Mr.Wonderful's Advice Blog

Attracting The Right Men (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:32:00 +0000

Before you can ever begin to understand men, you must first learn to understand yourself. Read that first sentence out loud to yourself again. Now just take a minute and think about what you've just read. If you've never taken the time to realize what your needs and wants are, you will only continue to wander through life completely lost and confused. And the men that you'll attract into your life will be mirror images of your own thoughts and feelings. Like the old saying goes, "Like attracts like." For example, birds of a feather flock together because they look a like, act a like, and sound a like. And the interactions that you have with men are going to be exactly the same. And yes, it's true that opposites do attract but only to an extent. When it comes to relationships, in most instances like attracts like. Now if you are currently in a state of negativity, denial, and frustration, you will attract men that are negative, confused, and frustrated. But if your current mental and emotional state is stress-free and ambitious. You will eventually attract men that are driven and open-minded. To put this all in simpler terms, be what you want to see.

Tick, Tock! It's Your Biological Clock! (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 03:15:00 +0000

"Tick, Tock!" "Tick, Tock!"

Woman: Hmmm, what's that noise?

Doctor: Oh don't worry about it. It's nothing, now run along. Wait! Now before I forget, let's make a quick review of your Career/Goals Checklist.

1) Get an education/college degree (CHECK!)
2) Achieve a successful career (CHECK!)
3) Purchase a home (CHECK!)
4) Purchase my dream car (CHECK!)
5) Enjoy being single & dating "Sex & The City" style (CHECK!)
6) Travel and see the world (CHECK!)
7) Ascend up to corporate management (CHECK!)

"Tick, Tock!" "Tick, Tock!"

Woman: There's that irritating sound again. What is that?!

Doctor: Never mind dear, that's just your biological clock. It's a rather annoying contraption isn't it? Now let's get back to focusing on this checklist.

Woman: My biological clock? What's that?

Doctor: Well, how can I say this without hurting your feelings. As you may know, your body has a shelf life.

Woman: Excuse me?! Do I look like a grocery food product to you?

Doctor: To be honest, yes! Well, let me rephrase that. Your body has an expiration date to do certain things at certain moments in time.

Woman: What? Oh God! Will you just get to the point already?!

Doctor: Okay! Okay! Your biological clock is ticking because you're in your early thirties, and your chances of having children are getting slim to none!

This is it! You have now reached a crossroads at this period in your life. The path you take now may determine if either you'll continue on the single, independent, and career driven path or choose to place your future career goals on hold for a moment, settle down, and gear towards finding a husband and having children. Now let's say that you choose to take the single, independent, and career driven path. You're living the single gal lifestyle, you've achieved a good education, a successful career, and you've climbed the corporate ladder. Now what's next?! You start to think to yourself, "I'm really focused on being single and career driven. Besides, I stay fit and eat healthy. I'll be able to find someone and have kids well into my forties."

But once you've reached age forty, you'll begin to realize the awful truth that most of the men in your age group are looking for women six or more years younger than you, your body isn't as tight as it use to be, and worst of all, you can't bare a child. This realization will turn into sadness which in turn will lead to bitterness and frustration. But this does not mean that your life is over. There are other options like adoption, egg donation and surrogacy. On another note, what if you choose the settling down and finding a husband and having children path? Do know that this road will lead you to make some sacrifices. The sacrifices are that you'll momentarily lack further advancement in your career, your body won't look the same during and after pregnancy, you'll now rely on someone else besides yourself for help, and you will also be fully responsible for the new born life you'll bring into the world. And of course with sacrifices also come rewards. You now not only have the education, the career, the home, and the car, but you'll also have a loving family of your own to share it with.

Don't Die Alone (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 05:59:00 +0000

Are you self sabotaging your love life? Do you believe that most men can't live up to your high standards? Do you bury yourself in work to forget your loneliness? Do you find yourself spending countless friday nights eating Chunky Monkey ice cream, while watching Oprah re-runs with your cat FooFee? If so, I'm sad to say that you're on your way to dying alone. And claiming that you're a strong independent woman who does not need a man is not fooling anyone. Every human being is hard wired to need the feeling of love and companionship. You must understand that this warped mindset that you have is what's keeping you from finding the love of your life. Maybe you've been hurt before in the past. But no matter how difficult things may seem, it's not too late to trust and let someone special back into your life. I urge you to stop standing in your own way. Yeah I said it! Stop standing in your own way "Ms. Independent"!

