Sometimes there is huge change in your life. Like, you lose your best friend and your workout routine. Because your fitness instructor is your best friend. Sometimes life is like, “Oh we needed to move that to make room for something new.” And you’re like, “Fuck this is so shitty.” This is the Tuesday Tips for when that happens.

Kelly reminded me to focus on the version I want. Instead of focusing on what I’ve lost, I should focus on what I’ve gained. This week I’ve gained an insatiable desire to make art. I am incredibly time affluent so finding ways to “pass the time” is a pretty fascinating subject. When life isn’t about racing to make dollars, there’s a lot more flexibility in how you spend your days.

If you had a million dollars, what would you do differently today? I already work for myself, making my meditations (because they help me feel better) and working on JessicaMullen.com. It’s been my passion since before I thought about it as a money-maker. It’s my idea platform. I know I have good ideas. I may not shove them in your face but I will make them as available and searchable as possible.

I’ve been living my life like a millionaire. I see my friends. I cook. I cuddle with my partner (something there was notably less time for when “working”). I play with my cats! I know their patterns again. I feel like we’re pals again.

I make art. After all the drugs, sex, booze, socializing, working out, eating, sleeping, watching TV pleasure acts pass, I make art. I wake up in the morning feeling like if I don’t create, I will certainly have nothing left to live for.

But it’s a clean “nothing left to live for”. It tells me that I have art to make! I have the flow to listen to! I have messages coming through my fingers that I don’t even have to think about! They just come! They are banging the door before I get out of bed, begging me to let them out.

I am at peace. That $5000 check paid all our bills for this month, and will pay next month’s rent. We’ll have to make money next month if nothing comes up.

But last month it worked out fine. I panicked, wrote my Coming Out Story, and then god provided. The money showed up. Life took care of me, paid my rent, and in a few cases, paid more than my minimum balance.

When I didn’t know what to do, life stepped in and helped. It felt scary living in that “trust the flow” place, where it’s trust the flow or nothing, but the adrenaline rush was worth it. I’m here for the ride!

Here are some tips about enjoying the ride. Thanks for living the magick life with me my friends.

1. Hang out with your friends.
They’ll lift you back up and help you take things less seriously. There are people who would love to stick around in your life. They’re riding the ride with you.

2. Accept the gifts in front of you.
You probably have a lot of people offering you nice things like alcohol, drugs, rock shows and girls while you wait in line. Just take them and say thank you instead of judging yourself for not being the upright citizen you were for about 2 seconds while trying to impress some girl.

3. Forget all your mantras.
Make art instead. Go mad and turn every moment of your life into a performance piece. Thinking is not a good idea right now.

4. Feel the flow.
When you’re in the low point, realize that it feels just as good as the peak. It’s just as funny. Just make a joke about it. It’s funny. Be a character in a movie and feel excited there’s a next scene. That moment right before the rollercoaster drops is probably the most excruciatingly awesome.

5. Keep up that meditation practice!
Aside from making art, it’s the only thing that will help you. Do chakra visualizations or say “ram” over and over. Follow your breath or count to 900. Whatever technique sounds fun today, go with it. Stick to your practice and you’ll keep your cool.

6. Tell your best friend you love her.
Live regret-free!

Are you living the magick life?

Can you hear the flow too? Are you part of the paradigm shit we’re creating together? Do you know you already know everything there is to know?

Well then let’s hang out in the School of Life Design and talk about how awesome this trip is! Aliens unite! What’s been going right in your life?

For years I have kept the content of my website organized like this: articles, and everything else (quietly titled, Lifestream). My articles were more polished pieces including Tuesday Tips, School of Life Design Lessons, and worksheets. My lifestream had my meditation videos, daily journal entries and assorted photographs.

Today I am ending the separation madness and piling it all into one delicious feed. You can still find a list of just the articles in the article archives, but everything from midnight confessionals to rampages of appreciation will now be featured alongside the articles on the homepage. Enjoy!

1. Genuinely appreciate and compliment someone else

This morning, Allyssa Milán tweeted, “By the beard of Zeus, I am sooooo happy @evernote exists! I am flippin’ out.. #soawesome” I immediately replied, “your enthusiasm about life is my favorite.” She wrote back again, “I was recently told I’m a kid in a candy store when it comes to my perspective on life. I love that metaphor ”

I haven’t really been too enthusiastic about my own life lately, but when I see Allyssa’s tweets, I’m too overcome with love to be jealous. After our little interaction, I went about my day.

I’ve been feeling a little aimless, to the point that I actually looked up jobs available at UT. I’m most qualified for graphic design and web development positions, which would very comfortably pay my rent. Then I snapped. The realization occurred to me suddenly, “I CAN NEVER MAKE ANOTHER WEBSITE FOR ANOTHER PERSON UNTIL I GIVE MY ALL TO MY OWN!”

Bam. Enthusiasm, acquired. Target, locked in. Focus, achieved. All from a tiny bit of appreciating someone else.

2. Repeat after me! “I feel good about myself!”

Yesterday I felt shitty. My foot’s been injured, I haven’t been working out, and I’ve been judging myself for my sleeping and eating habits. As Kelly and I meditated, I felt like a washed-up celebrity, thinking “I just want to feel good about myself again!”

We went for a walk, and I remembered that I don’t have to have specific ideas that make me feel good about myself. I can just try to “go general,” by practicing feeling the way I want to feel. When I feel the way I want to feel, the good ideas always come.

