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Enemies and Friends

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 09:17:00 +0000

I sometimes imagine that Buttercup was alive OR the whole experience was a test, a fabrication from my constant pleading for God. And God answered with the very test of faith that is most poignant - belief through misery. Bea asked me recently why I called her Butter, I lied and said it was a flower just like Rose was a flower, Buttercup and Rose. In reality it was from her soft hips and wet cunt, she was like butter and where her wide hips met her soft cunt, she parted with perfect viscosity. I was drawn to her and she to me probably from some mutual seed of boredom or more probably because I acted like some kind of cowboy and she wanted one. There's a picture I posted in that time, "From Hand to Cock" after her surgery when they removed her eye and she was home and feeling better some. It's of her hand gripping my engorged manhood. It's the most real thing - she took what she needed after all that misery. She took what she wanted and left the rest. What a woman. Eventually, as I tell it, poverty took it's toll and my strength let out - not my inner strength rather my belief that this was a true love. There were huge differences between us. I just gave her what I meant to give my wife before that which is the hardest and most difficult part to transmit is this. We each want our stories to have integrity and heroism and so often they don't but are instead replaced by a desire to survive and a lack of anything better to do in such times. Poverty takes its damned toll, strength lets out and I lay alone through all that awful time, literally moaning through the morning hours. Others took over. Z, if anyone, knew the real story and I hated him for it. For not being a saint and correcting the wrongs and healing the heart. It was more like this, I gave it all I had and was found lacking.

When I first arrived in Kosovo it looked to me like a huge Native American reservations - dusty and poor - with a few cities here and there barely rising up through the dust. When I met Bea I was months into it having suffered every beginners mistake in the land of dust. Like most I wandered in with all my broken things and settled nicely into the broken cracks of the place. And the broken cracks sent out tendrils to reach up and root me in like weeds in the sidewalk. One war rolls into the next. It wasn't long before Bea was pregnant. It wasn't much of a choice really, I'd been bulldozed so many times this was the end of it. So, as a living, breathing thing still moving forward, there was no hesitation. Let it come. I once told Billy, my confidant and fellow inmate in the bughouse, that demons can not cross the big waters. That oceans are too vast and those awful creatures that come to feed on misery need fire under them so they let go somewhere off the coast and writhe about for more misery to find back in their homeland. "It is true," I recall him saying through a laugh in our last conversation before he disappeared. Time passes. Now the sun rises over the land and the big water is to the west. Now there's the little one and a good moment to begin writing again. Again. Friends and neighbors. Enemies and friends. Good friends. Good to see you again.

heart and liver

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 20:02:00 +0000

The Astronaut

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 18:48:00 +0000

Summer is over. It came with cold rains, the first we had seen in Kosovo in some time. To me the rains felt right after the heat. I felt it in my skin and inside the belly. I thought it a good time to write you a letter.

I've sat down to write to you a thousand times and retracted because I have nothing more to say. It's true. I've used up the possibilities for connecting that started me writing to you in the first place, since we've met and parted. I pushed the boundaries until I lost it all and somehow this is necessary for me. If you could understand that, understand the process and why you'd understand that those parts, the ones I'd like to put aside and the ones you hold so central are just an inevitable process of going away from you. I want you to say something now, more because I've phrased it enough already. Because I wake up at night in fear sometimes.
There is no love left, she whispers.
Oh, I reply, then what about all those nights and dreams? What about I love you so much.
Now I realize that you were just fucked up, I forgot those.
Then why don't you simply tell me, at some point, to stop contact.
Silence. In a way I have. But I knew better, i knew about the beginning and the end because I was there and lived it. So I left it at that hoping that this life will have another lesson, that I'll be certain again sometime.
Long silence. You think so but it is not worth the contact for me. Just pain there.
Why do you allow it? I had heard that phrase from a friend and tried it now. At first the friend meant it for the lover of direct conflict, not the denial of the conflict.
I mean, if you can just deny that part we could reach a middle ground or ground even.
You're the one that had to put us in orbit Rose, you did that. My back ached with pain.
You're right but I'm on the ground again. I'm here now.
But I'm not. Then the connection dropped.

I had a girlfriend once who was an astronaut. It was difficult because she would have these extended stays in training and then, of course, the time in space on the international space station. I imagine how difficult that is only being able to communicate when my girl passed over the sky (which I always called "the heavens") and even then only when she wasn't working or on a spacewalk. I mean imagine that bullshit! And then even when she was free she'd always be wearing that stupid suit. I began to really have bad feelings about the whole thing. Once, I remember, being at my nephews christening. "What's that," Lordess Elgin asked not being familiar with the customs. "A baptism" I replied, "when Catholics receive a child into the faith." "Ah yes, I know." "Well all of the other girlfriends and wives were dressed normally except mine - she was wearing that stupid spacesuit. I couldn't even really hear her through the faceguard. Plus it was difficult for her to sit down. Even so she stood in the back for most of it. I mean try dealing with that in a relationship." "Why would she wear the suit? It seems a bit crazy," replied Elgin. "Exactly. It was so embarrassing - even stupid. We had to break up. It was a nearly impossible relationship." Lordess Elgin listened intently. "We broke up and haven't spoken since." I began to smile, sort of liking my role in the thing. "I mean we were together yes but she was never really there, instead just existing in her spacesuit when not actually in space. It happened like that though I wish it didn't sometimes." "I don't know when you're telling the truth or a story." I felt the same way.

fjords and tails

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 01:27:00 +0000

A dragon awoke after one thousands years of sleep and burrowed it's way out of the rock that had fallen over the entrance to it's lair. She peaked out onto the night sky and the now glimmering sea of electric lights that sprinkled the valley and her once quiet fjord. The giant beast, as fierce as she was, felt frightened by what lay inside the city bathed in the artificial light. Instead of investigating her new reality she instead took to flight out past the towns and villages to a small unpopulated island off the coast that she remembered being a place of solace before her last sleep. She was among the beasts that lived, on average, fifty thousand years and the only one, that she knew of now, left alive on the continent. In the early days (her first three thousand years of life) there were others but slowly they left to other lands or perished at the hands of clever defenders and disease. For all their fierceness the dragons lose their sense of community because of their extended lives and of course because of their need for space and frequent conflict with human settlement. If a street dog gets angry with a human or passing car it will likely lose the fight and be killed or ejected from peaceful society. If a dragon loses its cool a village could be destroyed or worse. So even after a several hundred year slumber dragons will often seek a place of quiet reflection and undisturbed consciousness in order to pray and reconvene slowly with other living things, eating mostly fish and marine life under the cover of night on the new moon. If she is seen, she knows from past awakenings, she can forget peace and may even need to remit to forced hibernation, a sometimes necessary but painful task of resubmitting the body to sleep outside of it's biological need. This, to try again in another 100 years or more.