I know that it's not easy to change so I've developed Three Rules To Help Keep You From Dying Alone. Rule #1: Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone. Drop the ice cream and tell Foofee that you're gonna have to take a rain check and start going out more often. Begin approaching men that you're interested in, spark polite conversations with them, and forget the old rule that a woman should never ask a man out, those days are over. Rule #2: Be Open-Minded. You may have high standards of only wanting to date a man that is tall, handsome, makes a six figure salary as a lawyer, owns a big house on the hill, feeds the homeless on the weekends, buys gifts for the local orphanage, and speaks four or five languages. But maybe you can be a little bit more realistic. I'm not implying that you should drastically lower your standards. I'm only saying that you should consider taking a chance on a man that you never thought about dating before. For instance, maybe you can date a man that drives a truck for a living, earns a middle-class income, rents a 1 bedroom apartment, stands 5 foot 8, is a little chubby around the waist, and speaks only one language. Who knows, you might find this guy to be the one for you after all. Rule #3: Be Patient. Change does not usually happen over night. You're going to have to work on it. Give the man that you're dating time to get to know who you are and vice versa. Furthermore, be consistent with your words and actions and watch your future relationship blossom.

Women and The 3 Month Rule (Dating Advice for Men)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Tue, 12 Jul 2011 02:54:00 +0000

Guys! Have you ever dated a woman for awhile and got the inevitable question, "So where do you think we're going with this?" This question usually pops up at the three month mark of courtship. Women usually ask us this question when they really want to take things to the next level ie, an exclusive relationship. They don't want to be placed in the "jump-off" or "buddy" category. They want to be in a committed relationship and are hoping that you are too within three months. This three month rule that most women have is a rule that must be taken seriously and not lightly fellas. Don't waste her time and yours. If you honestly want to be in a relationship with her, tell her that you want to be in a relationship with her. It's that simple! And if you don't want to be in a relationship with her, tell her that you don't want to be involved in anything serious at the very beginning, as to cause no confusion later on. Don't string her along because it's just gonna get messy in the end.

But if you feel that you like her but aren't ready for a full blown commitment yet, tell her that you need a couple more months of dating her before you can make a definitive decision. Telling her this will automatically give you a glimpse into her personality and what her true intensions really are. If she's patient and really wants to make things work, she'll give you the time and space you need to later progress into a relationship in the near future. But if she's impatient and demands that you owe her a commitment, then you'll come to realize that she's just another crazy control freak that wants to ruin your life!

How Bad Do You Want It?! (Lifestyle Advice)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 01:47:00 +0000

How bad do you want to accomplish your biggest goals? What are you willing to do to obtain them? I'm writing this to tell you that I'm in the same shoes as most of you out there. I have not yet achieved my biggest goals, but I'm willing to go through as much pain and struggle as the next man just to obtain them. Achieving greatest! I believe, is what life is all about. To accomplish my greatest dreams, I'm willing to force myself to complete a strict regiment of daily, weekly, monthly, yearly, and lifetime goals. I'll start out everyday glancing at my list of daily goals while completing and checking off each and every rountine task. Even though I may get lazy at times and may want to give up, I'll begin to think of the negative consequences and turn my focus back on the right track. I have set many high goals for myself. Why? Because high goals bring with them, high rewards.

One of my goals is to be in the greatest physical shape of my life. Not only for my own health and longevity, but I also want to start and finish the 2012 NYC Marathon. My girlfriend and I have 8 more races to go before qualifying for next years 26 mile run. I know that it's gonna be a great challenge that we both will conquer. So I'll ask you the question again. How bad do you want it?! If you don't want it that bad, then just forget about everything that I just wrote and go back to watching tv and posting comments on facebook. But if you really do want to achieve your dreams, know that you will go through pain, struggles and failures before you get there. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain! NOW GO OUT THERE AND GET WHAT'S YOURS!

No Cuddling, No Love! (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 01:18:00 +0000

I just recently received an email from a lady named "Blondee" looking for some relationship advice and here's what she said: "Hello Mr.Wonderful. my boyfriend doesn't really touch me after we have sex. it kind of, actually really bothers me. does this mean he's not attracted to me? i don't get it. he's not really a super affectionate guy, but it kinda hurts me that he doesn't do this."

