First Encounter

So I'm out with my bro in law, well it's my sister's boyfriend but it's super long term, and we hit the bars on Friday night.  I'll shorten my usual lengthy intro and get to it.  I am just hanging out with him and not working girls but of course I end up talking to a professional sports team cheerleader.  I don't wanna say which team or too much because I know you sneaks will figure it out….

Her chubby glum roomate is super lame but she doesn't stop us from talking and doesn't even force my bro to talk to her.  She lets him sneak off to call my sister.  So I chat to this girl for like an hour or so and she seems awesome.  We start talking about Orbital.  Now if a girl knows about Orbital I instantly like her.  Of course if her body is tight as a drum as well…..I think you get the idea.  She is digging on me super hard so I get the digits.  I can't just go home with her because I got my bro with me and I am not putting him in that awkward situation.  I know he would just sit in the living room talking to the chubster, but my sis would be wicked mad.  I don't need family drama.

So me and him slip off.  When I get home she starts blowing up my phone.  I'm so bored.  I have nothing to do.  etc….  She just dumped her boyfriend of a year and a half earlier that day.  She doesn't say too much but I get the feeling the relationship was tumultuous.  I get a little bit of a Lifetime movie vibe.

She is smoking hot, so I wanna creep on her so bad.  I'm too drunk to drive over to her place and it's just too complicated a situation.  The next night I'm going out with some new dude from the local lair.  I'm not teaching so I just go out to raise hell.  I know I'm gonna get drunk so I take a taxi to the bar.  The whole way there my cheerleader is blowing me up.  Text text text.  She agrees to meet me at 1am for a date.  I think we all know what that means.

First Date

So I hang out with the dude for a couple of hours, but that's a sidestory.  She has to go home and change after her part time job.  I'm like I am sure you look fine etc….  I hate waiting.  But it was worth it.  She is wearing the tightest black dress of all time.  You can see everything.  All the guys are scoping her when she walks in and she comes straight up to me.  I get that full LondonPaladin feeling.  Like hell ya I still got it!  You know?  21.  Smoking hot. Cheerleader.  Into me.  It's allll good.

So we have a couple of beers.  She kinda lets me know that her last boyfriend was super possessive and it was a problem.  I'm like babe I'm the opposite.  A bunch of guys she knows walk up and it's clear they are orbiters.  Instead of my usual move of Tanking them (from My Best Friends Girl – great movie) I just tell her that I gotta use the bathroom and that they seem like really nice guys.  I disappear for like 20 minutes.  Some gorilla tries to start a fight with me in the toilets but my complete disinterest overwhelms him and he walks off.

I come back and we chill a bit more and then she's like I guess it's time to go home.  She asks how I got to the bar.  I let her know I have no car and she offers to give me a ride back to mine.  Ten minutes later we are back at her place.  We end up chilling on her porch and drinking beers for three hours or something.

I never felt that sexual spark.  Usually I just know in my guts when it's time to go for it.  And I just never felt it.  it's weird.  I can tell she's attracted to me and I'm attracted to her, but the physical is just all off.  At 4am or so she tells me it's time to drive me home.  We are now in her bedroom and I tell her that I hate that moment when we get to my house and it's awkward and I'm like do I kiss her or do I not kiss her etc.  She is like I just broke up with a long term bad relationship yesterday so I'm not ready to do anything.

I'm a nice guy at heart and by now I have the feeling that things between them were physical and not in the good way.  So I'm not gonna pressure a girl who's this damaged.

We get back to mine and I start to get out of the car and she's like what?  I don't get ANYTHING?  So I go for the kiss immediately and we have a high school style kiss.

I already know at this point that all signs point to crazy and that I should never talk to her again.  You just get that feeling.  Obviously I now can't resist her.

We have plans to hang out Sunday but she sends me the friends text.  She tells me she is too damaged and needs time away from boys.  Yay!

Warning Signs

So come Friday I'm out at the bar with JohnnyC69 getting my wasted on.  I am friends with a part time model/bartender and she was hooking it up.  I know we did at least 6 or 7 free shots.  So it all got hazy.  At some point she came to meet up with us and I try to ditch Johnny.  Because I am an asshole.

But he comes back and joins us for a few minutes.  I'm hammered so my first thought is "this son of a bitch is creeping on my new toy" but really he was bored of the other girls around us.  He talks to us for ten minutes and he is like dude that girl has the lowest self esteem of all time.  You need to get out of here.  Stay away from her.  My attraction skyrockets because crazy girls know how to bring the noise in bed.

I'm so hammered that I then lose her talking to her friends.  Two underage girls start creeping on me because they think I'm with her.  It's great.  All I remember is that she left without me and when I realize it and call her she's gone home. I take a taxi home and consider my epic drinking problem.

Shutter Island

Saturday night at 1am.  8Days since first contact.

She calls me and says she's bored and wants to see me.  She says all of her friends are out of town and she is lonely.  I am sitting in my room programming so what do you think I would rather do.  Some times I just think with my little brain.

I can't really describe the course of events after I arrived.  Time lost all meaning in the vortex of insanity so I can only offer you some highlights.  And I promise you that this is at most 30% of the crazy shit she said.  It's been two weeks and I am really trying to block it all out.

She opens her mail and finds a huge bill from the hospital.  She tears it up and says 'let's see those fuckers try and get me to pay when I'm dead."

She tells me how she met a guy in the hospital with a big red mark on his neck.  He tried to hang himself.

She decided not to date him because "You shouldn't date people you meet in the asylum."

That's right all you HATERS.  I found a girl who was actually in the mental hospital.  So don't ever tell me you met a crazy girl until you meet a girl who got locked up for it!

She starts saying how she is texting with her ex again.  I instantly know she will get back together.

He is a really good guy.  He just gets super jealous because he is really insecure and doesn't realize what a great guy he is.

He is almost 30 and basically unemployed but he's just finding himself.

She isn't allowed to go out or be near any other guys because he gets really jealous.  He cheated on his last girlfriend a LOT so he knows that it's easy to cheat. 

