If you’re anything like what I think is the average reader of this blog, you know all about the law of attraction but you’re probably not using it consistently in your finances, and probably not asking for a monthly figure that you want to earn (in dollars, pounds, or euros or whichever currency you earn your money in).

If you’re not using the law of attraction in your finances, could it be…

a. because you feel you don’t have much control over your finances (maybe you’re working in a J-O-B)

b. You don’t need to (in which case you don’t need to read this article!)

c. You forgot to! (you’re probably a very busy person.)

Well, if you do want to use the law of attraction in your finances more effectively, I have a simple little process to give you.  You can use this process to set your monthly money intentions and call on Spirit to help you reach your target.  For this, you will need some level of intuition.  So if you’re working on your intuitive development, this is a good process to use to develop your intuition as well.

I have to say, this process works really well for self-employed people because they have more control over their time and the amount that they can earn.  So, if you’re intuitive AND self-employed, I think you’ll find it useful.

Me and My Money Intentions

Before I give you this process, I want to tell you a bit about what I learned when I tried manifesting money a few years ago. When I first saw the film the Secret a few years ago, I heard one of the teachers in that film talk about manifesting money and cheques coming to them in the mail.  I thought this seemed like a pretty unlikely thing to happen to me, but I tried it anyway.  I willed money to come to me in general. I told the Universe I wanted to earn £2,000 per month. I didn’t get any cheques in the mail and my income didn’t go up.

There were two reasons for this:

Firstly, I was not a vibrational match for earning £2,000 per month.  That means that I had not yet developed the resources in myself – motivation or personal qualities – of someone who could earn that amount of money. I had no passive income streams, no sense of purpose and I had no idea how I would earn more money. I was also very worried about my financial situation as I was living beyond my means and so my general sense of panic relating to money didn’t help either.

Secondly, I was not taking any strategic action – that is, actions designed to increase my income.  At that time, I had a job and I was earning about 1000 euros per month. So I just passively willed more money to come to me and hoped it would.

So, even though I said to myself ‘I’m going to earn £2,000 this month’, I didn’t achieve my goal because I hadn’t laid the foundations for achieving it and I had no method for getting there.

These days, most months I do remember to set an intention of how much money I want to earn in my business and most months I do reach my goal – and then some!

The reason for this is that I don’t just set an intention and hope for money to arrive in the mail.  There is more to my process than that, now. 

So, here is the process for setting a money intention:

Step one:

Ask yourself, what do you want to earn next month? Find a dollar figure (or a figure in whatever currency you’re working in.)  Then ask yourself, ‘am I very far from being a vibrational match for earning this figure?’ Go within and consult with your gut. 

You are aiming for a figure that you’re nearly a vibrational match for – say, 75% or 60% a match for.  You don’t want a figure that you’re already earning and 100% a vibrational match for.  You don’t want something that feels completely out of your league either. You want something that’s still a challenge though. 

If you’re nearly a vibrational match you might feel excited but it’ll feel within your financial frame of reference; within your ‘league’ right now. It may feel uncomfortable to a degree but not completely uncomfortable. On the other hand, if you’re totally not a vibrational match, you may feel totally uncomfortable and as if it’s just not within your financial frame of reference to earn that figure you chose.  You probably can’t imagine earning it. 

(By the way, if you have a pendulum, you can dowse on how aligned you are (in a percentage) with earning your chosen amount in the next month.)

If you can see that the amount you chose is TOTALLY outside of your financial frame of reference (i.e. too high) then try again with another figure that’s lower than the one you chose before. So if your ideal amount to earn was $5,000 per month, try $3,500/month the second time – go through the same process and ask yourself the same questions.

Step two:

Ask yourself (or your guides):

What do I need to do to become a vibrational match for earning this figure?

Do I need to make any changes?

Are there any changes in attitude that I need to make?

What holds me back?

See if any situations, thoughts or information pops into your mind. Sometimes the answer comes pretty quickly – or you at least get a clue or a sense of what the changes are you need to make.  You could use automatic writing to get your answers if you prefer that method. Just put some time aside and ask Spirit for guidance. You may be surprised at what pops into your mind from nowhere.

Depending on the figure you chose, the things that come to mind might be pretty big changes, like work part-time and start your business.  Or they could be smaller changes.  Ask for guidance about strategic actions you can take to earn that amount and opportunities to become a better vibrational match for the amount you chose. If I had done this three years ago, I might have noticed that my tendency to panic in an irrational way about money wasn’t helping. I might also have noticed that I had no budget and was not tracking what I was spending or earning. I would also have noticed that I hated my job and needed to shift to something different.

If you don’t get any information at all on this, just release your intention to earn your desired amount and ask your guides to show you what you need to do (during the course of this month) to become a vibrational match for earning the amount you chose. This may turn out to be a journey, depending on how big your goal is. You may induce some shifts in attitude or life path if you put out this intention.

So, you can see how this process is more thorough and effective than just taking an arbitrary dollar figure you might or might not be a match for earning and hoping that figure will come to you passively. This is a process that takes into account the fact that we need to take actions for our dreams to come true and also, we need to grow into a person who can have or do what we want. It also takes into account the fact that we don’t have all the answers straight away – sometimes we just need to put out the intention, have faith and then wait for guidance that can take us there over the course of a month or longer.

I have done this process this month for my business.  My goal is to expand my business, provide more value (and deliver it) and earn £4,000 per month.  I was given eight actions to take to reach my goal, a few of them I predicted I wouldn’t be able to complete until the end of the year, so I knew my goal of earning the amount I set for myself probably won’t happen until then, unless other things change for me in the mean time.

Try this process and tell me in the comments whether you got any next steps or guidance.  Or leave a comment if you have any questions.

PS. I opened the Spirit Guides coaching program again – there are currently four out of the twelve places remaining, so if you wanted to do this program in December, you will want to apply fairly soon! (details on that page).

Before I launch into this topic of interpreting dreams, remember that not all dreams are created equal.  Some dreams are meant to be unravelled and interpreted and some are not. So, first I’ll talk about the different dreams you can have and which ones are worth interpreting.

Why We Dream

When we dream, we visit the astral planes around this planet.  There are said to be seven positive and seven negative astral planes.  We are supposed to visit the positive astral planes when we’re asleep for a number of reasons, here are some of them:

Reason #1 : To stay connected to Spirit

The astral plane is not in the ether (i.e. the ‘other side’) but it’s not in this plane either.  In a way, it’s like a half-way house between the spiritual and the physical.  When you leave your body at night and visit the astrals, you experience what it is like to be alive but not in a body (a bit like how it is after death!)

Because the astral plane is like a half-way house between heaven (the ether) and Earth, dreams are an important part of our spiritual life – something that keeps us connected to spirit.

Therefore dreaming is an easy way for spirit to get a message to you.

If it’s really important that you receive a message from spirit about something, you’ll get a really clear and obvious one in your dreams – it won’t be cryptic.  The message could come through an experience or understanding that you integrate while you’re in the astral plane or it could be a message that comes through words or even song lyrics.

Reason #2: To Expand your perspective, change your vibration and get a change of scenery, energetically

As I mentioned, there are seven positive astral planes. There are many astral ‘places’ that you can travel to and learn in.
I personally feel like I travel in my dreams because when I wake up, I can feel completely different, like I’ve come back from a long trip away. 

You ARE travelling while asleep, but just in the non-physical.  And those dreams can renew you and transform the landscape of your reality, making you feel different when you wake up.

Reason #3: To Serve Others

I’ve mentioned the concept of ‘dream masters’ once before in an article I wrote – Why People Dream. Dream masters are souls who participate in the learning experiences of others in the astrals.  If you have lots of dreams with souls in it whom you don’t recognize, they are probably dream masters who have shown up to play a role in your dream so that you can take or learn something from the dream experience.  Maybe you’ve had one of those learning experiences in a dream where something ‘clicked’ for you when you wake up and you just ‘get it’.