Hey Blondee! Thanks for your question. Well, there are two possible reasons why your boyfriend's not affectionate with you after sex. The first reason is that he's too tired and just wants to go to sleep. Believe it or not, even though sex is pleasurable for us men, it also drains the energy out of us. The second reason is maybe like you said in your email, he's just not the mushy affectionate type of guy. Some men don't know how to show their sensitive side. Now instead of trying to force him to change by witholding sex and telling him what to do, show him how important being affectionate is to you. Don't make him feel like he's obligated to do as you say because you're his girlfriend. Make him want to do things for you.

Here's how you do it... After the next time you have sex with him, kiss him, tell him how great he was, and that you just love cuddling with him. And have a bright smile on your face when you say it. Repeat this process and it will soon become a learned behavior. Trust me, if he really loves you, he'll see how much it means to you and will remember to hold you the next time around. I hope that helped. Contact me again if you have anymore questions. And always remember to Live, Laugh, and Love!

A Message To Congressman Weiner: How To "Internet Pimp" (Dating Advice for Men)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 03:58:00 +0000

Dear Congressman Weiner,

I can only imagine the kind of embarassment that you and your family must be facing right now. It is now widely known that you were caught sending sexually explicit photographs of yourself to several women online. This act has both destroyed your career as well as your marriage. So I've written this letter to inform you of How To "Internet Pimp."

Now I'm usually not the one to judge but what were you thinking?! Didn't you realize that you're a well known public figure that's constantly being watched?!(smh) I know that we all have needs and desires that should be fulfilled but there are much smarter ways to go about them. Maybe you got to a point where you couldn't hold back your urges anymore. Either you and your lady lost that special spark, you weren't getting what you wanted in the bedroom, you got bored and wanted some new tail, or maybe you just wanted some attention. Who cares! What's done is done.

Whatever it was, it doesn't really matter to me. All I'm here to do is to help you learn the Do's and Don'ts of the Online Dating Game. I have written a great online dating guide book that will properly show you how to Internet Pimp, not to Internet Symp. My book is called INTERNET PIMPIN: The Ultimate Online Dating Guide for Men. You can purchase it at Amazon.com or at http://www.internetpimpin.net/

DON'T LET THEM SEE YOU WEAK (Dating Advice for Men)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Tue, 24 May 2011 17:24:00 +0000

Don't let them see you weak. Be what you were born to be. A man of courage, strong will, and integrity. Face it guys, no woman wants a man that can be easily manipulated and belittled. Think about it, would you trust a pushover to lead, protect, and help to provide a better life for you? I don't think so. Now remember, most women that you meet and date will test you, directly and indirectly. First, they will test your level of confidence. Women are usually very observant which makes them good at reading body language and voice inflections. To pass the confidence test you must stand up straight, shoulders back, spread your feet wide apart, and walk slowly. And when you speak, speak loudly, clearly, and always keep direct eye contact.

Second, they will test your level of decisiveness. Having the willingness to make decisions, even in the face of complexity or uncertainty shows women that you have good judgement and leadership skills. A woman will ask you random questions to see how good of a decision maker you are. For example, "What do you have planned for us?" "Where do you want to sit?" "So what do you want to do now?" "Where are we going?" etc. To pass the leadership test you must answer her questions in a timely manner with a very little or no hesitation, stay calm and think before you speak. For example, tell her that you've reserved a table at a nice restaurant by the water and that you'll be picking her up at 7pm. When she says where do you want to sit? Tell her that you should sit by the water. When she says what do you want to do now? Tell her that I think we could walk on the beach and get to know each other a little better.

Lastly, women will test your level of bitchass-ness. For those that are n't hip to the term, the definition of a bitchass is a punk or pushover. Women will test your courage by saying and doing things to manipulate you. For instance, a woman may tell you to pick her up Wednesday night at 8 and take her to the movies, she may try to order the most expensive meal at a restaurant and not pay for the tip, she may also make fun of your outfit, and she may also show off a little sassy attitude to annoy you. All this just to see how you'd react. If you react like a bitchass, she will walk all over you and disrespect you every chance she gets. To pass the test, you must be firm and straight forward with your words and actions, then she will respect and treat you the way that you'd like to be treated.

WILL HE LEAVE ME? (Dating & Relationship Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 17:15:00 +0000

"Will he leave me?" This is a question a lot of women that are involved in relationships ask themselves. A fear of loss, body/age insecurities, low self-esteem, a fear of other women, and lack of trust, cause them to feel that the man that they're in love with, will one day get up and walk out of their lives forever.