When he goes out with his friends he turns off his phone and he yells at her.  He needs his own space and privacy.  I point out at this point that he is 100% cheating on her and she explains that no – she is too hot to be cheated on.

She concludes this story by saying that yes he hit her.  But only once.  And it was really her fault for starting it.  And he will never do it again.

At this point she goes from calling him her x to calling him her boyfriend.  That's right.  That set of stories made her want to get back with him.

She went on about how he's her first true love and she's willing to work really hard and just wishes he would work really hard too.  She also mentions that she loves to watch Lifetime movies.  I laugh and tell her she's living one.

Then things started getting really crazy.

It's all such a blur I wish I had recorded it. 

I finally wanted to leave because I was just so bored after an hour of this.  She blocked the window with her leg.  Yes.  You go in and out through the window.  And is like you can't leave me right now.  She intimates that she might kill herself if I leave.

I am really turned on be emotional blackmail.

But don't worry.  It's all getting better.

She starts telling me about the girl's she is friends with that I should meet.  Like the one who had a baby last month but put it up for adoption.  Or the girl she got kicked out of high school with.

The whole time I am texting JohnnyC69 telling him what to tell the cops when they find my body in the woods.

The highlight of the evening was at dawn.  I am still trying to leave.  So she fakes appendicitis.

I am not even joking her.  She starts screaming and telling me she has unbelievable pain in her side.  Now I'm freaked out that if I leave she might die.  I do not want that conversation with the cops.  Especially with my fingerprints on the window and shit.

So I keep googling medical stuff on my phone and telling her that it might be an STD.  Some of them have the side effect of insanity.  she says this isn't possible.  Finally the pain just goes away after 2 hours.  The longest 2 hours of my life.  And I got trapped inside a rollercoaster in Japan.   By myself.  This was worse.

She tells me that she can't wait to hang out again.  I tell her that I will never see her again.  As I'm leaving I do try to get one last kiss.  I mean come on.  I am still a little bit of a creep.  She explains that our first kiss is the only time she's ever cheated on her boyfriend and doesn't want to do it again.  She asks if we can just be friends.

Um.  I don't need friends that I fear will cut me in my sleep.  But thanks.

What I did wrong

First of all.  Her attraction was diminishing by the moment after our first encounter.  The sexual spark was there that first night and each time after that was less and less.  Why you ask?  Because this girl is bat shit crazy and wants to get back with her ex because he treats her bad.  Which is her fetish.

I needed to go home with her that first night and have that rebound sex and then never talk to her again.

I also ignored all the warning signs.  I actually screen for crazy pretty hard when I meet girls.  Then I ignore my warnings.

That first night at her house I could feel it happening.  I was thinking too much comfort + not enough physical = let's be best friends!

Now the reason the physical is off is because she is attracted to abusive relationships.  This means that all of her physical signs and signals are off.  I don't speak that language so I don't know how to turn her on.  That's why we ended up with me becoming like an orbiter.

I kept going back after I knew she was crazy.  I basically live for the adventure.  I went over to her house because I knew it would be a great blog post.

Final Thoughts

It's just not worth it.  I have access to lots of beautiful women.  I need to avoid this type of girl.

Also, I cut out HUGE portions of her terrifying stories.  I didn't even tell you anything about her mom or her several crazy dads.  So when you see me in person, feel free to ask!

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Most people learn about the term "frame control" when learning about shit tests.  I love that term, but unfortunately most people hear it and don't correctly understand it.  She's not giving you shit – she's testing to see if you're full of it.  And let's be honest, most puas are full up to the brim of the stuff.  So we shouldn't be surprised that women want to see if we are what we claim to be.  Think of it as a woman kicking the tires.

But let's get to the core of the matter.

What is a Frame?

A frame, or paradigm, is how you see the world.  Every single person out there has a frame that is unique to them.  Think of it this way.  You look at the world through a window.  The frame around the window determines how you see things.  If you're frame is star-shaped then everything will looks like stars.  If your frame is yellow that color will tint everything. 

You're frame is built out of your beliefs.  These beliefs have a great range.  Here are some beliefs that I have:  I am a man.  My parents love me.  I have blue eyes.  I am intelligent.  I am good at my job.  I deserve success.  Women like me.  I am attractive.  I am better than most men with women.  I am a good dating coach.  I am a great dating coach.  Other dating coaches respect me.  I have a lot to offer the world.

Some of these beliefs seem so basic and yet I know of a person who believes the opposite of each one of these about themselves.  I know plenty of people who were born as men but they don't think of themselves as men.  That one belief changes how they view the whole world and how they deal with it.

You have to think about your core beliefs.  Do you believe you are attractive?  The stronger your frames, the more difficult it is for someone to shake them.

When Frames Collide

When two people meet their worldviews meet.  Two people cannot interact successfully with conflicting worldviews.  So there are only 3 outcomes every single time you meet a new person. 

If you walk up to a woman and think to yourself that you don't deserve her.  If your worldview wins, you will have convinced her that you don't deserve her.  For this reason a weak initial frame keeps most men from having beautiful, amazing women.  Think about all those guys you have seen with a woman and you thought "Why is SHE with HIM?"  Guess what – he doesn't believe that!  He thinks he deserves her.  In fact, he probably thinks she is lucky to be with him.

When you are journeying along the path of the pickup artist, you will often pretend to be something you're not.  We have all been told to fake it til we make it.  There is a discrepency between who you are and who you WANT to be.

I am Not What I Seem to be

This goes through my mind all the time.  Every time I stretch my arms a little I feel this.  Whenever I grow in business I am nervous.  Last week I closed a huge deal that is worth ALL my other deals put together.  I was nervous and felt like maybe I didn't deserve it. We all go through these feelings.  It's reality.

When you are learning to become better with women you will have similar feelings.  The first time you talk to a 6 or 7 or 8 or 9 or 10, in the back of your mind you will experience a little bit of doubt.  It's at this moment that a woman will deliver a shit test.  It can feel like a kick to the stomach.  But if you realize that she is actually reacting to your own self-belief you will be able to handle the moment effectively.