If you are one of these dream master souls who participates in the learning experiences of others (about 25-30% of my Akashic Record reading clients are) then you will have many dreams that are not meant for you to learn from.  In fact, you may not remember them for that reason.  But when you do remember your dreams they may seem to make no sense to you or they may seem irrelevant to you.

How to Interpret Dreams

I’ve learned from doing spirit guide coaching that dreams are usually meant to be interpreted even if they seem cryptic sometimes. As I mentioned before, the more urgent the message, the clearer the symbolism will be.  But some of the messages do become clearer if you do some unravelling.

A dream is basically your subconscious (or spirit) painting a picture, made of many brush strokes. What will it paint and add in, and why? Everything in the dream landscape is there for a reason – including what happened, the backdrop, the people in it and the symbols. (But really, if nothing in it has any meaning for you, don’t bother assigning any – it was probably not a dream that was meant for you.)

When you have a dream that you want to interpret, in your journalling or exploring, you can examine:

What Happened?

This is the most obvious part of the interpretation. 

What actually happened?  Look for another layer of symbolism in the dream.  For example, there are many connotations and layers of meaning to the verb ‘fall’.  If you fall in a dream, what are you falling for?  Or whom?  Is it a case of pride comes before a fall?  Look at each verb that you write out as an action in the dream.

Also, watch out for your own ‘inner language’ of symbolism…

If you and I both look at a picture or a tarot card, without knowing what the meaning of the card is, we will both hone in on and draw different things from the imagery of the card or picture, depending on our past experiences.  There is no universal language of symbolism that applies to everyone.

Different symbols mean different things to different people.

To me, whales are sacred, as are dolphins.  Cockroaches to me symbolize fear and inspire disgust.  Doing exams means not having enough time for something or feeling under pressure.  The ocean means the vast unknown that I haven’t explored. I’ve come to notice that having my teeth fall out is usually an anxiety dream. Depending on your personal experiences, all of these symbols may mean something entirely different to you so there probably isn’t that much point looking them up in a dream dictionary, especially not the old-fashioned dream dictionaries that think everything comes down to death, ruin or sex. 

Settings and Backdrops

Certain settings can crop up in dreams over and over and each backdrop is significant.  It adds a whole different overtone to the dream if it’s set in the road where you grew up or somewhere in the past, doesn’t it?  Sometimes dreams will be set in a completely unknown setting which lends an air of possibility or something futuristic to them.  Some dreams feel like they already took place in the past.

Look also at the feeling and mood of the dream, as this is significant.  My dreams are rich in strong emotions.  Sometimes the mood can be very subtle and sort of in the background.

Sounds

The funniest thing about my dreams is that when I get a clear message, Spirit will hammer it home even further by adding the perfect song which further reinforces the message.  It’s actually funny how creative I am (or how creative spirit is) with the songs.  When I listen to music, for some reason I pay a lot of attention to lyrics and always remember lyrics of songs (more than the tune) so this is probably why I get lyrics in my dream which apply perfectly to the message I am already getting in the dream.

An Interesting Exercise for Inducing Dreams

Several weeks ago, when I was doing the Spirit Guides Coaching, the spirit guides gave the following exercise to one of the participants.  It’s so simple I don’t know why I hadn’t thought of it before.

Write a question on a post it note and leave it next to your bed.

Ask your spirit guides to send you a dream that answers the question just before you wake up.

When you wake, make sure you explore the metaphors and messages within the dream by journaling about it soon after – this is one half of the process.

This is an interesting exercise to do because you often get a dream in response to it. So, you can interpret your dream in the light of what you asked, which makes it easier to interpret and narrows down the area of life that it can relate to.

I tried this out several weeks ago and asked ‘Where am I going in my career, long-term?’ It was not a question I particularly needed the answer to at that time, but I was obviously feeling some sort of uncertainty that day to have asked it.

The dream I had just before waking was definitely relating to career, but not exactly answering my question.

Here’s what happened:

In the dream, I was standing outside the Akashic Record with a girl I had never met before. The Akashic Record looked a bit like this in my dream. (Everything in it was made of marble.)

This girl was my student and I was supposed to show her around the Akashic Record. It looked like an old museum in the Akashic Record and we kept going up to ledges that were high up. Whenever I got close to a ledge, I got dizzy but instead of me falling, when I got dizzy, my student would teeter on the edge of it and nearly fall. In the end, she did fall a long way onto the marble below and I was certain she was dead but when I got down there, she was actually alive and fine. I then went to have dinner with her and her family but I couldn’t look them in the eye because I let their daughter fall in the Akashic Record and I felt guilty.

This dream was clearly not a relevant response to ‘Where am I going, long-term, in my career?’ but it addressed the question of ‘What is holding me back in my career right now?’

I got this dream just as I started doing my Spirit Guides Coaching Program, with nine students. I discussed this dream with one of my blogger friends and I realized that I was thrilled AND freaked out at the same time at all this responsibility of teaching in this area for the first time.

I also know I have a tendency to take on responsibility for other people’s experiences which is a big life lesson for me and also probably the biggest thing that holds me back in the area of career. So, remember that in response to asking a question, you may get an answer to another, perhaps more pressing question in your life, instead.

The next blog post will talk about dreaming of death and dreaming about the future.

What have you been dreaming lately?

If you don’t usually dream, try out the exercise above and see what happens.

I have some general advice to give you around this topic and then I will talk more about the training I did to become a professional psychic.

If you want to become a professional intuitive, you’re probably in one of two situations.

You already know you’re very intuitive, tapped into your spirit guides/higher self and maybe you’re already channeling messages for others.

You haven’t had much experience reading for others.  But you know you really want to go into an area like psychic work/healing.  You feel a strong pull towards helping others but you’re not sure how to do that yet.  You want something or someone that can teach you that.

If you’re in the first situation (you already have some experience) and if you’re rather intrepid, you could become a professional intuitive by learning on the job.  If you’re getting some information that helps people already, then you can hone your skills by just doing it. Offer readings for free – when you’ve done ten free 30 minute readings you will be in a completely different place than you were before you did the readings.  You will have learned quite a lot.

Keep doing it and then when you start feeling more confident, offer readings for a low price and go from there.

You may find that it’s rather ‘hit-and-miss’ at first, which is why you offer the readings for free.  But honestly, the more readings you do, the better you get at it.  My guides tell me that if you never get any wrong information, you don’t develop that inner knowing – that feeling you get when you have an insight that’s spot on.  So find some non-judgmental people to practice on and remember that at some point you will probably have some insights that are not so spot-on but that’s OK as long as people know you’re practicing.

If you’re in the first situation, then you may also find the following articles of mine helpful:

How I Tune into Your Spirit Guides – (The process I use in readings for tuning into Spirit Guides.)

What is the Energy Body and How to Read it – (My process for tuning into the energy body plus some recommended books for learning about the chakra system.)

What is The Alpha State and why it is Essential to Psychic Development? – (The importance of meditation/being in the alpha state for developing and maintaining your psychic abilities.)

So, now I’ve discussed how to go about giving readings if you’re in the first situation. On the other hand, if you’re in the second boat (you want to become an intuitive but you have little experience or knowledge of this profession), then you will probably need to get some sort of training.

How to Get Trained

I am sure there are plenty of psychics out there who offer to train others. To be honest, I’m not familiar with many of them personally. I have heard that my friend and colleague, intuitive Slade Roberson will be releasing an intuitive training program soon and I highly recommend Slade both as an intuitive and a teacher (I took a class with him about 18 months ago and I know that everything he produces is of a really high quality.) His course isn’t out yet, I believe, but watch out for it on his site soon if you’re interested in learning from him (he also has other courses on his site for intuitive development.)

