A lighter way to bring Sex Week to a close.

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There are several readers who sent in questions they’d like addressed as part of Sex Week on Simple Marriage. Were I to attempt to cover them in a post, the length of the post would likely limit the amount of people who would read the entire thing.

In this episode, I have two fellow bloggers join me in an informal discussion about sex and the questions submitted by readers. Alisa Bowman of Project Happily Ever After and Gina Parris of ginaparris.com join me on the call.

Interested in how sex can be used in marriage?

Or what happens when the wife’s sexual desire exceeds the husband’s?

Or what happens in a sexless marriage, and how to get it back?

Then pour yourself something to drink, sit back relax and enjoy the episode.

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Do you know what it feels like to have your spouse do you – not just bringing you to orgasm or have intercourse – but really do you?

Do you know what it feels like to do your spouse?

The fine art of doing and being done.

At it’s core is power. And the fact is that negotiating power is part of every human relationship.

Almost everything in our society teaches equity, so do many therapists. The message they try to get across is this: the ideal partner is to be one of absolute equality in every area of the relationship.

I’ve got news for you – equity has no place when it comes to eroticism. The ability to take your partner (or be taken by them) embodies a lusty, lascivious eagerness for pleasure. This isn’t crudeness – quite the opposite – it’s a deliberate intent to arouse (and satisfy) passion.

If you’re one of the many who’ve yet to experience this level of passion and eroticism in marriage, or if you’ve had a taste of it but it faded over time, don’t worry. For most people, the eroticism and level of passion I’m talking about ripens in later life.

It involves tapping into the male and female energy found in a couple’s union. The Yin and the Yang, to use Eastern terms. When you tap into this within yourself and your spouse, you form the energy loop that Tantric sex has focused on for centuries.

This energy creates the “follow the connection” types of sexual encounters. The times when you feel like your spouse “knows” you completely and can send you over the edge whenever they choose to do so. In essence, they have power over you – and wielding this power produces an erotic pleasure within themselves.

Many people in our culture are afraid of this power. It’s labeled as bad or something dirty. It’s something Nice Guys and Nice Girls would never do. But, it’s an aspect of every one of us.

So how do you reach this level of eroticism and sexual passion?

The short answer is grow up and develop this part of you.

For many people, this part of themselves is yet to be born. If you think it has reached maturity in you, answer me this: When your partner really ticks you off, how do you react? Can you lovingly and passionately integrate the anger and aggression you feel towards your spouse and turn it into something useful and life-giving ? Or are you more likely to react to the anger and do anything you can to get away from your spouse? Can the fact that your spouse is different and separate from you be a turn on rather than a turn off?

Fully creating this part in your life involves learning how to acknowledge the aggression and anger towards your spouse (which is in all of us), soothing yourself, mastering yourself, and “growing” through the discomfort.

When we climb into bed with our spouse, we each carry different expectations, hopes, plans, and passions to the experience about to unfold.

Let’s face it, on a basic biological level men and women are different. Arousal, pleasure, eroticism, power, even orgasms are different.

Many men can be quite envious of a woman’s orgasm. Look at the differences between us, when a man has an orgasm, while the feeling is great it seems to pale in comparison to a woman’s. A woman is capable of full body orgasms. It seems to pulsate like waves throughout her entire body. Plus, and the biggest source of male envy, a woman is capable of wave after wave. A man has to have some recovery time. Just look at the different faces and expressions between the two sexes and you’ll get confirmation of the difference.

So rather than focus on the differences that separate you and your spouse, what if you brought more of yourself to the party? And they brought more of themselves?

Could you handle that?

Many of you will quickly reply … yes!

Really though?

Think about it this way, to my male readers, can you really handle a full grown woman? One who knows what she wants sexually and how she wants it? A woman in touch with her raw, animalistic nature? This will require more of you, perhaps MUCH more of you! It may mean that after you’ve experienced your orgasm you have to stay around for hers. It may me you have to submit to her power, or you have to over-power her and truly take her.

