tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-57295898422098505942024-03-05T02:43:18.138-08:00Latter Day LadyAudrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-10763790555846291562009-05-19T21:31:00.000-07:002009-05-20T10:46:32.507-07:00Touch the Hearts of the Children<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoklJxjTA_Oc6G2_jj8FTP9W5ZoryJHCRTQ594KMLesR6QM4Epfl_7Ke3dvCmDjOxf90nQsWnEWDweDnj7wxahsuvY-D6kbim6mvHyuNY_cHUiUG-PPRZ5HGCWGNLUAZ2412jwAnQnQA/s1600-h/pj.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhoklJxjTA_Oc6G2_jj8FTP9W5ZoryJHCRTQ594KMLesR6QM4Epfl_7Ke3dvCmDjOxf90nQsWnEWDweDnj7wxahsuvY-D6kbim6mvHyuNY_cHUiUG-PPRZ5HGCWGNLUAZ2412jwAnQnQA/s400/pj.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5337760884069827346" border="0" /></a><blockquote style="font-style: italic;"><span style="font-size:130%;">When our children feel our love for the Lord and our unconditional love for them, then our example becomes a meaningful guide to them as they develop their own spiritual strength. Remember the Lord’s commandment to the Israelites to, first, put His words in their hearts, and then He said, “Teach them diligently unto thy children” (<a class="scriptureRef" onclick="newWindow('http://scriptures.lds.org/deut/6//7#7')" target="contentWindow" href="http://scriptures.lds.org/deut/6/7#7"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Deut</span>. 6:7</a>). In all that we do, we can teach our children to love the Lord. <span style="font-weight: bold;">At times our most impressionable teaching happens when we don’t even realize that we’re teaching</span>. Anne G. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Wirthlin</span> <a href="http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=3b1c6e9ce9b1c010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____&hideNav=1">Touch the Hearts of the Children</a></span><br /><br /></blockquote>I feel very blessed that our little family is surrounded by not only both sets of grandparents but many other family members and friends who play a very important part in our lives. My "little guy" is so lucky to have so many wonderful people who love him and who I am happy he has them to look up to as an example.... It really got me to thinking how can we all do better showing our unconditional love to those around us.. Thoughts? Suggestions?Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-51112558345437126082009-05-13T10:53:00.000-07:002009-05-20T10:45:47.116-07:00Strengthening the Family- #5 Friends<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjcVh2oG07lkaALXRvLizMRlQDJp24a976iRbGKyJlZLBUzuqVJsbBza9k8Up9lRFoI-5pcbDFof0xSAS_aTUCCN1Ek1wf1MUJYd8RqJkQWJTNqcawlvl3P-1m0cBgns_Xs4AhuW6ZIog/s1600-h/ALS_Hope_Bird.png"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 137px; height: 201px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjcVh2oG07lkaALXRvLizMRlQDJp24a976iRbGKyJlZLBUzuqVJsbBza9k8Up9lRFoI-5pcbDFof0xSAS_aTUCCN1Ek1wf1MUJYd8RqJkQWJTNqcawlvl3P-1m0cBgns_Xs4AhuW6ZIog/s400/ALS_Hope_Bird.png" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5335370175491622130" border="0" /></a> <p style="font-family: times new roman; font-style: italic;" class="source"></p><blockquote>It is very simple... As my mother taught me, 'Birds of a feather flock together.' Your peer group can inspire you to do great things or tempt you into strange and miserable paths. True friends make it easier to live the gospel. They never make us choose between their ways and the Lord's ways. They help us be the kind of person that attracts other true friends. And they help us become the kind of person a righteous companion can choose to be with forever. If you want those kinds of friends, ask yourself: 'Am I that kind of friend to others?..' <span style="font-size:85%;"><span class="author">~ Robert D. Hales</span>, <a href="http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=2370b5658af22110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&hideNav=1">To the Aaronic Priesthood: Preparing for the Decade of Decision, Ensign, May 2007, 49</a><br /><br /></span></blockquote><span style="font-size:85%;"><a href="http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=2370b5658af22110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&hideNav=1"></a></span> <p></p>We all want good friends and we all want our children to have good friends... It isn't always as easy as it sounds so much of our children's interaction with the peers is at school or church where we aren't' always around. I think of many teens I know and almost without fail those who have good uplifting friends also have parents who welcome those same friends into their homes and take the effort to get to know them.