Live life 100 percent

To My Son

2015-10-23T02:06:00.001-07:00

1) Read all you can, get all your degrees before 30.Have a plan of how you want to live. If you cant reach it by end of 20s your chance of reaching it at 30 or 40 are relatively difficult.Your life will be more complicated as you grow old and have family.Your time and money will not be yours anymore.But when you try to study before 30 you will get all support you can. Parents will help you with money, friends will have time to mentor you. You will not feel guilty when you pursue your dreams with total devotion as there are no other commitments to your time or money.

2) Whatever field you choose- Work to be the top player. And go there fast. Before you start building your family. Because only from top you will get a clearer direction. You can steer the world in the direction you like instead of you running behind the set directions.

3) Everything comes with practice, never give up. There is nothing called talent.Talent is just hours and hours of practice.

4) Love yourself. Respect yourself.If you don't love yourself then nobody else will. Your self-respect is your everything.There is never any success in life when self-respect is compromised. Do not let people misuse use you.Don't compromise your self-respect for friendships or love. People who really care for you will not disrespect or make you feel inferior.Walk away from such negative people.

5) Beware of the teenage- everybody makes their worst mistakes during these years that have profound impact all through their lives.As body transitions from childhood to adulthood hormones wreck havoc.Our feelings will be at peak- anger,happiness,love,excitement..all at its peak.Control it.It's plain science.CONTROL YOUR FEELINGS.They are not real.

6) You will get used to any and all adversities, even enjoy it. That's how our brain works. So discipline your self to eat right,read right,invest right, choose the right friends even if you don't like it in the beginning. You will be rewarded immensely in the long run.

7) Start saving early and invest, Compound interest is the best friend.ALWAYS spend from your passive income.

8) Travel the world, you will learn its abundance. There is so much to learn,explore and enjoy.

9) Choose your life partner very carefully. This one decision will determine 95% of your happiness. Mine as well :-)

10) Never take life seriously, everything will pass so sit tight and enjoy the ride..

what does 'my life' mean

2015-10-23T00:35:00.000-07:00

"My Life" - this pharase keeps me thinking long and deep. What it means to me... i still am trying hard to figure out. Just like the blind men feel the elephant and everyone give their own version of elephant, my answers vary vastly depending on what i feel at that moment.

I see myself as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter as a friend, collegue... my life is ofcourse the sum total of all these roles. When i try to contribute more to that role it takes up some of my life, some of my time. As i try hard to live 100 percent to the role i am playing at that moment i feel like i am losing out on "my life". My life then becomes a stage where i put on as all the characters and try hard to give 100 percent to every role....... thats tiring.

Then what is my life? How am i to live 100 percent to my heart's satisfaction?

My question gave me my answer- "My heart's satisfaction".

Every one of us come with a limiting life span, every day has a time limit. But to play all those roles to 100 percent within the given time is stressful unless i know where to start and where to end a role and start another smoothly.

First thing first i need to know what is really important to me. What defines me- what is closer to my heart- It does not matter how much time i play a particular role- but what really matters is how effectively i am playing that role. What difference am i making to other people's life by playing that role to my heart's satisfaction. This is what matters the most to me and to the people in my life.

what is my motive with that role? what is the effect of that role in the other person's life? Is my self happy with me?

True, i need to impress myself first.

2015-08-20T01:09:00.000-07:00

Saw a cool poster, Its true.. motherhood and sleep seldem go together :-)

2015-07-27T22:00:00.000-07:00

Dr. Abdul kalam - the legend who inspired our lives breathed his last yesterday[27th July]. A simple person well loved and respected in India and abroad. Left a big lesson for every one of us. From his humble beginnings to president of India. He is know not because he was successful against all odds.. but because he was a great person. A wonderful human being. A powerful influence on the Indian youth to dream big and reach for it. Until his last breath he was inspiring people to dream big. A big salute to the selfless great man of our times. It feels like a big personal loss. His life just as he described-

Innah illah va inna ilaihi raziwoon! may you rest well sir! We salute you.
Some of his great words here-

Long live his legacy!

Life - lets give life to our lives

2014-04-17T01:25:00.003-07:00

1. Give meaning to your life!

Who are you? Why do you do what you do every day? Each of us lives in our own way, but we do not often ask why we do one thing over another. The purpose of your actions is to nourish your own well-being, since the meaning of your life is prodigal motivation, persistence, satisfaction and success...! If you are dissatisfied with your life, perhaps it is time to renew the meaning you give to your life by asking about your values, your goals, your activities. It will be a first step - very important - towards a sustainable well-being.