And to my female readers, are you ready for a full grown man? Someone in touch with his power, or what Robert Bly refers to as the deep male? A man in tune with his raw, animalistic nature? This too, will require more of you.

If you’re interested in creating this part of you and your relationship, here’s a few ideas to help get you started. Realize however, that this developing takes time and growth to be fully born out in your life and marriage.

1. Slow down. This is the number one thing I tell every couple I work with when it comes to sex. I understand the desire to rush things, because the longer the process of sex lasts, the more likely some things will surface within you that are uncomfortable. Slow down.  When the discomfort within you arises, face it head on.
2. Breathe. Much like the previous point, spend some time throughout the entire process just breathing. Focus on your breathing, and matching your partner’s breathing.
3. Speak up, but not with words. Use your body. Your movements. Your power. Watch each other feel the process. And let yourself be seen. Use words when needed for direction, but also use moans, groans … you get the idea.

Surrendering and growing into this part of you is no simple matter. Doing your spouse, or allowing yourself to be done, involves “standing on your own two feet.” It’s not forcing yourself on your spouse – it’s a letting go with your spouse.

Tapping into eroticism and new levels of passion requires tremendous personal integrity. It takes a great deal of integrity to face head on the demands and challenges of exploring your sexual potential.

But you know what? Every one of us has some untapped sexual potential just waiting to be discovered.

You can place two violins next to each other, pluck the string on one of them and the corresponding string on the other violin will vibrate. It recognizes its own wave. Marriage and sex can be the same. You and your spouse can resonate with each other, creating your own music together.

So what do you say? Don’t just make music with your spouse, create a symphony together!

Sources:
David Schnarch, Passionate Marriage
Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity

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Does this make you hot:

Wake up at 6:30, make coffee, hurry the kids to the bus, quick kiss on the cheek, work all day, get home, make dinner, argue over 6th grade math homework, pay bills, clean up after everyone, tuck kids into bed, wash dishes, pack tomorrow’s lunch, wash face, consider plucking eyebrows, check out the size of your love handles and crawl into bed.

Sexy, huh?

Its true – day-to-day married life doesn’t leave much room for sexy, let alone sex.

Add in the fact that marrieds gain an average of 6 to 9 pounds more than single people over 5 years and you’ve got a recipe for a cushy little rut.

As marriage ferments, your sex life feels more stale than pungent. Your inner sex kitten hides behind a gut that never existed before.

Sure, we want our husbands to be happy. By now we know that means lots of, key word: lots of sex. But what about the kids? What about working?

Say it with me: What about sleep?

When sex feels like a chore, nobody wins. When sex stops being sexy, a bleak, sexless, passionless horizon looms.

So what, you say? There’s more to life than sex, sex, sex. That’s obvious (see top description). But when it comes to a happy marriage, sex is cornerstone content. Its what separates husbands from friends. So stimulate your sexy self. You owe it to your marriage and inner sex kitten. Here are some ways to coax her back to the surface.

Think about what turns you on. There’s no shame in this. What body part, what touch, what sight excites you?

Think back to a time you felt sexy. Was it before a 10-pound baby pooped on the dream of ever having a flat stomach again? Was it when you had fewer responsibilities? Pinpoint the exact memories. What can you learn from the past? What does it tell you? Is it time for a little exercise, delegation or a weekend alone, just the two of you? Relive the past in news ways.

Think about your lover. Go over a mental image of his smile, his endearing qualities, his parts, the way he smells, the way he looks at you.

Ask him to tell you why you’re sexy. What excites him about your body, your touch, your skills? Turn down the lights. Lock the bedroom door.

Recall a hot memory. Remember that one time in the Dominican Republic when you … and then I … that was fun.

Write a sex letter. Prepare this just like a love letter. Write down all the turn ons, all the memories, every place, every position. Then read it to each other out loud.

Explore your own sexuality. A therapist once remarked how surprised she was to see individuals willing to explore outside their marriage, but so few willing to explore in it. You are husband and wife. Make the most of this amazing union. Try something new. Make it sweaty, marathon, do it three ways good.

