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		<description><![CDATA[There&#8217;s an important announcement that I left out of my last post. Beyond being unplugged, one of the biggest highlights of my recent Mexico trip was finishing my yoga certification!!! I taught my 25th class in a Mayan cave for a group of 10 incredible entrepreneurs . . . Geek Yoga at it&#8217;s absolute finest. [...]]]></description>
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<p>There&#8217;s an important announcement that I left out of my last post. <strong>Beyond being unplugged, one of the biggest highlights of my recent Mexico trip was finishing my yoga certification!!!</strong></p>
<p>I taught my 25th class in a Mayan cave for a group of 10 incredible entrepreneurs . . . <a href="http://geekyoganyc.com" target="_blank">Geek Yoga</a> at it&#8217;s absolute finest. After 75-minutes of sweating while staring at stalactites, we closed our practice with three rounds of Ohm, resonating beautifully from our seated position literally within the walls of the earth.</p>
<p>As I bowed forward to express my gratitude, I saw a flash of all my previous teachers and felt, in seconds, that they were passing a baton to me. I felt deeply supported, as though they were all welcoming me in to their community, giving me their blessing to step into my new shoes as a teacher so I could serve and help students transform just as they had done for me.</p>
<p>I haven&#8217;t always felt this way. I completed my yoga teacher training at <a href="http://whitelotus.org" target="_blank">White Lotus</a> in October 2010. It wasn&#8217;t until January 2012 that I finally believed I was worthy and capable of <a href="http://GeekYogaNYC.com" target="_blank">teaching yoga</a>.</p>
<p><strong>Big goals are like that sometimes &#8212; they are so big that even if we are outwardly taking steps, our inner belief system hasn&#8217;t quite caught up.</strong> And yet, I find the longest goals to be most rewarding, particularly because they require such an internal transformation.</p>
<h2><strong>Everybody Starts Somewhere: Video + Article</strong></h2>
<p>The video below is from a recent speaking workshop called <a href="http://cheryldolan.com/platinum-presence-workshops/" target="_blank">Platinum Presence</a> (led by Cheryl Dolan) which I was fortunate to attend with highly inspiring friends like <a href="http://escapefromcubiclenation.com" target="_blank">Pam Slim</a>, <a href="http://jonathanfields.com" target="_blank">Jonathan Fields</a>, <a href="http://williejackson.com" target="_blank">Willie Jackson</a>, <a href="http://nicholasreese.com" target="_blank">Nick Reese</a>, <a href="http://www.lewishowes.com" target="_blank">Lewis Howes</a>, <a href="http://ambassadorbruny.com/" target="_blank">Mike &#8220;Ambassador&#8221; Bruny</a>, <a href="http://productiveflourishing.com" target="_blank">Charlie Gilkey</a>, <a href="http://socialtriggers.com" target="_blank">Derek Halpern</a> and other incredible creatives. We were asked to speak extemporaneously for seven minutes about a topic we are passionate about.</p>
<p>The funny thing about this speech is that I delivered it the day before <a title="ALIVE: 12 Ways to Wake Up, Light Up, and Find Your Bliss (with template)" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/30/alive-12-ways-to-wake-up-light-up-find-bliss/">leaving for Mexico</a>; all those fears were completely washed away by the time I returned home.</p>
<p><strong>This speech is ruff and not rehearsed &#8212; but I&#8217;m sharing with you anyway, because the emotion behind it is real &#8212; and very relevant to any of you attempting something new.</strong> <em>There&#8217;s also a mini two-minute seated yoga sequence at the beginning &#8212; I encourage you to follow along! </em></p>
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<h3><strong>Yoga Journal Article Submission</strong></h3>
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<p><em>Below are my same thoughts in written form &#8212; this is from an article I recently pitched to Yoga Journal. </em></p>
<p><strong>Within the first ten minutes of teaching my own yoga class I became overwhelmed with a visceral appreciation for just how much skill all of my past and present teachers possessed.</strong> The dance of verbalizing every movement, breath and body position while delicately balancing demonstrating, adjusting, assisting, and holding the space. For the first time in six years of practicing yoga, I finally understood that teaching was much more than a hobby; it was a doorway to a lifetime of learning.</p>
<p>Much like children only start truly appreciating their parents after they&#8217;ve flown the nest, I gained an entirely new appreciation for my teachers once I found myself at the front of the room. For so long I had been a student, lost in my own world, hearing the teacher just enough to follow the class &#8212; certainly not &#8220;hearing&#8221; the multitude of considerations they were seamlessly weaving together.</p>
<p>It is from that place of deep admiration and gratitude that I make a humble request to all of the veteran teachers out there: let us newbies in. Even if you&#8217;re a little nervous about our lack of experience, give us a chance to find our way.</p>
<p>With articles like the recent (and controversial) <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/08/magazine/how-yoga-can-wreck-your-body.html" target="_blank">New York Times piece</a> by William Broad on how yoga can &#8220;wreck the body, &#8221; it&#8217;s easy for new teachers to feel like they shouldn&#8217;t bother, lest they ruin their students for life.</p>
<p>Broad says, &#8220;Many teachers lack the deeper training necessary to recognize when students are headed toward injury.&#8221; While this may true, consider also that newer teachers are just as equipped at asking their students to listen to their bodies and to stop if something is causing pain or bodily harm.</p>
<p>Teaching yoga is a tradition that dates back thousands of years. Without new teachers to carry on the practice, we would have far fewer yogis benefiting from the wonderful marriage of mind, body and spirit. And yet, it can be incredibly intimidating to emerge as a new teacher among tens of thousands of gifted veterans worldwide.</p>