So I repeated in my head, over and over, “I feel good about myself!” By the time we arrived at our destination, I was feeling giddy and overall good. I kept the mantra up all last night and this morning, and now I’m attracting actual REASONS to feel good about myself!

How do you feel good about yourself?

Let us know in the School of Life Design group on Facebook! xo

When I wrote about my coming out story, I was writing from fear. I was focusing on something I felt guilty about. I was trying to escape shame. And it worked! It made me feel supported and loved and relieved to write that.

Now I see how I needed that at the time, but it is no longer prudent to write about factual mortal physical reality.

If I cannot at this moment write my vision, I can at least write about what I love in my life. I can create out of love instead of using writing to fearfully pop the zits of my consciousness, digging and digging trying to eradicate the dark spots for a moment of relief. When the mark takes days to heal, I inevitably remember, “I should never touch them! They always disappear when I’m not focused on them.”

It’s exactly the same for the rest of our lives. The problems disappear when we’re not focused on them. They literally fade away. When you stop thinking about your problems, you’ll find you no longer have them.

Here are three routes to stop thinking about your problems.

#1 Focus on bringing more of what you like in.

Don’t make goals to stop doing things like:

• overeating
• drinking
• eating meat
• doing drugs

Instead set intentions to fill your life more with things you enjoy. Allow these things to come to you naturally, instead of taking action to make them happen. For example:

• I intend to meditate a little bit every day.
• I intend to write.
• I intend to make art.
• I intend to practice hooping.

I have meditated every day since my “rehab” began. I’ve made more art and created more. I did a shitload of worksheets that helped keep me focused in times of extreme contrast.

But I’ve also drank, smoked, eaten meat, etc. Everything I wanted to stop was like “HELL NO! WE AIN’T GOIN’ NOWHERE!” The restrictions made me feel guilty while the additions made me feel joy and success.

#2: Use a mantra and seriously, for real, stick to thinking it all day.

GET CONTROL OF YOUR MIND. Tame the beast! It’s outta control in there!

Send a vibration of love. Meditate. Think in mantras. Count. Do whatever you have to do to maintain a meditative state of focus, all day. Say “I love myself” most of the time and “I love you” when interacting with other beings.

#3: Make Love Art

The third way to stop thinking about your problems is to actively create about what you already have that you like. What I’d like to be doing on my site, instead of lamenting financial acne, is creating content about all the things I love and would love more of:

• flow toys
• homecooked vegan food
• good music
• friends
• kitties

That list was a little hard to generate. I haven’t done this in a long time. I became so quickly habituated to the good things in my life that I forgot to feel grateful until they started slipping away.

I intend to spend time focusing on what I love that I already have!

So simple. It’s always so simple.

Welcome to Tuesday Tips, my weekly collection of good-feeling thoughts. I am back from vacation and ready to tear it up! For those of you counting, I made it a solid 14 days into my “rehab” before having a drink (or three) last night. Tragic, or magick? Either way, I can’t be bothered to care. Sobriety feels amazing, but arbitrary self-deprivation does not. I will let the flow tell me when to drink from now on.

Onward! Usually I collect my tips throughout the week, snagging a morsel here and there. It drives Kelly crazy when I get up right as we’re falling asleep and say, “I have to write something down!” The past two weeks I’ve made zero notes, instead opting to “channel” the tips below when inspiration struck.

I’ve found that if I trust myself, the words come naturally when I need them. So here’s to no more note-taking—three cheers to the flow!

1. Shut up and let the flow do the talking.
You don’t have to plan anything. You can channel all the answers in the moment that you need them. If you can stop worrying and thinking long enough to let the flow speak through you, you’ll find all the answers within. Try it with stream of consciousness writing, or record yourself speaking on video. These tips were channeled and I think they’re just swell.

2. Let go. Let go. Let go.
Whatever you’re resisting, go with it. If someone is bugging you to do something, say yes. Anything that keeps popping up that you keep resisting, you’re going to have to flow with it eventually. Be like water and go with the flow. It’s so much less stressful.

For example, we owe someone a chunk of change for various vacation-related expenses. Kelly keeps trying to get me to pay a larger amount than I want to, and I get so pissed when she tries to convince me. Finally I agreed, deciding that letting go feels better than fighting over money. I suppose this is me learning to be less greedy and selfish.

3. Quiet on the set.
According to the book Die to Live, the point of meditation is to eventually get to a stage (pun intended) where you feel like you’re watching yourself as you would watch an actress in a movie. You are separate from your ego and your daily routine, and instead you are the observer who sees and knows the big picture of the film. You aren’t afraid for the characters, only interested in how things will play out. And in this movie, there’s always a happy ending.

4. Smile!
I feel the best when I’m being silly. Feeling silly is the best feeling. This Rumi quote inspires me to feel that way more and more:

Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Be notorious! Destroy your reputation. You have tried prudent planning for long enough. From now on be mad!

5. Fuck it.
Have sex. Drink a drink. Don’t worry about one thing, because the universe is taking care of all your problems today. Wayne Dyer told me so:

Good morning,
This is God.
I will be handling
All of your
Problems today.
I will not need
Your help, so have
A miraculous day.

6. Watch my daily meditations.
Recording these makes me feel so much better that I had to make one on my off day too. Enjoy!

Breathe in and raise your vibration!
Breathe out and release your resistance.

Breathe in and raise your vibration!
Breathe out and release your resistance.

Trust the flow. Trust that you’re in the right place at the right time. Trust that the words will come to you. Trust that the actions will come to you. Trust that when you need it, it will be there.

Breathe in and let it flow!
Breathe out and smile.

