2013-05-25T00:00:21Z urn:uuid:61161711-2691-1311-7162-110674111110 allaboutmormons/ENGhttp://feedburner.google.comSubscribe with My Yahoo!Subscribe with NewsGatorSubscribe with My AOLSubscribe with BloglinesSubscribe with NetvibesSubscribe with GoogleSubscribe with PageflakesSubscribe with PlusmoSubscribe with The Free DictionarySubscribe with Bitty BrowserSubscribe with NewsAlloySubscribe with Live.comSubscribe with Excite MIXSubscribe with Yourminis.comSubscribe with Attensa for OutlookSubscribe with WebwagSubscribe with netomat HubSubscribe with Podcast ReadySubscribe with FlurrySubscribe with WikioSubscribe with Daily Rotation urn:uuid:22053120-1322-5831-df24-a1dc1eeebeef 2013-05-24T22:59:21-06:00 <b>Article by El Santo Gringo:</b> <h1>Introduction</h1> <br>In every religion, beliefs and practices can be categorized as essential or peripheral. "Essential" in this context means "fundamentally important to the religion." Every good member should either possess essential beliefs or be working in good faith towards possessing them; additionally, every good member should try his best to perform all essential practices. <br> <br>In contrast, peripheral beliefs and practices, while often commonly accepted and frequently performed, are not necessarily fundamental. One can hold unorthodox views of peripheral beliefs, for example, and still remain a "good" member. Peripheral beliefs and practices are important and can strengthen faith, but they are not fundamental. <br> <br>In many religions, essential beliefs and practices are defined in "creeds". Mormonism is challenging in this respect because we reject formal creeds in favor of continuing, modern revelation from God. Nevertheless, many investigating our church want to know what exactly someone needs to believe and do to be a "good Mormon." Complicating things further, many anti-Mormons publish lists of "Mormon beliefs" that are misrepresentations or fabrications at worst, and poor descriptions of beliefs that are trivial or peripheral to our faith at best. <br> <br>There are two important occasions when Mormons make formal declarations of their faith. In the baptismal and temple-recommend interviews, Mormons formally accept certain beliefs and practices that demonstrate they are prepared to join the church or to worship in a Mormon temple, respectively. If we assert that someone who has joined the church and prepared themselves for temple worship is a "good Mormon," the statements of faith made in these interviews are, by definition, all that is "essential." <br><h1>Essential Beliefs</h1> <br><ol> <br> <li>God is our Eternal Father. Jesus Christ is God's son, the Savior and Redeemer of the world. The Holy Ghost is likewise part of the Godhead (~"Trinity"). Mormons must have faith in these three.</li> <br> <li><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/reflections-of-christ/jesus-6.jpg" alt="" width="263" height="371" />Through Christ's atoning sacrifice, we can overcome death and sin. That's what "Savior" and "Redeemer" mean. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>Mormons do consider Christ to be divine, and Mormons do believe salvation comes through Him.</li> <br> <li>Jesus Christ's ancient church and gospel have been established again in our days. God used a man, Joseph Smith, to help restore the ancient church. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>Mormons do not worship Joseph Smith. We see him only as a prophet, like Moses or Peter from the Bible.</li> <br> <li>The current worldwide leader (i.e., president) of the Church is also a prophet of God. God has authorized him, and him alone, to preside over the church as Christ's imperfect, human representative. The top governing bodies of the Church (the "First Presidency" and the "Quorum of the Twelve") are also prophets. While it's not necessary to agree with every policy or idea expressed over the pulpit, Mormons should support these and other leaders in a spirit of good will (i.e., they should be "sustained"). [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>Again, no leader in the church should ever be worshipped. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>Mormons do not believe prophets are perfect or infallible. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>We do respect them as men called by God to transmit His message to the Church.</li> <br></ol> <br><h1>Essential Practices</h1> <br><ol> <br> <li>Baptism is an essential ordinance (religious ceremony) in which converts promise God that they will become disciples (followers) of Jesus Christ (i.e., that they will "take His name upon them").</li> <br> <li>There are other ordinances, performed in Mormon temples, that are also essential and sacred. While many good Mormons are not yet ready for temple worship, those who are promise to dedicate themselves to God and to seek charity, benevolence, and purity of thought. Temple worship is associated with sacred symbols that good Mormons should respect, including special symbolic clothing. Whenever appropriate, good Mormons should wear this clothing as a private symbol of their faith.</li> <br> <li>Mormons must be chaste. This means they avoid sexual relations outside of a legal marriage between a man and a woman. When a Mormon is not chaste, he must repent and sincerely change his ways, which is possible through Jesus Christ. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>"Sexual relations" include pornography use. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>In modern times, polygamy is also unchaste. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>While homosexual relations are not considered chaste, homosexuals themselves are welcome to worship with us. In fact, there are <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Blog/heroic_faith_gay_mormons_1830s_ENG_44.php">many gay Mormons</a> who choose abstinence and make <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Blog/testimony_gay_mormon_desire_faithful_ENG_68.php">important spiritual contributions</a> to the Mormon community.</li> <br> <li>Mormons donate 10% of their earnings to the Church, thereby demonstrating that their dedication to God is greater than their love of material things (Malachi 3:10). [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>The Mormon clergy is almost universally unpaid, so this money is not used to line the pockets of the pastor. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>These donations are used to build Mormon chapels, to purchase religious books for the members of the Church, to finance the Church's missionary program, etc.</li> <br> <li>Good Mormons follow certain dietary rules. Specifically, Mormons do not drink coffee, black tea, or alcohol. They do not use illegal drugs, nor do they use tobacco in any of its forms. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>Mormons can drink caffeinated soda pops, though many choose not to do so. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>Mormons can also eat chocolate. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>There seems to be some ambiguity as to whether or not Mormons should drink green tea.</li> <br> <li>Mormons should honor the Lord's day (the Christian Sabbath). In most parts of the world, Mormons celebrate the Sabbath on Sunday. Honoring the Lord's day includes going to church, where one can participate in a weekly ordinance (religious ceremony) called the sacrament. Additionally, honoring the Sabbath day includes serving others.</li> <br> <li>Families are very important to Mormons. Except in certain exceptional circumstances (rape, incest, the mother's life is in jeopardy, etc.), Mormon women should not have elective abortions, and Mormon men should not encourage those abortions. Family members, while imperfect, should strive to treat each other with kindness and respect. In cases of divorce, Mormons must continue to meet financial or other obligations to former spouses and/or children. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>Things like adultery are also obviously taboo, since they are not considered "chaste," as defined above.</li> <br> <li>Good Mormons should not support or affiliate themselves with groups or individuals who specifically and intentionally oppose the teachings and practices of the LDS Church. For example, some dissident polygamist groups erroneously refer to themselves as "Mormons." Since the LDS ("Mormon") Church excommunicates anyone found to be practicing polygamy, good Mormons cannot associate themselves with these groups. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>The Mormon Church stays out of party politics, and Mormons are free to affiliate themselves with whatever political party best fits their world views. [NEWLINE]     <strong>Commentary: </strong>Good Mormons often associate with people who <span style="text-decoration: underline;">disagree</span> with their beliefs and practices. The church does not advocate the shunning of ex-members, for example, as in some other denominations. It's only in those rare circumstances when a group or individual intentionally and actively tries to damage Christ's church that association and support should perhaps be withdrawn.