<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?>
<?xml-stylesheet type="text/xsl" media="screen" href="/~d/styles/rss2full.xsl"?><?xml-stylesheet type="text/css" media="screen" href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~d/styles/itemcontent.css"?><rss xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/" xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/" xmlns:media="http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/" version="2.0">

<channel>
	<title>The Spinks Blog</title>
	
	<link>http://davidspinks.com</link>
	<description>A Fresh Look Into Social Media</description>
	<lastBuildDate>Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:50:26 +0000</lastBuildDate>
	<generator>http://wordpress.com/</generator>
	<language>en</language>
	<sy:updatePeriod>hourly</sy:updatePeriod>
	<sy:updateFrequency>1</sy:updateFrequency>
	<cloud domain="davidspinks.com" port="80" path="/?rsscloud=notify" registerProcedure="" protocol="http-post" />
<image>
		<url>http://www.gravatar.com/blavatar/8a8c5a8a4fcc02752560aa955fb43482?s=96&amp;d=http://s.wordpress.com/i/buttonw-com.png</url>
		<title>The Spinks Blog</title>
		<link>http://davidspinks.com</link>
	</image>
			<atom10:link xmlns:atom10="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" rel="self" href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/TheSpinksBlog" type="application/rss+xml" /><atom10:link xmlns:atom10="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" rel="hub" href="http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com" /><item>
		<title>5 Creative Ways to Use Sponsored Tweets</title>
		<link>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/11/creative-sponsored-tweets/</link>
		<comments>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/11/creative-sponsored-tweets/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:57:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Spinks</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Applications]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Social Media]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Twitter]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Creative]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[murphy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sponsored]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ted]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tweets]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://davidspinks.com/?p=1445</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Back when Sponsored Tweets launched, I wrote a post asking if it will survive.  (Disclaimer: Ted has since given me credit to test the service, which I wrote about here.)
I continue to think about the service and it&#8217;s possible value.  If done right, I really like sponsored tweets.  The goal isn&#8217;t always to manipulate the [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1445&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-1473" title="sponsoredtweets" src="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/sponsoredtweets.jpg?w=307&#038;h=206" alt="sponsoredtweets" width="307" height="206" />Back when <a href="http://sponsoredtweets.com/">Sponsored Tweets</a> launched, I wrote a post <a href="http://davidspinks.com/2009/08/04/will-sponsored-tweets-survive/">asking if it will survive</a>.  (Disclaimer: Ted has since given me credit to test the service, which I wrote about <a href="http://davidspinks.com/2009/08/09/i-used-sponsored-tweets/">here</a>.)</p>
<p>I continue to think about the service and it&#8217;s possible value.  If done right, I really like sponsored tweets.  The goal isn&#8217;t always to manipulate the follower into finding value in a product&#8230;Sponsored tweets simply allow you to tap in to a community that you don&#8217;t currently have access to.</p>
<p>And it&#8217;s not always ads.  The message they choose to send can be a number of things. Here are some different ways that businesses can use sponsored tweets.</p>
<ol>
<li><strong>Market Research.</strong> Want to know a community&#8217;s thoughts and opinions?   The answers you get will be more quality than a mass snail mail campaign, and it&#8217;s probably cheaper too.</li>
<li><strong>Contests</strong>.  If you want to start a contest for a specific community, you need to be able to reach the people in that community.  Sponsoring a tweet can be a great way to give away prizes.  It involves no &#8220;opinion&#8221; from the tweeter so their followers probably won&#8217;t be too offended.</li>
<li><strong>Crowdsource ideas.</strong> Pull in ideas by sponsoring tweets in different communities and asking for feedback. For example, a company wants to launch a new diaper product, and wants to gather ideas from mothers.  If you aren&#8217;t tapped into the &#8220;mom-blog&#8221; community on twitter, good luck finding answers there. Sponsor a tweet from a prominent &#8220;mom-twitterer&#8221; to ask questions for you.</li>
<li><strong>Collect donations for a cause. </strong>Most tweeters probably won&#8217;t even ask for money, assuming you have a worthy cause and you approach them respectfully.  Either way, you can reach a larger audience to get your charity off the ground.</li>
<li><strong>Sponsor a Q&amp;A Expert Session.</strong> Say you have a site for bloggers.  Sponsor a Q&amp;A session on twitter with <a href="http://www.problogger.com">Darren Rowse</a> where he can answer questions from new bloggers directly.  Add your hashtag to the tweets, promote the event with your site.</li>
</ol>
<p>See a re-occuring theme?  Again, sponsored tweets simply allows you to tap into communities that you don&#8217;t currently have access to.  Sure, if you&#8217;re trying to engage with the community, sponsored tweets aren&#8217;t the best method.</p>
<p>Not all tweets are meant for participating in conversation and building a community.</p>
<p>What are some other creative ways to use sponsored tweets?</p>
  <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gocomments/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/comments/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godelicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/delicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gostumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/stumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godigg/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/digg/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/goreddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/reddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1445/" /></a> <img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1445&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" /></div>]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/11/creative-sponsored-tweets/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>2</slash:comments>
	