<p><strong>But every one of those teachers started somewhere. Every teacher taught their first class, even if they are now teaching their five-hundredth.</strong> While not every teacher may have had nervous butterflies, sweaty palms and a fumbled-flow during their first few attempts, many did experience those growing pains.</p>
<p>In my past life on the Training &amp; Development team at Google, I discovered a <a title="Live for the Dip" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2010/08/31/live-for-the-dip/" target="_blank">very handy learning model</a> that I frequently refer back to when attempting a big goal or learning a new skill:</p>
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<li><strong>Unconscious incompetence</strong> – You don’t know what you don’t know (ignorance is bliss)</li>
<li><strong>Conscious incompetence</strong> – The dip! You suddenly become aware of how much you have to learn. You might feel dumb, incompetent, frustrated or discouraged as you realize you need more skills, time or practice in order to move forward.</li>
<li><strong>Conscious competence</strong> – You’ve started to master the new skill, but you still have to actively think about whether you are doing it right.</li>
<li><strong>Unconscious competence</strong> – You don’t even have to think about it any more – the new skill comes naturally and/or finishing the goal becomes completely do-able. This is really the fun part, where you are flowing and “in the zone.”</li>
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<p><strong>Whenever one is learning something new, they will almost certainly hit a &#8220;dip&#8221; &#8212; the phase of conscious incompetence where they are fully aware of how much they don&#8217;t know, fumbling awkwardly through the task at hand, feeling like all they want to do is quit and give-up. </strong>The key is to keep going &#8212; to remember that, as cliche as it sounds, the only way out is through.</p>
<p>I completed my teacher training at White Lotus in Santa Barbara in 2010, under the tutelage of Ganga White and Tracey Rich. It wasn&#8217;t until January 2012 that I finally mustered up the courage to start teaching my own classes in New York City.</p>
<p>For months prior I would psych myself out of it, particularly after taking classes from the many brilliant teachers in New York. Why would anyone ever take class from me, when there is an abundance of more experienced teachers right outside their doorstep? And why should these more experienced teachers let me in to their community when they have so much more insight and experience?</p>
<p>But eventually, class by class, Sun A by Sun B, I started developing my &#8220;teacher legs,&#8221; feeling increasingly more confident in my ability to facilitate a great experience for my students, even if I was still new. And the teachers I encountered were gracious and helpful.</p>
<p><strong>To the new teachers out there: give yourself a chance to succeed. Remember that everybody starts somewhere.</strong></p>
<p>To the experienced teachers: know how much we admire and respect your knowledge and experience. If you cross paths with a newbie, let them in. Ask them how teaching is going, and maybe even if we have any questions. You have no idea how much we&#8217;ll appreciate it.</p>
<p>I am finally emerging from The Dip and finding a new home in the &#8220;conscious competence&#8221; phase. I have a feeling I&#8217;m going to be here for a while…if not a lifetime. <strong>That&#8217;s the beauty of life and big goals &#8212; we get to practice &#8220;beginner&#8217;s mind&#8221; every day, as a teacher and as a student, on and off the mat.</strong></p>
<p>***</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>I&#8217;d love to hear in the comments:<br />
In what area/s do you want to give yourself permission to be a beginner?</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: left;">P.S. I&#8217;ll be doing a <a href="http://live.theyec.org/jenny-blake/" target="_blank">live video Q&amp;A call</a> hosted by The Young Entrepreneur Council at 8:30pm ET on February 22 &#8212; would love for you to join us!</p>
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<blockquote><p>&#8220;We show up, burn brightly, live passionately, hold nothing back, and when the moment is over, when our work is done, we step back and let go.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8211;Rolf Gates, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0385721544/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=lifaftcol-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0385721544" target="_blank">Meditations from the Mat</a></p></blockquote>
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<p><strong>I just got back from the most incredible week of my life&#8230;totally unplugged with 11 other entrepreneurs in a <a href="http://www.taninah.com/" target="_blank">Mayan villa called Taninah</a></strong>, situated in the middle of a jungle near Playa del Carmen in Mexico. We slept in palapas at night under the stars, then woke up to the sound of birds chirping and ducks splashing in the pond. We ate three meals a day together cooked by an incredible staff, and laughed, played and had great conversations all day every day like we were kids again.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s funny that just before I left I wrote the post, <a title="What’s Your Happy Place?" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/19/whats-your-happy-place/">What&#8217;s Your Happy Place</a>? I found it. I found it in physical form (the resort had ziplines, a mini golf course, a game room, a treehouse, hammocks, and a waterslide in a cave) and in my spirit &#8212; I&#8217;ve never felt such a pure sense of joy, bliss and love for such a sustained amount of time.</p>
