Better sex guide

Boost Your Sex Drive Without Drugs

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sat, 29 May 2010 11:06:00 +0000

Your sexual desire increases as your waist line decreases!

New research has shown that losing about 13% of your body weight over a two year period boosts sexual desire.

Your sex drive increases because you feel more sexually attractive.

200 people weighing an average weight close to 250 pounds completed a questionnaire. They were asked to rate their feelings on lack of sex drive to reluctance to being seen undressed and difficult sexual performances.

After being in a weight loss program for 12 months the participants completed another questionnaire and the results were:

26 percent reported not feeling sexually attractive, down from 68 percent at the beginning

34 percent report ed not wanting to be seen undressed, down from 63 percent

11 percent report not enjoying sexual activity, down from 21 percent

15 percent reported having little sexual desire, down from 39 percent

15 percent reported avoiding sexual encounters, down from 29 percent

12 percent reported difficulty with sexual performance, down from 27 percent

Low self esteem due to being overweight impacts sexual desire levels as well as health and lifespan.

Martin Binks a Duke University psychologist presented a study at a meeting of the Obesity Society showing that shedding a few pounds can improve things in the bedroom by making people feel better about their bodies.

You reap a lot of benefit from moderate weight loss of 10 to 13%. Binks said, "It's a wonderful message. You don't have to reach some ideal weight to be healthy and happy."

The feelings of being unattractive and the unwillingness to be seen naked deadened the sexual desire. Plus, when they wanted to have sex, the excess weight made it an ordeal.

That certainly was true of Carlene Wellington, 62, and her husband, Gary, 63, of suburban Tacoma, Wash.

Both were a healthy weight when they married 42 years ago, until she started to "show love" by cooking massive amounts of food. She and her husband ballooned to 237 and 355 pounds, respectively, and their sex life suffered.

"We had about 600 pounds in our bed," she said. "I called it my workbench," because sex was so physically difficult," he said. Carlene was embarrassed by her body. "I could get dressed without showing my skin, and had to have the lights off when we had sex," she said. During sex, she often felt pressure in her chest, caused by anxiety and dread.

She now weighs 153 pounds and her tall husband a trim 235. "It's just like being married to a different person - or going back 25 years," she said. Her husband recalled the day 13 years ago - after the couple has just lost a combined 200 pounds - when he looked at his wife one morning and told her she had a cute butt.

"I don't know if she thought I was trying to make her late for work or not," he said. But he was struck by how much he wanted to. "The term "love is blind" is true," he said. But now that he and his wife have both lost weight, "things work better," and sex is again a joy.

A 13% weight loss for someone weighing 250 pounds is only 32.5 pounds. A weight loss of 2.7 pounds per week for 12 weeks would result in a loss of 32.4 pounds.

Lose weight and boost your sex drive.

Big Penis Pill - Save your sex life

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sat, 29 May 2010 10:56:00 +0000

If you’ve been embarrassed about your size, here is your solution. With big penis pills you will start seeing the results in days! Hundreds of men are already enjoying hard rock erections, farther ejaculations and more potency! You can too! Products such as Maca Enhancer you can gain major inches to your penis size and satisfy your partner like never before! If you want a thicker, bigger and longer penis then this big penis pill is your answer! Sex is very important to men. Men are practically made to have greater sex drives and want sex more often than women. Thus, most men hold sex issues very personally. Whether it’s size or impotency, it all comes down to embarrassment a problem that needs to be solved without hurting yourself more.Be it for impotence, endurance, libido, enlargement… Penis pills seem to provide the solution for all. With time and demand the penis pill has greatly grown into a multi million dollar industry. Yet, do the promises of “larger penis size”, “huge orgasms” or “hard rock erections” really get fulfilled? Now on the market you can find everything from chemical based formulas to all natural enhancement pills. Even if your problem isn’t so bad like an erectile dysfunction, it’s still somewhat embarrassing to go to your doctor and confess. You want to face it like a man and find the solution yourself. So you go online to investigate. You sit tight and experience the world of big penis pills.

All basically offer you the same thing… Bigger penis, more orgasms, be like a porn star and more. Who doesn’t want to have all of this? Now the choice is which one to pick, and with all the news about side effects from Viagra and other pills you maybe skeptical about getting more harm done than good. Don’t go crazy now. You still got be on the safe side an read through all the ingredients before you buy any penis pill that way you’re sure it’s 100% natural. Also make sure that company has some type of reasonable guarantee, you never know. Make sure that if just incase you start to feel any side effects you can get a refund.Fortunately the natural herbs come to save the day. In an article by Boris Boki the author mentions, “There is always a chance to enhance your sex live with the help of food. It is not a secret that many natural enhancement pills are based on well-known ancient aphrodisiac, mostly exotic, like Cayenne Fruit, Chinese Ginseng, Horny Goat, Ginkgo and others. They also contain vitamins (Vitamin B3, Vitamin E) and minerals like Zinc.” Thus a wide majority of penis pill industries have formulated all natural penis pills without all the man-made chemicals and possibilities of dangerous side effects. Big penis pills do really work, as long as they’re all natural. Always make a through investigation of any big penis pill you’re considering in buying, in this case you really don’t want to risk the side effects. Take some time so you can be sure to get the results you wanted. Have a better sex life, be more confident and do it all discreetly, safely and 100% natural.

Better Sex - The Natural Way

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sat, 29 May 2010 10:36:00 +0000

Premature ejaculation, reduced sexual performance ...???

You may be surprised to learn that nutrition and sex are closely linked - and it has nothing to do with chocolate!

