• Listen to your heart. The human heart is one of the first organs to form and function. Be thankful and practise gratitude towards your heart, who serves you from the day you were conceived in your mother’s womb.

• Follow your heart. Spend time and connect with the ones you love on a regular basis. It is advisable to schedule body check up on regular basis, starting in your early twenties.

• Tone you heart. Your heart is an organ that’s largely made up of muscle. Get some cardio workout base on your individual physical level to strengthen and build your heart muscle. If you are experiencing any form any joints issue or is a heart patient, you may go for low impact workout. Any workout is better than no workout.

1. Commit to Love

2. Be Open Hearted

3. Trust Your Love Relationship’

4. Make More Love

5. Own Your Emotions

6. Regularly Address All Elephants in the Room

7. Share to Your Partner First

Emerging Into A Changed World

My home country Malaysia imposed its version of the lockdown – ‘Movement Control Order’ on March 18 (and it still is in operation at this time of writing). All businesses were to be closed except the most essential ones; physical distancing was to be maintained. No unnecessary travel was allowed and everyone was to ‘stay-at-home’.

Never in my life could I have imagined such an experience – being shut off from the rest of the world physically except through the screen of my phone and laptop. Thank goodness for technology – at least we can still talk and see each other! What makes this event stand out even more is that every human being on earth is having the same shared experience. If there ever is‘unity’ in the world, then stay-at-home is it!

The Great Healing

We are part of the Earth and the Earth is a part of us. Our bodies are the same as the Earth’s with the same chemicals and minerals and the same body of water. As the Earth falls ill due to imbalance, so will humans. Consider how similar the main symptoms of the pandemic are to Earth’s imbalances from air pollution (short of breath), resource depletion (tiredness), water pollution (dry cough) and global warming (high fever). Now as the Earth restores balance and heals, so will we.

Human activities and their unbridled consumption of Earth’s resources have caused an illness of the animals came back after the city streets fell empty. Yes, Earth is reclaiming parts of itself and healing. This healing has however come at a cost which at the human level can be sad, shocking and traumatic.

The ‘Bad’

Instead of jogging or the gym, we can take up yoga during this ‘homestay’. There are plenty of online yoga classes that one can sign up for to keep the body stretched and moving. As for groceries, food and all manner of products, these can be purchased online and delivered to our doorstep.

Pre-lockdown ‘normal’ activities seem more exciting because they are about being ‘out there’ and physically mingling with people other than family. We can still mingle with people with the many social and web conferencing apps in the Net, the only difference is that it’s not done physically ‘out there’. But do consider that this is a small price to pay for the Earth to heal itself. We’ll all be better off because of it.

Our biggest lessons are found through our families, don’t you think? That includes parents, spouses, children. The stay-home has forced us to face these lessons, not for hours or days but for weeks on end. No, this is not a cruel joke by the Universe but our saving grace. Through these relationship challenges, we find ourselves. But this will happen only when we take the time to go inside ourselves and see how that relationship has made us who we are and how we can change the relationship and thus ourselves. ‘No time’ is no more an excuse for any personal change.

Another good thing about being with the family the whole day is that we do not need to wear the mask for the world ‘out there’ anymore. We are getting used to being our genuine selves without the ‘makeup’.

The ‘Good’

There are also those of us whose livelihoods depend on things going back to normal such as those of us who run businesses or who are employed in the travel, entertainment or hospitality industries, all of whom are feeling the financial brunt of the lockdown orders. It can be very stressful to not have income or job security when there are mouths to feed and bills to pay.

Relationships may also be strained with family members being cooped up at home all day. There may be more tension in the household from increased contact between family members who do not get along. Domestic violence may explode more frequently. As for romantic relationships, courting couples will feel the strain of being physically apart.

Don’t Get Locked Down!

Don’t get stuck, keep moving. Utilize the new opportunities that are manifesting because of the great changes that are happening. Change is the only constant in the Universe. Let’s surrender and accept what we can’t control. The biggest prison is the prison of our minds. Be free! Don’t let the pandemic lock you down. Get creative with your life, because you are the creator of your life! Open your heart to discover other means of creating other than with your mind and thoughts.