2. Enjoy the moment

It is convenient to give his life goals and to nourish the senses, but do not fall into imbalance. Sometimes we are drawn into the maelstrom of life without taking time to savor the chances we have. We all want to improve our lives, and dissatisfaction is watching us at every turn. If you have a lover, a job, good meals to eat and you do not fear for your safety, you are already a part of a very small percentage of people on earth for whom life flows in excellent conditions. This awareness will help you enjoy a bit of happiness, whose life gratifies you!

3. Become a catalyst for happiness!

Figuratively, a catalyst is a person who by his mere presence causes a reaction. Why not cause a positive reaction all around you? "There is nothing wrong in preferring happiness," said Albert Camus. By focusing on the positive aspects of your life, you will radiate to the point where others will feel right at your sole contact. An experiment to try!

4. Become your best friend(s)!

Sometimes, some stressful memories and twisted conclusions make us a good person in a bad company. We condemn, we affirm our faults, we let our fears run our lives. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, you can better recognize your strengths and qualities. This attitude will help you make peace with yourself.

5. Stop brooding!

It is recognized that our thoughts greatly influence our mood and level of well-being. The thoughts and negative emotions attract negative emotions, thoughts and positive emotions attract positive emotions. Thus, in each situation, you can always choose the more positive dimensions. Life does not turn so bad after all!

6. Do not entertain your suffering today from yesterday!

The anxiety and negative thoughts does not relieve us of our sorrows of tomorrow: they withdraw our today’s strengths and pleasures! Living by staying focused on your past prevents you from moving forward. Because if your past is no guarantee of your present, your present, it is the guarantor of your future! You can practice to accept your grudges, your difficult experiences, your conflicts, your grief. In doing so, you turn the bitterness in satisfaction! The ability to accept relieve you from chains you attached yourself to your feet.

7. Be empathetic!

"Great opportunities to help others do occasionally occur, but small opportunities surround us every day," said author Sally Koch. Empathy is the ability to put ourselves in the shoes of others to become aware of their statements and their emotions. Empathy is the natural enemy of egocentricity, a disease that eats away at our society. Instead, therefore, defend your interests and point of view first and put yourself in the shoes of others. Understand that your friend is worried that she did not give you expression that you can possibly avoid a painful conflict. Without you deny yourself, think about what other people live. You sow the seeds that will help make our world a better place to live.

my favourite inspirational quotes

2014-04-16T23:44:00.001-07:00

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily. –Zig Ziglar

:-) on that note here is a small dose of motivation that will sure boost your morale. Have a nice day!

Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being. –Kevin Kruse
Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill
Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. –Albert Einstein
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. –Robert Frost
I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse. –Florence Nightingale
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. –Wayne Gretzky
I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. –Michael Jordan
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart
Every strike brings me closer to the next home run. –Babe Ruth
Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. –W. Clement Stone
The past is a ghost, the future a dream. All we ever have is now. –Bill Cosby
Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. –John Lennon
We become what we think about. –Earl Nightingale
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain
Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –Charles Swindoll
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. –Alice Walker
The mind is everything. What you think you become. –Buddha
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. –Chinese Proverb
An unexamined life is not worth living. –Socrates
Eighty percent of success is showing up. –Woody Allen
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. –Steve Jobs
Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is. –Vince Lombardi
I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. –Stephen Covey
Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up. –Pablo Picasso
You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. –Christopher Columbus
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. –Maya Angelou
Either you run the day, or the day runs you. –Jim Rohn
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. –Henry Ford
The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. –Mark Twain
Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
The best revenge is massive success. –Frank Sinatra
People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily. –Zig Ziglar
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. –Anais Nin
If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced. –Vincent Van Gogh
There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. –Aristotle
Ask and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock and the door will be opened for you. –Jesus
The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. –Henry David Thoreau
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me. –Erma Bombeck
Few things can help an individual more than to place responsibility on him, and to let him know that you trust him. –Booker T. Washington
Certain things catch your eye, but pursue only those that capture the heart. – Ancient Indian Proverb
Believe you can and you’re halfway there. –Theodore Roosevelt
Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair
We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. –Plato
Teach thy tongue to say, “I do not know,” and thous shalt progress. –Maimonides
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. –Arthur Ashe
When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. –John Lennon
Fall seven times and stand up eight. –Japanese Proverb
When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us. –Helen Keller
Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see. –Confucius
How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. –Anne Frank
When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. –Lao Tzu
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. –Maya Angelou
Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions. –Dalai Lama
If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat! Just get on. –Sheryl Sandberg
First, have a definite, clear practical ideal; a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, money, materials, and methods. Third, adjust all your means to that end. –Aristotle
If the wind will not serve, take to the oars. –Latin Proverb
You can’t fall if you don’t climb. But there’s no joy in living your whole life on the ground. –Unknown
We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained. –Marie Curie
Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. –Les Brown
Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. –Joshua J. Marine
If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else. –Booker T. Washington
I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do. –Leonardo da Vinci
Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless. –Jamie Paolinetti
You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame. –Erica Jong
What’s money? A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do. –Bob Dylan
I didn’t fail the test. I just found 100 ways to do it wrong. –Benjamin Franklin
In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure. –Bill Cosby
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein
The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it. –Chinese Proverb
There are no traffic jams along the extra mile. –Roger Staubach
It is never too late to be what you might have been. –George Eliot
You become what you believe. –Oprah Winfrey
I would rather die of passion than of boredom. –Vincent van Gogh
A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. –Unknown
It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings. –Ann Landers
If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money. –Abigail Van Buren
Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs. –Farrah Gray
The battles that count aren’t the ones for gold medals. The struggles within yourself–the invisible battles inside all of us–that’s where it’s at. –Jesse Owens
Education costs money. But then so does ignorance. –Sir Claus Moser
I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear. –Rosa Parks
It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. –Confucius
If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough. –Oprah Winfrey
Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. –Dalai Lama
You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have. –Maya Angelou
Dream big and dare to fail. –Norman Vaughan
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. –Martin Luther King Jr.
Do what you can, where you are, with what you have. –Teddy Roosevelt
If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. –Tony Robbins
Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning. –Gloria Steinem
It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live. –Mae Jemison
You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try. –Beverly Sills
Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. –Eleanor Roosevelt
Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be. –Grandma Moses
The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me. –Ayn Rand
When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. –Henry Ford
It’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. –Abraham Lincoln
Change your thoughts and you change your world. –Norman Vincent Peale
Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing. –Benjamin Franklin
Nothing is impossible, the word itself says, “I’m possible!” –Audrey Hepburn
The only way to do great work is to love what you do. –Steve Jobs
If you can dream it, you can achieve it. –Zig Ziglar

