So here’s the top 10 ways to get a lady in bed, without pulling down your pants and saying…. “Hey lookie here…”

10. Cleanliness

Yeah I know its sounds lame but we don’t care about that, we care about what makes a woman tick.  And if being clean does it, then do it.  That does NOT mean you have to give up your ‘badboy’ image, keep it, but underneath the rugged exterior, be clean.  And according to AskMen want to guess what’s next in line?  Ready… Clean Sheets.  Yep, I know, who really cares… well they do, so, so do you.  Just imagine some beautiful babe laid out there, skin aglow, hair streaming across the pillow.  Once she’s gone, hey let ’em get dirty again, that’s your choice.

9. Staying fit and Healthy

Get off your fat ass… take a walk, breathe the air, live life to the fullest.  If you’re not in shape, get in shape, that’s good for (first and foremost) you and your daily life.  But women love guys who are fit (this according to a University Study ).  That doesn’t mean you have to be a body builder, just a lean, mean fighting machine, at least as far as you can with your body type.  It’s not that hard, just take a little time at the gym, or if you’re not near a gym get a Home Gym and give it a go.  Not only will that help -IMMENSELY- with the ladies, getting in shape is a great confidence builder and nothing… nothing… not one single thing will get you the girls like being confident.

8.  Cook Her Dinner

What! Yep, they love it.  And if you can’t cook, get something catered, then warm it in the oven, served with some wine and candlelight, it can work wonders.  And this holds true whether it’s a weekend fling or a long term relationship.  Now here’s the bad (read good) part, do the dishes.  Don’t talk about doing the dishes, just get up and do them while continuing to have an intimate conversation.  You can keep the candlelight flickering and the wine flowing, but when they see you helping out, doing things they wouldn’t have thought you’d do… Then… then they are ready to do it…

7. Sex Toys

Oh god, this is a subject that not everyone wants to talk about.  But the question is why?  Using sex toys doesn’t mean you’re less of a man, more than you’re secure in your masculinity and willing to experiment.  I say (and so do the girls), go for it.  It doesn’t mean you haven’t got the goods, more that you’re willing to go the extra mile to ensure that she’s pleased.  And believe me, there is nothing better than having a woman satisfied.  They will literally, worship the ground you walk on.

Interested in the science behind it?  No?  Then skip to the next number, but ‘survey says’ that women love it… they are brought to a higher level or orgasm, experience less pain (and you wouldn’t want that would you?), are better lubricated and have a greater feeling of arousal.

6.  It’s a Marathon not a Sprint

We’ve all heard the jokes about how long a guy lasts right… “He’s great in bed, at least for a minute or so”.  The key to pleasuring a woman is to take your time and not rush to the finish.   Ideally, you’ll both climax together and when that happens, that’s when the expression… “the little death” comes in to play.  It’s a total rocket trip to the top of the world, but for both of you.  When you can achieve that, and practice makes perfect, you’ll rock her world and (assuming you want it), your reputation will immediately be taken to a new level (not going to say Love God, but yeah Love God).  If you’re having trouble lasting more than minutes, take a look at Kegel Exercises, which will go a long way toward giving you ability to take the full journey to the top of Mt. Olympus.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise/

5. A Giant of a Man

There are different schools of thought concerning how tall you need to be.  Some women think 6′ is the perfect size, others that it doesn’t matter so much.  The point is, how tall you are isn’t something you can do anything about, that’s who you are so live with it, be a man.  Be strong and confident and remember, “It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, rather the size of the fight in the dog”.  Frankly I’m about average at 5’10”, certainly not tall, but most of the ladies that attract me are shorter than that, maybe with heels they come close to looking me in the eye, but honestly I could care less and I’ve never had a woman complain about my size.