Or even just a quickie in the morning before the kids wake. That works, too.

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Welcome to sex week on Simple Marriage.

As we get started, let me ask you this: What does sex mean to you?

Seriously, spend a bit of time with this question. In your answer you will discover the key to unlocking much more in this area of your life.

If you’d prefer to examine this idea on a broader scale, change the previous question to: What does your sexuality mean to you?

We are all sexual beings. Our sexuality is intimately linked with the rest of our life. It’s even linked to our spirituality. In fact, the two are intertwined.

That’s the way everything is in life. We may think we are compartmentalized beings: the work you, the home you, the friend you, etc. but each area is interrelated.

To me, when you look at sex and sexuality … it’s a language. And as humans, we are the only species capable of making meaning with the things do in our life. When it comes to sex, a lot is placed on the meaning attached to the act.

When you get down to it, sex is an act, but it’s also so much more than that.

The key to better sex rests in the meaning placed on it.

There’s always a deeper meaning to the things in our life.

A couple keeps having the same arguments about trivial things. Yesterday it was how to park the car, before that it was the phone bill, before that it was about whose turn it was to take the dog out, and now it’s happening again. They’re in the kitchen debating how to properly slice a tomato. They’ve been married for several years and would say it’s been great, but they’re at this point in the relationship where deeper issues like trust and commitment and kids and vulnerability are lingering in their minds and hearts, and underneath it all they both have this question: “If I get closer to my spouse will they leave me?” But neither of them has voiced this, and both of them experienced their parents’ divorcing at a young age, so anytime tension or conflict comes up, things get confusing quickly and so they’re just at this moment realizing that this argument has nothing to do with how to slice a tomato. (adapted from Rob Bell, Sex God)

Or, the foreplay is progressing along fine and you both are enjoying the time together when suddenly your partner disengages and it has nothing to do with what’s going on in bed at the moment, but you take offense and storm off while your partner lays there feeling even more guilty and alone.

So what’s your meaning when it comes to sex?

Connection. Release. Love. Power. Commitment. Procreation.

No one can define it for you. It must come from you.

There are times when meanings change. Sometimes sex is just a release. Other times it’s a longing for closer connection. Sometimes you just want to give, other times you want to be taken.

It doesn’t have to have the same meaning each time, but it helps to be aware of what you’re looking for.

As you enter into sex, invite your lover into your world, be honest. Speak up.

Here’s a couple of ideas for better sex in your marriage.

1. Understand the meaning of sex for you. What are you looking for when you seek out your lover?
2. Speak up. Let your partner know what’s going on in your mind. Tell them what you’re looking for. Let them in on your experience during the encounter. Let them experience all of you. And while you’re at it, seek to experience all of them.
3. Take an anatomy class. Most people understand the basic idea when it comes to sex, at least intercourse. But there are many couples that seem to think that’s all sex is. Wrong! There are many ways to be sexual. Talk to your partner. Learn their anatomy. Teach them your anatomy. Learn their pleasure points. Yours. Would it surprise you to learn that an often overlooked G spot is the mind? It’s actually our most potent sexual organ.

Sex can be extremely pleasurable. But it doesn’t happen by chance. It’s more than getting naked and “doing it.” For great sex, you have to show up, be more present, more open, more vulnerable, more alive.

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It’s been a while since we’ve had a podcast here on Simple Marriage, so it high time we offer another up. Here it is.

Today, you won’t have to sit and listen to just me. Instead you will be treated to an interview I had with Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo of One Extraordinary Marriage.

Ever wondered what it would be like to have sex every day for 60 days?

Wonder what an experience like this would teach you about yourself and your marriage?

In this episode you’ll hear about their experience. What they learned, how it challenged them and the impact this experiment had on their marriage today.

It’s a great episode and I think you’ll enjoy it.

As always I welcome your thoughts and comments.

Enjoy.

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This is a follow up to last week’s post on Nice People sex as well as a bonus Pre-Sex Week post.

Sex is powerful, chaotic, and wild. Full of all types of energy – spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical. Every person who ventures into the world of sex does so with some level of anxiousness, nervousness, excitement, and perhaps even fear.

