The world is not flat, the earth does rotate, muscle does not turn to fat and the list goes on and on.

I bring this up because last week I was invited to give a lecture to a small group on the subject of self-defense. I jumped at the chance to do so, because self-defense is a subject that I have a great passion about sharing with others.

The lecture/workshop went very well and I got some very positive feedback from all the people there.

When I do these lectures/workshops I always have a person ask about or tell me a secret they know about in the martial arts. It never fails…and I always know what they are going to tell me.

This night was no different from the rest. A small older lady walked over to me and said, “I know 3 ways to kill a man.” I said, You do? I knew what she had on her mind, but I just had to ask. Tell me….what is one of those ways? She told me that she had went through some training years ago and the number one way to kill a man is by hitting him square in the face and driving the bone of his nose through his brain.

I knew it! I knew she was going to say that….it never ever fails!

That is an old Hollywood bit from an old, old movie. It is physically impossible to do that. Your nose has no bone to speak of and think about how far away your brain is from your nose.

If a person was to die from a strike to the nose it is not because the bone of the nose went through the brain.

How many old beliefs do you have that may be holding you back from your success in life?

Lane Resources Inc.

© 2010

Lynn Lane

I recently had the privilege of hearing Dr. Tim Irwin speak at an event where I served as the Master of Ceremony/Speaker. Tim has interviewed over 10,000 people in his career as an organizational psychologist and as an international consultant. He made this amazing statement, “I have never interviewed or talked with anyone who did not have, at their core, a desire to be great.” His observation is that everyone is passionate about something and I would concur.

Each day most Americans get up and go to jobs where they have no passion. As a consequence, they will not achieve greatness. On average, they will spend 60-65% of their waking hours toiling at jobs where they have no sense of engagement. Gallup did a study a few years ago where they interviewed 1.7 million workers representing 77,000 companies and/or divisions. They asked the question, “Are you engaged in your job?” The response was startling in the level of honesty and the state of affairs in American business:

• 55% felt no degree of engagement or sense of passion for their jobs.
• 16% responded that not only were they not engaged in their jobs, they described themselves as actively disengaged. Jim Collins, author of Good to Great, calls these people, OBT – On-Board Terrorists. They work for you but they are attempting to blow up the company by disrupting the culture of the organization.

Add up the two statistics and you get a 71% disconnect rate – meaning that only 29% of workers have any degree of passion for their jobs. It is impossible to have greatness when your passion is at room temperature.

So, how can you be great at your job?

1. Find the work where your skills and the world’s needs intersect and you will find passion.
2. If you are in job that you do not like, do your best work anyway and your day will come.
3. Being great in your work means that you have discovered meaning in the work that you do each day.
4. Focus on the meaning of your work and you will operate at your highest and best rather than your lowest and least.
5. Being great at your job happens when you become more concerned about your contributions rather than your rewards.

If you are an employer, remember: People will work harder for meaning than they ever will for money!

By Barry Joe McDonagh.

I’ve often observed that many people’s top-ranking fear is not death but having to speak in public. The joke is that these people would rather lie in a casket at their own funeral than give the eulogy.

Public speaking for people who suffer from panic attacks or general anxiety often becomes a major source of worry, possibly weeks or even months before the speaking event is to occur.

These speaking engagements don’t necessarily have to be the traditional “on a podium” events; they can be as simple as an office meeting where the individual is expected to express an opinion or give verbal feedback.

In this case, the fear centers on having a panic attack while speaking. The individuals fear being incapacitated by the anxiety and hence unable to complete what they’re saying. They imagine fleeing the spotlight and having to make all kinds of excuses later for their undignified departure -out the office window . . .

This differs slightly from the majority of people who fear public speaking. With others, their fear tends to revolve around going blank while speaking or feeling uncomfortable under the spotlight of their peers. The jitters or nerves are, of course, a problem for this group as well-but they’re unfamiliar with that debilitating threat, the panic attack, because they most likely haven’t experienced one before.