So, the program I am recommending personally is the one that I took to become a professional intuitive (and one I know inside out) – Soul Realignment™.

So, what follows is a detailed description of what Soul Realignment teaches you – why I loved it and a couple of drawbacks in there too (because no course, even if it’s pretty darn good, is going to be 100% perfect for everyone.)  That way, if you’re thinking about becoming a professional intuitive or healer, you can read all about Soul Realignment and get a pretty good sense of whether or not it could be the course you’ve been looking for.

What is Soul Realignment™?

Soul Realignment is a home-study course for becoming a professional intuitive.  You get 14 hours of audio lectures, a manual and two hours of one-on-one tuition at key points during the course.  You also get ongoing email support from Andrea Hess, the teacher of Soul Realignment, for any questions you have.  During the course you choose five practice clients and do a reading for them.  It costs $947 (US dollars) for the entire level one course (or $997 in three monthly installments), so it’s not a cheap option for becoming a professional intuitive.  Because of that, it does tend to attract people who are really serious about intuitive work as a career, because it is an investment.

What exactly does Soul Realignment teach you to do?

Soul Realignment teaches you to read the Akashic Record.

Most psychics, when they read for people, do not read the Akashic Record.  Most professional psychics tune into your spirit guides and channel messages that way.  Some are adept at tapping into the angelic realm too.

So, what is special about reading the Akashic Record?

By reading someone’s Akashic Record, you can find out who they are on the level of their soul.  You can find out what soul group they belong to, what their soul trainings and soul gifts are.  You can look up various aspects of the Akashic Record, put all of these together and paint a picture for the client of their life purpose and soul gifts.  I actually find all of this information invaluable for career readings, because it’s precise and extremely detailed and always resonates a great deal with my clients.

In addition, by reading the Akashic Record, you can find out what the life lessons are behind your experiences and the experiences of your clients.  Understanding WHY something is happening in your life can really help you to resolve or accept it.

And thirdly, Soul Realignment teaches you a complete process for finding out what ‘blocks’ or negative energy clients have in their energy body (which have them attracting things they don’t want) and where they come from.  This program also teaches you to clear blocks and negative energy from the energy body.  So, it’s not just a course in reading for people, it’s also a spiritual healing course.

How I discovered Soul Realignment

I found this Soul Realignment course in the summer of 2007.  I had just had a reading with Andrea Hess (the founder of Soul Realignment) and I was beginning to get psychic messages that were meant to be passed on to other people.  I had been told earlier on in the year (by psychic-medium Erin Pavlina) that I’d be doing readings for people in the future.  I was fed up of my teaching job (the 9-5 workday is definitely not for me!) and inside me there was something stirring – a desire for spiritual understanding and a desire to help others on a deeper level.

Andrea brought out her new course just before I had my reading, which was when I discovered more about my soul gifts and what was driving me on a soul-level.  The course jumped out at me as being a good fit for my soul gifts, and I just knew I had to do it.

So, I ordered the course.  It was sold as an intuitive development course and to be honest I hadn’t read the product description that well.  In my haste and excitement, I just assumed that the course would teach me how to channel spirit guides.  I was totally wrong.  But I’m actually glad I was totally wrong because the course was so much more than a course for channelling.

How Soul Realignment Teaches You to Retrieve Information

When I received the course in the mail, I was surprised to find that there was a lot of dowsing involved.  Dowsing is where you use a pendulum to receive information.  You swing the pendulum and get a yes or no answer through the pendulum and the way it swings.  Soul Realignment also comes with a load of charts.  So, for example, if you wanted to find out which soul group someone belongs to (this is an essential part of someone’s life purpose), you look at the chart which has about 25 different soul groups in rows and columns and you ask your pendulum ‘is this person’s soul group in row one, in column two, etc.’ Until you locate their soul group.

Before you can start dowsing, obviously you need to learn about all the different things that are found in the Akashic record, including the different parts which make up a person’s purpose. Such as the soul groups (you find out about all of these, along with the different soul trainings you can have.) 

You are also trained in using a pendulum correctly.  Plus, not forgetting HOW to actually access the Akashic record – you get an attunement to the Akashic record and you learn a process for putting yourself into an altered state of consciousness for receiving information from the Akashic Record.  So you don’t just jump into it straight away – you get eased into it.

Clearing Negativity

The most fascinating part of my studies in Soul Realignment was learning all about the different types of negativity that can affect us in the energy body and manifest into our lives.

I learned about ‘programs’ that can run at our chakras like viruses and which hold us back and restrict us.  I learned about negative thoughts forms, cords and negative compassionate connections between people (and many more things besides).  I learned about things that come from past lives and things that come from this present lifetime.  Basically, I learned a thorough frame of reference for the “stuff” that shows up in our lives and affects us negatively.  That frame of reference has been invaluable because you can tell clients exactly why they’ve been attracting what they have.  Not to mention being able to clear that negativity with clients so that they can manifest something different. That is something else that you are taught how to do, which helps clients to transform their life. 

Soul Realignment also teaches you how to find out the exact nature of the negative energy that is in the client’s energy field – for example, trauma, self-denial, fear of victimization or self-judgment, so this is a level of precision that can sometimes be missing from a regular psychic reading.

Intuitive Development for Left-Brained People

At first, when I got Soul Realignment in the mail and I realized how much dowsing was involved, I have to admit I felt a bit disappointed by that.  I felt like it was TOO structured and like there was not enough magic to it.  I also thought it might be like an intuitive development course for idiots because at the time, I thought ‘Hey, anyone can dowse and find out this stuff!’ It was probably a bit of ego because I wanted to show off my intuitive skills which I thought were developing!

It was only when I did my first few readings that I realized just how much the structured nature of the course – and the dowsing – was really serving me. I also saw how it was totally NOT a course for idiots because you need brains to do it and to sort through the information; put it together and present it to the client – that’s a skill you develop on the course.

The dowsing also served me because it brings accuracy and precision. It is kind of cool doing your very first reading and getting it completely spot on.  You probably wouldn’t get that to the same degree if it was a purely channelled reading, as they can be more ‘hit-and-miss’, especially at first.

My very first paid reading was with a client named Tracey who gave me a testimonial – which meant that she loved the reading even though it was one of my first.  I cannot tell you how much it boosted my confidence to have that experience of being accurate right from the beginning. I would say it was definitely due, at least in part, to the dowsing element which gives precision to everything.

So, even from the start you can give a pretty accurate reading even without having amazingly well developed psychic/intuitive skills.

And as you do more and more readings, you begin to get other information too. For example, you begin to get extra information about someone’s life purpose or career, or intuitive information on the details of someone’s past lives.  In addition, the attunement to the Akashic Record sort of catapults you into another realm of sensitivity – or at least that was my experience.  I had my first mediumistic experience, speaking with a deceased spirit, around the time of my attunement to the Akashic Record (and THAT had never happened to me before!)

So, Soul Realignment is like a foundation AND a ’spring board’ (so to speak) for becoming an intuitive.  It provides you with a solid foundation for reading for people that you can either use on its own to give really accurate readings OR you can expand on it like I have and begin to do more general intuitive readings as well. 

So is Soul Realignment just a course in dowsing and reading the Akashic Record?  What about channelling information from Spirit Guides?

One thing I would say is missing from Soul Realignment to some degree is the ‘how-to’ of speaking to spirit guides.  You don’t learn specific techniques for developing your clairvoyance or clairaudience (at least not directly), but then again, this course never promises to teach you that.  And your clairvoyance/audience, etc tends to be something that develops naturally and indirectly, along the way when you begin the Soul Realignment journey, in my experience. The course does teach you how to make a profile of a client’s spirit guide team – including what the spirit guides look like, their names and what they help the client with. So doing those gives you an opportunity to practice and to build your psychic abilities further.

