Love is so much: that people then do all they can to measure it to find the right love. To do this is to already fall into the trap! Do you see it? The right love, the best love, the true love… Right, Best, True… all [...]]]> Love is to look deeply into life and grow.

Love is so much: that people then do all they can to measure it to find the right love. To do this is to already fall into the trap! Do you see it? The right love, the best love, the true love… Right, Best, True… all are words of judgement and within judgement all love crumbles into dust.

How can you have true love, if you are always measuring the person you love? Always comparing, a person as a commodity to those who might be younger, smarter, more beautiful, fresher, newer …

We are each unique, think of the person you are with as unique and you quickly discover that person is without compare.

Love isn’t about a measurement nor a judgement.. Love is about who helps you grow and expand and become more.

No one person is perfect for another, yes many people can fit into our lives, there is more than one soul mate out there for you. Life isn’t a chase to find all the soul mates nor the best. It’s about being with the person who helps you enjoy life, explore and continue to become more.

So when ever you think of your (partner) / (prospective partner) relative to another person, or if you say things like: “I would be crazy not to” (yes there is self judgement in this statement equally as bad)… those are judgements, each are pathways to thinking a better person is out there for you or for them. At this point you have immediately and from the start begun to undercut your relationship.

You will not make the distance, by undercutting your relationship with judgement at the start.

We are each unique Fall in love with each other’s uniqueness.

That is beyond compare and as a result creates for a more balanced relationship.

Earlier today, I [...]]]> Samadhi is a state of mind… well really more a way of holding essence. The term itself comes from India, but you will find it occasionally in Taoist literature also (usually only in western books, not classically). Multiple styles of meditation can get you into various different states of Samadhi.

Earlier today, I was describing Samadhi to a student and this was how I expressed it (or my own experience of being in Samadhi):

Samadhi is putting your essence into neutral, outside of your stories, but still allowing it to flow as a dandelion seed in the universal winds.

I like this definition, for me it fits pretty well.

Now lets look at teaching for a moment.

The 2nd 3rd of teaching is the flow of the words and the feelings that arise in reading it.

The 3rd third is the dialogue that follows and how that adds in depth and angles to the lesson.

We need all three to learn fully.

(1) So look at this statement first by definitions:

Disengage focused self awareness of consciousness, Let go of your stories and let your awareness explore the universe without direction.

(2) Then look at this statement by feeling the flow

Samadhi is putting your essence into neutral, outside of your stories, but still allowing it to flow as a dandelion seed in the universal winds.

(3) Then add in depth by following any conversation here or dialogue you find on the internet about Samadhi.

Everyone, please don’t be afraid to dive in, that’s part of what makes learning work.

Enjoy.

I recently received some wisdom from the moon…

Some of us are more like the moon in that we are not a sun – directly generating light and energy. However, we can reflect the light of others in a beautiful and meaningful way and be known for this reflected light as if it were [...]]]>

I recently received some wisdom from the moon…

Some of us are more like the moon in that we are not a sun – directly generating light and energy. However, we can reflect the light of others in a beautiful and meaningful way and be known for this reflected light as if it were our own – similar to the moonlight being reflected sunlight.

People see the light, reflected or direct – as light. The importance is that light is shared and shining.

-Julie 2013

It isn’t hard to post a pretty picture to help a person find inspiration. To post such pictures [...]]]> It isn’t hard to post pictures to show… so many terrible things… all happening around the world today. To post such pictures to highlight truth… only numbs people… I don’t think people need to be shocked awake…

It isn’t hard to post a pretty picture to help a person find inspiration. To post such pictures to highlight such truth… only numbs people… I don’t think people need to be lifted into enlightenment.

Enlightenment is release. You can’t force nor lift a person into it: A person just starts by willing (opening awareness) and then (followed by actions) releasing what doesn’t work anymore to start living a better life.

I don’t need to post any pictures to connect any dots for you. If you are reading my site, you are already waking up.

So the question simply becomes: In waking up, as you begin pulling together a newer life: Are you also willing to release what doesn’t work to make room so you can live that new life?

This is the start of a simple truth that echoes in all aspects of life, your own life, for how you connect and help others, how you explore, grow and help the world also grow… rather than diminish in your actions.

Yes if you are reading my site chances are you are starting a new life. So begin living it as a new life.

If you are still looking for a first step: try this…

Turn off the media.. Turn on your life.

All too often I get the “Help me because they did this!!!” question.

Help me! He left me for another woman…, Help me! She is acting like a child… HELP me THEY… they they they.

It isn’t about “They” or “Them”

If this is you… [...]]]> I help many people move ahead more gracefully in life.

All too often I get the “Help me because they did this!!!” question.

Help me! He left me for another woman…, Help me! She is acting like a child… HELP me THEY… they they they.

It isn’t about “They” or “Them”

If this is you… (sorry to label you in a general pronoun sense) Then read on.

Your problem now has nothing to do with Them, It has everything to do with you.

You are making it about them, since they started the ball rolling and have defined the problem you must face: How do I now live?

Don’t you see the switch that happened when you allowed yourself to be defined by this other person? The situation has nothing to do about them: the problem is now all about how you will live from this point on! So while you are focusing on what initially caused the problem you are also busily and actively now ignoring your own life. The real question has only the word “I” in it no “them, him or her” in it at all. So how will you now live?