2014-04-01T02:08:00.001-07:00

well, experimenting a little bit with life.

had always lived "full of life" - loud and bold... for a change tonning down. May be its the age ;-)

Cleared off lots of stuff, people,prejudices,words and memories - required and not required.
Keeping absolutely minimal/basic.

It feels very different. But i am seeing a serenity of no measures.
I thought i will regret... but no,

Ofcourse i miss a lot of people and comforts
but i now see myself better, i found a new person called myself
who was always waiting for my time but never received attention

To be surrounded by stuff and friends and tasks and feeling all important is good
but zenning it all also feels good

My people will always find a way to me and so is my destiny..
Emptied my cup & in no hurry to ever fill it up

2014-04-01T01:51:00.000-07:00

Read an article, thought good to share

High Achievers

By Yahoo! India Finance | CareerBuilder – Wed 26 Mar, 2014 3:30 PM IST

All of us work hard, but only the crème-de-la-crème of us make for the high-achievers. The difference between an achiever and a high-achiever is not too much. Just that the high-achievers know when to strike, their timing is just about right when it comes to promoting their achiever tag. Inspite of doing just the right hardwork, high-achievers clinch a better deal.

Enlisted below are the things which high-achievers do well to upgrade into this category-

Unworthy Procrastination

While the high-achievers follow the Nike way and just do it, the achievers just look for openings. They try to rationalize the things. If you keep thinking, you would never find a way to do it. You would just keep dwelling under it, without much luck or vigour to complete it. The go-getter attitude is missing in you and that is something which is heartily present in the high-achievers.

Creation

The high-achievers create opportunities for themselves. Literally, create them. One such person is Bill Gates, who went about asserting that there is market for computer softwares. He believed, he conquered and he created. That’s how stylishly the high-achievers do it. It may seem like a piece of cake but all of this does not come without hardwork, which is second nature for the high-achievers.

Regimental and Methodical

The gang of high-achievers is filled with people who like to keep their eye on the goal. They are just to consumed by it and hence make it a life purpose. The dedication and commitment is substantiated by the regimental quality of the schedule they prepare for themselves to follow regularly, without getting bored of it. It is all about accepting pain and making it your friend. They gratify themselves by smaller temporary joys to make sure they aren’t bored of their routine.

Minimalistic

High-achievers prefer minimalistic living. They are passionate followers of simplicity and well in that virtue. The more uncluttered the space and mind, the better you concentrate. High-achievers capitalize on this, their surroundings and their personal belongings are just optimum. They like de-cluttering and keeping the things as simple as possible so that they can concentrate on the bigger project at hand.