Yes, it may be tough, but we all have to go through this phase of healing. As the Earth heals, so do we. This is the re-start that’s giving everyone on the planet an equal chance to start anew. The virus does not judge. Many have lost family members, businesses and have to re-start and re-build (my heart and love go out to them). How difficult is it for those who have not really lost anything? No matter which category you are in, this is your chance to re-start.

No, this isn’t a lockdown – it’s a free-up!

Be free!

Chong Bing Kuan has a strong passion for self-awareness.

He currently dedicates himself to helping individuals live happier, healthier and holistically empowered lives through realizing their life purpose. His vision is for a world of self-empowered people living in peace, happiness, and blissful fulfilment. He is easily reached at chongbingkuan@gmail.com.

Do write in as he’s most happy to have a chat, anytime at all!

“Beauty is being the best possible version of yourself both on the inside and out” ~ Audrey Hepburn, actress.

What Is Beautiful?

Arguably, true beauty should be holistic beauty, which means to say that the ‘inner’ beauty is as important, if not more important, than the ‘outer’ beauty of how someone looks.

Scientific studies in psycho-dermatology have shown the relationship between mind and skin, that we can actually beautify and heal the skin through a happier ‘inner’ life without unhealthy stress, and this translates into inner beauty.

Developing Inner & Outer (Holistic) Beauty

So how do you develop inner beauty?
By MEDITATING, having a positive mindset and doing body detox. These practices de-stress the skin (and the entire body) making it look healthier, more radiant and more beautiful. Holistic beauty also requires us to exercise and practice proper diet that balances the body and not stresses it unhealthily.

‘External’ assistance may be needed to boost the healing and health process when our body cannot do it by itself. This is where good organic-based products and services may be used depending on one’s condition and preferences on ‘outer’ beauty.

The Golden Space® Malaysia has just the very programs needed for people to cultivate their inner and outer beauty through the Privileged Holistic Lifestyle Membership.

At only RM 199/-, this Privileged Holistic Lifestyle Membership gives you an unlimited pass on your way to your ‘inner’ beauty – 35 meditations in a month, special discounts to exclusive workshops at The Golden Space® Malaysia, merchandise, +Energy Solution packages and more.

The Privileged Holistic Lifestyle Membership also offers you special deals with participating merchant partners where you can get organic-based products and services you need for your ‘outer’ beauty.

It’s surely time for everyone to make that transformation to real wholesome beauty.

Whether you’re a woman or man, you can make yourself beautiful by following certain basic practices that shine your beauty from the inside. Isn’t it perfect to have an inner glow and an outer radiance? This way, you can’t go wrong!

Meditation is about training your awareness so that you can focus on certain goals and objectives that you have set for yourself. 

Why Meditate?

Better focus, emotional management and self-discipline will lead to happier relationships, productivity at work and healthier lifestyle.

How To Meditate?

Some include music or musical instruments yet some are done in silence. You can meditate for as short as 3 minutes to as long as 30 minutes. It can be done in a group or on your own.

Same, But Only Bigger

Teenage-hood is actually very similar to the period of pre- school age, in that, children are once again coping with their developing bodies and brains as well as learning to cope with more mature emotional, reasoning and analytical skills. Also, they now possess the physical maturity and skills (albeit lacking the emotional and mental skills as compared to the adult) to do more than they used to.

A Teenage Preschooler

Coping with responsibilities stemming from new abilities learned is another added life task both the young child and a teen have to cope with. The young child starts learning to cope at school and having to interact with peers on different levels, the teen copes with feelings of sexual attraction in relationships, and a host of other more intense feelings than before.

As they get older, parents assume that they are on different wavelengths with their children and it often seems that way. Even though teenagers may be experiencing different environmental and economic situations, they still search for independence and self-identity as all teens over the generations have. But this does not mean that their parents have to “let them go”. Parents staying securely connected is vital to a teen’s mental and emotional health.

