I would go on, but I read an article by Radhanath Swami that says it so well. I’m just going to give you the link. http://www.radhanathswami.com/2011/11/on-marriage-and-divorce/.  Here are a couple quotes, but please read the article. It’s wonderful.

“Feelings of affection may come and go but the foundation of a healthy relationship is respect. Respect for each other and care for each other. Through respect and care affection can grow into deep love on the level of the soul. Physically we care for each other by providing the basic necessities of life. Depending on the particular nature of your occupation and relationship one must provide housing, clothing, health care and other physical needs. But emotional care is very essential. Lack of emotional care can really send a marriage off track. Everyone needs appreciation and everyone needs encouragement. …

Marriage shouldn’t be just something that we are tolerating somehow or other because we took vows. It should be something very dynamic, very flowing and very real. It should be and very connected to the Divine, so that the struggles are not just depressing -  the struggles are spiritual challenges that we have to meet together and every time we overcome those challenges we come to a higher spiritual platform. By following marriage in this way it becomes a path of perfection.”

I am a very persevering person and wanted to get back in shape quickly. However, a couple years ago a wonderful physical therapist gave me some advice that I’ve written about before, but understand even more entirely now. She said, push to fatigue, but not to exhaustion.

That was an extraordinary idea for me. I’d pushed myself to exhaustion in everything I’d done throughout my life. Since then, I’ve adapted this philosophy in all areas of my life, and it’s paid off. But, it wasn’t easy at first.

Most of us have dreams and goals. We see our goals and we want to be there NOW. We push ourselves to the extreme and sometimes we get results. But, at what price? In the early years of my career I worked 100-hour workweeks, and often ended up in the doctor’s office. I also sacrificed the quality of my relationships because I was so busy.

What I’ve learned is that if we take our time, and let life contribute to our dreams at the right time, we do reach our goals and often surpass them. I wanted to run a year ago, but was still slow and had little stamina. I persevered and pushed to fatigue, but not to exhaustion. It was frustrating at times, and hard to imagine that I’d run again.

My patience has paid off and the end result is even more amazing than I could have imagined. And, I’ve also expanded my workout routine to include Zumba, total body weight-lifting, more biking and even walking.

When we stop pushing, we have the time to learn and explore. We add experience and wisdom to our dream palate. We also reach our goals healthier, happier and wiser because we’ve enjoyed the moments along the way. Learn more about this in Module 5 of EXPLODE! into Life. I also give exercises and videos to help you absorb and utilize the message.

I have a client who has been thinking about writing a book for years. However, she’s been stuck because she doesn’t know what others want her to write. She’s tried to put together an organizational plan and outline for the book, but hasn’t been able to because she’s trying to do what she thinks others want, instead of doing what her heart desires.She’s also blocked because she’s trying to visualize the entire journey to success and therefore can’t see the next step in front of her. Here’s a story I wrote to her that about writing my first book, The Writings of the Masters: Extraordinary Lessons for Everyday Life from the Masters and Angels. I think my experience exemplifies how life unfolds for you when you follow your heart.

I had been told for years that I would write a book, but didn’t know what it would be about. In 2003 a Guide came to me and told me it was time to write, and I was going to talk to the Ascended Masters and Angels. They would come to me one at a time and I would write down our conversations. What he said frightened me to the core. I was sure I was insane. Why would they come to me and what would they say? I thought I’d finally “lost it.” With understanding my Guide suggested that I just start doing it one hour a day just for me. He said that I didn’t have to share the book with anyone and risk being sent to the insane asylum. Just write and see if I enjoyed it and what came out of it. So, that’s how I started.

I was adept at hearing the voices of Guides and writing what they said, so that part was easy. Jesus came to me first and I wrote a few chapters talking with him. The information he gave me was remarkable. I was growing tremendously each day as I integrated the information. As it turned out, 1 hour a day was as much as I could handle because the information and his energy were so powerful. After a week of writing I timidly showed the work to a friend who was also clairvoyant. She was delighted with it and learned so much. No trip to the insane asylum yet. I was encouraged and thinking I may not be insane, after all.

