Who doesn't want to know how to get a girlfriend?

Sometimes we focus on so many other projects in life that we forget how nice it is to have a woman in our arms.  So now your sitting here on the internet asking yourself "How can I get a girlfriend?"  It's ok.  I asked myself the same question a few years ago.  Now that I am a professional dating coach I have the answer. 

The majority of dating is inside your head.  If you walk up to a woman thinking that she can fix some part of your life, well that is destined for failure.  Girls want to be an ADDITION to your life, not a solution. So let's start by creating the foundation of a man women want to be with.  Once you know who you really are it's much easier to figure out what you want in a woman.  Too many people work really hard to get a girlfriend and then realize she's not the woman they want.  So let's avoid that up front.

How to get a girlfriend part 1 – Know Thyself

Confidence.  There is nothing more important than believing in yourself.  Have you ever dated someone who you thought was amazing, but they felt like they didn't deserve you?  This destroys every relationship.  The moment a girl asks me why I picked her or says she doesn't deserve me, I know the relationship is doomed.  Whether it's been a few months or just a few drinks.  Relationships can only endure if they are equal.  So if you have low self confidence, you will only get women who have low self confidence.  And guess what?  They are the women that cheat the most.  Not because they are sinister or evil, but because they need constant affirmation.

It's easy to say BE CONFIDENT and you will get a girlfriend.  I know that.  What's hard is telling you exactly how to become more confident, bit I am going to do it.  If you actually follow my instructions you will change your life – fast.  You need to sit down and make a list.  I want you to make a list of things you have always wanted to do but haven't for some reason.  And I want you to make a list of things you are afraid of.  Whether this list has 10 items or 100 doesn't really matter.  There are benefits to going in either direction.  Once you have this list your job is to set up a time frame for crossing them all off of that list.

I make my list at the beginning of each year.  I have set all sorts of goals.  From walking up to 2000 women in bars and starting a conversation to getting offered a job as a dating coach by a major company.  I set goals that have to do with business and my personal life.  Just every aspect.  Now I don't hit every goal.  But I hit a lot of them.  This year my goals were all about business.  I wanted to work for myself and make a certain amount of money.  Right now I have hit one target and tomorrow I'm re-negotiating a contract that will give me the second.  By writing it down and telling people in my life I created accountability.  If you look at the top of this website there is a link called goals.  I list and cross off all of my goals every year.  In a public place.
 

As far as facing your fears.  This is how you become stronger as a person and become the man who can get a girlfriend.  Iron sharpens iron.  You want to make a knife sharp you don't put it in a river, you use a strong stone.  I am really afraid of heights.  Well actually I am way less than I used to be.  I have climbed mountains alone to face this fear.  I push myself to the edge.  When you are alone facing a real danger it's where you find out exactly who you are.  Last year I spent a few hours being interrogated in a 3rd world country.  I was in deep.  But guess what? I stuck to my guns and got out of it.  And the girl I was with.  Because I know what it's like to be afraid.  And I still act.

You want to know the ultimate secret? How to get a girlfriend?  It's this.  Women are only looking for one thing.  Every single thing I will teach you boils down to this.  Women are looking for a guy who can handle it IF…..

They want a guy who can handle it IF their home gets robbed.  IF he loses his job.  IF she gets pregnant.  IF they lose a child…..

That's what emotional security boils down to.  It's why women are attracted to criminals.  They are survivors and they aren't afraid of danger or trouble.

So carve yourself out of wood.  Learn to be confident in ALL of your life.

How to get a girlfriend Part 2 – Tell the Truth

It sounds so obvious.  But most people lie. 

If you have feeling for a girl you should tell her when they happen.  Playing games and dancing around it is weak.  Guys who play games are not men.  They are boys. 

When I am attracted to a woman I tell her instantly.  I don't wait 6 months to become her best friend and then listen to all of her secrets.  I meet so many girls who have a guy in their lives that is trying this strategy.

These guys always get to watch me or some other dude hook up with their dream girl.  And I know what I am talking about because I used to be that dude.  Before I found myself I let women walk all over me.  I hid my feelings and that lie created a terrible situation.