Rejecting Rejection

The breed of high-achievers have a deep belief in what they do. They learn from their experiences, they are inquisitive to no more and even when they fail they don’t succumb to failure. They get up and redo it again. Their tenacity and their perseverance is unparalleled. The idea of being there for your goal and keep going is something that is inherent quality of their soul. Besides this, they take dark patches and tough people in their stride and make sure they put their best foot forward at each step they take.

Having set the rules too clear, you should now be on your way to become one of the coolest ever high-achievers in the world, shouldn’t you? As they say, never stop dreaming!

Increase Productivity

2013-12-18T20:55:00.001-08:00

10 Golden ways to Improve our quality of Life

2011-08-03T19:46:00.000-07:00

found a great post.. worth sharing..

10 Golden ways to Improve our quality of Life

Many of our problems come from within our own minds. They aren’t caused by events, bad luck, or other people. We cause them through our own poor mental habits.

Here are 10 habits you should set aside right away to free yourself from the many problems each one will be causing you.

1. Stop jumping to conclusions.

There are two common ways this habit increases people’s difficulties. First, they assume that they know what is going to happen, so they stop paying attention and act on their assumption instead. Human beings are lousy fortune-tellers. Most of what they assume is wrong. That makes the action wrong too. The second aspect of this habit is playing the mind-reader and assuming you know why people do what they do or what they’re thinking. Wrong again, big time. More relationships are destroyed by this particular kind of stupidity than by any other.

2. Don’t dramatize.

Lots of people inflate small setbacks into life-threatening catastrophes and react accordingly. This habit makes mountains out of molehills and gives people anxieties that either don’t exist or are so insignificant they aren’t worth worrying about anyway. Why do they do it? Who knows? Maybe to make themselves feel and seem more important. Whatever the reason, it’s silly as well as destructive.

3. Don’t invent rules.

A huge proportion of those “oughts” and “shoulds” that you carry around are most likely needless. All that they do for you is make you feel nervous or guilty. What’s the point? When you use these imaginary rules on yourself, you clog your mind with petty restrictions and childish orders. And when you try to impose them on others, you make yourself into a bully, a boring nag, or a self-righteous bigot.

4. Avoid stereotyping or labeling people or situations.

The words you use can trip you up. Negative and critical language produces the same flavor of thinking. Forcing things into pre-set categories hides their real meaning and limits your thinking to no purpose. See what’s there. Don’t label. You’ll be surprised at what you find.

5. Quit being a perfectionist.

Life isn’t all or nothing, black or white. Many times, good enough means exactly what it says. Search for the perfect job and you’ll likely never find it. Meanwhile, all the others will look worse than they are. Try for the perfect relationship and you’ll probably spend your life alone. Perfectionism is a mental sickness that will destroy all your pleasure and send you in search of what can never be attained.

6. Don’t over-generalize.

One or two setbacks are not a sign of permanent failure. The odd triumph doesn’t turn you into a genius. A single event—good or bad—or even two or three don’t always point to a lasting trend. Usually things are just what they are, nothing more.

7. Don’t take things so personally.

Most people, even your friends and colleagues, aren’t talking about you, thinking about you, or concerned with you at all for 99% of the time. The majority of folk in your organization or neighborhood have probably never heard of you and don’t especially want to. The ups and downs of life, the warmth and coldness of others, aren’t personal at all. Pretending that they are will only make you more miserable than is needed.

8. Don’t assume your emotions are trustworthy.

How you feel isn’t always a good indicator of how things are. Just because you feel it, that doesn’t make it true. Sometimes that emotion comes from nothing more profound than being tired, hungry, annoyed, or about to get a head-cold. The future won’t change because you feel bad—nor because you feel great. Feelings may be true, but they aren’t the truth.

9. Don’t let life get you down. Keep practicing being optimistic.

If you expect bad things in your life and work, you’ll always find them. A negative mind-set is like looking at the world through distorting, grimy lenses. You spot every blemish and overlook or discount everything else. It’s amazing what isn’t there until you start to look for it. Of course, if you decide to look for signs of positive things, you’ll find those too.

10. Don’t hang on to the past. This is my most important suggestion of all:

Most of the anger, frustration, misery, and despair in this world come from people clinging to past hurts and problems. The more you turn them over in your mind, the worse you’ll feel and the bigger they’ll look. Don’t try to fight misery. Let go and move on. Do that and you’ve removed just about all its power to hurt you.

let go and move.

understand yourself first

2011-07-05T02:31:00.000-07:00

Understanding ourselves.. that's the toughest part.

If we know what we are and what we really want we will definetely get it. But then, understanding ourselves.. :) That's the first step to progress.