Science has linked reduced sexual performance and increases in infertility to compounds in our toxic environment, poor nutritional habits and excess stress - all factors that are, to a certain degree, within our control.

According to the American Infertility Association, an estimated 10% of couples in the U.S. are infertile. And around the world, lower sperm counts are being reported in men, with the blame belonging, in part, to the increase of toxic and hormone-active chemicals in the environment.

As a result of these problems, many people turn to medication and invasive therapies for a "cure" when lifestyle changes and natural products may be all that is required to improve their sexual performance and fertility. Simply put, by improving your diet, limiting your exposure to hormone-active chemicals and supplementing with vitamins, minerals and herbs you may be able to bolster your sexual and reproductive health. .

Throughout the world, many cultures use native plants and herbal extracts toenhance sexual desire and energy levels. Botanicals such as Catuaba, Maca, Muira Puama, Epemedium, Grandiflorum,and Tribulus Terrestris have been traditionally used to support the male system. Dong Quai,BlackCohosh, Red Raspberry, Red Clover, and Cranberry help support and balance the female reproductive system, including hormonal levels.

All About Sexual Addiction

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sat, 29 May 2010 10:19:00 +0000

Sex addiction is one of the least talked about and least understood of all addictions. This is mainly because of our society's unwillingness to take a honest look at sexuality. However recently a more clearer understanding of sex addictions is being reached. Today the idea that someone could be hooked on sex is unsettling to most people. Most will deny that the problem is actually a chemical addiction and suggest that its really cause someone is a 'slut' or 'player' or that the person is just a 'horn dog'. People are more able to admit that they have bad habits then they are able to admit they are hooked on someone or something. This confusion about sex addiction is majorly influenced by our society's stereotype towards addicts.

Sex addicts are those who engage in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior. This behavior is usually increased as the time and problem foes on, despite negative consequences to self and others. They become addicted to the nero-chemical changes that take place in the body during sexual behavior. It is said that this is not an uncommon condition as some would think. In fact, more than 15 million people worldwide suffer from this type of addiction. Sexual addiction has many different forms including: compulsive masturbation, sex with anonymous prostitutes or other partners. multiple affairs outside of a committed relationship, habitual exhibitionism, inappropriate sexual touching, sexual abuse of children, and raping. The worst of all of these above is childhood sexual abuse. It is said that 60 percent of people who have a sexual addiction where abused by someone in there childhood. Its like a recurring nightmare, sex addiction hurts alot of people and can even lead to others developing the addiction.

Sex addicts have no comprehension of the risks they are taking. They feel their life is out of control. To deal with the pain, the sexual addict may resort to other

addictions such as alcoholism, eating disorders, and abusive drugs. Many times suicide is also a constant thought. The addiction does not't make a person worthless, it just hides the addict's true personality and positive qualities. Many sex addicts, however, are not involved in any public activities that would enhance their level of arousal. Instead they spend hours reading or watching pornography, with eventually masturbation as part of their activity. Sexual addiction is progressive and it rarely gets better. Over time it gets more frequent and more extreme. At other times when it seems under control, the addict is merely engaging in one of the common traits of the disease process in which he switches from sexual release to the control of it.

Many addicts seek help for there sex addictino, but discontinue it or find it not helpful. They have a growing appreciation of the reality of the problem but tend to counter this realization by minimizing the problem or thinking they can handle it by themselves. Most fear that letting go of the addiction would mean giving up sex completely.

Recovery is not a straight incline leading directly to a desired goal, but it does follow a somewhat predictable path. To get on this path, the addict must first recognize his or her problem and be able to address their addictive behavior, then must understand the role that the addiction has served. The addict must learn the value of his self as a whole person, rather than as a sexual object.

Active Sex - A Key to Good Health

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Tue, 25 May 2010 08:10:00 +0000

Make sex the vital root of health and happiness in your daily life. It gives you pleasure. It satisfies you. Above all, it keeps you healthy. You can burn up to 200 calories if you engage in energetic sexual activities. This is just the beginning for when we go into details you will know why your sex life is a very important part of you.

Sex reduces heart disease risks
Take the case of women. Till they are 40, heart diseases are rare amongst them. But once they cross the menopause hurdle, the heart walls thicken, arteries stiffen and women become more prone to heart diseases. Here, an active sex life can make matters easier for you. Researchers at the Queen’s University say that making love three or more times a week helps women as well as men stay away from many diseases relating to the heart.

Improved sense of smell
After sex the production of the hormone prolactin surges. This causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain's olfactory bulb, its smell center.

Weight loss, overall fitness
A vigorous sexual encounter equals to running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a spirited game of squash. Sex boosts the production of testosterone which leads to stronger bones and muscles.

Couple Bonding
In marriage the role of sex is only five percent. But it is the important first five percent. A happy sexual life brings couple closer in marriage. It brings sexual satisfaction and emotional happiness and in turn boosts your health.

Sex as a Pain Reliever
During sex the hormone oxytocin is secreted in your body which in turn causes the release of endorphins. Because of these natural opiates sex acts as a powerful analgesic, elevating the pain threshold and helping to relieve the aches of conditions like arthritis, whiplash and headaches.

Sex reduces Stress / improves Sleep and Relaxation
Frequent sex relaxes you. Researchers indicate that couples sleep more deeply and peacefully after satiating sex. At this hour you may be able to let go of distracting thoughts.
There is more to health than just exercises and a well balanced diet. So partners, make it a point to engage in active love making at least thrice a week as the benefits you mold out of this pleasurable act is truly significant in your healthy life

A Natural Health Lifestyle Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Tue, 25 May 2010 08:09:00 +0000

Sex is an important part of your adult life. And in a relationship, it can often make or break your bond with your spouse over the years. You need to have stamina and energy for sex. And taking care of yourself through natural health will help you boost your energy levels.