There are a lot more layers, but this lesson is about keeping it SIMPLE.  It doesn't have to be hard to meet women.  Most other gurus and dating coaches will tell you that is has to be complicated.  Maybe you want a complicated solution.  I'm sorry but I am not going to lie to you brother.  If you really work on parts 1 and 2 then the final step is EASY.

How to get a girlfriend Part 3 – Ask her out

It always amazed me how many guys have never asked a girl out.  If you don't ask how are you going to get a girlfriend?

I ask out tons of girls.  And the truth is that plenty of them say no.  I just don't care.  I don't want to earn a girl's attraction.  I know who I am and I'm not interested in a girl who doesn't see what makes me amazing.  In later lessons I will go into detail on how to ask a woman out, but for now keep it simple.

Just ask a girl to a situation where you are powerful.  Bring her to your home bar or a club where everyone knows you.  Don't take her to an awkward expensive dinner.  It doesn't work.  It's not real life and it's a horrible first date.  You want to go somewhere that you are comfortable.  I usually ask a girl to come for drinks at the bar closest to my home.  Or I take a girl to fly kites at the park.  I want somewhere that she is comfortable where there is a possibility of kissing.  To learn about the kissing guide, just sign up for my mailing list and you get a free copy of my HUGE guide to getting a first kiss.

This is how you get a girlfriend.

Please leave a comment when you get a girlfriend.

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So I hit up the usual spot and I'm chatting to this bartender girl.  She's too much car for me but I like to get loose.  My favorite girl looks like a model and hooks me up like crazy, but she wasn't there!  What am I, cursed?

The bar itself was seriously lacking in talent for some reason.  It was a Breast Cancer fundraiser so I was rocking a new pink tie from Express.  I went way out of my way after all my meetings to pick it up.  And people kept asking if it was red.  What kind of world do we live in?

With zero talent to attack I convince 2 of the dudes with me to try another bar 2mins down the road.  The door girl lets me in free as usual, which is awesome.  As I am walking up to the bar I see a blond with a decent body and a brunette.  The blond makes eye contact and the game is afoot my friends!

I roll in and ask if they are in line.  That's right.  I am finally revealing my main pickup line for free.

So there I am chatting and the 2 guys I am with keep coming up and telling me things.  Like one is going to the bathroom and one is going to the front of the bar.  I am actually not sure what they are signaling.  I can tell that we aren't in sync at all. 

I grab one of the dudes and hand him off to the blond.  She had a really nice body, but I am not gonna lie.  She looks like she was rode hard and put away wet.  In the face at least.  She was really cool though.

She saw me switch from her to her friend and she was 100% cool about it all night.  I really respect that.  Because her friend looked like Juno.  Ok I only know that because they both asked me what I thought about that.

So I spend the rest of the night with Juno.  The other dudes all disappear and the friend just goes to hang out with her other friends.  We were dancing and killing it.  More people were watching us than the ban and it was just all in the moment.  She had the most amazing body and she was just so damn skinny.

At one point she even asked why I picked her of all the other girls in the bar.  It's good to know that I still got it.

Eventually she had to cruise home with her friend and she wouldn't give me her number.  Guess it was just a moment kind of thing.

At this point I have no more memory.  I know I went back to the original bar and I couldn't find anyone I knew.  So I started talking to two girls.  I can't remember anything about them, but I just found out something amazing.  I snapped a few photos with them!  Who knew?

It's a pleasant surprise and it turns out the 2nd girl was pretty cute.  It's a shame that I don't remember ANYTHING of that part of the night.  But I still no how to have a blast when I'm riding solo.  Don't know how much longer I am gonna be in this town or what the future holds but there is still some fun out there.

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I just want to let you know that I spent a few hours replying to every email, as that is very important to me and I won't let it happen agian.  (I hope!)

Thanks guys!

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Daytime Dating

This book is awesome.  He has been writing it for over two years if you can believe it.  There has been more love and field testing put into this guide than anything I have ever seen before. Check out my first experience meeting a woman on the streets of London.  This was about two years ago and I'll try to find the old blog post later…I can't seem to locate it right now.  I can tell you it was summer 2 years ago and my hero Soul was teaching me a little daytime dating in Leicester Square.  (man I can't believe I spelled that right on the first try!) I look so young there!