Once I met a dragon face to face on a night hike in the mountains just north of Yellowstone park to the West and North of Paradise Valley. The mutual surprise lead us to lock eyes for a long moment as the dragon in flight inspected my nearby camp. I was alone and heading to summit the mountain and stargaze until early morning and the dragon, presumably, was hunting on the new moon. The dragon moved on after our extended moment of contact and only looked back once after six or seven flaps of its enormous wings. I never saw her again though I still recognize our connection as essentially good. It was, I believe, a look of caring - one that forms a memory and a bond and says we will consider each other through time and pray for each others safe return. And I still do.

From time to time, I recognize that my internal rhythm does not flow by the hour or even the day as it is so scheduled and maintained in our ordered life. Rather I feel my life contained in segments of joys and the inevitable letting go. If these are end times I could say that life has been full but I suspect they are not. Instead there will be some kind of reckoning for all the terrible things that have come to pass though even these, seen in ordered space, are not so terrible. Reading a history of Thessaloniki, Greece, I realize my smallness in the factor though inside this beating heart I don't feel it this way. I feel it as a sleeping dragon - cold, quiet and mythical, romantic and organic, set aside from developed time with long inhales and even longer exhales. Then I wake and reach for my lover, sometimes forgetting who I will find but always happy to find at least some hope in those that lay beside me for a time. Hoping now that this extended breath does not fuck up the children in my life or their right to walk and camp in distant places.

There is something about being away for me that limits details. I could and probably should talk about the morning coffee or the evenings guests or the way the street lamps went dark after the lightening strike in that high mountain Albanian village. Or how the old man grazed his cattle through the trash heap or the lady who offered us fruit on the coast. Or my stomach illness from tainted water near the beach. Or the cat who made her way up the landing and spent the evening, until early morning, in the chair beside the veranda. It's in the details but maybe that's the devil in the details I am avoiding. My love.

Mixed Lives

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 16:24:00 +0000

There are certain lives that should not mix. This is not to say mistakes can or can’t happen but when events come to pass, reality is that which we take with us. In the human field this is our drama, or trauma or release or our final resting place. Like Greek memories never written down. I’ll get into these later. What I realize now, after leaving this place, my American space, is that no memory supersedes another and that what I wanted from my friends has been nothing more than a confirmation that I (that ever present I) have purpose and that this purpose is right and good. Most thinkers will see this as a romantic notion and it is. After one year in Kosovo I no longer desire this confirmation rather it (the ever present it) is there like a long sunset or sunrise. Perhaps this is confirmed by the daily interactions with the others, even made up of them, but depending on one’s relationship to god or objectivity is not for one’s own conscious field to determine. “It” is determined by action and inaction within a purpose, until that purpose has been played out to an ultimate living end for better. The details of this thought, as it is formed, are likely the most important message (why else write it down?) though the details will come from walking in the light, then for a good long while in darkness though hopefully not forever. Forever being determined when death arrives. I’ve spent a lot of years in darkness.

A week ago I visited Buttercup’s family on the day after her body was laid into the earth. I was greeted by the cries of an infant, born to her older brother and new wife a month prior. The house was, oddly, a place of joy. The place from which Buttercup came is governed by the soft and reassuring presence of her large and open family, one that is strong enough to mourn and share in her memory with presence. The living with the dead. My presence was surprisingly welcome or it came like this for the grace with which Buttercup had made her exit. “She didn’t want to die” her father explained, even as her breath grew short and labored. I told him about the package she was to send and that it never arrived. “What a woman”, I said to him, to know and leave her memory in such a way. Her package arrived I think in the form of courage and grace. What I had demanded of her was impossible. What she had asked of me was equally impossible. In hindsight, it was her ability to never let go of the will to live that set all petty conflict aside. The package was and remains forgiveness and the will to remain clear – Here is where you now live. Here is what you are. And here is where you must decide. It is here, now, for certain. The candy over coating of will that the story takes is just another present-ness of form. It’s like that.

Driving, on the way back to the States, in the radiant evening spring light reflected from the still waters of Huron, I stopped at Buttercup’s grave to listen for a response. What I found was a mound of dry earth and a black cross near the top of a graded slope near the church where we had Christmas those years back. I sat with the dry earth and the cross and the memory of my lover and her body beneath and mourned her death, at first with my mind, then my heart and then with my hands on that ground warmed by the sun. I collected the remains of small butterflies that had landed on the mound and drove the rest of the way peacefully in the good company of angels.

On return to NJ I didn’t see my Flora, for not willing to pressure my soul into any more loss. Instead I arrived at the kennel, saw the new life as the rain fell and made my exit. This slip, as I saw it, was nothing but a dive into limits of spirit; at least the spirit that is called to hold steady in the beating heart of a living body. This living body.

Dear lord, keep me the least of yours and with it the grace to explore the least in this world. For now, for always. Amen.

Abacus

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Fri, 18 Mar 2011 09:26:00 +0000

I sat to mix glue for a canvas in a quiet apartment. The morning sun was warm and my sleep that night had been dreamless. Lately I’ve been more aware of dreams after I had awakened Ana a few weeks prior during my frequent night terror. It was more than terror though; it was pure fear, that’s how it registered with Ana anyway. I don’t recall the dream but I do recall the terror and the look in her sparkling eyes. Those projecting eyes. I sat now alone feeling the closeness of these walls, searching for some direction even though I knew already the canvas would become transformed letter forms so I could feel the labor and code of them without a clear meaning save for it’s symbolic dribbling. That would be enough, almost like the moments of lucidity before the Alzheimer’s erases a history. Here in this quiet room waiting for a heavy abacus.

What I permit myself mostly is a fighting event. It seeks and almost necessitates a limit, then a fight. This is how it goes. So without thinking I move to take out Ana and the boy. “I like you” she says, but as she does (and I’m pleased at this) I think to the restless night before. Ana up to take care of the boy then back into a cold bed for lack of warmth and a decisive mood. This and the insufferable reality that maybe I’m just reading all responses wrong, something like double vision. When presented back with a similar question, “what do you like about me?” I go blank. I recall a love and energy but what I like is like asking heaven to point out the favored ones on a battlefield. My response was just a present-ness though I was on the spot again preferring to let it conjure itself up. I like your smile and all of our talks. I like the way you think. I like the openness we share. I was also aware that this was just a thought, that I remained silent and my distance was once again related to myself. My stupid self again. So I let it go.

