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    <title type="text">Tara Rodden Robinson :: The Productivity Maven</title>
    
    
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        <title>An invitation to a conversation about the spiritual side of productivity</title>
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        <summary>Next week, I’m hosting what I hope will be a continuing conversation about spirituality and work. I’m calling it Prayerful Productivity. In preparing for the conversation (and inviting you to join me), here are a few things you might want...</summary>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://tararobinson.com/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml">Next week, I’m hosting what I hope will be a continuing conversation about spirituality and work. I’m calling it <a href="http://theproductivitymaven.memberlodge.com/Default.aspx?pageId=472819&amp;eventId=134650&amp;EventViewMode=EventDetails" target="_blank">Prayerful Productivity.</a> In preparing for the conversation (and inviting you to join me), here are a few things you might want to know.<br /><br />I’ve been considering doing something like this for a long time. And it’s been a struggle. On the one side, I feel really strongly that spirituality has an important role to play in our lives--not just personally but in what we work at and how we work at it. Whether it’s prayer or meditation, ritual or routine, with beliefs or without, tapping into <a href="http://tararobinson.com/2009/03/40days-forward-2009-day-fourteen-exploring-your-sense-of-purpose.html">meaning and purpose</a> is powerful. Being intentional and mindful is powerful. And I would like to talk about that and write about it and serve people who feel similarly.<br /><br />The flip side, the thing that’s held me back, is fear. Fear of being labeled as some sort of religious, right-wing kook (and for the record, I’m not right-wing). Fear of offending someone. Fear of being rejected or ridiculed or being subjected to the "who-the-hell-are-you?" thing (as in, "you’re not a spiritual leader and why should be listen to you?"). Fear of being called wifty or flaky or who knows what.<br /><br />So creating this conversation and calling it prayerful outs me as a Christian (like you might not have already figured <a href="http://tararobinson.com/2010/02/awkward-wednesday-.html">that</a> out) and a Catholic (as if blog posts that refer to <a href="http://tararobinson.com/2010/03/tgif-weekly-review-edition.htm">Saints</a> hadn’t already indicated this). And what I really want you to know is that I take my faith seriously, especially that part where Jesus says “Love your neighbor,” which I interpret as meaning that I am called (yes, called) to be kind and gentle and hospitable. <br /><br />That doesn’t mean I don’t have boundaries or that I’m willing to put up with a bunch of BS just to be nice. What it does mean is that I’m committed to having conversations with people from other faiths and no faiths at all. So if you’re someone who likes the idea of meditation and you’re not sure about this whole God thing, you’re invited and I’ll do my best to help you feel welcomed and comfortable. And if you’re an evangelical Christian, you’ll find things to like. And if you’re Jewish or Buddhist or Muslim, you’ll bring valuable insights to our conversations. If you’re an atheist and you're completely opposed the idea of God, you’re probably not reading this, but if you are: You might not enjoy these conversations and you’re still welcome to try. That brings us to the next bit.<br /><br />There are some rules. <br /><ul>
<li>Be nice.</li>
<li>Listen actively.</li>
<li>Don’t interrupt other people when they’re speaking.</li>
<li>Attacking people as wrong or bad or damned to hell isn’t okay. Do that on your own time.</li>
</ul>
One last thing: This is a conversation. I won’t be yakking the whole time. We’ll ask questions and consider ideas and stuff. I want to know what you think. If you’re not willing to participate, then it will be very quiet. If you’re in it to converse, it’ll be fun. Here’s <a href="http://theproductivitymaven.memberlodge.com/ViewEvent.ashx?eventId=134650" target="_blank">how to register</a>.<br /><br /><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TaraRoddenRobinson/~4/3dQHR5tvUuk" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>