Another week went by and I shared the book with another friend who said that she was sure it was written just for her. It spoke to her so profoundly and was just what she needed to hear. Her remark helped me to release my fears and continue. I thought, “I may be insane, but if the book helps others profoundly I want to get it out there.”

Flash forward and the book has helped tens of thousands of people. One person emailed that he’d read it 7 times. Another emailed me that she keeps it by her bed and opens it randomly. The chapter she turns to is just what she needs to hear. And, I’m writing to you from my home, and not an insane asylum.

My point to you is work from your heart and for you. Don’t worry about the audience or where it will lead. Getting through a blockage requires baby steps. Take it one joyful, fun, creative step at a time. Babies get a lot of mileage once they begin stepping. So will you.

I was guilty of wanting my vision to happen NOW, and not taking the time to let it progress. As you know, I’m committed to getting my course, EXPLODE! into Life, out to the world. I’m creating workshops, keynotes, speaking engagements, handouts, updating the website, networking, blogging, coaching, tweeting . . .  All in the last month. It’s exhausting just writing about it. At the same time, I’ve been frustrated at how little progress has been made. Why wasn’t my dream attained yet?

Meanwhile, I was working on creating a large vase in my pottery class. The instructor had just taught us a technique and I was frustrated at the end of class because the vase wasn’t coming together correctly. A fellow student, who’s also an advanced potter, noticed my frustration and said, “This is going to be a beautiful vase. You can’t expect to finish it in one day. Sometimes my pieces take several sessions. I have to let them sit and then I come back to them. They take on new form and after resting are ready to be worked on again. Have patience. You have time.”

I set the vase aside and let it sit covered. During the next class I allowed the vase to dry some. I looked occasionally at the vase as I worked on other projects, considering how it would shape up. Finally, it was dry enough to be worked on again. Working on it was easier and I could see that the vase actually wanted to be a pitcher. And, that is what it has become. Next week I’ll make the handle. I have time. It isn’t going anywhere.

Are you pushing too hard and not seeing the progress you’re making? If you take your time and allow it, life will shape your vision for you, and give you messages along the way.

Prelude: On January 2nd I stopped taking a cancer med. I was supposed to take it for 5 years, but 3 was enough for me. The side effects outweighed the advantages. It seemed like the right thing to do. I truly feel the cancer is gone. I’d done meditations and gotten affirmations from my guides, but still I asked God to give me some more validation.

Today I was working diligently on some important tasks to help me to market EXPLODE! and create a workshop around the course. As you know, I’m very wrapped up in this course and get pretty “nose to the grindstone” about it. I don’t like to be interrupted when I’m working. But, the phone rang, I answered and a woman with a heavy New York accent asked if I was the Deborah Hill that was a psychic and lived in New York 10 years ago. She said she’d met this wonderful woman named Deborah Hill, immediately bonded with her and wanted to reconnect.

I said I’d never lived in New York but she kept asking questions, giving me the phone number she had from 10 years ago (nope, not mine), asking if I’d been in the Javitts Center (couldn’t remember it), did I remember bumping into her (uh, no, not really). Instead of getting irritated and feeling like I needed to get off the phone, I felt relaxed and calm. I was amused, curious and very peaceful. I knew that I was supposed to stop what I was doing and talk to this woman.

I’ve asked God to send people to me who need my assistance and thought she may need mine. I said, “I’m not the wonderful psychic Deborah Hill who lived in New York, but I am a psychic Deborah Hill who’s wonderful.” She laughed and we decided to explore why we connected. As it turns out she’s also an intuitive and I was able to help her to learn some techniques to take her insights and sessions with people to another level. She tapped right in and got it.