<br /><br />Because of this I and DH have always had the goal that our house would be the kind of place where our children's friends felt welcome at any time; a place that they wanted to hang out. Although the little man is just two I have given this a lot of thought lately pondering ways that I can prepare now to make my home that sort of place. At first I started to fret.. our house is by no means big or fancy and probably will never be..... then I realized so what? Is it really going to matter to my children's friends that my kitchen counters are markedly from the 80's? Do they really care that I have salmon colored siding? What then will make my home a welcome place?<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">1. Food:</span> I know... you are all probably laughing at me right now but take a moment to think about it... How could a plate of warm cookies after school or a Popsicle on a summer afternoon not be a plus to any child or teen? Even with our adult friends we find ourselves stocking up on pop (which we don't drink) or snacks to pull out when they are over. Would they still like us if we didn't offer them diet Pepsi a bag of chips when they came over? Probably... but I think that by doing so we are sending them a clear message- we LIKE you!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">2. Entertainment:</span> Now I am not suggesting that you go out and by the latest game console or install a pool in your backyard but I do think that it is important that you find fun and unique activities for your children to do with their friends. <br /><br />Yes, a pool, wii, or basketball court can all be great things and if you can afford it great but if not you still have a world of options- Even a simple deck of cards can provide hours of fun. For younger children you could stock up on play dough, bubbles, and a variety of inexpensive art supplies. For teens board games and a football or croquet set. Tailor it to your child's interests and get creative! You would be surprised how much fun a group of kids could have with something as simple as being let loose in the kitchen to bake and decorate cookies.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">3. Space: </span> So now you have the cards, wii, games or whatever, now find a place that can be their space. Their own personal "hangout". Even if it's just the child's bedroom or a corner of the living room enlist your child's help in making it kid friendly. Just as important as the actual space is how you as the parent treat it. By all means know what's going on and check in occasionally but DON'T hover!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">4. Open Door, Open Ear, Open Arms</span>: More than anything making your home a place where your children's friends feel welcome is more about your attitude than anything else. It may sound redundant but if you want them to fell welcome their you have to do just that welcome them. Let them know your happy to have them, even if it may not be the best timing for you. Treat them like you would your own children be willing to listen and to lend a hand if needed- you can be an influence for good especially to many children who may not have the same parental example in their own home.<br /><br />I am a firm believer that if you welcome your children and their friends into your home that not only will you be able to influence them for good but that in a wholesome uplifting environment they will not only be less likely to get into 'mischief' but be more inclined to natural make good decisions. It may take work but remember "There's no place like home!"<br /><br /><span style="font-size: 85%;">* My Blog Post Series "Strengthening the Family" is based on my personal thoughts from reading the book "25 Mistakes LDS Parents Make and How to Avoid Them" by Randal A. Wright</span>Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-76275842296316241952009-04-30T15:50:00.000-07:002009-04-30T16:07:33.993-07:00Strengthening the Family- Part 4 TraditionsTraditions are funny things. They creep up on you from nowhere and before you know it they are stuck to you like superglue....<br /><br />I don't remember when my parents first lined us up on the stairs for pictures early Christmas morning but even now decades later despite the inevitable protest we all end up on the stairs squished closer together each year as the family grows to take our annual picture.<br /><br />I doubt my in-laws knew when they first took their little kids to "our favorite lake" back in the 70's that their son would still be taking his family (as well as a menagerie of assorted family and friends) there every memorial day 30 years later.