Reaching for some measure of assurance I recall a line from psalm 85 "Mercy and truth are met together; righteousness and peace have kissed each other." Lines from these psalms just float up from beneath a whale and surface into the atmosphere, programmed internally from youth to direct the safety of daydreaming. Lately I’m less angry about them. Maybe it’s because Buttercup died and left me with two last thoughts. One was these words, “I’ll get your package to you soon” though the parcel has not arrived nor do I believe there is one for this life. And two, that death, for those who have constructed my long challenged spiritual bed, is not finality. For now.

Ghosts

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 18:47:00 +0000

In Albania a friend told me a story. As it was told, his friend came to visit in the north from Tirana, during communism, when it was dangerous to speak out against the government and nearly impossible to get out where they had enjoyed a good night of reading and discussing the fate of their work. Albania had become, in this man’s world, a dangerous place to continue the writing and as happens with contained talent, a place he felt impossibly constrained to. My friend had endured similar threats for tapestry works he had made. He was in a bad way, though with a good friend and this brought some relief. The night progressed into morning, drinking Raki, making what they could of the situation. Increasingly the friend became agitated, losing at first his sense of place and wanting some kind of release that was not or could not be present with talk just among the friends. In a drunken state the friend stood and pissed there on the floor of the café, lost now to delusion. Concerned, he took control and insisted they leave, get rest and talk maybe again in the morning, displacing the madness perhaps for another day. What happened next both in the telling and the story took a strange turn. His friend, being drunk, began insisting on the impossible, that the flat was in a different building, across a different distance and that the way home was quite opposite the actual way. My friend insisted and prodded his mate in the direction of the flat in the late dark hours before morning. Now again as it was told, the friend sometimes took to fantasy of flight, sometimes hanging from the building’s edge or from the balcony insisting on the reality of flight and disappearance to better pasture over the waters or the mountain lands, anywhere. On the streets his friend quite insisted that home was another way though my friend continued to insist. On arrival he lead the way up the stairwell to his first floor apartment, wanting to get the door open first and to set his friend to rest. Somewhere on the way up however the friend lost his way, made it to the escape entrance, dangled and dropped, onto his head from the 3rd story. He survived in a vegetative state for three days and passed.

That same night my friend told a second story; this one about his sister. Sometime in her early years, before the age of six she had found her father’s pistol under the bed. The gun was loaded. Thinking it a toy she began playing with it, searching the mechanisms that made it work. The gun fired and blasted a hole through her heart. My friend found the body. As he put it, saw her falling as he entered the room. The girl died, his mother’s only daughter. Now after half a lifetime she is attached to my friend’s daughter seeing the soul of hers alive again. This is how it played out. The family is strong from what I could see from the few weekends we’ve spent together and they maintain an ordered balance. A good family I think, as it is told to you.

These ghosts.

Frozen North

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Sun, 13 Feb 2011 23:51:00 +0000

I sat to read again the last correspondence Ana had written, then Buttercup, then in searching for a lost transmission somewhere in the blog I found this account of a confessional written some 3 and half years ago. Not so long ago. Ana says, I was in the Turkish islands with my family at that time, and wonders why I would even reminisce at such a thing. Though Ana knows – it (it) being all too much. When I first met you she adds, my mother had just passed and I was looking for something for myself and only for myself. I thought of you as naïve and was angry with your way. But when we met, I recall, we had touched often, we were holding hands behind a pillow where no one would see and there was a connection. So when Ana made the connection after eight years she called me back to her place after placing my hands on her hips. I remember the moment. And now we will never forget. We are both at present in different movies screaming across divides from France to Serbia to Kosovo and echoing through the American plight; for this I think of the frozen winters of Rochester and gray asphalt of Iowa. I will likely never hear from any of them again; these ghosts. Lord Byron did the impossible, not realizing (or realizing all too well) the meaning of our connection and chose to be the victim. After several months of connection and trying I lost patience and called off our courting. Her response remains brutal, at first ignoring any attempt at connection then accusations of abuse, even rape. Rape. This being flung from the quiet din of her parent’s protective home in the quiet of the basement. The weakness of it making me ill beyond reason, the faithlessness of the projection a bold, clear and present lie to what it means to be called to action and left. To give in to ultimate selfishness from the utter center of self focused existence which we had been living. Which we all mostly live. Stupidity frees you from any responsibility. Buttercup at this moment lay dying, her cancer having spread so rapidly as to astound even the most conservative accounts of the disease’ progress. I sent what I could and awaited a response which came as a brief and beautifully written email. This will be the final correspondence and a good one though I think, each day, I will look for something more as I had always looked. Still the finality of her fate and the real and sustained connection we had will drive its beating heart into the soil with the rest to the river. There is nothing more to be said though I think at any moment I will be on a plane to Detroit and in a car up through the frozen north along Huron. If only there were unlimited resources. If only there were more choices.

Confessionals, Un Altro

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 21:44:00 +0000

When I think of the situation in the Balkans what I feel most now is stupidity. I’m an outsider, a foreigner and will remain so. Even stating something, anything about this “situation in the Balkans,” remains a prime example of just how foreign I will remain. This is true also in the States however there are ways through it region by region, to be American or the other. People test each other continually and even a glimpse at a slight of hand here or there reveals too much, maybe reveals all. What it takes is a bit of time or a battering ram of failure to sort it out. To determine if you are who you claim to be and/or why you’ve come. I’m continually finding it more difficult to understand the difference between hero and villain. Even the echo of this mindset is disturbing. Us and them. At the Bughouse life was clear, fight hard or perish inside of it. Friends were often enemies and enemies could be known and unknown. Most, well mostly those who became opposed to my way, morphed somehow consciously into the second of the latter, the unknown enemy. But what could force my mind into such a paranoid state? Pain, likely. Or defeat. Or worse, success, success at finding an answer even though I don’t like its result or consequence either to my body or soul which, in recent years, I’ve fancied merging into one. That mind/body conglomerate that coughs and pukes and twists its ugliness forward through the deep swampy bogs of desire and release. For weeks now I’ve awoken to fear of death. That’s saying something, from here in the world of vampires. But it’s not my own death I think of but the death of Buttercup. Her death specifically because somewhere in my code of the new mind/body I feel I’ve done something wrong in giving death open season in a time of great strain. However stupid, I feel responsible for letting the anxiety hold me down or change my path in any way and let go of being strong or open or a casualty in any way. And now because I lost a battle with demons, death will come to take her away and open bare a sustained pit of horror from which one has no hope of release. That and because, even after these years, I remember her softness and our soft, drunken conversations, in a time where I needed something soft and she needed some kind of cowboy to fulfill each others myths. And we did this well, even through the first phase and the diagnosis and the subsequent realization that this will not get better, that she would not be my girl even in the best of times, for very long. When I called, first we spoke for hours and it was good to hear her voice and to believe in something sustained and good. She is now on a constant drip for pain as the tumor on her brain stem blocks out the remaining life – first taking her ability to move, and then slowly growing deeper into the brain until it blocks her lungs and heart. My impulse is to lie close to her and put my fingers in her cunt. To deny the beast with soft touches and orgasms and warm hands over soft breasts. But being half a world away I just listened and spoke of our superficial experience and sent a package the next week from Kosovo. Buttercup responded with a polite letter, the kind of American politeness that Ana, when she senses it in me, wants to eat up and spit out as dribbles of waste. But from here, for my part, her gracious response was the kind act of a strong soul in a dying body. And I listen and wait in exile from the closed land of vampires hoping for some possible change of fate which has been assured will not arrive. Be strong little boy, find God's song.