How to Win the Frame War

What do I do if she says …..?

I get this question all the time from students.  There are as many surprises as there are women.  If you just try and prepare for each case, you will be studying forever.  And your personality will disappear into an ocean of fixed responses.  You don't want to approach it this way.

If you are fully self-actualized then being tested won't matter to you.  You probably won't even notice them.  As I have gotten better at game, the way I deal with these frame tests has changed.

A Practical Example

Are you gay?

I have probably been asked this question more than a thousand times by women.  If you had a time machine you could go back and watch each time a woman said this to me.  My reaction would tell you exactly where I was on my journey to seduction masterhood. 

When I first started talking to women and a girl would ask if I was gay I would think to myself that it was all over.  I had failed to seduce her.  And I would eject from the conversation as fast as I could.  As I got better I tried out different witty responses.  I always considered this the biggest hurdle to my game.  I slowed down my speech and I moved my arms around less.  And women stopped asking if I was gay.  But I would forget all the time.

Now when a woman asks if I am gay my whole mindset has changed.  I realized a couple of things.  I only care if a man is gay if he is hitting on me.  I only care if a woman is gay if I am attracted to her.  It's the same as asking if she has a boyfriend.  So now I see this question as a HUGE sign of attraction.  If a woman asks if I am gay then I know it's ON!

What changed?

Now my frame is much stronger.  I believe that all women are attracted to me.  I can't imagine a woman not being attracted to me.  I'm too dynamic and amazing.  You should feel the same way about yourself.

The Final Example

Frame control is a way of controlling the interaction.  You want to turn what she says into what you WANTED her to say.  If a woman asks if I'm gay I can either think (1) She sees how weak I am and is rejecting me or (2) she is letting me know she's attracted.

The greatest example of frame control is from the movie 300.

Persian -  Our arrows will block the sun.

Spartan – Then we shall fight in the shade.

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So I am in Atlanta after the worst roadtrip of all time.  It normally takes 3-4 hours to get here from Nashville, but a pit opened in the middle of the free way.  The damn thing was 25 feet deep.  I never even got to see it, but traffic was backed up to a complete stop.  Everyone just turned their cars off for hours.  Took me nearly 8 hours and 2 redbulls to get here.

Last night I just grabbed a couple of beers and chilled with TenMagnet.  Hard to believe we haven’t chilled in nearly two years.  Not since SuperConference in LA back in 2008.  We have stayed in touch through some forums, facebook etc. 

We have just been swapping bootcamp stories and shooting the shit about all the instructors we know in common.  It’s cool to be hanging out with someone I really respect.  He’s got a bootcamp this weekend and I’m just hanging out and helping out.  I really look forward to tearing it up in field tonight. 

A local lair guy is letting me crash in an extra bedroom in his apartment all weekend as well.  Which is totally badass.  So far this city has been really welcoming.  I almost             stopped off to see this girl yesterday on my way to Atlanta.  She would only guarantee that we could hang out.  And not anything more.  So I didn’t bother.  Let’s be honest I’m just too damn lazy.

So now I’m sitting in some conference room waiting for the action to begin.  There is no internet in this hotel for some damn reason, so I’m just going to be writing articles and blog posts all day I reckon.  C’est la vie.

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It's like that amazing line from Brad Pitt in Fight Club.  "We're a generation of men raised by women.  I'm wondering if another women is really the answer we need."  Like all of my brothers – my fellow wings, coaches, instructors and acolytes I have discovered that I want more.  It's why my life has exploded in so many directions.

Once guys start having more girls or cuter girls or sometimes it's just ANY girls in their lives, they start to look for more projects.  The path of self-discovery seems to have no endpoint.  Soon it becomes all about inner game.  Developing an iron sense of self.  Then you want financial independence.  After that you start to seek locational independence.

I am moving on that path myself.  I have expanded my business ventures in a dozen directions in the last few months.  Like every other guy I know in pickup, internet marketing is one of those directions.  Hopefully my new project will work out and I'll be in a really good financial position within a few months. 

But this post isn't about me, it's about you.

As you move along this journey and track your progress with your blog, who you are and what you want will change.  I used to just want to get married so bad.  I thought it would solve all of my problems.  Now I see the world in a completely different way.  I keep changing careers.  I am 29 and I am still finding myself and exploring every passion.

To be honest, there is nothing I love more than teaching guys what's possible.  Pickup is just the medium for the education.  It's a means to an end. 

So start trying the things you have always wanted to do or the things you've always been afraid to do.  You might just find yourself.

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But this book has me so pumped.  I jumped out of bed just to let you guys know.  It's all about how to turn your passion into a career.  Lately things have been a little tight trying to make it as a pickup coach.  The truth is that it's what I absolutely love to do.  I love every aspect of it.  I love posting on forums.  I love writing blog posts and grinding my twitter and facebook accounts.  I love it every time I sell an ebook or get an email from a fan.  It's awesome.

That moment when a student first starts to see the Matrix.  Best thing in the world for me.  So I am totally inspired to keep grinding and trying to make this blog better and better by offering more content and even more honesty.  I want my brand to be based on my real opinion.

You guys saw what happened after Vegas.  I might have lost some relationships, but there is no way I can lie and say something is good when it sucks.  So there are going to be a lot more blog posts and my videos will be more consistent in the future.  I wanna deliver a barrage of quality content.  I especially want guys to take the time to post any questions or topics you want me to cover.

So please leave comments on my posts.  Email me questions.  I know that a thousand different people visit this blog every month.  And the only way to turn that into 10,000 is with your help.  So please let me know what can make this site even better.

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As you know, I have been experimenting with online dating for the past few months.  I have discovered that there is DEFINITELY a spectrum of girls on these sites.  The lowest site is craigs list.  The girls on there are the fattest and the most desperate.  90% of the posts on there are by women who won't even post their own pictures.  A lot of these women will post pictures of something else because they know that if it says a post has an image it's ten times more likely to get viewed.

The next level of girl posts on okcupid.  These girls are the worst.  They post a lot of pictures and are mostly using the website for affirmation.  Having experimented with this site a bit, it's basically impossible to get real meets.  Most of the profiles are questionable.  I have seen girls who have the same profile on here and pof, but they only reply to messages on there. 