Because of the power surrounding sex, people will try to keep the chaos and anxieties at a tolerable level. This explains the routine that overtakes our sex life. Look at it this way, when it comes to sex there are things that you are uncomfortable doing or trying, at the same time, there are things your partner is uncomfortable trying or doing – so you do whatever is left over.

I doubt you entered into your relationship with this as your plan. No one does.

You meet someone through a potent alchemy of attraction. Filled with energy and endless possibilities of hope, life beyond the mundane and a glimpse into a world of passion and excitement. Love captures you and you feel powerful. You long for the times together. You cherish every moment, touch, glance, look. But underneath it all, you’re scared.

The more you become attached, the more you have to lose. So you set out to make love more secure. You look for ways to harness the energy and power. Commitments to each other, habits, rituals, and routine each provide a bit of reassurance. But this comes at a price.

The excitement early in relationships is bound to a certain measure of insecurity. By harnessing the uncertainty and spontaneity, you wind up draining the vitality out of the relationship.

You like the comfort, but miss the freedom. The routine serves a purpose but you miss the spontaneity. In your attempt to control the risks of passion, you tame it out of existence.

Enter – marital boredom.

Long term relationships tend to favor the predictable over the unpredictable. The problem is, eroticism thrives on the unpredictable.

Passion in relationships is commensurate with the amount of uncertainty you can tolerate.

So how do you move beyond sex that is nice and into something more?

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes. ~ Marcel Proust

To me this begins and ends with growing up.

I’ve written on this idea many, many times. In fact, it’s the main belief of Simple Marriage.

The more you grow, the more you recognize the fact that you and your partner are separate beings. Each capable of your own hopes and dreams and desires AND still capable of choosing each other. The separateness is key – eroticism can only exist in the space between self and the other.

Perhaps an answer to my question – What would happen if two full grown, fully alive sexual beings hooked up? – would be this:

1. Approach my spouse as if she were the most adventurous, passionate, open-minded woman in the world. When I assume less than this, I preempt the possibilities of our relationship.
2. It’s her job to say no to anything she is not interested in trying or doing. It’s my job to speak up and express my desires.
3. Don’t take things personally. If she says no to sex on the roof tonight, don’t take it personally and refer back to number 1 again.

Great sex happens when two people come together, take responsibility for themselves and seek their own desires and passions. This puts you in a position to embrace the cosmic forces surrounding sex with less fear and trepidation, which is when the sex gets really good.

Incidentally, this same approach can be adapted to life as well.

Source Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity

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Scene: You are sitting in the plane getting ready for takeoff and watching with amusement as the flight attendant shares with you the safety features of the Boeing 747 you are flying on.  You get past the seat-belt demo, the tray table being upright, the emergency lights leading to the exits and then the big revelation comes as they share with you that if the plane should lose cabin pressure that you should “put your own oxygen mask on first” before helping others.”  WOW!  Incredible information, that after thinking about it makes perfect sense, how on earth can you help someone else if you are out of breath?

Scene: It is a normal weekday, you have been up since 6:30 AM (which unfortunately was only 5 minutes before the rest of your gang got up) made everyone breakfast, snuck in a cup of coffee, made lunches, drove car pool, fed the baby, picked up groceries, dropped off dry cleaning, grabbed a coke for lunch (you needed the caffeine pick me up) mopped the floor and cleaned the bathrooms while the baby napped, ran car pool again,  fed the kids snack, broke up an argument, worked on homework, tried to get dinner started and you find you are losing your patience.  Sound familiar?  Do you feel like you are out of breath?  Running on empty?

Women are often so busy caring for everyone else’s needs; they don’t have time to care for themselves.  They’re drained, sucked dry of emotional, physical and spiritual energy. ~ Kathy Peel

For years women have been fed a bunch of lies making us feel like we need to be sacrificing ourselves for the sake of our families. In fact, if we are not sacrificing ourselves, then we are selfish!   I can tell you – if you are sacrificing yourself for your family, both you and your family will end up losing. You can’t help anyone if you are out of breath!  Seems common sense, huh?  But why do we moms have such a terrible time putting this concept into action?

