Meet and Marry Mr. Right- Finally Find and Keep the Right Man For You Once and For All- Dawn Allen, Dating and Relationship Advice Expert for Women

Great Teleseminar for National Singles Week :-)

Dawn Allen — 2010-09-21T09:13:51-07:00

I wanted to let you know about a great teleseminar

series being held during National Singles Week,

September 20-24.

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With love,

Dawn

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Hate Dating? I did too. Here's What I Did...

Dawn Allen — 2010-09-16T10:14:30-07:00

Have you ever felt like if you had to go on one more dead-end date you were going to just sign off of men for good? Because staying home alone was infinitely better than being disappointed again?

I used to feel exactly the same way.

I hated dating.

That dreaded “D” word used to evoke all kinds anxiety and insecurity for me.

I always felt awkward and unsure of myself on a date.

I had next-to-no confidence with men.

I didn’t know how to make small talk, nor did I feel particularly charming or funny.

I’m embarrassed to say there were times I actually stayed in relationships that were definitely not in my best interest just so I wouldn’t have to start dating again.

Dating just felt like a lot of work. And I certainly did my best to avoid it at all costs.

If I met a guy I liked, I’d go from first date to exclusive relationship just because it was a convenient way to not have to date anyone else.

Of course, by having such a negative view about dating I wasn’t giving myself many options when it came to finding the right guy.

After too many years of going from one relationship to another, I knew something had to change.

I searched for answers to my dating dilemma. Studied everything I could get my hands on about men, dating, love and attraction.

It seemed a stretch, but maybe I could change my pattern of dead-end relatinoship by learning how to date successfully.

Maybe if I did my ground work dating before jumping into a relationship, I might actually be able to FIND and KEEP the right man.

Instead of rushing through the dating process, maybe if I took my time getting to know someone and letting them get to know me, I might find out if a long-term relationship was even possible.

I started to use dating to learn more about myself, to learn more about what I really wanted and needed in a man.

I learned quickly through lots of trial and error what worked and what didn’t.

Then something unexpected happened.

Not only did dating get easier, it actually got fun.

The more I learned how to date, the more comfortable and relaxed I felt.

My confidence grew.

I attracted a whole different quality of men… men who were successful, emotionally mature and who weren’t interested in playing games.

My entire outlook about dating changed.

Before, because of my limited views about dating, I had limited my options with men.

But as I expanded my views about dating, I expanded my options with men.

I no longer felt like I had to settle for fear I wouldn’t find anyone else, because I knew there were other wonderful men ready to date.

If one date didn’t work out, I stopped taking it personally and moved on.

Learning to date successfully was the key to finding a great relationship, because I learned so much about myself… and men.

I had so many fun and interesting experiences dating different men… traveled to cities I never would have visited, saw music groups I had never heard before and ate at wonderful restaurants I never knew existed.

I used dating to practice my communication skills and refine my list of what I wanted in a partner. Creating a list in your head is one thing. Experiencing what works and what doesn’t first hand is even more powerful.

When I finally let go of my anxiety, expectations and agendas around dating, I opened myself to a whole new world of opportunities and experiences… and wonderful men as well. You can too.

Dating really can be a fun, if you’re open to it. It can also lead you straight to your Mr. Right. And along the way you’ll have some really great experiences that will make the journey fun and the end result even more worthwhile.

If you’ve struggled with dating and dead-end relationships the way I did, do me a favor and reply to this email and let me know your biggest frustrations and challenges. If you’ve got a specific question, include that too and I’ll answer it in an upcoming newsletter.

Until then,

With love, light and blessings,
Dawn

Here's How to Find a Man You Can Trust...

Dawn Allen — 2010-09-10T14:19:00-07:00

Have you ever been in a relationship where you were really getting close to a man, but for whatever reason you started to get scared? And the more scared you got, the more you did things that messed up the relationship… like acting clingy or needy?