</li> <br> <li>Good Mormons should deal honestly with others. This includes obeying the law of the land.</li> <br> <li><div class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 310px"><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/FreeImages/temple4.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="225" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Temples are considered houses of God, places of holiness and peace separate from the preoccupations of the world.</p></div>Finally, there is also a subjective component to being a "good" Mormon. If a Mormon feels like his life is not in harmony with the teachings and requirements of Christ's gospel, or if he has made moral mistakes serious enough to require the attention and help of a clergymen (i.e., a bishop), he should confess to the appropriate person, ask God for forgiveness, change his heart, and abandon his sins. A good Mormon should subjectively feel that he's spiritually prepared and worthy to worship in the temple with a clear conscience.</li> <br></ol> <br><h1>Conclusion</h1> <br>No Mormon is perfect. Some good Mormons don't feel entirely comfortable with all the essential beliefs mentioned above, for example, but they are actively trying to understand and accept those beliefs through personal study and prayer. Some good Mormons have failed to follow all the essential practices too, but they've repented of their mistakes and have changed their ways. All people are inevitably imperfect, but good Mormons sincerely try their best to follow Christ and His commandments. <br> <br><div class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 310px"><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/FreeImages/bible5.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="199" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Mormons believe the Bible is the Word of God, His sacred revelation to ancient prophets and apostles. We also believe in the Book of Mormon.</p></div>Finally, I want to point out that many of the "peripheral" doctrines of the Church (as I've defined them) are nevertheless very valuable for strengthening faith. I was quite surprised, for example, to learn that neither the baptismal interview nor the temple-recommend interview mention the Book of Mormon, though many Mormons derive much faith and benefit from that book of sacred scripture! The church has so much to offer that's not included on this list. Nevertheless, I do hope that this list of the basics will be helpful. 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What about people with big families and small paychecks? Do they get any kind of break? What about people out of work or bankrupt?<br><br style="clear:both"/><br> <table border=0 width=100%><tr><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/understand_tithing_manadatory_families_paychecks_ENG_781.php">See the original question</a></center></td><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/understand_tithing_manadatory_families_paychecks_ENG_781.php#answer_question">Answer this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/mormon_questions_answers.php">See all questions</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/understand_tithing_manadatory_families_paychecks_ENG_781.php#answers">See all answers to this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php">Ask a question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=allaboutmormons%2FENG&amp;loc=en_US">Updates by Email</a></center></td></tr></table><hr><div class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:yIl2AUoC8zA"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=yIl2AUoC8zA" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:F7zBnMyn0Lo"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:F7zBnMyn0Lo" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:V_sGLiPBpWU"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:V_sGLiPBpWU" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:qj6IDK7rITs"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=qj6IDK7rITs" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:l6gmwiTKsz0"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=l6gmwiTKsz0" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:gIN9vFwOqvQ"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=O8ByDsME--Q:YlAOuYgVC5g:gIN9vFwOqvQ" border="0"></img></a> </div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/allaboutmormons/ENG/~4/O8ByDsME--Q" height="1" width="1"/> ??? http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/understand_tithing_manadatory_families_paychecks_ENG_781.php urn:uuid:17120019-6917-0000-ed31-decdebbaedcf 2013-05-23T06:44:25-06:00 <b>Question by Belinda:</b> So about 2 years ago now I found out my husband of 10 years was having an affair with my best friend. It was devastating. I moved out and took our 5 kids and lived a year without him trying to see if we could work it out in counseling. I have decided to stay with him and we have been doing really well. We are much stronger as a couple. My x best friend never once said she was sorry for doing this but I have moved on and forgave her. I feel with the amount of lies she told to pull off the affair and that she made it seem like her marriage was perfect that she may have some type problem I did not know about so I have empathy for her and just hope she has gotten herself some kind of help so she can stop making her life look like its perfect and face so real issues she has had. I still have to see her once in awhile even though we moved about 10 miles away from our old house. It's always so uncomfortable for me to see her. Is this normal. We shared many of the same friends which many knew of nothing that went on. They all still think she has the perfect marriage and life. It messes with my head because I don't mind if people know the real me. I am happy with who I am. <br> <br>One of the hardest things is she acted like a strong LDS woman through the whole affair. My husband did not. He acted like he was struggling with his testimony. She continued with her callings and just acted like nothing. When the affair came out she still acted like nothing happened and still held her calling.<br><br><b>Answer by lynn: </b><div class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 310px"><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/FreeImages/temple10.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="225" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Temples are considered houses of God, places of holiness and peace separate from the preoccupations of the world.</p></div>You don't seem to have a question, but my feeling is that you are a strong woman and a great example of an LDS woman. I don't know how often you and your husband go to the temple but I have a testimony of it. Mark it on your calender and let nothing stop you from going, if it's the babysitting then ask a young woman to help you out, or your vt. It brings a sweetness to relationships. 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The book of Ether has no year and dates like the other chapters in the Book of Mormon, but most people seem to belive that It spans a period of about 1500-2000 years, from the tower of babel to when the mulekites found coriantumr? <br> <br>But in the book of Ether they list 30 generations from Jared to Ether - isnt that way too few generations for such a long period of time?<br><br style="clear:both"/><br> <table border=0 width=100%><tr><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/book_ether_dates_chapters_mormon_ENG_585.php">See the original question</a></center></td><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/book_ether_dates_chapters_mormon_ENG_585.php#answer_question">Answer this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/mormon_questions_answers.php">See all questions</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/book_ether_dates_chapters_mormon_ENG_585.php#answers">See all answers to this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php">Ask a question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=allaboutmormons%2FENG&amp;loc=en_US">Updates by Email</a></center></td></tr></table><hr><div class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:yIl2AUoC8zA"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=yIl2AUoC8zA" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:F7zBnMyn0Lo"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:F7zBnMyn0Lo" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:V_sGLiPBpWU"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:V_sGLiPBpWU" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:qj6IDK7rITs"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=qj6IDK7rITs" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:l6gmwiTKsz0"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=l6gmwiTKsz0" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:gIN9vFwOqvQ"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=h7aXpdM9iYo:2dkqm60J_Po:gIN9vFwOqvQ" border="0"></img></a> </div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/allaboutmormons/ENG/~4/h7aXpdM9iYo" height="1" width="1"/> ??? http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/book_ether_dates_chapters_mormon_ENG_585.php urn:uuid:23052320-1323-1123-de21-aeedaeeceaca 2013-05-21T23:08:28-06:00 <b>Article by El Santo Gringo:</b> Mormons settled Nauvoo, Illinois (where I'm currently vacationing) in the mid 19th century. This city has tremendous historical significance for the Mormon people, and I'm just thrilled to be here! Let me tell you about Nauvoo and share some of the pictures I've taken. <br> <br>Mormons were not very popular in the 19th century. The religion started in upstate New York, but our people eventually migrated to Ohio. A number of Mormons were tortured there, so we moved on to Missouri. <br> <br>Unfortunately, Mormons, who were mostly northerners, were not well liked in the South either. We were generally anti-slavery, for example, and we tended to vote in blocks. Some of the Missourians tried to prevent us from voting. Others attacked Mormon settlements and even massacred Mormon women and children. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/jackson-county-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73311" alt="The Mormons were forcibly removed from Jackson County Missouri. They had to abandon their homes and lands." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/jackson-county-copy.jpg" width="450" height="326" /></a> The Mormons were forcibly removed from Jackson County Missouri. They had to abandon their homes and lands. <br> <br>In response to this aggression, we Mormons organized ourselves. We planned to defend our families by force if necessary. This made the Missourians even more nervous, and eventually the governor of that state issued an "Extermination Order" mandating that the Mormons should be exterminated if they couldn't be expelled from the state. Our "capital," called Independence, was attacked, and we were forced out of our homes. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-temple-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73314" alt="The Nauvoo Temple" src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-temple-copy.jpg" width="450" height="305" /></a> The Nauvoo Temple <br> <br>To escape these tensions, Mormons fled across the Mississippi river into Illinois. Some of the non-Mormons in Illinois, especially in Quincy, were very kindhearted. They provided food and shelter for destitute Mormon refugees. Eventually, the state of Illinois gave us a swamp in which to live. Within a few years, we had drained the swamp and established a city, Nauvoo, that was roughly the size of Chicago at the time. We built a beautiful temple, which not only had great religious significance, but also symbolized Mormon industry in the face of great adversity. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-temple-1-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73315" alt="The Nauvoo Mormon Temple" src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-temple-1-copy.jpg" width="600" height="496" /></a> The Nauvoo Mormon Temple <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-temple-3-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73316 " title="The Nauvoo Mormon Temple" alt="nauvoo-temple-3 copy" src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-temple-3-copy.jpg" width="600" height="482" /></a> The Nauvoo Mormon Temple <br> <br>Unfortunately, some people in the area still hated the Mormons. We were fed up with being pushed around, so we again prepared to defend ourselves if necessary. We even assembled a small military to protect Nauvoo, which we called the Nauvoo Legion. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-legion-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73321" alt="The Nauvoo Legion was assembled to protect the Mormon capital." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-legion-copy.jpg" width="600" height="450" /></a> The Nauvoo Legion was assembled to protect the Mormon capital. <br> <br>As tensions escalated, it soon became apparent that Nauvoo would be attacked. To spare the city, the leader and founder of our church, Joseph Smith, offered to surrender to the state militia at a nearby non-Mormon city called Carthage. In exchange for his surrender, the governor of Illinois guaranteed his safety. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/prophets-last-ride-2-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73318" alt="Joseph Smith and his brother Hyrum riding to Carthage, Illinois." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/prophets-last-ride-2-copy.jpg" width="600" height="448" /></a> Joseph Smith and his brother Hyrum riding to Carthage, Illinois. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/martyrdom-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73319" alt="Joseph Smith and his brother Hyrum were killed by an angry mob in Carthage, Illinois." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/martyrdom-copy.jpg" width="450" height="338" /></a> Joseph Smith and his brother Hyrum were killed by an angry mob in Carthage, Illinois. <br> <br>Unfortunately, the governor did not keep his promise, and Joseph and his brother Hyrum were murdered by an angry mob. John Taylor, Joseph's friend, wrote this about his death: "In the short space of twenty years, [Joseph Smith] has brought forth the Book of Mormon, which he translated by the gift and power of God, and has been the means of publishing it on two continents; has sent the fulness of the everlasting gospel, which it contained, to the four quarters of the earth; has brought forth the revelations and commandments which compose this book of Doctrine and Covenants, and many other wise documents and instructions for the benefit of the children of men; gathered many thousands of the Latter-day Saints, founded a great city, and left a fame and name that cannot be slain. He lived great, and he died great in the eyes of God and his people; and like most of the Lord's anointed in ancient times, has sealed his mission and his works with his own blood; and so has his brother Hyrum. In life they were not divided, and in death they were not separated!" <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/conflict-in-nauvoo-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73324" alt="Conflict in Nauvoo." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/conflict-in-nauvoo-copy.jpg" width="450" height="338" /></a> Conflict in Nauvoo. <br> <br>With our leader dead, there was nothing to keep the angry mobs from kicking us out of Nauvoo. Thousands and thousands of Mormons packed up a few of their most precious belongings and abandoned the city. They famously followed one of Nauvoo's main streets, Parley's Street, down to the Mississippi river, looking over their shoulders to see the temple just one last time. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/down-parleys-road-to-mississippi-2-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73327" alt="Parley's Street, the route the Mormons famously took as the abandoned their beloved city Nauvoo." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/down-parleys-road-to-mississippi-2-copy.jpg" width="600" height="416" /></a> Parley's Street, the route the Mormons famously took as they abandoned their beloved city Nauvoo. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/down-parleys-road-to-mississippi-1-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73326" alt="Parley's Street, the route the Mormons famously took as the abandoned their beloved city Nauvoo." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/down-parleys-road-to-mississippi-1-copy.jpg" width="600" height="450" /></a> Parley's Street, the route the Mormons famously took as they abandoned their beloved city Nauvoo. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-mississippi-crossing-1-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73328" alt="The stop where the Mormons crossed the Mississippi river, officially leaving the state of Illinois." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-mississippi-crossing-1-copy.jpg" width="600" height="444" /></a> The spot where the Mormons crossed the Mississippi river, officially leaving the state of Illinois. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-mississippi-crossing-2-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73329" alt="The stop where the Mormons crossed the Mississippi river, officially leaving the state of Illinois." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/nauvoo-mississippi-crossing-2-copy.jpg" width="600" height="450" /></a> The spot where the Mormons crossed the Mississippi river, officially leaving the state of Illinois. <br> <br>After Joseph's death, a man named Brigham Young became the new leader of our church. Sick of the way the people of the United States had repeatedly treated us, we decided to head for the wilderness. We eventually settled in Utah, which was part of Mexico at the time. The journey to Utah was very challenging, and thousands of Mormons died. In recent years, our church has erected a monument listing the names of those known to have perished, though the names of many of the dead are lost to history. <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/known_deaths-crossing-copy.jpg"><img class="size-full wp-image-73330" alt="A monument in Nauvoo honoring those who died in the Mormon exodus to Utah." src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/known_deaths-crossing-copy.jpg" width="600" height="127" /></a> A monument in Nauvoo honoring those who died in the Mormon exodus to Utah. <br> <br>The government of Illinois apologized to the Mormon people in 2004. Given the kindness of the people of Quincy, the love we still have for our old Nauvoo, and the eventual apology, I'd say there are no hard feelings. Overall, Illinois is a pretty classy state. 