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        <title>Oldie but a goodie: Sources of Power (repost)</title>
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        <published>2010-03-15T14:20:15-07:00</published>
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        <summary>A couple of years ago, the city of New York again found itself in the news. This time, it was a collapsed steam pipe that disintegrated beneath an ordinary tow truck, sending a geyser of boiling water and steam hundreds...</summary>
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            <name>Tara Rodden Robinson</name>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://tararobinson.com/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><p>A couple of years ago, the city of New York again found itself in the news. This time, it was a <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2007/07/19/nyregion/19explode.html?_r=1&amp;oref=slogin">collapsed steam pipe</a>
that disintegrated beneath an ordinary tow truck, sending a geyser of
boiling water and steam hundreds of feet into the air. The emergency
crews that responded had to act rapidly and decisively to rescue the
tow truck driver as well as tend to other people at the scene and get
the flow of water under control. </p>

<p><a href="http://www.decisionmaking.com/">Gary Klein</a>
studied how emergency and military personnel make decisions under the
kinds of stresses that the broken steam main created. When he began his
research, detailed in his book <em>Sources of Power: How People Make Decisions</em>,
one of the firefighters he was interviewing told him: “I don’t make
decisions. I don’t remember when I’ve ever made a decision.” As it
turns out, firefighters do make decisions, lots of them, and those
decisions are made so rapidly that they are simply not aware of it. </p>

<p>Emergency personnel and other people in crisis situations use
time-pressured, super decisive, act-now sorts of decision making. For
example, a fire fighter responding to the broken steam pipe arrives on
the scene, assesses the situation,  and acts or gives orders. In those
moments (often just seconds), he or she is using knowledge and
experience to determine what to do and what might occur. The synthesis
can happen so quickly that it almost appears to be ESP. For example,
Klein tells of a fire fighter  who ordered his men out of a burning
building without really knowing why he was giving the order; seconds
later, the floor they’d been standing on collapsed.</p>

<p>According to Klein, people use four “sources of power” to make these rapid decisions. </p>

<ul>
<li>Intuition which is the synthesis of knowledge &amp; experience
and converting that synthesis into action. The synthesis is almost
instant and is not accompanied by conscious thought. It is sometimes
experiences as a “knowing.”</li>
<li>Mental simulation: Imagining how something might work--what to do and what the results would be.</li>
<li>Metaphor: Comparing the current situation to past experience or
knowledge to the current situation, looking for parallels. Metaphor
differs from intuition because it is more thoughtful and conscious.</li>
<li>Storytelling: Debriefing aloud to solidify insight, learning, and
understanding of past experience. Storytelling shares the process of
decision-making with others allowing them to have the experience
available as future metaphor. It also allows the teller to review what
went wrong and what went right in view of the next time a similar
situation might be encountered.</li>
</ul>

<p>Klein calls this sort of decision making “naturalistic.”
Naturalistic decision making is most often required when there is
little or no time for contemplation or planning along with inadequate
or incomplete information about the situation at hand, sometimes poorly
defined goals and outcomes, and a need for rapid innovation to create
novel procedures, solutions or approaches to resolve the situation. The
context for naturalistic decision making is often a situation that is
embedded in something deeper--a big picture--that has its own set of
goals, tasks and requirements. Naturalistic decisions are often made
under great uncertainty and under rapidly changing conditions. The
situation may also be complicated by stressors like fatigue and emotion
along with external factors such as distractions, interruptions,
weather conditions, light, temperature, etc. </p>

<p>The decision makers themselves must possess experience and knowledge
(the more the better), be adept at “cue learning” which allows them to
find patterns and notice distinctions amongst often ambiguous and noisy
data. Finally, Klein found that high stakes naturalistic decision
making takes place in a group setting. Most often there are multiple
actors (and thus, decision makers) who must coordinate intake of
information, analysis of pattern, and synthesis of the four “sources”
into coherent and effective action.</p>

<p>The naturalistic bit comes from the distinction that Klein makes
between what decision makers under fire really do (naturalistic) versus
what theoreticians think that people do (which is analytical, linear,
and comparative). In reality, decision making is much messier and must
take place far too quickly to allow careful analysis, comparison of
options, and a systematic planning and execution of actions.</p>

<p>You, too, can access the sources of power that are used in high stakes, life or death decision making. </p>