In addition, I forgot to mention that the level one course teaches you to energetically cleanse properties, land and objects.

Building a Business as a Professional Intuitive

As I mentioned, because this is a high-priced course, it tends to attract serious people who are looking to build a business using their intuitive skills.  I have quite a few previous clients and friends who have quit or were made redundant from their full-time jobs and are in the process of building a profitable business using the techniques of Soul Realignment in their readings.

I mention the business aspect here because some people who are looking at this course will be thinking about this.  After all, $947 is not cheap (at least for most people) and you have to think about your return on investment.  Some people have asked me how much I earn doing my readings that are based on Soul Realignment.  I charge 175 GBP (about $295) for one Akashic record reading – which I call the ‘past-life and purpose reading’ (and I charge about $250/hour for the more general intuitive readings). I do about 5 readings per week if I’m not busy with spirit guide coaching or another project.  If I’m busy with something else, I’ll do a few or a couple a week. So, intuitive readings make up a good proportion of my income and for the last 18 months that has made up at least 80% of my overall monthly income.

Most new practitioners charge around $150 for a one hour reading.  Even if you do a few of those a week, depending on where you live, you have a fairly OK income.  It’s actually quite cool because you only work for an hour or two a day and you make about $75-$100/hour. So, it’s the perfect work for a parent who wants to be at home with their kids during the day.  But of course, when you’re building your business in the first year, there is a lot of work that you need to do on marketing in order to get clients, so in the first year you’re not making as much money per hour.

Business Support

The other added bonus of doing Soul Realignment is the level of support you get on the business side of things.  It’s more like a membership site that you have lifetime access to, than a product you buy once and that’s it.  That’s because Andrea does monthly calls on the topic of intuitive work or building a business as an intuitive.  She also does support calls for practitioners where you can ask your questions and she will answer them live.

She has a recommended resources page, she offers a website building option for new practitioners and there is the discussion board where you can network and get help from other practitioners.

Working with Andrea

Andrea is the founder of Soul Realignment and the one who does the tuition.  She truly has a wealth of knowledge when it comes to the topic of intuitive development (she’s written a book and has her own products on this topic) so she knows her stuff.  And she has also taught me a great deal about building a business as an intuitive too.  The thing I like about Andrea is that although she provides a good level of support, she has a high level of trust in her students and she doesn’t ‘spoon feed’ them or allow them to get dependent on her like a ‘guru’ figure – she keeps it real and empowers them to be self-reliant from day one and to trust in their own truth and intuition.

And secondly, I admire Andrea because her mindset is not one of competition and that is something she has passed on to the practitioners.  The Soul Realignment community has a nice feel to it – one of cooperation – because we all understand that people choose the practitioner who resonates with them.  We attract those people who are meant to work with us, so there is no competition between us.

Are There any Drawbacks to Soul Realignment?

Naturally, I have stated a lot of positives in this article because Soul Realignment is something that has really served me on my path.  I think it would have taken me years to work out some of the spiritual concepts Soul Realignment introduced me to, if I’d be going it alone and so I am thankful that I found it. But of course, as with most things, there are a few aspects of Soul Realignment that I don’t like as much and I think it’s fair to talk about those also in this article.

One thing that was difficult for me to take about Soul Realignment at first was that some parts of it are a bit ‘out there’.   Although I am a witchy woman at heart, I come from an educational background that is most definitely structured, rigid and left-brained.  I was trained to critique and use my logic.  I trained in the humanities (French and Spanish.) Not the sciences, but still - you get the picture.

So, when I started studying Soul Realignment, I freaked out a little, because all of the information on soul groups was a bit like something out of Star Wars.  I am a really down-to-earth person (or at least I consider myself to be – my mum would disagree!) so I still do a double-take on the bizarreness of my life when I’m doing readings and telling people which star system they incarnated in originally.  But over time, I’ve come to see just how accurate and useful all this soul group information is, so I’d never discard it even if it is a bit wacky.

There are a couple of other aspects to Soul Realignment that I’ve discarded to some extent over time.  One of those aspects is the idea of negative and positive souls.  Soul Realignment teaches us to categorize souls who come to us for readings into two groups – positive and negative souls.  Positive souls are souls who receive energy from Source and negative souls are souls who have decided they no longer want to receive energy from Source and instead have to steal it from positive souls by creating negativity in them.  It is actually necessary to make this distinction from a healing point of view because quite simply there are some souls who do not seek healing on a soul-level (negative or de-evolving souls) and so we can’t work with those clients if they are brought to us by a family member. (I never get clients like that anyway.)

But the distinction between negative and positive souls is one that (in my opinion) is not as black and white as Soul Realignment teaches, so I discard it to some extent.  I definitely feel that there is more to it than a black and white distinction and I do have my own theories on this, some of which are expressed in this article. But this is my personal opinion (which evolves based on my experiences – it has certainly evolved even since I wrote that article.)

I think it’s very healthy to take what resonates with you about a course and discard what doesn’t – I’d advise doing that with all courses and material.  Apply your own discernment and find your own truth, otherwise it becomes too cult-ish when you can’t think for yourself or form your own opinion.

So there you have it.  Soul Realignment gets my personal seal of approval as a course for learning to do professional readings for others.

To sum up, Soul Realignment is probably suitable for you if…

You are a professional intuitive who wants more tools to help others transform their lives and heal the negativity and limiting “stuff” you can see in clients that stops them from creating the lives they want.

You are a professional intuitive who wants to be able to give more precise and detailed information about client’s life purpose, past lives, essence and career.

You have never given readings before but you are really drawn to helping others grow, heal and transform their lives.

You are drawn to becoming a professional intuitive but you want a structured approach which will give you accuracy and confidence from the start.

You can visit the Soul Realignment site here.

If you have any questions about my experiences with it, you can leave me a comment.  Or leave a comment if you have ideas about anything else you want to see me writing in relation to the psychic profession or being a professional intuitive.

You can also leave a comment if you are looking to become a professional intuitive and you want some people to practice on.  I’m sure some readers of this blog would be happy to be reading guinea pigs for any budding psychics out there.

So, even though I feel inspired to write this blog post, it’s ironic that I write this because I am no expert at relationships and how to maintain a wonderful long-term one.  I am not going to beat myself up over that as I know that relationships, like all things, are a reflection of our inner being and seeing as ages 16-25 does not tend to be a committed or solid phase of life (at least it wasn’t in my life – it was full of change, turmoil and transitions) it was natural that my relationships reflected that.

I will relate to you a couple of lessons that I have learned in the last ten years in my relationships.  Maybe if you’re in the same phase of life as me you will relate to some of them and if you’re ahead of me, they will seem like old and buried lessons to you and wisdom you’ve long since integrated.

At the end of this article, I will talk more about the advice that Spirit has passed on in my readings this week about how to become a better vibrational match for a partner if you’re single and will link in some of what I’ve learned along the way.

Here’s a potted history of my life lessons so far in the area of relationships.

The Older Guy

One of the scariest experiences I ever had in a relationship was an experience where I abandoned my own intuition and ignored my perceptions in a short-lived relationship with a guy who was much older than me.  In some ways, I know what it feels like to empty your head and join a cult because that was how it felt to be in a relationship with this person.  This person was someone who redefined everything about my life and told me how things were.  He told me constantly that my perceptions were wrong.  I allowed myself to be manipulated a lot as he presented his perceptions as clearer and more truthful than mine.

Lesson learned: that your perceptions are a gift, essential to your intuition and ALWAYS valid.  They give you a solid sense of self.

You know those times when you’ve sought confirmation in psychic readings of what you already know – you didn’t need that confirmation, did you?  You were right on.  In fact, you know more than anyone, when it comes to you and your stuff.