There are 5 Signs that show if he's thinking about leaving you:
1) Boredom
2) Argues and Criticizes You
3) Lack of Romance
4) Constantly Busy
5) Ignores You

The most important thing that you ladies really need to realize is that a man that's in his right mind will never leave a good woman. Just continue being the same woman that he fell in love with years ago while at the same time, adding new things to spice up the relationship every now and then. For instance, traveling to another country together, surprising him by wearing sexy new outfits, being more involved in his hobbies, letting him fix things for you, and exploring and learning new things together every year, etc. After doing all that, if he still decides to leave you, then he's a fool that did n't deserve you in the first place.

On a final note, there is no need to worry about someone abandoning you. It will only bring unnecessary conflict into your relationship. If you have a problem, discuss and solve the situation with your man instead letting your imagination run wild. And remember, you don't need a man to validate your self worth. Your spouse is there to compliment you, not determine your value. Only you can do that.

ARE YOU WHIPPED? (Dating & Relationship Advice for Men)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Wed, 23 Mar 2011 20:42:00 +0000

What is the definition of WHIPPED? The urban dictionary defines "WHIPPED" as being completely controlled by a woman to the point where you will do or say anything that she tells you to. If you want to know if you're WHIPPED, take the ARE YOU WHIPPED TEST! If you've answered YES to any of the questions below, it's time to face the fact that you are WHIPPED!

QUESTION 1: Do you like to cuddle with her a lot?

QUESTION 2: When she talks to you, do you ever find yourself listening to every single word she says?

QUESTION 3: Does she dress you?

QUESTION 4: Does she tell you what time to come home?

QUESTION 5: Do you buy her feminine products for her? (e.g., tampons, maxi pads, midol, douches, etc.)

QUESTION 6: When she cries, do you cry too?

QUESTION 7: Does she make you pay for most, if not all the bill when you're out on dates?

QUESTION 8: Do you help her do her hair and makeup?

QUESTION 9: Do you call her daily and constantly send her love notes and flowers?

QUESTION 10: Do you often find yourself saying, "Yes Dear! Right away Dear! Is there anything else Dear?!"

If you've passed the test, CONGRATULATIONS! If you failed, than you really need to stop being a punk and get your balls back!

GETTING BACK UP AGAIN (Dating, Social & Lifestyle Advice For Men and Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 18:25:00 +0000

Sometimes life knocks us down. This usually happens when we feel like we're progressing in it. You might have just gotten a new job with great benefits and then get laid off within a month of obtaining it. You met the perfect person at a social gathering and come to find out that their happily married. You might have just won $10,000 dollars in the lottery and later come to find out that you owe the IRS that same amount. Like Kurtis Blow said, "These are the breaks!" Realize that it's part of life to experience negative circumstances every now and then. The most important thing to remember is to pick yourself up, dust off your shoulders and get back to pursuing your goals. You maybe thinking to yourself, "That's easier said than done!" But what other choice do you have than whining like a little baby, feeling sorry for yourself, and coming up with excuses. Have you ever thought to yourself that maybe life is testing you? Yes I know. Sounds like a crazy concept but it also makes sense does n't it? Know one ever told you life was going to be easy. You're going to have some bumps and bruises along the way. And guess whatelse? You won't make it out alive! So enjoy the great things that like has to offer and fight to overcome it's obstacles. You'll become stronger and wiser because of it. And always remember this one last thing...You have one life to live!

SLOW IT DOWN (Dating Advice for Men and Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 18:16:00 +0000

We've all been there before. Out of nowhere, we meet someone that's not only attractive, but also funny, smart, talented, and caring. We then start to think to ourselves, "Wow! This person is great! I want to see and hear from them every night and day!" There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for someone that you've just met but, slow it down! You don't want the novelty of a new friendship/relationship to wear off. This could also cause the person you like, to become disinterested with you. Take your time getting to know the person that you're with before moving into anything serious. There is no need to rush. You still don't know who this person really is yet. They could have some serious mental and emotional issues, a criminal history, drug addictions, and other personal problems. And most people tend to reveal who they really are within six months of dating anyway, so slow it down! You'll save yourself from wasting a lot of time, energy, money and heartache.

REAL FRIENDS Vs. HATER "FRIENDS" (Social Advice for Men and Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 18:24:00 +0000

REAL FRIENDS are like a surrogate family that support you and make your life easier and brighter. They are always there for you when you need them the most. They are there to hold you after the death of a loved one, encourage you to live up to your potential, got your back in a fight, are not afraid to disagree with you, make you laugh when you feel down and out, and most importantly are loyal and trustworthy. Now HATER "FRIENDS" are fake and envious back-stabbers that gossip and talk trash behind your back. They smile and act kind and helpful in your presence but are secretly hateful and jealous of you, your accomplishments and your loved ones.