		<media:content url="" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">David Spinks</media:title>
		</media:content>

		<media:content url="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/sponsoredtweets.jpg" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">sponsoredtweets</media:title>
		</media:content>
	</item>
		<item>
		<title>Why Won’t Bloggers Dig Into Detail?</title>
		<link>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/10/bloggers-dig-detail/</link>
		<comments>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/10/bloggers-dig-detail/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Nov 2009 16:00:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Spinks</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Industry Issues]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[blogging]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[advancement]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[bloggers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[conference]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[deep]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[detail]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[dig]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[industry]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[learn]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[value]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://davidspinks.com/?p=1443</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Do we care more about the popularity of our content than the advancement of our industry?
In order to appeal to as many people as possible, professional bloggers have to make sure that their content can be consumed by readers of different levels of experience.  The beginners have to be able understand what they&#8217;re talking about.
The [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1443&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><div id="attachment_1458" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 213px"><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/81096161@N00/2675689382/"><img class="size-full wp-image-1458" title="dig" src="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/dig.jpg?w=203&#038;h=305" alt="dig" width="203" height="305" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Photo cred: Damien Sachs-Dromsön</p></div>
<p>Do we care more about the popularity of our content than the advancement of our industry?</p>
<p>In order to appeal to as many people as possible, professional bloggers have to make sure that their content can be consumed by readers of different levels of experience.  The beginners have to be able understand what they&#8217;re talking about.</p>
<p>The issue is then, what about the more experienced readers?  <strong>When the &#8220;thought leaders&#8221; limit the depth of their thoughts and advice, experienced readers get to a point where they can&#8217;t learn any more from reading blogs.</strong></p>
<p>The growth of the industry is halted.</p>
<p>I think that blogging is slowly becoming the heart and voice of so many industries as more and more professionals are turning to blogging to learn, share and grow.  If we don&#8217;t help them grow beyong the &#8220;beginner&#8221; level, the advancement of the industry will suffer.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not just blogging.  <strong>Look at conferences.</strong> Same speakers, same topics, same shit every time.  Makes sense&#8230;if a conference wanted to dig deeper, &#8220;beginners&#8221; wouldn&#8217;t find it valuable.  Less money to be made.</p>
<p>Will this problem become even greater as blogs grow in popularity and influence?  <strong>Could young and upcoming professionals become so used to learning and researching with blogs and social networks, that they&#8217;ll forgot how to conduct research using other methods?</strong></p>
<p>For contrast, look at the science world. My friend Jon just <a href="http://jonklar.wordpress.com/">started a blog</a> that focuses on bridging the gap between the ivory tower and the common man.  This is because when scientists and academics write about their work, they don&#8217;t write to get more readers, they write to be acknowledged for their innovations within their industry.  They don&#8217;t dumb it down at all.  Sure it created a disconnect with the common man, but science continues to grow and innovate as a result.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re used to information always being brought to you, it&#8217;s very hard to go back to seeking it out.  When there&#8217;s nothing left to learn from blogs, where do they go to continue to learn?</p>
<p>Help me out here&#8230;share your thoughts.</p>
  <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gocomments/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/comments/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godelicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/delicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gostumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/stumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godigg/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/digg/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/goreddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/reddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1443/" /></a> <img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1443&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" /></div>]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/10/bloggers-dig-detail/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>17</slash:comments>
	