(Incidentally, this lesson was one of the most powerful lessons that I could have learned to prepare myself for my career as an intuitive – it really strengthened my third eye and my intuition.)

If you let go of your perceptions and allow someone else to tell you how it is and tell you who you are, you are losing your own precious truth and you are not in integrity.

Perceiving what you do, trusting in your perceptions and voicing them confidently (even if others don’t agree with them) builds your inner core, which is essential for a relationship that is not going to make your heart (or your third eye) bleed.

The ‘Let-me-abuse-you-because-you-need-it’ guy

At one point, I had a relationship with a dark and brooding Scorpio type. Seeing as I love(d) dark and brooding Scorpio types (especially ones with those intense Scorpio eyes) I couldn’t resist him.  But our relationship became abusive after a while.

One of the reasons why I stayed with him for the time that I did was because he was my mentor, helped me with my business and when I first moved to London – scared shitless – he put me up.  He told me that in order to learn to overcome my pride, I needed to learn to accept abuse.

I actually put up with it for a while because I believed I needed his help more than I needed to feel safe and valued.  His help translated to financial help and mentoring that I believed I needed in order to succeed.

In the end, I presented him with an ultimatem:  stop abusing me or I will not see you again.

He couldn’t resist treating me badly.  I didn’t see him again.

Lesson learned: If you are putting up with abuse because you think you are getting something out of it, then the other person isn’t hurting you – you are, and it takes a lot to recover from that because it represents a betrayal of the self.

Other lesson learned: No-one can actually give you anything.  You create everything in your life.  You are the source for you.  So, if you’re making a pact with someone that compromises your integrity and makes you feel uncomfortable, then you’re shooting yourself in the foot.  That is because everything you create around you is created through you – not through anyone else.  Your world is a reflection of your inner being.  You effect change from the inside out.

Even though this guy helped me a lot with my business, I really got momentum going when we split up and I struck out on my own.

Bottom line with this is: you manifest the people around you too, so don’t give your power away to the relationships or the people in your life.  You hold the power to create new ones and create something different.

The ‘two unskilled empaths together = codependency’ relationship

This relationship was with an amazing person that I’m still friends with.

In this relationship, I learned what happens when the two of you sort of merge in a codependent way – when your dreams and goals sort of merge.  When your needs merge.  Is that what ‘losing yourself’ feels like?  You know that feeling where there is not much space or room to move in a relationship, emotionally, when you’re always with one another and so you begin to retreat in a panicky sort of way because two empaths tend to become one entity, looking out for one another in a ‘I feel your every feeling’ kind of way, constantly feeling like they need to fix and help one another.  Empaths, you know what I’m referring to.  The rest of you will just think that’s weird.  We both learned a lot from this relationship.

Lesson learned: there needs to be space in a relationship, as well as intimacy.

Also, you have to look after yourself first, and don’t expect someone else to put you first or fulfil your needs (especially when you haven’t voiced them) because you know what you need better than anyone.

Other lessons learned:

Don’t ask boys out.  It scares them off

How to Become a Vibrational Match for the Relationship You Want

I integrated so many of these lessons over the last few months and noted that most of my relationships had been with commitment-phobic people in the past.

I decided to embark on a ritual where I commit to myself, as I wanted to see more commitment and stability in myself and in future relationships and in order to get there, I realized I needed to create that state in me.

I committed to the following:

Love – loving myself no matter what.

Finances – being responsible with my money and financial decisions; not spending more than I have.

Self-care and nurture – keeping health commitments; taking time out when I’m tired.

Accepting myself – acknowledging that I’m not here to adhere to anyone’s standard of ‘perfect’.

Having a Life – cultivating work/life balance – a big one for me as I do love my work.

Encouragement – not allowing my inner voice to turn negative and squash my good intentions or dreams.

Trust – keeping my commitments and promises to myself.  Following through on my word.

I also added:

Commitment to my own truth and commitment to voice my perceptions, even if other people aren’t going to like it.

Commitment to my own power – remembering that all things in my life are manifested from me – and that hooking into a partner as a source of abundance or power creates misery.

Commitment to my own needs and space – remembering that some space in my life and in my relationships serves me.

These are just my commitments so depending on your nature you might not resonate with them.

I actually came across a ritual in a book where you buy red roses and toss them into the ocean to symbolize your commitment to yourself.  I felt like a massive numpty going into the florist’s shop and asking for nine red roses, knowing I was going to toss them into the ocean.

Luckily when I drove to the beach (The aptly named ‘Monkey Bay’), it turned out I was all alone to toss my roses into the ocean – one for each commitment.

Beach here in Marlborough, NZ

My dramatic gesture of tossing the rose into the ocean backfired when the tide came in and left my roses on the sand.  I kept having to toss them back in.

The interesting thing about doing this commitment ritual a few months ago is that I noticed how I followed through on my word and promises to myself much more.  My self-care began to deepen; I somehow became more serious and responsible in my relationship with MYSELF.

What you can take out of this:

If you’re in a relationship that you want to improve…

What do you want to see more of in your relationship? – more trust, acceptance or space?  Can you commit to creating more of that in/for yourself?  After all, that is how you will see more of it in your relationship.  If you wanted, you could even create a dramatic ritual where you toss something symbolic into the ocean and hope your sacred ritual isn’t ruined by the uncooperative Pacific ocean.

If you’re not in a relationship but want to create a good one, why not make some commitments to yourself? What were the lessons you learned from past relationships?  How can you integrate them and honour them for future relationships?

Did any of my lessons learned speak to you?

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this – one of my favourite topics.

I do so many readings like these that you’d think by now, through osmosis, I’d have some secret spiritual formula for creating change and getting what I want.  Obviously I don’t have a series of practical ‘here’s-how-you-get from-A-to-B steps for every scenario. But I have noticed broader principles in action, which when applied to your situation, allow you to create change, every time.  These principles the spirit world consistently point out to clients when the client asks how to get from A to B, using the law of attraction.

It’s this: when we want to create something in our lives (let’s take the example of a new business), what we most desire is not a new business.  It’s the expansion that the business will allow us in our lives.

Creating the business is just a means to expand into an energy (or a collection of energies) – let’s say boldness, just as an example here. And then enjoying a prosperous business is the result of expanding into that energy.

Expanding into Boldness

All of this might sound pretty abstract to you so I’ll give you an example in my own life of what I mean.  A few weeks ago, I was feeling like something was wrong with the readings that I do for people.  I wondered if I needed to stop doing them because something was no longer feeling right.  I obviously needed to create some sort of change in my readings, but I didn’t know what.

Then I realized what was bothering me.  Since I started doing readings two years ago, I had always prepared them beforehand.  I always spent 25-60 minutes doing research so that when I started talking to the client I’d know all about their issue before they’d even told me anything.  I liked doing this. Even though it was time-consuming and I charged a lot for it, I didn’t care because it was safe, I had everything under control and I knew beforehand that I’d be delivering a good service.

But I began to notice that I no longer needed to do this.  I started to resent preparing readings because I was getting plenty of information on the spot.  I was also doing spirit guide coaching and did virtually no preparation for it, and the sessions flowed beautifully.

In order to feel good about my readings again, I needed to stop preparing and just trust spirit to give me the right information as I needed it.  But I couldn’t bring myself to stop preparing.

I lacked two qualities: boldness and trust.

I wanted to stop preparing for my readings because I really want to expand further into the energies of boldness and trust.

Who Do You Need to Become?

So, this is why you have any desire - not because you want to create a business or a new relationship, but because on a soul-level you want to expand into someone who creates a business or a great new relationship.

For this reason, in order to reach your goal it can be really helpful to ask yourself – why am I having the desire to reach this goal?

What kind of person do I need to be in order to get there?