In order to improve your relationship, you first need to improve yourself first. By taking care of your needs, you can be sure that you will be able to manage the relationship and its needs.

A natural health lifestyle helps you take care of you. You will then be able to improve your sex life. Certain foods act as an aphrodisiac, which will help to improve your drive. Also, when you are happy and less distracted, you are more likely to enjoy sex. Life's problems can often overshadow a relationship; and it is sometimes in the bedroom that these pressures can be felt most.

With a natural health lifestyle, you work on your body's internal and external systems. With natural health training, you get the body you want and with the natural health food list, you get to know which food will improve your sex life. In turn you can then enjoy your sex life more.

This will allow you to make your partner happy which can only be beneficial to the relationship. When you feel good, you become more productive. And with increased energy levels you find the time to make your partner happy.

The natural health lifestyle not only benefits your bedroom life, but also your entire life in general. Reading a natural health book or magazine can also further enhance your love life.

Give your sex life that boost that it needs and ignite the flames of passion in your bedroom through the natural health lifestyle.

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 16:18:00 +0000

Female Sexual Health & Orgasms

There has been increased interest in female sexual health in the past few years largely due to the development of effective treatments and orgasm boosters.

Physicians are now learning what happens with females during sexual excitement and orgasm. With the knowledge of normal physiology during orgasm, physicians as well as therapists, can now help females with their sexual difficulties.
Sexual wellness for a woman translates simply to being able to have a satisfying sex life. Sex can only be truly satisfying if an orgasm is achieved and there is no discomfort during sex. Many women go throughout life never experiencing the joy of an orgasm let alone multiple ones. Sometimes sex can be uncomfortable if not downright painful.

There are multiple reasons for female sexual health problems like this that we'll examine. Female Sexual Dysfunction & Female Sexual Health:
Psychological female sexual health dysfunction tends to be relatively common. Mental and emotional contributors, which include stress, changes in body image, relationship issues, and changes in sexual expectations all contribute to psychogenic Female Sexual Health problems. There is no physical damage holding back a satisfying sex life.
Female sexual dysfunction brought about by the use of anti depression drugs, antihistamines and beta blockers to reduce blood pressure could be considered a subset of this female sexual health problem.
A Neurogenic female sexual health problem is a term used when female sexual dysfunction is associated with a neuropathy, which interferes with sensations between the brain and the sexual organs. Organic causes of female sexual dysfunction, which is extremely common, are more complex and varied that of men. The female sexual health function is a complex interaction of hormonal events and psychosocial relationships. Apart from the emotional or psychological causes, atherosclerosis of the arteries still plays an important role as do physical changes which can include vaginal dryness or atrophy which in turn contributes to vaginal pain or irritation, fatigue, sleep disturbances, hot flashes, night sweats, and other general female sexual health concerns. Some synthetic progestins commonly used for contraception have also been associated with a decrease in libido. It's because of the complexity and the scope of the organic causes of female sexual health problems that drug companies haven't been successful in producing the female product equivalent to male 'Viagra'.
Female sexual health problems have to studied using a natural approach from many different areas. Recovering Your Sex Life & Eliminating Female Sexual Health Problems:If you think that your female sexual health problem is psychological and you can't determine the root cause or just aren't sure how to deal with it, then you should seek professional help.
Talk with your physician or other female sexual health professional to find a good sex therapist in your area that could help you.
Other than unique devices such as vibrators that help to arouse you sexually, there are other products, although not very effective, that have been approved for use by women suffering from female sexual health problems. These are for the most part suction devices designed to be placed over your clitoris to try to help force blood into the general area and to engorge the clitoris in readiness for sexual activity. Not exactly a very effective or sexually exciting thing to do. Although trials are underway with drugs to help eliminate female sexual health problems, the current feedback is not promising.
This is understandable because although there are some similarities in women's sexuality as in men, such as the need for the clitoris (as with the penis) to become engorged with blood in order to reach orgasm. One problem however is that this is just one function of the female sexual response. Nonetheless you can be sure that research will continue and there is no doubt that at some time an approved drug for female sexual health problems will be released.

A Crash Course in Sexual Stamina

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 15:58:00 +0000

7 Tricks for Lasting Longer in Bed. A Crash Course in Sexual Stamina

My extensive experiences with tantric yoga, ancient sexuality practices, and contemporary western therapeutic paradigms have exposed me to many 'tricks-of-the-trade' when it comes to coming.
In this article I'll attempt to distill some of this simple but powerful wisdom. Hopefully men seeking to improve their sexual stamina, or even just to educate themselves sexually, can begin to use this as a roadmap for their quest. And a very worthy quest it is too, (speaking as a woman).If there is one thing I cannot resist it is a man who is dedicated to learning more about his body and sexuality in general.I know I speak for a lot of other women when I say that the most important quality in a lover is a commitment to improving the quality of his, and his partner's, sexual experiences.