There are many adults out there who have issues with abandonment. Instead of adjusting the bond making it flexible, many parents cut it off. The latter is often due to the parents’ own fears, and they thicken it or shorten the bond until their children feel claustrophobic and can’t feel the independence (and even privacy) they crave for. In doing so parents push their children away, then wonder why their children, “don’t care”.

Parental Adjustments To Teen Behavior

Take a few deep breaths and open your heart. Keep love in your heart and mind. Allow your child (teen) to practice his newfound intellectual skills. Respond calmly, do not react. Allow the flow of conversation without judgment.

“As they get older, parents assume that they are on different wavelengths with their children.Teenagers search for independence and self-identity as all teens over the generations have. But this does not mean that their parents have to ‘let them go’.”

Take a few deep breaths and open your heart. Keep love in your heart and mind. Breathe in patience, breathe out irritation. Allow the flow of conversation without judgment. Assure your child all is fine, that they are loved and things are just the way they are meant to be.

The Cynical Explorer

Love and trust couched in a strong connection, are still the most important ingredients in creating lasting relationships with your child. Start early, make the connection strong but flexible. Cultivating this connection is of upmost importance at any stage in your child’s life. Your child needs you always. A Parent is for Life. But don’t hover, allow.

Or just Be…..there.

Take a few deep breaths and open your heart. Keep love in your heart and mind. Breathe in patience, breathe out irritation. Allow the flow of conversation without judgment. Assure your child all is fine, that they are loved and things are just the way they are meant to be.

THE GOLDEN SPACE HOLISTIC INSTITUTE

The Golden Space Holistic Institute (TGSHI)’s mission is to nurture a new generation of youth and support stakeholders in raising a future generation with high levels of self-awareness, compassion and environmental consciousness, and who are caring members of the global community. In doing so TGSHI advocates an integrated and interconnected holistic education for all youth. This new generation will be able to impact the lives of others in positive, supportive and harmonious ways. For more information, please contact Rose Wong at contact@tgsholisticinstitute.org.

Do You Believe You Are Already Abundant?

We often focus on the lack in our life and not what we already have.

Project The Abundant Future Now

We humans tend to focus a lot on our past and that we believe we can accurately predict the future based on the past. This makes us feel secure, we are fallible to believe that we can ensure things always stay as they are. Our current situation is the result of our past thoughts and action.

In order to have a different future we must change the current situation that will eventually become the past. Reality lies within what we see, do, act and feel at this very moment in time. Our bank account reflects the results of our past thoughts, feelings and actions. And we can only work with the current time, after all.

“Emotions are more powerful than thoughts and what we often project and manifest is not what we think but what we actually feel inside.”

“We never worry about how we breathe, we just trust that we are able to – the state of abundance feels very much that way too.”

Emotions Of Abundance

Some of us are even able to get into the emotions of abundance, feel expansive, free, secure and so on. However, we are unable to sustain these feelings because we are so easily distracted by everything else that is going on, which eventually affects our emotions of abundance.

We forget that emotions are more powerful than thoughts and what we often project and manifest is not what we think but what we actually feel inside. Changing thoughts is easy but changing emotions is tricky. This is why some people have trouble using affirmations alone. Manage your emotions, keep them on the high (highly positive). Keep in the state of abundance. Align to the future you want to see.

Sustaining Focus

The average person loses his or her focus every 6 10 seconds.To manifest abundance, we must practice and build the habit of holding this state of abundance consistently. We will not be able to manifest the fruits of abundance if we cannot sustain our focus. And we need to do this until our being, and the Universe, recognize our emotions about our situation as the truth.

Even if you are not sure how to move the spiritual into physical reality, the ideas and abundance will come whilst you’re holding this state of abundance. Abundance will feel natural to you and you will be able to take inspired action. Opportunities will start appearing.

We never worry about how we breathe, we just trust that we are able to – the state of abundance feels very much that way too.

Take Inspired Action

Trust your instincts and take calculated risks when opportunities show up. This is life. Trusting your instincts is not blind faith because you will still have to do the necessary “homework” or research when it’s called for. And of course take inspired action, that is, on ideas that feel “right” and inspired.

Mind, body and soul have to work together and be aligned. Learning through mistakes even if you fall can prove useful as well and provide you with useful experience. This experience could lead you to a bigger and better opportunity. Be consistent and follow through.