That used to be a recurring theme for me in my relationships…

I’d meet a great guy. We’d start to get close. But the more involved we got, the more I’d get this yucky nervous feeling inside me.

I’d wonder about whether or not I could trust him. Start to think maybe things weren’t really progressing as I thought they were.

I’d feel more and more insecure.

Every time he didn’t call when I thought he should, it was another piece of evidence to prove to me he couldn’t be trusted.

And gradually I’d start to shut down my feelings, which then made me feel even more insecure. And trust him even less.

My continued insecure behavior just pushed him further and further away.

And sure enough, what would happen?

The thing I most feared most, the relationship would end.

Guys can sense distrust and insecurity in women from a mile away, because we start putting out desperate, needy, clingy energy. It feels icky to us and even ickier to them.

But why did I feel so insecure when in truth the guy hadn’t really done anything wrong?

Because what was really going on under the surface of my insecurity was a lack of trust towards men, which actually had nothing to do with the men in my life and EVERYTHING to do with ME.

Of course the fact that I felt so insecure made me attract men who just mirrored those feelings and exasperated the problem.

After a TON of work on myself, I finally realized it wasn’t just my lack of trust towards men that brought out my feelings of insecurity, it was that I didn’t trust myself.

Intimacy in a relationship can trigger all our fears of rejection, abandonment and loss. It certainly did mine.

If deep down we have doubts about our self-worth, or we feel there are parts of ourselves that are unacceptable, we will fear being judged by our partner… the way we judge ourselves. And then we will more than likely attract someone who will mirror those same thoughts about us.

Relationships are the greatest mirror in the world for what’s going on inside of us.

We can try and fool ourselves thinking it’s all about the other person, but our greatest barometer of what’s really going on inside is by what’s showing up on the outside.

When I started studying my own relationship patterns, the greatest challenge I had was learning to accept responsibility for what I was creating.

But it was also the only way I was ever going to change things.

Once I changed the inside, what I attracted and created on the outside changed too.

I had to learn how to trust myself and my feelings… to learn self-acceptance, which allowed my self-worth and self-esteem to grow.

But as I learned, a new confidence emerged. I became much more comfortable letting myself be intimate and vulnerable with a man and sharing my feelings.

As I learned to trust myself, I learned to trust men. And the men I attracted were trustworthy and appreciated my vulnerability.

I learned how to let go and stop trying to control everything so I could feel safe. I learned how to stop second-guessing what was going on in the relationship and trying to project into the future.

The truth is that deep intimacy, trust and closeness require risk. Love requires us to risk possible rejection and loss.

But self-acceptance, self-esteem and self-love give us the courage to take those risks. And when we learn to trust ourselves, we make better choices about who to take those risks with.

We find men worthy of our trust and our love. And we get to reap the rewards of having the wonderful, nourishing, intimate relationship with a man we’ve always wanted.

And which YOU so richly deserve.

Until next time,

With love, light and blessings,
Dawn

P.S. If you’ve been in a relationship where you felt insecure, it can be scary to start looking at why you feel that way, but I’m here to help you every step of the way. If you have questions, concerns or comments that you’re willing to share, just post it on my blog and I’ll answer them in my next post to support you in every way I can.

7 Steps to Magically Magnetize the Man of Your Dreams

Dawn Allen — 2010-09-07T17:04:18-07:00

Have you ever felt like there had to be something you were missing in the grand scheme to attract the love of your life because you’ve tried everything and he still hasn’t showed up?

Ever wished there was a magical process for attracting the love of your life?

Me too.

I felt exactly this same way for years and years… and years. Until I finally put it all together. I finally figured it out.

In my upcoming book, “Meet and Marry Mr. Right- 7 Steps to Magically Magnetize the Man of Your Dreams,” I’ll be sharing my personal experiences of what I’ve learned on how to consciously attract love into your life.

