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Sex in relationships

noreply@blogger.com (Zone Sex) — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 18:21:00 +0000

All of us crave for perfect relationships. All the emotional sharing, peace, provision, truth worthiness and much more. This article is not to x-ray what a perfect relationship should look like because I believe that there is no perfect one rather people involved in the relationship seek mutual ways to attain "perfection"

SCENARIO A: Ben and Rose started dating a month ago. Rose is a strong believer of NO SEX in a relationship unless she is married. Ben knew this forehand before getting into the relationship. Ben anticipates sex and feels that one day Rose will yield to it or better still get it elsewhere.

SCENARIO B: Ken and Mary have been dating for the past 6 months. They met in a mall, became friends for about a month and started dating. Two months into their relationship they are sleeping together like rabbits; real mad sex. They claim they are crazily in love with each other and tend to explore all new tricks their sex life can offer them.

SCENARIO C: Matt and Sharon and the best friends they can be. Seriously dating, shares similar virtues of NO SEX until marriage. It's really working out for them as planned. No gimmicks. They have got used to themselves together without the thoughts of sex in their minds.

These scenarios are no way strange to any of us. Each of us fall into any of these 3 categories. Either you are cheating or getting it in the relationship or saving the best for the last. My big question now anchors on scenario A. Why get into what you cannot keep up with? This applies to both the males and female folks. I strongly recommend that perfect lines are drawn and agreements reached before messing up with each other's heart. In as much as it ain't a business deal, so there will not be a "what do you expect from me" kind of template, the signs from inception shows the process all the way. Better still, once a partner finds out s/he cannot keep up with the policy and rule book of the other it is really best to take a walk.

In my opinion there is really no need to keep up with a relationship where our individual desires are not met mutually neither doing stuffs behind each other's back is ideal. I believe we all need to walk the talk and live a life we can account for.

These are only my thoughts and in no way approved ways or patterns of dating. It is only meant to project my views which I see as accurate but still open to constructive criticisms.

Friends with benefits - The new Fad

noreply@blogger.com (Zone Sex) — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 18:37:00 +0000

Mark and Jane are good friends. They ain't dating but still do what lovers do. Sex is it. We having a good time together Mark says. It's no big deal Jane responds.

The term "Friends with benefits" may sound new but it ain't. It became popularized after the movie with same name.

Friends with benefits is best defined as friends or acquaintances (male and a female) who get together solely for a sexual encounter, the benefits you know. "There are no dining, wining, flowers, or any of the spoils of a traditional emotional based relationship," said an author.

This kind of association is devoid of feelings, pressure and very safe. There is no commitment, therefore, NO STRINGS ATTACHED but the regular sex is eminent. The popular it is complicated relationship status tend to fall in this category. The troubles emanate when either of the parties starts to express emotions or feelings, since of jealousy and needs more as though there were in a relationship.

Though this sounds so interesting and a much practiced activity, it should be noted that its pros and cons exist as well as rules or commandments that guide Friends with Benefits associations. Read more about the rules guiding this here. (Friends with benefits, the rule book!)

And she said, "... I don't enjoy sex!" (An issue of Rape)

noreply@blogger.com (Zone Sex) — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 11:54:00 +0000

And she said, "... I don't enjoy sex!" In the course of a discussion with a friend, stories just emanated as their branches grew. She has had several relationships, she has sexual relationships with her boyfriends but she never enjoys sex.

Her exact words were, "I just pray he's done and gets off me."

Yes, many of our women experience this but I wish to state that a little probe into the situation will definitely reveal a lot to you. I went future to ask this my friend why such happens to her? After much hesitation, her eyes reddened, with tears flowing and she told me how she was raped at age 12; lost virginity through that same process. A sad one indeed!

When a lady or even a guy experiences first hand sexual exposures as rape, the effects are overwhelmingly devastating and psychological imbalance sets in.One sure thing I know is that God supersedes in all.

For any issue like this what do we suggest and discuss about this situation. The person concerned also has an
eye on the blog and is open to your contributions. Thank y'all.

Orgasms, why we need them.

noreply@blogger.com (Zone Sex) — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 07:51:00 +0000

Orgasms by medical or clinical definition involves muscular contractions during sexual activity which are characterized by patterns of heart rate change, blood pressure and flow rate as well as respiration rate.

Hush! This definition will not give us the real explanation needed. Orgasm is the peak of sexual cycle or activity characterized by an intense sensation of pleasure. Please do not ask "how much intense is this intense?" Feel it and you will know better.

Orgasms are synonymous to and can be used interchangeably as climaxing, cumming, getting there, point of ecstasy etc.