		<media:content url="" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">David Spinks</media:title>
		</media:content>

		<media:content url="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/dig.jpg" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">dig</media:title>
		</media:content>
	</item>
		<item>
		<title>6 Cheap Tips For Better Customer Service</title>
		<link>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/06/6-cheap-tips-customer-service/</link>
		<comments>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/06/6-cheap-tips-customer-service/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Nov 2009 13:20:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Spinks</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Business]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[cheap]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[customer]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[little]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[service]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Tips]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://davidspinks.com/?p=1426</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Last week I asked the question, &#8220;Are All Customers Equal?&#8221;.  Many of the responses mentioned the issue of allocating limited resources, and explained the cost advantage of providing better service to better/more influential customers.
If you want to see my responses, just read through the comments.  I thought it might be helpful to share some &#8220;little [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1426&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><div id="attachment_1449" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 232px"><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/43217299@N07/3994863147/"><img class="size-full wp-image-1449" title="Friendly Service" src="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/customer.jpg?w=222&#038;h=333" alt="Friendly Service" width="222" height="333" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Photo cred: Lilly Tran</p></div>
<p>Last week I asked the question, &#8220;<a href="http://davidspinks.com/2009/10/29/all-customers-equal/">Are All Customers Equal</a>?&#8221;.  Many of the responses mentioned the issue of allocating limited resources, and explained the cost advantage of providing better service to better/more influential customers.</p>
<p>If you want to see my responses, just read through the comments.  I thought it might be helpful to share some &#8220;little things&#8221; that you can use to provide better customer service without spending much money.  Remember that in any first interaction with someone, it&#8217;s often the little things that count and stick out.</p>
<p><strong>1. Don&#8217;t get mad at people for wanting help.<br />
</strong></p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">Nothing drives a customer more crazy than talking to a rude customer service rep who doesn&#8217;t want to talk to you.  Guess what, the customer doesn&#8217;t want to be talking to you either.  The fact that they&#8217;re talking to you means something went wrong with your product.  Be kind and respectful, unless you&#8217;re disrespected.<em><strong> </strong></em><em><strong><br />
</strong></em></p>
<p><em><strong>2. </strong></em><strong>Say &#8220;Thank You&#8221; when the customer you&#8217;re helping is friendly and respectful.</strong></p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">This happened to me once with Microsoft (X Box).  My 360 had fallin ill with the &#8220;<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xbox_360_technical_problems">ring of death</a>&#8221; and I needed a new one.  I called a rep, put in my order for a free replacement, and everything went smoothly.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">At the end of the conversation, before we said goodbye, he said, &#8220;I just want to thank you for being so respectful and friendly to me&#8221;.  It really stuck with me.  I actually felt good after hanging up the phone with a customer service rep.</p>
<p><strong>3. Check up on your customer once in a while.</strong></p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">Just drop a quick message that says &#8220;Hey, how can we help?&#8221; and don&#8217;t ask for anything in return.  Show that you want your customers to be happy.  Do this enough, you might be able to gain some control over the flow of customer service requests, and allocate resources accordingly.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">It could be a mass email if you don&#8217;t want to spend the time but don&#8217;t message them too often as you don&#8217;t want to spam them.</p>
<p><strong>4. Take away the hoops</strong>.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">Don&#8217;t make it hard for customers to get in touch with you.  If you don&#8217;t have a rep available, let them leave their number and call them back.  Again&#8230;let them know that you care about them.  Trust me, there is a strong correlation between the amount of time a customer spends waiting on the phone and the patience they have when you finally pick up. <strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>5. If you find out there&#8217;s an issue with your product, don&#8217;t wait for the the complaint&#8230;just apologize</strong>.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">I was having lunch with my girlfriend the other day and she ordered a sandwich without tomatoes (she&#8217;s crazy&#8230;I love tomatoes).</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">When the chef watched her open the sandwich and saw that he accidentally added tomatoes, he said, from accross the cafe, &#8220;SORRY! I saw your reaction and realized my mistake&#8221;.  He then walked over and said &#8220;let me get those out of your face&#8221; and took the tomoes away.</p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">He was funny, had a great attitude about making a mistake, and provided great service.  (The last time I went there, they gave me a free espresso shot because the yankees hit a homerun.  I love this place)</p>
<p><strong>6. Smile!</strong></p>
<p style="padding-left:30px;">You can set the tone of your interaction early by giving off good vibes.  If you&#8217;re providing customer service over the phone or internet, then talk or write like you&#8217;re smiling to the best of your ability.</p>
<p>Most of these practices are reliant on having good employees that care about the company.  If your employees don&#8217;t believe in your company, how can you expect customers to believe in you?</p>
<p>What are some other ways businesses can provide better customer service without spending a lot of money?  Know of any other &#8220;little things&#8221; that count?</p>
<p><em>Thanks to <a href="http://jonklar.wordpress.com/author/jonklar/">Jon Klar</a> for contributing point #1.</em></p>
  <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gocomments/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/comments/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godelicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/delicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gostumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/stumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godigg/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/digg/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/goreddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/reddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1426/" /></a> <img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1426&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" /></div>]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/06/6-cheap-tips-customer-service/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>8</slash:comments>
	