Which leads me to the first website worth visiting, plenty of fish.  Using the techniques that JohnnyC69 teaches, I was able to get about 10 numbers grinding within a week.  The only problem with this site is that it's free.  So the girls on here still have no investment.  Basically the girls on here tend to be single moms or girls who guys don't approach in bars.  Here you can get dates and there are a few girls that are cute, but it's mostly 5-7s.  And really most of the girls are 5s in my humble opinion.  The good news is that the site is free so you can see new girls join every week.  Monday is the best time to check, because that's when new girls join after another crappy weekend.  Most of the girls on here are pretty average.  You can get a few dates and a few half-decent bangs, but the girls on here are on here for a reason.  And if they aren't willing to pony up a few bucks for a decent dating site, well you get what you pay for.

Then we get to Match.com.  This site is worth using for a couple of reasons.  Everyone on the site pays to be a member and you can get a free six months when you don't have a girlfriend after your first six months.  This is a sweet deal since hopefully you aren't even looking for a girlfriend.  So starting this week I am going to start giving you advice on getting dates off of match.com.  So your first mission is to join up as a free member today.  Only set up your basic profile.  Take the time to look at the girls in your area.  There is definitely more quality here than on the free sites.

We won't talk about eHarmony just yet, as that site is for people looking to get married….

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You have one or several hot girls ready and willing to take a picture with you.  Now you need to learn how to avoid looking like a dick.
Let's be honest – most guys end up looking like dicks in club photos.  But before I start hating on poses, I want to talk about the concept of archetypes.  Just like there are personalities or looks, there are poses.  We know what a rocker dude or a punk looks like.  But also we can look at a photo and decide what relationship the two people in the photo have – are they brother and sister, lovers, is he an orbiter…etc.

The Hero Pose

I want to start with one of the most alpha picture archetypes.  Have you ever seen this movie or this awesome poster?  It expresses a few things.  The man is super alpha and the woman is super dependent on him.  Look how much lower she is.  When a woman's head is at the level of your cock or below, well, the picture really speaks for itself.  This picture is actually a parody of a classic archetype.

Most people don't know this, but it's a parody of a picture of Conan.  If you are under 25 maybe you don't know what I'm talking about.  But before the movies with Arnie, there was Conan the Barbarian – the comic book.  The guy who did the covers for those comics was so famous that he he his own damn museum now.  I saw a tv show about it.  It's where I learned that he was the first person to paint this pose.

Here the woman's head only comes up to his knee.  So this guy looks about 5 times tougher.  The good thing about reading my posts is that you learn about more than just game.  This is one of the posters that the dude in Unbreakable would have KILLED to have in his shop.  So we can see how a single photo can express dominance.

But this lesson is actually about head height.  The lower a woman's head is in proportion to the man, the more dominant he appears in these pictures.  The original Conan seems way more dominant than  Ash does in his poster.  Also please note how the women pose their hips.  Hips is EVERYTHING – but we'll dig more into that later.

The Love Pose

Now a lot of guys go for the WRONG pose in the club.  Or in general.  They go for a boyfriend/girlfriend pose.  Do not use a picture as a chance to look needy.  You don't want to take pictures to post on facebook to prove to your grandmother that you have a girlfriend and you aren't gay.  You will subcommunicate the wrong information when you do a love pose with a non-girlfriend.

Now look at the shape their heads are making.  Can you see the heart?  That's right.  They are forming a heart with their faces – what you guys can't see it?  Goddamn.  It's really hard to help dumbasses but ok I'll go the fucking extra mile here.

Look at it NOW!

If you can't see the heart now, well, you're fucking dead to me.  But seriously I want you to think about it.  What's wrong with this picture.  Look how close their faces are but there is ZERO sexual tension.  It doesn't look like they are about to kiss does it.  I mean obviously this is a posed photo, but that's why it's useful to study.  This photo was put together by a professional photographer and 2 professional models to send the message -"These Two Are In Love."  And as you can see photos of love are NOT photos of sexuality. 

Ok let me break it down. She is touching him and the way he's holding her hand is either defensive or emotional.  What we want to see is his arm on her chest.  It's way more dominant and guess what?  Dominance = Sexuality for men.  The real problem is the heart they are making with their faces.  His mouth and chin are as far away from her as possible.  The way their foreheads are touching.

Well, if you have ever studied jujitsu, they are locking together in a fighting stance.  If he goes in for the kiss, she can just keep moving her forehead.  It's a pivot she can use to keep him away.  In this photo he has handed her ALL of his power. 

In my last post I talked about telling a girl to stare into your eyes for a photo and pretend you are standing on the Eiffel Tower.  I realize now that a shitload of young pickup artists might start posting shitty photos like this one.  We don't want to be emasculated, do we???

Now look at this next photo -

The Cute Couple

This guy is another pussy.  He is giving her more than she is giving him.  He is leaning on her shoulder and she is pulling away a little.  Now to be fair she might be doing this so that his photo can be in the picture….

How many of you think his arms are around her?  All of you right?  That's because we have another standard photo archetype here.  The relationship.  The cute couple.  This is totally fine if you are taking a picture for Modern Virgin magazine and talking about how you bought promise rings and are keeping the Prom Promise but you're gonna get married when you both turn 18.  Am I being to subtle here?

The main lesson to learn form this photo is that you have to control your energy.  He is giving her more than he's getting.  His whole body is aimed at her and her body is aimed AWAY from him.  Now if she turned her head and kissed his cheek or at least faced him, the energy could equalize.  But this is the kinda pose you see ravers taking at 4 am with their girlfriends.  I know this because it used to be me.  Again the key word is GIRLFRIEND.

He can afford to take this picture with her because it's his girlfriend, but if it's a girl her met that night.  This pose will plant the wrong seed in her mind.  She will think he wants to be her boyfriend.  And we don't want to send that message on the first night.

