So far the results are quite pleasing, the members that are actively working are seeing massive improvement! A lot of guys have actually gotten girlfriends during the program and decided to only listen (instead of participating) in the last section of the program.

Nearly everyone in the program has slept with 1-3 new girls this summer (and we even have a member that enjoys emailing me every time he sleep with a new girl… I think he’s up to 7 since the program started). Enough said, it works!

Great job guys! I teach but it’s you guys that actually put the hard work in.

Getting the Girl Without Lifting a Finger

Here’s the typical scenario when a guy sees an attractive girl in a social setting such as store. First his heart rate accelerates, he takes a second glance, hoping she’ll be looking at him but unfortunately, she’s busy shopping. After that, his mind goes blank as he desperately tries to find something to say… he wants to start a normal conversation without sounding as if he’s trying to pick her up. Unfortunately, he can’t come up with anything decent so he watches her walk away. This is the exact same scenario illustrated as in the Double Your Dating review here.

If you’re going to be successful with women, instead of watching her walk away, you’re going to need to say something. Now keep in mind that while you’re shopping, it’s very possible that the girl in question is actually busy and in a rush. This happens frequently and therefore, when you open, you should be relatively polite. I know this goes against a LOT of good seduction knowledge out there that claim you need to be bold and manly when you approach girls, but let’s face it, you’re interrupting someone while they are busy shopping, so use some tact and it will go a long way.

So let’s start!

In seduction, you can either have a completely natural approach where you simply go up to a girl and say “hello”, or you can have a more mechanical approach where everything is broken down into tiny little steps. It’s likely that if you’re reading this you aren’t part of the more natural ones so let’s break a conversation down into tiny little parts.

The Opener

The first thing you say to a woman is called an opener. The opener’s purpose is to simply break the ice and get the conversation going. The key to a good opener is to engage the other person and if you can captivate their attention, then that’s even better. If your opener isn’t creating curiosity, then it’s likely that the girl you’re talking to will simply walk away or act very disinterested earlier on. If this is happening, then make sure to change your approach until you can at least get 30 seconds of conversation going each time you try to talk to a new girl.

As if it wasn’t subtly hinted enough in the previous paragraph, you should prepare your opener in advance. Ideally, it should be less than 10 seconds long, draw curiosity to you and be original! If you want mine, then that’s fine, it’s not very good but it works: “Hey there, how’s it going? I’m doing <enter activity here>, what are you up to?” (I told you it wasn’t very good! But usually I’m doing something interesting enough to be casual yet inciting)

A lesson from women in flirting

If you’ve looked around in our stereotypical world, you’ll notice that women tend to be naturally good at this and often get the nickname of “Flirts”. As guys we can learn a bit from them. Now I don’t want you acting like a girl, nor dressing like a girl… but if you pay attention, you’ll notice that the women that are great at flirting do have a certain appearance that is flirty. This includes bright colors, mini-skirts, blouses, energetic clothes that say: “Look at me”.

That’s because a lot of the time, those guys come from a place of need. If you’ve ever heard the term “being needy”, then that’s exactly what we’re talking about. If you’ve ever said: “If only I had a girlfriend, then everything would be O.K. and I’d be happy”, then you”re looking for a girlfriend in order to fix your life. This is a huge mistake, but we’ll fix it!

First, Don’t be Needy

The primary step in actually getting a girlfriend is to come from a place of abundance and happiness. Girls will be attracted to you if you’re already content with your life and you’re not looking at them to fill some emotional or physical need that needs filling. Why is that? Well, for one, being needy screams of desperation. Being desperate means that no one else wants you, which consequently lowers your social status and makes you very unattractive. Not to mention, being needy is just annoying, repelling and definitely not something you want in your life.

That being said, there is a huge difference between being needed and being wanted. If you go completely in the opposite direction and you pretend you don’t care at all for a girl, you definitely won’t be any closer to getting a girlfriend in your life. Everyone wants to feel wanted… but for the right reasons. When you’re with a girl that seems to be girlfriend worthy, then make sure she knows, consciously or unconsciously, why you like her.