Then the miracle revealed itself. Edith mentioned that she is especially good at doing readings on people’s health. I told her about stopping the medication and she said, “I’m getting a very clear message. They’re telling me, ‘You’re healthy and finished with the cancer. You’re healed. We’ve healed you and are continuing to look over you. Stand tall, have a stronger backbone and don’t look back. We’ve given you messages and you haven’t trusted them. Do we need to come down there and kick you in the butt? Stop testing us to prove that we exist. Have faith.’” True enough, there were actually several messages and I was being a bit whiney about it.

Edith and I laughed and we both felt grateful to be part of the miracle of God communicating the truth. How wonderful that God was able to get in touch with Edith, helped her find me (yay, my SEO helped), and told her to call me knowing she was able to give me the message. I appreciate God, the guides who have helped to heal me, and Edith’s perseverance to follow her heartfelt guidance so she could give her blessed message. I am also proud that I knew when to stop what I was doing and listen.

And, by the way. If the wonderful psychic, Deborah Hill who lived in NY 10 years ago is reading this, call me. The wonderful intuitive Edith wants to reconnect.

Many of us have a limiting belief that if we make more money, someone else will make less. This belief is a fallacy. Money is energy. It is not a limited resource. There is no scarcity if you make more. Someone else won’t make less because of you. A person paying you money for your heartfelt products or services is not the same as taking money from him or her. People who buy from or pay for you are investing in themselves, their healing and in whatever they need. You are allowing them to stand in their power.

For example, you don’t feel bad if you buy a smart phone. It’s a great investment. It’s fun. You can do business more effectively. You can connect more readily.  If I were an iPhone, I wouldn’t feel guilty because someone had to pay for me. In the same light, I don’t feel guilty because I am giving to people what they need and asking them for money so that they can grow and change.

Feeling unworthy is especially true for service providers, so you healers and caregivers beware. There’s an inbred societal belief that public service is not as valuable as other goods and services. Teachers don’t make much money. Psychologists often make a lot less than the people they counsel.

You are valuable and what you offer is valuable. If you don’t allow others to pay for you, you’re doing a disservice to them and to you. You create an obstacle that prevents your work from going out to those who need it. If you don’t get paid, you won’t be able to continue your work, develop new products and services and help others.

For example, if I believed that my services weren’t valuable, or that others can’t afford them, it would prevent me from being paid. I wouldn’t charge them enough, and I wouldn’t be able to continue my work. I’d stop producing courses and books. I wouldn’t be able to publicize the courses and books I’ve written and fewer people would hear about them and benefit from them. Fewer people would be able to have the benefit of my insight and experience.  Energetically if I don’t believe that what I do needs to make money and is an excellent investment for people, my disbelief will prevent them from investing. Instead, I believe that investing in my products and me is an excellent investment for them and will further their growth.

At the same time, look at what you’re investing in and valuing. Do you value personal and professional growth and development? Do you value coaching and training? I’ve heard struggling people say that they can’t afford to take a course or hire a coach. They then go out and spend $100 on a new outfit, or something for the kitchen. An investment in your growth and development is as important as a real estate or stock investment, if not more so. This is especially true in these times.  An investment in you will provide a huge payback in interest in your life.

Throughout my life I’ve invested in teachers, healers and medical professionals. These were sound investments for me, and have seriously helped me to change and grow. I’ve spent a lifetime investing in personal and professional growth and it’s helped me to be all that I am today.

Invest in you and at the same time realize that what you are and have is very valuable. Don’t let others pay quarters for your diamonds. You are even more valuable than you can imagine. And you deserve to be paid for your services and products and achieve great monetary success.  It’s okay to attach a dollar sign to your value. Get in touch with that yearning within your heart and soul that calls you to move toward on your path. Know you’re worth it. We all need you and what you offer, and are grateful to pay you for your time, products and services.

First, connect deeply with your highest self. Meditate if you need to or do something that helps you to know and be you. You can participate in a meditative activity or even hobby that takes you into another state. For example, when I do pottery I focus only on centering and creating. My mind is clearer and I’m more open and relaxed.

Once you’re connected, become an objective observer and objectively watch your thoughts. Allow your mind to flow freely and creatively and watch the thought patterns.

