Our children had gone to bed, except for the 4 year old left singing a silly tune behind the closed bathroom door.  When she came out, she noticed the tissue to my nose, but not the tears in my eyes.

“Bloody nose, Mom?”

“Nope.”

“Oh.  Just boogers, then?” 

That child!  Those children… and the one coming!  Unfathomable gifts, all given by a God who knows our desires even more than we do.  After three years of infertility, our first child was conceived right around what would have been Brett’s 23rd birthday, and was born just shy of the one year anniversary of his death.  We needed that. 

Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine…

Ephesians 3:20

This photo has nothing to do with anything… I just happen to find it hilarious (and maddening!) and know that my brother would, too.  The hilarious part.  Not the maddening.  He’d tell me to “chill.” 

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(No, that is not my husband.  Ha!)

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My kids are home for the summer.  Sounds like we have an afternoon activity planned… think they can pick and design the card themselves? 

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We don't buy our children random toys throughout the year, so when Switch & Go Dinos arrived for our playing pleasure and review, the excitement was almost surpassed by the surprise. Almost.  (Psst… what's up with Mom?!  It's not Christmas.  It's not my birthday.) 

With four children in the house, ages 20 months to 9 years, I knew our Dinos would get a work out.  I learned right away that they are durable, and don't fall apart when driven off the edge of the dining room table only to crash on the hardwood floor.  Yay! 

Even more fun is that they appeal to all four of my children.  The little dude enjoys driving the cars around.  My 6yo transforms them just as fast as he can.  The ornery 4yo girl imitates the dino sounds as she stomps around the house growling dino facts, "I have 60 teeth, and some are as long as knives!" and her big sister finds the LCD screen fascinating. 

The four Starter Dinos: Sliver the T-Rex, T-Don the Pteranodon, Tonn the Stegosaurus and Horns the Triceratops are on-sale beginning May 21 for a suggested retail price of $15.99. Buy today on Amazon.  Beginning June 18, they’ll be on sale at VTechKids.com for a suggested retail price of $15.99.

Old-fashioned, classic (read: QUIET) toys may very well be my preference, but that's simply not the world my children live in.  They enjoy the classics too (Mr. 20 months is drawing with markers right now… on his arms, ahem), but even I have to admit it:  the interactive LCD screen, how the product easily morphs into two awesome toys, how the sound effects bring the toy to life, and how learning from the dinosaur facts happens while playing equals lots of fun to be had!

What kind of toys do your children enjoy?  Would the Switch & Go Dinos hold their attention?  Which one looks most appealing? 

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That means all of my people are home all day.  Actually, that means our schedule is variable, unpredictable, and busy for the next three months.  What with three children playing summer baseball/softball/t-ball and one in basketball, a husband helping with wheat harvest and summer weights, summer football and church camps, Vacation Bible School, orthodontist/dentist/OB appointments, and a Mama due in August with a baby who’s been riding low on some achy hips that need swimming pool therapy… the name of the game will be flexibility.

Planning ahead with quick and easy meals that use pantry and freezer staples is essential!

Something new-to-us that I get to plan around this year starting this week is our local CSA share.  I’m excited to have a variety of locally grown veggies to supplement what’s in our own garden, spurring creativity and awakening our tastebuds.  Word on the street is that kale is in our first share.  Time to try kale chips!  (Have you had them?)

Trips to the store will revolve around doctor’s appointments and ballgames, which should work fine since that will be at east weekly.  I’ll attempt to make a more specific plan weekly, but this is what summer meals will likely look like for our family.

Breakfast

Every other week my husband will be in charge of the weight program from 6-9 in the morning.  When he’s on, he’ll likely grab any big breakfast leftovers that are available or a bowl of Homemade Granola before heading out.  Granola is a quick and easy essential in our home, and I have it at the ready at all times.

Unless we have morning appointments, swimming lessons, or VBS, I do like to start our summer days with a big breakfast.  That gets us charged up with protein and ready for the day, and leaves later meals for quick and easy fare as things heat up and get busy.  We’ll likely rotate between the following:

• homemade waffles, eggs (fried or scrambled) and either homemade syrup or fruit topping
• buttermilk pancakes, eggs (fried or scrambled) and either homemade syrup or fruit topping
• fruity oatmeal pancakes with eggs
• fried eggs, homemade hashbrowns, fresh fruit
• overnight breakfast casserole with muffins or toast and fruit
• french toast (when we have leftover french bread)

Lunch and/or Dinner/Supper

My children got schooled at Papa’s Dinner Table yesterday.  One of the kids innocently asked “Is this lunch?” because our meal times get a little goofy in the summer.  Papa insisted, “You’re at the farm.  This is Dinner.  Tonight we’ll have Supper.  Only city girls say ‘lunch’.”  Alrighty then! 