<p>This post won&#8217;t be a recap of my vacation &#8211; there are no words that would do the experience justice. <strong>I feel transformed beyond measure, and this is my attempt at maintaining it moving forward, and helping you find that same sense of aliveness in your own life.</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://amzn.to/jennyblake" target="_blank">My book</a> is centered loosely upon the Wheel of Life (<a href="http://bit.ly/yKalPb" target="_blank">template here</a>), an exercise where you can rate every area of your life on a scale of 1-10 (work, money, friends, family, home, organization, health, personal growth, relationships, fun &amp; relaxation). While that exercise can help you <a title="Shop &gt; Design Your Life Course" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/shop/design-your-life/">design your life</a> in every area, it doesn&#8217;t quite hit on the qualities that bring us alive <em>within</em> that life.</p>
<p>The areas (and <strong><a href="http://bit.ly/yHQTZr" target="_blank">accompanying Wheel of Aliveness template</a></strong>) below are based on my trip and are influenced heavily by Martha Beck&#8217;s latest book, <strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1451624484/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=lifaftcol-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1451624484" target="_blank">Finding Your Way in a Wild New World</a></strong>. <strong>I believe they can be applied to any person at any time, because they hit upon fundamental aspects of being fully human.</strong> If there are any areas that don&#8217;t resonate with you, feel free to replace them with ones that do.</p>
<h2>12 Ways to Wake up, Come Alive and Find Your Bliss</h2>
<p>As you read the list below, consider how each one is showing up in your own life (or not). On a scale of 1-10, how present and full is that element? How do you feel when you maximize each one? What would be possible in your life if you were to increase the areas that are lacking? Feel free to also use the <strong><a href="http://bit.ly/yHQTZr" target="_blank">shiny new template</a></strong> for this exercise.</p>
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<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Movement/play</strong> &#8211; many of us sit at computers all day and continue staring at screens into the night. How can you incorporate more athletics and movement, even outside of the gym? Yoga in the rain, tossing a football and baseball around, and zip-lining (among many other activities) completely brought me back to my body this week. The owner, Marino, even set-up an obstacle course for us on the last day, and I almost peed my pants watching everyone else go through it! It feels great to sweat and release energy through play. <strong>See also:</strong> Sean Ogle&#8217;s <a href="http://www.seanogle.com/lifestyle-design/the-importance-of-play" target="_blank">The Importance of Play</a> (about our trip)</li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Dance</strong> <strong>&amp; Music </strong>- you may not like dancing, but I believe that there is something incredibly powerful about connecting with music, feeling it in your bones, and letting yourself dance and be free. Sweating in a club, connecting with people around you, or just dancing by yourself when no one&#8217;s watching. <strong>See also:</strong> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlfKdbWwruY" target="_blank">Where the Hell is Matt?</a> (One of my all-time favorite YouTube videos &#8212; you can&#8217;t watch it and NOT smile)</li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Nature</strong> &#8211; It was an incredible experience getting to immerse ourselves totally in a Mayan jungle, especially after coming from THE concrete jungle of New York City. A reminder about how powerful it is to be outside, play outside and rest outside. Go for walks, lay in the grass, sit on a bench and people watch. <strong>See also:</strong> <a href="http://marthabeck.com/2011/12/logging-off-the-power-of-disconnection/" target="_blank">Martha Beck&#8217;s Logging Off: The Power of Disconnection</a></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong><strong>Water</strong> - </strong>I thought about combining this with nature, but it&#8217;s different. Water has a powerful effect on our bodies &#8212; whether it&#8217;s a pool, hot tub, bath tub, slip and slide, or even staring at a natural body of water like the ocean or a river. <strong>See also:</strong> Bon Iver&#8217;s incredible <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MjxA25Tj1Ks" target="_blank">Holocene bonus video</a> from his self-titled album, <a title="A Little Slice of Heaven: 20 Life Lessons I Learned on the Rogue River" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2010/07/26/20-life-lessons-i-learned-on-the-rogue-river/">20 Life Lessons I Learned on the Rogue River</a></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Community &amp; Connection</strong> &#8211; there is something magical about sharing meals (3 a day), and finding people who inspire you to be the best, most authentic version of yourself. Consider the communities in your life: are they serving your most authentic self? Are they making your life better? During the trip we would come together for a few rounds of &#8220;Ohm&#8221; after every sporting event, even in the middle of a restaurant one day. Ohm is said to be the universal sound, and the beautiful harmony reminded all of us that we are connected and we are loved. <strong>See also: </strong><a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/2010/09/21/holstee-this-is-your-life/">The Holstee Manifesto: This is Your Life.</a></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Laughter</strong> &#8211; laughter is one of the purest forms of joy. Find people who make you laugh, don&#8217;t take life too seriously, and let yourself be silly. <strong>See also:</strong> <a href="http://www.squidoo.com/top10youtubevideos">Top 10 Funniest YouTube Videos</a></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Learning &amp; Creativity</strong> &#8211; this entails reading books, engaging in conversation, asking questions, giving yourself space to explore your creative side. Engage your mind, and just as you let your body play and be outdoors, allow your inner creativity to shine through freedom and flexibility. By creating such an incredible place, Marino taught us all to dream big, bigger and bigger still. Never give up on bringing your wildest dreams to fruition.  <strong>See also:</strong> <a title="Live for the Dip" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2010/08/31/live-for-the-dip/">Live for the Dip</a></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Challenge</strong> &#8211; get outside of your comfort zone, tackle big goals and big ideas, undertake projects that bring you alive. <strong>See also:</strong> <a title="Joseph Campbell on The Hero’s Journey" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2011/03/01/joseph-campbell-on-the-heros-journey/">Joseph Campbell on The Hero&#8217;s Journey</a></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong> Commitment </strong> &#8211; what matters to you? Commit to living authentically, commit to living in accordance with your core values, and commit to projects and people that carry significant meaning. <strong>See also:</strong> <a href="http://williejackson.com/big-difference" target="_blank">Big Difference</a> by Willie Jackson, about the powerful conversation we had with Marino about the plight of the Mayans (much like Avatar) and his commitment to serving them.</li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong><strong>Gratitude &amp; Positivity</strong> - </strong>it was amazing to be around a group of people who let all negativity roll right off their backs at any given moment. No sooner did someone state a fear or self-doubt than it was washed away by caring, positive encouragement. This is about maintaining a player mentality (as opposed to a victim role) in your own life, about reframing negative thoughts into positive incarnations, and about constantly reminding yourself of everything in life that you are grateful for, therefore giving it a chance to expand even further. <strong>See also:</strong> <a title="Be Thankful" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2008/11/26/be-thankful-3/">Be Thankful</a>  and <a title="Book Notes: Zen and the Art of Happiness" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/10/20/book-notes-zen-and-the-art-of-happiness/">Zen and the Art of Happiness Book Notes</a></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Letting go</strong> &#8211; resting, relaxing, dropping any thoughts or worries that aren&#8217;t serving you, let small infractions in life roll of your back. My friend <a href="http://hrostoski.com" target="_blank">Mike</a> from the trip uses the motto, &#8220;Zero F*cks&#8221; &#8212; as in, &#8220;I have zero f*cks to give&#8221; when something irritating happens, or even when going into a situation (like a night out with friends to focus on being carefree). He quickly got us to all adopt the phrase &#8212; making sure to clarify that Zero F*cks only applies to stuff that doesn&#8217;t matter, so that you can focus your attention on everything else that does. <strong>See also:</strong> <a title="A Manifesto: Dancing with Demons and Finding the Light" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2011/01/05/a-manifesto-dancing-with-demons-and-finding-the-light/">Dancing with Demons and Finding the Light</a></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 10px;"><strong>Light and love</strong> &#8211; sending love to yourself first and foremost, then to all others around you. One love. <strong>See also:</strong> <a title="Light, Love and Yoga Money" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/05/light-love-yoga-money/">Light, Love and Yoga Money</a> and <a title="Expanding Happiness: On Fear and Bliss (with notes from Dad!)" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/12/08/expanding-happiness-on-fear-and-bliss/">Expanding Happiness: on Bliss and Fear (with notes from my dad)</a></li>
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<div>My deepest gratitude to Marino of <a href="http://taninah.com" target="_blank">Taninah</a> for creating such a magical place, to <a href="http://nicholasreese.com/" target="_blank">Nick Reese</a> for organizing the trip, and to the <a href="http://tumbledesign.com/" target="_blank">ten</a> <a href="http://www.williejackson.com" target="_blank">incredible</a> <a href="http://seanogle.com" target="_blank">people</a> <a href="http://karol.gajda.com" target="_blank">that</a> I <a href="http://hrostoski.com" target="_blank">am</a> <a href="http://artofbusiness.com/" target="_blank">fortunate</a> to <a href="https://twitter.com/alliemahler" target="_blank">call</a> <a href="http://twitter.com/clowjul" target="_blank">family</a> <a href="http://www.linkedin.com/profile/view?id=16085148&amp;authType=NAME_SEARCH&amp;authToken=SNvr&amp;locale=en_US&amp;srchid=4da3fd71-b40a-4a8b-9c25-ed2499c0d455-0&amp;srchindex=1&amp;srchtotal=88&amp;goback=%2Efps_PBCK_*1_Daniel_Jarvis_*1_*1_*1_*1_*2_*1_Y_*1_*1_*1_false_1_R_*1_*51_*1_*51_true_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2_*2&amp;pvs=ps&amp;trk=pp_profile_name_link" target="_blank">now</a>. For those who love travel as much as I do, be sure to also check out Jonah Lehrer&#8217;s <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/travel/2010/mar/14/why-travel-makes-you-smarter?fb=optOut" target="_blank">Why We Travel</a>.</div>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>I&#8217;d love to hear your thoughts in the comments: What brings you alive?<br />
What do you have room for more of in your life?</strong></p>
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And it&#8217;s hard to dance<br />
With a Devil on your back<br />
So shake it out&#8230;&#8221;<br />
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—Lyrics to <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WbN0nX61rIs&amp;ob=av3e" target="_blank">Shake it Out</a> by Florence &amp; the Machine </em></p></blockquote>
<p>Yesterday, as I was transferred for the seventh time during a 15-minute phone call that can only be described as a customer service black hole, my blood started boiling. <em>RAGE</em>.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve had a cold this week, so my normal <a title="Light, Love and Yoga Money" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/05/light-love-yoga-money/">be a friendly decent human being</a> defenses were down. I hadn&#8217;t gone running or to yoga in days. I had a devil on my back (as the brilliant lyric above goes) and I had lost my happy place.</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Origins of the Happy Place</strong></span></p>
