As you can see this started out as a blog to record my journey of dating progress.  I wanted to get my ex back so bad.  Now it's been 2 years and I have a life filled with adventure and beautiful women.  But I am getting ahead of myself. 

Why do you want to get your ex back?

Like many men in our society you have a common illness.  It's called one-itis or oneitis.  You think that your ex girlfriend is the one.  She's different.  She's not like other girls.  There is no girl who is as good as her.  You probably feel like you can never get a girl like her again.  There are definitely products out there, such as Second Chance Romance, designed to get your ex back and help you through this trying time. 

It's important to realize that there are millions of quality girls out there.  Amazing beautiful girls that will change your life.  I have met thousands of girls since I first wanted to get my ex back.  I thought she was my only hope.  It's ok to feel that way.  Do you feel like she's "the one?"  The best you can do?  That is a struggle that you have to work through.

How to get your ex girlfriend back – Phase 1

The first step is to realize that you changed for the worse.  Over the course of your relationship the balance of power shifted out of your grip and into her hands.  When she realized that you needed her more than she needed you, she walked out the door.  You turned NEEDY.

There is nothing less attractive than a needy man. 

You need to re-center yourself.  The first step in this process is to step away from the situation.  Take some time away from her and assess what it is you really want from life.  A little distance will allow you to gain some perspective.  It might suck or hurt, but in order to get a lot of time with her you need to spend some time away from her.

What NOT to do

Do not do anything you have seen in a romantic comedy.  Do not inundate her with messages of any king – text messages, emails, facebook wall posts, flowers, phone calls, etc.  If there is a spark of love left in her, this is like pouring gallons of water on it.  It is needy and it is exactly what is wrong with American film.

Do not stand outside her house holding a boombox over your head.  Do not call her friends for advice.  Do not "accidentally" run into her.  Do not take a date to her restaraunt or try to make her jealous. 

How to become attractive again

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, don't spend all day sitting in your apartment thinking "how do I get my ex back?"  You need to get out into the world.

The easiest solution is to start dating other women immediately.  If you sleep with a few women, it will reset your mental state.  Right now you are only comparing her to nothing.  You need to actually compare her to other women.  I have slept with women smarter, kinder, more beautiful and funnier than my oneitis.  So believe me, I know this is possible.

Once you reset your confidence and can act normal around your ex, you can re-approach her.   She will smell other women on you and become jealous.

The REAL Solution

You should really change your path and start studying the craft of the pickup artist.  If you decide to change and grow as a man, you will be able to date 1000s of women.  You will realize what you are actually attracted to and what kind of women you really deserve.  You can have a life of adventure, mayhem and mystery.

I have been traveling the world meeting insane women for two years and I have no desire to go back to my ex.  She was ok for the old me.  But the new me is in LOVE with LIFE.  I realize what I can have and what i deserve. 

I recommend you peruse a few of my random adventures on here to see exactly what is possible in life.

He is the first guy I have met who is able to implement and effectively teach online game in a quick and efficient manner.  NashvillePlayboy introduced us a few weeks ago and we have been hanging out like crazy ever since.  He is a master of free online dating sites.  He spent 30 minutes teaching me his techniques and a few minutes helping me fine-tune my profile. 

I basically have a new girl in the pipeline every two days.  The guy also has solid club and bar game.  We have been winging a lot lately and he is exactly who I was looking for in Nashville.  The guy brings a lot of experience and wisdom to Organic Seduction and I am excited to have him as part of my team.

Now Organic Seduction will be able to help students with every facet of game – Night Game, Day Game and now Online Game.  It's really amazing what he can do with a guy in just 30 minutes.  He is also an expert at taking and selecting the right photos for students to really make their profiles amazing.  I just put a photo on hotornot and I have been in the mid 9s for a few weeks now.  If you have seen my face, you know that must be some photo magic.

Johnny is also working on a full book on onilne dating which I am very excited about.  The guy is the real deal and has been helping guys for years.  Very soon we hope to be traveling all over the country together changing lives.  And he should be posting here regularly in the next few days.  It's gonna be amazing!

It seems like it's just become trendy to say you are not a pickup artist lately.  It's some kind of anti-The Game backlash.  Like the term pickup artist is becoming more mainstream and well-known so people now want to be called dating coaches.  Like it's anything different.  I am proud of what I am.  I hated my life as a loser.  So I admit it.  I am a pickup artist.  I love going out to bars and meeting and seducing beautiful women.

If being surrounded by stunning and amazing women is a crime, then please slap the cuffs on me.  You can read my entire journey on this pua blog and you can see how much my life has changed.  There are a few major changes coming in the near future that are gonna blow your minds.  I am going to expand the number of people I am working with as well as move to paradise, so stay tuned.

And remember, never be ashamed of what you are.

So get ready to laugh your dicks off.