It’s all right in front of you. You can see it in the moment. Whatever you need right now, it’s right there in front of you. It’s right in front of you. It’s already in your mind. You know at every moment what you need, what to do, what to think.

Breathe in and trust.
Breathe out and relax.

Empty your mind and you’ll find the answers there.

Breathe in and let it come to you!
Breathe out and trust that god will solve your problems today.

You don’t have to lift a finger. All you have to do is enjoy this day. That’s the only thing on your to do list. If you take the time to enjoy your day, you’ll be inspired to the actions you need to take. It’s all coming. Quiet your mind, and you’ll hear the answers.

Breathe in and smile!
Breathe out and have confidence that the strength that you want is already there.

Trust. Let it come to you. The answers are already there.

Breathe in and let the flow through you.
Breathe out and center yourself.

You’re already there. You’re already there. You’re already there.

Breathe in and trust this is the right place at the right time.
Breathe out and congratulate yourself. You’ve come so far!

Everything you want, you already have. You can let go of it all now. You can let go. You can trust the flow.

Breathe in and celebrate!
Breathe out and feel relief. It doesn’t matter! You can stop caring now!

Just be here and enjoy the trip. It’s all here for you. It’s all coming to you. It’s all coming through you.

Breathe in and be at peace.
Breathe out and know it’s all working out for you.

Whatever you need will be there when you need it. Whatever you want, you already have. God’s taking care of everything today. Just sit back, relax and enjoy it!

Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly gathering of positive thoughts for your collection. This week I have some notable quotables helping me keep my head above water. I may have jumped in the deep end, but I’m getting a great swimming lesson!

1. “I dont do a post now unless I’m worried about what people will think about me.”
Advice from James Altucher to Kamal Ravikant in Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It. Lately every time I post another article before telling Kelly, she gasps. She’s all, “Omg, what did you do now?!” That’s how I know I’m getting better at writing.

2. “I know attention creates, so my #1 intention is to pay attention to what I want more of.” ~ Kelly Cree
Your most valuable resource isn’t money, it’s your attention. When you PAY attention, you’re giving value to. You’re literally investing in it, making it part of your portfolio. If you want stock in it, keep thinking about it. Otherwise think about something else. From now on, I will only give my attention to funny jokes, cute animals, pretty girls, and cold hard cash.

3. Instead of thinking, say a mantra to yourself over and over and over.
Using a mantra creates a channel in your mind for the rest of your thoughts to follow. Try one of these:

• It’s working!
• I live the magick life.
• I have plenty.
• I know I’m free.
• I love and accept myself exactly the way I am.
• I love my now exactly the way it is.
• I love myself.

4. “Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
Your incredible pain is creating incredible joy. It’s all part of the process. Now click the link to read the rest of that poem because it will make your day!

5. “Everything happens for me, not to me.” ~ Byron Katie
Enjoy the contrast—that’s how you get out of it. Only contrast helps you know what you want! It’s pulling your desires through you. Bless the contrast you experience, because it’s creating the solution you desire. Every single time I remember, “Oh yeah, I’m supposed to like the hard times,” I find a way to make peace and the situation resolves itself.

6. Meditate.
Here’s a great technique: “Try the following exercise first with your eyes open & then repeat it with your eyes closed. Take a deep breath, hold it and notice the sensations as your heart beats three times, relax & breath out — repeat 3X. Breathe in and out slowly to a count of 4, as you do so notice how your body feels — relaxed & warm.”

7. “There is only one question in Life that is truly important: How does what I am doing right now serve the agenda of my Soul?” ~ Neal Donald Walsch
The soul likes laughing and loving and playing, so let’s go!

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So, wow. Today was hard. I didn’t miss the caffeine, but when I was doing my taxes and found out I owed $1200, I started craving a drink. Kelly kindly coached me through it, rubbing my head and telling me it was a solution and all that.

I slowly came out of my funk by doing my worksheet packet! You guys, I can’t even begin to tell you the relief I felt when doing these worksheets today.

Easing in

First, there’s the Flower of Life Design Template. I put it as the cover because even when I don’t feel like making gratitude lists, I’ll still be able to bring myself to doodle. Coloring on this always reminds me that life is magick. It really opens my mind up.

Next came the Daily Planner. This one helps my mind organize my positive thoughts as well as my to do list. It’s like a bridge from normal thinking to magickal thinking. It brings me relief to practice the feeling of my to do list being done, and it’s where I keep all my mantras. It also reminds me to do more acts of kindness!

Telling my Life Story the way I want it to be

The third page is the Life Storyboard worksheet. It’s an iteration of the Life Story worksheet, in which you tell the story of how you got something you currently want. “This is the story of how…” You tell a little story of milestones that helped you reach your goal. It helps me practice the feeling of getting something big, and it helps me picture ways it could actually happen. This one works really well! The “Storyboard” version is all the little pages flipped right-side-up so you don’t have to fold and cut it to make a little book.

Today I told the story of how “being sober was the best thing I ever did.” The first sign the trick was working was when “I found a way to have fun while sober around intoxicated people.” What truly tipped the scales and made me believe in my own power was “meeting magickal spiritual people who gave me helpful advice and cast spells on me.” The icing on the cake was “letting go of all my anger, truly seeing the trip/illusion and going with the flow harder than ever.”

I wrote all that out for you so I can explain how it actually came true. First of all, everyone around me all day was sober. Second, at dinner I got to see my friends Bella and Sherwin. Six-year-old Bella was positively magickal, uplifting me with her smile and antics. And her dad Sherwin offered his full support of my “30 Day” endeavor. He was just so sweet and kind about my decision that I could have cried. I looked him in the eye and knew he understood me. It was all I wanted.