4. Are you any good with your tongue?

Let’s face it guys, we love oral sex and so do the ladies.  If you’re not already an expert on the subject, it’s time to lift your game and learn how to please a woman orally.  Why?  Well, beyond the fact you’ll have her screaming and moaning, which is always an ego boost, studies show if you keep her happy in bed, there’s less chance she’ll stray.

FACT: A large percentage of women do not reach orgasm from typical orgasm, while 90% of women surveyed did reach orgasm from oral stimulation.

3. Staying True Blue

There’s going to be a wide variety of guys reading this, some in it for the one night stand (that’s cool) some in it for the long haul.  So this point is addressing the ‘long haul’ and what knowing a guy is committed to them does for a relationship.  I’m going to assume you know that women (guys too, but women mostly) are constantly going over and over in their mind what a guy think, how they look, will he like me, am I going to have sex, etc.  While a guy might just be thinking, “how quick can I get her naked”.  If you’re committed to a babe and assuming she knows it, she’s going to be a lot more open in the bedroom.  It will become her job, her commitment, her mission in life to please you.  I’m not going say long term is better, just saying if you want her to be totally open (a wild child in bed) let her know, or make her believe you are committed to the relationship.

2. On being passionate

Make her believe she’s a goddess.  I don’t mean bow down and be a wimp, but let her know you appreciate her, her body, her scent, the smoothness of her skin, the way she is moist and ready, the softness of her lips, the way her tongue feels when she use it in JUST the right places.  When she knows that you’re into her, she is that much more likely to be -into you-.

1. Ask her, then listen

Guys, sometimes we aren’t the best at listening right, we’re much more action oriented.  Understand, that’s me to a tee, but sometimes, especially if we’re looking for hot sex, ask her want she likes, then listen to what she says and meet her needs.  Ultimately, you’re going to be the winner, if she  believe you care enough to respond to what she says, she’s going to be that much more willing to respond to your needs.

Guys, there really are “Secrets of Seduction”, they can be learned and used effectively to reach any goal you want with a woman.  Whether it’s simply finding someone for a hot weekend, or a long term relationship, set your sights on the stars, then go for it.

We’re going to call the girl Holly, beautiful, ivory skin, and hair so dark and luxurious a guy could lose himself in the soft, sweet aroma.  Holly was recovering from a breakout, she was a bit sad and lonely, and knowing what you do about women (you’ve read the book), you realize you could easily step into this situation and likely score gold.

Here’s the rub, the guy she broke up with your close friend.  So what can we do, it’s catch-22, but  the clock is ticking and you know that someone is going to latch onto Holly, she too hot to be left waiting for long on the sidelines.

First thing to consider is how close your friendship is, does it go back years and years, or merely someone you’ve known for a short while.  There’s going to be some tension, that’s simply life, the question is are you willing to put up with the drama to get the girl?

If he’s a close friend, my rule has always been to take a pass and move onto other, more easily harvested, pastures.  If he’s already dating someone else, then all bets are off and you can move in for the kill, or the consoling, take your pick, it’s likely to be some of each.

The one thing you MUST do is be honest with both your friend and the girl, and in this case anyway, the friend should be first.  Simply find a time to buy him a beer and ask.  I know it sounds easy, but when the moment comes, you’ll likely find a few butterflies, hey this is real life.

There always his side, her side, then the truth, so don’t ONLY listen to her (with the wrong head), but consider both sides of the equation.  If possible, find out why the relationship ended, was their mistrust, cheating, or simply time for both of them to move on.  If she dumped him and he’s grieving, c’mon, don’t pour salt on an open wound.

Take the time to look at the situation from both sides, if there are still emotions running high, you’d be wise to back off for a bit and stir the kettle.  On the flip, if she’s the girl of your dreams stop dreaming about her and take action, which -as mentioned earlier- means you need to -man up- and be honest with both of them.  This isn’t the time to be sneaking in the back door so your friend won’t spot you visiting his ex, there’s no future in that, unless all you want is a hot weekend, but then you’re likely not talking about the same level of friendship that I am.