Because of our big summer breakfasts, we’re not generally hungry for another big noon meal (as long as we’re not at the farm, that is) but if it doesn’t conflict with any important appointments, our 12:30-3:00 quiet time is sacred.  A big breakfast will net us a snacky lunch before then.  Quick breakfast will bring on more of a Farmer’s Dinner at that time.  Again, it’s all about flexibility.

Snacky Lunch Options

• salads with ranch dressings, most fixings likely from the CSA box
• apples and/or celery with peanut butter
• sandwiches
• snack lunch tray
• muffins and fresh fruit
• peanut butter honey roll-ups
• leftovers

Farmer’s Dinner

We’re not real farmers, we just play them in the movies.  Our dinner may be supper, but one way or another we’ll still get to eat!  Along with whatever CSA produce or fresh fixins I have from our own garden, here are some of our summertime “big meal” favorites.

• smothered beans and rice burritos
• beef and chicken fajitas
• fried rice
• BLTs (seriously can.not.wait!)
• Mini Meatloaf Mounds with cheddar ranch potatoes
• Sloppy Joes
• Chicken Salsa Nachos

Freezer Standbys

Where, oh where would I be without my freezer?!  At least once a week I need to make time to keep it stocked with heat and eat options.  They come in handy and keep us out of the drive-thru when heading to and from ballgames.  Add some fresh fruits and veggies, and we’re good to go!

• brown bag burritos
• pigs in a blanket
• pizza pockets
• ham and cheese pockets
• bierocks (just as soon as the garden cabbage is ready)

And that should do it!  Here’s to a fun, flexible summer and lots of fabulous, easy-fixin food!

Is it lunch or dinner at your house?  Dinner or supper? 

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Four Simple Ways to Make Your Kids the Best of Friends ~ Love this line:  “If you’re loving that toy more than you’re loving each other then it’s time to put it away.”

The Mediterranean Secret to Phenomenal Vegetables ~ I’ll be referring to this often as my CSA starts next week!

Three Things You Can Do This Week to be a Better Mom ~ Our last day of school was Friday, and my children were SAD about it!  I’m taking notes…

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Real life relationships take more effort.

Conversations can’t be easily stopped and started, carried on at random times throughout the day, for weeks.  Plans need to be made for children.  Traveling (even just across town) must be done by someone.  Jammies should be traded in for appropriate clothing.

A few weeks ago the fabulous (in)courage challenged us all to get real with friends, new and old, and get together, (in)RealLife.

So we did.

My friend Crystal (pretty sure we originally “met” on twitter, but that’s been a few years!) and I organized a troop from Kansas to meet up for food, fun, and girl talk.

Every one of us dodged scheduling issues and traffic snafus, but we made it, and we had a great time getting to know one another and sharing our hearts about friendships and the effort they take!

This was one of those meetups where I was grateful for expanding maternity jeans. 

Care to meet my new friends?  While Elizabeth is a busy mom of two littles who recently moved to Kansas, the others do have blogs you can visit.

Carolyn ~ My Little Bit of Life
Jamie ~ Coupons and Freebies Mom
Deborah ~ A Delightful Glow
Abigail ~ Rear Window
Lynette ~ Dancing Again  (Lynette also wrote He Heard Hannah, which is now on my must read list!)
Lisa ~ Life is Crazy Beautiful
Sarah ~ My Patchwork Mosaic
Stacie ~ Motherhood on a Dime

I was refreshed and encouraged by these ladies.  Making the effort to visit face to face does matter.  Breaking out of my comfort zone to share my heart does matter.  Reaching out to my local community, in whatever form that takes shape, does matter.

Friendship, in real life, is a Finer Thing!  (And to all my “computer friends,” you know you’re real, too!)  What Finer Things are you celebrating this week?  Link up and let us know! 

How are you able to nourish friendships at whatever season of life you’re currently in?  How do you make it a priority?  Inspire me!