But I wanted to share the information with you first :-)

So here are the seven steps. And in the coming weeks, we’ll explore each of these in depth so you can finally find and keep the right man for you once and for all :-)

Step Number One: Decide & Get Clear

You have to make the decision about what you want. Get clear about your desires for love, a soul mate and a relationship. You have to know yourself well enough to know what you really need and want in a partner.

Step Number Two: Support Yourself with Love

You know the old saying, “If you don’t love yourself then how is anyone else going to love you?” It’s true. Our relationships are just reflections of our beliefs about ourselves. Before you can fully love, accept and appreciate a partner, you’ve got to love, accept and appreciate yourself.

Step Number Three: Set Aside Doubt & Fear

If you don’t really believe you deserve love or think it’s difficult to come by, you’ll have a hard time attracting it. You’ve got to let go of any limiting beliefs about love and what’s possible for you to manifest. If what we want isn’t showing up in our life, it’s probably because we don’t really believe it’s possible or don’t feel we deserve it.

Step Number Four: Eliminate Any Obstacles

You may need to release old energies relating to a previous partner or relationship. This includes any anger, resentment, guilt or fear of getting hurt. Any of all of these will prevent new love from showing up in your life because your energy is being held captive by the past. You have to free your heart and energy completely before you can manifest what you desire.

Step Number Five: Surrender Control

It’s difficult to attract and create what we want when we’re feeling needy or desperate and attached to the outcome. In fact, that very energy will repel exactly what it is we want, especially when it comes to men. Too much attention on a desire can start to push it away if we get frustrated and fear that it might not happen. By stating your intentions and then letting them go, the Universe has the space to start creating miracles for you and manifesting your desires.

Step Number Six: Travel Lightly & Stay Open to Divine Guidance

Have fun, do the things you love and stop waiting around for a man to do them with. If you’re out in the world enjoying yourself, you’ll be a magnet to love. Your stepping forward into inspired action shows the Universe you’re serious about your intentions to create what you want.

Step Number Seven: Trust the Process

Once we put ourselves on the path to love, we have to let go of how and when what we want will show up. The Universe has its own Divine timing and sometimes it tests our patience.

Your job is to set aside doubt and fear, believe you can have what you desire and know you deserve it.

Focus on how you want to feel when this wonderful man shows up in your life.

Once you shift your thoughts and feelings, you shift your vibration.
Love is the most powerful vibration on the planet.

So shift to feeling love… for yourself, for the people in your life, for the future you’re creating in this moment.

Then the Universe can come through to deliver your fondest dreams.

You’ll become a magnet to the love of your life so quickly you will think it appeared as if by magic.

And it will be magic. But it will be the magic you created for yourself.

If You're Healing from a Love that Hurt, Don't Make this Mistake...

Dawn Allen — 2010-09-01T09:46:00-07:00

Have you ever had a relationship end, and then months later when you’re alone on a Saturday night reminisced about some of the good times you had with your ex-husband or boyfriend?

And then maybe started wondering…

I wonder if there’s a way we could get back together?

Sometimes we so easily recall all the good experiences from a previous a relationship, but all the challenges somehow get overlooked.

It used to be when I was still alone months after a relationship ended, going back to my former love seemed infinitely easier than trying to move forward with no one grand foreseeable in the future.

After I had dated a few other people who didn’t work out, I would start to longingly think back on my previous partner.

I’d remember all the things I loved about him and how much fun we had together.

In my selective memory, it was easy to romanticize how great I thought the relationship had been.

The problem was I would idealize my former partner in such a way that nobody new I started dating could possibly compete with the imaginary vision I had. Of course the past I envisioned never really existed, except in my mind.

After awhile, I would second guess my decision to leave the relationship and many times, end up reuniting with my previous partner.

I would go back taking on all the responsibility thinking if I just changed enough, things would be different this time. But successful relationships require both partners accepting responsibility and being 100% committed to the relationship. Because I was the only one committed to change, inevitably, the same problems would re-surface.

And again, the relationship would end.

