The Thinking Dominant http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com Growth Through Mental Exercise Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:00:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 TheThinkingDominanthttp://feedburner.google.com The Gift http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/5DULSVrllpI/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/21/the-gift/#comments Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:00:35 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=104 Often in BDSM-speak, it is said submission is a gift. What does this mean to you?  What about dominance–can this be a gift too?

]]> http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/21/the-gift/feed/ 6 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/21/the-gift/ Alter Space http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/HNmwIhzaRJo/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/07/alter-space/#comments Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:00:30 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=102 If you were to instruct your submisisve to create an area or space (something akin to an “altar”, for lack of a better word!) to demonstrate his or her devotion to you, what would you like to see included in such a space?  Assume this construct is kept private.

]]> http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/07/alter-space/feed/ 1 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/07/alter-space/ Authenticity http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/1kQ81abqzE8/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/06/23/authenticity/#comments Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:00:31 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=99 What are your thoughts regarding those who primarily are attracted to BDSM because of its “transgressive” nature? Are dominants who embrace BDSM more as a fun, taboo way to explore sexuality any less authentic than those who have committed to the philosophy of BDSM/ base their relationships on power exchange regardless of the sexual elements?

]]> http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/06/23/authenticity/feed/ 4 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/06/23/authenticity/ Entitlement http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/dNzHv_BaR24/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/05/26/entitlement/#comments Tue, 26 May 2009 16:00:05 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=96 Ownership is entitlement, but the entitlement brings responsibility. A responsibility that should be more than do no harm. 

If you are going to take ownership, what responsibilities do you feel you assume?

Does your care result in a sub/slave who also feels a sense of entitlement?

]]> http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/05/26/entitlement/feed/ 2 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/05/26/entitlement/ Brattiness http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/O3SWOkboH8w/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/05/12/brattiness/#comments Tue, 12 May 2009 14:00:15 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=93 What does the term ‘brat’ mean to you?

]]> http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/05/12/brattiness/feed/ 1 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/05/12/brattiness/ Getting A Facelift and Call for Help http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/Zq52ncrm5fc/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/05/08/getting-a-facelift-and-call-for-help/#comments Fri, 08 May 2009 13:12:32 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=90 This site is going through a design change, be prepared for a slight change.

I’m also looking for Dominants to help with prompts. No time obligation or a lot of work required. Just 2 prompts from each person willing to help, that’s all I ask. Help keep this site alive, please.

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Do Dominants and submissives love differently?

Have you experienced submissives falling in love faster than Dominants?

Are there types of love in D/s?

]]> http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/02/10/love/feed/ 6 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/02/10/love/ Lowered Gaze http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/Ik9UcIe6z1M/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/02/03/lowered-gaze/#comments Tue, 03 Feb 2009 16:00:10 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=88 How do you feel about having your submissive not look you in the eye? Do you prefer the lowered gaze in submission? When would it be appropriate for the submissive to look upon you then.

If you feel that lowered gaze isn’t your preference, why? What is the benefit of seeing into thier eyes?

]]> http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/02/03/lowered-gaze/feed/ 7 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/02/03/lowered-gaze/ Misbehavior in Public http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/r_kHewsYeOg/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/01/27/misbehavior-in-public/#comments Tue, 27 Jan 2009 16:00:19 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=86 How do you handle misbehavior in public? Do you consider discreet but immediate chastisement or do you punish later in private? How is the punishment responded to? What are your favorite forms of discipline to correct bad behavior?

]]> http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/01/27/misbehavior-in-public/feed/ 2 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/01/27/misbehavior-in-public/ Confusion of Emotions http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheThinkingDominant/~3/I75eg2Txoe8/ http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/01/20/confusion-of-emotions/#comments Tue, 20 Jan 2009 16:00:04 +0000 Thinking Dom http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=83 Do you think that subs confuse submission with love? Is it possible to need to submit because love is there? Is it possible to love someone because they submit?

Do you think Doms confuse Dominance with love? Is it possibl to need to be dominant because love is there? Is it possible to love someone because you control them?

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