So how should a person with an anxiety issue tackle public speaking?

Stage 1 is accepting that all of these bizarre and, quite frankly, unnerving sensations aren’t going to go away overnight. In fact, you’re not even going to concern yourself with getting rid of them for your next talk. When they arrive during a speech or meeting, you’re going to approach them in a new manner.

We need to build your confidence back to where it used to be before any of these sensations ever occurred. This time, you’ll approach it in a unique, empowering manner, allowing you to feel your confidence again. Some say that most of the top speakers are riddled with anxiety before an event, but they somehow use this nervousness to enhance their speech.

I’m going to show you exactly how to do this.

My first point is this, and it’s important:

The average healthy person can experience an extreme array of anxiety and very uncomfortable sensations while giving a speech and is in no danger of ever losing control, or even appearing slightly anxious to the audience. No matter how tough it gets, you’ll always finish your piece-even if, at the outset, it feels very uncomfortable to go on.

You won’t become incapacitated in any way.

The real breakthrough happens when you fully believe that you’re not in danger and that the sensations will pass. By asking for more, you’re saying:

“I realize that you [the anxiety] hold no threat over me.”

What keeps a panic attack coming again and again is the fear of the fear-the fear that the next one will really knock your socks off and the feeling that you were lucky to have made it past the last one unscathed.

Because they were so unnerving and scary, it’s your confidence that’s been damaged by previous anxiety episodes. Once you fully understand that you’re not under any threat, then you can have a new response to the anxiety as it arises while speaking.

There’s always a turning point when a person moves from general anxiety into a panic attack, and that happens with public speaking when you think to yourself:

I won’t be able to handle this in front of these people.

That split second of self-doubt leads to a rush of adrenaline, and the extreme anxiety arrives in a wavelike format. If, however, you feel the initial anxiety and react with confidence that this isn’t a threat to you, you’ll process the anxiety rapidly.

Using this new approach is a powerful ally because it means it’s okay to feel scared and anxious when speaking. That’s fine-you’ll feel it, and you’ll move with and through the sensations in your body and out the other side.

Because people are often very anxious before the talk has begun, they may feel they’ve already let themselves down. Now you can relax on that point. It’s perfectly natural to feel the anxiety.

Take, for example, the worst of the sensations you’ve ever experienced in this situation-be it general unease or loss of breath. You’ll have an initial automatic reaction that says:

“Danger-I’m going to have an episode of anxiety here, and I really can’t afford for that to happen.”

At this point, most people react to that idea and confirm that it must be true because of all the unusual feelings they’re experiencing. This is where your train of thought creates a cycle of anxiety that produces a negative impact on your overall presenting skills.

So let that initial “Oh dear, not now” thought pass by, and immediately follow it up with the attitude of:

“There you are-I’ve been wondering when you would arrive. I’ve been expecting you to show up. By the way, I’m not in the least threatened by any of the strange sensations you’re creating. I’m completely safe here.”

Instead of pushing the emotional energy and excitement down into your stomach, you’re moving through it.

Your body is in a slightly excited state, exactly as it should be while giving a speech-so release that energy in your self-expression. Push it out through your presentation, not down into your stomach.

Push it out by expressing yourself more forcefully. In this way, you turn the anxiety to your advantage by using it to deliver a speech; you’ll come across as more alive, energetic, and in the present moment.

When you notice the anxiety drop, as it does when you willingly move into it, fire off a quick thought when you get a momentary break (as I’m sure you have between pieces), and ask it for “more.” You want more of its intense feelings because you’re interested in them and absolutely not threatened by them.

It seems like a lot of things to be thinking about while talking to a group of people, but it really isn’t. You’d be amazed at how many different, unrelated thoughts you can have while speaking. This approach is about adopting a new attitude of confidence about what you might have deemed a serious threat up until now.