THE TRICKS TO LASTING LONGER
1. Relax and increase your body awareness There are very many techniques out there to help you relax and be more able to 'feel' your body. As a yoga practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques.Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex. Not controlling it, just noticing it. Masters and Johnson also developed a technique known as "sensate focus exercises" which I use extensively in my practice as sexual surrogate therapist and sex 'coach'.
2. Focus on pleasure in sex, rather than sexual performance.Let go of any expectations about the outcome of sex. Going into a sexual experience with a 'plan' robs you of any ability to be open minded.You cannot learn from sex if you are focused on how it should look.Instead, notice the pleasure as it is happening. The pleasure will show you what is good. It is the ultimate teacher when it comes to sex
.3. Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding; which is itself a step towards mastery.Focus on your pleasure during sex, during masturbation, or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the bus.
4. Extend your sexual arousal to higher levels.There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As you become more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable.This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally. Be sure to practice sex and pleasure often, so your body can keep teaching you.
5. Master your sexual arousal consistently at higher levels.As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it.Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them.Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.
6. Become accustomed to a steady level of intense arousal.Get into the habit of building your sexual pleasure and indulging in it fully. Let the moments you feel pleasure expand. Let the arousal continue as if it didn't need to end ever. It will of course, but you don't care when ... just let it happen.
7. Stop thinking Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment with techniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up.Experience all of this intense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it! THE KEY is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.Here's a bonus tricky tip for you. It's also the most important one.

Remember your own commitment to learn and grow.. . it all comes back to you.By the way, if some of these tricks seem to be a bit of a tease it's because they are. Each one could be the subject of several very in depth articles or sexuality workshops.I want you to take the time to ponder these tricks and look further. I wish you well on your adventures and I wish you very much pleasure.

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 13:45:00 +0000

Why Marital Sex Often Dies

WHY MARITAL SEX OFTEN DIES By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Research indicates that over 55% of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. In my 35 years of counseling couples, I’ve worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire - it’s that they are not interested in sex with their partner. There is a very good reason for this.Sexuality in long term relationships is the result of loving energy flowing between two people. If something is blocking this loving energy, the sexual energy between them often gets blocked as well.There may be many reasons for loving and sexual energy being blocked, but the most common is what I call the "pull-resist relationship system."

Here’s how it works:
One partner, let’s call him Bill, "pulls" on the other for time, approval, attention, appreciation, as well as for sex. Bill may pull with niceness, caretaking (giving in order to get something back), gifts, withdrawal, anger, blame. These behaviors are a "pull" when Bill is coming from an empty place within, a vacuum-like black hole that wants to get filled through approval, validation and sex. In fact, sex may be the main way, aside from work, that Bill’s worth as a man gets validated and his inner emptiness gets filled up. It may be the main way that he feels loved.

The other partner, let’s call her Jan, rather than feeling loved by the niceness, gifts, or withdrawal, anger and blame, feels objectified. She feels that Bill is being nice or angry to manipulate her into having sex - not because he genuinely wants to give to her and express his love for her, but because he wants to get love from her. He comes to her like a needy little boy, wanting to get validated, filled, or released. She ends up feeling used and drained when they have sex rather than loved. Because she doesn’t want to be used and controlled by Bill, and because she is not attracted to him when he is being a needy little boy, her whole body goes into resistance and she no longer feel sexually attracted to him. Of course it could be the other way around, with the woman pulling and the man resisting being used and controlled by her.

In this pull-resist system between Bill and Jan, a number of changes need to occur for the passion to come back into their relationship. Bill needs to stop trying to control Jan. He needs learn how to take responsibility for his own feelings and well-being - for validating himself and filling himself with love, rather than always trying to have control over getting something from Jan. He needs to be practicing a spiritual healing process such as Inner Bonding (see our free course at http://www.innerbonding.com). Jan needs to learn to speak her truth rather than either complying (having sex even when she doesn’t want to) or resisting. She needs to tell Bill that she is not turned on to him when he is pulling on her for sex, or for anything else such as time, attention, appreciation or approval. Until she is ready to speak her truth without blame or judgement about his emptiness and neediness, Bill cannot understand what the problem is. He will think it is just because she is frigid or has some other sexual problem, and will not understand his responsibility in their marital system. Jan also needs to practice Inner Bonding or some spiritual healing process in order to become strong enough to speak her truth.

Most women are turned on to a man when he is in his power, feeling good about himself. Neediness is not a turn-on. Men, too, are often not turned on to a needy woman, a woman who needs him to make love to her for her to feel safe, worthy and lovable. In our society, it’s more common for men to attempt to get their validation through sex than it is for women, which is why more men than women pull for sex. In either case, both partners need to do their inner healing work so they can become strong enough to be truly loving with themselves and each other.

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 13:34:00 +0000

Wickedly Sinful Sex Tips For One And All!

So it's a lazy afternoon with no plans in sight, shop on-line for a new sex toy. Take turns ordering a toy or treat that appeals to you- without any feedback from your lover. Be adventurous and choose something that intrigues or bewilders you. Try not to let each other know the items
you've chosen while waiting the few delivery days that stand between you and new found
pleasures. When your items arrive in the mail, the objective is to try whatever was bought (unless you really really can't / won't / don't want to). If you're scared of what extremes your partner might go to, set some boundaries beforehand - almost all sex toys cannot be returned.

Want to be a more flexible lover? Rent or buy an instructional yoga tape to enjoy at home, naked, with your lover. Set the lights low and make sure the room is comfortably warm, use
incense and candles for a romantic touch. Place yoga mats or towels on the floor and remove all of your clothing. Stretch to your hearts content while admiring your partners pliant body...
in the buff!

Create your very own harem! Find a cozy secluded area like a basement, roof, attic, enclosed patio etc. To get in the mood set up a blanket and lot's of pillows comfortable enough to lounge on. Keep the lights dim and use a lantern or candles for some ambiance. Light some incense and play soft relaxing music (Indian sitar music is great). Now the fun part... to complete you're night for two, have a pot of chai tea and some ice cubes set aside on a tray. Take turns orally pleasing each other by alternating the warm sensation of chai tea in your mouth followed by the cooling sensation of the ice. You'll definitely have your partner oohing and aahing.