<ul>
<li>Intuition is developed from experience. The more experience you
accumulate, the better your intuition will become. Intuition isn’t some
airy-fairy, woowoo notion. It’s a very real activity that you can
engage in everyday. By paying attention to when your “gut” speaks up
and what you know, you can fine tune and develop a great ability to
know what you know faster.</li>
<li>Mental simulation is simply imagining. One of the things that Klein
points out is that decision-makers get stuck when they hit the limits
of their imaginations. When they can’t imagine how something might
work, they can’t move forward. In your world, the more imaginative and
creative you are, the more likely you’ll be able to access the power of
mental simulation. Get outside the box, seek other perspectives. What
you can’t imagine, someone else may be able to. Ask them.</li>
<li>Metaphor is powerful because you are making comparisons and drawing
distinctions. This is part of mindful learning and research shows that
mindful learning significantly increases what’s remembered later on. To
use metaphor, ask yourself what does the current situation remind you
of? How is it different? How is the situation relevant to you or
someone else? Don’t wait for a crisis to engage this sort of thinking.
The more you practice it now, the better you’ll be at using it when
something goes wrong.</li>
<li>The final piece of the puzzle is the debrief or storytelling. If
you can’t review what happened with someone, at least take the time to
make notes. As I’ve noted earlier, research shows that debriefing
allows you to learn more now and perform better later on.</li>
</ul>

<p>The next time you see a fire truck barreling down the highway or a
video clip of emergency personnel on television, take a moment to think
about what you’re watching. The bravery and courage that these men and
women exhibit, their lighting fast responses, and their decisive
actions save lives every single day. The sources of power that they use
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        <title>TGIF: Weekly Review edition</title>
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        <updated>2010-03-12T08:53:02-08:00</updated>
        <summary>It’s Friday! That means its time for a weekly review. Seems like it’s been a week with some themes. Theme 1: Your number one priorities are duking it out. They are using you as a punching bag. Theme 2: There...</summary>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://tararobinson.com/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml"><a href="http://zugunruhecoaching.typepad.com/.a/6a00d834521b4369e201310f938674970c-pi" style="float: left;"><img alt="Screen-capture-11" class="asset asset-image at-xid-6a00d834521b4369e201310f938674970c " src="http://zugunruhecoaching.typepad.com/.a/6a00d834521b4369e201310f938674970c-120wi" style="margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px;" /></a> It’s Friday! That means its time for a weekly review. <br /><br /><strong>Seems like it’s been a week with some themes. </strong><br /><br />Theme 1: Your number one <a href="http://tararobinson.com/2010/03/this-you.html">priorities are duking it out</a>. They are using you as a punching bag.<br /><br />Theme 2: There is too much to do for <a href="http://tararobinson.com/2010/03/this-you-two.html">one you</a> to handle. Overwhelm Overcommitment. Overload. Ohmy.<br /><br />If only there were actually two you’s! You could take some of the load and the other you could take the rest. Wouldn’t that be great? Until cloning is perfected (and actually, not even then), you’ll have to make do with you. And make some hard choices. Like how you structure your <a href="http://www.endwellcoaching.com/blog/2010/3/11/dont-box-me-in.html" target="_blank">routine</a>. And what you say ‘yes’ to. <br /><br /><strong>It was Read an Ebook Week!</strong><br /><br />And the monkey minds had something to say about that. You’ll need <a href="http://mindlikemonkey.com/2010/03/a-poet-in-my-pocket.html" target="_blank">bigger pockets</a>.<br /><br /><strong>Today is unofficial GTD Day!</strong><br /><br />By <a href="http://www.davidco.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10891" target="_blank">popular decree</a>, worldwide celebrations have begun. We celebrated a day early <a href="http://gtd-vsg.blogspot.com/2010/03/coping-with-information-tsunami.html" target="_blank">here</a>.<br /><br /><p><strong>I started the <a href="http://www.ewtn.com/Devotionals/novena/joseph.htm" target="_blank">St. Joseph Novena </a>yesterday</strong> </p><p>And asked for his help finding a personal assistant. He worked really fast.</p><br /><br /><br /><br /><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TaraRoddenRobinson/~4/tZABfBqtY_E" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>


