Last night I was partaking in my usual Monday night, guilty pleasure of watching the Bachelor Pad.  In case you don’t know the Bachelor Pad is a spin off of the Bachelor series where they take ex contestants, put them in a house and have them compete for $250,000.  During the competition they are also interacting with the opposite sex and attempting to possibly find love.

Every week I say to myself, I have to show that clip to you. And every week, I forget to do it but this week is different.  This weeks clip was too good to forget about.

I have titled the video clip below: Looks Only Go So Far, What Women Find Attractive and Unattractive.  Many men never believe me when I say that, women will choose personality over looks every time.  Looks can get you in the door, but it’s personality that will keep you there.

My commentary is sprinkled throughout the video.

Watch as Jesse B, who is a total cutie, can INSTANTLY lose Peyton’s attraction and become repulsive.

Marni’s Commentary: So I am pretty sure some of you are going to say to me “What a bit*h.  She should give him a chance. He made 1 mistake…..”  I have heard this from people before and my answer is always the same.  I tell you how women DO react, not how they SHOULD react.  Based on that theory, Jesse SHOULD have not made these stupid mistakes, but he did. AND what he did, in case it was not clear,  was hurt her feelings because he took away an amazing romantic moment that she thought he was feeling as well.

As a woman, I could feel Peyton’s disappointment because I constantly experience this in my own relationship.  When I am in a romantic mood and turned on by my man and then he does something “dudeish” I get sad.  Sad that the moment wasn’t reciprocated. The thing is that I understand it from the guys POV as well.  I know that when I am with my man and we are really connecting, he gets comfortable with me and when he gets comfortable he lets out his real self.  Sometimes his real self wants to pick my nose or fart.  As much as I should take it as a compliment, I don’t.

Same thing happened with Jesse. Jesse got super comfortable and showed his true self, which is great.  BUT there is a difference between being yourself with the guys and a being yourself with a woman you are on a second date with and trying to date/sleep with/be with. This was Jesse and Peyton’s 2nd date not their 6th year of a relationship.  Therefore Peyton only has the 1st date and this experience to form her opinion of him.  And sadly for Jesse, her opinion is NOT FOR ME.

Let me know what you think.  Post your comment and share your thoughts.

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Now you may or may not know this but I LOVE Scot Mckay and his materials. Why? Because they are genuine, real and easy to put to practice.  His products and teachings are very in-line with mine.  We both believe that inner confidence and comfort are the driving force for success with women. His newest product, The Man’s Approach, definitely lives up to this reputation I hold for Scot.

The Man’s Approach is the definitive tool kit for the regular guy that doesn’t want to be a pick up artist but a real man.

The first thing I want to say about this product is HOLY SH*T is this packed with content. There must be at least 30 + hours of product materials PLUS tons of bonus materials that include 30 minutes of coaching to the first 50 buyers. Now you would think with all this content it would be extremely overwhelming, but the way Scot has laid out the materials has made it very easy to use.

Materials are separated into clear cut categories so that you can pick and choose the materials you want, when you want them. For example, you want to understand how to pick up a waitress, there is a video dedicated just to picking up waitresses.  You want to know how to ask for a phone number, there is another video just for asking for phone numbers. So even though there is a lot of material it is still very easy to use.

As I said this program provides step by step instructions on EVERY possible scenario you could possibly encounter.  No “Pick Up” routines, or lines, or tricks.  He gives solid, sincere and honest advice that every man can use to succeed with women.

Here are just some of the topics covered through video examples and audio directions:

- Approaching Women

- Starting Conversations & Creating Attraction

- Getting Her Number

- Meeting Women in Various Situations:

- Igniting Femininity – This one is super important

These are just a few of the topics covered in audio format with a written PDF transcript attached.

THEN he has a whole video section as well with visual examples and instructions.

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This is an area that has been fascinating me for the past week after getting an email from one of my clients, who I will refer to as D.

Email:

Marni,

Thanks for all your advice. I am having too much fun now.  I wish I truly understood this side of me in my teens and twenties.  Just knowing exactly what I want and what truly motivates me to pursue.