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It was devastating. I moved out and took our 5 kids and lived a year without him trying to see if we could work it out in counseling. I have decided to stay with him and we have been doing really well. We are much stronger as a couple. My x best friend never once said she was sorry for doing this but I have moved on and forgave her. I feel with the amount of lies she told to pull off the affair and that she made it seem like her marriage was perfect that she may have some type problem I did not know about so I have empathy for her and just hope she has gotten herself some kind of help so she can stop making her life look like its perfect and face so real issues she has had. I still have to see her once in awhile even though we moved about 10 miles away from our old house. It's always so uncomfortable for me to see her. Is this normal. We shared many of the same friends which many knew of nothing that went on. They all still think she has the perfect marriage and life. It messes with my head because I don't mind if people know the real me. I am happy with who I am. <br> <br>One of the hardest things is she acted like a strong LDS woman through the whole affair. My husband did not. He acted like he was struggling with his testimony. She continued with her callings and just acted like nothing. When the affair came out she still acted like nothing happened and still held her calling.<br><br><b>Answer by Anonymous: </b>Belinda my gosh I think your strong. Knowing she is still acting like everything is perfect is probably how she is coping. If she had to look at the damage she has caused it may do her in. She may have a mental disorder. It would take so much energy to keep going on like everything is fine and act like nothing happened. Down deep in side I have to picture she is hurting in a very big way unless Satan still has her. She does not have a perfect marriage if she cheated on her husband. She does not have the perfect life if she could go after her best friends husband so even though it may look that way on the out side it's highly unlikely she has not suffered her own hell from doing this. Hang in there. It's good you don't have to see her often. That was nice to read. I hope you and your husband make it. 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Thx<br><br><b>Answer by Anonymous: </b>Could you please show me in the Bible where it says you get a chance to repent after death. Thank you. <br /><br /><b>El Santo Gringo</b>: Hi friend. You might find <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ScriptStudy/ENG_WorkForDead.php" rel="nofollow">this page helpful</a>. Please don't hesitate to <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php" rel="nofollow">contact me</a> if further explanation is needed. 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They tell her to go with her gut and do what she wants to do. I try eplaining the diffrence between that feeling and the still small voice of the holy spirit. Any ideas how to explain? They come from a new age perspective. I come from a christian/inactive LDS background.<br><br><b>Answer by El Santo Gringo: </b>Hi sister. Thanks for your interesting comment. Gut feelings need to be carefully considered. Sometimes the Spirit can communicate with us through what some would call a "gut feeling." In thes cases, the feeling will be accompanied by the "quickening of the mind" or the "burning in the bosom" that we often associate with the Spirit. <br> <br>On the other hand, our guts can also lead us to do all sorts of terrible and stupid things. So many have the idea that they should do what "feels right," but the truth is that we should do what <u>is</u> right by following the commandments that God has given us. Some think they should follow their hearts, but the truth is we should lead our hearts in the paths God wants us to tread. <br> <br>Life is not a wandering journey. It's a journey with a fixed destination. We should strive to identify that destination, and then we should actively, intentionally move in its direction. 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They tell her to go with her gut and do what she wants to do. I try eplaining the diffrence between that feeling and the still small voice of the holy spirit. Any ideas how to explain? They come from a new age perspective. I come from a christian/inactive LDS background.<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b>"Going with your gut" can actually be one way of following the still small voice... As long as it is done in the proper fashion and for the proper reason. Sometimes our 'gut' will tell us to things that are against the Lord's principles. For example, if her 'gut' is telling her that she should get a flower tattoo instead of a butterfly one, it is not of the spirit since we know that we have been cautiond against getting tattoos. But if her 'gut' is telling her 'don't get a tattoo even though all your friends are doing it', then that would be of the Spirit. <br> <br>The question that she should always ask herself when deciding whether or not to 'go with her gut feeling' is whether or not it is against the Lord. <br> <br>This article may help: <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.lds.org/Ensign/2011/02/learning-to-hear-and-understand-the-spirit?lang=eng" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">https://www.lds.org/Ensign/2011/02/learning-to-hear-and-understand-the-spirit?lang=eng</a> <br> <br><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?hideNav=1&locale=0&sourceId=6ca7a41f6cc20110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&vgnextoid=e1fa5f74db46c010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">This family home evening lesson</a> may have some ideas for you as well.<br><br style="clear:both"/><br> <table border=0 width=100%><tr><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/daughter_receiving_advice_friends_parents_ENG_8.php">See the original question</a></center></td><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/daughter_receiving_advice_friends_parents_ENG_8.php#answer_question">Answer this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/mormon_questions_answers.php">See all questions</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/daughter_receiving_advice_friends_parents_ENG_8.php#answers">See all answers to this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php">Ask a question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=allaboutmormons%2FENG&amp;loc=en_US">Updates by Email</a></center></td></tr></table><hr><div class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:yIl2AUoC8zA"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=yIl2AUoC8zA" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:F7zBnMyn0Lo"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:F7zBnMyn0Lo" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:V_sGLiPBpWU"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:V_sGLiPBpWU" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:qj6IDK7rITs"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=qj6IDK7rITs" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:l6gmwiTKsz0"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=l6gmwiTKsz0" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:gIN9vFwOqvQ"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=F0o5ZDyrivo:aJsOnvt5zF4:gIN9vFwOqvQ" border="0"></img></a> </div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/allaboutmormons/ENG/~4/F0o5ZDyrivo" height="1" width="1"/> Pamela Bonta http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/daughter_receiving_advice_friends_parents_ENG_8.php urn:uuid:17120019-6917-0000-ed31-decafeeedacd 2013-04-27T11:51:39-06:00 <b>Question by Belinda:</b> So about 2 years ago now I found out my husband of 10 years was having an affair with my best friend. It was devastating. I moved out and took our 5 kids and lived a year without him trying to see if we could work it out in counseling. I have decided to stay with him and we have been doing really well. We are much stronger as a couple. My x best friend never once said she was sorry for doing this but I have moved on and forgave her. I feel with the amount of lies she told to pull off the affair and that she made it seem like her marriage was perfect that she may have some type problem I did not know about so I have empathy for her and just hope she has gotten herself some kind of help so she can stop making her life look like its perfect and face so real issues she has had. I still have to see her once in awhile even though we moved about 10 miles away from our old house. It's always so uncomfortable for me to see her. Is this normal. We shared many of the same friends which many knew of nothing that went on. They all still think she has the perfect marriage and life. It messes with my head because I don't mind if people know the real me. I am happy with who I am. <br> <br>One of the hardest things is she acted like a strong LDS woman through the whole affair. My husband did not. He acted like he was struggling with his testimony. She continued with her callings and just acted like nothing. When the affair came out she still acted like nothing happened and still held her calling.