10.   Bonnaroo -  Not only does Aziz come down to the dirty south, where I am living for a few months, to deliver awesome sexually-charged comedy, but he ALSO enjoys the local produce – aka mushrooms.  It's nice to have a comedian tell a few jokes about cool drugs, instead of talking about doing blow off a 40 year old hooker in upstate new york. 

9. Raaaaaaaandy – If you made the mistake of watching that horrible movie Funny People, you will remember him as the only damn highlight.  Who wants to watch Adam Sandler in a movie that tries to copy Philadelphia, but at the last minute he survives.  Then goes on to try and steal back his average looking ex-wife.  I only watched this movie because I saw so many hilarious videos of Raaaaaaaandy on youtube.  This movie should have been edited down to the 3 minutes he had onscreen.  The rest was crap.

8.  Fuck Tales - I will never tell a sex story again.  I will only tell fuck tales.  Aziz is a genius for thinking of this term.  He also reminds us all how baller it can be to die while eating a girl out in a hot tub.  Two precious lessons.

7.  Flight of the Conchords - Now this show is pretty funny, but they are always singing songs.  Aziz Ansari is one of the few badass characters to NOT sing a lame song to make me laugh.  He was just racist against Australians.  And really who isn't?  They are always surfing and working on their tans and waxing each other's abs.  No thanks!

6. Best Lil John Impression Ever – If you have ever seen Parks & Recreation, it's a parody of the Office which is a parody of the UK show the Office, then you know what I am talking about.  He knows how to liven up a party on a show that is trying to be another show that is trying to be another show. 

5.  Kanye West -  Not only did he party with Kanye West, he then went on to tell awesome jokes about it.  THEN he got his cousin on Kanye's website.  That is baller.  Also very few white guys hang out with Kanye.  So he is in the minority.

4.  South Carolina -  He is from South Carolina but everyone thinks he is from Libya.  People are impressed that he can sound so American.  I have been to South Carolina and between the dip and the missing teeth I didn't know what anyone was talking about.  I am impressed that I can understand him, but not because I expected a libyan accent, I expected a big redneck one.

3.  He has a DJ -  I am always happy when there is more work for DJs in this world.  Everyone should have badass entry music every time they walk into a room and especially on stage. 

2.  Google - This playboy goes out there and googles himself.

1.  A sensual evening – This is the best comedy central special that I have seen in years.  I was in my room laughing my dick off and my roommate ran in to see if I was dying.  I am 100% gonna have sex while watching this in the near future.  And when I do I will let you know if it was better than watching SuperBad while banging Sparkles doggy style.  Because that was pretty badass.

Basically this guy is one of the few comedians who doesn't tell jokes about how lame he is.  This guy is an up and coming legend.  I need to keep him famous so he keeps telling the jokes that I love.  I will never look at CVS the same way again, that's for sure.

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1. It is one of the top ways of debriefing after a night out.  You can review all of your conversations and keep track of where you can improve.

2. You can track your progress.  Sometimes after a few months of game, you forget where you came from.  Sometimes you can feel like a night out was a failure.  If you read your reports from a few months earlier, you can really see how far you have come!

3. Other people can see your progress.  Your wings can see what you are working on and give you helpful advice or encouragement.  Your posts can also inspire other newbies.

4.  As you become more successful, fans can see where you come from.  A lot of guys meet me and think that I started off at my level.  By reading this blog, you can see that I started nowhere.  If I can come so far, then so can my students.

5.  Reading a good post is always awesome.  I subscribe to 7 other blogs that I enjoy reading.

No matter what level your game is, it can be really useful to start your own pua blog.

All week she was making comments about how men don't understand women.  The thing is all of her comments were the kinda crap you read in FHM or Maxim.  You know, the stuff that is totally inaccurate and useless.

Her big thing is that she is part of the EFT scam.  If you haven't seen tapping, you are gonna love the video.  The thing is tapping is supposed to remove your anxieties.  But she taps ALL THE TIME.  It's really hard to not laugh when you are in a seminar and this girl is tapping like a maniac.  She just taps her chest all the time.  I had a friend when I was younger who had a simliar tic.  But he had MS and if I didn't know it was on purpose, I would think she had a nervous system disease. 

So imagine you're in a bar and you see a girl tapping her chest.  Over and Over.  It's really fast and looks super nervous.  But she believes that you can tap anything out.  Including shit tests.  I almost died when she said that.  It's another video highlight.

She was really weird during Hypnotica's lecture and said she was doing some weird tantric thing.  She was being super sexual and squirmy and it really just weirded me out.  I guess she wrote something on her blog about banging a bunch of guys there.  Some of the instructors or whatever, but honestly it's really gross to me.

When I look at a woman I look at her upper arm to see if there is hidden fat and then I look at her hands.  And based on her hands I would say Erika is mid 40s.  I don't know her "actual" age.  I just know how old she looks.

The other weird thing is that she spends all day slathering lipstick on.  I don't know who taught her how to use make up but it was clearly a clown or blind person.  I think she may have purchased a makeup shotgun from the Simpsons.

