on is surrounding yourself with people and resources that will remind you of your goals, and help you with your internal motivation. These are external factors – they'll help you get motivated from the outside, which is different from the internal motivation we've discussed so far. However, the more factors you have working for you, the better.

You can't just rely on these "environmental" or outside elements alone to motivate you, but you can use them for extra support. Try the following:

Look for team work opportunities. Working in a team makes you accountable to others.
Ask your boss for specific targets and objectives to help you measure your success.
Ask for interesting assignments. See our article on Maximizing Job Satisfaction for tips on getting the most from your job.
Set up some goals that you can easily achieve. Quick wins are great for getting you motivated.
Buddy up with people who you trust to be supportive, and ask them to help keep you accountable.
Try not to work by yourself too much. Balance the amount of time you work from home with time spent working with others.

When you start your self-motivation program, you may tend to rely heavily on these external factors. As you get more comfortable and confident with your self-motivation, you'll probably use them only as needed, and for a little extra help.

Key Points:

Self-motivation doesn't come naturally to everyone. And even those who are highly self-motivated need some extra help every now and then.

Build your self-motivation by practicing goal-setting skills, and combining those with positive thinking, the creation of powerful visions of success, and the building of high levels of self-efficacy and self-confidence.

Your attitude and beliefs about your likelihood of success can predict whether or not you actually succeed. Set goals, and work hard to achieve them. Examine ways to improve your self-motivation, and regularly reassess your motivation levels. If you actively keep your internal motivation high, you can significantly increase the likelihood of achieving your hopes, dreams, and visions of the future.

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MISS UNIVERSE INTERVIEW (Just for Laughs)

2011-02-23T22:56:00.000+08:00

MISS WORLD Questions -

AMERICA

Question: Ms America, how do you describe a male organ in your country?
Ms America: Well, I can say that male organs in America are like gentlemen.
Question: How can you say so?
Ms America: Because it stands every time it sees a woman..........................
(Applause! Applause!)

SPAIN

Question: Ms Spain, how do you describe a male organ in your country?
Ms Spain: Male organs in our country are like our very own Bullfight or Toro (Bull)
Question: How can you say so?
Ms Spain: Because it charges every time it sees an opening....
(Applause! Applause!)

PHILIPPINES

Question: Ms Philippines, how do you describe a male organ in your country?
Ms Philippines: Well, I can say that male organs in our country are like gossip or rumors.
Question: How can you say so?
Ms Philippines: Because it passes from mouth to mouth......
(Applause! Applause! Standing Ovation! Applause! Applause!)

SAUDI ARABIA

Question: Ms Saudi Arabia, how do you describe a male organ in your country?
Ms Saudi: Well, I can say that male organs in Saudi are like thieves.
Question: How can you say so?
Ms Saudi: Because they like to enter through the back door.....
(Applause! Applause! Laughter! Laughter! Applause! Applause!)

INDIA

Question: Ms India, how do you describe a male organ in your country?
Ms India: Well, I can say the male organs in India are like labourers.
Question: How can you say so?
Ms India: Because it works day and night......
(Applause! Applause! Applause!

MALAYSIA

Question: Ms Malaysia, how do you describe a male organ in your country?
Ms Malaysia: Well, I can say that Male Organs in Malaysia are like Proton car.
Question: How can you say so?
Ms Malaysia: Look tough but actually very soft............................
(Applause! Applause! Laughter! Laughter! Applause! )

SINGAPORE

Question: Ms Singapore,how do you describe a male organ in your country?
Ms Singapore: Well, I can say that male organ in Singapore is very Kiasu (Afraid to lose).
Question: How can you say so?
Ms Singapore: It always wants to rush in quick and leave 15 minutes before the show is over
(Applause! Applause! Applause! Applause! Applause!)

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Eminem, Rihanna, & Dr. Dre 2011 Grammy Performance HD With Skyler Grey &...

2011-02-19T23:11:00.000+08:00

[Rihanna's Part 1]

On the first page of our story

The future seemed so bright

Then this thing turned out so evil

I don't know why I'm still surprised

Even angels have their wicked schemes

And you take that to new extremes

But you'll always be my hero

Even though you've lost your mind

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn

But that's all right because I like the way it hurts

Just gonna stand there and hear me cry

But that's all right because I love the way you lie

I love the way you lie

Ohhh, I love the way you lie

[Rihanna's Part 2]

Now there's gravel in our voices

Glass is shattered from the fight

In this tug of war, you'll always win

Even when I'm right

'Cause you feed me fables from your hand

With violent words and empty threats

And it's sick that all these battles

Are what keeps me satisfied

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn

But that's all right because I like the way it hurts

Just gonna stand there and hear me cry

But that's all right because I love the way you lie

I love the way you lie

Ohhh, I love the way you lie

[Rihanna's Part 3]