If your predominant fear of speaking is driven by a feeling of being trapped, then I suggest factoring in some mental releases that can be prepared before the event. For example, some events allow you to turn the attention back to the room to get feedback, etc., from the audience. If possible, prepare such opportunities in your own mind before the engagements.

This isn’t to say that you have to use them, but people in this situation often remark that just having small opportunities where attention can be diverted for the briefest moment makes the task seem less daunting.

It may even be something as simple as having people introduce themselves or opening the floor to questions. I realize these diversions aren’t always possible and depend on the situation, but anything you can factor in that makes you feel less trapped or under the spotlight is worth the effort.

Barry Joe McDonagh

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In the year 1723, a seventeen year-old boy arrived in Philadelphia without a penny to his name. At age 42, he retired, wealthy. Few men, before or since have ever been as successful as Benjamin Franklin. He gave credit for his many inventions and business successes to this list of 13 principles. Each of them should be practiced in order, for a week at a time, so that all of them become a habit in your life. They’ll work as well today as they did then.

1. Temperance: Eat not dullness; drink not to elevation.
2. Silence: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself, avoid trifling conversation.
3. Order: Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have it’s time.
4. Resolution: Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
5. Frugality: Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; waste nothing.
6. Industry: Lose no time; be always employed in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
7. Sincerity: Use no harmful deceit; think innocently and justly; and if you speak, speak accordingly.
8. Justice: wrong none by doing injuries or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
9. Moderation: Avoid extremes; forebear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
10. Cleanliness: Tolerate no uncleanness in body, clothes or habitation.
11. Tranquility: Be not disturbed at trifles, nor at accidents.
12. Chastity: Be chaste in matters with the opposite sex.
13. Humility: Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

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Frippicisim: It is not your clients’ and prospects’ job to remember you. It is your obligation and responsibility to make sure they don’t forget you.

1. Don’t overlook the obvious. Go through your address book, data base, Christmas card list and confirm everybody you know is familiar with your profession, what your specialty is, and who is the perfect prospect for you to best serve.

2. If you used to work in another industry, update your satisfied clients that you can still serve them in this different capacity.

3. Keep in touch with your present clients more frequently. Not just asking for referrals. The better your relationship with them the more they will want to send you new prospects.

4. One of my friends in the advertising specialty business had a very creative office decor. Anyone who had seen it raved about it. Going up in the elevator of his building of 22 floors I had a conversation with a fellow passenger. I asked, “Do you work in this building or are you visiting?” He mentioned he had worked there for 2 years. I inquired if he had ever heard of my friend Jonathan and his unique and memorable office. He said “No.” My recommendation to my friend and everyone else who works in a large building is to every few months go from floor to floor, office to office, and introduce yourself to your neighbors. You could well quadruple your business close to home.

5. Don’t forget to work on your sales presentation skills!

Patricia Fripp is an award-winning keynote speaker, executive speech coach, and in-demand sales presentation skills trainer. www.fripp.com, pfripp@fripp.com, (415) 753-6556

Simple Communication Tips That Build Business

Author: Carole Hodges

Studies show that words only convey 7% of meaning. Tonality provides 38% of our understanding and body language. 55%. Keep this in mind when writing e-mail.

* Be short and factual in your communication. People are busy and long e-mails are less likely to be read.
* Ask clearly for what you want. If you want an e-mail response or a phone call, be sure that you have stated that directly.
* It is good to speak in conversational language, which is friendly and inviting. Yet, sarcasm or humor can be misunderstood without tonality. Reread your e-mail, out loud without expression, to ensure that it says what you meant.
* If you use Outlook, you can request a return receipt, which will advise you when your e-mail has been opened. This can be helpful for important notifications and avoids the need to ask for an acknowledgment.

Gold Calling

There is money in your telephone. You have the opportunity to make new relationships every time you pick up the phone. While e-mails are fine for communicating facts, they can never substitute or one to one communication.