What kind of person achieves the state/goal/thing that I want?

Where might I falling short right now?

You don’t ask this question in order to make yourself feel bad or beat yourself up, but you need some awareness of what you are expanding into, because then you can consciously BECOME someone who is a vibrational match for your goal.

This is actually most of the work in getting to your goal.  Yes, you may need to take massive action as well, but without becoming someone who can reach your goal, your efforts are useless.

To give you another example, some of the people on my spirit guides coaching course are in a process of massive expansion.  They think they booked a course for intuitive development and it turns out some of these people also booked a ticket on a 6 week roller-coaster ride of personal growth as well! Some of them are being challenged to expand into certain energies – like trust, empowerment, truth and courage – in order to get any further along their path of psychic development (and they really want to!) so they’re making it happen and becoming vibrational matches for very psychic people.

How to become someone who is a vibrational match for your goal

There are few steps in this. The first one is:

1. Find out which qualities you need to cultivate in order to get to your goal.

Imagine you’ve achieved your goal already – who are you?

Maybe you are seeking to expand into more…

Self-love (meeting your needs and wants, eliminating self-sacrifice and bending over backwards for other people) faith (trusting that whatever happens will be good), playfulness (lightening up, learning not to take life – or yourself – too seriously), courage, boldness, patience, self-discipline, calmness or empowerment.

These are just some examples I’ve seen lately.  Then..

2. Set a conscious intention to embrace and become those energies in your life.

Ask your spirit guides or higher self out loud for guidance in order to become the person who can create what you want.

This is what I did for my readings.  I knew I needed to be bolder and just trust more but I didn’t know how I was going to become someone who was OK with not preparing for my readings. After all, I’d been preparing for two years and I was (am) someone who likes to have everything under control.  I am also very attached to providing a service with a lot of value. So, I just put the intention out there and released it.

It turns out that I didn’t need to know HOW to become more bold and trusting.

As always, I quickly found the resources and people who helped me with that.  Firstly, I arranged an appointment with Andrea Hess (my mentor and the lady who taught me to read for people) about something completely unrelated.  As the appointment neared, I realized the reason why I booked it no longer applied and instead I talked to her about this issue.  She gave me some great advice which helped a lot.

Then I had a session with my coach Angela and we eliminated various limiting beliefs I had about providing value and my own worth.  It was an intense process – one of the most intense and healing experiences I’ve ever had in my life.

A few days afterwards, to my surprise, I realized I had become someone who felt much bolder and braver and I felt able to eliminate the preparation.

It may not sound like much to you, but for me it was a big step!

So like I did, you can be passive, set an intention and wait for guidance to happen to take you towards your goal. At other times you may need to be proactive about it and…

3. Brainstorm practical steps to take to move towards the energies you are seeking

If you know you need to embrace more courage in order to start a new business, try little things that scare you – such as going to an event where you’ll know nobody.  Become someone who pushes yourself out of your comfort zone regularly with little things, then move onto the bigger steps.

If you need more self-worth in order to get to your goal, list all the behaviours which you know you do which demonstrate lack of self-worth – like not asking for what you want, or assuming that people have no time for you. And consciously behave differently, even if it’s just for a day. 

Another good idea is to spend time with people who already possess the qualities you need to cultivate in yourself in order to get to your goal, as their behaviours and mindset rub off on you.

4. Understand that this is the key to consciously creating the things you want and the world you want

Everything that happens around you is a perfect mirror of your internal reality.  As an example, if you are not self-loving on the inside, you attract relationships and circumstances which reflect this state back to you.

When you change who you are on the inside, your external world changes too.  That is why you must always change your internal world first, before you can see any changes in your life.  How can you manifest something in your external reality if it’s missing from your internal reality?  You can’t, and this is where people often fail.  Understand this process and you are much more likely to create what you want.

I’ve told you what I’m expanding into right now.

What about you?

I’d love to hear what you are creating at the moment and who you are becoming in the process of getting there. Please leave a comment!

In the last few weeks, I’ve noticed one difference between people who are creating what they want in their lives and those who haven’t and aren’t.

Those who haven’t yet created what they want, are asking questions like:

Is it my destiny to….?

Will I ever….?

Can I…?

Those are the people who feel like they need permission from SOMEONE to have, be or do what they want – permission from their spouse, from their parents, from their doctor, from their teacher, from their spirit guides, from God, from anyone.

Their steps in life are tentative and they are constantly worried that they are NOT meant to be having what they want.

They are the ones who are constantly looking out for signs from the Universe that they SHOULD be doing that thing they’re toying with.

That they CAN do it.

They might say things like ‘maybe I”m just not MEANT to be doing this?’

It’s actually easier to consult God, check in with destiny or see if your astrological chart might give its seal of approval, because that way you don’t have to commit to what you want or take full responsibility for creating it.

The second group of people, on the other hand, decide what they want and don’t bother consulting God or the Universe with questions like ‘but is this my destiny, though?’ (or not for longer than two minutes, anyway.)

They decide what they want and then allow themselves (and the Universe) some time to figure out how it will happen.

Obviously, we’re talking about desires within reason. There are some things you’ll never do. For example, I’m not going to win X-Factor nor am I going to become an olympic high-jumper (I am about 5ft tall and not that good at singing).  Nor do I particularly want to do those things.  But on the other hand, I know I can give workshops, write a book, make twice or three times (or ten times) as much money as I currently do.

And I don’t need your permission or anyone else’s. I just need to want it – a lot, enough.

What about you?

Do you keep asking for permission to have what you want?  Life/ the universe isn’t your mummy and you’re not 5 years old (unless you actually are 5 years old.)  You decide what you get to have and what you don’t and your desires are showing you the way.

This mentality is hard to master when you’ve been through an educational system that teaches you that you may not do that thing you want, not without asking. And hard to master when you’ve been taught that if you don’t play according to someone else’s rules at work, you won’t get promoted and you won’t get what you want.  You have to play the game, right?  Not in the grand scheme of things.

In life, YOU set the course, even though you may be immersed in systems which tell you otherwise. You work out the ‘what’ to create. And then the Universe responds by helping you come up with the ‘how’. No-one else sets the course but you and if you expect otherwise, you’ll spend your life asking for permission that you’ll never get.

What about you? Is there something in your life that you will give YOURSELF permission to want – and create?

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1. You’re not Asking Questions

One of the most common reasons for not receiving any answers is that you are not asking questions.  Questions focus your energy and get answers.  Don’t meditate and then expect the intuitive guidance you need to be offered to you on a plate once your mind is clear.  It might come to you but more likely, it won’t.  Instead, meditate, open your chakras and ask a question – you’re much more likely to get a focused, relevant response.

2. You ARE getting messages – but not seeing them for what they are

What if you ask a question and you get nothing in response?

It could be that you are getting an answer but it hasn’t come in the format that you’re expecting.  For example, you could tune into your spirit guides, ask a question using your inner voice and then hear nothing.

But there are other ways to receive your answers – when you ask your question, make sure you try all of them because different messages come through different channels.

When you tune into your guides and ask a question, ask yourself – what do I see? (clairvoyance), what do I hear (clairaudience), what do I feel (clairsentience) and what do I know/what pops into my head? (claircognizance).

Often, intuitive guidance is staring you in the face but you can’t see it because it’s come in an unconventional format or one you’re not used to consulting, like your desires and feelings.  They are perfectly valid feedback about your life too (even though they may not seem ‘spiritual’ or intuitive), so make sure you take those into account too.

In addition, divination tools like the Tarot, pendulums and Angel Oracle cards can be useful to support or trigger your intuitive guidance.

If you really don’t pick up on any answers or guidance when you ask, release your question and wait for the answer to come when IT’S ready.  I have had my intuitive answers come through events, situations, people and resources that appear out of nowhere at the right time.  Sometimes it isn’t always time to have your answer yet.  So, give the Universe some time to send you an answer.