<p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-5236" style="border-image: initial; border-width: 1px; border-color: black; border-style: solid;" title="Island picture" src="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Island.jpg" alt="island picture" width="340" height="398" />After my sophomore year of college, I did a two-month travel study program in Europe. My roommate and I devised a method for dealing with frustration, long lines, angry people and other mood-zappers: go to the happy place.</p>
<p>Mine happened to be on an island with Vin Diesel, and she taught me how to say it in sign-language.</p>
<p>When something would go wrong, instead of reverting to RAGE or complete bitch-mode, she and I would look at each other and sign our happy places. &#8220;I&#8217;m on an island with Vin Diesel!&#8221; I&#8217;d mouth while giggling. It might be a complete fabrication, but it <em>worked</em>.</p>
<p><em>(Consider also Adam Sandler&#8217;s <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oXrRivLdueE" target="_blank">happy place from Happy Gilmore</a> for a good chuckle/example&#8230;thanks <a href="http://twitter.com/alex_dea" target="_blank">Alex Dea</a>!)</em></p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Shake it out. . .</strong></span></p>
<p>These days, my happy place is my yoga mat. While it helps to have a place that actually exists, it&#8217;s certainly not required.</p>
<p>When I feel my patience grow thin or my good-mood resources deplete, I know it&#8217;s time to get out of the house and get moving. Fresh air, a walk or a run, and definitely a yoga class. My dad has a theory that unused adrenaline (which we start out with every morning) quickly turns toxic in our bodies if we don&#8217;t put it to use within 24 hours.</p>
<p><strong>When you&#8217;re in a funk, you don&#8217;t always realize that it&#8217;s because you&#8217;ve neglected your happy place&#8230;but it&#8217;s never too late to go back. </strong>Or to imagine yourself there in vivid detail.</p>
<p>Just as negotiators suggest &#8220;<a href="http://www.33voices.com/posts/go-to-the-balcony" target="_blank">going to the balcony</a>&#8221; instead of reacting on the spot, the same applies for going to your happy place. The next time you find yourself sad, mad, frustrated or otherwise on a rapid downhill slide into toxic energy, conjur up a place that makes you smile.</p>
<p>What does it look like? Who is there with you? What are you doing? What imagined scenario (or real activity) is guaranteed to lift your spirits? It might even help to make a list or do a free-write so that you have something to come back to when you&#8217;re feeling less creative.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>I&#8217;d love to hear in the comments: what is your happy place?<br />
What person or place (or puppy!) makes you smile just thinking about it?</strong></p>
<p>***</p>
<p><strong>P.S. Two fun features elsewhere on the web today: </strong>My &#8220;Act as If&#8221; story is up on <strong><a href="http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/01/19/act-as-if/" target="_blank">Positively Positive</a>, </strong>and the most in-depth interview I&#8217;ve done in a while is posted at <strong><a href="http://ideamensch.com/jenny-blake/" target="_blank">Idea Mensch</a></strong>. Head on over and check them out &#8212; both are great websites that I am honored to be on and look forward to exploring more!</p>
<p><strong>P.P.S. Thank you so much</strong> for all of your enthusiasm and kind words about the <strong><a href="http://www.mint.com/blog/how-to/life-after-college-roadmap-012012/" target="_blank">Mint infographic</a></strong> &#8212; it&#8217;s been a blast seeing it spread around the Internet!</p>
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<p><strong>Today is a VERY exciting day . . . </strong>I&#8217;m proud to introduce the newest member of the Life After College family!*</p>
<p><em>*Oh my . . .now I&#8217;m referring to projects as children. You know you&#8217;re hopelessly addicted to blogging when . . . </em></p>
<p><strong>In collaboration with Mint and Quicken, we&#8217;ve released an infographic today called &#8220;<a href="http://bit.ly/LACMintInfographic" target="_blank">Your Roadmap to Life After College</a>&#8220;</strong> &#8212; an eye-candy CliffsNotes version of <a href="http://amzn.to/jennyblake">my book</a>!</p>
<p>Our aim was to create something fun, interesting and useful, in a style that harkens back to the Choose Your Own Adventure books many of us loved as kids. <a href="http://bit.ly/LACMintInfographic" target="_blank">The Roadmap to Life After College</a> covers six major life areas: Home, Money, Career, Health, Social Life and Fun, with tips and statistics sprinkled throughout. A little <a title="A virtual Easter egg is an intentional hidden message, in-joke, or feature in a work such as a computer program, web page, video game, movie, book, or crossword. " href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Easter_egg_(media)" target="_blank">virtual easter egg</a>: If you look closely, you&#8217;ll notice that my dog <a href="http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=7zw3J&amp;m=3lCW.qoFWPBR.AZ&amp;b=.SrCWMZLtMmzmFHS.wexag" target="_blank">Patches</a> (may she rest in peace) is in the picture frame at the top <img src='http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p><em><strong>If you&#8217;re looking to take the roadmap even further, I encourage you to sign-up for my latest greatest <a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/shop/design-your-life/" target="_blank">Design Your Life</a> course</strong> (inspired by the infographic) &#8212; six weeks to help you &#8220;stop spinning and start LIVING&#8221; in all the areas above. The best part? If you enroll, you get a friend in free. Accountability is sexy, baby! </em></p>
<p>Whether you are nearing graduation, a few years out, or know someone approaching this major transition, we hope you enjoy the digital adventure on the <a href="http://bit.ly/LACMintInfographic" target="_blank">Mint Blog</a>!</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>That&#8217;s not it&#8230;</strong></span></p>