“If you can sustain this state of abundance then you will be abundant in all areas of your life! Yes, this is possible!”

Abundant In All Of Life

Some people may then ask why there are people who are abundant in some areas of their life, but not in others. The answer stresses on the understanding of the state of abundance. It is because they don’t understand this concept.

So again, being abundant is not just about having money, if you understand and can sustain this state of abundance then you will be abundant in all areas of your life! Yes, this is possible!

4 ways to cultivate state of abundance:

1. BE LIKE A KID
Play like a child and think like one. Imagination is very important in manifesting abundance and children have no boundaries that get in the way. They don’t doubt, for example, if they want something badly, they will think and dream about it day and night, as if they already have it.

2. ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS

If you were out shopping, and you come across something you may not currently have money to buy, you would probably say, “Oh, I don’t have money, I can’t afford it” (and you repeat that over and over). Why not ask yourself, “How can I afford this?”. Use your imagination and explore. Change the focus

3. USE THE POWERS OF GRATITUDE, GIVING & RECEIVING

Be happy and thankful for what we already have. The Universe recognizes gratitude and if you are happy and appreciative and focus on the feelings of having something, the Universe will give you more of it.

The ability to give is abundance and how you give to someone else, with love and without expectations, is important too. It’s not so much what you give to others. When you give, do it with an open heart and without fear of being left with less.

When you receive, give a compliment on what you have received, breathe in the generosity vibes (energies) and hold it with gratitude.

4. CELEBRATE THE WINS OF OTHERS

Last but not least, share the happiness and positive emotions of others when they have what they love and want. In doing so you are also holding a space of abundance for yourself. Bless them.

Sky Kho is the creator of the Pure Intent methodology, performing paradigm shifts of minds in a fraction of a second. He is Malaysia’s top leading instructor since 2008. Sky has conducted more than 500 self-empowerment workshops and transformed thousands of lives. He is now living his dream, devoting his life to serving mankind and inspiring them to achieve greatness. Drop Sky a line at sky.kho@thegoldenspace.com.my.

Inseparable From My Work

I never really had weekends. Simple pleasures like reading the papers seemed like a time-wasting activity to me. I barely had a social life and spent little time with family members. I had let work dominate my life and everything that defined me had something to do with my work.

One Swift Blow

Then, events unfolded in turbo mode. In a half dreamy state, my colleagues and I went through the official town hall style of announcing the retrenchments, received our letters in private sessions and attended sombre farewell lunches. Since I was among the first few to leave the company, I had insufficient time to successfully nail another job.

At Home And Alone

The retrenchment was shocking and traumatic, and I tried very hard to deny it. A part of me insisted that I was fine, even convincing myself that I was just taking an extended leave to indulge in my much neglected writing hobby.

The Plunge

I wished and prayed for a miracle; perhaps management would change their mind and request that I return to work.

Eventually I entered into depression. I slept with knotted eyebrows and looked like a dead fish. My mind kept repeating two words in the retrenchment letter, “excess and redundant”, until I believed that I was really an excess and a redundant human being in this world! My self- esteem plummeted. I viewed myself as being useless, not good enough for anything and having no future. Day after day, these thoughts hit me whilst I stared at that rotating fan.

Moving On

I continue to be depressed for the rest of my life. I had to get over it if I was ever to live out the rest of my life meaningfully! And I did get over it.

Grateful For What I Became

Somehow, being a perfectionist- cum-workaholic had made me blind to other wonderful and crucial aspects of life. I had long forgotten how to love, smile and laugh from my heart. I had been neglecting my friends and family members. At work, I often exerted anger to intimidate others, with harsh speech and words. No wonder some colleagues had shunned me!

Most importantly, retrenchment helped me to rediscover my love for writing. Sharing the vulnerable side of me with others in the written word is a humbling and therapeutic process. Without retrenchment, I would not be writing this article. I hope that my little story can help many of you out there who are facing the same inevitability as I did many years ago. Life always gives us a second chance, and the second chance may just be the one that you’re looking for.