The Sexy Couple

The last photo was actually titled "cute couple" and this one is called "two lovers."  This is an amazing pose and this artist is so talented that I am actually a little aroused just looking at it.  You know why this picture is so amazing.  First, her head is FINALLY lower than his.  I bet you guys didn't notice, but in the last set of photos the girls were all equal head height with the men.  Awesome, they have an equal partnership.   And their pictures look like shit.

THIS is a fucking couple.  Look how much sexual energy there is.  His arms are around her in a protective pose.  But the reason this one is amazing is the way she is touching him back.  That's right she is returning the kino.  Or reverse-kino.  Depends what term you use.  To be fair I say reverse-kino a lot.  I'm hoping that I made the term up as kind of a joke but who knows.

Also her hips are a little tilted toward him.  At least that's the impression the photo gives us.  Her head is tilted TOWARD him and not toward the camera.  That's sexy.  They aren't posing for the camera.  This is a photo of them LIVING.  If you can get a girl into this pose you are a fucking god.  Girls won't ever let me take this photo because by the time we are in this pose she totally knows that I will use the pic in one of these educational blog posts.  HAaha.  Acutally I would have used all pictures of me but fucking iphoto broke again.  I swear that program pisses me off. 

The Aphex Twin

People who know me eventually ask about the face I make when I'm posing with girls.  I always base my photos on my man, Aphex Twin.  If you don't know who he is, well then you're life is empty.  His techno videos from the 90s were so fucked up.  He has one where he's in a limo with two girls.  And then his head is on one girls body and then the other and shit.  It's fucking awesome.

Anyways, now you fuckers know.  This is the face I always make.

Now i don't always deliver it perfectly.  But this picture he looks like he's on the line between sinister and evil. Put a girl on each arm and you're like wtf does that guy know that I don't.  He looks like he's got some creepy secret.  AHahah.  So that's the pose I try to stick to.  I ALWAYS do it in pics with 2 girls.  If it's me and one girl I might do something else.  So now you know a little about me.

The Douche

This is the picture that I'm really worried about guys.  I have a BAD feeling that a SHITLOAD of pickup guys take this photo and then throw it on their facebook and call it social proof.  I'm just writing more and more to delay posting the picture right now.  Because it breaks my fucking heart.

Please try to ignore how chub that girl on the right is.  I had to google to find pics because iphoto is being a bitch today.  It's pretending it can't see my library.  I have so many photos that it takes like 24 hours to rebuild the library every time it does this shit.  So I'm not doing it tonight. 

I want you to focus on the guy.  Try to ignore his bad fashion, lame beard and how sweaty he is.  The important thing is that it looks like a picture of 4 girls that this guy shoved his way into.  The girls all have arms around each other and it looks like his arms are behind his back.  I could talk about how wrong this dude is for hours.  (and if it turns out he's on this forum sorry dude!  I found the picture randomly on google!!!)

Let's focus on how this happens to young acolytes.  Your are working a 4set and they are like take our picture.  Your buddy offers to take the picture.  You don't want to overstep your bounds so you just stand to the side of them.  I know you guys feel me on this one.  If his buddy had simply said, girls put him in the middle.  They would have obeyed.  (remember women obey photographers, we all do).

This is another form of ESCALATION ANXIETY – I don't wanna blow the chance of a photo by going for the middle.  Well now you know that no pic is better than this one.  I mean next time it could be you i'm talking about on here.

The Still Kind of a Douche Pose

This guy is at least in the middle.  But you can tell these girls are taking pictures of themselves, not with the dude.  See how he's leaning into one girl and pulling the other girl into him.  At least the birthday girl is having fun.  But again we have here a really obvious pickup guy photo.  This guy ain't fucking either of this girls.  Not tonight.  Not ever.

Please study this photo for a minute and think to yourself, what's missing.  Do you have it yet?  Neither of the girls are touching him.  The girl on the left is subconsciously pulling her right arm away from him and is actually blocking her body with her left arm.  Her body language is keeping him at a distance.  Her body is saying I will take a pic with this dude but I won't kino him.  The girl on the right is using her drink to send the same message "Can't kino now, hands full."

I am actually pretty sure this guy is a pua based on the body language.  He is doing better than the last guy.  But there is still longer to go.

Let's Review

There are three main elements in a photo.

1.  Head height

2. Energy Direction

3. Kino

4. Angle of the hips

The Pickup Guru

I was googling the word threesome to find some decent pictures of a guy and two girls for you and this fucking dude popped up.  I don't know who he is but I saw this and thought pickup instructor.  I know I'm one too.  But hey, being able to self critique is really important. 

You know what's wrong with this photo?  This guy is TRYING to look like a badass.  Holy shit I do that all the time.  Not the time, not the time, let's just focus on the lesson.  But seriously I bet I have a ton of pictures where I look like this guy.  He's like a high-level douche.  This photo is posed.  So let's talk about how it's an INTENTIONAL message.

Most beginners will be impressed by this photo, but I need to teach you.  Sorry to break the illusion.  First of all, the girls are not that cute.  Their body language and looks scream friends.  Not lovers.  The girls are aiming inwards, but again neither girl is touching him.  They are all focused on the camera.  This photo is about the camera, but not about THEM.

Their is no sexual tension in this photo.  He isn't leaking energy.  He isn't facing them, but they aren't facing him either.  The girls are pointing their breasts at teach other, not him.  If their hips were more targeted towards him, then it would be a much better photo.

The Upper Intermediate

I am really proud of this little dude.  I mean the girls are only so-so, but he is doing a LOT of shit right.  Number one is his left arm.  Do you see how it's around the middle of that girl in the grey?  He's pulling her in towards him.  Pulling a girl in between her ribs and ass is perfect.  It's not sexual for him, but it redirects her hips towards him.  This creates a POWERFUL sexual energy.  His right arm is around the little girl in front.  Honestly guys, this is a REALLY great photo to memorize.  So if you only learn one thing, just try to copy this guy.  He's not using his hands to sneak some ass or boob off either girl.  He's controlling both of them and bringing them close to his body in different ways.