2011-03-28T22:52:00.000-07:00

Not a new post,

Just to add on to my last post. Not very sure if the message was mis understood.

Kids should be brought up to be self-reliant , be it girl or boy.

Super-man does not exist in real life. They should not grow up with the false impression that some Saviour or fairy god mother will come some day and change their lives.

Thats what i was trying to say. Hope i made it clear now.

Say no to cinderella dreams

2011-03-07T02:38:00.000-08:00

I often listen to this cinderella song by Tata young, It always makes me feel so happy- empowered actually. Regret i missed it 10 years back- when i was dreaming my own Cinderella dreams. Well, i believe everyone be it baby girl or baby boy should grow up to be confident , self-sufficient individuals. That always helps in the long run. When they are at peace with themselves they can do so much to help others as well.

Why i wanted to share this because, this is the sad reality with which every little girl is brought up with. Every mom dreams of a prince in shinning armour for her daughter who will slay her dragons and protect her. Ha..ha..ha... well, some might find their prince. Many a times all little girls grow up and stand staring at their dragons all alone. Every mom knows it. Then why not stop poisoning young minds with expectations of a saviour when they themselves can be one. Let's bring up little ones with confidence to take care of themselves and people around them.

by the way, the lyrics are as below-

When I was just a little girl
My momma used to tuck me into bed
And she read me a story
It always was about a Princess
In distress and how a guy would save her
And end up with the glory

I'd lie in bed and think about the person that I wanted to be
Then one day I realized the fairy tale life wasn't for me

[Chorus]
I don't wanna be like Cinderella
Sitting in a dark old dusty cellar
Waiting for somebody to come and set me free
I don't wanna be like Snow White, waitingFor a handsome prince to come and save me
On a horse of white, unless we're riding side by side
Don't want to depend on no one else
I'd rather rescue myself

Someday I'm gonna find someone
Who wants my soul, heart and mind
Who's not afraid to show that he loves me
Somebody who will understand
I'm happy just the way I am
Don't need nobody taking care of me

(I will be)
I will be there for him
Just as strong as he will be there for me
When I give myself then
It has got to be an equal thing

[Chorus]

I can slay my own dragon
I can dream my own dreams
My knight in shining armour is me
So I'm gonna set me free

(Like Cinderella
Old dusty cellar)
Waiting for somebody to come and set me free
I don't want to be like Snow White, waiting
For a handsome prince to come and (save me x6)

what's the rush!

2011-03-03T01:42:00.000-08:00

Found a good lesson! Just wanted to Share..

Investing on People,Investing on Life

2009-12-30T03:49:00.000-08:00

"Practice makes it perfect" so is the saying. Every art, every act in life needs that maintenance time. Needs that proper input to get the desired output. So are the people around us.

Everything goes by Newton's third law :-) true that is. You sow so u reap...

We need to give proper time to everything which we desire to shape so are human relationships.

We listen to people who we trust. We obey people who we believe. It is all about the feelings between two minds. We all know human relationships are the most complex ones. Hence if we really need happy helping people around us- we first need to sow- sow the seeds of love and trust. This is not easy. It takes lots of self-discipline. Lots of motivation and real interest.

We are prone to imperfections, we are prone to moods. It is impossible to be nice all the time.

If we had built our relationships strong enough , then we can be whatever we are and be loved by our people. How do we do that- just three easy steps

Walk your talk:
People hate hypocrites. Our views should be in line with our acts. This builds your reputation. I always honestly believe every human being has his or her own unique talent- irrespective of it- even if you are the most untalented person, people will still respect you if you live in line with your words. Simple example - Never criticize your kid for not switching off the light when you yourself leave it on sometimes when you leave [even sometimes]. Never boost about yourself anytime. It kills your reputation very badly even if you miss just once to live up to it. People will go by your words when evaluating you.

Keep your promises:

Life is tough and many times in our struggles we tend to become selfish. Many a times. We tend to lie, we to cheat and get away with what we want. This never gives us a lasting victory. What makes people to happily obey you is how much do they trust you. It is always based on how many happy moments you created in their life's, its based on how many times you kept your promises!

Never talk behind anybody's back:

This is one major problem with people. When we cannot get our way, or when we cannot speak our heart out directly we tend to back bite. Its a difficult thing to stop doing that, yet it always good to try and minimize us much as we can. To do that we either have to have the courage to tell the person straight how they are hurting you and try to resolve it. Or find another means of activity to vent out our hard feelings. When we talk bad about someone to say your friend X. There is no doubt that this X will think whether you will talk about him to somebody else like that. Even tough not obvious this thought will be in your friend's mind somewhere deep inside.