time

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 23:51:00 +0000

Travel North

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Wed, 26 Jan 2011 00:20:00 +0000

January, from September is the first month since moving to Kosovo where reality came to slap my face. Ana, having escaped France and her situation for a time came to her flat in Belgrade and there are problems – the pain, the flight, the fight, the resounding effects of being a foreigner returning, of never expecting to return, two children, one an infant, a failed marriage, abuse. What problems, she exclaims, can this be, I’m only three hundred kilometers away from you. Trapped in circumstances that are all too clear, I cannot save her and she has done a good thing by coming but I may not be able to come. Afraid, she lashes out at not connecting, at differences in speech and language. And of course the silent fear of being left alone, left without love. So she presents a difficult situation at a difficult time. I understand so I cry for her. I cry for myself at not having a better answer. And then there is my reality which is shaped in the space and pace of just existing and living to observe. Two nights prior I hand Shawn, my boss, the phone after Ana had called to free me from a night of obligatory drinking in which I was caught – alcohol an increasing problem for everyone around because without opportunity people drink and with opportunity people drink. It’s not a Bukowski pastime here though, here it is empty space, unproductive space. Ana makes a stand and it is received poorly. Let my man go for the night because I need to speak with him. In their minds she is now a crazy Serb, a wild woman making demands with even less to offer. Whatever was said it was not the thing to say to 2 forty something bachelors drunk and chasing girls in the impossible Prishtina space. Kolja, in Belgrade, saved me twice now. Both times from the depths of depression by a diagnosis that sadness is a part of life, disappointment a part of life, and that people will usually, on most occasions, look out for number one. A truth I’ve heard time and again and time and again I’ve been surprised at my own lack of submission to the truth preferring instead belief in the impossible. That is the way it will go with me. The road north to Serbia becomes even more entangled…

2011

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 18:30:00 +0000

Brother, what has this year been? This year has been a long climb. Too long. So long in fact I have a hard time determining now which year it is and from which view I stand. Some say I have a failure of patience and move on too quickly. Others say, it is a long life and you are in movement. I tell them I want a silent year, a good one with beautiful happy endings and health and wisdom. And they look back as if I am already arrived, wise and prepared. So what is this life like? This year, for now I say, this one life is like climbing a tall building in the fog. The Fog envelopes the building and gives it a new life, one that extends indefinitely its limits both vertically and towards the horizon. I am scaling the building either in descent or climb but not knowing for sure which at most moments because in each window lay some distraction. On each new story and in each new window I look in and experience a real desire to be content inside or to be held by the space and looking out. Inside each window I may find a warm home or cold flat. Inside looks enticing, like relief, a place to hold onto and breathe with. Inside some windows I see fantasy, sex, desire, hope, family, life, everyday living. And then from time to time an inhabitant will catch my silhouette against the fog and I am invited in. Usually I go and think, this is where I am supposed to be. I stay for a time and describe to my host or hostess what the climb is like and reinvent how and where I started from, having forgotten just why I had left in the first place. I tell of the fog and how each grip of the climb leaves a small trace. How the winters are long and cold. The climb, I imagine, is worth a good story and as a guest I feel obliged to tell one. Then, after a time in some comfort, with a new love, I get the feeling that this is not the place for me, that I have not arrived and that I will need to go back out the way I came and continue on. I fight this impulse and try to stay on anyway; arguments and misunderstandings ensue, then anger until I crawl reluctantly out, or force myself out with a grand gesture or, as has happened on some occasion, I am pushed.

This year, at its end, I have said goodbye to Lord Byron whom took the opportunity to tell me (yet another woman to do this) that I am not a good person and in her state of feeling trapped lashed out in spiteful anger and murderous charge. I am already healing like a god damn wolverine. This year reintroduces Ana, from eight years ago. Ana, one of the few women whom I’ve photographed – whose photograph now sits in a collection at the University of Iowa. Ana, who when we met had recently buried her mother, whose body was eaten by cancer. The woman I brought my wife to and whose home we slept at as 2003 rolled in. Ana and I are survivors but at this point survival may just kill us before our time.

And then there is Kosovo, my new home, fraught with every problem in the book save for the love people here have for one another. Kosovo, the ultimate place to be an outsider, because getting in means being married in and marrying in means to surrendering to the cause of paternity and social dogma. I think 2011 will be a lonely, productive year. I think I should just photograph it. I think.