These kind of people are not that difficult to point out. They do and say subtle and sometimes blatant things that show you who they really are and what they really think about you. For instance, you may have won 1st place at a sports competition and received a huge trophy for it. And instead of them being very excited for you, they may say to you, "Hey that's great! I remember winning 2 trophies last year! And the competition I faced was a little tougher." Strange and back-handed comments like that tell you what kind of person they really are. Another thing to look for is if they're always bringing up negative gossip about other people. Trust me, if they are talking negative behind other people's backs, they're definately talking bad about you when your not around.

HATER "FRIENDS" are people who are obviously disatisfied with their own lives. They look for people they can break down to their level so that they can become just as miserable as them. Ever heard of the saying, "Misery loves company?" People like these are not your REAL FRIENDS. They will only bring negativity, loneliness, sorrow, and quite possibly death. HATER "FRIENDS" are like a cancer tumor that need to be removed from your life completely!

5 SIGNS TO TELL IF HE'S GAY (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 19:28:00 +0000

Ladies! There are 5 Ways to tell if the man you're dating is Gay.

Sign #1: He cares too much about his looks. When ever you're going to the nail salon, he wants to tag along and get a manicure and peticure too. He also constantly looks at his reflection to make sure that his hair and his tight clothes are put together.

Sign #2: He has a little "twerk" in his step. What I mean by this is that he walks and moves in a feminine way. For example, his hips move like a runway model when he walks down the street.

Sign #3: He is too emotional. He expresses his feelings too much both verbally and physically. For example, he likes to complain a lot about his troubles and cries when things really bother him.

Sign #4: He talks like a woman. For example, he uses words like cute, fierce, diva, fabolous, and work it. He also loves to gossip and talks too much.

Sign #5: He loves to sing and dance. He sings the song "Trading Places" to you while you're both laying in bed. And he dances to the song, "It's Raining Men" while on dinner dates.

ALL MEN ARE THE SAME (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 03:47:00 +0000

Yes, it's true ladies! All men are the same! Well, I'm only generally speaking of course. I keep hearing complaints from women stating that "All men are the same." They keep saying that all men want is sex, they don't listen, they are not in touch with their sensitive side, they don't want to get serious, they don't know what they want, blah, blah, blah, blah!

I know most of you females have not heard this from your friends and family before but have you ever thought that... MAYBE YOU'RE THE PROBLEM? I know that some of the men that you've met are crazy and undateable but analyze yourself first before going out and looking for more Man-Meat. I want you to take a good look in the mirror and honestly ask yourself (3 times). "Self! Am I the PROBLEM?!"

Now think of all things that you think you could be doing wrong. Not only when it comes to men, but in social settings with strangers, family, and friends. Now get a pen and paper, write down your positives on one side of the page and write down your negatives on the other side. Then read out loud the negatives. Now remind yourself to stop and correct your negative actions when you're in a social setting and when dealing with men. Also remember that like attracts like. You only attract what you're projecting at a certain point in time. And if you develop your personality traits, discover your weaknesses (whether mental, physical, and emotional)and turn them into strengths, trust me! Sooner or later, you will attract a great man into your life!

Look for The 3 Second Eye Contact (Dating Advice for Men)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Fri, 17 Sep 2010 02:27:00 +0000

I just recently spoke to a reader online that was having dating scene troubles. The problem that he has is that he can't tell if a woman is interested in him or not. As a result, he would try to spark up a conversation with random women that he's interested in and gets turned down. Apart from telling him to stay well dressed and smelling good. I told him that he also needs to look for "The 3 Second Eye Contact" from women everywhere he goes.

Whether it's at school, work, the grocery store, bus stop, laundromat, etc. Women are always checking out men. They're just more slick about it than we are. If most men would take the time to look at a woman's eyes before approaching her, they will learn a lot. When a woman looks at you for at least 3 seconds without a strange or angry look on her face, she's non-verbally telling you that she's interested in you. Take advantage of her positive body language towards you and talk to her.