		<media:content url="" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">David Spinks</media:title>
		</media:content>

		<media:content url="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/customer.jpg" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">Friendly Service</media:title>
		</media:content>
	</item>
		<item>
		<title>It’s Hard to Help People Help Themselves</title>
		<link>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/04/hard-help-people/</link>
		<comments>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/04/hard-help-people/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Nov 2009 14:55:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Spinks</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Business]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Career Advice]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Industry Issues]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Social Media]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Brogan]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Chris]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hard]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Help]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[maltoni]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[people]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[themselves]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[valeria]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://davidspinks.com/?p=1428</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[A couple of months ago, I hosted an event in Philly.  It didn&#8217;t have the turnout I was expecting  and so I was a little bummed.   My friend Valeria Maltoni came up to me and said &#8220;It&#8217;s hard to help people help themselves.&#8221;
Those words really stuck with me.  I&#8217;ve given it great thought. Why [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1428&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><div id="attachment_1430" class="wp-caption alignright" style="width: 270px"><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/dimi3/3096166092/"><img class="size-full wp-image-1430" title="Help" src="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/help.jpg?w=260&#038;h=172" alt="Help" width="260" height="172" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Photo Cred: Dimitri N.</p></div>
<p>A couple of months ago, I hosted an event in Philly.  It didn&#8217;t have the turnout I was expecting  and so I was a little bummed.   My friend <a href="http://conversationagent.typepad.com/">Valeria Maltoni</a> came up to me and said <strong>&#8220;It&#8217;s hard to help people help themselves.&#8221;</strong></p>
<p>Those words really stuck with me.  I&#8217;ve given it great thought. Why wouldn&#8217;t people want to be helped? Are they just lazy?  So lazy that they wouldn&#8217;t even do the bare minimum to get something?  Or is it something else?</p>
<p>Then, I read <a href="http://www.chrisbrogan.com">Chris Brogan</a>&#8217;s newsletter today&#8230;and it all came together.  He said,</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;<span style="color:#000000;"><strong>Look at your efforts through others&#8217; eyes.</strong> Now, in measuring your self-worth, your own eyes are the only ones that matter, but in trying to better understand how well you&#8217;re serving people&#8217;s needs, try to see it from their side. Are you quick to pounce? Do you have their interests at heart or yours? The more clarity you can bring to this, the better you&#8217;ll do.&#8221;</span></p></blockquote>
<p>So many &#8220;professionals&#8221; claim to be providing a valuable service, but are really just interested helping themselves. They have a backwards mentality.  Instead of building a more valuable product, they&#8217;re concerned with making their product LOOK more valuable. They&#8217;re pretending to help customers.</p>
<p>There are many of you that are really trying to help.  Unfortunately [potential] customers don&#8217;t believe that you&#8217;re actually trying to help them.  They think that you&#8217;re trying to take their time and money for your own gain.</p>
<p>They don&#8217;t believe you because they&#8217;ve been fooled too many times.  They&#8217;ve lost trust.</p>
<p><strong>That&#8217;s why it&#8217;s hard to help people help themselves. </strong></p>
<p>Are you really helping or are you just pretending to help?</p>
<p>Edit: <a href="http://www.brazencareerist.com/profile/marissa-pherson">Marissa Pherson</a> left a comment on this post over on Brazen Careerist and linked to a <a href="http://www.rachelremen.com/service.html">speech</a> that I thought was really smart and relevant.  It speaks about the difference between &#8220;helping&#8221; and &#8220;serving&#8221;.</p>
<p><em>btw&#8230;if you haven&#8217;t signed up for Chris Brogan&#8217;s newsletter yet, you&#8217;re truly missing out.  It&#8217;s really the only newsletter I&#8217;ve ever enjoyed and the only one I actually read through. I highly recommend you <a href="http://www.chrisbrogan.com/newsletters/">try it out</a>. </em></p>
  <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gocomments/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/comments/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godelicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/delicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gostumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/stumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godigg/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/digg/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/goreddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/reddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1428/" /></a> <img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1428&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" /></div>]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/04/hard-help-people/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>9</slash:comments>
	