3. You’re not yet ready for the answer to the particular question you’re asking

If you ask a tough question, then you may not be able to hear the answer or be ready for the answer.  I’ve seen this in readings.  The sitter asks a big life question and the guides say they’re not ready for the answer yet, or that they’ll figure it out soon in a natural way.  That situation is kind of frustrating for me as a reader.

That can happen when you’re reading for yourself and getting your own answers – sometimes spirit knows you aren’t ready just yet for the answer to the question you asked.

Here’s why you might not be ready…

Getting real information from your spirit guides or higher self can be unsettling because it challenges you to create the life you’ve always dreamed of, and some people aren’t ready for that yet.  For example, what if your higher self communicates to you that you’re unsatisfied with your job, feel empty inside and want to find a fulfilling career, when all these years you’ve been repressing that message?

That message takes courage, self-worth and inner authority to hear and accept.

That message is broadcasting on the courage, self-worth and inner authority channel.  Tune into those frequencies and you’ll hear it.  But what if you’re not used to tuning into the courage, self-worth and inner authority channel?  You’ll find it more difficult to receive and accept such a message.  Your Spirit Guides will know and they are not going to pass on messages that you aren’t ready to take action on yet.

In addition, it could be an overwhelming message and it may need to be communicated gradually or bit by bit.  It may be a message that needs to come from someone else’s mouth or in another unconventional way in order for you to hear it.

Remember that intuitive development (hearing, valuing and voicing your truth) is part of the personal development path and all part of becoming an empowered being.  If you’re lagging behind in your personal development and in your personal power, your intuitive development will suffer too.  The more empowered you become in your life, the more you can hear those messages that empower you further and move you forward on your life path.

Intuitive development and personal development go hand in hand.  The paths run parallel.  You can’t do real intuitive development work and not develop spiritually or personally.  Things change for you once you hear your inner self more fluently.  Listening to your intuition takes courage and sometimes people have to catch up with other life areas in order to be ready for these messages from their spirit guides.

You’ve probably heard of the saying ‘when the student is ready, the teacher appears.’

It’s the same principle.  When you’re ready for your answer (AND ready and able to take action on it, it will come…)

In the mean time, ask, let go and be open to the message when it comes.  Keep developing your intuition. Develop the other areas of your life too. And the answer will come at the perfect time, maybe in the most unexpected of ways.

4. Your vibration is not high enough and you are feeling negative emotion

The only times when it’s been really hard to read for myself is when I’m in distress.  When you’re in distress you can’t think straight.  Your intuition isn’t working very well because you can’t quieten your mind or be still.

So, when you feel a lot of negative emotions, that will impede your capacity to hear intuitive guidance.

In a way, those negative emotions ARE intuitive feedback – about something in your life.  They could be there because you aren’t meeting your needs, aren’t honouring yourself fully or have created life circumstances that you don’t like.

So negative emotions are wonderful feedback about what you’ve created, what you’re in the process of creating and how you are viewing your life (because remember – your perspective is everything.)  Take these negative emotions into account, journal about them, if you can, get to the bottom of why you are feeling them.  Then, once you’ve honoured your feelings, get the spiritual perspective on it all…

Take a few deep breaths and hold them and exhale for 8 seconds, ask the angels to raise your vibration, meditate or listen to binaural beats (my favourite for releasing stress and anxiety).  All of those can raise your vibration enough to be able to tune in and hear intuitive guidance.  I’ve been told that before you raise your vibration, it’s like flying your plane through turbulence.  Breath work (deep breathing) and calling on the angels or ascended masters can help you to raise your plane above the clouds, where it’s clear and there is no turbulence (i.e. emotional interference).

But the presence of the ‘turbulence’ is intuitive feedback in itself – don’t discard it.  Make sure you tune into it and heed its message.  Then raise your vibration and get a clear, ‘above-the-clouds’ perspective too.

What about you – Are you hearing intuitive guidance in your life?  If not, can you relate to any of the above?

Quite a few people have asked me this question before and seemed to be interested in whether I read for myself and if not, why not.  When I started answering this question I got into other topics too, like the area of relationships and predictions. And then ended up including other questions readers have asked me in the past.

So, this is quite a long post about my personal experiences and my personal views on things such as readings, soul mates and predictions.  It’s sort of what I usually talk about – psychic readings – but from the other side of the table, as a client.

My Experiences with Psychic Readings

I must have had a dozen psychic readings in my life, my first one was probably about four or five years ago.  And yes, I still get readings with other psychics from time to time.

When I Read for Myself

In a way, I’m ‘reading’ for myself all through the day in that I’m tapped in a lot of the time.  The ways in which I personally receive intuitive guidance are many and varied.  I make all decisions based on intuitive impulses and guidance that I get.  I basically do what ‘feels right’ and flows for me.  In some ways, I would say I live intuitively rather than get intuition.  Obviously not all of the time, but there are some periods in my life when things flow great and I feel like I’m permanently tapped in and I feel great.  Maybe you know what I’m talking about.  Then there are other periods when I get stuck and things don’t flow.

If I’m stuck in my life, I’m pretty good at finding out why and letting it resolve itself.

At those times, when I tune in for a client before a reading, my guides will give me a bunch of information that’s for me, not for the client, before they allow me to tune into the client.  It’s a bit like getting spiritual email.

When I have sought out readings and not read for myself

The times when I have sought out readings from others have been times of transition.  I tend to seek confirmation that I’m making the right decision because I do have trouble with decisions sometimes and get worried that I’m making the wrong decision even when all signs are pointing towards it being the right one

For example, not so long ago, I got a reading on my decision to move to Brisbane for a year.  I have been visiting with my family in New Zealand since February.  I don’t have permission to stay here in New Zealand beyond December and I knew that I had to either apply for a visa to stay here for another year, or explore Australia.  I had already applied for and gotten a one year visa for Australia that I had to use before January, or miss out on forever (as you can only ever have one of these visas).

I was torn about what to do and where to go in Australia.  Initially, I began to think about going to Brisbane, because two dear friends, one from the UK and one from France, will be moving there for six months.

The reading confirmed that I was making the right decision.  (I mean, I already knew – my guides had confirmed it for me and of course the level of trust I have in them is really high because I work with these guides and they help me retrieve information about people day in, day out.)  Yet I’m double checking my own intuitive guidance.  Occasionally something feels so important that I just need confirmation.  Anal or what?

So, it’s sort of feeding my compulsion for certainty that I’m doing the right things.  And that’s about it.  Never in a reading have I been told anything that I didn’t already know on some level (apart from in a soul realignment reading with Andrea Hess, but that’s really a different kettle of fish because she reads your akashic record.)

Have you ever encountered a fake psychic?

I have never encountered someone who was deliberately deceiving others.  I have encountered someone who I believe was not getting accurate information but didn’t know it.  I think I have also had some really inaccurate information from a couple of psychics and some funny moments where the info I was given is just weird and more from the person than the actual spirit guides.

One inaccurate insight from a psychic stands out in my memory.  I was at a Mind, Body, Spirit show in London last year with my then boyfriend.  I got a reading with a Kiwi lady who was doing readings there.  She delivered some insights that seemed accurate but then told me that me and my boyfriend would get married.

That was totally weird because our relationship was verging on the abusive.  We fought like cat and dog and really loved and hated one another at the same time.  Obviously that never came to pass and I ended up losing contact with this guy just because we seemed to inspire the worst in one another.

So, did she get it wrong?

It clearly looks like she did get it wrong. But in this case, I don’t believe that she got it wrong as such. But this is an phenomenon that my teacher Andrea Hess calls ‘accurate misinformation’ and it can happen occasionally.  Don’t worry, your guides won’t habitually trick you,  but I think that our guides can give us misinformation occasionally to trigger some sort of action in you, when it’s really needed.