Why learn Daytime Dating:

One day I was sitting on the tube in London and there was a stunning girl across from me.  I wanted to talk to her so bad but I just didn't know what to say.  I remember thinking that I felt chained to my seat.  I decided at that moment that I wanted to know how to meet any woman anywhere and anyplace.  I never wanted to feel that way again.  And I can honestly say that LondonSoul's teachings played a MAJOR role in breaking those chains.  Without learning daytime dating I never would have: Hooked up with a major model in Sweden Met dozens of models on the streets of London Realized that there is no woman I can't get And so much more….all thanks to learning daytime dating I have been lucky enough to have become friends and been trained by basically the best dating coaches and pickup artists in the world – from every system you can name.  I have never been more than 1 degree of separation from the big names you have heard of – whether it's Style, Mystery and Tyler Durdren or the newer generation of Brad P, Mr M, Braddock, AFC Adam etc…. So when I tell you a book is good I know what I'm talking about.  LondonSoul was my first mentor and he will always have a special place in my heart.  (Also because I had sex in his bed with 2 women, but he only knows about 1 of them.)

So go check out daytime dating now by clicking this picture.

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First Encounter

So I'm out with my bro in law, well it's my sister's boyfriend but it's super long term, and we hit the bars on Friday night.  I'll shorten my usual lengthy intro and get to it.  I am just hanging out with him and not working girls but of course I end up talking to a professional sports team cheerleader.  I don't wanna say which team or too much because I know you sneaks will figure it out….

Her chubby glum roomate is super lame but she doesn't stop us from talking and doesn't even force my bro to talk to her.  She lets him sneak off to call my sister.  So I chat to this girl for like an hour or so and she seems awesome.  We start talking about Orbital.  Now if a girl knows about Orbital I instantly like her.  Of course if her body is tight as a drum as well…..I think you get the idea.  She is digging on me super hard so I get the digits.  I can't just go home with her because I got my bro with me and I am not putting him in that awkward situation.  I know he would just sit in the living room talking to the chubster, but my sis would be wicked mad.  I don't need family drama.

So me and him slip off.  When I get home she starts blowing up my phone.  I'm so bored.  I have nothing to do.  etc….  She just dumped her boyfriend of a year and a half earlier that day.  She doesn't say too much but I get the feeling the relationship was tumultuous.  I get a little bit of a Lifetime movie vibe.

She is smoking hot, so I wanna creep on her so bad.  I'm too drunk to drive over to her place and it's just too complicated a situation.  The next night I'm going out with some new dude from the local lair.  I'm not teaching so I just go out to raise hell.  I know I'm gonna get drunk so I take a taxi to the bar.  The whole way there my cheerleader is blowing me up.  Text text text.  She agrees to meet me at 1am for a date.  I think we all know what that means.

First Date

So I hang out with the dude for a couple of hours, but that's a sidestory.  She has to go home and change after her part time job.  I'm like I am sure you look fine etc….  I hate waiting.  But it was worth it.  She is wearing the tightest black dress of all time.  You can see everything.  All the guys are scoping her when she walks in and she comes straight up to me.  I get that full LondonPaladin feeling.  Like hell ya I still got it!  You know?  21.  Smoking hot. Cheerleader.  Into me.  It's allll good.

So we have a couple of beers.  She kinda lets me know that her last boyfriend was super possessive and it was a problem.  I'm like babe I'm the opposite.  A bunch of guys she knows walk up and it's clear they are orbiters.  Instead of my usual move of Tanking them (from My Best Friends Girl – great movie) I just tell her that I gotta use the bathroom and that they seem like really nice guys.  I disappear for like 20 minutes.  Some gorilla tries to start a fight with me in the toilets but my complete disinterest overwhelms him and he walks off.

I come back and we chill a bit more and then she's like I guess it's time to go home.  She asks how I got to the bar.  I let her know I have no car and she offers to give me a ride back to mine.  Ten minutes later we are back at her place.  We end up chilling on her porch and drinking beers for three hours or something.