So maybe I'm a masochist

I try to run but I don't wanna ever leave

Til the walls are goin' up

In smoke with all our memories

[Eminem's Part]

It's morning, you wake, a sunray hits your face

Smeared makeup as we lay in the wake of destruction

Hush baby, speak softly, tell me you're awfully sorry

That you pushed me into the coffee table last night

So I can push you off me

Try and touch me so I can scream at you not to touch me

Run out the room and I'll follow you like a lost puppy

Baby, without you, I'm nothing, I'm so lost, hug me

Then tell me how ugly I am, but that you'll always love me

Then after that, shove me, in the aftermath of the

Destructive path that we're on, two psychopaths but we

Know that no matter how many knives we put in each other's backs

That we'll have each other's backs, 'cause we're that lucky

Together, we move mountains, let's not make mountains out of molehills,

You hit me twice, yeah, but who's countin'?

I may have hit you three times, I'm startin' to lose count

But together, we'll live forever, we found the youth fountain

Our love is crazy, we're nuts, but I refused counsellin'

This house is too huge, if you move out I'll burn all two thousand

Square feet of it to the ground, ain't shit you can do about it

With you I'm in my f-ckin' mind, without you, I'm out it

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn

But that's all right because I like the way it hurts

Just gonna stand there and hear me cry

But that's all right because I love the way you lie

I love the way you lie

Ohhh, I love the way you lie

Love the way you lie

梁靜茹 - 屬於 MV

2011-02-17T00:59:00.001+08:00

我坚持的都值得坚持吗

我所相信的就是真的吗

如果我赶追求我就敢拥有吗

而如果都算了不要呢

或许吧或许我永远都不要遇见他

或许吧或许我太天真了吧

属于我的昨天之前的结局

我决定我的决定

属于我的明天之后的憧憬

我迷信我的迷信

属于我们点点滴滴的伤心

我们要各自忘记

属于我们闪闪发亮的爱情

我们再一起努力

属于风的那就去飞翔吧

属于海洋的那就汹涌的

属于我们的爱该来的就来吧

为什么不敢呢不要呢?

是他吧命中早就注定了的那个他

是他吧他原来就在这里啊

属于我的昨天之前的结局

我决定我的决定

属于我的明天之后的憧憬

我迷信我的迷信

属于我们点点滴滴的伤心

我们要各自忘记

属于我们闪闪发亮的爱情

我们再一起努力

属于我的昨天之前的结局

我决定我的决定

属于我的明天之后的憧憬

我迷信我的迷信

属于我们点点滴滴的伤心

我们要各自忘记

属于我们闪闪发亮的爱情

我们再一起努力

属于我们点点滴滴的伤心

我们要各自忘记

属于我们闪闪发亮的爱情

我们再一起努力

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The Perfect Black Swan

2011-02-15T19:36:00.000+08:00

I watched the Black Swan and the very last part of the show, Natalie Portman said,” It’s just perfect” and yes I felt it. This movie is so intense that it got me thinking.

I felt that it was such a perfectly weak to a perfectly strong and eventually breakdown to a perfectly vulnerable character. You can feel her transformation from a beautiful dancer who wanted all to be just perfect but became so weak when there are other influence...eventually, competition made her “stronger” so to be even more perfect for both roles. But, while she thought that she was in control of the situation, she was actually losing control of herself, in mind.

Yes, end of the day she was perfect for the performance. But it or in fact she was hallucinating things and end up hurting herself just to be perfect just for once.

I wondered. In life, how does one be perfect? It’s virtually impossible. Well, for me at least. There may be people who thinks that their life is perfect. I would have to congratulate these people because? They are probably the most easily contented ones in this world. And they are probably the happier people around?

I think everybody had something in mind that they wanted to be just perfect. Well at least once? For a dancer, that could probably be the performance. For a accountant, every single cent counts. For a bride, it is to be the most beautiful women for her wedding etc.

So? What is the thing i wanted to be perfect? Many...everyone is greedy in one way or another. For example, you go to a buffet you wanna eat your money worth. But this is just a tiny bit of life. If you were eating half way through the waiter tells you,” sorry no more food” you could have two choices. One is to get upset that,” WTH! I paid $XX to eat till i drop, you tell me no food? What kind of service is this?” then end up having a bad stomach/big tummy etc. Because you ate too much. Or, say, ”nevermind, it’s no big deal” and take it easy.