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Update I wrote the above right after I left Vegas.  I felt bad that it was so harsh and the video is so rough that I wasn't going to post either.  But she posted a bunch of lies on her blog.  I am totally not down with that.  I have written about my being a dick so many times on here that you know I only tell the truth.  Writing all this stuff about Vegas has probably hurt my career but I gotta do what I believe.

Anyways, the thing that really upset me is that on her blog she called the two girls that her friends abused "porn stars" the girls are actually models who mostly do events like car shoes.  So I think that was really lame.  She was trying to make her story sound cooler, but it's no cool in my book.  I think there is a huge difference between getting paid to stand next to a car in short shorts and getting banged on camera.  I think both professions are cool, but I feel like these girls deserve a little honesty.

I personally dabbled with tapping when I first got into game.  It's totally a placebo at best.  The hours you have to put in to make a difference are insane.  Time spend in the actual field is worth 10x as much.  And for real you can't tap away shit tests.  As soon as a girl catches you tapping, you are burned.

I don't even have any posts about our relationship on here.  I originally wrote a post about our first night together, but I took it down when I realized that I was having real feelings for her.  But I guess that's neither here nor there.

After breaking up with me in a vicious email which ended in her calling me a pervert, she a week later let me have it on im.  I really wish I could feel sad about the loss of our relationship, but for me it was already over.  It ended when we broke up the first time.  She sent me one final email asking me to delete the host of naked pictures of her I have.  I don't really look at them anymore, but come on.

A week after that she started telling lies about me at my old job.  She told them that we started dating while I was working there, which simply wasn't true.  I asked her out after my last day there.  It was exactly why I decided to go for it.

Two weeks ago I come into work just like any other normal day and boom.  My boss rolls in with a lady from hr.  They start throwing out some really messed up accusations at me.  It was a real treat.  They sent me home for a week of paid leave.  While they "investigated."  They never actually talked to me about anything.  The hr lady said she would let me have a background check to prove my innocence.  But of course she never sent me the link to fill it out.

Later in the week I received an email accusing me of being inappropriate at my current job.  Again no explanation was given of the charges.  They finally called me in over a week later.  Like I can't smell a bushwacking.  I had already chatted to my lawyers and knew they were being totally unprofessional in their technique.  But hey, I was already starting to hate the job.

So I finally met the head of my department.  They decided to fire me for me blog.  As you know this blog doesn't have my real name on it.  In the meeting the HR lady lied and said that's how they knew about it.  They claimed that the other investigations were just a coincidence.  AKA I was innocent but they just wanted a reason to fire me.  The HR lady said I chose not to accept the background check and when I asked her why she didn't send it to me, she admitted that she knew I hadn't received it.

Overall, it was a boring experience.  I thought getting fired would be an emotional experience, but really my life is already moving forward.  I am mostly just sharing because let's be honest it's a good story.  I might start writing more about my experience and talking about where I actually worked later on.  For now I have no heart for vengeance.  I just don't care.

So my ex girlfriend got me fired from my job.  In the end the reason they gave was that I am doing "work of a sexual nature."  I make no apologies for the life I live.  I tried to keep my work and private life separate but hey I guess those days are over. 

And yes.  I still have a stack of pics of my ex girlfriend.  Will I post them on the internet?  Right now I can't be bothered.  It's just a shame that she misunderstood me and decided to try and mess with my life in a major way.  I didn't even sleep with any other girls in between when I thought we broke up and when she did. 

I think people should take this business more seriously.  There is really no oversite and I guess that is how there are so many charlatans out there.  Taking money from people when you're not qualified is not cool in my book.  I am always working my butt off when I'm with a student and I do everything I can to blow up his social life.

Most of the 'instructors' in Vegas spent their time hanging out and ignoring students.  I saw a lot of them try and steal girls from students.  That is really shocking.  Some of the guys were so shocked at the end of the week with the students' complaints. 

Students were going off on their own without instructors and getting laid.  Then instructors who did nothing all week would take credit.  I could go name by name with who sucked, but I think the big part is a total lack of direction from the leadership.  Johnny basically never came to the infield stuff and there was no plan.  So without leadership all the instructors bounced around. 

I will say that in my opinion Hypnotica, AFC Adam and Orleans were the only other guys there who should still be in this industry.  Orleans was the only instructor who actually got laid.  And his story is legendary.  He didn't really spend much time with the students.  But overall I know he kept asking Johnny what was expected.  So at least he showed them what was possible.

I really like Harlequin, but he spent the whole time going off and doing awesome things with his buddy.  After the first day students basically never saw him.  Which is a real shame because his game is really tight and he has a lot of knowledge.

Just all these instructors who were totally distracted or never around.

For me love is a face to face kinda thing.  I mean I really did love her and I'm sad that she's hurt.  But I guess we weren't meant for each other.  I hope she fins what she's looking for.

As always I try to be super honest here about what I'm going through and what is happening.

Maybe my next relationship will work out better.  I've already met a few cool girls in this town and I'll write about that later.