I never felt that sexual spark.  Usually I just know in my guts when it's time to go for it.  And I just never felt it.  it's weird.  I can tell she's attracted to me and I'm attracted to her, but the physical is just all off.  At 4am or so she tells me it's time to drive me home.  We are now in her bedroom and I tell her that I hate that moment when we get to my house and it's awkward and I'm like do I kiss her or do I not kiss her etc.  She is like I just broke up with a long term bad relationship yesterday so I'm not ready to do anything.

I'm a nice guy at heart and by now I have the feeling that things between them were physical and not in the good way.  So I'm not gonna pressure a girl who's this damaged.

We get back to mine and I start to get out of the car and she's like what?  I don't get ANYTHING?  So I go for the kiss immediately and we have a high school style kiss.

I already know at this point that all signs point to crazy and that I should never talk to her again.  You just get that feeling.  Obviously I now can't resist her.

We have plans to hang out Sunday but she sends me the friends text.  She tells me she is too damaged and needs time away from boys.  Yay!

Warning Signs

So come Friday I'm out at the bar with JohnnyC69 getting my wasted on.  I am friends with a part time model/bartender and she was hooking it up.  I know we did at least 6 or 7 free shots.  So it all got hazy.  At some point she came to meet up with us and I try to ditch Johnny.  Because I am an asshole.

But he comes back and joins us for a few minutes.  I'm hammered so my first thought is "this son of a bitch is creeping on my new toy" but really he was bored of the other girls around us.  He talks to us for ten minutes and he is like dude that girl has the lowest self esteem of all time.  You need to get out of here.  Stay away from her.  My attraction skyrockets because crazy girls know how to bring the noise in bed.

I'm so hammered that I then lose her talking to her friends.  Two underage girls start creeping on me because they think I'm with her.  It's great.  All I remember is that she left without me and when I realize it and call her she's gone home. I take a taxi home and consider my epic drinking problem.

Shutter Island

Saturday night at 1am.  8Days since first contact.

She calls me and says she's bored and wants to see me.  She says all of her friends are out of town and she is lonely.  I am sitting in my room programming so what do you think I would rather do.  Some times I just think with my little brain.

I can't really describe the course of events after I arrived.  Time lost all meaning in the vortex of insanity so I can only offer you some highlights.  And I promise you that this is at most 30% of the crazy shit she said.  It's been two weeks and I am really trying to block it all out.

She opens her mail and finds a huge bill from the hospital.  She tears it up and says 'let's see those fuckers try and get me to pay when I'm dead."

She tells me how she met a guy in the hospital with a big red mark on his neck.  He tried to hang himself.

She decided not to date him because "You shouldn't date people you meet in the asylum."

That's right all you HATERS.  I found a girl who was actually in the mental hospital.  So don't ever tell me you met a crazy girl until you meet a girl who got locked up for it!

She starts saying how she is texting with her ex again.  I instantly know she will get back together.

He is a really good guy.  He just gets super jealous because he is really insecure and doesn't realize what a great guy he is.

He is almost 30 and basically unemployed but he's just finding himself.

She isn't allowed to go out or be near any other guys because he gets really jealous.  He cheated on his last girlfriend a LOT so he knows that it's easy to cheat. 

When he goes out with his friends he turns off his phone and he yells at her.  He needs his own space and privacy.  I point out at this point that he is 100% cheating on her and she explains that no – she is too hot to be cheated on.

She concludes this story by saying that yes he hit her.  But only once.  And it was really her fault for starting it.  And he will never do it again.

At this point she goes from calling him her x to calling him her boyfriend.  That's right.  That set of stories made her want to get back with him.

She went on about how he's her first true love and she's willing to work really hard and just wishes he would work really hard too.  She also mentions that she loves to watch Lifetime movies.  I laugh and tell her she's living one.

Then things started getting really crazy.

It's all such a blur I wish I had recorded it. 

I finally wanted to leave because I was just so bored after an hour of this.  She blocked the window with her leg.  Yes.  You go in and out through the window.  And is like you can't leave me right now.  She intimates that she might kill herself if I leave.

I am really turned on be emotional blackmail.

But don't worry.  It's all getting better.

She starts telling me about the girl's she is friends with that I should meet.  Like the one who had a baby last month but put it up for adoption.  Or the girl she got kicked out of high school with.