I can remember years back when I asked an older friend how it feels to have an orgasm and he responded, "hmmmm, young man it is better felt than explained."That left me puzzled the more, but yes I can explain it better now because I've felt it.

Generally, men and women do have orgasms but men always achieve them compared to women. A situation that will be discussed in subsequent posts. For men it is basically characterized by contractions of the reproductive system and subsequent ejaculation. This is always very short. For the women, the orgasms last much longer than in men and involves more moistening or wetting of the vagina as well as tightening of the inner vagina. Some women squirt. Squirting is synonymous to female ejaculation which involves release of fluids from the vagina. In short, no matter who is concerned orgasms explain that height of sexual satisfaction.

People involved in sexual intercourse crave for orgasms because that is the summary and reason for indulging. If orgasm is suppressed democracy and responsibility of self sexuality remains an illusion. At least I have come across people, mainly females who say "how does it feel when one climaxes?" Sounds funny, but a colossal question.

Orgasms generally give that full relaxation of the body and being and emotions, no wonder the next thing that comes to mind (the involuntary system) after a great flushing orgasm is sleep. Relaxed peaceful sleep.

Also the American Journal of Cardiology in its research revealed that men who have an average of 2 orgasms a week have a 50% reduction of cardiovascular disease and stroke! This can also be likened to women.

The brain is not left out too. It is now know that during stroking and drive to orgasms in females, the part of the brain involved in fear and anxiety control starts to relax in activity. what does this tell us?

The overwhelming effects of orgasms are one that should not be overlooked as well as the need for them and control. Orgasm is a beautiful thing, strive to have one!

Keep an eye on this page for more especially on ways of achieving female orgasms. Sexuality, a part of being human. Cheers!

The 4th Abortion - Pls Advice

noreply@blogger.com (Zone Sex) — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 18:50:00 +0000

A real life story. A scenario that got me thinking and wondering. Evaluating and weighing options. A female friend of mine has been dating this guy for about 6 years. The girl is in her final year in the university while the the guy graduated some 2 years back and is yet to get a nice paying job.

As their proclaimed love would have it according to my friend, she got pregnant for this guy 2 months back. The guy says he does not want the baby yet but prefers an abortion. It will interest you to know that this is the girls 4th pregnancy for this guy. All previous 3 were aborted. She is in a fix. She wants to abort the baby. She says she loves the guy and the guy claims he loves her too. She wants to keep it. She is suffering from what I call indecisive indecision.

Your candid advice will help save a life and emotion. People what do you think?

Sex 101

noreply@blogger.com (Zone Sex) — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 18:39:00 +0000

Sex in itself is very encompassing. A singular topic that tends to catch the fancy of everyone - young and old, married and single, male and female. The issue of outspokenness concerning it tend to base on the morals our environment has bestowed on us. Should we keep mute and let things go wrong? My ears open to hear responses...

Basically, sex is one reserved for partners in association of a committed type. To get the most out of it an anatomical understanding of the body parts involved in it is necessary. In this case the penis and vagina. These have been given various name by various people and societies. The penis now bears dick, winnie, sugar stick, cock, rod, wonderman, junior, etc while the vagina on the other hand now bears pussy, cunt, hole, honeypot, jerusalem, etc. Any name you choose to call it just make sure it sounds right to people around you as well as religious believes that guide you.

Sex is the insertion of the male penis into the woman's vagina for gratification which culminates to an orgasm or climax for the purpose of pleasure and/or procreation. It is worthy of note to express here that sex in itself is the only means of procreation both in humans and animals.

Sex is one that frowned at by many especially when indulged in by people society term as "not right to engage", but a choice desire for many. Exploring our choices, decisions and possibilities as well as those partners with which engage in sexual relations are guides towards a fulfilling sexual life and perfect sexuality.

Welcome to my Zone

noreply@blogger.com (Zone Sex) — Fri, 12 Aug 2011 17:39:00 +0000

Welcome to this brand new place - Zone Sex. Though to many it might sound overwhelming and weird but this happens to be a just cause.

As explained in the on the blog title, "We love sex. We want sex. We think sex. But don't want to talk about sex" A painful truth that is the realest in the society but one that ought to be pursued.

All that will be done here is to share our various thoughts on issues concerning sex. Mine, yours and ours. If you have real issues or misconceptions concerning sex and our sexuality this is the right time to hit it live for the world to see. All you need do is send your mail or request to sexplace27@gmail.com and you will be glad you did. We are all here to share and learn as well as excite our though processes connected to our sexualities.

Once again I say a big welcome and ask you to indulge to make this a popular zone for us all.

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