New tricks!

The fourth page is the Gathering Momentum worksheet, which is the first one I ever made and still one of my best. It has places for drawing and gratitude lists and “advice from my higher self.” The best part about this one was that Kelly taught me a new trick. In the little grid drawing areas, she makes a dot in each square. Each dot she makes, she says her mantra, “I’m winning!” I tried it for each of the grids while thinking “I love myself” for each dot I made. An INCREDIBLE way to focus. And the best part? Our 9-year-old friend Janie wanted to do it too! She filled out a grid, making a dot in each box, saying to herself, “Janie rocks! Janie’s awesome!”

Fuck yeah.

Building steam

Next is the unreleased “Practice the Feeling of Abundance” worksheet. In this one, you visualize giving people money, and practice feeling the way it would feel to do it. Imagining giving is just as effective at creating abundance as actually doing it.

The Daily Self Love worksheet falls after that. More grids to do mantra work or doodling in. And it really is so helpful to make a list of 10 things I love about myself!

Hitting the ball out of the park

The last page is the Universal Order Form. You place your order, pick an order number, then let go. When you see your order number, you know it’s coming. This one worked for me too! The first box I placed an order for a “good free dinner.” We were invited to Whole Foods after taking Janie to soccer practice, and then her dad paid for us! Not only that, but we got mad free samples and had a wonderful time with our friends.

This is why I’m sober

Getting to do this packet of worksheets every day feels like the most exciting thing to ever happen to me. It reminds me of when I was a kid and I would doodle at my desk for hours, imagining I was at a desk job doing very important work.

Doing these worksheets is the most important work I could ever do, because they uplift me and turn my life into a magick show. And I know my mood is my only work, because how I feel attracts what I think and what I experience.

In conclusion, today was hard to get through without a drink or toke, but I can already feel the silvery taste of magick behind my eyelids. And truth be told, that’s all I want: to live the magick life.

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Having an organized packet of worksheets is about 1000 times better than having random printed worksheets all over my desk. I feel super focused and “with it.” And I felt such a thrill of accomplishment when I completed all 7. I may have had sloppy-as-hell handwriting, but goddamn it they WORKED!

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In response to my embarrassing coming out story, Jered Schue asked me what I’m going to do to change. What am I going to promise to myself? Obviously I got myself into this predicament, I can get myself out.

Budgeting? Not my style. Cutting up my credit cards? Tempting, but too complicated for me to even think about right now (although I still haven’t used one since April 4. Huge deal.)

I let the question sit for days, and asked for the answer to come in meditation. I know that taking action isn’t the answer, so it would have to be actions I could stop taking. Stop doing. Let go of.

It just came to me while meditating about half an hour ago. For 30 days, beginning Monday April 15, I’m going to rehab. Jessica Mullen’s School of Life Design Rehab for Thought, Drug, Alcohol, and Credit Card Addicts.

1. Straightedge, baby!
Someone actually emailed me suggesting I “might go sober.” My first thoughts: no way! Too simple! I like having fun! People who don’t drink don’t have any crazy stories!

Then she says “HOT DAMN it’s so radical and lovely to be even caffeine free” and I know she’s right. She reminds me of my therapist I loved so dearly.

Drugs have shown me so much, but I do want to get “there” naturally. I want ecstasy without the E. I want to feel one with the universe without DMT. I want to feel so proud of myself for being so brave without the mushrooms. I want to feel carefree and fun without the alcohol. I want to feel in awe of life without weed. I want to know the big picture while dead sober. That’s true power.

2. 15 minutes of seated meditation every day, no excuses.
So… I took a few months off meditating because I was too busy having fun. Life got good, and I coasted. But as Kamal Ravikant talks about in Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, you still have to do the work when you feel good. That’s what keeps the good times rolling.

This is an easy habit to get back into. Meditating is fun and exquisitely rewarding.

3. Eat vegetarian. Eeeease back into vegan.
I just stopped caring. I had too many drunken cheeseburgers to eat. But I know I feel better when I’m not eating flesh.

4. Say “I love myself” to myself all day, every day.
Everything else is way too stressful to think about right now.

5. Take my own advice.
Mainly I want to do my own worksheets every day because they work so well. In a perfect world, I would do a Daily Planner, a Daily Self Love, a Gathering Momentum, a Universal Order Form, a Life Story, a Flower of Life Design Template, and a Practice the Feeling of Abundance worksheet every day. Well fuck it then, I’ll print out a 30 day supply, make little packets for each day, and see where it takes me. I commit.

That’s it and that’s all. I’ll keep doing my other regular work—Tuesday Tips, Daily Meditations, and my newsletter.

This is a killer experiment. I didn’t even ask Kelly if she wants to do it with me yet. I have to commit before telling anyone or I’ll care too much what they think. I gotta do what I gotta do. I’m doing me.

But first, I’m going to have to finish this bottle of vodka. Cheers!

Three weeks ago, I emailed Penelope Trunk. I begged her to give me advice on how to make money on my work: my meditations, Tuesday Tips, worksheets, my lifestream.

She kindly, graciously, wrote back with this:

There is no money in this. You have to get a job. It’s like writing a novel. People respect that as work, but it doesn’t pay bills. Just because you have a talent for doing something doesn’t mean you need to get paid for it. It’s like sex. I love your hair. It makes me think you’re great in bed. But I bet you don’t get paid for it. It’s okay to be good at something you don’t get paid for. Mostly, people get paid to do stuff because it’s not that fun so it wouldn’t get done if people didn’t pay for it. Sex is fun. Making these videos is fun. Go figure out what you are good at that people are paying for.