The whole time I am texting JohnnyC69 telling him what to tell the cops when they find my body in the woods.

The highlight of the evening was at dawn.  I am still trying to leave.  So she fakes appendicitis.

I am not even joking her.  She starts screaming and telling me she has unbelievable pain in her side.  Now I'm freaked out that if I leave she might die.  I do not want that conversation with the cops.  Especially with my fingerprints on the window and shit.

So I keep googling medical stuff on my phone and telling her that it might be an STD.  Some of them have the side effect of insanity.  she says this isn't possible.  Finally the pain just goes away after 2 hours.  The longest 2 hours of my life.  And I got trapped inside a rollercoaster in Japan.   By myself.  This was worse.

She tells me that she can't wait to hang out again.  I tell her that I will never see her again.  As I'm leaving I do try to get one last kiss.  I mean come on.  I am still a little bit of a creep.  She explains that our first kiss is the only time she's ever cheated on her boyfriend and doesn't want to do it again.  She asks if we can just be friends.

Um.  I don't need friends that I fear will cut me in my sleep.  But thanks.

What I did wrong

First of all.  Her attraction was diminishing by the moment after our first encounter.  The sexual spark was there that first night and each time after that was less and less.  Why you ask?  Because this girl is bat shit crazy and wants to get back with her ex because he treats her bad.  Which is her fetish.

I needed to go home with her that first night and have that rebound sex and then never talk to her again.

I also ignored all the warning signs.  I actually screen for crazy pretty hard when I meet girls.  Then I ignore my warnings.

That first night at her house I could feel it happening.  I was thinking too much comfort + not enough physical = let's be best friends!

Now the reason the physical is off is because she is attracted to abusive relationships.  This means that all of her physical signs and signals are off.  I don't speak that language so I don't know how to turn her on.  That's why we ended up with me becoming like an orbiter.

I kept going back after I knew she was crazy.  I basically live for the adventure.  I went over to her house because I knew it would be a great blog post.

Final Thoughts

It's just not worth it.  I have access to lots of beautiful women.  I need to avoid this type of girl.

Also, I cut out HUGE portions of her terrifying stories.  I didn't even tell you anything about her mom or her several crazy dads.  So when you see me in person, feel free to ask!

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Most people learn about the term "frame control" when learning about shit tests.  I love that term, but unfortunately most people hear it and don't correctly understand it.  She's not giving you shit – she's testing to see if you're full of it.  And let's be honest, most puas are full up to the brim of the stuff.  So we shouldn't be surprised that women want to see if we are what we claim to be.  Think of it as a woman kicking the tires.

But let's get to the core of the matter.

What is a Frame?

A frame, or paradigm, is how you see the world.  Every single person out there has a frame that is unique to them.  Think of it this way.  You look at the world through a window.  The frame around the window determines how you see things.  If you're frame is star-shaped then everything will looks like stars.  If your frame is yellow that color will tint everything. 

You're frame is built out of your beliefs.  These beliefs have a great range.  Here are some beliefs that I have:  I am a man.  My parents love me.  I have blue eyes.  I am intelligent.  I am good at my job.  I deserve success.  Women like me.  I am attractive.  I am better than most men with women.  I am a good dating coach.  I am a great dating coach.  Other dating coaches respect me.  I have a lot to offer the world.

Some of these beliefs seem so basic and yet I know of a person who believes the opposite of each one of these about themselves.  I know plenty of people who were born as men but they don't think of themselves as men.  That one belief changes how they view the whole world and how they deal with it.

You have to think about your core beliefs.  Do you believe you are attractive?  The stronger your frames, the more difficult it is for someone to shake them.

When Frames Collide

When two people meet their worldviews meet.  Two people cannot interact successfully with conflicting worldviews.  So there are only 3 outcomes every single time you meet a new person. 

If you walk up to a woman and think to yourself that you don't deserve her.  If your worldview wins, you will have convinced her that you don't deserve her.  For this reason a weak initial frame keeps most men from having beautiful, amazing women.  Think about all those guys you have seen with a woman and you thought "Why is SHE with HIM?"  Guess what – he doesn't believe that!  He thinks he deserves her.  In fact, he probably thinks she is lucky to be with him.