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Something Smarter Just Popped Up

It was the White Cloud facial tissue I grabbed the day I decided the triple pack of another brand wasn’t necessarily the best value, and I’m glad I did!  It takes care of the job, there’s a coupon built into the box for your next purchase, and you can still snag the coupon for 50¢ off a 90 count box of tissues on their Facebook page.  That makes a box about 35¢, which gives me coupon success and keeps a little more of that cash right where I want it!  (Available in select WalMart stores only.)

All that said, I do admit to being smitten with their style.  The White Cloud tissue box designs truly beat all.  (Just don’t ask me about clothing or decorating styles, because… not my thing.)

The Smart Alternative

Everyone wants to be a smarty pants, and White Cloud toilet tissue makes me feel like just that.  I hate spending my money on things that I’ll intentionally flush away, but at least with White Cloud I have quality and the reminder that their Green Earth products are made with 100% recycled fiber.  You’d think that would make it uncomfortable, but not so!

The Best for Less

Consumer Reports has conducted an independent evaluation of 25 bath tissue products including White Cloud 2-ply Soft and Thick and White Cloud 3-ply Ultra. Click here to find out how they did.  (Hint:  Impressive!)

Smart choices.  Comfort.  Value.  Sounds like a shopping plan to me!

Disclosure:  As a White Cloud blogger, I am compensated to bring you coupons and product reminders.  All comments about home decorating remain my own. 

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I started couponing about 17 years ago.  Yes, I’m old.  I’m also one to delight in “buying” stuff for free or pennies, and it thrilled me to no end to brag up my haul to my college roommates.  That, of course, was in the days when we all lived off of boxed cereal, boxed macaroni, and boxed Hamburger Helper.

Gag.

Once newly married and living in a smaller town, my husband got an earful at our little grocery store about how “your wife came in earlier and paid like $5 for $50 worth of stuff!”  That may embarrass some.  He just puffed up and strutted his peacock feathers.

Point being?  I know couponing.  I know it works.  It doesn’t intimidate or embarrass me, and I can’t debate the effectiveness of chapter 5 of The Money Saving Mom’s Budget.

That said, I haven’t updated my coupon file since last fall.  My quandry now is that I don’t believe I’m saving enough for my time and effort to keep it up, but I’m still super ticked when I walk in the store, see something on sale, and know there must be a coupon for it… somewhere.  I can’t stomach paying full price, so more than likely, I’m not paying for that item at all.  My children miss fun food.

Also, Crystal mentions that if you know what you’re doing, you should be saving $25-$50 per hour couponing.  Even in my glory days I don’t know that I ever had that kind of success.  Perhaps I’m a slow coupon clipper?  Lest I get ahead of myself here, I see that all of my excuses are a chapter 6 discussion, so mum’s the word.  For now, here’s my challenge:  Get back into couponing for a few months.  Keep track of my savings.  Record what I’m purchasing.  Find out a few things.

What am I really buying with coupons?

Yes.  Yes, I am one who now believes that most coupons are for junk food.  (Funny how our philosophies evolve.)  However, I am also one who believes that flavored, colored, low/no fat yogurt is junk food.  So, there’s that.  But there’s also this:  we’re coming into our summer ball season.  I have 3 children playing some form of baseball or softball at least once per week each, and we have four weekend basketball tournaments lined up.  And a road trip.  Plus, I have a toddler to entertain.  He’s easily entertained with food.

If it means mama can watch the game, Mama doesn’t mind a little convenience junk food.

How much am I really saving with coupons?

Since I’ve committed to cash already for the next 3 months, may as well go whole hog, right?  Just how much can I save with coupons, without completely wrecking our diet?  Truly, I’d like to jump ahead to chapter 7 here, because those are the strategies I’m currently using to keep our food money in check.  I wouldn’t be a very effective book club leader then, though, so forget I said that.

This chapter?  This month?  Coupons.

Does it make enough of a difference?

Back in my heyday it sure did.  But back then I had access to more stores, more time, more coupons, and fewer children.    I can still do some damage at Dillons, WalMart, and Dollar General if I put my mind to it, though.  And I’ll try, for a time.

Lucky for me, I have a 9 year old who is very interested in earning some money this summer.  She may have earned herself coupon clipping duty, because mama has a baby to prepare for, and mama can’t do it all!

Bottom line:  I’m not turning my nose up at the almighty coupon.  I’ve been there, done that, and I know there are savings to be had.  Are the savings right for me?  Are they worth it?  That remains to be seen.