DON'T PAY FOR DATES (Dating Advice for Men and Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 16:12:00 +0000

Why does a person pay for someone that they don't even know while out on dates? Is it because they're trying to win that person's affection and approval by paying for his or her food or entertainment? Or maybe it's because they've been though that it's the right and polite thing to do? Traditionally, a man would ask a woman out on a date, take her out on the town, spend an hour or two trying to get to know her, pay for everything and end the night taking her home, and probably get a hug and a kiss on the cheek goodnight. It's obvious that women benefited highly from that old way of dating which left men at a disadvantage.

Currently, the dating scene has changed. More and more women are becoming financially independent now and are offering to pay for dates. This fact helps to balance the dating scene for both sexes. Why? Because dating should be a fair and equal investment between two parties. Personally, Intellectually, and Financially. Furthermore, people tend to appreciate what they've worked hard for. It's basic human psychology. So why should the benefits of dating be one sided when it can be spread equally between two people. Realize that most of the people that you date will not be compatible with you. This is why you should not place a full financial investment on any of them. You'll just end up broke and discouraged! And please, don't call your get together a "date", it only adds pressure to the occasion. Instead, just call it a meetup, honestly try to get to know the person that you're with, and see where things go from there. And remember that dating is a screening and filtering process. After you've screened and filtered a person's behavior, character, integrity, honesty and consistency, is when you can increase the amount of investment that you want to place on them.

WHY YOU'RE STILL SINGLE (Dating Advice for Men and Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 05:40:00 +0000

Have you ever wondered why you're still single? Do you keep blaming everyone else but yourself? Well I'm here to tell you the reasons for your present situation. There are many reasons that may be the cause of your loneliness and frustration but, I'm going to focus on the major causes. First, I'm going to discuss the main reasons why some of you are still single.

Reason #1: Desperation - Stop acting like you've never seen a beautiful woman or any woman for that matter. A desperate or "thirsty" man to women is very unattractive. Take your time and be smooth when dealing with a female. Always remember that words are a woman's weakness. And a man's weakness is you ladies. So use that knowledge to your advantage by choosing the way you want to be treated. You don't have to chase and spread your legs for every man that you're attracted to. You'll just be labeled as a slut or a hoe and be treated as a jump-off.

Reason #2: Lack of Confidence - Confidence is key when it comes to your encounters with women. Show them that your confident in yourself, your abilities, and your intelligence. And what ever you do, don't get arrogant. You'll just look like an ass and drive them away. You females also need to become a little more confident in your interactions men. Stop being afraid to approach a man that you're interested in. You don't have to seem desperate and lonely, be subtle and direct in your approach. He may just be the one that you've been looking for. And have confidence in your beauty and natural abilities and don't worry about your little insecurities, they can be overlooked.

Reason #3: Bad Hygiene - This one right here is very crucial. Their are some men that have horrible personal hygiene. If you ever want to get and keep a female, please make sure to take showers with fresh soap everyday, put on good scented deodorant, cologne, brush your teeth regularly because no one wants to look at yellow or brown teeth. And also make sure to get a haircut every month to keep yourself from looking like a crazy bum. Ladies! Get your hair, nails, facials, shave your body hairs, brush your teeth, wear lip gloss, use sweet scented lotions and perfumes, and take showers too. And please keep things clean and smelling fresh "down there", if you know what I mean.(Wink ;)

Reason #4: No Fashion Sense - Women love a man that knows how to dress. So do yourself a favor and start wearing clothes that fit and look good on you. Stop wearing tight ass skinny jeans, Ug boots, Du-rags, Arab scarves, kids clothes, and saggy pants that hang down to your knees. Only dumb little girls like that goofy shit. And ladies, stop dressing like sluts just to get attention. Because the only men you're going to attract are men that just want to hit it and quit it. Dress up with style and class. Nothing too flashy or conservative.

Reason #5: Laziness - Ever heard of the saying, "The early bird gets the worm?" Well that phrase can also come in good use when dealing with the opposite sex. You have to know exactly what you want in a spouse and take the necessary action to find and meet them. But before you do that, you must first close your eyes and visualize what you want him or her to look like, the sound of his or her voice, what he or she smells like, their height, the kind of clothes they wear, their personality, their intellect, etc. Now after you've done this, research places where the kind of person that you want spends their time at. Guys! If you like athletic women, get a gym membership or join a fitness meetup group. Ladies! If you like spiritual men, go to church every sunday or join a yoga/meditation class. And make sure never to leave out chance encounters in places like the grocery store, the bus stop, the mall, at a bar, the post office, and so on. Laziness also keeps people from taking care of their physical health. So make sure to exercise for your health and for the attention of the opposite sex.