<p><strong>You can also purchase this infographic (reconfigured slightly) as a <a href="http://www.zazzle.com/your_roadmap_to_life_after_college_poster-228545948569513553" target="_blank">18&#215;24 poster</a>, which I&#8217;m really stoked about. </strong>First official JBE merchandise outside of the book! I may be biased, but I think it would make a great gift for any soon-to-be-grads you know <img src='http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>I&#8217;d love to hear your thoughts in the comments here or on the Mint blog, and please share this with anyone and everyone who you think could benefit!</p>
<p>***</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Make Sh*t Happen Doors are Open!</strong></span></p>
<p>Thanks to the awesomeness that is <a href="http://anymeeting.com" target="_blank">AnyMeeting</a> (h/t <a href="http://www.seanogle.com/product-reviews/unconventional-guide-to-publishing-review" target="_blank">Sean Ogle</a>), <strong>I was able to record today&#8217;s free Make Sh*t Happen Crash Course</strong><strong>. <a href="http://www.anymeeting.com/jennyblake/E959D785824E" target="_blank">View the recording</a>*</strong> and set your biggest goals on fire for 2012! In a good way, of course <img src='http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p><em>*If you can&#8217;t see the video and PPT, here&#8217;s the work-around from AnyMeeting: &#8220;Start playing the recordings in question and right click the area where the content is supposed to be playing. Press &#8220;Settings&#8221; on the small menu that appears and now a Adobe Flash Player Settings prompt window should pop up. Uncheck the &#8220;Enable hardware acceleration&#8221; box and close the prompt window. Refresh your browser a couple times and that should resolve the issue.&#8221; Sorry for the hassle! </em></p>
<p><strong>The <a title="" href="http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=7zw3J&amp;m=3lCW.qoFWPBR.AZ&amp;b=BY.957WeoEbmQqlaf18xNQ" target="_blank">full course</a> is now open for enrollment, and I&#8217;m already in love with the early enrollees. </strong>It sold out in less than 24 hours last time, so make sure you get a jump on it if you know you&#8217;re interested.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s what one of the participants, rockstar <a href="http://drdavidgeier.com" target="_blank">David Geier</a>, had to say about his experience:</p>
<blockquote><p>“I really knew very little about this course before I signed up. Someone I know tweeted Jenny’s blog post about leaving Google to pursue her dreams, and that post struck a chord with me. I realized that I have had dreams of new pursuits that were just that – dreams. But something about that post made me want to give the MSH course a shot. And I was shocked how great this course was for me, because everything about it is not at all like me (or my past me).</p>
<p>I remember very specifically how nervous I was typing my big goal into the response section, knowing that the other members of the course would soon read it. I had to open a bottle of really expensive wine I had been saving for a special occasion as I typed it. I hit enter with some fear, honestly. But then I read the other responses and I couldn’t get over how amazing everyone’s dreams and projects were. I felt like we were all starting an amazing journey.</p>
<p>Every step along the way – creating our support network, writing our vision statements, creating accountability, discussing our progress with other course members – made the journey more and more tangible. While I still have a long way to go to complete my goals, I am so much more confident that I can do it and that it will happen that it almost feels inevitable.</p>
<p>I can’t say enough how much Jenny and her course have helped me!”</p>
<div id="testimonialbox3name">—David G.</div>
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<p><strong>Cheers — to geeking out on infographics and to big goal swagger in 2012!</strong></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><img alt="Streetlight at night" src="http://dontdatethatdude.files.wordpress.com/2007/11/streetlight.jpg" class="alignright" width="225" style="border:1px solid black;" /><strong>I&#8217;ve been in a great mood this week,</strong> feeling very optimistic about the present and future; radiant, cheerful, and impossibly gregarious. </p>
<p>But a wave of anxiety swept over me this afternoon. I felt knots in my stomach, tension in my jaw, and had a sad expression on my face. I was grateful to be headed to yoga class because I knew it would force me to breathe, and to let go of this unnecessary weight. </p>
<p>Traveling lightly, I left my purse at home and tucked my credit card, metro card and $10 cash into my vest pocket. </p>
<p><em>Side note that will be relevant shortly: I taught my first official <a href="http://GeekYogaNYC.com" target="_blank">Geek Yoga class</a> in NYC last night (yay!), and one person paid in cash. A lightly worn $10 bill.</em></p>
<p>Mood a little low, I headed down into the subway with the thick, warm air that I fell in love with as a kid, and I was immediately taken by two women singing their hearts out into a portable mic and speaker system, in what sounded like a cross between Amy Winehouse and Aretha Franklin. </p>
<h3>They were smiling, dancing, and singing with soul. So I started smiling back at them.</h3>
<p>Bigger, bigger, bigger still. They literally turned my frown upside down. </p>
<p><strong>They snapped me out of my sadness and brought me pure joy. What could be more worth $10 than that?</strong> My $10 came from teaching a yoga class, and it felt right to use that same money to spread a little more love and happiness in the world, as these women had just done for me. </p>
<p>Into their hat it went before I stepped onto the subway car. </p>
<h3>My word of the year is Light.</h3>
<p>I am pouring my focus into being a shining beacon of light in the world, to bring joy and positive energy to others, uplifting them in the process. To practice, I&#8217;ve been smiling at people, complimenting strangers and generally going out of my way to be friendly and strike up conversations. </p>
<p><strong>Though I am succeeding at uplifting others, the more surprising realization has been that <em>it is working on me</em>.</strong> </p>
<p>For the next ten minutes after giving the two women my cash, I felt filled with love. <strong>Joy</strong>. <em>Bliss</em>. </p>