As mentioned earlier, there will likely be some level of drama, know that going in and at the least you’ll be prepared for it.

Is she worth it?  That’s a question you need to decide, think long and hard, you’ll make the right decision.

Ever the expression “go for the gold”, it simply means going after something that you want with passion. Now that works with girls, but you have to use it intelligently, since while they DO want to be pursued, they don’t want any old lamer chasing them. Now then, since you’re not a lamer, you’re going to do it right, right?

You’ve got to do just a bit of flirting, with the right intention, with the right skill, with the right intent, do it right (but don’t over do it) and you can have her (what you do with her will not be covered in the article).

Therefore, what then is the right kind of flirting? The key thing to think about is time, we live in a busy world, and if we’re going to accomplish something, you’ve got to gather up the goods and go to it now. Sure we can text, but that’s after you get her number.

The thing you want to do is get a reaction, something that tells you there’s some interest, it might be a subtle signal, but it’s the key to walk over and say hi.
You do not want to be labeled a “stalker”, so do it right, keep it fun and interesting and break the ice. All you’re really doing is sending a subtle signal, and nine times out of ten, you’ll get something in return, that something might be the cue to walk on over, or turn and run for your life, but I digress and this isn’t about my times with crazy women :).

All you’re doing is sending a subtle signal that says, “Hey, I’m an okay guy, and I might be fun to hang with”. It not hard and what you want to concentrate on is the fine line between looking with interest and a downright stare.

In football, it’s the two minute warning, in flirting with it’s the 2 to 3 second window. Shorter then this and you’ll be sending the wrong signals saying… “oops, you caught me”. Longer and you’ll be saying… “I want you now”. And of course you might actually have that thought, but you don’t need to send it, at least not yet. A look, a smile, a nod and inside yourself, have confidence. If you need to practice at home, do it (probably in private), you don’t have to come off as “Joe Cool”, just be sincere.

I mentioned the 2 to 3 seconds, that’s key, less than that as mentioned, and you’ll appear to have been caught staring, more than that (to someone you don’t really know), will probably put them off, not lure them in. Of course if you do get a positive response (,and you will more often than you’d think), it’s okay to look a second time.

Rather than standing in the hall (or wherever) just looking, it’s best if you can already be involved in a conversation with the guys, then look her way, then back to a spirited conversation. The idea here is to show interest, but not appear needy.
This may be the dreaded “first impression”, so be yourself, be confident, don’t be to “full of yourself”, just start the ball rolling. Once it’s rolling, you add all the speed you need down the line.

On the flip side, in today’s busy, busy world, a lot of us (myself thankfully not included) are spending more time at the office, less time at home, which leaves little time for going out and finding someone.  That coupled with some sweet ladies at the office place and it’s pretty hard to turn a blind eye.

Since there are two sides to every coin, let’s look at it from both sides and let you determine for yourself the best choice.  If you’re working with someone you’ll (just in passing) learn a lot of about them, likes, dislikes and of course the ice is already broken, so striking up a conversation isn’t that difficult.  Of course you may share common interests from the office (but that ain’t bedroom talk), so you might find you can easily enter into conversation and not be left wondering what to say, or how to say it.

So if she’s hot, and it’s a good match, then consider the good certainly, but let’s not lay down in the bed of roses just yet.  Do you really want to see her every moment of every day?  That’s kind of what you’re asking for… at night there she is in all her glory, but hen the next day those sly winks might be fun, but they could also be dangerous.  No matter who she is or how strong the chemistry, we all need a little alone time, right?  Maybe not at first when the passions are running high, but think about later and how it might affect your day, or your performance.

Now then performance and we’re not talking about the kind of performance that says… “Was it good for you?”  We’re talking about doing your job and measuring up to your boss.  Of course if you are the boss then this might not apply.  But what if, what if she’s under you (not literally guys – keep your pants on), and the day comes when (dread) you have to give a performance review, or worse yet, maybe let her go.