<br><br><b>Answer by Anonymous: </b>Belinda, I understand what you have been going through. I've seen this type of hypocrisy before as well. It is even more painful when it is by a supposedly good member of the church. The thing that keeps me going is I have to tell myself that the gospel of Christ is true and the teaching are true and correct. And I need not worry about others but worry about myself and my family. Try to look beyond their works or doings and try to see the good in them. <br> <br>I wish you well. 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It was devastating. I moved out and took our 5 kids and lived a year without him trying to see if we could work it out in counseling. I have decided to stay with him and we have been doing really well. We are much stronger as a couple. My x best friend never once said she was sorry for doing this but I have moved on and forgave her. I feel with the amount of lies she told to pull off the affair and that she made it seem like her marriage was perfect that she may have some type problem I did not know about so I have empathy for her and just hope she has gotten herself some kind of help so she can stop making her life look like its perfect and face so real issues she has had. I still have to see her once in awhile even though we moved about 10 miles away from our old house. It's always so uncomfortable for me to see her. Is this normal. We shared many of the same friends which many knew of nothing that went on. They all still think she has the perfect marriage and life. It messes with my head because I don't mind if people know the real me. I am happy with who I am. <br> <br>One of the hardest things is she acted like a strong LDS woman through the whole affair. My husband did not. He acted like he was struggling with his testimony. She continued with her callings and just acted like nothing. When the affair came out she still acted like nothing happened and still held her calling.<br><br><b>Answer by Anonymous: </b>I cannot imagine the pain and frustration you have been through, I am truely sorry. I wish someone would connect with you, a third party (bishop) and let you know if your best fried is at least working on what she has to do. Repent or whatever. Also, 20 years ago, I would have been in the roll of your best friend. She will think about what she has done over the years. It will weigh heavy on her heart. I remember getting a visit from the wife of the man I had the affair with. She was incredibly nice. We talked along time. She told me I took away her happiness and broke her heart. She said she forgave me, but would not be my friend. Classy lady. 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Have one meaning??<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b>Not all of our temples have spires. You might find this article on LDS temple architecture interesting. 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It was devastating. I moved out and took our 5 kids and lived a year without him trying to see if we could work it out in counseling. I have decided to stay with him and we have been doing really well. We are much stronger as a couple. My x best friend never once said she was sorry for doing this but I have moved on and forgave her. I feel with the amount of lies she told to pull off the affair and that she made it seem like her marriage was perfect that she may have some type problem I did not know about so I have empathy for her and just hope she has gotten herself some kind of help so she can stop making her life look like its perfect and face so real issues she has had. I still have to see her once in awhile even though we moved about 10 miles away from our old house. It's always so uncomfortable for me to see her. Is this normal. We shared many of the same friends which many knew of nothing that went on. They all still think she has the perfect marriage and life. It messes with my head because I don't mind if people know the real me. I am happy with who I am. <br> <br>One of the hardest things is she acted like a strong LDS woman through the whole affair. My husband did not. He acted like he was struggling with his testimony. She continued with her callings and just acted like nothing. When the affair came out she still acted like nothing happened and still held her calling.<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b>Before I met my husband, I was in a relationship with an active member of the church. The relationship ended badly when it became apparent that he and I had very different views on the Law of Chastity. You can imagine how appalled I was when I discovered that this man continued in his calling for twenty months after I reported his behaviour to his Stake leaders. I emailed with my Bishop about the matter. Perhaps his response will help you. <br> <br>He said, "It is true that I have seen many wonderful miracles occur through Church discipline. On the other hand, I have also seen a few cases where things seemed to go awry. This seems to be such a case, and I understand your point and your pain. While church discipline is administered generally by good people who are trying their best to do what is right, I would urge you to consider the everlasting and perfect justice of God. This is the thing after all that will count. You can have perfect assurance and peace in knowing that He will judge with righteous judgement in this matter... Sometimes it can be a struggle to let go of wrongs. In my own experience, it is particularly difficult when the wrong has come when I am doing right. At times like this... I am persuaded to remember our Savior and how that He suffered so much wrong and abuse, which was not random abuse, but for the very reason that He was in the right. 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I just want to share the sweet and lovely feeling of having heard the song: "Oh How Lovely Was The Morning"! It gives me always the strength and assurance that what occurred in the spring of 1820 was a reality. A reality that God, our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus Christ did appear to the Prophet Joseph Smith Jr and revealed things that had been withheld since the Great Apostasy. 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If anything I would enjoy reading more about the promises and symbols to gain a better understanding of how much this religion means to it's members, and so that I can see something outside of the path I have always been on since I was born. Also, I have some great friends who are Mormon and all that have great character. It would be very interesting to see how they have grown up through their religion.<br><br><b>Answer by Kel: </b>I think it's so beautiful that you are interested in learning about those things that are so special to us and hope that you continue to investigate it. I am one who truly loves sharing my beliefs. However, I try not to share too much too soon. Imagine a small child asking a parent where babies come from. The parent, knowing the child knows nothing about reproduction, will not start with a detailed explanation of all the facts surrounding the subject. The child would not understand, to say least, and would maybe even be left confused and uncomfortable. Maybe we would tell the child that when two people love each other, God blesses them with a baby. As the child matures and develops a greater mental capacity, we would reveal more of the truth. <br> <br>Often times, people I know hear about a certain LDS belief and misunderstand or misjudge it out of context and I always think, if only you understood 'x' and 'y', 'z' would make so much sense to you. <br> <br>The more accepting society becomes of ungodly behavior, the more bizarre our beliefs appear, and are more difficult to understand or accept. Years ago, to hear that living with a person before marriage is wrong, would have been normal and widely agreed upon. Today, some may be ridiculed for believing it's even possible to accurately choose a spouse without having lived with them first. <br> <br>The idea is to build upon our knowledge, starting with the basics first, which prepare us for more complex truth :)<br><br style="clear:both"/><br> <table border=0 width=100%><tr><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php">See the original question</a></center></td><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php#answer_question">Answer this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/mormon_questions_answers.php">See all questions</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php#answers">See all answers to this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php">Ask