Solid advice, but I have made no move to get a job. It turns out, I’d rather be homeless than work for someone else. If I don’t at least try to do the work I feel I came to this reality to do, then I’m dead.

Today, I read an incredible Gary Vayanerchuck quote:

If you go and become a lawyer or go to school and do all the things that everybody wants you to do, and don’t do the thing you really love, the real question isn’t what’s going to happen when you’re 23, 27, 31, 36. The question really becomes what’s going to happen when you’re 70 years old and you look back at your life and you’re like, Why didn’t I try? There’s going to be a regret factor that I think a lot times a guidance counselor or parent or teacher tend not to think about… They’re worried about your next ten years. I’m worried about your last ten years.

And then here’s James Altucher on Why People Hate Their Jobs:

Jobs are modern-day slavery. We are paid just enough to live and not more. You are punished if you ask for more. Then you take the magic pill and the tears of dirt wipe away … The government gets up to 50% of your paycheck and then 10-20% of  that goes to kill people on other parts of the planet, including our own children.

I’m doing the work I came here to do, no matter the cost. I intend to do more for others. I intend to give all I have to give. I intend to help other people get what they want. I’m on the right path, and part of an enormous paradigm shift. It’s all working out. We are being freed by the light!

I scraped together my $324 credit card bill. It was easy. Now I need $433 before Thursday. I just transfered $18.36 from Paypal, so make that $415.

We’ve had to turn down invitations to dine out twice now. Opting to cook at home, Kelly and I are remembering the magick of food. We love to cook. It’s such a blessing.

I have never been more focused. I’ve always wanted this. A reason to stop buying so much food, a reason to say no, something external pushing me to work. It’s like the universe has become my dad. I just want someone to tell me what to do.

The most hilarious part of all of this is that I’m finally taking my own advice. I preach from the high fucking heavens all day every day, but how often do I do my own worksheets? Read my own books? Apply my own tips? Practice my own mantras?

I do practice, all the time. But now I’m beginning to truly believe in my work. My worksheets work. I just have to want something bad enough to do them. My contrast is so high right now, I know exactly what I want, and wild horses can’t stop me from doing everything I can to succeed.

The advice I have to take from myself is to stop doing. To stop caring, to stop worrying, to go with the flow. Stop chasing money. Stop chasing success. Be still. Allow. Receive.

The more I focus, the more beautiful the reflections I can see. Yesterday my friend Ari gifted me the best book I’ve ever read, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It. It’s one person’s story about using a mantra that actually worked: “I love myself.” It’s that simple.

Even as I drag my coin jar to Coinstar for booze money, I’m laughing at myself. This is so funny. It’s not serious. I still love myself at the bottom. I love myself. And I’m having more fun than ever before.

Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the ultimate positive thinking resource. This week I’m keeping it simple. The synopsis? Say yes, take risks, you’re already awesome, the money’s on the way, stop thinking, give joy, say I love you, and meditate to find all the answers. Easy!

1. Say yes.
Saying yes has never not worked out in my favor.

2. Take risks.
“If you win, you will be happy; if you lose, you will learn to be wise.” ~ Ryan Plesko

3. Say you’re awesome and you’ll do something awesome.
My 9-year-old friend Janie was going around declaring “I’m awesome!” “Heck yeah you are!” I agreed with her. A few minutes later she organized an enormous DVD collection and cleared out a cubby for me to use as a desk when I’m at her house. It was truly awesome. Not only that, but a couple days earlier her mom had expressed her desire of having her DVD collection organized. Everyone got something they wanted, and Janie continues to be awesome.

4. Think of money as a girl.
If you’re good at relationships, you can apply what you know to money. Don’t chase it! Let it come to you!

5. Change your perspective on wealth.
“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” ~ Epictetus

6. If you can’t think something nice, don’t think anything at all.
Count in your head, meditate, or go to sleep.

7. Make your mission to GIVE joy.
Brian Johnson advises, “Imagine a life in which we seek to GIVE joy. A life in which we enter relationships to GIVE joy. A life in which we work to GIVE joy.”

8. Just say I love you.
Even if it’s just in your head. Say it to everything! It’ll kill you to do it to the stuff you don’t like, but if you can love what you don’t like, nothing can ever hurt you! And say I love you to all the unsung heroes in your reality: your dashboard widgets, your floorboards, your printer, your bed. The texture of your walls, the used napkin from lunch, your cat purring. All of it wants love, and you have an infinite supply.

9. Meditate, then ask your creative self for a solution.
Jon Ray reminded me of this one. David Lynch does this too. Quiet your mind and ask for the solution to come to you. As soon as you relax, it’ll be right in front of you.

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Sharing my financial story this weekend helped me let go of a lot of negative emotions. And it also helped me practice the feeling of relief. Once I opened up and stopped hiding from my fears (what would they think of me if they knew?!), solutions started falling into place.

I’m writing now to tell you how everything is working itself out. I have never been more excited to be alive, and I have my contrast to thank!