When you are journeying along the path of the pickup artist, you will often pretend to be something you're not.  We have all been told to fake it til we make it.  There is a discrepency between who you are and who you WANT to be.

I am Not What I Seem to be

This goes through my mind all the time.  Every time I stretch my arms a little I feel this.  Whenever I grow in business I am nervous.  Last week I closed a huge deal that is worth ALL my other deals put together.  I was nervous and felt like maybe I didn't deserve it. We all go through these feelings.  It's reality.

When you are learning to become better with women you will have similar feelings.  The first time you talk to a 6 or 7 or 8 or 9 or 10, in the back of your mind you will experience a little bit of doubt.  It's at this moment that a woman will deliver a shit test.  It can feel like a kick to the stomach.  But if you realize that she is actually reacting to your own self-belief you will be able to handle the moment effectively.

How to Win the Frame War

What do I do if she says …..?

I get this question all the time from students.  There are as many surprises as there are women.  If you just try and prepare for each case, you will be studying forever.  And your personality will disappear into an ocean of fixed responses.  You don't want to approach it this way.

If you are fully self-actualized then being tested won't matter to you.  You probably won't even notice them.  As I have gotten better at game, the way I deal with these frame tests has changed.

A Practical Example

Are you gay?

I have probably been asked this question more than a thousand times by women.  If you had a time machine you could go back and watch each time a woman said this to me.  My reaction would tell you exactly where I was on my journey to seduction masterhood. 

When I first started talking to women and a girl would ask if I was gay I would think to myself that it was all over.  I had failed to seduce her.  And I would eject from the conversation as fast as I could.  As I got better I tried out different witty responses.  I always considered this the biggest hurdle to my game.  I slowed down my speech and I moved my arms around less.  And women stopped asking if I was gay.  But I would forget all the time.

Now when a woman asks if I am gay my whole mindset has changed.  I realized a couple of things.  I only care if a man is gay if he is hitting on me.  I only care if a woman is gay if I am attracted to her.  It's the same as asking if she has a boyfriend.  So now I see this question as a HUGE sign of attraction.  If a woman asks if I am gay then I know it's ON!

What changed?

Now my frame is much stronger.  I believe that all women are attracted to me.  I can't imagine a woman not being attracted to me.  I'm too dynamic and amazing.  You should feel the same way about yourself.

The Final Example

Frame control is a way of controlling the interaction.  You want to turn what she says into what you WANTED her to say.  If a woman asks if I'm gay I can either think (1) She sees how weak I am and is rejecting me or (2) she is letting me know she's attracted.

The greatest example of frame control is from the movie 300.

Persian -  Our arrows will block the sun.

Spartan – Then we shall fight in the shade.

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So I am in Atlanta after the worst roadtrip of all time.  It normally takes 3-4 hours to get here from Nashville, but a pit opened in the middle of the free way.  The damn thing was 25 feet deep.  I never even got to see it, but traffic was backed up to a complete stop.  Everyone just turned their cars off for hours.  Took me nearly 8 hours and 2 redbulls to get here.

Last night I just grabbed a couple of beers and chilled with TenMagnet.  Hard to believe we haven’t chilled in nearly two years.  Not since SuperConference in LA back in 2008.  We have stayed in touch through some forums, facebook etc. 

We have just been swapping bootcamp stories and shooting the shit about all the instructors we know in common.  It’s cool to be hanging out with someone I really respect.  He’s got a bootcamp this weekend and I’m just hanging out and helping out.  I really look forward to tearing it up in field tonight. 

A local lair guy is letting me crash in an extra bedroom in his apartment all weekend as well.  Which is totally badass.  So far this city has been really welcoming.  I almost             stopped off to see this girl yesterday on my way to Atlanta.  She would only guarantee that we could hang out.  And not anything more.  So I didn’t bother.  Let’s be honest I’m just too damn lazy.

So now I’m sitting in some conference room waiting for the action to begin.  There is no internet in this hotel for some damn reason, so I’m just going to be writing articles and blog posts all day I reckon.  C’est la vie.

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It's like that amazing line from Brad Pitt in Fight Club.  "We're a generation of men raised by women.  I'm wondering if another women is really the answer we need."  Like all of my brothers – my fellow wings, coaches, instructors and acolytes I have discovered that I want more.  It's why my life has exploded in so many directions.