Prepare Your Self

Prepare yourself before you make phone calls. Your mood and attitude will be communicated in your voice. Imagine you are going to a party with your best friends. You walk in with a big smile, feeling great, and expecting a good time. When you make calls with this attitude, people will be more receptive.

When you are not the right mood, do something to lighten up. Put on music and dance. Read or listen to an inspirational message. Place pictures of your dream home or travel or loved ones in your workspace. Be willing to be silly. Could you smile, if you wore a red clown’s nose while making calls? Working at home means you have more options than in an office.

Phone Finesse

Develop the fine art of phone courtesy and listening.

* Ask whether your client has enough time for your call. If they say no, reschedule and call another time.
* Listen for cues in their voice. If they speak fast match their speed. If they speak slowly then slow down to their pace. Increase or reduce your volume to match theirs.
* Notice whether they like to be social, or simply want to get the task done.

· If they are fast-paced and task oriented. They will appreciate your getting right to the point. Don’t waste their time. Tell them what you need and ask for a decision. They will appreciate your no-nonsense approach.

· If they are fast-paced and social, be prepared to name drop. They will want to know who else uses your product. They will be interested in meetings were lots of other people are present.

· If they are slower paced and very friendly. They may want to take their time in making a decision. You can help them make a decision more quickly if you tell them all the ways that you minimize their risk. They will want to know about guarantees and proven results.

· Someone who is slower paced and is detail oriented, may want lots of facts. They may want ingredients and proof of results as well as certifications, comparisons, and documentation. They are likely to ask questions for which you not have the answer. Be honest at all times. If a question doesn’t make sense, feel free to ask, “ Why is that important to you?”

Every phone conversation is an opportunity to improve your skills. Some people you call will be a delight, others may be downright rude. Keep it light! If you look at it as a game, it can be far more enjoyable.

Face-To-Face Meetings

If you are new to working at home. It is easy to fall into the “Howard Hughes Syndrome”. Suddenly you find that because you CAN work in your pajamas, you haven’t been out of them for two weeks.

The strongest relationships are made in face to face meetings. It is very acceptable to meet people in coffee shops and over meals. Find time to meet with people in some of the following ways:

* Networking Meetings.
* Chamber Of Commerce meetings.
* Special interest events. (Check out meetup.com for a list of special events near you).
* Closing contracts.
* Delivering products.
* Training.

Celebrate the opportunity to work from home. You have the flexibility to control your destiny.

About the Author:

Are you tired of struggling for success? Carole Hodges provides the kind of guidance that business owners need in this busy world. Get your Special Report: 15 Attitudes that Complicate Your Life and Paralyze Your Business and simple tips to make change NOW.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Today Jan.1 we start a new year. We can leave any nonsense from last year behind and move forward to new ideas, goals and dreams.

Future

We live in a very exciting time. Technology is growing at light speed. We will all be surprised at all the new things technology will do for our futures. Science says that in the near future (10-15 years) we may not need to worry about organ transplants because they will have the technology to grow you an organ from your own DNA. Science also tells us that cancer and heart disease will be a thing of the past.

Technology

As technology grows we will have a smart phone that will compete with any pc. We will be able to do all of our work from our smart phone. You may see some smart phones marketed as a free item just to get your business.

Momentum in the New Year!

Just as any year before us we will all have new problems and obstacles to work around. The hard part is moving forward and working through that area of life. When you study success and the successful people that have opened the pathway for us, you will find that the more you work and go forward the more momentum you gain.

Your Plan for the New Year!

Do you have a new plan or will you still use the old plan?

Are you making any new goals?

What is different about you from last year?

What areas have you grown in? Apply That Knowledge!

Demand more from life and from yourself!

My Tips for the New Year!

Join a Mastermind Group!

Laugh More!

Sing More!

Dance More!

Read More!

Learn More!

Give More!

Spend More Time With Family & Friends!

Meet More People!

Help More People!

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Have a great year and enjoy the journey!

Lane Resources Inc.