Since releasing my fears and beginning to look for evidence of what I want (“I have plenty! I already have everything I need! It’s working! Life is taking care of me! I live the magick life!”), I’ve found countless examples of life conspiring to help me:

• I finally received notice that the $5000 check I’m waiting on is being processed today!
• Dozens of people extended their kindness and support after reading my posts. My close friends offered to help me in any way they could. I have never felt more loved.
• I found $137 in a PayPal account I haven’t checked in a while!
• Kelly had $8 in her PayPal account!
• We found some gift certificates we can put on eBay!
• I sold $40 worth of Astrojax and got a $10 donation!
• My friends fed me for lunch today!
• Our friend invited us over to share a bottle of wine last night!
• We’ve meditated every day since last Sunday!
• I found penny on the ground!
• I saw a brand new Tesla driving next to me. It was so new the guy was still peeling cellophane off his visor mirror!
• I received SO much positive feedback on my Daily Meditations!

When I decide to look for evidence of what I want, it always comes. I have to make the decision in every moment, but all it takes is practice.

Thank you everyone who replied to my last article. I am so grateful for your support and your uplifting messages. You are helping me so much!

I said that following my bliss would be to stop using my credit cards, so here I am. I haven’t used a credit card since Thursday. I feel like a drug addict. I could go back to using it at any moment. But the bill for one of my cards is due the 13th. It’s for $324. On the to-do list this week: make $324.

I have a $5000 check on the way from a client job, and as you can imagine, receiving that check is on my mind. It would really help out this week!

Also, I may have failed to mention, but I am going on vacation to Cabo San Lucas in less than 2 weeks.

Experience Over Security
Yeah I put those plane tickets on a Discover card. And yeah Discover cut my credit off shortly thereafter. Thank you for the intervention, Discover. You are helping me focus.

Where Am I Going?
I am shaking as I write this. I am so ashamed of my behavior! And taking the time to realize I feel ashamed is a lot more helpful than burying my head in the sand any longer.

The Emotional Math Problem
Since I feel ashamed, the logical thing to do would be to practice the opposite emotion. *Looks up opposite emotion on the What’s Your Solution? worksheet.*

Shame is close to guilt, insecurity and unworthiness. That’s pretty low on the totem poll! But I don’t have to think about how I got here or what anyone thinks about me being here. I just have to do the work to raise my emotional vibration. Just like putting gas in the car. My confidence may be low, but I know how to fill it up.

My homework

Practice feeling the opposite emotions of shame: knowing and freedom. How do you feel knowing and freedom? What makes your confidence soar? What are you absolutely certain about? What does it feel like to be free?

I know when I’m tripping. I know what an open mind feels like. I know life is much deeper than the superficial motions I go through every day. I know I’m on the verge of greatness. I know life loves me, I’ve felt it before.

To be free means pushing “Publish” on this post and not caring about what anyone thinks of it. To be free means to own my behavior more and more every day. To be free means to not hate myself for what I do. To be free means to like being alive. To be free means to let my mind rest. To be free means to go within. To be free means to remember the magick of life. To be free means to remembering my power and allowing it to flow through.

I have $227 in my checking account. I have over $60,000 in debt. Student loans, credit cards. I’ve been trying to “make it big” for about three years now. When I left grad school, I decided I was going to Be An Entrepreneur.

My plan? Work on my website. Sell information products. Be wild and crazy and not give a fuck.

Somewhere along the way I forgot how to be wild and crazy. Sure, I can still drink and drug you under the table, but that’s not exactly the kind of wild and crazy to build a business on.

I stopped speaking up. I write my little self-help articles, but I never really give any details as to how I learned my assorted self-help tips. I just publish “Smile and let go!” and expect to be rewarded with thousand dollar donations.

I haven’t stirred anything up in a long time. I’m too attached to my safe little life in my safe little apartment with my safe little workout routine.

But sooner or later I’m either going to have to do something different or start asking for help paying my bills.

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I tell myself, I’m awesome for doing what I’m doing! I’m winning! I’m following my bliss! But am I? What the fuck is my bliss?

My bliss would be to not care what my parents think. To not care if they knew how terribly off I am financially. To not care if they knew the real me. The one who smokes pot and makes rape jokes. The one who sleeps with a girl and sometimes a boy. At the same time.

My bliss would be to stop using my credit cards and spend money I felt good about making. My bliss would be to not worry about how I’m going to pay the rent. My bliss would be to air all my shit in the open so I don’t have to live another day in fear of what my friends will think of me when they find out I can’t afford a new pair of sneakers.

But I could buy a new pair and put them on my new Nordstrom card and keep smiling and pretending I have some imaginary trust fund.

Or I can decide to be honest. What’s the difference? We’re all going to die. We’re not going to remember this.

I told my friend at the gym this morning, “Just make a decision. Either quit doing what you’re doing or decide to enjoy it.” I know when I start giving advice it’s time to start taking it.

So here’s my decision. I’m not going to give a flying fuck what you think about me. Mom and Dad, I love you so much, but I can’t live my life in fear of what you think of me. My dear friends, I love you so much, but I can’t live my life in fear of what you think of me.

I don’t really know how to not live my life in fear of what you think of me, but writing this seems like as good a start as any.

Did you know Kelly Cree writes most of the content for JessicaMullen.com? Kelly is my wife, my partner-in-design, and my oracle. Ever since we started down our journey of positive thinking over three years ago, she has been able to answer every question I’ve had about spirituality, the law of attraction, and the true nature of reality.

Every time I have contrast, she asks me the same question: “Are you the creator?” Yes. I create my own reality. Like it or not, each of us is in complete control of our life experience.

We have a running joke. I say, “I’m so grateful you tell me all the answers so I can make money off them on my site.” To which she replies, “I’m so grateful I have you to write it all down so I don’t have to do any work!”

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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, a weekly guide to living the magick life. Take a deep breath and let go of your worries, because every little thing is going to be all right. Trust that the universe is on your side and it is!