Make a game of christening one room in your house/apartment per week. Initiate a little hanky panky whether its in the kitchen or living room, on carpet or stairs. Some out of the ordinary
places to try are closets, crawl spaces, attics, balconies, apartment stairwells or elevators and even your front porch.

Worship your union in a house of worship! This may take some sly planning and shouldn't be attempted on the busiest religious day of the week (Sunday). Usually churches are left open to the public, finding a private alcove for a sinful tryst however can prove challenging. Of course there are confessionals, just be sure that you're alone. For all you angels out there yearning
for lustful immorality, listen to gospel music while engaging in fierce copulation. You can always repent later.

Are you up for a game of monkey see monkey do? This time when you rent a porno, rather then just watching it... ape it. This usually works best in a bedroom where you can be sure of having
privacy. Be sure to wear scandalous "porno" clothes (it's hard to pretend you're a super stud wearing the fish print boxers your grandma got you for x-mas). This naughty exercise is a
great confidence booster and you are bound to discover new positions or techniques to savor after the show is over.

Get a little kinky! Fetish parties or clubs are a fun way to embrace your naughty side by exploring different sexual themes with like minded hedonists. If you don't want to run into
embarrassing encounters with people you know (your dentist, grandma, librarian etc.), wear a mask or a wig, trust me you wont be the only ones. Publicly advertised fetish parties are
best bets for first timers as they are usually on the tame side. Clubs advertised in the back of weekly papers are usually a tad more sinful.

Recreate the prom night you never had! Dig out your old taffeta prom dress or blue tux, some year books and old records. Rehash how you spent your prom night and with whom as you go through those moldy yearbooks. If you ended up going dutch then this is your night to recreate the x-rated prom night you always dreamed of. If you want to go all the way, rent a cheesy motel room and giggle all night long.

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 13:12:00 +0000

Why Men Want Sex and Women Want Love

Men are frustrated with women because they never want sex.
Women are frustrated with men because they always want sex.

Women blame men they don't know how to love.
Men blame women that they only talk about love but don't want to make it.

Whether you are a man or a woman, reading this article can change your life - finally, you will be able to get rid of your frustrations about the opposite gender.

The reason humans want sex is due to the hormone testosterone, which is predominantly male hormone. A normal male's body produces 20 times more of this hormone than a female's.

In other words, a male feels the same way after one day without sex as a female after 20 days without sex. A male that has not had sex in 20 days feels the same way as a female after more than a year without sex.

Knowing this simple difference, you can already understand the pain of the opposite gender. It's NOT their fault: they are made this way! It's in our genes! This is the reason why men are men and women are women.

Men and women are DIFFERENT. Not better or worse, just different.

A man can father a child every time he has sex, and a woman can only mother a child every two years or so. This means, a woman HAS TO be picky about who she allows to have sex with her.

For generations women were paying too high a price for making a wrong choice. Women that have chosen men with bad genes had a weaker offspring and their children struggled to survive. Women that have chosen men with good genes had a stronger offspring and their children survived disproportionally. Those children were carrying their picky mother's genes and this is why those female genes were passed to us.

On the other hand, men never had adverse consequences of making a wrong choice. The more children they produced, the higher was their chance to pass their genes to future generations, as some of them would certainly survive. While men were determined to seek better genes too, they had to grab all chances to procreate coming their way to ensure their genes would be passed forward. The men that ONLY stuck with one woman (even a high quality woman) were losing genetically to the men that used all of their opportunities and had many more children that survived. Those children were carrying their father's promiscuous genes, and this is why those male genes were passed to us.

By Nature men are made to seek as much sex as they can get, so they can spread their seed wider.

By Nature women are made to seek as many admirers as they can get, so they can make a better choice and get the best seed.

Men seek quantity - women seek quality.

This is why men seek sex and women seek love.

Love is the proof that a woman needs to have some assurance that the man will stick around and help her with the upbringing of the offspring. For a woman, sex is the culmination of her emotional commitment to a man.

For a man, sex is a physical act that eases the testosterone pressure he experiences constantly. Only after this tension has gone, can a man feel love towards a woman. This is why it often happens that men disappear after they got what they wanted: it wasn't love; it was the testosterone pressure. Sex for men is the reality check of their passion.

This is why having sex early in the relationship is hazardous for women: the man has not had the time to develop any romantic feelings for her. He needs time to develop those feelings, and the only way to do it is through keeping the sexual tension going for as long as practicable. Sex must be attainable, nearly possible - but not quite. When the sexual tension is at its peak, its release is mind-blowing - and once is never enough, which lays a proper foundation for a future relationship - and love.

Men fall in love through sex; women fall in sex through love.

All of this happens on the unconscious level - we do NOT realize what's going on.

But the reason why you are here today and alive is because each and every of your ancestors, men and women, acted true to their instincts and managed to attract at least one sexual partner and produce an offspring.

So, there is no need to be bitter about men wanting sex and women wanting love. Those two are the necessary pieces of the puzzle called Survival Of The Species.

And you'll be better off understanding what the other gender is going through and giving them exactly what they want: a mind-blowing sex or exhilarating love.
Go get 'em!