And last but not least...Reason #6: Bad Attitude - Everyone hates someone with a bad attitude. They bring out negative vibes that make everybody around them feel uncomfortable. People are more receptive to those that make them feel good about themselves. This is the biggest reason why you're still single! Now are you going to change for the better or are you still going to keep dragging along in this lonely and frustrating road? The choice is yours.

THE DEFINITION OF A JUMP-OFF (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 00:43:00 +0000

What is a Jump-Off? The definition of a Jump-Off is a female who is down to hang out and have sex with no strings attached. She also has no aspirations of being in a committed relationship and just wants to have fun. Most women have been some guy's jump-off at some point in their lives. But if a woman allows the men that she deals with to see her only as a jump-off, she will never fully gain their respect. What women need to realize is that men will place you in one of three categories. And these three categories are 1. Jump-Off 2. Wifey (Girlfriend) 3. Friend. And men determine which category they will place you in depending on your personality, your intellect, the way you dress and carry yourself, the way you act and speak, the people you hang around with, and the way you treat people. So be careful about how you act around the men you deal with because if not, you might be placed in the Jump-Off category.

STOP BEING A STRING ALONG (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 23:48:00 +0000

Ladies! Stop letting the men you date string you along. If you've been dating a man for months and years and have not established a concrete relationship yet, you are being strung along. If you want a serious relationship, tell the man in your life that you want a serious relationship. Don't be afraid to tell him what you want. Most men will string you along for as long as possible if you don't address the situation. I know that you don't want to be a jump-off for the rest of your life, dating and sleeping with random guys. And if the man that you're dating chooses to avoid the topic, just give him an alturmatum. Either he commits to a relationship, or you're gone. A man knows a great woman when he sees one. Within 6 months, we know if we want you to be our girlfriend or not. So don't waste your time hoping, fantasizing, and lying to yourself about what's really going on within your interactions with men. If you don't wise up and start using your common sense, you will ultimately be faced with feelings of confusion, regret, anger, and humiliation.

INTERNET PIMPIN 2: The Ladies Guide to Online Dating

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Tue, 30 Mar 2010 23:59:00 +0000

Ladies! Have you ever dreamed of meeting the love of your life? Does it seem like you'll never get to meet Mr. Right because you're so use to being discouraged by the Mr. Wrongs and the Mr. Right Nows of the world? The modern dating scene is a wild jungle filled with terrible blind dates, dead-beat losers, overcrowded bars, hopeless singles events, and emotionally disturbed and desperate loners.

But you deserve better than this! You deserve to find that special someone. Someone you can really connect with. A man that you’re physically, mentally, and emotionally attracted to. Someone who loves you for who you are, and someone who can be your soul-mate and your best friend. Finding the elusive Mr. Right is difficult but not impossible. There is still hope. Why not try online dating?! You have nothing to lose! There are millions of quality single men to choose from and the possibilities of finding love are endless!

Internet Pimpin 2: The Ladies Guide to Online Dating is the second installment of the ultimate online dating guide series. This step by step guide will show you how to setup your online profile to attract and seduce quality men, how to spark interests with the right messages, how to build a strong connection through conversations, how to get a date with Mr. Right and most importantly, it will also show you how to keep him. Now here’s your chance to make it all come true. This is your chance to find the man of your dreams!

WHY PEOPLE HATE (Lifestyle Advice For Men and Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 20:14:00 +0000

There are many reasons why people hate. People hate when they feel inferior and superior to others, hate out of fear, hate when others beliefs don't match theirs, hate what they don't understand, hate the differences they see in others, and also hate what they can't conquer and achieve. So why do people hate on other people? Well, there seems to be deep rooted insecurities in the minds of most human beings that cause them to hate. The main reason why people hate is that people are very emotional creatures. And their whole lives are affected based on their feelings. You can't fully remedy hate. There will always be some people that will hate on you no matter what. But there are ways to remedy most hatred against you.

Don't let the haters bother you. Just live your life. But try to analyze the situations that you're in and take action to avoid any hostility that may cause you to get harmed, feel insecure or become embarrassed. Don't be arrogant (but be confident), don't be a show off or act like you're better than everyone, don't act like a know it all (ignorance is bliss), listen more than you speak, be respectful and kind to everyone (make people feel good about themselves).