1. Notice miracles.
Jamie Windsong Kasper posts on Facebook, “My world is filled with miracles. I think all of our lives are it is just a matter of us taking notice. And miracles, they like to be appreciated like every being on the planet.” The whole idea of appreciating miracles as beings makes my heart swell!

2. Rewrite your about page.
I recommend doing this as often as you can. Laura Roeder suggested in her weekly newsletter The Dash, “Write a letter to your ideal customer. Tell them what you want them to know about you, and your business. Tell them how excited you are about helping them, and what inspired you to start the business.” Gala Darling also has some excellent ideas for keeping your brand fresh in Get It, Girl: 10 Ways To Make The Most Of Any Workshop Or Event!

3. The words “I am” matter A LOT!
Oprah gets it! Check out this video on her favorite philosophy, “You become what you believe.” Try it yourself—fill in the blank with whatever you want to be true: “I am __________.” Make that your mantra of the day and watch it materialize. In the video Oprah quotes Pastor Joel Osteen: “Whatever follows ‘I am’ is going to come looking for you.” DEEP. (And much thanks to Aislinn in the School of Life Design group for pointing out this gem!)

4. Laugh for no reason!
This feels incredible! You’ll also feel extremely silly at first, but IT WORKS! Try it, I promise you’ll love it.

5. Release your stress.
In The Power of Now, Eckart Tolle teaches us, “Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there,’ or being in the present but wanting to be in the future.” Do whatever you can to be happy exactly where you are and you’ll feel less and less stressed. Try the mantra, “I’m so happy with what I have” or “It’s already the way I want it to be” or “I’m at peace with what is.”

6. Become what you want, right now.
Fill in the blank with whatever you want: I am ______________.
And then LAUGH!!!!

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This is a guest post by Kelly Cree!

I’m tempted to begin this by saying it’s hard for me too, but that would negate the premise of this message. If I say it’s a challenge to make the choice—in every moment&madash;to look for what I want, that becomes my experience. When I say I know it’s getting easier every day to come to terms with my own power, that becomes my experience.

Allowing a clear, strong signal means making the choice—in every moment— to trust the flow to flow through me. Allowing a clear, strong signal means knowing I am the one and only creator of my life experience. It means knowing everything I see enacted in this simulation called life is an indicator of the signal I send as a vibrational being. I am not skin and bones. I am energy just like everything else, and the energetic wave I project is the same one that I see reflected.

Allowing a clear, strong signal means taking responsibility, because I know manifestations can only ever be a reflection of my own beliefs and expectations. Every single thing that happens in my life is the echo of the song I sing. The perfect song innately emanates from my core. I don’t have to sing the song, the song sings itself. The only thing that could ever mute my perfect tune is my own disbelief in it’s existence.

If you are reading this, you probably already understand your own power. You have experience consciously creating the life you want, but you want more. You want to know how to take it to the next level. That is what this recording is about. The more resolute your signal, the more potent your manifestations. Every time you send the signal of, “Yes! Life is working out for me,” you gain momentum. The only thing that could ever stop that momentum is a belief to the contrary. When you get in the habit of sending the clear, strong singal of yes in every moment, nothing negates it, and your momentum is unstoppable.

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Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the weekly guide to practicing positive thinking. As I continue upon my journey of life, I find myself going through the same process for every desire I birth. I want something so desperately, and keep it away from myself for what feels like eons. Then, as I find a new desire to focus upon and stop caring about the old one so much, the old desire manifests and I feel silly for ever doubting that it would one day be mine. The moral of the story: no matter what it is, trust it’s coming your way! Trust life. It made you, it sustains you, and it’s helping you thrive, right now.

1. Laugh with your friends.
Spending time with the people you love is one of the best ways to get in a good mood. When you leave their company, high on giggles, you’ll head back to your work with unprecedented fervor. What would have taken you all day now takes you 30 minutes, because you’re in such a good mood that you zip from solution to solution.

2. If you’re an entrepreneur, read this.
I met Laura Roeder when we both lived in Chicago. She has always been an inspiration to me, because she’s so smart about business and knew from early on that trading her time for money just wasn’t going to cut it. This interview with Laura on Entrepreneur On Fire really sheds a lot of light on her business model, and gave me so much inspiration! If you’re interested in a subscription-based business model or in selling information products, this interview is a great read.

3. Try this mantra: “I’m the creator. It’s already the way I want it to be.”
If you can get yourself to believe this, you’ll basically have the key to it all.

4. TRUST.
During this one track 6 (Going Wrong by Armin Van Buuren to be exact) in RPM (a cycle class), our instructor Kristy always says “When everything’s going wrong, that’s when you know it’s going right. Trust.” The universe is always on your side!

5. Positive thinkers teach you to not get upset about negative experiences, but don’t get too attached to the positive ones either.
Understand that a lot of your contrast (negative emotion) is guilt because you feel responsible for keeping things as good as they are. You get attached to how good they are and want to “keep thinking positively” about these subjects so you don’t lose them. But you have to trust that they will stay there if they’re meant to be. You can appreciate them as much as possible and that will actually do something GOOD for your reality, whereas worrying about losing the positive aspects of your life will literally wear them away.

6. “Magic isn’t conjured by the mind, it’s conjured by emotion.”
Who knew you could learn so much from TV? This was spoken in the show “Once Upon A Time” and it pretty much nails the process of “creating your own reality.” You can’t think your way into making things work out for you. You can only feel the way you want to feel now, and let life work out the details.