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 12:47:00 +0000

Women's Sexual Expression

Have you ever wondered whether other women, lesbian or straight have problems with sex? Do you worry that you're the only one who makes passionate love at the beginning of a relationship and then withdraws? Or perhaps you enjoy making love to your partner, but feel uncomfortable receiving sexual pleasure? If any of these sound familiar, you are not alone.

Barriers to Feeling Comfortable with Your Sexuality

While we may believe that sex should flow naturally and easily, the reality is often different. It's no wonder, given all that we're up against--sexism, heterosexism, and homophobia; society's repressed attitudes about sex generally and especially about women's sexuality; messages we receive from famililes, religion, schools, and the media about women, lesbians, and sex; and the fact that so many girls and women are sexually assaulted. It's remarkable that we feel comfortable with sex at all!

Patience and Awareness

If you're having a hard time with any aspect of sex, the best thing you can do for yourself is to be patient and understanding. Freeing yourself of pressure, blame, or criticism is crucial to moving through any obstacle you face. A good starting place is to simply pay attention to everything that you feel as soon as you are aware of feeling uncomfortable. If you are numbing, or shutting down, you'll want to figure out how you felt immediately prior to that.
*How does your body react?
*What body sensations do you notice?
*Do you hold your breath?
*Does your heart quicken?
*What are your thoughts?
*Do you see or sense images, sounds, smells, or tastes?
*What do you notice before and during the point you start to feel uncomfortable or begin to numb yourself?

Being aware of your own experience and responses is an important first step. This awareness helps you be in your body and be present with yourself. These are important elements for being able to relax and enjoy sex. This does not mean that you suddenly feel comfortable with sex, in fact initially you may feel even more uncomfortable because you are more aware of how upset or scared you feel. Some may respond to this process by feeling calmer. If you feel more upset or about the same, continue to be with your feelings, let yourself breathe if you can, and remember this will help you to feel better about sex.

It is important that you and your partner accept how you feel and approach your feelings with tenderness and love. Awareness, acceptance,and compassion are probably the most important things you can do for yourself and/or your partner.

Are There Any Connections to the Past?
You may want to ask yourself:
Have you felt this way before?
Do you feel this way in other situations?
See if you can remember the first time you felt this way and whether there might be a connection.
Does it make sense to you why this was triggered at this time?

If not, try to remember the next time you felt this way and whether you can make a connection to your present feelings. Strong emotional reactions are usually connected to past experiences that have not been fully resolved.You may have been sexually assaulted and coped by numbing out. Or you may have been raised in a chaotic household and feel a strong need to be in control. Directing your attention to what originally brought on these feelings or reactions, and finding ways to work through those issues can help a lot.

How is Your Relationship?

If you are withdrawing from sex, how are you feeling about your relationship?
Are there areas in your relationship, apart from sex, that need to change?
Are you spending too much time together, which can dampen passion?
Are you not spending enough time together, which can lessen your intimacy?
Are you carrying around "baggage" from a previous relationship, which may be blocking your ability to relate intimately with your partner?
Are your childhood experiences coming between you?
You may want to ask yourself what happens when you withdraw from your partner. Does it reduce some anxiety or fear, or get you some much needed space. Maybe there is another way that you could accomplish the same thing. When you are aware of what is going on, you can let your partner know how you feel, and ask her/him for what you need.

What You Can Do: Slowing Down

If you are going numb or shutting down, there are a number of strategies you can try. One strategy is to approach sex at a slower pace, spending more time at sexual activities in which you don't numb out. Maintain a lot of contact with your lover by talking to each other and keeping eye contact. The idea is to stay present and in your body, and to stop when you begin to numb out.

Asking For What You Need

You may need a stronger or softer touch, or to be in a certain position. Stop whenever you need to, and talk about how you are feeling. You might want to hold each other for awhile, then begin again unless you don't want to. Only you can know how you are feeling and whether you want to continue or not, your partner can only guess. It is far better for you if you take charge of your own needs and that your partner respects that. At times, it may feel frustrating, for both of you, so remember that by being patient and taking it slow, your sex life can improve. Partners who view each others' difficulties with sex as something to work on together have the best results. In this situation a partner will ask how the other is feeling, what is wanted, and whether they need to stop. This sends a clear message that you care and that it is okay to stop at any time.

Talking About Sex

Talking about sex, both inside and outside the bedroom, is important in any relationship. If you're shy about saying what you like while you're making love, tell your sweetie at another time. Have fun, it doesn't need to be serious. You may feel more comfortable sharing sexual fantasies because it is less direct. Do what works for you, but find a way to communicate your likes and dislikes with sex.

Starting and Stopping Sex

For the person who feels uncomfortable on the receiving end of sexual pleasure, try starting with just a little and stop. Talk about it, if that feels okay. Then try a little more, remembering to breathe. Take a break again. Keep trying this, receiving a little each time and then maybe increasing the amount of time each time. By going slowly, stopping and starting again, you can increase your comfort level with the focus on you. Both of you need to be patient because this can feel frustrating too but it is well worth it in the long run. You may find you even enjoy it.

Letting Go

To have an orgasm, we need to be able to ride the waves of arousal and let go--not always such an easy thing to do. If you find this difficult, begin outside the context of sex by thinking or talking about the following questions:What does letting go mean to you? What would happen if you were to let go? How do you feel about letting go? Do you know what those reactions, associations, and feelings are connected to? Are there other ways of your life in which you find it hard to let go? Do you like to be in control? Is there anything you are afraid will happen if you are not in control? You might want to begin by finding opportunities to let go, to be in less control outside of sex. How do you feel about that? Start small. Find little ways you can be in less control throughout your day. See if you can relax more, take it easy. Remember this can help improve your sex life so let that motivate you.