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        <title>This You? Two.</title>
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        <published>2010-03-10T08:36:37-08:00</published>
        <updated>2010-03-10T11:55:07-08:00</updated>
        <summary>Maybe this is you, too? All that urgency we talked about last time makes you wake up at say, 2 AM, when no sane person would be trying to start their day. Except that your task list, the one that’s...</summary>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://tararobinson.com/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml">Maybe this is you, too? All that urgency we talked about <a href="http://www.tararobinson.com/2010/03/this-you.html">last time</a> makes you wake up at say, 2 AM, when no sane person would be trying to start their day. Except that your task list, the one that’s supposed to keep your <a href="http://www.davidco.com/coaches_corner/Ana_Maria_Gonz%E1lez/article5.html" target="_blank">mind like water</a>, is standing next to your bed, jabbing you in the ribs. It’s saying something to the effect of, “Hey, you think you got time to sleep? Think again, buster.” <br /><br />So you toss and turn until 4 AM and then crawl out of bed, wishing that intravenous coffee was actually an option, and thinking about all that stuff you gotta do. And so you drink your coffee and open your email and then realize it’s 7 AM. <br /><br /><a href="http://zugunruhecoaching.typepad.com/.a/6a00d834521b4369e201310f877a23970c-pi" style="float: left;"><img alt="IStock_000007896375XSmall" class="asset asset-image at-xid-6a00d834521b4369e201310f877a23970c " src="http://zugunruhecoaching.typepad.com/.a/6a00d834521b4369e201310f877a23970c-320wi" style="margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px; width: 218px; height: 326px;" /></a> Whaatttt?!!?? <br /><br />Now you’re late. And you’re frankly pissed because you could have gotten something done but you didn’t because you got sucked into email. (And you’ll never admit it to anybody but you got distracted by <a href="http://twitter.com/tararodden" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="http://tinyurl.com/ProductivityMavenFB" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, too, didn’t you? Don’t worry, I won’t tell on you.)<br /><br />You get to work feeling really grouchy and jittery. Not enough sleep. Too much caffeine. And there are three monkeys on your back: anxiety, worry, and urgency. And waiting for you at your desk is all the stuff you were fretting over at 2 AM. Crap. It’s at that moment you realize that your child’s soccer game, the one where she gets to finally be a starter, is coming up that afternoon. <br /><br />Cue music: <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZvCI-gNK_y4" target="_blank">Theme from Jaws</a>. Daaa-dunt. Daa-dunt.<br /><br />Despite what you may be thinking, there is hope. Let’s rewind.<br /><br />You wake up at 2 AM, acknowledge the task list, and turn over. You deliberately lull yourself back to sleep by using your imagination (in this case, you mentally re-read the same bedtime story read to your child a few hours earlier). <br /><br />When you awaken at 4 AM, you make your coffee and open your task list, spending ten minutes reviewing what has to be done and when. Then you do the same with your calendar. You finish up by journaling for a few minutes, reviewing the day before, thinking ahead to the day to come. Last, but not least, you use your smart phone to eyeball your email--not to actually read and respond--but to triage and make sure there’s no huge fire or smoking something that might sneak up on you. <br /><br />You engage your morning routine from there until you get to work, doing the same set of tasks you do every morning. Like making up the bed. Putting together yours or the kid’s lunches, feeding the pets, and so on.<br /><br />When you arrive for work, you feel a sense of control and order because you got some, using those sometimes poopooed routines. And you’ve already thought through what’s most important at both work and home so you’re not freaking out. No drama. You’re well prepared to take it on.<br /><p>Cue music: <a href="http://www.contactmusic.com/videos.nsf/stream/u2-beautiful-day" target="_blank">It's a Beautiful Day!</a></p><p>Which one of these you’s would you like to be? You really do get to choose.</p><p>---</p><p>Want some more stuff like this? Read these:</p><p><a href="http://tararobinson.com/2010/01/seven-dimensions-of-productivity-why-you-need-them-all.html">Seven Dimensions of Productivity: Why you need them all</a></p><p><a href="http://tararobinson.com/2009/10/focus-organziation-and-being-in-control.html.html">Focus, organization, and being in control</a></p><p><a href="http://tararobinson.com/2009/10/what-does-under-control-look-like.html.html">What does "under control" look like?</a></p><xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TaraRoddenRobinson/~4/kxUQ6ZosZT4" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>