Now look how the little girl is holding on to him. That shows that he's alpha to her.  We want to see girls touch back.  The girl on the right is touching him with her breasts.  She is holding her arms back so they don't block the shot.  She wants the camera to see her boobs touching him.  This is really solid.

He is facing the camera and controlling them.  This is really good.  The girls are leaning against him or aiming their hips against his.  And their heads are lower than his in this photo.  All of this is money.

Again, please focus on the body language and the angles, not on how attracted you are to these girls.  (or to him).

The advanced

I almost don't want to make any comments on this photo.  Everything is perfect.  All energy is directed toward him.  She is kissing him, her breasts are touching him and her hips are aimed at him.  She is clutching his arm.  Yet he is facing the camera.  This guy is money in the bank.  I just saw this picture and wanted to post it.  This is a girl who is VERY attracted to a man.

The I Don't Give a Fuck

This is a good photo of a power couple. They are saying.  Go ahead and take our picture, but fuck you.  This is another way you can go if you want. 

This photo is good because they have matching expressions.  And you can see a lot of boob.  I guess these two people are famous, but the point is how they have parity.  It's a powerful photo.

The Best Photo Of ALL Time

This photo is really complicated.  Let me try to break it down.  Let's start with the fact that he fucking looks like me in 5 years and she is smoking hot.  This immediately makes me think, this guy is either French or rich.  What I love is that he is ignoring the camera.  She is totally vamping for it, but it looks like he doesn't know it's there.  Or he just doesn't care. 

She is trying really hard (successfully) to be really sexy.  But notice how her sexiness is in reference to him.  She has her arms around him in a way that says don't touch my man.  She is marking her territory. She is touching him with both hands.  He is only touching her with one.  On the ass.  Underwater.  This guy is my fucking hero.

If you guys have questions about this photo or any of the other ones, please ask.  Asking a question doesn't mean you're dumb, it means my explanation wasn't clear enough.  And I really do want people to learn from these.  I mean I have been working on this one for over an hour now. 

Good Kiss Bad Kiss

Can you tell which one is which.  Hitch got a lotta shit wrong in his movie but the idea that a kiss is 90/10 is really strong.  Which picture is sexier?  The guy on the left is taking 110.  The girl is fully on the defensive.  And because of that the photo is ruined with her fat hands.  The one on the right is a classic picture that makes every girl wet.  It's fucking Gone with the Wind you assholes. 

But for real, he is towering over her.  Her hands are on his chest.  But he's letting her have that final 10%.  Sexuality isn't about total control of a woman.  It's about leaving her some room to be sensual. 

Conclusion

I hope you guys were able to learn something from these photos.  I tried to cover the spectrum from terrible to powerful and explain the mindset I go through when I'm taking a picture.  If you look at the pic of me I posted in part ONE where two girls are licking me, you'll notice the Aphex Twin face.  And that pic is 2 years old.  I just love getting away with shit.

So with pictures just have an idea of the final product.  And work towards it.  I don't want you to overthink your photos, just have a plan for how to make them better and better.  Remember, pull her HIPS towards you.  It will actually alter her whole body language.

I love you fuckers.

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I met a really cute, really skinny brunette last Saturday night.  She's such a social butterfly that I had trouble getting a date with.  She lives like an hour away in the nearest college town.  We were texting here and there.  I was making sure she sent the last text of each conversation.  So Saturday morning I'm texting her and I let her know I have a new fishing pole.  Bam she agrees to a Monday morning fishing date.  It's important to know that I have been fishing once in the last ten years and I didn't catch anything.

So I have to crawl outa bed this morning at 7.  When the alarm went off I was like WTF?  Then I remembered and I slowly got into motion.  I show up at her house at 9 instead of 8.  When I call her I wake her up and she is in my car within 5 minutes and actually looking cute with so little prep. We head out looking for this little map that I found on google maps.

I got the top down and the sun is shining.  It was really nice out today.  It turns out the lake is more like a large swimming pool and it's surrounded by houses.  It's all private property.  We find this one spot where there is a big chain in front of a park with a no trespassing sign.  We park right in front of it and ask this dude who is mowing his lawn for permission to hang out there.  He tells us that it's his neighbor who put up the signs and that really he's trying to stop people who drive down right to the lake edge and tear up the grass.

So we go down and she totally wants to fish.  So I tie a hook on the line.  She is impressed with my knot and now thinks I'm a natural woodsman.  Don't worry that thought doesn't last long.  I strung the reel wrong and I have to cut off the hook and start over.  Eventually I get this little neon orange hook on the line and she starts casting.  I'm just chilling and chatting

I don't exactly go on a lot of morning dates.  But I never go fishing either.  I like the chilling part more than the catching a fish part.  To be honest I'm glad we picked this spot.  The water is like 4 inches deep and there are probably no fish in this "lake."

She keeps catching the hook on twigs and stuff so we move further down the shore til we are right in front of the dude's house.  It's the guy that put up the signs.  There are like 10 no fishing, no swimming, no NOTHING signs all over the place.  We are just chilling with no possibility of catching a fish.  She just keeps catching algae and shit.

Then she's like dude I got something.  I look and the line is swimming around.  I'm like wtf?  She starts slowly reeling it in.

She fucking caught an 8 pound bass.  In the shallowest water of all time. 

All I am thinking is that I do NOT want to touch that fucking thing.  She brings it in.  And I have to get into the mud to take some pictures and then to try and get the hook out of the bastard.  It's as big as a damn cat.  Every time I grab the hook to try and get it out the fish bucks.  It's totally freaking me out.

I try 3 or 4 times and then I'm like babe you're more country than me.  Get the hook outa that fish.  She tries about twice and finally we are wondering how long we have til this fish dies?…

In the end we cut the line with this giant neon orange hook in the fishes mouth.  I'm like sorry dude but if you don't hold still you just gotta look like an outlaw for life.  The girl has a piercing in the same spot so she kinda likes it.  So if you see a giant bass with a big orange hook and like 4 feet of line trailing from it, you know the two master fishermen that did that.