Hindsight is only 20/20 if we choose to see the truth and not gloss over the facts.

Glossing over the facts about my previous relationship not only prevented me from moving forward, it didn’t allow me to learn and grow from the experience so I could create something new and different in my future.

It kept me securely stuck in the past.

Eventually, I had to take a long HONEST look at the way things actually were and see why the relationship had actually ended.

I started to use my time alone to get clarity… by discovering what didn’t work, it helped me find out what I REALLY wanted and needed so that it would work.

When I finally believed in my heart I could attract something better, I learned to see my previous relationships as stepping stones on the path to get me to where I wanted to be… with the right man for me.

If you’ve ever found yourself in the same boat of glamorizing the past, instead of staying focused on the future, try to imagine this…

You’ve set sail to the magical land of your soul mate, your ideal partner, the RIGHT MAN for you.

All the dates and relationships that haven’t quite worked out are just your first signs of land. Your ship hasn’t landed yet, but those signs of land are worthy of celebration because it means you’re getting close to your final destination.

Love is always a journey worth taking.

I’ve discovered some of my biggest ah-ha’s not from what was working but from what wasn’t. A lot of times we don’t know what things to ask for until we really know what we don’t want and what doesn’t work.

Fantasizing about someone in the past can be an easy retreat when there’s no one new and wonderful on the horizon, but it really just keeps us stuck.

There is a reason that the relationship ended. Admit it. Accept it. And move on.

Honesty about the past is a really good thing.

It allows you to step into an even better, more wonderful future :-) And you deserve the best and most wonderful future you can imagine… with the right man for you.

Until next time...

With love, light and blessings,
Dawn

Waiting for Mr. Right? Don't Settle for Mr. Almost-Right

Dawn Allen — 2010-08-24T09:41:39-07:00

I heard a story the other day about how we get
what we think we deserve in life. It reminded me
that we also get what we think we deserve in
relationships. See if you agree…

Dogs love bones. Right?

Yes. But what dogs REALLY love is steak.

They settle for bones, because that’s usually all
they can get.

But if you throw out a bone AND a piece of steak,
they will go for the steak every time.

So why do they settle for bones instead of waiting
for steak?

Well, because they’re dogs and not in charge of
their lives.

But WE are not dogs.

Yet how many times do we settle for bones, instead
of waiting for steak?

When I was dating I always tried to stay very
open-minded. I was willing to give any new guy a
chance if I was somewhat attracted to him. That
was a good thing.

The problem was I wasn’t always willing to look
beyond the attraction and see that he didn’t
necessarily have the important qualities I was
looking for in a partner, like commitment or
emotional availability.

I would look for the best and the brightest in a
guy, ignore the things that weren’t working and
try to convince myself that I could live without
the qualities he didn’t have or that maybe things
would change down the line.

If the chemistry was great and I saw a glimmer of
potential in the relationship, I stayed.

Truthfully, it was just easier to be content with
what I had than to venture into being alone again.
And part of me thought, maybe this was the best I
could do.

I would squash any doubts or concerns thinking,
“Well, I can’t look for perfection… he’s got some
good qualities and we have so much chemistry
together that maybe if I just give it more time…”

I rationalized. I made excuses.

Ultimately the relationship would end.

Either I would leave because it became too
draining for me to keep pretending the
relationship was going somewhere when it really
wasn’t. Or, the non-committal man I was seeing
would end it because I felt so insecure I’d become
increasingly needy and dependent.

Ah, the grief, the anguish I would have saved had
I just not been so willing to settle for bones.

But at the time, I wasn’t sure steak even
existed... or if it did, if I really deserved it.

Unfortunately, the Universe can only give us what
we feel we deserve. It simply mirrors what we’re
feeling about ourselves.

When I finally cared enough about myself to honor
what I truly wanted and needed in a partner, AND
believed I deserved it, the Universe responded in
kind and magically brought me the right man.