<h3>&#8220;Yoga Money,&#8221; I laughed to myself while walking to class. Of course it should stay in circulation!</h3>
<p>And then I proceeded to have an entirely transformative yoga practice. </p>
<p>During class I focused my gaze on the lights outside. I smiled as I pictured them being put there just for me. </p>
<p>By the end of class, I found myself in a <a href="http://www.katsaksyoga.com/2011/02/07/how-to-do-yoganidrasana-yogic-sleep-pose/" title="Yoganidrasana: Yogic Sleep Pose" target="_blank">yoga pose</a> that I had never done before; one that I thought I would never be able to do in my lifetime. I didn&#8217;t even know the name of it until I researched it for this post (a near miracle that I could even figure it out!). </p>
<p>Being in that yoga pose was the most open I&#8217;ve ever been . . . and they say that open hips are the way to an open heart. </p>
<h3>As I left class, I started typing a reminder to myself on my phone:</h3>
<p>Every light is for . . . but before I could type &#8220;you,&#8221; the word &#8220;for&#8221; auto-corrected to God. I&#8217;m not religious, but that certainly got my attention.  </p>
<p>Every light is God.<br />
Every light is for you.<br />
<strong>Every light &#8212; streetlight, sunlight, night light, invisible light &#8212; is a reminder to shine <em>our</em> lights more brightly in the world.</strong></p>
<p><em>Namaste.</em> </p>
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		<title>What ONE THING will you regret not doing this year? My story as told through my diary*</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jenny</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[*Yes, I still address my journal as &#8220;Dear Diary.&#8221; Stop laughing!!! I&#8217;ve been writing almost daily since I was ten years old and the name stuck. Before we jump in, I want to extend my deep gratitude to Jade Craven for including me on ProBlogger&#8217;s list of 20 Bloggers to Watch in 2012 &#8211; I&#8217;m beyond honored, and in [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><em>*Yes, I still address my journal as &#8220;Dear Diary.&#8221; Stop laughing!!! I&#8217;ve been writing almost daily since I was ten years old and the name stuck. Before we jump in, I want to extend my deep gratitude to <a href="http://jadecraven.com/" target="_blank">Jade Craven</a> for including me on <a href="www.problogger.net/archives/2011/12/31/20-bloggers-to-watch-in-2012/" target="_blank">ProBlogger&#8217;s list of 20 Bloggers to Watch in 2012</a> &#8211; I&#8217;m beyond honored, and in great company if you&#8217;re looking for awesome new blogs to follow. </em></p>
<p><strong>I&#8217;ve been burrowed away in my apartment these last few days</strong> consuming coffee at a pace as close to an IV drip as I can get it, writing, <a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/shop/design-your-life/">course-creating</a>, working on a super-fun project with <a href="http://mint.com" target="_blank">Mint</a> (stay tuned!) and wracking my brain for what to say to all of you that isn&#8217;t horribly, obnoxiously cliché as we ring in the new year.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Resolutions Schmezoloutions</strong></span></h3>
<p>I don&#8217;t make resolutions, I make mind maps of what I&#8217;d like to do or be in every major area of life and business, and I&#8217;ve made one every year for the last four years. Last year I shared my <a title="Kick-off to 2011: Mind-Maps, Passion and Pancakes" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2011/01/11/kick-off-2011/">Passions Mind Map from 2008</a>, along with instructions for creating your own. But I&#8217;m not here to preach about whether you should make resolutions or set goals, or even tell you how to keep them or not.</p>
<p><strong>Instead, I just want one thing for all of you this year: to dig deep, find your courage, and pursue with gusto that thing in your heart that you know you must do.</strong> That one thing that, upon reflection 12 months from now, you would surely regret not attempting. I don&#8217;t care if you&#8217;re &#8220;successful&#8221; or not. I just want you to TRY. And to come alive in the process.</p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Show not tell: in which I crack open my journal for all to see</strong></span></h3>
<p>My English teachers always said to show not tell when writing. Somehow I don&#8217;t think they meant I should bare my innermost thoughts for all to see, but I&#8217;m doing it anyway. Last year, the one thing I would have regretted most was not giving myself a chance at running my own business full-time.</p>
<p>This month marks my six-month anniversary of <a title="20 Lessons from 2 Months of Solopreneurship (Part Two)" href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2011/08/25/20-lessons-from-2-months-of-solopreneurship-part-two/" target="_blank">solopreneurship</a>, and I&#8217;m breaking even and paying bills with far more ease than I had envisioned. <strong>It all happened as a result of someone asking me, &#8220;How would you feel if a year from now nothing has changed?&#8221;</strong> (see the <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RRp86eirkG4" target="_blank">video of me telling this story in my 20SB Keynote</a>)</p>
<p><strong>Rather than just sit on top of a mountain of &#8220;yay, I did it!&#8221; and tell you about how I got here, I&#8217;d like to show you.</strong></p>
<p>With a few caveats:</p>
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<li><a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/03/no-regrets/jb_travel2011/" rel="attachment wp-att-5071"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-5071" style="border-image: initial; border-width: 1px; border-color: black; border-style: solid;" title="Jenny's TripIt Stats for 2011" src="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/JB_Travel2011.png" alt="Jenny's TripIt Stats for 2011" width="199" height="211" /></a>Most of my most thoughtful entries happen during flights &#8212; you&#8217;ll notice that&#8217;s where many of these came from. As you can see from my <a href="http://tripit.com" target="_blank">TripIt</a> stats, I had lots of opportunities for deep reflection this year!</li>