I am taking your advice on giving my dates a second chance. I didn’t know that you all (women) in general could be so wild. Now, I’m finding out even the shy/boring acting ones are too.  I told this one girl I was on a second date with  in so many words that her perfume smelled like an edible flower that I wanted to devour and from that point 80% of our conversation was sexual (mutually).

what is up with that?;)

D

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D has been experimenting with flirting, banter and escalating to sexual conversations with women. And I must say, he is doing very well.  What he is learning is that the less he constricts himself on what he CAN say, the more attracted,  excited and open women become.
Why? Because lack of rules mixed with, being attracted and feeling safe, cause a subtle rush of excitement.

I gave D my response but wanted to dive a little deeper with other women in my network. So I sent an email out to about 200 women to ask them their thoughts on when it is okay to talk dirty to a woman, do women like to talk dirty and what did they think of D’s actions?

I got some mixed responses, which I have posted below.  My commentary will be at the end:

J – (26). Truth. Once I have a few cocktails I am up for anything, especially if I am into the guy.  Drunk translates to feeling relaxed and comfortable.  Know what I mean?

A – (40) I’m sorry, this may not be very generous of me, but is this guy 15? He sounds totally ill-equipped to be dating grown women.

Ellen (59) – My response might be relative to how much i have had to drink. un-drunk, 2nd date, i find it creepy; unless that is what you want from the relationship, just sex.  In a relationship, when you feel safe, you can have dirty/sexy talk, why not?

S – (28) That’s a pretty good line. I think it gets a response because flowers conjure up feeling of beauty, delicate-ness, a delicious-ness that every woman wants to feel & have it related to her. Therefore it is not too threatening and very sensual. I would definitely respond to it – #1 – if I was wearing a floral scented perfume (which I usually don’t, so could be viewed as a total come on line) #2 – if I was feeling some chemistry from our 1st date, I’d be open to sexually tinged conversation on the 2nd…

C – (32) – Hmmmm….  For me, I found the email to be sweet.  It sounds to me like this man is exploring his natural impulses of sensuality.  Rather than staying all buttoned-up tight as lots of our societal conditioning can want us to be! Personally…  I’m a big fan of tapping into the more primal energies that I believe are always present…  But not always accessed in our everyday modern lives. I think I would have enjoyed his question as well…  IF…  And this is a big IF…  It came from a pure place of sensual pleasure.  If it came from a creepy place, then of course it would be a different story.  But I think I would have appreciated his creativity, and his risk to break outside of the dating mold. I like, what I call, a little grrrrrrrrr-rr-rr-r-rr in a conversation!

E – (30) He needs to be careful because there is a fine line between saying something to get a rise and sexual harassment. It may be rewarding if the girl is the same way.

JM – (29) If you are into him, it’s hot – not if he is a nerd. That would totally creep me out.

Marni’s Commentary:

Here are my thoughts on the topic.  I truly believe that deep down inside most women crave to be released sexually BUT they want to be released in a safe and secure environment.

Let me explain. Women are more locked sexually than men because of the backlash women constantly receive for being overtly sexual.  Names like whore and slut come to mind.  I think for a lot of women moving past the fear of being labeled is difficult to do. I know that when I was younger I never wanted to be placed in either of those categories. Therefore I held back sexually until I was sure that the man would not take advantage of me and respected me.  Sadly for me it locked me up sexually.

Fortunately I have a partner now who has been able to “unlock” me and help me really experience sex.

Now that I am more comfortable with my sexuality I would love if someone I LIKED talked to me the way D talked to his date. It’s fun, it’s exciting and it’s out of the norm.  I will say that even though I am not a big drinker, a little alcohol would help me drop my inhibitions and fears and I would gladly play along.

Just note that the creepy comment comes up several times in the responses above. There is a fine line between being sexually exciting and creepy.  Be careful not to cross that line. Baby steps, feel out the women you are with. She will tell you how far you can go and how comfortable she is with talking dirty.

TAKE AWAY: Women are open to being sexual, if anything they WANT to be sexual as long as they feel comfortable.

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What are your thoughts on this topic?

I would love to hear your experiences, opinions or any questions you have.

"What's Wrong", "NOTHING"....

“Nothing” is the worst word a man can possibly hear coming out of a woman’s mouth. “What’s wrong”, “NOTHING”. But it doesn’t have to be.