As far as the date went.  I didn't creep too hard.  I think she's pretty cool but she gets hit on by REALLY creepy guys like 10 times a week.  If a girl is attracting super creepy guys I might not want to get drawn into that vortex.  Plus her friend is super cute and I've started creeping on her too.  We had a really cool time and I've definitely expanded my social circle in a good direction. 

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The Purpose -

Whenever you are taking a photo with a girl, as with any "routine," pattern, piece of conversation, escalation or whatever you want to call it, you need to know WHY you are doing it.  The WHY will determine the effectiveness of the operation.  If you just take pictures to take pictures, well you won't accomplish anything. 

1.  To have a ton of pictures with hot girls – Let's not lie to each other.  This is the main reason we take pictures with girls.  We wanna throw them on our facebook page so that we can tell our friends we have social proof.  We want to attach them to field reports so that guys from the internet will respect us. 

Guess what?  That's a 100% legitimate reason to take a picture with a girl.  Building up your facebook page will slowly build up your social status, but the main thing that having a ton of hot girls on your facebook page does is make you feel good about yourself.  It builds up your confidence and this is a KEY element of all the dating systems I have ever encountered. 

A lot of guys will take a shitload of pictures when they are first learning game.  This will last for about 6 months.  I am not sure why, but it is usually about this long.  I went from pictures of every set to pictures here and there, to once a month or at a big party.

2.  To build attraction – You can spike attraction early in a set by taking a bunch of photos with a girl.  It's fun and girls love to by photographed when they are out.  Just because it only took you 15 minutes to get dressed, doesn't mean she spent less than an hour.  Girls only go out if they look amazing, so they are photo-ready.

With this goal in mind, you take the photos fast and early, but you don't push for the kiss.  This is more about having a ton of fun.  Think of all those Japanese girls that love puricura.  (the photobooth shit)

3.  To build rapport - It's later in the set and you are struggling to get past attraction.  You only have a tenuous connection with the girl.  You can tell she likes you but you want to tie her to that second date.

In this case you will focus on taking rapport building pictures.  Instead of you/her pictures you want US pictures.  Girls like taking romantic or fun photos and this is an easy way to get that facebook close.  She will want to be tagged in photos where she looks cute.  It makes you real.

4.  To escalate -  Let's not fuck around.  This is the main reason I rock the photo routine.  It doesn't matter where you are in set if you get this right, so I am really going to focus on this part.  I only break out the camera to get some pictures of a tongue war.  And the example photos below are of this version of the routine.

The preparation

You need to plan this in advance.  The first thing you need to do is get the right camera.  I know it seems obvious, but cell phone pics still look like shit when compared to digital camera pics.  I have been rocking the same camera for 5 years now and it's still taking way better photos than my new badass blackberry. 

Equipment

I use a Casio Exilim.  I bought the bitch in Japan in 2005.  That's right.  I'm that old.  And this camera is my fucking soulmate.  I took like 5k pictures of my oneitis with it.  I took pictures in Thailand, South Korea, Cambodia, Japan, Sweden, Austria, and England with it.  It has been there for my whole journey.  It broke once.  Like the zoom motor broke.  I took it to an electronics shop in Japan and they fixed it for like 80 bucks. It's been perfect ever since.

I bought this camera for 2 very important reasons.  Everyone I knew who had been in Japan for more than a year had the same camera.  In a country where electronics kick ass, to see 10 people saying the same camera is awesome is a BIG sign.  The other reason is more important.  It's the exact width of my fingers.  Most fuckers don't think of this shit.  But I get drunk…A LOT.  So some of the newer version of this camera are a little difficult for me to hold.  Translation – I will drop them.  I mean I am pretty sure that in 5 years I have dropped this camera 3-4 times.  But it's endured.  Also if a camera is too thick, you will hold it different each time.  That's no good.  So get one that fits your hand.

The case for your camera is also something to consider.  If you got keys or your phone in the same pocket the thing is gonna get knocked around.  I have a case that my camera slips into.  It basically adds like 2mm on 5 of the 6 sides of the camera.  It's not a big stupid camera case with room for film or whatever.  I love it and it's SMALL.  Remember you don't wanna wear like a fishing vest filled with your "pickup gear."

The 2 Ps – Plan and Partner

This is like the most important part of the photo routine.  You gotta let your wing in on it.  You need to have a 5 minute discussion with him about what to do.  2 years ago I almost punched Keychain in the face for fucking up my photo routine.  You wanna make sure that your wing remembers that he is your friend and doesn't start doing that old school lame ass "alpha" shit like start taking pictures of himself and then hand the camera back. 

Instead let him know that HE is crucial.  When he has the camera girls RESPECT him.  Think about how we treat photographers our whole lives.  Our brains are programmed to obey them.  And if a girl is a model, well then she really can't resist the commands of a camera man.

Your wing is important for 2 reasons – he can escalate on your behalf AND he is a buffer.  If I can get a girl to kiss me on the cheek, then my wing can convince her to lick my cheek.  This is a picture that Stickler took where he told 2 girls to lick the side of my face.  He took like 3 pix but this is the best one.  And BOTH of these girls had boyfriends like 5 feet away.

He is a great buffer because if the girl rejects his escalation, it doesn't affect you.  You can just burn him.  If your buddy is like "make out!" and she freaks out.  Just be like ignore him, he's always making trouble.  And BOOM. You protected her.  So you can still get points.

Strike Time

Now you do NOT need a reason to take a photo with a girl.  Just in the middle of chatting say "Let's take a photo."  It's that simple.  Don't make it a big deal.  If you are opening with a photo routine then you might need something else. 

Goal 1 - If your goal is a ton of pics with hot girls then just do a speed version of this routine.  Walk up to girls and say you are on vacation and you want pics of all the cool people from there.  Just be high energy.  Or have your wing say it's your birthday and you need pics because you are going to blackout.  This both work.  Just remember.  HIGH ENERGY.