Let’s put that one aside and just think about this one, say there’s something important happening and you have to decide between “good ‘old Bob”, who’s really the best one for the job, and your sweet THANG sitting there smiling demurely (when you know what the night is liable to bring if you choose here), could you make an unbiased choice?

While it took me awhile to get over my own jealous nature, there were times in my (misspent) youth when I’d feel the flush of jealously rise if another guy even thought about making a move on my lady.  But if you’re keeping the romance a secret (popular in the workplace), how are you going to deal with your buds when they say… “God she’s hot”.  If you can take it with a grain of salt, good for you, but if jealousy rears it angry head, you’re asking for trouble.

Clint Eastwood made a movie early in his career called, “The Good, The Bad and The Ugly”.  That’s the perfect end to this article; look at it from all sides before you take the plunge.  It might be great in the beginning, but how is going to turn out down the road.

Facebook is social media at its best, and while it can be exploited, if instead you learn to work within the system (to your advantage) wonders can be achieved.  I’m sure you have a friend or two right?  If not, turn off the computer and head out the door, time to get a life.  Well through your friends, that one of the best ways to meet other people, and these other people may eventually become your friend.  Get it?  Well that is the KEY to getting things to work for you on Facebook, reach out and be friendly.

Step One.

This assumes you have a facebook account, if not get one.  Assuming you do then it’s time to begin being friendly and build your network, hey don’t get glued to the screen, but put in a little time building your friends list and you’ll soon have an ever widening circle, and from this circle can come conquests.

Now you can certainly do this purely online, but it’s best to also do it with your existing circle of friends… “Hey, are you on facebook?”  It’s a common question these days, and the answer can put your friends network into overdrive.

The key to this is being real and helpful, not a nerd and a stalker.  Be friendly, comment on their photos, links, wall, etc.  Begin to let them know you are a real person, not just some guy who signed on to score (although that is your ultimate goal).  There are a ton of groups on facebook, and some of them are going to be right up your alley, choose those that you know something about, not just simply based on size.  This gives you the ability to offer good and useful content, links, suggestions, etc.  Be real, you’ll be doing yourself a service for the long term.

What we’re doing here isn’t marketing but it is networking.  It’s surprising how people good friends I’ve made on the net, but I’ve never met face to face.  For me that’s cool, for you the idea is to meet women and hopefully hookup.

Here’s how one friend of mine did it, it worked for him, it can work for you.

His interest is scuba diving (and girls in bikinis of course).  So here he is brand new to phase book, only a few default friends, so what’s he to do, go trolling for babes.  Nope, not the best way, instead he joined a group related to his interest, some place where he knew he could contribute to the conversation, mention good dive spots, etc.  Basically be part of the gang and not a leech.

So he joined, checked out some profiles (guys not girls, there is a reason) and started chiming in when he had something valuable to say.  Within a short time the others knew him, respected his advice, knew he was talking straight, etc.

Now how long it take to reach that point is up to you, could be a few days, might be a month or longer, but this is part of a plan, so the foundation is not to be rushed.

Obviously as you begin commenting, talking, networking you’re going to find a picture of a girl that makes your heart flutter or your blood boil, or maybe a bit of each.  Great, forget her for the moment, we’re going to let her find you.
What you’re going to do is become friends with some other women, not your pick, but maybe (if you do some research) someone who is a friend of the one that you are targeting.  Now during this entire time you’ve been hanging with the guys, making good comments, letting others know you’re a cool dude, etc.  You get the drift.

Now when this other girl (who you’ve contacted and said “let’s be friends”, chimes in, she knows you’re someone who is a friend of her friend (the original guy), plus she’ll look at your profile, find what you’ve said and think to herself… “He seems like a good guy.”
That’s the point we’re striving for, that’s the time when you and her are talking (don’t rush it) and you can ask her to hook you up with this certain girl, the one you’re after to begin with.