Good Looks

Even though this goes against every guide that promotes using personality for attraction, the easiest way to create attraction is to simply look good. Although personality is going to be the determining factor in the long run, if you’re just looking to create quick, raw attraction, then just look your best! It’s really that simple. Looking good for guys involves working out, taking care of your body, trimming your hair and of course, having a nice attire. If you can combine all of those, then all you have to do is show up, say “Hi” and you’re on your way to getting the girl to like you.

If we were to generalize and say that the idea behind attraction is that we’re attracted to people that are valuable, then DHV would be the term to represent increasing that value and DLV would be decreasing in value. The perception of value changes from person to person and therefore what is DLV for one person might not be for another. Here are some general examples of how guys accidentally DLV themselves on a regular basis.

Common Examples of DLV

• Self depreciating humor
• Not having any money
• Insulting (bring down) their friends
• Trying to impress people
• Perform too many favors
• Being “the nice guy”
• Not standing up for themselves
• Bragging about accomplishments
• Being ignorant
• Caring about what others think
• Poor social awareness

These are the most common examples of DLV that one might encounter on a regular basis. Although it’s not always obvious, these tend to lower your value in front of women. There are numerous more that range from being childish to simply being rude, all of which show that you don’t have any class. One of the most frequent DLV’s that I see is that guys put down their friends in front of women. People tend to surround themselves with people that are like them, and if you put your friends down then you’re only putting yourself down by association.

Direct DHV

The first way, most common and probably the least recommended one is to demonstrate higher value by telling people directly about yourself. Saying, “Oh hi, I’m friends with this celebrity” might increase your status if people think you’re being sincere, but usually they’ll just think you’re trying to impress them and might not believe you in the first place. The risk of direct DHV is that people might think you’re lying, in which case it would be DLV (Demonstration of lower value).

Instead, a good way to DHV while still being direct is to bring up accomplishments and facts about yourself in a contextual situation. For example, if people are talking about traveling, you could mention that you had a good time in New Zealand and that you recommend going to see the beaches with penguins. Contextual DHV works much better because it simply sounds as if you had something to share. In this example, people would be envious that you’re well travelled, cultured and have adventurous mind.

If the conversation is headed in a direction where you can’t possibly DHV naturally, then take charge and steer the conversation where you want it to go. Good story telling is one of the best ways of conveying massive DHV while still seeming natural. For instance, you could be telling the story about your adventure in Peru, and while you were there, you can mention that you absorded the language in a few weeks. Using specific stories, you can DHV as much as you want without coming off as a show off, or someone that’s trying to impress people

Just mix three parts funny with one part cocky and you have a recipe for attraction.

The trick when using cocky and funny statements is that you have to get the balance just right. If you’re too funny, you’ll end up looking like a clown. However, if you’re too cocky, then you’re going come off as arrogant. Finding the right balance between the two is really the key to using this technique, and that’s what most guys will fail to mention. You’ll know you’re getting it right because she’ll be laughing and smiling at the same time. If she gently touches you on the arm as well, then that’s even better and you’re definitely on the right track.

When to Use Cocky and Funny in an Approach

If you plan on trying this out, then I recommend you think of the cocky and funny technique as a spice and only apply it very lightly. It’s very easy to overdo it by using it too frequently which results in the woman losing interest. Don’t over-do it! The best time to use a cocky and funny statement is within the first 5 minutes of meeting her. In the attraction phase, if used properly, it will be a great way of letting her know that you’re confident and funny at the same time.

In my experience, the most effective use of  these statements is when it’s least expected. If you can catch people off-guard with a hilarious and slightly cocky statement, they’ll be laughing and smiling at the same time.  However, as a general rule of thumb, don’t use more than 2 cocky/funny statements per interaction. If you’re doing it more than that, then you’re likely just going to come off as arrogant.