Goal 2 - About 5 minutes into the set either brake out the camera or have your wing do it.  "You know what?  You're pretty cool.  Let's take a picture so we can treasure this moment forever."  Say something fun or cheesy like that.  Then take silly fun photos and only ratchet up for the romance at the end of the routine.  Take a normal pic.  Then underwater with cheeks puffed.  Then scared like the boulder from Temple of Doom is rolling behind you.  (Most girls I go for are too young for this movie so I just say being chased by the Abominable Snowman).  The idea here is to have fun.  You can make the final picture – Stare into each other's eyes like you are on top of the Eiffel Tower.  This is money!  Flips her romance switch.  (If you are going for a bf situation)  You gotta calibrate to what you want.  But this is an easy way to transition to comfort.

Goal 3 -  Take the pictures when you are getting to know each other.  Make it more of a travel vacation theme.  In front of the pyramids.  In a space ship.  In the future when you both have robot eyes.  Shit like this.  It's about future projecting and locational rapport.  (To show you that I DO know some fancy ass pua terms.)

You want her to imagine you in her life in the future.  And you want her to imagine you in different backgrounds.  Both of this things make her feel like she has known you longer.  She will feel more emotionally closer to you.  This is comfort/rapport/connection or whatever pickup term YOU like to use for it.

NOW THE GOOD SHIT

Goal 4 – Escalate.  If you read goals 1-3 and said fuck that noise.  Then I totally hear you.  Basically as you advance through game you will move this routine later and later in your set.  Until you get tight and then just use it whenever you want.

First the DEMO!.  These pics were taken by Tov last Friday after I taught him the basics of the routine.

I met this girl about 3 minutes before this photo was taken.  I was outside smoking and I just had a feeling.  I gave Tov the signal and he was like lemme take a photo. 

Now a beginner might look at this photo alone and thing "shit how does he do that"  but I am gonna let you guys behind the curtain.  It's all perception.  If a girl feels a little bit comfortable with you, she will fall into her normal "I'm with a guy" pose.  That's what is happening here.  YES she is attracted to me, but just a little bit.  This is her being normal for her.

This photo is about 90% good winging by Tov.  He says to her.  What the fuck are you doing?  Take a REAL photo.  He's escalating her for me.  So she leans in more.  When I am winging I will shout things like "Show me the sexy!"  But just see what girls respond to when you are the photog.  Just think paparazzi.  You can shout shit like "come on this shit is gonna be on TMZ, sex it up a little"  Any shit like that.

So now she is leaned in close.  Of course I think this pic sucks with here eyes blacked out.  It isn't as good looking as the first one.  Even though from a technical standpoint it's got a TON more kino and compliance from her.  See how my body is pointed towards the camera but her's is pointed towards me?  That's right.  Her vagina is aimed at my cock.

This picture is epic because a TON of things are happening right here.  All within about 2 seconds.  So I am gonna bring you through on slo-mo. 

Tov starts by "fucking up" my routine.  He over escalates.  He says "now kiss."  No lead in or anything.  And I start to burn him, BUT she immediately kisses me.  The student becomes the master.  It turns out that I underestimated the situation.  Or how slutty this girl is, but either way.  She complied with the full push.

So I hesitated, but the force of his will was enough to get me the makeout.  This led to about a 20 minute dirty makeout session.  The idea here is to have a good flow.

We went pictures -> sexy picture -> makeout.

The Standard Version

Now you should always be willing to vary what you do and experiment with new shit.  But this is the basic Paladin Escalation Photo Routine. (PEPR – pronounced pepper)  HAHA..  I just thought of that wicked name for this.  You can be like hey wing "Got any Paper?" and he can be like no, but I've got a fucking camera.

Ok so the photos have 3 phases.  And I usually only take 3 photos.

1.  Take a normal picture.  Anything can work here.  Just bring her in really tight.  If she gives you 6 take 7.  On the scale of like sexy photoness.  So if she snuggles a little, just push for a little more. 

2.  This is the escalation photo.  It's like preparing her for photo 3.  Depending on vibe you want to go for the Under the Ocean pic or you can push for the Can't you be Sexy pic?  Either way you are moving attraction and kino forward.

3.  The close.  Here I usually say now stare into my eyes.  Depending on vibe, you can say something like just like in Lady and the Tramp.  Or you can say somewhere romantic. 

Again if your partner knows the pattern, all you have to do is let him direct.  If you are obeying him, she will feel that and feel even more inclined to obey.

 Final Thoughts

You and your wings should just have 1 camera for the night.  I used to be the camera guy, but now I just give my camera to someone I trust.  Now some guys will take the camera and then hand it back to you at the end of the nigh without having taken a picture.  So never give that dude the camera again.  It's a waste.  For now Tov is my new camera dude because he's a maniac with it.  I just opened iphoto to get those 3 demo photos and there are like 30 pics of that fucker with different girls.  I mean really I want him taking pictures of me, but hey.  Either way it's happening.

The other thing is that if you take a club photo with a girl you probably won't fuck her.  This is pretty much why I stopped taking photos.  Whenever I think a set is really good to go, I don't take a photo.  Like these pics are from Friday.  This girl wasn't special so whatever.  But Saturday night I met a girl that was smoking hot and super cool.  I only ran 1 set all night and so I didn't break out the camera.  This might just be my personality.  So you can experiment for yourself, but keep this in mind.  Once a girl takes a pic with you a one night stand HAS to count.  Because there is proof. 

Don't take pictures to fuck with a girl.  Don't post pictures to harm her or fuck with her reputation on facebook or some shit.  For real.  I have 3 sisters and 2 nieces and I fucking love women.  So just don't use my shit for evil.

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So for a few hours last week this whole site crashed.  I woke up Thursday morning and there was NOTHING here.  I can tell you that I was more than a little freaked out.

I have been using the same orange template for this website for over 2 years now.  In that time the software I have been running in the background has been updated from version 2 to version 9.  Needless to say the older software just stopped working with the new software.  So I had to spend an entire day re-programming the entire website.  It is still not 100% perfect but I have to say that I am pretty pleased with how nice it looks now. 

Any feedback and opinions are appreciated.  Since going back is simply not an option let's look to the future.  The new site is more SEO friendly and runs a lot faster and smoother, so expect there to be a lot more traffic on here in the future. 

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