I want to tell you what this “Nothing” really means, why we say it and how it has NOTHING to do with you. If you can learn how to handle the “NOTHING” with class, comfort and ease you will be a woman’s hero for life!

I will explain it by using an email that I received from one of my Insider Club Members, E.

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Email From E:

Hey Marni,

I’m curious about something.

When you can see that something is a woman’s mind or is troubling her. When you ask her, is something wrong or what’s on her mind? Females usually say ” Its nothing”.
But my gut feeling is that: “nothing” = something she’s not wanting to tell you. If I’m right Marni, what is the best way to handle that situation? or should I just let it go? What’s really happening here?

My Response:

E,

Ah the dreaded “Nothing”, a statement I have made oh so many times.  This “Nothing” is actually quite loaded, but not in the way you think.  I have heard many men label this as a “test” or a way for women to manipulate.  It is neither.  What it actually is, is a statement stemming from discomfort.

“Nothing” means either “You should know and I can’t believe you don’t” or “I am mad at myself for being this mad about X and need your help calming down. I don’t want to be this upset, but I am”. Both come from a place of caring about you, feeling alone and discomfort. Both should be handled in the same way.

Let me step back up for a minute and tell you something about women. Women tend to “think” they are in control at all times. They also aim to be an ideal woman, especially in the eyes of the man they are seeing. When they get into situations where they begin to feel “less than ideal” it creates anxiety. Anxiety that is uncontrollable and sooooo uncomfortable.

When she is seemly sitting and stewing, this is the moment where you can be a woman’s hero OR you can be her punching bag. Ultimately this choice is up to you because it’s really in your control, not hers.

If you wish to be the punching bag, engage her defensively and tell her that what is feeling is irrational/crazy/unacceptable.  No good. Get’s you nowhere but the dog house for a full week.

If you wish to be a woman’s HERO, stay strong, listen, be patient and understand that it’s not ABOUT YOU.  Next, you engage her in a warm way. Not defensive, not attacking and not AFRAID. The last one is most important. If you show any indication that you are afraid or that for one minute you are thinking in your head “this chicks crazy” game over

You say to her “I can tell something is bothering you and I want to talk about with you”. And then you LISTEN to her.

If she still does not budge you say “listen, I want you to be comfortable telling me things. If I have done something to upset you, I want to know so that I can try to not do it again.” Give her a hug if needed.

If she still sticks with the huffing and puffing, that is when you have to have a boundary and you say to her “I can tell something is wrong but I am not going to push it out of you. I will be in the other room and when you are ready to talk, I will be ready to listen to you.” and then leave.

Most likely she will calm down and eventually work up the courage to speak with you. Still be strong, patient and understanding and LISTEN to what she is saying. These are her feelings, they are not meant to hurt you or attack you. They are meant to show you what she is feeling so that you can grow together.

Sometimes in relationships, your partner can make mistakes or they can have a moment of weakness. These are the most important times to show her you still care and can handle her imperfections.  If you handle these situations with class and calmness, these situations will happen fewer and farther between and you truly will be a woman’s hero. Trust me!

Marni
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Situations like the one described above can either hurt a couple of bring them closer together.  Next time you encounter the “NOTHING” situation with the girl your dating, take it as a compliment.  Seriously.  Understand that she cares about you enough to feel stress, anxiety and discomfort over you.  If she didn’t care about you and if she was not invested, then these things would not matter to her.

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I was on the phone the other night with one of my guy friends talking about girls, sex, attraction, love, past relationships and he told me about this girl he had been interested in a long time ago back at college that he happened to see by his office that day. He said that he always regretted not asking her out in college and that he wasn’t going to let this opportunity pass by him again.

So he did some recon work and got her email address. I told him to show me his email before sending it to her. Thank goodness he showed me because it would have been disaster had he sent it.

Our email correspondence is below along with my commentary on how to ask out a girl properly:

Email from friend:

Hey X,

I hope you’re enjoying your summer and BDM’s treating you well.

We never actually speak when we see each other, and I think we should change that.

Let me know if you want to grab a coffee or a drink some time.