For example:

Look closely “They left me, should I wait?” -> is really -> “I am alone what should I do?”

Almost every question of this style of expression really flips into being: “What should I do now?”

Ask yourself can I survive on just waiting. Ask yourself is this really about them? The answer is no. NO! As you wait, as you linger, as you push out the problem to them… you slowly undercut and destroy your own life also.

Move ahead with living. They can always decide to catch back up later, but you can’t live in “later”. You have to live in the “here and now”.

So live. It has nothing to do with waiting: it has everything to do with living.

To measure crazy…. is to become crazy.

The changes we are now seeing have actually been put into motion years ago and will flow out. Society is merely catching up to the facts (But [...]]]> The world has already cracked open.
Why proclaim “OH No!”
When it’s still possible to improve life around us?

To measure crazy…. is to become crazy.

The changes we are now seeing have actually been put into motion years ago and will flow out. Society is merely catching up to the facts (But first society will deny the facts as hard as possible which reinforces the greater change later).

Instead of letting crazy times define life:
I am going…
deeper into my heart,
discovering how to live in even kinder ways.
Side stepping the media,
working in ever better ways
improving my life at an every increasing rate.

Strangely as times get crazier, my own life is becoming saner and clearer every moment now.

So the lesson is as Douglas Adams pointed out many years ago.

Don’t Panic!

Be flexible and roll with a new life.

If you are trying to stay with the older lifestyle now: well that is just plain crazy…

Ask yourself each day:

What can I do to be more kind to myself and others?
What can I do to slow down and pause?
What can I do to move with a little more grace?

And then just do it, even if it at fist appears silly. Silly is just doing something out of lock step of society. Considering what society is doing, I think risking a bit of silly will be just fine.

Life is ten thousand bricks

At times, it is all in a Big Pile. Daunting & taunting one into doing nothing.

At times you manage to place them all as a house to live in.
With nice fluffy brick flowers
And a nice bricky wife and kids…

We look for more in our partners. We seek soulmates.

The reason for so much energy being put towards love is: love is helping another become more.

The trap is to put a person in our hearts. We change, people change… [...]]]> In the drive to be more. We do so many crazy things.

We look for more in our partners. We seek soulmates.

The reason for so much energy being put towards love is: love is helping another become more.

The trap is to put a person in our hearts. We change, people change… To place a person in your heart is to break your heart later upon changing.

Put connection to a person in your heart. In that manner as you change, as they change.. you stay connected and still help each other grow.

In this day we celebrating love, remember to strengthen your connections with flexibility rather than smothering, deepen connection with communication not restrictions.

Look to love being growth rather than something that never changes.

How one achieves the awareness also varies from technique to technique.

Many meditation techniques change the way the mind thinks or the state of mind in order to fine tune and deepen the awareness.

Awareness is a [...]]]> Meditation is a process of awareness. What you use the awareness for varies from meditation technique to technique.

How one achieves the awareness also varies from technique to technique.

Many meditation techniques change the way the mind thinks or the state of mind in order to fine tune and deepen the awareness.

Awareness is a process of connection. How you use the awareness to connect to the world around you is a personal choice.

IN order to achieve awareness certain conditions usually must be met. For example. If you are too busy… then it isn’t very easy to be aware. So the first step is to slow down, to pause a bit. Once in pause, it’s then possible to be in a place of stillness. In stillness you can then connect out far. It isn’t required to connect out once in stillness, it’s one option of many.

Ironically many people in the west to meditate is not an attempt to be aware, but used as a method to find peace or quietness. Since the first steps to get awareness is to go into pause. Which makes sense, if you are too busy running around, going into a meditation session to pause is a gift indeed. But because of this many people in the west misunderstand meditation, they think it is all about the pause and peace rather than awareness.

Of course going into a quiet place just so you can be aware that you can pause… well that is a place of meditation in itself.

So it’s all good.

Discover that meditation can be many many things.. all depending on how you use your awareness.

The question becomes… what is it.. that you need to connect to, in order to help complete your life?

That is something to meditate upon.

Now we have three levels of awareness. Just because you are aware doesn’t mean you are meditating.

(1) Awareness with Senses.

(2) Awareness with Measurement (Judgement)

(3) Interactive Awareness (Where you and what you are aware of are shaping each other in a back / forth process)

(4) Awareness with Acceptance. (Releasing judgement but still active in being a witness)

Most people spend their time in the first two levels. To actively meditate, you actually need to be at the third or fourth level of Awareness. The third and forth levels of awareness are not as simple as they seem. The third level of awareness is a bit strange because you can apply level 2 or 4 of awareness in how you interactively work with something. If you are in Interactive awareness with Judgement, chances you are not meditating properly nor gracefully. For example driving is an example of Interactive Awareness with Measurement. Driving can feel very similar to being in a meditative state, but it isn’t for most people, due to the judgement aspects of making measurements as you drive. It really comes down to the state of mind you hold while you shape awareness into a meditation. This can be confusing at first to many people because the lines do blur a bit.

Eventually I will go into this deeper and write up a full article.