a question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=allaboutmormons%2FENG&amp;loc=en_US">Updates by Email</a></center></td></tr></table><hr><div class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:yIl2AUoC8zA"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=yIl2AUoC8zA" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:F7zBnMyn0Lo"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:F7zBnMyn0Lo" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:V_sGLiPBpWU"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:V_sGLiPBpWU" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:qj6IDK7rITs"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=qj6IDK7rITs" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:l6gmwiTKsz0"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=l6gmwiTKsz0" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:gIN9vFwOqvQ"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:Gs13N6tWHGM:gIN9vFwOqvQ" border="0"></img></a> </div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/allaboutmormons/ENG/~4/xjrLnycrO8A" height="1" width="1"/> Kel http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php urn:uuid:17120019-6917-0000-ed31-decaeaeddeee 2013-04-22T19:48:55-06:00 <b>Question by Anonymous:</b> "Without the necessary preparation, the sacred promises and symbols would not be appreciated."- I pulled this quote from the section of the website on Temples; I understand some may not be ready to enter another religion's grounds with respect for it, but why is this quote so unspecific? If anything I would enjoy reading more about the promises and symbols to gain a better understanding of how much this religion means to it's members, and so that I can see something outside of the path I have always been on since I was born. Also, I have some great friends who are Mormon and all that have great character. It would be very interesting to see how they have grown up through their religion.<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b><div class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 310px"><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/FreeImages/temple10.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="225" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Temples are considered houses of God, places of holiness and peace separate from the preoccupations of the world.</p></div>When my grandmother lay dying in the hospital two summers ago, I was heartbroken. I had spent many hours caring for her. In those last precious hours we spent together, she told me many things about her life that were so dear to her that she had not shared them with other people, even other family members, because she knew that they did not have the knowledge or the understanding to hold those memories and thoughts precious and private. We had conversations that I would not hesitate to say were of a sacred nature. Those conversations I have shared in full with only one other person - my husband. I have shared small portions with other people who are dear to me and who were dear to my grandmother, people like my mother, my daughter. But because they did not have the privilege of gaining my grandmother's trust on those matters, I cannot share with them exactly what we talked about as she lay dying. My grandmother entrusted me with that knowledge, and I fully intend on honouring her wishes in that regard. <br> <br>For Latter-Day Saints, worship inside our temples is a lot like the experience I have just described. When we feel we are ready, and when our local and area leaders agree, we can become privileged to enter a holy temple and learn more about the nature of God, ourselves, our world. It would be breaking a sacred trust to share that knowledge with others who do not have the same understanding. That can only be found in those who have a testimony in everything we hold dear.<br><br style="clear:both"/><br> <table border=0 width=100%><tr><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php">See the original question</a></center></td><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php#answer_question">Answer this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/mormon_questions_answers.php">See all questions</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php#answers">See all answers to this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php">Ask a question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=allaboutmormons%2FENG&amp;loc=en_US">Updates by Email</a></center></td></tr></table><hr><div class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:yIl2AUoC8zA"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=yIl2AUoC8zA" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:F7zBnMyn0Lo"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:F7zBnMyn0Lo" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:V_sGLiPBpWU"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:V_sGLiPBpWU" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:qj6IDK7rITs"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=qj6IDK7rITs" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:l6gmwiTKsz0"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=l6gmwiTKsz0" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:gIN9vFwOqvQ"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:chKmNugpYUE:gIN9vFwOqvQ" border="0"></img></a> </div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/allaboutmormons/ENG/~4/xjrLnycrO8A" height="1" width="1"/> Pamela Bonta http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php urn:uuid:17120019-6917-0000-ed31-decaeaaaedae 2013-04-22T13:57:50-06:00 <b>Question by Samuel:</b> I wanted to ask a question about the church's teachings regarding modesty. It seems obvious to me that modesty is not a fixed standard: the use of long hair and a beard were symbols of maturity in years past (Brigham Young, for example), but today most Mormons are clean-shaven. <br> <br>How do you explain that things that were considered immodest in the past are now acceptable in the church? For example, now young women use pants that are fairly tight, don't cover their arms, etc. I've been reading what the leaders of the church wrote in the 60s and 70s, and I'm pretty sure the standard of modesty was much stricter back then. <br> <br>In other words, what do you think Spencer W Kimball would have thought if he'd seen some of our young women today, dressing the way they do? Do you think in the future the church's teachings on modesty will continue to change according to changing social norms? Please don't think I'm a fanatic. In fact, I'm very opposed to fundamentalism. Thanks.<br><br><b>Answer by Melissa: </b>I agree with El Santo Gringo's answer to this question. You can also read the church's guidelines on modesty in the "<a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.lds.org/youth/for-the-strength-of-youth?lang=eng" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">For The Strength of Youth</a>" pamphlet on lds.org <br> <br>As with all things, we are given guidelines, but it is up to us to decide whether we are going to follow them or not. Modesty is one that many people can view differently. I always try to err on the side of dressing "too modest" which I don't really think is possible versus, what can I get away with wearing before I become immodest. <br> <br>Again, though, the reasons for doing this are not to prove anything to anyone, but more to prove my devotion to God and his teachings. 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If anything I would enjoy reading more about the promises and symbols to gain a better understanding of how much this religion means to it's members, and so that I can see something outside of the path I have always been on since I was born. Also, I have some great friends who are Mormon and all that have great character. It would be very interesting to see how they have grown up through their religion.<br><br><b>Answer by El Santo Gringo: </b><div class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 310px"><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/FreeImages/temple14.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="261" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Temples are considered houses of God, places of holiness and peace separate from the preoccupations of the world.