Ana and the Boy (Paris 2010)

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 12:21:00 +0000

sex once more

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Tue, 14 Dec 2010 00:37:00 +0000

All matters of importance have something to do with sex. And since most of you read this to see what happens next in my sex life it may be best to gravitate toward full disclosure in hopes (if nothing else) than to receive some kind of confessional status though I know (as the Catholics still watch from the space they prepared in my brain) a priest must be present. You, then, will be my priest, the rest, who are still reading these words through the same firewall of fear that I write from. Or you are curious and preparing a case against me, in either case I am content with my paranoia and safe enough in the belief it can be cured through insane shouting.
When it became clear that Lord Byron was gone I fell into despair. Despair for at least two reasons: One, I loved her no matter her faults though these faults seemed too grave and two, I knew, after so many hard fought survivals through many near and tragic disappointments, I was, perhaps, not to survive this one. That it didn't matter anymore my stupid quest for truth or honesty or other useless gluts rather I would give up and prepare for the lonely haul having failed. And that this failure would by all rights destroy anything that held me even remotely in favor with the lord of hosts (the same lord who bends me over to spank me nearly each story) (the same lord, if pressed, could make matters far worse) (that same one).
It's a deep tale so I'll start with the latest woe, let's call her Lolita. Lolita is the only woman I believe who could cure me of the Lord Byron blues. I left, of course, the states and did what a man had to do to leave a woman but a woman never leaves a man until some moment or some other releases him. Something better. The lord, they say, does not like fornication, but he sends the temptation like a sweetbrier and asks for contemplation. What makes Lolita so damn edible besides her immortality at twenty one is her focus on the good fight. This, or I am overtaken by soft skin, taught muscles, firm tits, and a seamless flow. We spent nearly three days together, which ended in bed a short hour before she flew away. "I'll see you in June," were the last words spoken. Fucking June, again, a wait, just wait Rose. Just go. Though my dreams they may say aren't as empty.

Tuesday before Thanksgiving

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 11:34:00 +0000

Tuesday morning. Awake. Jet lagged and way too early, 4:30AM. I reach for my lover, she's not there nor will she be. I get up to search for some electronic sign that it didn't happen like this but I know already, have accepted it already. 10 years ago I would be doubled over in pain/regret/anger - now I sit hunched over a plastic LCD screen trying to warm my naked body by keeping the exposed parts in contact, lifting my feet off of the cold slate floor and search for a sign of her presence. She's there as an 'away' dot so I know this means she is home with her machine asleep, having made a decision for distance over mad love. She's right, I think to myself. "You're right" I say audibly to God. God is silent. Still early, several hours prior, the phone rings - it's the boys in Rochester. My heart sinks and jumps and we talk about the bug house, about escape, about love, acceptance, reality and ultimate experience. "I'm finally growing up" Jeffrey says. "I'll be 59 in two months and I finally feel like I'm growing up." Jeffrey, who but several months ago choked me out with cigar smoke from across our mutually soiled states. We're now brothers - closer than brothers. I can hear his chemical state - opium or its derivatives. We talk and stand supportive now. He wants love so badly he'd buy it like a mail order bride - stuck on the dream that a beautiful young woman is waiting for him, even if to fake it, from my new home. I didn't have the heart to tell him this would not be happening, that my new home would not provide this dream. It didn't matter, I spoke with him as if it would.
The next call came from Lord Byron who was not in her vehicle heading towards Jersey rather she remained blissful in her state of niceness, in Rochester, 5 hours away. It was "kind" to give a call so she was following her kindness. We exchanged pleasantries not fighting it then parted ways, again. "Be well Lord Byron" I told her but she wouldn't get what that meant. Instead she would make comments about the dog and other histories in a way that would seem to me almost silly in its utter disregard for the situation. But strong I suppose in that self-regarding inner-strength sort of way. "Poor thing" I think and roll over clutching my belly from want and desire. What next? Silence. I really had no earthly idea. "Get up, walk," says the Lord. I pace instead.

here. now.

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 09:20:00 +0000

I haven't told a story in quite a while. This is because observing the self, my self, has become tedious, repetitious, unfruitful, grainy and ultimately cold. Sad. But not sad in the romantic sad man this is your life in all its beautiful stress sort of a way but simply short sighted. This is what is. So now today listening to the gunfire from the Bayram celebrations and inhaling the smoke from the wood burning stove, alone in my room above the cafeteria, out on the edge of this filthy city I thought to perhaps again try to tell a story. The story has a point but will often not lead to redemption. No victory at death here. Movement for certain but very little else, loneliness, and a large table at times to join. You are invited, you always have been, though through this you see that your table is just as big with less stuff and less stress. Your table has stronger legs and silverware. I will wait and eventually, in one way or other, you will invite me to it as a guest. At first you will be thinking as a guest of some honor though later thinking best to simply offer a place because perhaps something I have written or spoken or projected or buried years ago for you. I will be grateful to sit with you. I will be grateful to be together. This will likely be the way it will go and I will probably let on at some point just how long I have been waiting for this and for you to invite me.

A new project has started. Photographing the landscape with the big camera. A shift to focus on others, away from self and its painful traps. Stay tuned...

nothing says you're on your own like goodbye

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 14:14:00 +0000

The past few nights I've had more dreams but I awake with the same sensation as if looking over the sea at night. In the morning, in half consciousness I arise, sometimes to the sounds of the early predawn call to prayer. I arise, look out from the window alone and answer back. Verbally I say "I love you", and the lord does answer me with the peaking light of dawn. Not an explosive crack of sun rather like shifting color on the table of the deep dark sea glowing as in a silvery cast; vast, vague and larger than the land. There I know of God and in my selfish heart I ask for more. When I ask I already know she will provide, it will be given. Though I also ask to carry no belongings. These two conflict. 'To settle,' the lord says, 'is no longer possible for you. Understand you have chosen this.' I answer, 'is this a punishment?' The lord answers, 'no.' Then the Lord is silent and I feel punished.

The Wolf in Albania

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 21:55:00 +0000

Ana says,
[11:18:10 AM] there's an image connecting standing in the streets and religion i have in my head
[11:18:10 AM] it was sooo powerfull...and scary for me, i was small.
[11:18:57 AM] after tito died each 4th may at 15h 05
[11:19:06 AM] on the moment of his death
[11:19:14 AM] sirens were starting
[11:19:25 AM] and lasting for 1 min
[11:19:36 AM] and everybody
[11:19:52 AM] but everybody would just freeze
[11:20:18 AM] it was magical.
[11:20:41 AM] the power a religion has over so many persons
[11:20:54 AM] willing to subordonate
[11:21:03 AM] without thinking
[11:21:11 AM] like a magic wand
[11:21:39 AM] and there was beauty also
[time]
[more time]

I know very little. And here I am. Trying to survive. You asked me to speak directly and now I am telling you. I have to be here and stay here. That is what you asked of me. So I am staying here. That is it.
(silence)
And you are silent again.
(silence)
Because I have had wine? How do I know you will stay with me?
(silence)
But I knew and so watched the land, knowing there would be nothing that emerged from it. The land was solid and hard and browned in spots. There were small lizards darting and crawling over it. I heard the dogs barking.

In Albania I had a dream. I was in Kukës. So very vivid. A wolf was chasing me. A fierce wolf and the landscape was devoid of any context. The wolf was persistent and gaining ground. As I looked past my shoulder at the final moment the beast was nearly on top of me. I saw teeth and the beauty of its fur and not much of the body as it lunged at me. Close enough to feel the breath. Then I woke.