Y (My Friend)

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My Response:

Did you send this yet? Please say you didn’t. Its sweet but it has no oomph to it to get a girl riled up. It can be stronger and more attractive. Seems a little soft. Again it’s good but it can be better.

Marni’s Commentary: Woman are at their peak of attraction when they have the opportunity to feel their most feminine. My friends email was not terrible, it was nice.  But there was nothing to latch onto. No excitement but really sweet.  You want to offer a woman something that she basically has no choice but to say YES to. Not because she was forced to say yes, but because she was intrigued and excited.

Marni

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Friends Response

I could just say:

Hey X,

Would you like to meet for a coffee one day?

…But I put in the other filler and formality because she doesn’t actually know me. The opening summer stuff is there as polite throat clearing before moving on to the point.

Y (My Friend)

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My Response:

Don’t be polite. Also say what YOU want. Try it that way.

Marni’s Commentary: I find that when guys are trying to “be polite” they end up coming off as saps, wimps or suck ups. No good, not attractive and does not get the reaction you are looking for from a woman. The more masculine and direct you can be with a woman the better.  This does not mean be a jerk, an a**hole etc.

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Friends Response

X,

Got the wave in the Path last week, but we never actually speak when we see each other.  Let’s change that!

Do you have time for a coffee or a drink this week?

Y (My friend)

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My Response:

So much better.  Love the let’s change that part but get rid of the exclamation point. Needs one more tweak, but getting there. Does it feel better to you?

Try I WANT as part of what you say. I want to get to know you better or I want to take you out or I want to change that.

Marni’s Commentary: In the beginning stages of dating it’s about YOU. What YOU want, what YOU are looking for.  You do not know HER yet, so the person to take care of is you.  Therefore do not be ashamed or fear that you are being too obvious with what you are asking for.  Being DIRECT AND HONEST will always get you the best results. YOU want to date her. YOU want to sleep with her. YOU want to go for coffee.  So say it. Say what you want

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Friends Response:

Got the wave in the Path last week, but we never actually speak when we see each other.  I want to change that.

Do you have time for a coffee or a drink this week?

Y

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Marni’s Response:

Love this!!!  Send

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Friends Response:

Subject: I Owe You One

This is what she wrote back to me 10 minutes after I sent:

Hey Y,

yes the Path seems to be such a social place these days! I am always running into familiar faces.  I’d be down for a coffee break this week – any day but Thursday works for me!

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Marni’s Response:

Yay!!!! Send me your response before you write back.

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Friends Response:

Ok great, let’s do Friday. I had to run out of the office this afternoon and only just got home. I’ll tell you about it Friday, but it will likely make tomorrow super busy for me.

Are you able to get away 2:30ish Friday?

- I feel bad because I did not get her email till just now which is 4 hours after she wrote.  Should I just write tomorrow.

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Marni’s Response:

Nooo!!!!!  I hope you didn’t sent that. You are pouncing, throwing up on her.  You can tell her about your great day when you see her.  No need now.  In response to your last comment, you have a life, you are busy, you work hard, therefore all your energy does not need to suddenly shift direction for this girl.  You will get back to her when you get a chance to.  Wait until tomorrow and write a direct email saying you will meet her at XYZ at this time. Done. Direct =’s Sexy.  Lots of words and fluff =’s a future of her crying on your shoulder about other guys.  Get my point.

Marni

Women Feeling Attraction a.k.a Butterflies

Marni’s Commentary: My friend took my advice and they are now on their date.  Listen, the first email my friend wrote to this girl may have gotten a response, it may have even gotten him on a date. It was not a horrible email but it wasn’t attractive.  It was nice and polite.  My friend has a habit of caring too much how he appears to women and goes over the top nice with the ones he likes.  This email exchange coupled with a confident, comfortable, genuine character at coffee =’s masculine, attractive, sexy to a woman.  It gets him the response, the date and the butterflies in the girls stomach.

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Listen, if I am totally into a guy, it doesn’t matter what he wears, at least not in the beginning.  But as a woman, if I am ever “sitting on the fence” little things like their style and accessories come into play.  They can either make me more attracted or turn me off completely.