Never judge people/Nor label them:

Everybody thinks highly of our own selves- It is human nature, but then the truth can be something else. Yet we tend to evaluate others based on our own biased mind set. We will obviously never see them in proper perspective. There are many shades to every person. Even if you judge never treat anybody meanly.

Listen. Truly and with Love:

When we talk we always half listen- rest of our mind is set on thinking what to say when our turn comes. This stops us from understanding properly what the other person is saying. Also when we listen, our views filter what we listen. We listen and understand based on our own thoughts and views. This limits our perspective. When we listen- if we just simply listen- it helps improve our relationships greatly.

Be a happy positive person:
let there be positive vibes about you. People love to be with and follow happy people- who can keep themselves ground and cool and will also be able to provide a good atmosphere around them. Never expect your children to obey you unless you have provided them with a happy trustful environment to obey.
Be Patient:

Finally,There are people whose trust we had broken, whom we had done wrong- the people who kept you close to heart- like a good friend, a distraught spouse/parent/child- whatever we try we cannot build our friendship again unless we try with patience.

People, are the major resource of our life. The output will be absolutely fantastic life if we can invest in people with our time and love, sincerely and with constant patient practise.

me- myself and others..

2009-12-23T18:01:00.001-08:00

I saw this poem on a friend's page, simple yet very intresting intro...set me thinking...

they say i am "proudie"...i say i am confident
they say i am arrogant....i say i am deterministic
they say i am learned fool...i say i trust ppl and wud like to give opportunities
they say i am antisocial....I say silence is so beautiful
they say i am selfish...i say i have uncompromised goals to acheive..
they say relationship are for enjoyment..I say its for enriching ur virtues...
They say i dont listen to them...I say its my life
Watever they say...I am wat i am...Understood anything....Hahahaha....

we humans are complex...yet deep down under everybody there is a brilliant individual waiting to be discovered...

People have many shades.. It depends on what type of lens we are wearing when looking at them. It is like blind men and the elephant. Our judgement is limited by our own knowledge and our maturity levels. All of us have many layers..Never judge people and limit ur world.
People are a very intresting subject. The best resource and the worst nightmare. I love people...

why me?

2009-09-06T00:22:00.000-07:00

Many a times in life i wonder why i alone seem to end up with such adversities. Why do i get stuck in such pathetic situations, why do i go through so much pain etc.I always think i am such a stupid- not smart enough to escape problems. Of late slowly i have started realizing its not me alone. True. Its not me alone.Everybody have a different set of problems to face everyday.Even the smartest most intelligent ones whom we think live cool lives- they too seem to fight, struggle everyday. Their smartness lies only in hiding their troubles- They just fight their demons privately while we do it publicly. There is never going to be a single soul who is in peace- far away from trials and tribulations. There is no point crying over our trobles. Nor should we be worried when we sense trouble. It just makes the problem look bigger.

I have realized very clearly that some how i need to face my problems, stand my ground, fight them away.if not today then tomorrow.Only then there is peace. There will never be a gaurdian angel going to battle on our behalf- even if we find one and win our battles its just a temproary win. Lets face it. We need to fight our own battles.Only then the success tastes great. Only then we know how to win again if the enemy strikes again.Only then our lives moves forward.Only then there is a meaning to our lives.

Our problems build our strength, show us our own greatness.Bring out to the world our infinite potential. They are our blessings in disguise.Just that we need to face them- See them in the eye and tell them to obey you. Once done they boost our confidence so high that we really feel great from inside out. So nowadays when i get into shit- i know i need to find my own way out. I need to stand on my own two feet and fight it out. I know its really tough. I need to make many sacrifices- but thats life. Nobody is this world has everything. There will always be give and take.

It will always be priorities based.Its just that we need courage. We need it to tell ourselves "its not over yet".We need it to look for a way out. We need it to face our demons. There are many talented people in this world who do not know about themselves. I have met many. God has blessed everybody with some greatness- I have seen it very well.Every human being can in his or her own unique way can solve all their problems themselves- the gap that lies there is CONFIDENCE. Just believe you have the capacity to solve it. Actually it is very true that you have the capacity to solve it.We just need to bring ourselves to believe it.Thats all.

May we grow in strength by fighting our battles everyday.There will always be problems, everybody has it everyday. Its never just me. I am not alone- battlefields exist everywhere everyday. Lets face it.Lets win them all.

We all need help,We all need people

2009-08-09T23:13:00.000-07:00

Everybody thinks very high of themselves,Ofourse that's nothing wrong.But then the truth is- Every single human being is unique and precious in their own way.And it is also true that we need eachother in someway or the other many times in life.