Elvis in Serbia on a Rainy Day in August

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 20:31:00 +0000

About a month ago I told Lord Byron the gist of Run, Rabbit. (+) "I think that Rabbit sucks man," she said reacting to my description of the story. I wondered why she would say that because it was a given I would play the devil's advocate. "He's looking for something babe," I told her. "You'd have to read the story. He knows his transgression and he knows how it can be seen but he is not accepting the awfulness of it. He is not accepting or expecting to settle." The description didn't matter really because we were both listening from our own desires. So, in my judgmental arrogance I thought I'd tell her how I really feel. "Byron," I balked, "now that we're on the subject of laying it on the line, you know that I think your trip to Africa is bullshit. That you went on a religious retreat which could be doing more harm than good there and that you are so either stupid, ignorant or arrogant that you look a fool." I felt so full of myself as to continue, "and it's not just me, it appears, for all the world that you did not go to help anyone, rather you went to fulfill your desire to see the world and it doesn't matter who you exploit. So I think you are full of shit and if you weren't you'd be working hard in Rochester now, right now, to do something similar." I felt like a monster and free - a free monster as I was. A dirty filthy monster among monsters. I saw her as a monster too. She was stunned but understood she had to answer. "Rose, I get it. I understand. I know you feel like this." "I'm glad because I will not pretend to protect your bullshit self-centered exploitation experience." And now I was really full of myself, 1000 percent Jersey - I'm gonna punch your throat and if you can't take it, better move to Kansas, boy, kind of attitude. It didn't matter because it devolved. Why argue? I knew the answer and felt weak. Sigh. But now I was in Kosovo, Kosovä, Pristina, Prishtina, Prishtinë. Yes. Teaching markup language and some form of design to cadets, well some cadets. I had something. I had distance. I have a whole culture of newness and a language I can barely grasp. I know next to nothing and know I know next to nothing. Relief. I thought about the state of my love and felt terrible. Longing for the newness and movement of the first glimpse of the Rockies (hearing now the smack of lightening passing overhead). I scan my notes in my little black book of everything and find this.

I confess at times I see the human form as ugly. Long, tall, bulging with fat. Even the toddlers, waddling along. Even there in comparison to the birds, sky rats, falling down, coming softly or noisily to the hard square divided surfaces of Belgrade. The human soft, round and hairy, little squeaks of hair, scattered and ugly across the body like dots of thick rocky sand. Lumbering tall forms waiting to fall like timber, eyes sunken, hands swollen from arthritis. All its marks primitive to the simple animals with whole and gorgeous forms. Their bungling mouths training for me, each day then each day wanting for more. Bilja says, "when I was young there was a man, he was beautiful and he chose to be a monk. I asked him why? Why do you love religion? Why don't you love me, I mean I have a soul and can speak back to you. But he left and I never understand." "Still now," I ask? "Yes, still now. But we grew up without religion and now I can see it but still not understanding." We left it quiet from there. Of the stories to share she chose this. I must have something religious in my approach (like I had to ask or even wonder). Yes, tall, sharp and distant humans. Closely moving forward. Going forward. Lumbering. Aging and passing on with earth, dirt and fences to separate.

another conversation

noreply@blogger.com (Daniel Cosentino) — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 18:03:00 +0000

I speak directly to God and God answers me directly. Looking skyward laughing in jest for my friends I say, "to the big man with a long white beard sitting on a cloud. Watching. Judging." A laughable thing, vision. Whatever the experience I am having, however I may experience it, I do talk with God. With God (God talks back). It is true and in no uncertain terms. During these conversations I ask God for things, that part does not come audibly rather it comes in silent longing behind a clearly defined cloud of confusion. And within this same indiscernible boundary of disbelief I am answered. The prayer usually being a selfish one as all prayers are. This cursed blessing always arrives in the best and most direct of terms. Tonight I received the best of gifts i would tell my friends. "What gifts, Rose? What were you given?" They may say in earnest. And I answer, "clarity." "Also love." I need love, lots of it, so I keep asking for it and it keeps coming. A never ending river of love from others and to others. "Don't you think this is what all people experience?" They (my friends) may reply. "No," I say, "because when I ask around there are so many who have settled and stopped looking or asking and then settle on being miserable." "Who do you mean Rose, do you mean us? Do you mean we are miserable?" And in some cases I thought yes but didn't have the heart to make that call aloud. As I thought this my face became flush with the shame of judging others and the transparency of ignorance. Essentially I was telling my friends, those I love, that they were unspecified losers. Do you see reader, the torture I put myself through? All for nothing so as a relief I speak with God and God answers. Sometimes God answers with a woman - I would ask, Dear lord, though I am not worthy to receive any further chances (as mine have dried up or long since been squandered by unwise choices) please send me a companion that I would fall easily in love with and who would love me back and relieve, at least, the utter loneliness of existence. Of not knowing. Oh and it would be nice if she were a virgin (as I've never been with a virgin), I might add as a gratuitous self serving clause to the shameful silent pleading. Then, within a day sometimes, without so much as a phone call, she would show up. A hot virgin, able and ready for commitment, like God's hot breath in my ear. Of course, asking and receiving are more than meets the eye. I am thankful I reassure you. Still there is the matter of the rest of it - food, shelter, clothing, childbirth, family, school, potential military service, religion, etc. When one is taken care of, proper income, the rest will fall in line (as they tell me)(who's they? mostly the jews in my life, the practicing jews). However, so often, I find myself at the divide of two worlds and perhaps the story is what's been received or earned in my life before I'd asked for a stop gap solution like a virgin or debt relief.

