There has been a story that a man was made redundant and instead of spending his redundancy money or keeping it in the bank, it was spent on retraining to become a fitness instructor and swimming instructor. He then found work at the local leisure centre and employed by the local council which is quite a safe job.

Depending where you are at the moment, re-training into something else if you can’t find a job might help you become employed again.

How many men have been asked this question by their wives, partners, girlfriends or female friends? Notice how men always answer with “No, you look fine…” or “You look perfect…”

Women, you do realise that you’ve probably asked the same question to the same man over twenty times yet he’s given you the same answer. If he gives a lame one liner like “No, you look fine…” you should be weary as he’s actually saying “Yes, you’ve got a fat ass…”

Don’t despair, you’re obviously not fully 100% confident with yourself if you’re asking us men for our opinion. We’ll also comment on how good you look anyway and if there are men out there who don’t comment on how good our women look you need to shake yourself.

However, in all honesty if you do look a bit podgy round the edges I’d like to tell you that you are in the same way that I’d like to hear it back to me. Then we’d work together to sort ourselves out, there is nothing like putting on weight and not realising it. If you feel good in your own body, you’ll feel good everywhere else and in everything you’re doing.

So next time you ask if you bum looks big in what you’re wearing, it probably does and you probably need to do something about it. Cut out on the crap eating, up the amount of exercise and you’ll be fine.

It’s hard for a guy to see a girl as “just a friend” and even if you do say it you’re really not meaning it. There will be one or two times in your life when you’re ACTUALLY friends and you wouldn’t want to take things further, this usually happens because they’re just not your ‘type’ and definitely don’t flick your switch.

Let us build a scenario. Imagine a guy called Dick, yup that you! And Jane, Jane is the girl you work with and you’ve been working with Jane for about 2 years. You’re friends with Jane, you go to work parties, you meet up for coffee or go to the cinema together. Those all sound like normal friend things to do don’t they. Jane’s thinking about the whole thing is that you’re friends and she doesn’t want anything else to happen. She’s the girl you can talk to when you’re down, you can text her when you’ve done something funny and she has no hesitation in calling you a friend.

From Dick’s point of view he’s known Jane for 2 years, he got to know her and as soon as he thought they got along ok he’d like to take things further.

The Problem: If he was to walk up to Jane and ask her out on a date the friendship would be lost forever.

Why?: Girls just don’t have the same mental positioning as us men.

There is a theory behind what happens called the ‘Ladder Theory‘.

As always Uncle Gav is looking to hear from you, if you’ve got any issues or concerns that you want to ask him about just let him know.

NOTHING IS AS BAD AS WHAT YOU THINK IT IS

Sit back and think about what you’re stuck at or what you want to achieve and identify the things you would like to fix. Which ones you’re in control of and which ones you’re not, then put them into a list and start working through them.

At the end of all of that you’ll have a moment of clarity and figure out what needs to be done to make your life better.

I’ve seen suicide first hand, it’s certainly not a very nice thing to see up close and personal and its certainly not very nice seeing someone go so low in themselves to think about taking their own life. To take your own life, you’re not only restricting yourself from becoming so much better than the person you are but you’re hindering the people closest to you from being happy also. Granted these days you have to think about yourself first but believe you me there is always someone close to you no matter what kind of person you are or what you’ve done.

If you’re feeling down, if you feel like you’ve got nothing else to lose then go and talk to someone. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE. Ever.

Get everything off your chest, there are more than enough people around you to help you deal with things that are bothering you. No matter who you are or what you’re thinking you have so much to live for, I’m asking for anyone in that position to look through where they are in the moment and look to the future look where you want to be.

Let’s start looking beyond problems, aiming high and reaching a happy future!

Life is never as bad as you think it is!