I read this little story Long time ago- but then i always keep remembering it to keep myself humble-

I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come
from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work.
Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would
consider a bum.
From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no
money. There are times when you feel generous but there are other times
that you just don't want to be bothered. This was one of those "don't
want to be bothered times."
"I hope he doesn't ask me for any money," I thought.
He didn't.
He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop but he didn't look
like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.
After a few minutes he spoke.
"That's a very pretty car," he said.
He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him. His scraggly
blond beard keep more than his face warm.
I said, "thanks," and continued wiping off my car.

He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never
came.
As the silence between us widened something inside said, "ask him if
he needs any help." I was sure that he would say "yes" but I held true
to the inner voice.
"Do you need any help?" I asked.
He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget.
We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from
those of higher learning and accomplishments.

I expected nothing but an
outstretched grimy hand. He spoke the three words that shook me.
"Don't we all?" he said.

I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a bum
in the street, until those three words hit me like a twelve gauge
shotgun.
Don't we all?
I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I
needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus
fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day. Those
three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too. No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or
a place to sleep, you can give help.

Even if it's just a compliment, you can give that.
You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all.
They are waiting on you to give them what they don't have. A different perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see. Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets. Maybe
he was more than that.

Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and
wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in themselves.

Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a bum, then said, "go minister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."
Don't we all?

Lets love,respect and help each other through our lives.

How to stop being miserable

2009-07-22T07:44:00.000-07:00

There is no stopping our misery as swine flu,ressesion etc run rampant multiplying our everyday's stress,
below are few simple ways to stop our misery and improve our happiness.

1.Stop making issues big.Dont add your imagination to it.Big problems overwhelm and prevent you from solving them.

2.Dont think of it always.It will spoil your mood and prevent u from solving it.Stop being afraid of it.

3.Stop the blame game.Dont blame other people for it.neither should you blame yourself.It only serves to increase your pain.

4.Avoid complaining about it to everybody around you.

5.Dont avoid it and let your problems grow big.A stich in time saves nine.

6.Look at it from another perspective. This may provide you with fresh ideas to solve your problem.

7.Look for help.Look for a solution.There will be people who would have faced the same issues as you.Or there might be professionals specialized at tackling your issue.Never hesitate to look for help.

Life is worth everything- Short poem

2009-07-17T00:57:00.000-07:00

Small things matter a lot in life
words and smiles and thoughts we have
if it makes a gloom go bright
its worth living,everyday.

As u rush through hails and stroms
rarely pausing by to stop
yet u made a face to smile
its worth living,thats the way.

If you smell the roses still
enjoy rain and shine as well
in the crazy crowded world
its worth living,it always is.

There are times when problems soar
fix it with the strength of hope
life is precious to be lost
its worth living,to the last.

Sometimes its dirty,bad and worse
embrassed and shamed we regret
cant give up yet,theres cleaning to do
it worth living,just trust and get.

If you touched a life or soul
made them reach their distant goal
with a simple helping hand
its worth living,this is it all.

God does not desend to solve it all
but through people he does his art
Stand on ur feet and rise to help
Lets see god through ourselves.

Determination builds Dreams to Reality

2009-07-08T19:11:00.000-07:00

Maybe the Americans know this story already- but for the rest of us, a post on the determination that built the Brooklyn Bridge. I just could not ignore the strong inspirational shot this story gave me.Here it is-

In 1883, a creative engineer named John Roebling was inspired by an idea to build a spectacular bridge connecting New York with the Long Island. However bridge building experts throughout the world thought that this was an impossible feat and told Roebling to forget the idea. It just could not be done. It was not practical. It had never been done before.
But Roebling could not ignore the vision he had in his mind of this bridge. He thought about it all the time and he knew deep in his heart that it could be done. He just had to share the dream with someone else. After much discussion and persuasion he managed to convince his son Washington, an up and coming engineer, that the bridge in fact could be built.