Some thoughts may be negative or limiting. They may be pointing to a negative belief. Write it down and reframe the belief so you can bust through that obstacle to your creation. If you like you can use my free Limiting Belief Worksheet at www.awarenessin.com/free-for-you to do this.

Other thoughts will show you things you enjoy or want to do. Just notice what you are thinking and honor the thoughts without resistance. Once you identify with things you want to do and directions to go in, believe that there are ways to do what you love or enjoy. Allow your essential creative instincts to guide you artistically or intellectually towards your goal.

Find interesting ways to express these thoughts and avenues of inspiring thought. Invest time in yourself and your inspired thoughts. The only limits are those you place on yourself – the ones that you imagine and create.

Your intuition may be telling you to take a different path. If it’s fun, do it. Try it. This is a time for dreaming and acting on your dreams.  Act on your instincts. You are a creative being and you can create all that you believe in and all that you want.

Again, let your thoughts and desires travel through you and watch them as they flow. Objectively observe what you’re thinking, what you’re needing, what you’re feeling and then let your creative instincts act on them.  Fly with them and create the life you want.

Then ask for what you want in 2012. It’s time to visualize your new year. What are you thinking about 2012? Everything is energy. Our thoughts are energy. Our body is energy. Our thoughts affect our body and our life. I’m thinking that I’m going to have a delightful, healthy, prosperous, joyous year. It feels GOOD.Here’s a way to be even more effective. Send pictures through the mind. I’m visualizing my courses to help people EXPLODE! into Life helping millions transform their lives. The picture is energy and my guides and the universe pick it up perfectly.I’m now visualizing all who read this having a GLORIOUSLY New Year filled with the joy.

Gracious blessings,
Deborah ]]> http://www.theawarenessinitiative.com/2011/12/how-to-master-2012/feed/ 0 http://www.theawarenessinitiative.com/2011/12/how-to-master-2012/ http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/TheAwarenessInitiativeBlog/~3/RrkfDbePltw/ http://www.theawarenessinitiative.com/2011/12/explode-into-life-is-here-at-last/#comments Fri, 16 Dec 2011 11:19:58 +0000 Deborah http://www.theawarenessinitiative.com/?p=762 Continue reading →]]> Have you felt the need to make a change? Have you noticed that the things that used to excite you no longer do so in the same way? Do you feel a bit uncomfortable in your present job or very uncomfortable because you lack one? Are you noticing a shift in your relationships? Or, do you feel like you’re meant to do something more? Do you feel the need to take your life to a new level and don’t know how? EXPLODE! into Life was created for you.

Life is changing. We’re changing and many of us are searching for new ways to be and do. Many people are feeling the need for a change in their values and lives and are looking for new direction and answers. Because of this I’ve poured myself and a lifetime of learning and experiences into this course to help you to take your life to a new level.

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Manifest Unlimited Success,:
When you’re in sync everything will come to you at the right time. You’ll be where you need to be and do what you need to do at the right time. You’ll be travelling easily on your moving walkway

Have you ever thought of an invention for something and didn’t do it? Then months or years go by and it shows up? Several years ago a friend of mine had this brilliant idea product invention: an electronic book where you can download MP3 files from the Internet. But, he dropped the project. Perhaps, Amazon picked up on his brain wave.

The energetic field that we transmit into has its own combined, higher intelligence. It acts as a mediator and organizer for us. Whatever we think is transmitted, and the effects of this thought are immediately put into motion in the combined force field. If you think, “I need to complete this project, and I need someone to help me with it,” you set an intention and set forces in motion to attract someone to you.

You don’t have to be aware that you’re doing this in order for it to be effective. In fact, most people are completely unaware of this and are inadvertently controlled by the combined effects of their thoughts and actions. When you become aware of this effective combined consciousness, and tune into it, you can create a life where you’re in sync. And when you’re in sync, you are attuned to the synchronicity of the events around you.

If you’d like to know more about how to stay in sync, check out my online course Manifest Unlimited Success, for more information, audio meditations, videos and exercises.