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    <entry>
        <title>This You?</title>
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        <published>2010-03-08T09:42:10-08:00</published>
        <updated>2010-03-08T09:45:03-08:00</updated>
        <summary>“People tell me how amazing it is that I accomplish all that I do,” Amy said, “But I feel like I’m screwing up everyday.” What Amy Cueva, co-founder of Mad*Pow, was referring to was getting pinched between work and life....</summary>
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            <name>Tara Rodden Robinson</name>
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<content type="xhtml" xml:lang="en-US" xml:base="http://tararobinson.com/"><div xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml">“People tell me how amazing it is that I accomplish all that I do,” <a href="http://www.inc.com/magazine/20100301/minding-the-kids.html" target="_blank">Amy said</a>, “But I feel like I’m screwing up everyday.” <br /><br />What Amy Cueva, co-founder of <a href="http://www.madpow.net" target="_blank">Mad*Pow</a>, was referring to was getting pinched between work and life. Being a mom is challenging. Being an aspiring professional is hard. Combining the two? Even harder. And so moms and dads like Amy wind up feeling bad. If they’re at work, they’re worrying about their families. When they’re with their families, they’re fighting the urge to bury their noses in their smart phones. <br /><br />And it’s not just parents. A lot of us feel this way.<br /><br />We’re running faster and faster. We tell ourselves, “If I try just a little harder...” So we work longer hours. We get new technologies that are meant to help us keep up. We latch on to GTD as if it were a life raft in a stormy sea. Yet the sense of drowning continues. Spitting and sputtering, gasping for air. <br /><br />It should come as no surprise that all the fun goes out of it. And by it, I mean practically everything. <br /><br /><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://zugunruhecoaching.typepad.com/.a/6a00d834521b4369e20120a9155ae6970b-pi" style="float: left;"><img alt="Screen-capture-9" class="asset asset-image at-xid-6a00d834521b4369e20120a9155ae6970b " src="http://zugunruhecoaching.typepad.com/.a/6a00d834521b4369e20120a9155ae6970b-320wi" style="margin: 0px 5px 5px 0px; width: 232px; height: 148px;" /></a> </span>One dad responded by putting <a href="http://www.successories.com/product/priorities+boy+motivational+poster.do?keyword=priorities&amp;sortby=bestMatches" target="_blank">a poster</a> on his wall with a photo of a little boy who looked like his son. The word on the poster was “Priorities.” <br /><br />A teensy problem. Priorities compete. They jostle and fight for attention and bandwidth and energy and time. We attempt to referee the contest by prioritizing. That would work great if your priorities ranked neatly one, two, three. Except they don’t. There are ties. Which is to say, there are many number ones and the rest are number two. <br /><br />There’s good news: there’s really only one Number One Priority. No matter how good you are at multitasking, you only have one number one priority at a time. Because if you’re not doing it, it’s not a priority. <br /><br />If being with your family is a priority then when you’re with them, turn the Blackberry or iPhone off. If being reliable is the priority, then do your review and know what the deadlines are far enough in advance to meet them or renegotiate. <br /><br />Time passes so fast. Don’t wait until your children are grown to figure this one out. Don’t wait until your marriage founders. Don’t look up one day and say, oops, I forgot to have friends or kids or vacations.<xhtml:img xmlns:xhtml="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml" src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TaraRoddenRobinson/~4/VaVSfKQiYGM" height="1" width="1" /></div></content>


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