You might find out she’s taken, and if so you can either move on, or simply add her as a friend and start another chat going.  You have to look at this like throwing a pebble in a pond, there are ripples created that reach outward in ever widening circles.

Now the best case scenario is you’ll find your special girl IS available, and you’ve been introduced by one her close friends.  When that happens you’re gold, and just need to follow through, get a number and proceed forward from that point.

Assuming you get to this point, and it might not work the first time, but it’s free right, plus you haven’t spent anything yet for dinner and drinks (or whatever), so hone your skills.

Now comes the seduction part and I’ll tell you more about that in future posts.  But basically you’re going to do a little harmless flirting (all girls love this, especially after being introduced from a mutual friend).

Now then, what about your profile?  Obviously you need a good one, so get to work now… before you even start the process.  Be real, but just like in a resume, accentuate the positive.

Till next time.
The Secrets Guy

While some of us would enjoy finding and meeting the perfect girl immediately, its rare when then happens, dating, seduction, the pursuit is all about playing the game and learning what works, meeting new people, seeing if the chemistry is right etc.

Our methods will allow you to meet (and yes seduce) a wide variety of women, but the question was, what’s the difference between casual dating and a full blown relationship?

For guys dating and seduction often (most of the time) go hand in hand and the conquest is very much part of the deal.  I’ll make no excuses there, since that is the primary reason for this site.  On the flip side, there will come a time when you meet a girl that evokes a certain something inside that says “She’s the one.”  This is normal and natural and perhaps she is the one, perhaps it’s just the pheromones (or testosterone) reining.  Either way it’s at this point that a relationship begins to ensure.

Before this point, most of your efforts will have simply been focused on the conquest, will little regard to her long term feelings, or really getting to know her.  A relationship is about caring and sharing and when entered, you’ll need to be open and care about the other person.  Whether or not this is truly something you’re ready for is a question that only you can answer.

The difficulty sometimes is realizing when that moment is reached and not blowing it.  Here at secrets, we’re all about picking up girls and seducing them, and while that might seem hardcore, we make no excuse, that’s who we are.  That said, we love women and there probably is a special someone out there, the question then is, how do you find her?

Well you can bet your bottom dollar you won’t find her unless you take the bull by the horns, get out of the house, and meet some women.  Whether or not your end game is to get them into the sack, or simply getting to know them better is your call, but STEP ONE, you’ve got to get their number and make the first move.

I guess there’s a little bit of psychology in all of us (or at least we think there is), and we probably have an idea or two about why someone (guy or girl) cheats. Of course that is usually in the hypothetical, but what about when it happens to us, or even when we find out a good friend is cheating on his girl, or maybe with the girl of close friend. That’s when things get difficult and no matter how enlightened we are, thinks change and emotions rule.

So here’s the question then, what would you do if you found out your good bud is cheating with another friends girl? I mean you’ve got to do something right, even if it’s keeping quiet, that’s still a decision you have to make.

For me it’s about loyalty, and while I’m not in favor of the whole cheating scenario, I would never betray the trust of a friend, even if I believe he is wrong. No one goes through this life without screwing up at some point (I certainly have), so I’m not going to play “holier than thou”, but I’m not going to help him cover it up either.

There are many people who avoid confrontation like the plague, not me. I believe in getting it out into the open, if he’s a good friend, then talk to him like a friend, but let him know what’s happening isn’t something you endorse and you do not think it’s the thing to do. Man to man, friend to friend, be honest and level headed, but don’t help him or her keep it in the shadows.

Once that is one, butt out, you’ve done your part. Zip it, clam up, keep your own counsel, etc. What goes around comes around and you’ll not garner long term friends if people think you are the one who is spreading the word, right or wrong.

Most important, taken everything I’ve said above, don’t help him (good buddy or not) accomplish his midnight rendezvous. Even though you might believe you are helping in the short term, you’ll be doing more harm than good long term, not to mention adding to your own stress level.