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What To Wear For Summer Dating – Accessories Every Man Must Have

Shoes:

While snake skin or square-toed shoes were once considered in vogue currently they are not. Right now the trend is the “winged tip” or “oxford” look.  Boat shoes have also made quite the comeback. For a more casual look you could either wear a sneaker or a sandal. Low top black Converse All Stars have proven to be the classic sneaker of choice. Also the cream colored sneaker shown is a great option for dressy casual events. Do not wear flip-flops unless at the beach.  Avoid hiking inspired looking sandals completely. Instead opt for a classic simple leather criss-cross sandal that hugs the foot. I prefer a dark brown leather sandal to a light colored one.

Great looks for any man!

Jewelry:

Stay away from novelty necklaces, dog tags, puka shells and anything that lights up. Men should keep their jewelry simple and understated. Preferably your jewelry will have some sentimental value, which will make great for a conversational piece. Also a bold watch is an excellent way to “flash” with out being “flashy”.

Sunglasses:

If you can afford to spend a little extra on sunglasses I would say this is a wise investment. Avoid pairs that have a hologram reflection, colorful tint, that have a huge logo on them or that wrap around (Oakly’s). Instead opt for an aviator, Wayfarer or other such style-savvy shape.

Sexy, Sexy, Sexy!

Grooming:

Maintenance should be on your regular to-do list for life. Men’s hair should be cleaned up every three weeks, and nails need to be trimmed every 10 days. Facial hair can either work for you or against you. Do not overly “man-scape” your face. A five o-clock shadow is much better than a perfectly trimmed beard. You want to appear masculine and rugged. Think George Clooney. Smooth skin is also a necessity. I notice that a lot of men have dry flaky skin or oily skin with blackheads. You must own a good skin scrub. This will help you clean your skin and will rid you of dry flakes and black heads. Also pick up some crest white strips and a pack of gum. With modern technology there is no excuse for yellow teeth and bad breath.

Hair:

Hair is like fashion. It is always changing. Make sure that you have an updated cut and are not stuck in a time warp holding on to the glory days. I would suggest to stop going to Super Cuts and would opt for a trendier salon. Hair is very important and it’s best to leave this up to a professional. Avoid using gel, hair spray or mousse. Pomade, wax and sculpting paste are better products that will give you the right texture for your hair. If you have thinning hair longer hairstyles only serve to accentuate what’s already gone, but a closer crop will maximize coverage. Whatever you do, do not comb it over! Also avoid using too much hair product. Strands of hair end up clumping together only to bare all for world to see. So use sparingly.

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Erin has written a list of her “must have” items for what to wear for summer dating along with some pictures so you can see what she means.

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What To Wear For Summer Dating

Hi I am Erin. I have been working with men in the PUA community as a Fashion Consultant for the past four years. It is truly my pleasure to work within a community of men that value themselves and women so much that they would be willing to face their own challenges and learn how to be the best possible version of themselves. I love it when a man comes to the realization that “whatever has been working for me in the past (or what I thought has been) isn’t cutting it.” He realizes that it’s time for a change, and those are the guys that I really hold near and dear to my heart.

Please read ahead for What To Wear Summer Dating: Essentials Summer Fashions, my top Fashion Don’ts and a break down of my favorite fashion essentials.

Essentials Summer Fashions:

*White light weight cotton button down in a short and long sleeve
*A pair of dark straight legged jeans
*A pair of khaki flat front slim shorts that are approximately one inch above the knee
*A white slim fit V-neck
*A light weight well fitted blazer in navy blue or khaki
*A pair of leather criss cross sandals
*A pair of brown leather wingtip style shoes aka oxfords; wear them sockless.
*A vintage or vintage-inspired straw type fedora
*A pair of Ray Ban Wayfarers or aviator type sunglasses
*A nice silver or gold simple neck chain with a meaningful pendant.
*An updated haircut, white teeth, and smooth skin.

Fashion Don’ts

*Do not wear embellished anything! No rips, studs, embroidery, graphics, rhinestones.
*Do not over saturate your hair with style products like gel, mouse or hairspray.
*Do not wear dirty sneakers other than to the gym.
*Do not wear jeans that are older than 3 years old, unless they are an amazing vintage pair.
*Do not wear cargo shorts with huge pockets and an army print.
*Do not wear cow-boy boots or pointy snake skin shoes.
*Do not have “shaped” eyebrows or artistic facial hair.
*Do not wear sporty type sunglasses like Oakleys.
*Do not have a long pony tail or a comb-over.
*Do not wear flashy jewelry.