</p></div>Hi Anonymous. I'm happy you're interested in learning more about your friends' religion. While there are some aspects of temple worship that are too sacred to discuss outside of the temple, many of the symbols can be discussed. I've <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/temple_endowment_ceremony_secret_ritual_ENG_206.php" rel="nofollow">written about them extensively on this site</a>. <br> <br>Please let me know if you have <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php" rel="nofollow">any additional questions</a>. <br> <br><br><br style="clear:both"/><br> <table border=0 width=100%><tr><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php">See the original question</a></center></td><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php#answer_question">Answer this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/mormon_questions_answers.php">See all questions</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php#answers">See all answers to this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php">Ask a question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=allaboutmormons%2FENG&amp;loc=en_US">Updates by Email</a></center></td></tr></table><hr><div class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:yIl2AUoC8zA"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=yIl2AUoC8zA" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:F7zBnMyn0Lo"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:F7zBnMyn0Lo" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:V_sGLiPBpWU"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:V_sGLiPBpWU" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:qj6IDK7rITs"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=qj6IDK7rITs" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:l6gmwiTKsz0"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=l6gmwiTKsz0" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:gIN9vFwOqvQ"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=xjrLnycrO8A:nRDfkhLVyzQ:gIN9vFwOqvQ" border="0"></img></a> </div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/allaboutmormons/ENG/~4/xjrLnycrO8A" height="1" width="1"/> El Santo Gringo http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/preparation_sacred_promises_symbols_appreciated_ENG_297.php urn:uuid:17120019-6917-0000-ed31-deccfebecaea 2013-04-21T15:47:20-06:00 <b>Question by Anonymous:</b> Hi, what do Mormons believe happens to families that are not sealed? I read on here that "Your family is still your family in heaven but love Is the eternity" I'm confused. Could you please explain the Mormon belief on this? Thanks!<br><br><b>Answer by El Santo Gringo: </b><div class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 259px"><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/FreeMormonImages/mormon-temple-marriage.jpg" alt="" width="249" height="312" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Members of the Church believe that marriages performed in temples are sealed, or blessed to last for eternity.</p></div>Hi anonymous. Thanks for the question. I confess that that phrase confused me a bit as well. I went ahead and edited that answer to avoid confusion in the future. <br> <br>Mormons believe that a religious ceremony (ordinance) called a "sealing" is essential so families can be together even after death. It seems obvious to me that members of all families will continue to love each other after death, but for them to continue to progress spiritually as a family, the sealing ordinance is critically important. <br> <br>It's best to be sealed in this life, but people can be sealed vicariously after death if they didn't have the opportunity while living. Truth be told, at this point I suspect more people have been sealed vicariously than have ever been sealed while living. <br> <br> <br> <br>Best of luck to you.<br><br style="clear:both"/><br> <table border=0 width=100%><tr><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/mormons_families_sealed_read_family_ENG_673.php">See the original question</a></center></td><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/mormons_families_sealed_read_family_ENG_673.php#answer_question">Answer this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/mormon_questions_answers.php">See all questions</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/mormons_families_sealed_read_family_ENG_673.php#answers">See all answers to this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php">Ask a question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=allaboutmormons%2FENG&amp;loc=en_US">Updates by Email</a></center></td></tr></table><hr><div class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:yIl2AUoC8zA"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=yIl2AUoC8zA" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:F7zBnMyn0Lo"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:F7zBnMyn0Lo" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:V_sGLiPBpWU"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:V_sGLiPBpWU" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:qj6IDK7rITs"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=qj6IDK7rITs" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:l6gmwiTKsz0"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=l6gmwiTKsz0" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:gIN9vFwOqvQ"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=AsoH8y2fpoc:wftxlZ_2Onw:gIN9vFwOqvQ" border="0"></img></a> </div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/allaboutmormons/ENG/~4/AsoH8y2fpoc" height="1" width="1"/> El Santo Gringo http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/mormons_families_sealed_read_family_ENG_673.php urn:uuid:17120019-6917-0000-ed31-decebdeeeefe 2013-04-21T08:57:50-06:00 <b>Question by Anónimo:</b> I waste all my time on things that are useless, like social networks online. I think it really is an addiction. I know I should focus more on the Scriptures, but no matter how hard I try to free myself of my addiction, I can't do it. I feel so distant from my Savior. In recent days, I've been depressed. I feel like this depression is result of using my time unwisely. I feel like I really need someone to remind me what to do. What should I do? How can I feel closer to God? <br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b>I don't know you or your circumstances. But it sounds to me like you are lonely. One of the saddest things about our modern world is the disconnect that people have from other people. Texting, email, facebook... All are good tools for keeping in touch with people, but when the printed word takes the place of face-to-face contact it can lead to loneliness, depression, and a loss of self-worth. <br> <br>May I ask you some questions? Do you attend all of your church meetings? Do you participate in social events at your church? Do you serve others? Do you have family nearby? <br> <br>I have been in similar circumstances to you. In order to break the cycle of loneliness that I was in, I started going to every church event that I could, I volunteered twice a week at the Bishop's Storehouse, I made a point of using some of my time online to keep in touch with cousins and other relatives who lived far away from me, I joined a social group of people with like interests, and I started spending more time with my family. I also set times of when I was going to be online - my limit for social media, for example, was twice a day - and I kept track of how much time I was spending my days. <br> <br>I hope some of these suggestions will help you. 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He was a full-time missionary. He has some friends that are always inviting him to go out. Sometimes he comes home in the early hours of the morning. I try to do our family night, and he participates and seems to get a lot out of it. He's not a bad man, nor is he a bad father. He just doesn't want to come back to the church. What should I do?<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b><div class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 235px"><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/MormonImages/mormon-missionaries/mormon_missionaries_3.jpg.thumb.jpg" alt="" width="225" height="168" /><p class="wp-caption-text">A Mormon missionary hugging a Mormon bishop in Aracaju, Sergipe, Brazil.</p></div>I would encourage you to talk to your Bishop about the concerns that you have. He may have some counsel for you on how you can continue to be a good influence on your husband, and he may work with his counselors and the elder's quorum to help your husband return to full activity within the church. I would also suggest that you talk to your Relief Society President. 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Can she have a second chance in the church? After so many years of being less active, can she still ask for help from her leaders? Thanks for your help. I really need to know what advice to give my friend.<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b>The church's goal is to help people come unto Christ through repenting of their sins. As such, our church leaders are always there for those who have a sincere desire to repent. The Church's beliefs about abortion are very clear (http://www.lds.org/topics/abortion?lang=eng) but it's beliefs about the ability of people to change their lives through the repentance process is also clear. In some cases, the repentance process could mean counselling, disfellowhip or excommunication. This is not meant as a punishment, but as a healing process if the person stays true to their desire to do whatever is required to return to good standing within the church. <br> <br>Some things that may be considered by church leaders as they help your friend work through this could include: Why was she inactive? What was her frame of mind during this time period? What was the reaction of the boy involved? What resources outside of the church did your friend have? Was there a medical reason that would justify an abortion? Was your friend underage or still living with her parents, and if so, what was their reaction as well as the reaction of the Father's parents? 