But first I had to be willing to say NO to what I
knew in my heart wasn’t right for me, so I could
say YES to what was.

I had to stop settling for bones.

If you’ve ever settled for bones, instead of
waiting for steak… here’s what to do.

Have clarity about what you want and what’s truly
important to you. Don’t settle for less thinking
he’s better than no man at all.

This isn’t about looking for perfection. It IS
about waiting for what is perfect for YOU.

There has to be a space in your life for your soul
mate to come in.

Being in a mediocre relationship that doesn’t
fulfill you is just taking up that prime soul mate
space.

If you have settled in the past, then now’s the
time to change.

Look back on some of your previous relationships.
Why they ultimately came to an end?

Were there emotional highs and lows because you
were always guessing about his feelings for you?
Was there a lack of openness and honesty? An
inability to communicate? Perhaps you wanted a
long-term commitment but he didn’t?

The clues that these problems existed were
probably there in the beginning of the
relationship.

For me the warning signs were there, I just chose
not to see them.

You deserve the RIGHT man for you. Be willing to
wait for him and not settle for less.

He is out there. He IS worth waiting for and so
are YOU.

YOU are worth it.

Please remember that.

Until next time,

With love, light and blessings,

Dawn

How to Date, Relate & Mate With the Man of Your Dreams

Dawn Allen — 2010-08-21T21:52:46-07:00

Learn How To Effortlessly Attract The Man Of Your Dreams And Finally Have The Relationship You've Always Wanted...

A Step-by-Step Program on How to Date, Relate and Mate With the Man of Your Dreams...

If you're starting over after a painful break-up, frustrated with dating, tired of being alone and ready to succeed in love and finally find the Right Man for you once and for all, then read on...

Are you tired of spending yet another Saturday night alone?

Are you frustrated with the whole dating game?

Does it feel like love is eluding you and you just can't understand why?

I’ve been there too.

Do any of these sound like you?

You know what you want; you’re visualizing and doing affirmations, but the right one still hasn’t shown up?

Meeting and attracting a partner feels overwhelming because you’ve been out of circulation for a while?
You can’t figure out why every time someone is interested in you, you don’t feel the connection with him, yet when you meet someone you really like, either they’re not interested in you, or they’re completely wrong for you?
You want to attract your soul mate, without having to work hard at finding him, or forcing yourself to do activities you’re uncomfortable with like online matchmaking, dating service, singles groups, etc.?
You’re in an age group or live in an area where it’s just not that easy to find your ideal partner?

Having been through the dating scene more than once, I can tell you I understand exactly how you feel. After experiencing all the highs and lows of dating, there is an easier way to attract a partner.

After years of struggling in my own failed relationships time and time again, I was finally able to learn what it takes to attract a wonderful man and create a passionate, romantic, loving relationship. But I spent a lot of years of emotionally turbulent and painful hit-and-miss when it came to dating and love.

I had so little self-esteem and self-worth from some of my childhood experiences that I had practically no boundaries at all when it came to relationships in my life.

I attracted a lot of men who were controlling and sometimes abusive.

But even though I wanted desperately to change my patterns of attracting the wrong kind of relationships, I just didn't know how to do things differently with men.

Until one day when I finally just got sick and tired of not having a healthy, fulfilling love life.

I made it my mission to learn everything I could about men, attraction, dating, relating, sex and relationship. I attended seminars, read every book I could get my hands on and studied with as many experts and mentors as I possibly could.

As I put into practice what I learned, I started seeing positive results in my relationships with men.

I started attracting men who treated me wonderfully... who were generous, kind and loving. Who made me feel totally cherished and appreciated.

It was like I had learned the secret to opening the flood gates of love in my life and all of a sudden there was an abundance of wonderful men walking through them!

And now, I've got the relationship I've always dreamed about having with an absolutely amazing man.

And if I can do it - I KNOW you can do it too.

I've refined what I learned and created a system to help you attract the love of your life.