During sex notice your reactions. If you start to tense up or pull back, stop right there. Notice that for a moment, breathe, and if you want continue. Trying to push on while you tense up will not work, backing off will. You'll immediately relax some. Remember, you are tensing up for a reason, honour that and let your partner know you need to stop. Obviously it is crucial that your partner handles this sensitively and respectfully.

Additionally, you may need to let your partner know how to pleasure you just the way you like it. Give yourself permission to do that. And most importantly, no one has an orgasm by trying to have one. Let go of that goal, and focus on the pleasurable feelings in your body. Some women need to hear gentle loving words or be held when they approach orgasm because for them it brings up all sorts of safety issues. Others like to hear something more raunchy.

Final Thoughts

Experiencing sexual pleasure involves being present; staying with your feelings, your breath and other body sensations; expressing yourself (talking, making sounds, moving your body); and letting go. Finding ways to feel more comfortable doing these things, in and outside the bedroom, will help your sex life. Try not to worry if you don't notice any difference right away, be patient with yourself and your partner--your sex life can and will improve.

Kama Sutra Positions

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:50:00 +0000

Kama Sutra Positions ~ Ancient Sex Techniques

The ancient Hindus have a well-developed literary tradition that focuses on the art and science of achieving rewarding sex. The most well known sex positions can be found in the Kama Sutra. There are several Kama Sutra positions worth recommending in the quest for sexual pleasure: the traditional woman on her back, man on top position; man on his back, woman on top position; and woman with her back to the man. Here are several uniquely named and loosely translated Kama Sutra positions to unleash your most primal desires.

‘Putting On The Sock.’ Go ahead try saying it without bursting with laughter or better yet let your imagination run wild. ‘Putting on the sock’ does not refer to the man covering his penis with a sock. Actually, it refers to a very erotic technique with the woman on her back the man sits between her legs and puts his penis at the entrance of her vagina. Slowly caressing her vagina he replaces his fingers with his penis. The continued stroking will leave her incredibly wet, wild and on the verge of an orgasm. The man brings the erotic torture to an end by thrusting into the woman giving her what she truly craves.

‘The Blacksmith’s Posture.’ In this Kama Sutra position the woman lies down and drawing her knees to her torso pushing her vagina forward creating a scintillating view. The man then begins the game of teasing her madly by inserting and withdrawing his penis. Obviously, this Kama Sutra position helps the man maintain a longer erection. Supposedly, this movement imitates the blacksmith who ‘draws the hot iron from the fire…’ The best thing is that this Kama Sutra position can lead to scorching sex.

The ‘Ostrich’s Tail.' With the woman on her back, the man kneels at her feet and then raises her legs until only her head and shoulders remain on the bed or floor. After he enters her she can then put her legs around his head. Her raised legs give the impression of being spread out—like an ostrich's tail. This sensual Kama Sutra position benefits both partners by allowing them to slowing build up to an orgasm.

The ‘Yawning Position.’ In this Kama Sutra position the woman on her back, raises and widely spreads her legs as the man eagerly enters her vagina. This position allows the man and woman to share the intimacy of pleasure by gazing into each others eyes. The woman can also caress her breasts adding to the visual stimulation.

Of course, I would love to write that these Kama Sutra positions provide earth-shattering orgasms for everyone. The fact is these positions are truly for athletic and adventurous individuals. That's not to say that a modified version wouldn't benefit everyone, so why not give them a try.

Best Sexual Positions

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:42:00 +0000

Best Sexual Positions

~ Spicy Up the Woman on Her Back Position

Are you tired of having your lover fall asleep on top of you after sex? Then it’s time to introduce the best sexual positions into your love making and possibly even fire-up the intimacy between the sheets. Adding variety in sexual positions with the woman on her back can potentially lead to the most amazing sex and bring you the most incredible orgasm, if you know how.
First, spice up the woman on her back position by participating in the pumping, the gyrating and all that coital hip movement that comes with this sexual position. Lift your hips and meet him thrust for thrust. Experiment with different angles in this sexual position. This will allow for variance in depth of penetration, intensifying the sex. To get the best out of this sexual position, raise your knees up, bracing your feet on the bed or ground or wherever you are lying down, gyrate your hips as you bring your lover towards the pinnacles of sexual pleasure.

One of the best sexual positions to try during love making is to open your legs wide lifting them up. Open your legs as wide as you can in a letter V-shape and you’ll see that this simple leg movement allows for even deeper penetration. The higher you can lift your legs up, the deeper your lover can penetrate you. For best results, embrace your lover with your legs or brace your feet on his butt and increasing the depth of his thrust.

The key to the best sexual position for the woman on her back is to prolong your orgasm by relaxing your vaginal muscles. Put your legs down alongside or underneath your lovers’. The shallower thrust with this position enables him to maintain a rock-hard erection and make the loving last for hours.

Most important of all, is to practice these sexual positions, it is essential to unlocking the secrets to sexual pleasure. By making your lovemaking technique supercharged, steamy and earth-shattering the last thing he’ll do is fall sleep!