Now let flip the scenario and talk about what happens when your friend is the one this nefarious deed is being done to. It’s going to hurt, that can’t be helped but if he’s a bud, then you owe it to your friendship to let him know the truth.

Don’t expect him to believe you just because you said it. That doesn’t mean he thinks you’re lying, just that something like this can break a heart in two, and no one wants to hear it. So if you are the one who must lay out the scenario, come armed with proof, it doesn’t have to be private eye stuff with photos and videos, but know what you are talking about and don’t simply spread rumors that you’ve heard. This is important stuff so do your own fact checking before telling anyone.

Don’t expect it to be smooth sailing, in all probability there will be harsh words, after all this is his woman/significant other we’re talking about. It’s possible he won’t want to believe you; possibly even thinking you are the one telling tales, just be come and collected and lay out the facts. In the long run you are doing the right thing.

For me, I don’t cheat, far better (from my point of view) to learn how to find women (ones that are available) and ply a few “Secrets of Seduction”. No harm, no foul.

Now get this one thing straight, it doesn’t matter if you’re just starting out, or an experience pro, we’re going to adjust things (just a bit) for your personality, and you’ll be cruising in no time flat.

Step One. Hang with friends who are more experience than you are talking with and (potentially) picking up girls. You have a bit to learn and we can learn something from everybody, even if it’s what “not to do”. However, for the purposes of this article we’ll assume your buds have a few things down and don’t mind sharing, if that’s a “yes”, then you’re gold, if it’s a no then it can’t hurt to read a few books on the subject (hint, hint, download ours).

Here’s a crucial concept to own… Don’t care whether or not the girl of your dreams (or your libido) says yes, or tells you to take a hike. What? Yep, you can’t put all your “eggs into one basket” or all your hopes into one woman, the old expression… “There are plenty of fish in the sea” has been true for generations and still is today. Now every woman is going to appreciate you, nor you them, so take your best shot and if it doesn’t work, move on.

Be the “Master of Your Domain”… Now don’t get cocky here, what I mean is simply this, when you spy that perfect set of legs, that sweet hourglass figure and start up a conversation, all may be good to go, or you may find her boring as dry toast. Chances are 99% positive that she knows you’re trying to pick her up, that’s not a problem, simply a fact. Knowing that, be sure she IS the one you want to go home with.

“When you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you”. That’s part of the lyrics from an old Louis Armstrong song, but it couldn’t be truer. Rather than trying to pick-her-up (which is ultimate goal), work on getting her to smile and enjoy the moment. When she’s smiling, you might find that you’ll be smiling later in the night.

Forget the tiresome lines! And for God’s sake don’t say “Did it hurt?” (her response is supposed to be “did what hurt”) “When you fell from heaven”. Been there, done that and the same goes for saying “damn your beautiful”, or words to that effect. Keep it out of the conversation, she already knows it, plus she’s probably heard it from half the guys in the house.

Think biology, and no I’m not talking about reproduction, I’m talking about what a woman (instinctively) wants from a guy. While it’s true that women look more to the personality while us guys go straight for the bust or legs, that doesn’t mean that subconsciously she isn’t looking for a strong man, someone with confidence, someone that can carry her safe and sound into the future.

Picking up women comes to some naturally, but it can come to all of us with just a little bit of time and practice.

The phone rang, but no hot babe answered, instead he got the dreaded voice mail, and if ever there is the opportunity to screw up royal, voice mail is king. He’s smooth, or at least as smooth as possible with no feedback, just electronic silence, but he didn’t get a call back, what went wrong and what’s the next move?