<br /><br />Not all traditions are big but they all have meaning and lasting impact. Even as a grown man my husband still looks forward to the cinnamon rolls his mom makes for every Sunday morning General conference session.<br /><br />More and more as I find my own little family starting traditions of our own I am beginning to see just how much a tradition is not just something a family does but something that makes a family.<br /><br />What are your family traditions?<br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">* My Blog Post Series "Strengthening the Family" is based on my personal thoughts from reading the book "25 Mistakes LDS Parents Make and How to Avoid Them" by Randal A. Wright</span>Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-61395748653568473512009-04-15T19:37:00.000-07:002009-04-15T19:56:39.108-07:00Strengthening the Family- #3 Be at the CrossroadsI had one of those moms... You know the kind the one who wants to know exactly where your going, who with, when you'll be home. At the time I brushed it off being "overprotective" but now that I have a child of my own I am beginning to understand.<br /><br />I appreciate now that she was up to look me in the eye when I came home at night- I never really considered drinking or any other "wild" teenage behavior but I can tell you that even if I had I quickly would have changed my mind knowing I would be kissing mom goodnight.<br /><br />I appreciate that she was there for the little crossroads to- Like when I came home from school frustrated because of a teacher or an argument with a friend.<br /><br />If we do not make a habit of "being there" for our children- they will be that much less likely to follow our guidance when it is given.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">It is as the primary song says. Lead me, Guide me, <span style="font-weight: bold;"><u>Walk beside me<br /><br /></u></span><br /><span style="font-style: italic;"></span><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-style: italic;"><blockquote>* My Blog Post Series "Strengthening the Family" is based on my personal thoughts from reading the book "25 Mistakes Parents Make and How to Avoid Them" by Randal A. Wright</blockquote></span></div><span style="font-style: italic;"></span><br /></div><blockquote></blockquote>Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-26126488276353597202009-04-12T21:12:00.000-07:002009-04-12T21:14:52.295-07:00Things I swore I would never do....<span style="font-weight: bold;">BEFORE</span> I had kids there were several things that I swore I would never do...<br /><ul><li>Let my kids sleep in my bed</li><li>Give them candy before they were 1</li><li>Give them too many toys</li><li>Let them watch TV</li><li>Not make them sit in their highchair at dinner</li><li>Give them pop</li></ul><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">AFTER</span> I had kids reality hit-<br /><ul><li><span style="font-style: italic;">Let my kids sleep in my bed-</span> There is just something to be said for this sweet little person snuggled up next to you- and plus if your a paranoid parent like me and sure that the house could burst into flames at any given moment you don't have to worry about getting to their room through the raging inferno.<br /></li><li><span style="font-style: italic;">Give them candy before they were 1</span>- But how can you tell such a cute little face no? Although we ALWAYS do brush teeth!<br /></li><li><span style="font-style: italic;">Give them too many toys</span>- Grandma, Grandpa, Aunts, Uncles, and a mom who has trouble avoiding the toy clearance isle need I say more.</li><li><span style="font-style: italic;">Let them watch TV-</span> Nothing will get you an extra half an hour of rest better than propping up you little one in front of an episode of Mickey Mouse Clubhouse<br /></li><li><span style="font-style: italic;">Not make them sit in their highchair at dinner</span>- It's a nice thought... but easier said than done especially at the <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">restaurant</span> when the child LOUDLY protests- I mean really who wants to fight that in front of dozens of glaring eyes that silently yell - "I don't care what you do but just keep that kid quiet!<br /></li><li><span style="font-style: italic;">Give them pop</span>- We don't drink pop much at our house other than the rare occasion so this one isn't too hard... Well for the most part - but there are times that call for <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">desperate</span> measures and if a pop keeps him still for grandma the world won't end!