The two worlds are like broken drifting sheets of ice and I'm above, crotch exposed, to the flat cold sea below. Threatening always to drift impossibly far apart I could always leap to one or the other knowing the isolation of either may kill me. Some of us (I think to myself for want of comfort) are born to be the inbetweens and spend our lives scaling the crevasse. And it takes so long that by the time one has reached flat ground half the life is over and accustomed to the conditions of living while scaling a wall. Like all lives. Human ones. Sometimes this divide is made as clear as day like the night I picked up my surrogate family from the airport. I had been traveling around town in someone else's car, taking care of someone else's home, my friends, as I had done for the two years prior. From the airport to home the children climbed on me, asked me to stay, even dragged me upstairs to read a bedtime story. There in the children's bed, where the entire family lay - mom, dad, kids and myself at the center reading a story about dinosaurs. Diplodocus, Stegasaurus, Ornithomimus. At these moments I want to leap to this drifting sheets of ice. This side, the one that is family life, children, love, safety, stable. But before the time to think it through arrives I see everyone is asleep and feel self conscious at how close I've become. I creep out to leave them sleep as I, now carless, ponder ways to get myself and Faf across town. I call Nowik and in a moments notice he is there with Jeffrey and I ramble into the vehicle, Faf too, into a cloud of smoke and hash and we rumble across town to the bughouse, not daring to call it home. back into the place where prayers are answered and demons crawl, at times visibly, across lives. The other side where if for nothing more one can see reality more clearly - the question being if one wants to or even ever should.

the deer and yard

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 23:24:00 +0000

Out in the yard tonight a crew of men worked on the rail lines. I became aware of them when I heard the horns of an approaching train echo up from the flat line of cinder across the asphalt. Men in hard hats, machines, trucks and an idling engine. I was alone in the studio. I was thinking of you, trying to find the words that would speak my heart, make sense of recent events when the disturbance pulled me away. I had spent the day with a friend, with Faf and attempting the nearly impossible divide of feeling the faith and applying it to experience. To win that faith I knew I would have to go even further - that is, to abandon the need for an earthly connection and accept the calling that keeps me absurdly in a state of limbo.
"Could I say something man?" Nowik probed.
"Of course, brother." Though I was scared at the directness of that inquiry.
"You're 36, have no attachments, completed with your schooling. If I were you I'd be long gone by now. I'd purchased a one way ticket to Serbia, find a beauty and start from there."
I sighed. "I know it man." And I did. "What keeps me here is that desire for legitimacy. Or something. Poverty maybe." Though I knew it wasn't any of those things, really. I saw he had experience. I also knew that my fate was different, that I had a real want for love and stability, sanity, sobriety. I knew also that the way faith works is to leave alone and cultivate a strong relationship with the divine. Give up on intellectual salvation, etc. What I desired of guidance would not be provided in a conversation. What I needed to sustain that vision was help and if I asked for it directly I would not find it. I knew this because of experience and endurance. My strength had steadily been returning despite the constant challenge of piecing it (it) together.
"It's the fight man, the struggle, that holds me in place, and also keeps me going, searching."
Nowik dragged on his cigarette and I knew what that meant.
"Could I tell you a story?" I asked.
"Of course."

This is true. About two weeks ago I was working at the Design Center. It was the middle of the day, a warm late spring day. From the window, on a trip from the coffee machine back to my nook in the back of the office I saw a deer wander into the parking lot from what appeared to be Main Street. He was scared, bounding across the asphalt erratically. Clearly lost, clearly afraid. There were others in the office but no one seemed to hear what I was saying or in the regular pattern of the work day just didn't pay it any mind. I told the others but perhaps without authority. Maybe I didn't say it audibly because no body budged. I followed his movements and walked out of the entrance into the shaded north side of the building then watched him cross the lot from behind the morning sun, leap the iron parking rail and trot frightened straight into the east garage of the performance engine shop. At the time, I thought, I was the only one who saw it happen. There were two entrances to that garage and the deer went into the east one. All the men were in the west and since I was there and watched the event I moved into the shade of that entrance and announced what had happened. The conversation went something like this. There's a deer in your garage, I told the first man I saw. What? He replied. I repeated. There's a deer that just ran into your garage, a wild animal. By this time though the three men had seen the disturbance and began approaching the beast which was frightened and wild. It had jumped above an engine block and hooved at the adjacent metal shelving. Tools were scattered, men grew angry and the beast was cut and bleeding. At one point it had run into the furthest back room and began charging at the window, smashing and leaving blood smeared across the plexi. I tried to calm the men. Can I make a suggestion, I said, Can I make a suggestion, I called again from the shaded blacktop. If they noticed me calling out to them they never said a word to indicate it. Then just as quickly the deer ran out of the garage with all the strength and weakness of fear and rage. In a daze it charged past and stumbled headlong into the same iron parking rail and slammed chin first into the concrete, regained composure and trotted off confused past the east edge of the building. Bloodied. Gone. I walked back into work, past the quiet intern, sat, began working and made no attempt to explain what I had just seen.

The Kennel

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Fri, 21 May 2010 03:29:00 +0000

When I first arrived I felt
elated. A return - well received.
needed. But then I saw the
shape of the place. weeds. rust. paint
poorly applied. Shit.
lazy animals. lazy humans. filth.
The grain from stone caked in
2 month old dog shit under a fresh
pile of green dog shit. Dirt where
grass once grew. The faint musty
smell of recessed flood waters.
The dark black sludge of the kennel
drain. mangy. rusted grates.
rusted grates that need a kick to open
(((a kick and kinetics) 'cause you have
to kick on the gate and know when to tug)
(like a woman)). And junk.
Busted cheap radio/CD players. non functional.
crammed into filthy nooks - on top
of dirty pens, stuffed behind
piles of yellowing newsprint. unkempt.
and that's the good stuff there
beneath the man mange.
tilted wheelbarrows - one deflated
wheel half sunk in mud from two
floods back. Beaten and broken wood.
Hovering,
thick hairy flying insects making
nests, threatening charge. Dogs
barking or watching lazy with
mid-day slumber. Or
midnight when it all gets calm.
the sound of traffic like the hum
of a refrigerator. mixed with
the scent of bleach and chemical orange
and swamp and sewage. All this begins the
trip. This is home. was. is. Hell,
if I could know.

Untitled (I come for you, I)

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 15:28:00 +0000

Untitled (I come for you, I)

A great impression lay
underneath my eyes
and there it lay
underneath my skin
below the three levels of bone,
marrow & spirit. In
others the marrow turns
to dust or rust with
cancer or worse. My spirit
is sick or I cannot for the
life of me understand my own
pain. This is our time but
mine is blocked and remains
so by the long shift down
from a place of great promise
to a resting place.
That place. This place here. Complete
with fear. Yes, this place here.
And when I think of you I
think of warmth and time and
distance. When I think of you
I think of letting go. Of
not returning. Of stress. Of
course. I think of everything
that a place is, then some,
then nothing at all but desire,
satiation, desire, fire, then
nothing at all. Then I think
of love. From out here love is
the dark sea. From out here in
that same quiet, from that same
impression, a great impression,
love is acceptance my love. My
quiet love. My only love.

~Rose
April 21, 2010
for Lord Byron.