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 07:40:00 +0000

Active Sex - A Key to Good Health

Active Sex - A Key to Good Health Make sex the vital root of health and happiness in your daily life. It gives you pleasure. It satisfies you. Above all, it keeps you healthy. You can burn up to 200 calories if you engage in energetic sexual activities. This is just the beginning for when we go into details you will know why your sex life is a very important part of you. Sex reduces heart disease risks ,Take the case of women. Till they are 40, heart diseases are rare amongst them. But once they cross the menopause hurdle, the heart walls thicken, arteries stiffen and women become more prone to heart diseases. Here, an active sex life can make matters easier for you. Researchers at the Queen’s University say that making love three or more times a week helps women as well as men stay away from many diseases relating to the heart. Improved sense of smell After sex the production of the hormone prolactin surges. This causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain's olfactory bulb, its smell center.Weight loss, overall fitness.A vigorous sexual encounter equals to running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a spirited game of squash. Sex boosts the production of testosterone which leads to stronger bones and muscles. Couple Bonding In marriage the role of sex is only five percent. But it is the important first five percent. A happy sexual life brings couple closer in marriage. It brings sexual satisfaction and emotional happiness and in turn boosts your health. Sex as a Pain Reliever During sex the hormone oxytocin is secreted in your body which in turn causes the release of endorphins. Because of these natural opiates sex acts as a powerful analgesic, elevating the pain threshold and helping to relieve the aches of conditions like arthritis, whiplash and headaches. Sex reduces Stress / improves Sleep and Relaxation Frequent sex relaxes you. Researchers indicate that couples sleep more deeply and peacefully after satiating sex. At this hour you may be able to let go of distracting thoughts.Their is more to health than just exercises and a well balanced diet. So partners, make it a point to engage in active love making at least thrice a week as the benefits you mold out of this pleasurable act is truly significant in your healthy life http://www.edgenericpills.com

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 07:28:00 +0000

7 Tricks for Lasting Longer in Bed. A Crash Course in Sexual Stamina

My extensive experiences with tantric yoga, ancient sexuality practices, and contemporary western therapeutic paradigms have exposed me to many 'tricks-of-the-trade' when it comes to coming. In this article I'll attempt to distill some of this simple but powerful wisdom. Hopefully men seeking to improve their sexual stamina, or even just to educate themselves sexually, can begin to use this as a roadmap for their quest. And a very worthy quest it is too, (speaking as a woman).If there is one thing I cannot resist it is a man who is dedicated to learning more about his body and sexuality in general.I know I speak for a lot of other women when I say that the most important quality in a lover is a commitment to improving the quality of his, and his partner's, sexual experiences.THE TRICKS TO LASTING LONGER
1. Relax and increase your body awarenessThere are very many techniques out there to help you relax and be more able to 'feel' your body. As a yoga practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques.Perhaps the simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex. Not controlling it, just noticing it.Masters and Johnson also developed a technique known as "sensate focus exercises" which I use extensively in my practice as sexual surrogate therapist and sex 'coach'.
2. Focus on pleasure in sex, rather than sexual performance.Let go of any expectations about the outcome of sex. Going into a sexual experience with a 'plan' robs you of any ability to be open minded.You cannot learn from sex if you are focused on how it should look.Instead, notice the pleasure as it is happening. The pleasure will show you what is good. It is the ultimate teacher when it comes to sex.
3. Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.Again, open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to understanding; which is itself a step towards mastery.Focus on your pleasure during sex, during masturbation, or even the subtle pleasure you experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the bus.
4. Extend your sexual arousal to higher levels.There are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As you become more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal level is inevitable.This will happen because you will become familiar and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to greater heights naturally.Be sure to practice sex and pleasure often, so your body can keep teaching you.
5. Master your sexual arousal consistently at higher levels.As your sexual pleasure naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with it.Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery over them.Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.
6. Become accustomed to a steady level of intense arousal.Get into the habit of building your sexual pleasure and indulging in it fully. Let the moments you feel pleasure expand.Let the arousal continue as if it didn't need to end ever. It will of course, but you don't care when ... just let it happen.
7. Stop thinking Drop your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment with techniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up.Experience all of this intense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking about it ... but in your body. Feel it!THE KEY is connecting more deeply to your own sensations and feelings.Here's a bonus tricky tip for you. It's also the most important one.
Remember your own commitment to learn and grow.. . it all comes back to you.By the way, if some of these tricks seem to be a bit of a tease it's because they are. Each one could be the subject of several very in depth articles or sexuality workshops.I want you to take the time to ponder these tricks and look further. I wish you well on your adventures and I wish you very much pleasure.
Love,
Mukee

noreply@blogger.com (cmedo) — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 07:15:00 +0000

A Natural Health Lifestyle Can Help You Improve Your Sex

Sex is an important part of your adult life. And in a
relationship, it can often make or break your bond with your
spouse over the years. You need to have stamina and energy for
sex. And taking care of yourself through natural health will
help you boost your energy levels.

In order to improve your relationship, you first need to improve
yourself first. By taking care of your needs, you can be sure
that you will be able to manage the relationship and its needs.

A natural health lifestyle helps you take care of you. You will
then be able to improve your sex life. Certain foods act as an
aphrodisiac, which will help to improve your drive. Also, when
you are happy and less distracted, you are more likely to enjoy
sex. Life's problems can often overshadow a relationship; and it
is sometimes in the bedroom that these pressures can be felt
most.

With a natural health lifestyle, you work on your body's
internal and external systems. With natural health training, you
get the body you want and with the natural health food list, you
get to know which food will improve your sex life. In turn you
can then enjoy your sex life more.

This will allow you to make your partner happy which can only be
beneficial to the relationship. When you feel good, you become
more productive. And with increased energy levels you find the
time to make your partner happy.

The natural health lifestyle not only benefits your bedroom
life, but also your entire life in general. Reading a natural
health book or magazine can also further enhance your love life.

Give your sex life that boost that it needs and ignite the
flames of passion in your bedroom through the natural health
lifestyle.