</li></ul><br /><ul><li><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6LcbyFyaHpaaCnvqF6hCKYcVWgx2MMe6kuCtLxmx5Z_l_zxm2SPN7xo3e55HhU0SiJ4seaidmXewwgbcQfcOtCg7VJgzyKwvskPPwNsQpPXNy_gCh6LdPjCDZ1A0jbYOgCPJX55NWrw/s1600-h/dietcokehaircut.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 267px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi6LcbyFyaHpaaCnvqF6hCKYcVWgx2MMe6kuCtLxmx5Z_l_zxm2SPN7xo3e55HhU0SiJ4seaidmXewwgbcQfcOtCg7VJgzyKwvskPPwNsQpPXNy_gCh6LdPjCDZ1A0jbYOgCPJX55NWrw/s400/dietcokehaircut.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5324024403399410034" border="0" /></a></li><li><br /></li></ul>Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-90200241980677975102009-04-05T20:52:00.000-07:002009-04-05T21:32:30.951-07:00Laundry: The gift that keeps on giving.<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJqbtGgXcAQzGDeTgDrSnceRyQzcnWsFS7ENag_eSpggUJgBN5cOPoyJzLgs17SwkZPBQL4Q4HqnaBmIY3SOVYctClBZGTvaghzMpkguv0xhNviXDVHwghH2TduCz2StkgKCcUoiVC6A/s1600-h/dws-cc-babyshowerboy1-5.png"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 152px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJqbtGgXcAQzGDeTgDrSnceRyQzcnWsFS7ENag_eSpggUJgBN5cOPoyJzLgs17SwkZPBQL4Q4HqnaBmIY3SOVYctClBZGTvaghzMpkguv0xhNviXDVHwghH2TduCz2StkgKCcUoiVC6A/s320/dws-cc-babyshowerboy1-5.png" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5321422423040725794" border="0" /></a><br />Lets face it out of all the household chores laundry is the only one that is never done- it's the chore that keeps on giving; even from the second that you put away that last clean dishtowel or hang that last shirt, the very clothes you are wearing are well on their way to starting your next batch of dirty clothes.<br /><br />Despite the never ending piles I don't mind doing laundry, there is just something soothing about pulling a batch of warm towels out of the drier that are so soft and clean and folding them in a tidy little pile. Growing up I always begged my siblings to switch me chores so I could do the laundry... after all who wants to weed a garden or wash dishes when they could be having a great time mating socks? <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0"><br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">OK</span></span><span style="font-style: italic;"> so it wasn't exactly fun per </span><span style="font-style: italic;" class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Se</span><span style="font-style: italic;">' but it was almost always the lesser evil.....</span><br /><br />Lately I have been reading a lot about homemade laundry out in <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">bloggy</span>-land including some really <s>brave</s> talented ladies who actually make/use it. After one of my oh-so-favorite <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">bloggers,</span> Mrs. Mordecai of <a href="http://be-it-ever-so-humble.blogspot.com/">Be It Ever So Humble</a>, shared her very own <a href="http://be-it-ever-so-humble.blogspot.com/2008/04/make-custom-laundry-soap-blend.html">homemade laundry soap recipe</a> I have been toying with the idea of trying a batch myself. <br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">OK so it was a fleeting thought I am a Mountain Fresh Tide addict.....</span><br /><br />Although I have yet to attempt whipping up a batch of fluffy pink laundry soap myself I find the whole concept very <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">intriguing</span> and honestly probably something a <span style="font-style: italic;">smart</span> frugal person should at least give a try. But I am afraid I would too dearly miss my favorite orange bottle of liquid laundry suds..... and besides without it what containers would I use to fill with water to add to my storage?Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-78055526769896542932009-04-01T19:31:00.000-07:002009-04-01T19:43:03.958-07:00$20 Giftcard GiveawayThat's right everyone <strong><span style="font-size:130%;">I am giving away a $20 Gift Card to the store of your choice</span></strong> (as long as I can purchase it locally or online) There is however one little catch.... I entered a contest for the "messiest" craft room and I need your vote to win!! And If I do win I'll even give away two more gift certificate each for $10!!<br /><br />For details on how to enter my give-oh-way check out my scrapbook blog <a href="http://audraslittlescraps.blogspot.com/2009/04/20-giftcard-giveaway-and-freebie.html">Audra's Little Scraps</a><br /><br />If you just love me and want to vote you can do so <span style="font-weight: bold;">Once a Day per Computer</span> until April 22nd at <a href="http://www.theoriginalscrapbox.com/catalog/index.php?option=com_wrapper&view=wrapper&Itemid=102">The Original Scrap Box</a> . I am <strong>#11</strong> (I have a blue tote in the left hand picture and a stereo speaker and stacked spools of ribbon in the right hand picture) It is really easy - You don't have to register or anything just click on the check mark next to my pictures.