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It seems obvious to me that modesty is not a fixed standard: the use of long hair and a beard were symbols of maturity in years past (Brigham Young, for example), but today most Mormons are clean-shaven. <br> <br>How do you explain that things that were considered immodest in the past are now acceptable in the church? For example, now young women use pants that are fairly tight, don't cover their arms, etc. I've been reading what the leaders of the church wrote in the 60s and 70s, and I'm pretty sure the standard of modesty was much stricter back then. <br> <br>In other words, what do you think Spencer W Kimball would have thought if he'd seen some of our young women today, dressing the way they do? Do you think in the future the church's teachings on modesty will continue to change according to changing social norms? Please don't think I'm a fanatic. In fact, I'm very opposed to fundamentalism. Thanks.<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b>The issue of facial hair is separate from the one of modesty. Interstingly, the Salt Lake Tribune newspaper recently had an article on beards in LDS culture. 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The truth is I don't like how I look physically, and I hope I don't have to spend eternity this way. Also, what does the church think about plastic surgery? At school, there's a bully that picks on me because of my appearance, and boys never talk to me either. To tell you the truth, I'm pretty frustrated by the whole thing. That's why want to know if my appearance will improve in the resurrection. Thanks for your answers.<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b>Alma 40:23 tell us that when we are resurrected our bodies will be in their "proper and perfect frame". Our bodies are the temples of our spirits and as such, we should strictly follow the Word of Wisdom and other guidelines set forth by the church to ensure that our own personal temple is in the best condition it can be in. There is no official church policy on plastic surgery. <br> <br>It seems to me that the opinions of others are affecting your self-esteem. Rise above those who are giving you difficulties. Do not let them make you feel like you are less than you are. You are a daughter of God who loves you. <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?locale=0&sourceId=81e3f5036e881210VgnVCM100000176f620a____&vgnextoid=43d031572e14e110VgnVCM1000003a94610aRCRD" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">This talk by Pres. 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Isn't the church supposed to be the same today as it was in Christ's time?<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b>The first mention of there being twelve apostles comes from Paul, and is only mentioned once by him. He also wrote of there being other apostles who were called by God as he was: Barnabas, Silas, Apollos, Andronicus, Timothy, and Junia. <br> <br>It is interesting that the Gospels differ in who the original Apostles were. Both Matthew and Mark list Thaddeus as an Apostle, but Luke lists 'Judas the son of James'. The Gospel of John does not give a list of the Apostles, and gives names not included in the other Gospels (Nathanael, Thomas Didymus) and James son of Alphaeus, Matthew and Simon the Zealot are not mentioned at all. Some gospels name Matthew as the tax collector who was asked to be a disciple by Christ; others say his name was Levi. <br> <br>In the Eastern Orthodox tradition, Mary of Magdala was also an Apostle, and is called 'the Apostle to the Apostle': Christ gave her mission to proclaim the risen Lord to the other Apostles. <br> <br>You may also want to read about Apostles in the Encyclopedia of Mormonism. http://eom.byu.edu/index.php/Apostle<br><br style="clear:both"/><br> <table border=0 width=100%><tr><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/why-arethere-14-apostles">See the original question</a></center></td><td><center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/why-arethere-14-apostles#answer_question">Answer this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/mormon_questions_answers.php">See all questions</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/why-arethere-14-apostles#answers">See all answers to this question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/ENG_addquestion.php">Ask a question</a></center></td> <td> <center><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feedburner.google.com/fb/a/mailverify?uri=allaboutmormons%2FENG&amp;loc=en_US">Updates by Email</a></center></td></tr></table><hr><div class="feedflare"> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:yIl2AUoC8zA"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=yIl2AUoC8zA" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:F7zBnMyn0Lo"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:F7zBnMyn0Lo" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:V_sGLiPBpWU"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:V_sGLiPBpWU" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:qj6IDK7rITs"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=qj6IDK7rITs" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:l6gmwiTKsz0"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?d=l6gmwiTKsz0" border="0"></img></a> <a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?a=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:gIN9vFwOqvQ"><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~ff/allaboutmormons/ENG?i=Sz9bzaFlY8A:RDhC9o6X8-s:gIN9vFwOqvQ" border="0"></img></a> </div><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/allaboutmormons/ENG/~4/Sz9bzaFlY8A" height="1" width="1"/> Pamela Bonta http://www.allaboutmormons.com/Questions/why-arethere-14-apostles urn:uuid:17120019-6917-0000-ed31-decaefadefca 2013-04-20T12:58:17-06:00 <b>Question by :</b> I've been a member for about a year and a half, together with my daughters. However, these last six months we've not been very active. In fact, we hardly ever go to church, even though the missionaries continue to visit us. My husband is Catholic and this has made things difficult. He's only gone to the LDS Church one time. The problem is, now I'm a little confused because sometimes I go with him to the Catholic Church, and at other times I go to the Mormon church. My daughters are becoming less interested in going to either church. I'm not sure how to guide them when I myself am confused. 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My question is, can he be a leader in the church, given that he's divorced? Some have told me that he could never be a bishop or stake president, but others have said it's possible. 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Is it true that alcohol is prohibited in the Mormon church? Regardless, I don't drink alcohol. I stopped drinking five months ago. This Sunday I visited one of your churches near my house, and two missionaries visited me today. I want to find in the church the spiritual peace that's been lacking in my life all these years. I want to have new friends, and to feel like I'm part of the church family. I want a community that makes me feel like a valuable and important child of God. <br> <br>This last Friday I ended my relationship with a member of your church named Yanni. Things just didn't work out. We live far from each other, and her studies and our work made it impossible. She did teach me some about your church, however. I ask God to help me overcome the pain of the breakup and to help me find a companion I can love. Frankly, these days I need a lot of motivation. 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I read on here that "Your family is still your family in heaven but love Is the eternity" I'm confused. Could you please explain the Mormon belief on this? Thanks!<br><br><b>Answer by Pamela Bonta: </b><div class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 235px"><img src="http://www.allaboutmormons.com/IMG/MormonImages/other-mormon-temples/san-diego-mormon-temple-1.jpg.thumb.jpg" alt="" width="225" height="168" /><p class="wp-caption-text">The San Diego Mormon temple in San Diego, California.</p></div>One goal of temple worship Is to unite all families together. LDS.org states, "People who have died without these essential gospel ordinances may receive those ordinances through the work done in temples. Acting in behalf of ancestors and others who have died, Church members are baptized and confirmed, receive the endowment, and participate in the sealings of husband to wife and children to parents." <br> <br>For those whom it is not possible, we believe that a kind and loving Heavenly Father will see that all works out to the benefit of those who are faithful. I, for example, have a 20 year old whom I am not sealed to, as her father and I were never married and were only together for about 3 years. Nor am I sealed to my 8 year old step-daughter, as she is sealed to her biological mother. 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