7. Practice the feeling of what it will feel like to have what you want.
When you have a point of contrast that you can’t seem to get over, try picturing what you’ll say when it finally is over. You’ll be sitting around with your partner or friend, and you’ll say, “Remember when I used to care about that one thing? How silly! Now I have that solution in spades!” Here’s another way to look at it:

Picture what you want in your mind and add emotion. Your brain tunes into the energy which resonates with the frequency of what you are picturing. That wave of energy instantly begins coming towards you. Let that picture dominate your thoughts and that wave of energy will eventually reach you. Your brain will then convert it into the sights and sounds of your reality. ~ Paradigm Shift

8. “Embrace what you have. It could all change in an instant.”
This one comes from TV too—Spartacus to be exact. When you find yourself trying to fight your way out of your current moment (to get to work, to get home, to meet someone, etc.), take a look around you at the abundance surrounding you right now, that you want so much to leave. Imagine it’s your last time with these people, in this place. Embrace where you are! It’s exactly what you wanted at some point before, and it’s all you need! You’ll always get where you’re going, but can you enjoy where you are?

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Kelly and I use Irish Spring body wash in a bottle. We go through it kinda fast, and we’re about to run out. You know it’s time when you have to turn the bottle over…

Rewind a couple weeks, to our friend Zoe’s gorgeous Purple Pony 3rd birthday party. In the party favor bag were handmade, purple pony soaps. They were beautifully packaged, so precious, and Zoe had helped make them herself!

We have no soap dishes and we don’t generally keep bar soap in the house. We made the sentimentally painful decision of putting them in the car to give away to friends instead of keeping them for ourselves. We’re pretty minimal—we don’t keep a lot of objects in our home. We give away anything we don’t use.

Fast forward back to last night, when Kelly and I are showering together. I squeeze the Irish Spring, saying, “We really need to go to the store tomorrow.”

Having the sudden realization that the universe had been trying to give us soap for weeks made the next thing out my mouth be, “Or we could just go shopping for soap in our car.”

The universe is constantly trying to give me gifts in every moment. “What, you don’t want adorable, glittery, purple pony soaps?! Really?! I thought I had you pegged,” says the universe.

Realizing we already had soap and we’re trying to pickily give it away made me feel so ungrateful—and gave me a sudden understanding about how every moment really is a gift from the universe.

We actually are given everything we need. We just need to slow down and say “I have soap!” more instead of “We’re running out of soap.” The universe loves us so much!

Welcome to Tuesday Tips, the juiciest collection of positive thoughts in the galaxy. This week the tips are focused on paying attention to the abundance you already have, and feeling the way you want to feel right now. To sum it all up: notice all the good stuff going on now, and feel as if you have all the good stuff you want. All you have is now, and right now is pretty effing good. Look around at all you have and celebrate! It’s all here for you!

1. Set intentions all day every day.
Kelly always blows my mind with this one. She’ll wake up totally chipper after a long night with very little sleep, and I ask how she does it. She says she just sets an intention the night before to wake up feeling good, and it always works.

3. Try this mantra: “In this moment, I am in acceptance of all my life – its challenges and its joys. I am blessed.”
Think you’ll be happier “if only” you could have that one thing? Tommy Rosen suggests using this mantra to escape the pattern of thinking you’ll be happier in the future by deciding to be happy right now.

4. Think about what you have instead of what you don’t.
You can bring more abundance into your life by focusing on things you already have. Instead of thinking “I don’t have enough time,” think “I have an exciting life.” Or instead of “I don’t have enough money” try “I have the rent paid and food in the fridge.” I used to wake up feeling dread because of all the things I wanted but didn’t have, but now I wake up thinking “I have…” and fill in the blank over and over. This morning I found a dirty spoon in the sink and instead of thinking “I don’t have a clean kitchen,” I thought, “I have a spoon!” which made me feel ridiculously giddy!

5. Count through the pain.
I post about this tip all the time, but here is someone else’s experience with counting:

I was thinking about this sort of ‘everyday meditation’ recently during a really long tattoo session. It was on a very sensitive area and by hour 5 the pain was crazy, but it was also combined with the boredom of lying on a bench motionless for that long. But, it was the absolute perfect environment to meditate.. Nothing else distracting me except the pain, and then I had the choice to feel the full extent of the pain, or, do consciousness experiments to see the best way to ‘let go of my body’. To be honest I’ve tried counting before with moderate interest, but this time it was PERFECT. I counted for hours, following the stream. It became almost like a lucid dream, that half-awake half-asleep stage where you just surrender. The pain subsided dramatically. ~ Ariane

6. Say I love you.
I often talk about saying I love you in my daily meditations, and here is JeredtheShy’s experience with the practice:

So I’ve been using these lessons. I’m on the job saying ridiculous things to myself. “I love you, these dishes. I love you, obnoxious coworker.” And so on. It WORKS. I spent a couple weeks saying “I love you” to basically everything that sucked, and my life was better. But then, after doing it under duress, I did that to things I actually LIKED. Oh, baby, turbo happy times. ~ JeredtheShy

7. Practice the feeling.
If you can feel as if you have what you want, it’s already yours. Think about what you want, then imagine yourself receiving it. Feel what it will actually feel like to receive it. Anytime you think of the desire again, just remember that feeling. That feeling is how you send a clear, strong signal attracting what you want.

8. Make your goal to enjoy being.
If you can learn to just enjoy the fact that you’re alive, nothing will ever phase you. Look around… we live in a miracle! No matter what happens, you’re still breathing. And that’s the only thing you need to enjoy life.

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