I have a few ideas, one of the biggest being this idea that the term ‘self-care’ needs to be some grandiose, time consuming venture.  But I think we have it all wrong.  In order to be taking care of yourself in a way that is manageable, we moms need to find things that refresh us in small amounts of time too.  It is not all about spending a day at the spa, (although very nice on occasion) the practicality of that is pretty slim that it can happen as often as we would like.

I would like you to take a look at ‘self-care’ from different perspective.  Try figuring out what refreshes and refuels you in small time frames.  Identify what re-energizes you and carve out time to make it happen, however that looks for you and your day.

Several years ago I started lists on note cards that I kept handy so that I wouldn’t have to think so hard on how to fit this into my day.  I broke them down into 5, 15, 30 and even 60 minute time frames.  This made it much easier to schedule these “breathers” throughout my day or if I had a spare 5 minutes that I could easily take advantage of that time for myself, rather than letting it slip by.

I encourage you to try it out. You may be surprised at how easy it can be to fit in things that lift you up and help you be better for yourself AND your family.

To get you started creating self-care habits, I have offered up some of my favorite ideas.

• 5 minutes

Make a cup tea

Light a candle in the area you are working

Sit quietly with your eyes closed

Lay down on the sofa

Play a favorite song on your IPOD

Read an encouraging verse

• 15 minutes

Walk around the block

Call a friend

Savor a nice long shower

Journal

Take a book break

• 30 minutes

Do an exercise DVD

Cut some fresh flowers and arrange them

Take a bath

Sit and read a book with your child

Do some stretching and deep breathing

Get out and walk the dog

If you need to schedule time in your day to make sure you fit some of these in, then do it.  It will not happen by chance, you will need to be intentional and proactive to carve out the time needed to take a little time for you.    I know if I put something on my ‘to-do’ list I have a much better chance of it happening.  So, starting today…..put “YOU” on your ‘to-do’ list and make it happen.  Your family will thank you for it!

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This is the sixth post in a series about living the virtuous life like Benjamin Franklin. We’re taking his life and applying it to marriage and relationships.

Lose no time. Be always employed in something useful. Cut off all unnecessary actions.

I enjoy being lazy as much as the next guy, perhaps even more than him, but the lazy life is not a life well lived. Time is a finite item in our life, and Ben Franklin had as one of his virtues the intent to make the most of it.

The following is taken from Brett McKay of the Art of Manliness, a case for industriousness.

Develops self-respect. Putting in an honest days work lets you look at yourself in the mirror without feeling ashamed. Think back to the last time you wasted an entire day playing video games. Sure, it was fun while you were kicking butt at Halo, but when you finally turned off the machine at 4 AM, how did you feel? If you’re like me, you probably felt like a useless bum. You realize that you spent an entire day doing something that didn’t contribute to making you or the world around you better. You have certain gifts and talents that should be shared with others. But when you waste the gift of time, you show that you are content to dwell in selfish mediocrity. Fulfill your true potential and make every hour of your existence count.

Do not live useless and die contemptible. ~ John Witherspoon

Fights Depression. Idleness may not be the devil’s playground, but it is quite possibly depression’s romper room. Have you ever known a man who was unemployed for a long period of time? Chances are he sank into a depressed funk. Men are wired to want to feel useful, to make and provide things for others. Deprived of work, men often feel lost because it robs of them of a sense of identity and purpose. Work provides a reason to get up each day and a sense of accomplishment.

The last time I went camping, I took a hike along a beautiful stream. I noticed that the parts of the stream where the water moved the fastest ran pure and clean. The parts of the stream where the current slowed and stalled were stagnant and cloudy. It is the same with life; to keep ourselves happy and motivated, we must always keep moving. Otherwise we will languish and become depressed.