I want to teach you HOW to do what I did - to actually easily attract a man who loves and appreciates you so you can HAVE the relationship you've always dreamed about - but without all the pain I had to endure to create it!

What if you were able to breakthrough everything that's been holding you back... without years of therapy, without more years of dating all the wrong men instead of the RIGHT man and having fun in the process?
What if you could finally find the affectionate, romantic, loving, passionate and intimate relationship you've always wanted with a man?
Imagine what your life would be like if you had a partner to share it with... all the ups and downs, day-to-day challenges, having that special person to wake up next to and KNOW he was going to be there for you in every way.

I would love to show you how, step-by-step in detail, how you can finally turn your love life around once and for all.

I would love to teach you all the secrets and insights I've learned so you don't have to struggle with men anymore.

Finding love is possible at any age, IF you're willing to learn what it takes to have a successful relationship. It starts with what you believe is possible.

If you can begin to believe that not only is the man of your dreams out there, but that he's also looking for you, you'll see the process of love and attraction start to unfold right before your eyes.

YOU deserve the best... a wonderful partner, a wonderful relationship and a wonderful life.

Let me help you get started today finding the love of your life.

If you’re ready, here’s what you’ll learn in this step-by-step program:

=> The most important steps you can take towards attracting the right man for a relationship and have him want to have a long-term relationship with you

=> How to let go of fear and negative thoughts that have been holding you back from finding love

=> Identify exactly what you want in a partner and how to attract it

=> How to heal your limiting beliefs and uncover any hidden challenges that might be sabotaging your success with men

=> How to release past loves so you can declutter your heart & be open to the RIGHT man for you

=> Simple steps to help you date, relate and connect with men easily so you can find the man of your dreams and THE secret to having him understand you

By the time you finish this program, you will be well on your way to attracting a soul mate, if you haven’t already found one. You’ll have the confidence and powerful tools to draw your ideal relationship into your life. Best of all, you’ll feel relaxed, sexy, confident and happy. You’ll become magnetic to the love of your life. Are you ready to make this your year to attract the love of your life? Send me an email (dawn@inspiredheartcoaching.com) and let's talk :-)

Secrets to Love Teleclass Recording

Dawn Allen — 2010-08-21T21:39:02-07:00

One of my dear friends, Toni-Louise Forsythe, asked if I would participate in a teleseminar she and her partner at Working Women Online put together a few weeks ago.

I really felt privileged to be their only speaker on love and relationships, but it was a fun, powerful interview that I thought you might enjoy...

So... enjoy!

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Secrets to Love Teleclass Recording

Dawn Allen — 2010-08-18T22:46:07-07:00

One of my dear friends, Toni-Louise Forsythe, asked if I would participate in a teleseminar she and her partner at Working Women Online put together a few weeks ago.

I really felt privileged to be their only speaker on love and relationships, but it was a fun, powerful interview that I thought you might enjoy...

So... enjoy!

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Do You Have Your Soul Mate BluePrint?

Dawn Allen — 2010-08-17T17:24:45-07:00

My daughter just got back from volleyball camp and her weeklong trip to Lake Shasta so we've been spending a lot of time catching up. I'm happy that at 15 she still wants to occasionally spend time with her mother :-) And we do have a good time together.

Hard to believe summer has flown by and she'll be starting school towards the end of this month. Thankfully, she's eager to get back to school and I'm eager to get back to a regular schedule!

In the heat of August, we've done lots of reading and watching movies. One movie I'm eager to see is "Eat, Pray, Love" because it's such an inspiring story of what can happen with love when we take the journey of self-discovery and awareness.

Knowing who you are and learning about what you want are critical to being able to attract your heart's desire... especially when it comes to love.

So as a continuation of last week's, "Soul Mate 100 List", this week we'll find out about how to build your "Soul Mate BluePrint".