THE TRUTH ABOUT YOUR MALE FRIENDS (Dating Advice For Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 16:14:00 +0000

Believe it or not ladies, but your so called "male friends" are not really your friends at all! Most men and women can not be just friends. Why you ask? Well, because there are usually ulterior motives involved. And in many cases, those motives involve something sexual. For instance, a "male friend" of yours has decided to be your friend and has stayed in the "friend zone" for years, in hopes that he may one day have sex with you. Another reason for being your friend is that he believes you can help him attract more women for him. For instance, he may want you to hook him up with your sister, your cousin, your girlfriend, women at nightclubs, or some other women that you may know. Other reasons for being your friend is that you may be wealthy, popular, well-connected or just a valuable business contact.

Now please don't get upset at me, not all of your male friends want to use you. There are some exceptions! One exception for a man to honestly be your true friend is if he does not find you physically or sexually attractive. Yes. I know this may come as a shocker to you girls but this is just how men think. If we're not attracted to you, then you're automatically placed in either one of two categories: Friend or Nobody. Another reason for being your true friend is if he's gay. Now this one's obvious because gay men are only attracted to men and they usually have at least one or more lady friends to relate to. The third reason for being your true friend is if he's already in a committed relationship with someone. And the last reason for being your true friend is that, you're actually a fun and interesting person that's pleasant to be around.

So there you have it ladies! This is the truth about your "male friends". There are some that truly are your friends. But the majority of them have ulterior motives for being "just friends" with you.

Are you a Text-a-holic? (Dating Advice for Men and Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 21:37:00 +0000

The relatively new technology called Textin' is destroying the way we effectively communicate with one another. Call me crazy but whatever happened to just calling some body and hearing their voice? Now don't get me wrong. I'm a big advocate for new technology but textin' is a cold and impersonal way of communicating. It only has a few positives: exclusivity, no awkward pauses, and quick messaging. Textin' is a very inefficient way of trying to get to know someone because there are no emotions involved, no sounds, apart from the click-clack sounds on a keypad, followed by an annoying ringtone. And worst of all, there is nothing intimate about it. And yes I know that more and more people are textin', but that does not mean that it's necessarily a good thing. These Text-a-holics are becoming a generation of mindless drones that are slowly losing the most basic and precious form of human interaction, speech! When it comes to dating, men and women need to call, hear, and speak to each other in order to establish a real personal connection.

Think about it, your intuition about a person is much clearer when you finally hear their voice over the phone for the first time. You also get to gauge their personality, their emotions, as well as their intellect much closely. Textin' should not be used as a dating tool because it does nothing to improve it. It keeps you more distant and disconnected from the person that you're trying to hook up with. Call the person that you're interested in, speak to them, hear how you both react to each others voices, setup a date together, and meet each other in person. Besides, if a person would rather text you than call you, he or she is either already in a relationship, a social outcast, very timid, or they're just plain flakey and secretive. And I don't think that's the kind of person you would want in your life. Now do yourself a favor! Stop textin' and start CALLING!

HE DOES NOT WANT TO MEET YOUR FRIENDS! (Dating Advice for Women)

noreply@blogger.com (Mr. Wonderful) — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 20:17:00 +0000

Ladies! Ladies! Ladies! Let me tell you something about men and dating. We do not want to meet your friends! Yes, I know it sounds harsh but hear me out. Let's say we met at some moment in time, conversed, and decided to exchange phone numbers with one another. Now later on, we decide to contact one another for an official meet and greet. This official meet and greet can also be called a "first date", "meet up", or "hanging out". Now on a date, men are thinking that we are going to be meeting with you and only you! We do not want to meet anyone else! Not your friends, not your brother, not your mother, not your father, and especially not your crazy co-worker with the glass eye that won't stop staring at us. We want to meet only you because we are interested in getting to know you more and possibly have sex with you in the near future. And if you've proven to be more than just another sex buddy, we will promote you to honorary girlfriend! And by then, we will gladly meet your friends. I know that you bring your friends for confidence and safety reasons but, you really don't need them. Why bring them for confidence and safety? Men do not want a woman with low self-esteem. It's too much of a hassle. And when it's comes to safety, we are meeting at a public place for that reason alone. And if you're really unsure, you can also meet us in the afternoon at a public place that is familiar to you.

Bringing your friends to our meet up spot only proves to us that you don't trust us, you're an immature person who can't do anything without her friends, and that you probably have a boyfriend. So next time you're going to meet up with a guy that you like, lose your friends! We don't want to meet your friends!