Let’s look at the negative part, not saying that’s what happened, but better to consider the worse case scenario, rather than waste your time on a dead end. Could be she just wasn’t interested and gave you her number as a quick way out of (what she thought was) a bad situation. Scoring in bar is VERY possible, but you will get shot down more than once, it comes with the territory. Think about it… you’re walking in her direction and she’s either “hot to trot” or thinking, “Oh God, here comes another horny guy.” Either way she may choose to give your number (sometime they’ll be phony numbers) knowing she doesn’t have to answer or even return your call. For her it’s low stress, for you it’s a downer. Give it a little time, a few more days, possibly a week then if she doesn’t call, she’s probably not going to.

And if that does happen, then most of us are going to wonder why?

Did I have bad breath?

Say something wrong?

Come on too strong?

What?

Good chance you’ll never know, but if you want to do some digging, Google your name and see what comes up. If she was interested at all after the bar encounter, chances are she Google you, checked you out on Facebook, myspace or wherever. So how do you come across online? Check your profile and see what she saw, that might be all the information you need.

Now here’s one that happens a lot, she’s already involved with someone. What! But she seemed available, all smiles and soft giggles. Sure she was, it might have been girl’s night out and she was just having some fun. Maybe her main guy was out-of-town for a few days but now has returned to rule the roost. Every now and then, you will meet that special someone out on the town, but most of the time it will just be a casual encounter, it might lead to something, might now, but take it with a “grain-of-salt”, or shot of tequila, there are plenty more where she came from and if she’s involved (and serious), generally speaking it’s not worth the grief.

And let’s not forget which IS probably the main reason she didn’t return your call; if she was out partying, maybe that 2nd or 3rd shot of Jose Cuervo led to freely giving out her number to one too many guys. No harm, no foul, just move on to the next and don’t take it personal.

Now get this one thing straight, it doesn’t matter if you’re just starting out, or an experience pro, we’re going to adjust things (just a bit) for your personality, and you’ll be cruising in no time flat.
Step One.  Hang with friends who are more experience than you are talking with and (potentially) picking up girls.  You have a bit to learn and we can learn something from everybody, even if it’s what “not to do”.  However, for the purposes of this article we’ll assume your buds have a few things down and don’t mind sharing, if that’s a “yes”, then you’re gold, if it’s a no then it can’t hurt to read a few books on the subject (hint, hint, download ours).

Here’s a crucial concept to own… Don’t care whether or not the girl of your dreams (or your libido) says yes, or tells you to take a hike.  What?  Yep, you can’t put all your “eggs into one basket” or all your hopes into one woman, the old expression… “There are plenty of fish in the sea” has been true for generations and still is today.  Now every woman is going to appreciate you, nor you them, so take your best shot and if it doesn’t work, move on.
Be the “Master of Your Domain”… Now don’t get cocky here, what I mean is simply this, when you spy that perfect set of legs, that sweet hourglass figure and start up a conversation, all may be good to go, or you may find her boring as dry toast.  Chances are 99% positive that she knows you’re trying to pick her up, that’s not a problem, simply a fact.  Knowing that, be sure she IS the one you want to go home with.

“When you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you”.  That’s part of the lyrics from an old Louis Armstrong song, but it couldn’t be truer. Rather than trying to pick-her-up (which is ultimate goal), work on getting her to smile and enjoy the moment.  When she’s smiling, you might find that you’ll be smiling later in the night…

Forget the tiresome lines!  And for God’s sake don’t say “Did it hurt?” (her response is supposed to be “did what hurt”) “When you fell from heaven”.  Been there, done that and the same goes for saying “damn your beautiful”, or words to that effect.  Keep it out of the conversation, she already knows it, plus she’s probably heard it from half the guys in the house.

Think biology, and no I’m not talking about reproduction, I’m talking about what a woman (instinctively) wants from a guy.  While it’s true that women look more to the personality while us guys go straight for the bust or legs, that doesn’t mean that subconsciously she isn’t looking for a strong man, someone with confidence, someone that can carry her safe and sound into the future.

Picking up women comes to some naturally, but it can come to all of us with just a little bit of time and practice.