Alter Boys - Part 1

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 00:38:00 +0000

At the park, Faf chased the squirrels and tried to shit (she's been constipated). I stood on our hill after coaxing her to give up on the shitting and instead climb the embankment to listen to the new life screaming. And the new life was literally screaming - thousands of croaking frogs in the nook between the ridge line and horse path. Several acres of prime beautiful wetlands singing with the sounds of spring. Horny toads literally squawking in the possibility of new life. Above that and just over the ridge line was the constant hum of highway, rubber on asphalt. In years past I'd hear that invasive sound and cuss it for death, then leave good and far to the mountain west and look for Jesus on high mountain passes. Sounds overly Romantic and it is but also, somehow, not far off. The anxiety to leave presents itself as a slow and methodical refrain, then a memory. All the while I try to remain present. I just live now, because we aren't in the past or the future, I recall (more or less the gist) from a bad book of Bob Dylan quotes. "That's a tough one," I told NW. "Yea man, it is, because the past shapes the present. The past made it." "God damn it," I say in my head but it squeaks out audibly in a mild turrets kind of a way. That's what happens when I'm down, I hear repetition and begin reciting words like a mantra. All of this, even these words fall out immediately to the past, as they are memory now, I think. "I'm a single point of god damn consciousness," I say audibly, alone now, in that audible memory kind of way again, disliking the sound of it so hoped it would not remain. "Of course it will however," I thought and watched the heat vapor from the morning sun dancing on the thin west wall above the faucet. Just beautiful. Easter morning. I look back at Lord Byron preparing for the feast. "Today I want to remember the bride whore Magdelane - the first bitch to see Jesus after he rose from the dead," I say. "Oh?," she replies looking around her shoulder from the edge of a beautiful dress currently receiving a righteous lady primping for holiday showtime. I don't know what compels me to say these things - "There must be a kick ass gym in heaven because Jesus rolled that boulder away from the tomb only after three days. A huge fuckin' boulder like twice the size those Scottish guys could move. We're talkin' big boy Jesus in top good form right there for the bride whore Magdalene to see." "Jesus," Lord Byron replies. "Exactly," I reply behaving badly. We showed up to church late and couldn't find a place to sit. The rear was full of screaming children. Lord Byron led us instead to a small section of pew just behind the formidable wooden pillar painted brain gray which served as a wall between alter view and the parishioner unfortunate enough to land that spot. "Sit close," Lord Byron says pulling me toward her, sensing my frustration. (Part 1)

Fucking

noreply@blogger.com (pRose DC) — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 00:21:00 +0000

Awake. Agitation. Then the sweet nudge of Faf's cold wet nose on my hand flopped just off the end of the bed. Lord Byron. A huge morning boner. "Babe," I say to the open air. I never speak directly to her for fear of morning breath. "Babe". I hear her slow moan to consciousness and then the crisp almost unreal alertness of a "Hi, good morning, i love you so much Rose." That's her new thing, adding 'so much' to her proclamation of love. This after I've blatantly attempted to get rid of her on multiple occasions citing difference of class or creed or need but never desire. "I love you too" I say silently and toward the wall as I reach back to feel her thigh, then hair then crotch. I like to get my hand right up on her soft parts quickly while still in a state of comfortable half sleep. I look for reciprocation imagining mounting her from behind and surprising her with a thumb slipped in the ass. I wished she was my only lover - that's the big secret. Not that I have other lovers or that I'm a cheat but in the morning hours there are times I remember the girl is not going to be Buttercup or _ _ _ _ or my ex-wife or Coco from high school years. I remember the price of time and lingering, of not moving on quickly. Sounds sappy now but the juice of another human changes your code, changes mine. Lord Byron grabbed my cock still hard from waking. "Do you have a condom," Lord Byron asked. She won't let me cum inside without it, rather our juices don't quite flow and the cum burns. In the same sense, her cunt has a bit of a ridge that rubs the shaft just below my head raw if not careful. It feels good, all that I need, though there are these realities. And now, since the past year or more I don't like a woman coming on to me rather I prefer to let tension build then fuck, then leave it alone until the tension builds then spontaneously fuck. Many of my friends have suggested I take a few years off, not do or date anyone and get back into it later. Most of those folks are alone however or not getting fucked and claiming it choice. Most of the time at this point I think of death and it's (fucking) finality so prefer to try at it - to go about love making with good intention and loyalty and respect. It's Lord Byron I love I say, that's why we 'do it' (a phrase I picked up from _ _ _ _ two years back when we used to get drunk, stumble home and, as she would say, "Are we gonna do it" - emphasis on the 'do it' part). It's not just the fucking with Lord Byron and I though. The same is true for all good lovers - we sleep in a warm bed together, most nights not performing coitus because eventually we will succumb to it and it will perform us. "Just let it build" I tell her. That's how I prefer it anyway. For her, at this stage the hornier bat, she gives in and just waits for it unless of course she needs to give head - oral fixation. Then I can't hold back, preferring the sweet spot between her thighs. Good call. "Good call baby?" That's what Lord Byron says when her tits are exposed, firm and perky as they are. She does this to egg me on because the first time I saw those bare tits I exclaimed it, couldn't help myself - "Good call!" As in 'good call on those picture perfect tits!' And they are. My girl was built for land, strong and moving swiftly across it. Ropey arms, ass, thighs and fit. Run you down kind of fit. In Philadelphia I was pointing out those incredible features to Youngest stopping just short of checking her teeth. "Yes, yes, I see, very tight model. I like a strong woman," he replied playing along, Lord Byron beaming with joy, a bit embarrassed at the attention. Speaking with Youngest's girl, Baby, a few weeks back, the time I was snowed in after a connecting flight never left the ground, we had a similar conversation. Baby likes to talk about sex and really get into it. "I kind of just want to fuck Lord Byron in the ass. Just turn her over and stick it straight in," I said. "Yes, then you do that," Baby responded with enthusiastic certainty. "Really," I replied in a half questioning assertive reply. "Yes, you should," Baby confirmed unwavering. Just prior we were discussing porn and masturbation. Babe is a horny, horny girl - always sticking here hands down her pants - cumming 3 or 4 times a morning she claimed. She would just excuse herself, head to the bedroom and rub one out. "I like to watch two girls going at it - grrrr," She motioned rubbing her palms vigorously together while scrunching her face, "Rub those pussies together - grrrr." "Yea," she adds, laughing into it. I giggled, "Fuck yea, Yes then." I personally didn't like to think of two girls going at it. For me a gang bang or just straight pumping penetration. God damn it. Good thoughts and actions are required for good lives, I thought and hoped this honesty was good. Real good. Good enough. "Grrrrrr... Yea!"