Working together for the first time, the father and son developed concepts of how it could be accomplished and how the obstacles could be overcome. With great excitement and inspiration, and the headiness of a wild challenge before them, they hired their crew and began to build their dream bridge.
The project started well, but when it was only a few months underway a tragic accident on the site took the life of John Roebling. Washington was injured and left with a certain amount of brain damage, which resulted in him not being able to walk or talk or even move.
"We told them so.""Crazy men and their crazy dreams.""It`s foolish to chase wild visions."
Everyone had a negative comment to make and felt that the project should be scrapped since the Roeblings were the only ones who knew how the bridge could be built. In spite of his handicap Washington was never discouraged and still had a burning desire to complete the bridge and his mind was still as sharp as ever. He just did not want to give up. All he could do was move one finger and he decided to make the best use of it. By moving this, he slowly developed a code of communication with his wife.
He touched his wife's arm with that finger, indicating to her that he wanted her to call the engineers again. Then he used the same method of tapping her arm to tell the engineers what to do. It seemed foolish but the project was under way again.
For 13 years Washington tapped out his instructions with his finger on his wife's arm, until the bridge was finally completed. Today the spectacular Brooklyn Bridge stands in all its glory as a tribute to the triumph of one man's indomitable spirit and his determination not to be defeated by circumstances. It is also a tribute to the engineers and their team work, and to their faith in a man who was considered mad by half the world. It stands too as a tangible monument to the love and devotion of his wife who for 13 long years patiently decoded the messages of her husband and told the engineers what to do.
Perhaps this is one of the best examples of a never-say-die attitude that overcomes a terrible physical handicap and achieves an impossible goal.
Often when we face obstacles in our day-to-day life, our hurdles seem very small in comparison to what many others have to face. The Brooklyn Bridge shows us that dreams that seem impossible can be realised with determination and persistence, no matter what the odds are.
Even the most distant dream can be realized with determination and persistence.

Living life today for a regret free tomorrow

2009-07-02T06:47:00.000-07:00

The other day i was watching the movie 17 again. It was fun but got me thinking.There are many times in life where we want to go back in time and correct our mistakes. I can say with absolute confidence everybody has this secret desire.If only we could go back and start saving early, go back and choose a different career,life partner etc.. etc..Its true everybody wishes for it.But oh no! that is impossible.Although we love this fantasy with all our hearts that magic is just not possible. But what is possible is try to make the most of this day.THE PRESENT HOUR,MINUTE.
I know very well i cannot come back to this minute again and re-do anything- Hence i constantly keep thinking "what i can do to make this minute great? what i should do now so that i do not want to RE-DO it anytime?". This is very important.These questions show us so many possibilities- Although we cannot do everything so very perfect as we may lack the extra information that future brings, we still can try to give it our best.So that its worth our invaluable time.
Most of the time we look back at our past and grieve about things not done well or missed opportunities and look at the future with worries.Doing this we end up losing our most valuable possesion- our present.This day,this minute- i just want to make it beautiful.I just want it worth remembering later.I have no idea what future brings my way,nor do i want to think and regret about all my roads not taken.I have learnt through hard experience that i should live in today and thats what makes me feel happy and satisfied.I try to give my best today and just leave it at that. I have this quote by Ralph.W.Emerson hung up at my desk
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.

How to add instant sparkle to life

2009-06-24T19:20:00.000-07:00

As we go about doing our day to day ativities and struggling to make a living we all tend to forget to LIVE.Slowly our life gets tiring and boring.
Add some worries to this state of mind- u have a frustrating life.Which is what most of us live,but none like it.How to get back the lost colour in our life?
All of us know the trick, but never practice.Here are the time tested techniques to bring colour to our grey routines called life.
1) Have a hearty meal

2) Spend sometime with yourself.You and you alone.Doing what you love to do.

3) Connect to the nature. A flower or breeze can instantly prepup ur mood if given time.

4) Take your kid out on a weekend.

5) Get together with family and friends.

6)

Indulge in an adrenaline rushing sport.

7) Take a quiet stroll under the moon

Life is not about the final destination.It is all about living each day with a smile and satisfaction.Is it not?

a lighter moment

2009-06-17T22:58:00.000-07:00

Inspiring song-Hannah Montana the Movie

2009-06-10T22:19:00.000-07:00

I was not a big fan of Hannah montana.Went to the movie just like that and it turned out to be a good decision.Though not impressed by the childish story,yet the inspiring songs recharged me a lot.Mainly "The Climb". I had written a similar poem on this blog Dreams,my Dreams. It touched my heart just as appealing as though it came right out of heart. Every word is wonderful and inspiring.Thanks Disney and Thanks Hannah. I would love to highlight every single word of it :-)

Here I would love to share the inspiration- Lyrics of the song "The Climb" .

I can almost see it
That dream I am dreaming
But there's a voice inside my head saying
"You'll never reach it"

Every step I'm taking
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking

But I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high

There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Ain't about how fast I get there
Aint't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

The struggles I'm facing
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down
But no,I'm not breaking

I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I'm gonna remember most,yeah
Just gotta keep going

And I,I got to be strong
Just keep pushing on

'Cause there's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose

Keep on moving,keep climbing
Keep the faith,baby
It's all about,it's all about the climb
Keep the faith,keep your faith,whoa

Thats it- a big tribute to the dreamers of the world. Lets go for it.Lets live our dreams.Lets stick to our faith and face our struggles.