<br /><br />So go vote on your computer- your husbands computer- your laptop- anywhere you can!!!Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-13505043860068486632009-03-25T14:22:00.001-07:002009-04-15T19:56:13.902-07:00Strengthening the Family; Part 2 Quality Time<div align="center"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"><strong><em>"The most important of the Lord's work you and I will ever do will </em></strong></span></div><div align="center"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"><strong><em>be </em></strong></span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"><strong><em>within the walls of our own homes. Effective family leadership, </em></strong></span></div><div align="center"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"><strong><em>brethren, requires both quantity and quality time"</em></strong> Harold B Lee</span></div><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);"></span><p><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong>Quantity Time</strong></span>-I must admit I wasn't too surprised when I read that the American family spends 40% less time together now than they did 20 years ago. When you start to turn that into actual hours over a child's lifetime the numbers are staggering. </p><p>Lets say families used to spend 20 hours a week together (just over 3hrs/day), based on this study they now spend only 12 so that's turns into</p><p align="center"><strong>8 less hours/week</strong></p><p align="center"><strong>34.6 less hours/month</strong></p><p align="center"><strong>416 less hours/year</strong></p><p align="center"><strong>7,488 less hours/(18 years)</strong></p><p align="center"><strong>312 LESS DAYS</strong></p><p>That is like missing almost a full year out of your child's life! Watching Buddy Bear grow this past year I have begun to realize how short our time with our children at home really is- What can we do to take advantage of every moment of it</p><p><strong><em>Quality Time</em></strong>- As a stay at home mom I am lucky that I do get a lot of "Quantity" time with him- what really got me to thinking is the issue of "Quality" time- When I started looking at a typical day in our lives I began to see lots of what I call "missed moments" little snatches of time here and there where I was to busy involved in what I was doing that I missed an opportunity with Buddy Bear- to teach, to play, to laugh or even just to be right there.</p><p>A few days ago as I was feeding Buddy Bear I noticed that when I feed him he stares off into space and it is somewhat hard to get his attention- which for him, my social little guy, is pretty uncommon. After giving it a little thought I realized that almost every time I fed him since he was born I was either reading a book or watching TV- no wonder he was ignoring me! It made me sad to think of all those little "missed moments" that I could have talked to him, sang him primary songs, or even just gazed into those sweet little baby eyes- now that our "feeding" days are quickly drawing to and end I wish I had taken the opportunity to develop that as "Quality" time for us rather than plodding through it as just another task to do. </p><p>My goal now is to make the effort to be there on his level interacting with him- not just letting him play at my feet while I type away or work on other projects.... Which may mean a few less blog posts or saving my scrapbooking till he's asleep but in the end I know I will be giving the most to what matters most- my priceless little guy. </p><p>That is my challenge to you this week to find at least one little way that you can improve the quality of the time you spend with those you love<br /></p><p><br /><span style="font-style: italic;"><blockquote>* My Blog Post Series "Strengthening the Family" is based on my personal thoughts from reading the book "25 Mistakes Parents Make and How to Avoid Them" by Randal A. Wright</blockquote></span></p>Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-68646308011003804892009-03-18T14:21:00.000-07:002009-04-15T19:55:45.126-07:00Strengthening the Family- #1 Home Environment<div align="center"><strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-family:trebuchet ms;" ><em><span style="font-size:130%;">"No other success in life can compensate for failure in the home"<br /></span>David O. McKay</em></span></strong></div><div align="center"><strong><em><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-family:Trebuchet