<li>As I mentioned above, I still start every entry with &#8220;Dear Diary.&#8221; Dear Journal just doesn&#8217;t have the same ring to it.</li>
<li>I never write with the intention to share, and if anyone ever read my journals without my consent I might not speak to them again. Sharing these entries is new for me! Shared without edits, even though there are several places I would have liked to omit a few things <img src='http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </li>
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<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Journal Entry 1: May 15, 2011 &#8211; Suspended between two worlds</strong></span></p>
<p>In this entry I&#8217;m scared about the future, but having experienced the joy of being on my own, I start to entertain the possibility that I won&#8217;t be as massive a failure as my inner critic would like me to believe.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/03/no-regrets/jb_journal_5-15-11/" rel="attachment wp-att-5078" target="_blank"><img class="alignnone size-large wp-image-5078" style="border: 1px solid black;" title="JB_Journal_5-15-11" src="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/JB_Journal_5-15-11-1024x677.jpg" alt="JB Journal entry from May 15, 2011" width="600" height="397" /></a></p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Journal Entry 2: June 1, 2011 &#8211; When it all finally clicks</strong></span></p>
<p>This is the day I actually committed to moving forward with my great leap. I knew the conversation with Google would be incredibly hard (I haven&#8217;t been that nervous in a long-time) but that it was time for my to fly (my <a href="http://doniree.com/2011/01/10/fly/">theme for 2011</a>). I loved working at Google and cherish my time there, but this is when I realized that I was ready to give myself a chance, and that I would greatly regret not taking that risk.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/03/no-regrets/jb_journal_6-1-11/" rel="attachment wp-att-5079" target="_blank"><img class="alignnone size-large wp-image-5079" style="border: 1px solid black;" title="JB_Journal_6-1-11" src="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/JB_Journal_6-1-11-768x1024.jpg" alt="JB's Journal Entry from June 1, 2011" width="600" /></a></p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Journal Entry 5: June 15, 2011 &#8211; Pardon my french!</strong></span></p>
<p>Two weeks later, I made the call. I was sad to leave my co-workers and hated disappointing my manager, director and teammates by not returning, but I couldn&#8217;t help but squeal with glee at FINALLY making a decision and betting on myself.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/03/no-regrets/jb_journal_6-15-11/" rel="attachment wp-att-5088" target="_blank"><img class="alignnone size-large wp-image-5088" style="border: 1px solid black;" title="JB_Journal_6-15-11" src="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/JB_Journal_6-15-11-1024x345.jpg" alt="JB Journal from June 15, 2011" width="600" /></a></p>
<p>Haha &#8212; that&#8217;s what pure JB handwritten all-caps excitement looks like <img src='http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif' alt=':D' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Journal Entry 4: November 30, 2011 &#8211; Mantras Moving Forward</strong></span></p>
<p>Most of these mantras came to me as a result of challenges and emotional pain I was experiencing. They are an attempt at documenting how I want to be and what I want to focus on moving forward instead of fears, doubts and self-criticism.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2012/01/03/no-regrets/jb_mantras_11-30-11/" rel="attachment wp-att-5083" target="_blank"><img class="alignnone size-large wp-image-5083" style="border-image: initial; border-width: 1px; border-color: black; border-style: solid;" title="JB_Mantras_11-30-11" src="http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/JB_Mantras_11-30-11-926x1024.jpg" alt="JB Mantra's for 2011/2012" width="600" /></a></p>
<h3><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>A Toast: to 2012 with no regrets</strong></span></h3>
<p>I hope that in some way these snapshots have been helpful or interesting (if not just plain voyeuristic!). I hope they help you see that behind every courageous leap lie many fears and insecurities, but that they CAN be overcome.</p>
<p>Whether you write resolutions or not, ask yourself these two questions (and if you&#8217;re feeling gutsy, answer in the comments):</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>What is the ONE THING that you know in your gut you want to do this year?<br />
How would you feel if one year from now if nothing had changed? </strong></p>
<p>***</p>
<h2>Make Sh*t Happen Enrollment + Free Crash Course</h2>
<p>If you are looking for extra support as you go after your own &#8220;no regrets&#8221; year, stick around: the <strong>doors re-open for <a href="http://make-shit-happen.com" target="_blank">Make Sh*t Happen</a> on January 11 at 3pm ET. </strong> I&#8217;m so excited I can barely stand it! Wondering if the course is right for you? Check out <a href="http://make-shit-happen.com/thelove/" target="_blank">what the inaugural group had to say</a>.</p>
<p><strong>I&#8217;m also super excited to host a free</strong> <strong><a href="http://www.anymeeting.com/AccountManager/RegEv.aspx?PIID=EB52D9858648" target="_blank">Make Sh*t Happen Crash Course webinar</a> on January 11 at 1:30pm PT </strong>as a fun way to kick-off the new year and provide a CliffsNotes version of what we cover in case you can’t afford the full course at the moment.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll share my 8-step process for going after a massive goal: everything from big-picture visioning to building a strong support network, surviving the dip, and celebrating. At the very end I will answer any questions potential course enrollees may have. <a href="https://www3.gotomeeting.com/register/595715046" target="_blank">Register here</a>, and please note that the webinar will not be recorded.</p>
<p><strong>Cheers &#8212; to dreaming, doing and big-goal-swagger in 2012!</strong></p>
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