Remember, the Universe really loves clarity and inspired action. So get clarity with your list and build your blueprint with inspired action and let me know how you do... :-)

And until next time, please remember to love and value yourself and ALL your dreams and desires... because you are worth it. As one of my most favorite quotes from "Eat Pray Love" says, "You don't need a man. You need a champion."

Be your own champion first... and that's exactly what you'll attract in a man :-)

Do You Have Your Soul Mate BluePrint?

Have you made your list of 100 things you want in your soul mate... what I like to call your Soul Mate 100 List?

Great! Then you're ready for Step Two in the Sacred Secrets to Love Process. Because you're now probably wondering... how is this guy going to show up? What do I have to do to manifest him now that I know what I want? Will he find me if I just put out my intention to the Universe that I want to attract him?

Well, maybe.

And, maybe not.

Even though we attract everything in life with our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and intentions (and believe me, if THOSE aren't all lined up with what you want, ain't nothin' gonna happen), the Universe LOVES inspired action.

Inspired action lets the Universe KNOW you're serious about manifesting your desires and willing to do whatever it takes. In other words, you are committed to the process.

Now inspired action does not mean you have to go do a bunch of stuff that you hate. Quite the contrary. You may have to push past some fear and resistance to follow through on your inspired action, but you'll still feel the nudge that this is something you need to do, even if it feels a little scary.

But by taking action, even in small pieces, you are letting the Universe know you are READY, even if it means moving past your comfort zone.

So what do you have to do?

Sometimes it's about clearing the path to allow your soul mate in to your life.

Like making sure you are completely free of the past. Making sure you have totally let go of all negative feelings associated with previous relationships. Anger, guilt, remorse or resentment from the past will block the way towards attracting new love into your life.

If you don't clear those feelings first, believe me you'll carry the past right along with you into the future. Not a good starting point for your soul mate relationship.

But what if you're completely clear from the past and KNOW you've prepared the way? What else do you have to do?

Sometimes not anything at all, except live in that place of joyful expectation and anticipation knowing without a doubt that your soul mate IS going to show up in your life. If you truly believe and know that in your heart, it can happen without you're doing anything else.

But if you get an inner nudge or guidance to do something, you have to be willing to do it. Your willingness to take action is an indication to the Universe that you are clear and ready to do what is needed to attract the love of your life.

But the actions you take will feel inspired.

So how do you know what inspired action to take?

Here's what to do (and this is from one of my most favorite teachers, Abraham-Hicks):

1. Begin by getting into a really 'feeling good' kind of place. You can't manifest anything from a place of need, desperation, fear or anger (except to manifest more of the same). Your attracting abilities are at their highest when you're in a state of love and joy, so do whatever you need to do to get into a happy state of mind.

2. Now close your eyes (or look at your vision board if you have one) and visualize having your soul mate in your life. What will your life be like? Years ago when I first started dating my husband, every night before I went to sleep, I'd visualize us getting married on a beach in Hawaii. Just the two of us on a very secluded beach. A few years later that is EXACTLY what happened. Although we discussed having a big wedding with our friends and family, it ended up being just the two of us on a private beach in Hawaii with a minister. It wasn't until after we had been married for a few weeks that I realized I had visualized our exact wedding years before.

3. Hold this vision of you and your soul mate together. Really get into the feeling of what it's going to be like when you him and have this relationship you've been dreaming of. Visualize as many details as you possibly can and feel it as if it was happening right now.

4. If you can maintain these feelings of what it would be like to live your vision for at least 68 seconds, you will have put the manifestation process into effect. That's it. Just 68 seconds and you're off and running to your heart's desire. And the longer you can hold the feelings of experiencing this vision as if it were already here, the faster it will manifest for you.

5. Here's the key to inspired action... after doing your visualization, if you'll ask, "Is there some action I need to take to bring this into my reality?"... and then listen very clearly for the answer you'll know what, if anything, you need to do. But you have to be open to whatever the answer may be and willing to take action.

So that's it for your Soul Mate BluePrint Lesson. What will your inspired actions look like?