What’s holding you back?

Let’s chat.  Is it the time involved?  The lack of coupons?  (Our newspaper deliverer used to give me coupons… but he doesn’t deliver the paper any more.  No one does here.  Sad.) Printing and clipping time?  Fewer stores in your area?  A whole foods diet?  A house full of children and other responsibilities?  Other (completely justifiable and rightly so) priorities?  Tell us your story!

If you’re a current Coupon Queen, motivate us!  I love a success story, too.  How have you overcome the couponing odds?

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Whether this is your first or, um, fifth, those two little lines can come as quite a shock.  A happy surprise, a much-prayed for addition, or an Are Your Kidding Me?! aside, it’s time to grow a baby.  So now what?

One of the amazing, miracle aspects of pregnancy is that there’s a lot we can do to keep mama and baby healthy, and yet there is so much way beyond our control.  No amount of eating the right diet or doing the right exercises is going to keep baby in there.  The unexpected and devastating does sometimes happen.  That doesn’t mean we don’t do our best, though!

In those first early weeks and throughout pregnancy, I do feel better if I control what I can control, pray fervently for that new life, and do my very best to let go of the rest.

Pregnancy Diet

As early as possible, (because let’s face it, sometimes morning sickness will dictate your diet, and if you have to get 90% of your calories from cheese for a time, then do it!) I try to start planning my meals and snacks based on the principles of The Brewer Diet, which I first learned about in my Bradley Method Natural Birthing classes with our first pregnancy.

This high-protein, nutrient-loaded diet supports what mom and baby need most.  I remember specifically my Bradley Method instructor encouraging a quality diet to develop a “juicy, curly cord.”  Again, there is so very much out of our control, but if what I eat can help my baby’s umbilical cord become stronger and my pregnancy go smoother, I’m sure gonna try!

Supplements

I must be the world’s worst about taking nutritional supplements.  I just never can get a good habit going with that!  During pregnancy I do try harder, though, and this time around I’m taking Garden of Life Vitamin Raw Prenatalwith fair regularity!  I like the small, easy to swallow capsules.  Choking down horse pills, especially in the first trimester, is near impossible for me!  I also appreciate the addition of ginger to the ingredients, which is supposed to suppress morning sickness and aid in digestion.  (My doctor never recommended or encouraged a certain brand, so I’m simply taking what works for me.)

At one of my first appointments, I asked my doctor if there is anything I can do to prevent the premature rupture of my bag of waters.  I’m way over average with that miserable condition (trust me, you do not want to go through a long labor with no water cushion!) since mine has broken 3 out of 4 times.  He said there isn’t, but several friends have suggested an Herbal Pregnancy Tea and Red Raspberry Leaf  Tea.  (Mamas know!)  I’ve also been told that extra vitamin C is shown to keep that bag of water intact, so I’ll be adding that to my “daily takes” as well.  Maybe it won’t work for me, but I can’t not try!

Exercise

Babies like blood.  I’m trying desperately to remember that, especially as our days get busier and it starts to heat up out there.  Yes, there are times when life takes hold and I don’t move as much as I should, but exercising throughout pregnancy is truly one of the best things I can do for myself and my baby.

Growing a baby and giving birth is a marathon, so incredibly taxing to the body.  Regardless of how you plan your delivery (and how it actually happens — because it’s not always how you plan it!) your body will be better prepared for labor, delivery, and recovery if you’re moving now.

I don’t have access to a gym or special classes, but I can move!  A few weeks ago I took to wearing a Pedometerto track my steps, aiming for 10,000 each day.  My little dude loves to ride in the stroller, so I can knock out a few thousand steps simply by wheeling him around for a while.

Because I have a history of back labor (2 out of my 4 pregnancies, yuck!) I’m also trying some of the Spinning Babies stretches and techniques this go around.  I’m willing to try anything to encourage this little one into the right position and keep him/her there!

The miracle of a baby forming in my body is definitely God’s design, and so much of it is completely out of my control.  That’s a good thing!  It’s also a good thing, though, to care for my body and my baby’s home as best as I know how.  I never perfectly follow any diet, supplement, or exercise routine.  (Is there a perfect one?!  Doubtful.)  However, doing the best we can with the information we have… that’s a good start.

What works for you to get your pregnancy going in the right direction? 

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