MS;" >-</span></em></strong></div><div align="center"><strong><em><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-family:Trebuchet MS;" ></span></em></strong></div><div align="center"><strong><em><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 153);font-family:Trebuchet MS;" ></span></em></strong></div><div align="justify">I have been doing a lot of thinking about my little family lately and what steps we can take to strengthen it. Shortly after Buddy Bear was born we purchased the book "25 mistakes LDS Parents Make and How to Avoid Them" by Randal A. Wright, but only last week did I pick it up and start reading it. It is an excellent book with so many good insights that are applicable not only to LDS parents but all parents looking to strengthen and protect their families. </div><div align="justify">Not to spoil the book (because I think it is a must read) I am going to give my take on each of the principles taught- The first principle</div><div align="center">-</div><div align="center"><strong>HOME ENVIRONMENT </strong></div><div align="center"><strong>A persons home is a reflection of who they are and what matters to them-</strong> </div><div align="left">Several years ago we had a neighbor in a serious accident- He had been the only one home and his family who had been out of time was headed straight to the hospital. We stopped by their home shortly after the accident to check on their pets and make sure everything was ok. One thing in particular stood out to me- a set of scriptures open on the dining room table, with a marking pencil beside them. They were out- being used- showing that they were important to him. </div><div align="left">-</div><div align="left">I thought of my own scriptures tucked away neatly in a drawer- all to often pulled out only when I remembered to grab them on my way to church.... What did that say about the value I placed upon them? Our Book of Mormon now sits on our kitchen table- it still doesn't get read every day but we are much more likely to remember to read when it is out and available</div><div align="left">-</div><div align="center"><strong>What is important to your family? </strong></div><div align="center"><strong></strong></div><div align="justify">The things that are most important to me- the things I want to teach my child(ren) to value are</div><div align="justify">1) Our Family 2) The Gospel 3) Freedom/Our Nation 4) Outdoors 5)Literature/Reading</div><div align="justify">-</div><div align="center"><strong>How does your home reflect what's important to you?</strong></div><div align="justify">The choice of pictures and artwork in your home reflects much of our values and whats important to you- Just as a member of Peta wouldn't display a gun rack in their back window- we should display that which reflects our values. </div><div align="justify">-</div><div align="justify">Pictures in our home include of our family, <a href="http://www.ldsart.com/pm-11785-1-precious-in-his-sight.aspx">Christ</a>, <a href="http://www.ldsart.com/pm-11793-1-sacred-grove.aspx">the Sacred Grove</a>, <a href="http://www.prayeratvalleyforge.com/">George Washington</a> and other <a href="http://www.delparson.com/gallery_large/old_man_wept.html">historical leaders,</a> <a href="http://www.lds.org/library/display/0,4945,161-1-11-1,00.html">The Proclamation on the Family</a>. We also have pictures of the outdoors, animals, and of course lots of little black bears as well as bookshelves full of good books. Like most things of course there is always room to improve.</div><div align="justify">-</div><div align="justify">Buddy Bear's room for example is decorated top to bottom in cute little black bears and pine trees- which is both cute and fits what we value- but does it communicate what we value the most? I am sure that adding a picture of the Savior and/or temple in his room would even further communicate the values that we want him to strive for.</div><div align="justify">-</div><div align="justify">Children seem to readily value that which their parents do- Almost without fail if you find parents who are very involved in sports- or music- their children are too. We learn what we live with. I think that if we start with our children when they are young not only teaching them our values but surrounding them with little reminders they will be much more likely to value those same things in their lives.