More time for family and civic engagement. I have a friend at law school who has three kids. He’s always working and makes use of every minute he’s at school. I asked him once how he does it and he told me, “Every minute I waste here at school is one minute less that I’ll have time to spend with my kids when I get home.” By getting his work done at school, my friend is able to focus himself completely on his family when he gets home.

In addition to having more time for family, by being industrious you’ll have time to devote to your community. Developing the virtue of industriousness not only frees more time for civic involvement, but it also helps develop the work ethic needed to contribute to the public welfare. Community projects don’t get done by a bunch of lazy bums. It requires people who are proactive and on the move.

How to be Industrious

Plan. Before you go to bed, sit down and plan the next day. One reason people flounder around and waste time during the day is because they don’t know what they should be doing. You can avoid this by scheduling your day out. Find a system that works for you. Some people like to schedule every minute of the day, while others just like to have a list of tasks that need to be completed. Some people like online or digital planners, while others like paper based planning systems. Personally, I use a paper based planner that I designed myself using Excel. I like to plan exactly what I’ll be doing at each hour of the day. It helps keep me focused and on task.

It’s amazing how much you can get done if you’re always doing. ~ Thomas Jefferson

Eliminate distractions. While I don’t agree with Tim Ferris’s call to outsource every unpleasant chore in your life, I do like his suggestions on eliminating needless distractions. One suggestion of his that I like in particular is batching your email. Instead of incessantly checking your email hundreds of times throughout the day, pick two times during the day to check and respond to email.

If surfing the web is a major time sucker for you, turn off your Wi-Fi or disconnect your Ethernet cable while you’re working. If you have Firefox, you can block certain websites for a set period of time with Leech Block.

Have a worthy goal. You will always naturally spend your time focused on what your goals are at the time. Think about it. Why do some men spend hours a day playing video games? Their goal is to either beat the game or beat other players. They play nonstop until they accomplish their goal.

Imagine if these men had more lofty goals. Instead of wasting their time trying rack up more kills on a video game, they could be out improving their fitness through exercise or learning a new skill that will help advance their career.

Set worthy goals for yourself. A worthy goal is one that will make you or the world around you better. After you have written your goals down, carry them with you at all times. I have a section on my daily planning pages where I write down my goals each day. You don’t need a planner to do this. Just write your goals down on a 3×5 index card.

Every time you make a decision on how you’re going to spend your time, stop and ask yourself, “Will this action bring me closer to my goal?” If not, don’t do it. This will take some work and discipline in the beginning, but after a while it will become natural. Instead of wasting your precious time in frivolous pursuits, you’ll be focused on the things that will make you more productive and industrious.

Implement the 48/12 rule. Being industrious is good, but if you’re a human being, you’re going to need breaks to avoid a mental breakdown. One way to ensure that you get the breaks your mind and body needs is to implement the 48/12 rule in your life. Under the 48/12 rule, you work nonstop for 48 minutes. All your focus is on the task at hand for those 48 minutes. When the 48 minutes is up, take a break for 12. Surf the web or get up and go for quick stroll outside. As soon as the 12 minutes are up, get back to work. You’ll be surprised how much you can get done in a day by implementing this rule.

Find ways to be industrious, even in leisure. When you have time away from the work that earns you a living, make use of your leisure time by pursuing activities that will make you a better man. True recreation is an activity that leaves you energized and ready to take on the coming week. Instead of spending time sacked out in front of the TV watching the VH1 “I Love the 90s” marathon, find activities during your leisure time that will rejuvenate you.

The idea is to stay busy, but at much more relaxed pace. Remember that the longer you sit around and do nothing, the harder it is to get yourself motivated when you actually have to work. Avoid the rut by staying busy with relaxing, yet constructive recreational activities.

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Be on the look out for “Sex Week” – coming soon to Simple Marriage.

A week’s worth of great posts on the topic of sex, which always seems to be a popular topic here on Simple Marriage, go figure.

What I want from you is any questions or issues you’d like addressed in this area of marriage and life.

Everything is fair game – even anonymously (simply leave a comment under a different email address than usual or send me an email and no one else will know the question you asked).

So I open the discussion to you – what’s on your mind?

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