Now onto the specifics. If you have any questions or even things to add, post them in the comments section at the bottom of the page. Your tips can be helpful to others.

T-shirt and Polos:

A simple black or white Calvin Klein V or crew neck T-shirt is a great way to look casual yet chic. V-necks are a great way to create the illusion of a slimmer neckline, particularly if you have a double chin, as they place emphasis on your chest area instead of on your neck.

Avoid “freebie t-shirts”, Logo t-shirts (Abercrombie/ Hollister types), anything Ed Hardy or Affliction, graphic logos, embellishments, and shirts with witty statements on them. Let’s save these styles for the frat boys and the Jersey Shore. Slim fit Polos are the way to go. Please avoid popping the collar.

Button Downs:

Button Downs are wonderful. They provide clean lines and are very flattering to all body types. “Slim fit” is the best. I notice that a lot of men don’t wear the correct fit. Most of the time they tend to wear their button downs over-sized which tend to make their frame look “stocky”. So make sure that your fits your body. Avoid graphic and embellishments on button downs as well. Short sleeve button downs are a great way to look casual but well put together during hot days. Also I love the way it looks when a man rolls up his shirt sleeve to his elbows for a relaxed look. Both of the looks below are great.

Blazers:

Blazers are a great way to flatter any figure flaws. To make your upper body look more muscular, purchase blazers with light shoulder padding. Be warned that bigger is not better here, as small shoulder pads will give your back and chest a visual boost, but massive padding will make you seem like a small boy lost in a man’s jacket. Wear jackets at the right length. When it comes to jackets, make sure they all fall right under your buttocks.

Denim or Slacks:

You really can’t go wrong with a pair of straight leg dark or black denim. Wear it to the office with a white oxford and navy blazer or throw on a leather jacket for a street-ready look on the weekends. Avoid a lot of rips, tears, fades and embellishments. As for slacks I would avoid pleats as they add bulk and would stick to a slim flat front fit. Currently a rolled hem to about mid calf is very in style. This should look like an after thought as opposed to a perfect roll.

Shorts:

Don’t wear cargo shorts (the ones with huge pockets). The secret to a great pair of men’s shorts is finding ones that don’t stray away from a straight line running from hip to hem. And speaking of hems, yours should always end an inch or two above the knee.

That sums up our Summer Essentials. Next week I am going to go over accessories and hair.

Erins' Success Story

I know all this sounds a little overwhelming and it may even sound intimidating but it’s actually very simple. A few tiny changes in your wardrobe can totally transform the way you feel.

TIP: Print out your summer list of your Summer Essentials and go to your local department store. Most big department stores have stylists that can assist you FOR FREE with picking out styles that work best for you. Even better, grab a girl at the store and tell her to dress you. Women like nothing better than to help men with fashion.

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Why? Because dating and meeting women require you to have the ability to laugh in the face of rejection and realize that rejection is not a bad thing, it’s a great thing.  Seriously.

A couple of month’s back I spoke at the Global Pick Up Conference with about 25 other men.  Each of those men had a very similar story about how they rose to be a top expert in dating and meeting women. They attributed their success to their acceptance of rejection.

Their stories all went something like this:  “I used to be the horrible with women.  I didn’t get dates, I didn’t have sex and the only women whose attention I could get were a 6 or lower.  So I started practicing.  I went out every night, I approached trying a bunch of different styles and I figured out what worked for me.  I got rejected over and over and OVER again and then suddenly things started clicking.  Women started responding more favorably.  I was still getting rejected but I was also getting accepted.”

And their stories build from there.  They reveal how they didn’t learn to beat rejection but they learned to accept it, move past it and try again.  Very similar to what successful salesmen do.  Always remember the best of the best have all had failures.

I subscribe to several different online newspapers and I stumbled upon a great article this morning on Inc.com that talks about the psychology of successful people in sales.  It labels them as Happy Losers. I loved this idea and it sparked this post.

I suggest you go read this article cause it has some great points about how to handle rejection. To read the full article go to: Inc.com

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