<br /><br /><blockquote><span style="font-style: italic;">* My Blog Post Series "Strengthening the Family" is based on my personal thoughts from reading the book "25 Mistakes Parents Make and How to Avoid Them" by Randal A. Wright</span><br /></blockquote><blockquote></blockquote><br /></div>Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-92001220933684374092008-12-19T21:00:00.000-08:002008-12-19T21:17:04.044-08:00Patience in the little thingsI always thought that I was a patient person- until I had a child and although he is for the most part the sweetest little angel there are times that really test me. It seems like the big things- like when he's sick throwing up I handle just fine but it's those little 'toddler' moments that catch me off guard.<br /><br />Today the little man dumped a nearly full carton of eggs on the floor- Before I knew it I found myself shouting 'NO'. The poor little guy- his lips trembled and he started to cry as he ran to the other side of the kitchen. I immediatly realized what I had done and forgetting the eggs went to appologize to him as best as possible- Such a sweet little one he hugged me right back walked over to the mess with me and stood pointing at them saying Uh Oh with a concerned look on his face while I cleaned up the mess.<br /><br />It made me think- how many times have I dumped the egg carton- and my heavenly father was patient we me? He never shouted or scolded but was always there to gently correct and help me clean up my mess.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiB6_FzD9nuR6NNGoajsZdrBKMDgl-nkPjV_ra2h5bmAnFmVvQc3WmbRW43nSVk8qE7GH7YiZ_hkTSPa30dj_K2xVqkQHcXgCwqIh6yqzRFySsN1vAjjMIToN77agENKuLVU4fvp07U9A/s1600-h/uhoh.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 180px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiB6_FzD9nuR6NNGoajsZdrBKMDgl-nkPjV_ra2h5bmAnFmVvQc3WmbRW43nSVk8qE7GH7YiZ_hkTSPa30dj_K2xVqkQHcXgCwqIh6yqzRFySsN1vAjjMIToN77agENKuLVU4fvp07U9A/s400/uhoh.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5281736161449135522" border="0" /></a><span style="font-family: times new roman; font-style: italic;font-size:130%;" ><blockquote>" And behold, as the tree beginneth to grow, … if ye nourish it with much care it will get root, and grow up, and bring forth fruit. … And because of your diligence and your faith and your patience … ye shall pluck the fruit thereof, which is most precious, which is sweet above all that is sweet, … and ye shall feast upon this fruit even until ye are filled, that ye hunger not, neither shall ye thirst. … <span style="font-weight: bold;">Ye shall reap the rewards of your faith, and your diligence, and patience”</span> (<a class="scriptureRef" onclick="newWindow('http://scriptures.lds.org/alma/32//37,42-43#37')" target="contentWindow" href="http://scriptures.lds.org/alma/32/37,42-43#37">Alma 32:37, 42–43</a>).</blockquote></span>Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5729589842209850594.post-28845772181427321492008-08-22T08:23:00.000-07:002008-08-22T08:29:37.323-07:00The Home Is a RefugeI got this lovely "Gem" in my inbox today and just had to share! You can sign up to get your own "Family Gems" <a href="http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=97ca813d71189110VgnVCM1000003a94610aRCRD&locale=0">HERE</a> (e-mail or RSS feed)<br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"><em><span style="font-size:130%;">"When the seas of life are stormy, a wise mariner seeks a port of peace. The family, as we have traditionally known it, is such a refuge of safety. 'The home is the basis of a righteous life and no other instrumentality can take its place or fulfil its essential functions' (quoted in Conference Report, Oct. 1962, 72). Actually, a home is much more than a house. A house is built of lumber, brick, and stone. A home is made of love, sacrifice, and respect. A house can be a home, and a home can be a heaven when it shelters a family. When true values and basic virtues undergird the families of society, hope will conquer despair, and faith will triumph over doubt. "Such values, when learned and lived in our families, will be as welcome rain to parched soil. Love will be engendered; loyalty to one's best self will be enhanced; and those virtues of character, integrity, and goodness will be fostered. <strong>The family must hold its preeminent place in our way of life because it's the only possible base upon which a society of responsible human beings has ever found it practicable to build for the future and maintain the values they cherish in the present."</strong></span><strong> </strong></em></span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"><em><br /></em></span>Thomas S. Monson, <a href="http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=4991a1615ac0c010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____&hideNav=1" target="_blank" closure_hashcode_="4269">"Dedication Day," Ensign, Nov. 2000, 64-65</a>Audrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04747843176632673679noreply@blogger.com1