For some people, they wanted things to be so perfect that if things do not go their way, they get very upset. I think it’s a character in a perfectionist. Just like in the movie Black Swan. Nina (Natalie Portman) just wanted to be perfect. Everything was so uptight that it felt like she couldn’t breathe. The hallucination that she was having was hurting herself and she doesn’t realise it. She was suffering and breaking down. This storyline is so intense it keeps you thinking whether what was shown was real or her hallucination. I’m amazed by how well this storyline was plotted out. Because, you do not know what’s happening next. Which i often have the 6^th sense when watching movies knowing what kind of scene is coming up next. This is just so un-expectable in every part. Another factor that contributed to her seeking perfection is probably her ex-ballerina mum. Whom i thought is sick in her mind as well. It was her that wanted things to be so perfect that she also pressurized Nina into being perfect. So don’t you think like mother like daughter?

I believe A LOT of parents do this. They pressurized their kids into something which they never had the chance to do and wanted to make them do it to make themselves proud. End of the day who suffers? The kid. And i think this is major in SG context. Every parent wants the perfect environment for their kid. No doubt. And all these in the context of “for their own good” but is it really good. Too much of something/everything is no good.

This film is definitely not only about ballet. Watch it only if you are prepared to be mentally “tortured” with those slightly gruesome bloody scenes. It’s all delusional. You’ll either like for its intensity or probably feel discomfort over some of the “shocking” scenes. I would give it a high rating for its ever ending twists that sets you thinking. Intellectual.

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新年快樂兔You!

2011-02-04T14:30:00.017+08:00

祝┏┯┓┏┯┓┏┯┓┏┯┓┏┯┓┏┯┓♥( /)
福┠恭┠┨賀┠┨新┠┨年┠┠快┨┠樂┨ღ( . .)ღ
你┗┷┛┗┷┛┗┷┛┗┷┛┗┷┛┗┷┛c(”)(”)

Happy Chinese New year 2011 兔 you~!

I'm hereby wishes everyone a Happy, Healthy, Properous Bunny Year ahead!

I feel so exceptionally hyper and happy this Chinese New Year!

I think its probably the New Launch of my CoutureDNA =) *BIG GRIN*

I hope if you're reading this, you could help by liking CoutureDNA's Page

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New Horror Scope!

2011-01-14T15:52:00.000+08:00

Capricorn: Jan. 20-Feb. 16.
Aquarius: Feb. 16-March 11.
Pisces: March 11-April 18.
Aries: April 18-May 13.
Taurus: May 13-June 21.
Gemini: June 21-July 20.
Cancer: July 20-Aug. 10.
Leo: Aug. 10-Sept. 16.
Virgo: Sept. 16-Oct. 30.
Libra: Oct. 30-Nov. 23.
Scorpio: Nov. 23-29.
Ophiuchus: Nov. 29-Dec. 17. (Yep, this one is new — read all about the Ophiuchus way of life here)
Sagittarius: Dec. 17-Jan. 20.

Read more: http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/01/13/horoscope-hang-up-earth-rotation-changes-zodiac-signs/#ixzz1AzgLggQm

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Encounter with a Wacko!

2011-01-07T03:12:00.002+08:00

Met a super weirdo otw hm...came out of cab..

Guy(20s): 大姐大姐！(for a few times behind me) I didnt wanna response..

Me being curious-cos e sound bcum louder): turn ard &; saw a botak guy look like cock)

Guy: 大姐啊你放心我不是要打抢。
(in my mind: WTF siah??!) Then e guy cont to mumble abt some shit saying he gt short tongue tts y can't talk properly blah blah blah....

Me: Eh...你可以废话少说吗？你到底要什么？？( I alr know this bastard wanted to ask for $)

Guy: Err..大姐大姐不要生气，小弟我没有要得罪你 ( by calling me 大姐 is probably ur first biggest mistake!!?!!!?!)

Me: 你是要钱是吗？

Guy: Err..我。。。我的钱包。。我给你我的号码？。。。then he took out his hp..

Me: 我才不要你的号码loh。。（−＿−；）hellloooo？ srsly I duno WTF this guy wanna do...

Me: anyway 你不见钱包的话你可以去警察局( i pointed to the direction of the police station)

Guy: 可是，小弟我现在是被警察 Wanted 的人所以。。。silence ....

Me: (thinking- u think I fuckin hell care? Wat a waste of my time!) then too bad loh..我帮不了你了。。。

Walk away...& I had to turn ard n look back to mk sure this idiot nvr follow me back..apparently he crossed the rd to the opp blks..I think in search of another victim who's willing to gv him $. He sld just FHL...