		<media:content url="" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">David Spinks</media:title>
		</media:content>

		<media:content url="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/help.jpg" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">Help</media:title>
		</media:content>
	</item>
		<item>
		<title>What Can You Expect From a Mentorship?</title>
		<link>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/02/expect-mentorship/</link>
		<comments>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/02/expect-mentorship/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Nov 2009 15:05:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>David Spinks</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Mentor Monday]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expect]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expectations]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Mentor]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mentorship]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://davidspinks.com/?p=1411</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Is it unreasonable to have expectations in a mentorship?
James Ryan Moreau asked me on twitter, &#8220;are mentors supposed to refer you to job postings? I found frustration in the past when I wasn&#8217;t getting interviews.&#8221;
My knee jerk reaction to the question was, you should never assume that a mentor owes you anything.  They&#8217;re committing their [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1411&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-1412" title="mentorties" src="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/mentorties.jpg?w=208&#038;h=266" alt="mentorties" width="208" height="266" />Is it unreasonable to have expectations in a mentorship?</p>
<p><a href="http://notsoliteral.wordpress.com/">James Ryan Moreau</a> asked me on twitter, &#8220;are mentors supposed to refer you to job postings? I found frustration in the past when I wasn&#8217;t getting interviews.&#8221;</p>
<p>My knee jerk reaction to the question was, you should never assume that a mentor owes you anything.  They&#8217;re committing their time as a mentor and it&#8217;s up to them what aspects of a mentorship they want to provide.</p>
<p>But after more thought, something like job recommendations seems like a reasonable expectation.  I think that if you respect a young professional enough to take them on as a mentee, you should be able to trust that they&#8217;ll represent you well.  If not, you shouldn&#8217;t take on taht person as a mentee.</p>
<p>Mentors expect things from the mentees too, don&#8217;t they?  A lot of mentorships consist of a mentor providing advice, and resources, while the mentee acts as an assistant that helps their mentor with work.  Or a mentor might just expect a mentee to work hard, to respect their time and to put in the extra effort in their career.T</p>
<p>Expectations are mutual.  A healthy mentorship is one in which both the mentor and the mentee trust and respect each other.  They&#8217;re professionals and they&#8217;re friends.  They&#8217;ll help each other whenever possible.</p>
<p>It shouldn&#8217;t be built on expectations, but rather the will to help and to learn.</p>
<p>Have any thoughts on this?</p>
<p><a href="http://davidspinks.com/category/mentor-monday/">View all Mentor Monday posts.</a></p>
  <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gocomments/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/comments/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godelicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/delicious/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/gostumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/stumble/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/godigg/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/digg/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/" /></a> <a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/goreddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://feeds.wordpress.com/1.0/reddit/spinko.wordpress.com/1411/" /></a> <img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=davidspinks.com&blog=5991048&post=1411&subd=spinko&ref=&feed=1" /></div>]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://davidspinks.com/2009/11/02/expect-mentorship/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>6</slash:comments>
	
		<media:content url="" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">David Spinks</media:title>
		</media:content>

		<media:content url="http://spinko.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/mentorties.jpg" medium="image">
			<media:title type="html">mentorties</media:title>
		</media:content>
	</item>
	</channel>
</rss>