Once guys start having more girls or cuter girls or sometimes it's just ANY girls in their lives, they start to look for more projects.  The path of self-discovery seems to have no endpoint.  Soon it becomes all about inner game.  Developing an iron sense of self.  Then you want financial independence.  After that you start to seek locational independence.

I am moving on that path myself.  I have expanded my business ventures in a dozen directions in the last few months.  Like every other guy I know in pickup, internet marketing is one of those directions.  Hopefully my new project will work out and I'll be in a really good financial position within a few months. 

But this post isn't about me, it's about you.

As you move along this journey and track your progress with your blog, who you are and what you want will change.  I used to just want to get married so bad.  I thought it would solve all of my problems.  Now I see the world in a completely different way.  I keep changing careers.  I am 29 and I am still finding myself and exploring every passion.

To be honest, there is nothing I love more than teaching guys what's possible.  Pickup is just the medium for the education.  It's a means to an end. 

So start trying the things you have always wanted to do or the things you've always been afraid to do.  You might just find yourself.

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But this book has me so pumped.  I jumped out of bed just to let you guys know.  It's all about how to turn your passion into a career.  Lately things have been a little tight trying to make it as a pickup coach.  The truth is that it's what I absolutely love to do.  I love every aspect of it.  I love posting on forums.  I love writing blog posts and grinding my twitter and facebook accounts.  I love it every time I sell an ebook or get an email from a fan.  It's awesome.

That moment when a student first starts to see the Matrix.  Best thing in the world for me.  So I am totally inspired to keep grinding and trying to make this blog better and better by offering more content and even more honesty.  I want my brand to be based on my real opinion.

You guys saw what happened after Vegas.  I might have lost some relationships, but there is no way I can lie and say something is good when it sucks.  So there are going to be a lot more blog posts and my videos will be more consistent in the future.  I wanna deliver a barrage of quality content.  I especially want guys to take the time to post any questions or topics you want me to cover.

So please leave comments on my posts.  Email me questions.  I know that a thousand different people visit this blog every month.  And the only way to turn that into 10,000 is with your help.  So please let me know what can make this site even better.

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As you know, I have been experimenting with online dating for the past few months.  I have discovered that there is DEFINITELY a spectrum of girls on these sites.  The lowest site is craigs list.  The girls on there are the fattest and the most desperate.  90% of the posts on there are by women who won't even post their own pictures.  A lot of these women will post pictures of something else because they know that if it says a post has an image it's ten times more likely to get viewed.

The next level of girl posts on okcupid.  These girls are the worst.  They post a lot of pictures and are mostly using the website for affirmation.  Having experimented with this site a bit, it's basically impossible to get real meets.  Most of the profiles are questionable.  I have seen girls who have the same profile on here and pof, but they only reply to messages on there. 

Which leads me to the first website worth visiting, plenty of fish.  Using the techniques that JohnnyC69 teaches, I was able to get about 10 numbers grinding within a week.  The only problem with this site is that it's free.  So the girls on here still have no investment.  Basically the girls on here tend to be single moms or girls who guys don't approach in bars.  Here you can get dates and there are a few girls that are cute, but it's mostly 5-7s.  And really most of the girls are 5s in my humble opinion.  The good news is that the site is free so you can see new girls join every week.  Monday is the best time to check, because that's when new girls join after another crappy weekend.  Most of the girls on here are pretty average.  You can get a few dates and a few half-decent bangs, but the girls on here are on here for a reason.  And if they aren't willing to pony up a few bucks for a decent dating site, well you get what you pay for.

Then we get to Match.com.  This site is worth using for a couple of reasons.  Everyone on the site pays to be a member and you can get a free six months when you don't have a girlfriend after your first six months.  This is a sweet deal since hopefully you aren't even looking for a girlfriend.  So starting this week I am going to start giving you advice on getting dates off of match.com.  So your first mission is to join up as a free member today.  Only set up your basic profile.  Take the time to look at the girls in your area.  There is definitely more quality here than on the free sites.

We won't talk about eHarmony just yet, as that site is for people looking to get married….

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