I really think that in psychic readings, you are given the information you need to move you forwards on your path RIGHT NOW.  When that lady gave me that information, I got me thinking about whether I really wanted to continue my (pretty lousy) relationship with this person.  It freaked me out and was a catalyst for our break up and parting in many ways.  So in some ways I am glad I got that information even though I know I could never marry that person.

My personal thoughts on soul mates and predictions

I have had many predictions about my soul mate and some guy I’m going to meet in the future.  It’s interesting that many of the predictions about this person match up to one another (I’ve had 4 separate descriptions of this person).  Apparently he’s a few years older than me, has dark hair, is really tall (6ft 1 or 2) he’s either Kiwi or Australian, there is a French connection too that is important (French mother perhaps), he’s very independent in his work, is grounded but is also a healer.

If you match that description, drop me a line

Seriously though, I am intrigued that lots of people seem to see the same guy.  I wonder if that’s just my ideal guy that I’m manifesting as I am probably into tall, dark and handsome guys who can speak French

Why the area of predictions and soul mates is such a tricky area for me

To be honest, it’s been tricky recently to do psychic work and to have a discomfort with predictions and soul mates.  It’s not that I don’t believe in the possibility of predictions or that I believe that the prediction I mentioned above is not real.  It’s more the realization that predictions are not always helpful or empowering.  So, the fact is that I stopped asking about soul mates and I stopped asking for predictions, for myself.

I have also noticed that my beliefs about relationships have been transformed significantly over the last couple of years – partly because of the readings I do for others and the spiritual perspective I’ve been given through readings.  I noticed that when you zoom out and look at relationships from a spiritual point of view (which you need to do in a reading), a lot of cultural trappings dissolve.  For example:

Hollywood films teach us that there is ‘the one’ with whom we will enjoy a long-term relationship, ideally. And many people ask questions in readings based on this assumption.

But in my experience, the concept of one soul mate to seek in this lifetime (as in, only one person on the planet who is perfect for us) does not hold much water. Spirit says that we have many ’soul mates’, with whom we have a variety of different relationships – romantic, professional, family.  And some of them will be short-term relationships, but that doesn’t mean we don’t take something valuable from them.

(If you’re new to this topic and interested in reading more about soul connections and soul mates, you can read this article.)

Hollywood also tells us that relationships should be easy and effortless if they’re destined.

But my experience with reading for people shows that some relationships present growth opportunities mainly through challenge.  That doesn’t make them unsuccessful relationships from a spiritual point of view either.

Spirituality & Relationships

Being connected to spirit while doing a reading on relationships is often weird, because spirit is the realm of possibility and unlimited power and freedom, and readings are imbued with those energies.  (As an example, once for a client I saw several possible relationships that the client could be happy in, with a more general message of ‘it doesn’t really matter who you choose!)

Yet our cultural tendency towards monogamy and our human desire for only long-term relationships doesn’t always sit well with all of that (although it can do for some).  So, if you ask in a reading about your relationship, you may not always get the answer you want to hear – you know, the one you’d get if we were in a Hollywood film.  Actually, this has depressed me at times in my own readings because it is sometimes disappointing for clients.

In the end, I eliminated predictions and some relationship questions from my readings entirely.  (Check out my new readings structure if you want to read more about this.  My aim was to empower people more and move away from predestination and predictions.  So, don’t come to me if you want to ask questions about your soul mate and when you’re going to meet him.  On the other hand, if you want psychic help to get from A to B, I’m your girl.)

Do you think you can ever have too many psychic readings?

This is another question I have been asked before.  I think it depends.  Some people go from psychic to psychic looking for assurance and answers on a weekly basis.  If I sense that I’m not meant to read for someone like that, I would refund them. However, for most people I don’t think frequency is an issue unless you are never consulting your own intuition.  I think it’s healthy to want confirmation on important things and clarity on big life questions.  But if you’re spending a lot of money on psychic readings, I recommend you work on your own intuitive development instead, that way you can find your own truth and your own answers.

What is your take on what I have written here, especially the areas of predictions and soul mates? Do you agree with my assessments? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

Nine people enrolled on this course and I am having such a blast teaching them.  Well, actually I am not teaching them.  For this course, I am channelling the lessons and homework from their spirit guides and passing it on to the students.

First of all, it is so interesting to see how everyone’s spirit guides teach differently.  They just know where everyone’s strengths and blockages lie, so the lessons seem to get to the heart of the matter quite quickly.

And often, it has required a lot of trust and non-attachment on my part channelling lessons and homework from other people’s spirit guides – because sometimes I don’t see how the homework is going to help the student until AFTER they’ve done it.

So this program has been a big growth process so far for both me and the students, and I must say how fun it is to work with people one-on-one continuously – I love it!

What I’ve Learned so far…

I thought I knew quite a bit about psychic development before I started this program.  (I’ve been reading about psychic development and experimenting with it for more than ten years.)  But this program has really expanded my understanding of how our spirit guides and higher selves communicate with us.

So, in this blog post, I will share several insights that I’ve heard repeatedly from everyone’s spirit guides over the last few weeks.  I figured that if different spirit guides keep banging on about the same things to different people it’s worth repeating on my blog.

I hope this article gives you some useful ideas to enlist the help of your guides if you haven’t already. If you’re new to working with your spirit guides, you might also want to read this article which is an introduction: ‘How to Work with your Spirit Guides.’

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Insight #1: Your spirit guides are as good as unemployed if you don’t know what you want help with.

Your Spirit Guides can help you get from A to B, in alignment with your soul’s highest path and purpose – that’s their job.  On the other hand, it’s YOUR job to decide what you want from your life, set the intentions, and ask for help, guidance and impulses.

Spirit Guides keep saying to me that their help regularly goes unused because people often don’t know what they want in their life, or they’re not admitting it to themselves.

So they go around with hazy, wishy-washy, half-formed intentions and expect their guides to sort of help and intervene in some way. But how can your spirit guides intervene when you aren’t even clear on what you want help with?

No spirit guide on this program so far has told anyone what they want (or done anything they weren’t asked to do) even though I’m sure it would be easier for us if we were just told what we want out of life.  The thing is, the spirit guides need you to work out that bit for yourself by trying things on for size, energetically.  They may also help you with hints and shoves in the right direction, but ultimately you have to figure out experientially, what you want.

So, it definitely seems that most Spirit Guides like clear intentions and even goals to work with.  Tell them what you want.  Write it down, write them a letter; ask for help.

You don’t need to know how you are going to get or have what you want.  That’s not even your job.  Your job, according to them, is to allow yourself to want what you really want in your heart and focus on the WHAT, not on the HOW.

They will help with the how if you put out the clear intention for the what. But if you don’t get clear on the what, the how won’t ever come about.

How you can get clear on what you want

One of my students was told to design his ideal life – including his career, relationships, and the details of his daily life.  His guides told him to make a chart with three columns – things he’d like to discard and get rid of altogether about his current life, things he’d like to introduce and things he’d like to keep.  I don’t know if this person is necessarily going to transform his life overnight (or maybe he will, who knows!), but I’m sure this exercise has given him some clarity on what he wants his spirit guides to help him transform – including what he’s moving away from and what he wants to move towards.

This exercise is a good one to use for getting clear on what you want, if you can come to it with an element of playfulness and fun.  After all, if you change your mind, it’s no big deal.

Insight #2: You will be getting guidance – it’s just that some of your intuitive insights might be going unnoticed because they come as thoughts.

Kind of unhelpful, huh?

One thing that spirit guides keep saying is that intuitive guidance, insights and impulses get missed often and so it helps to become more observant and perceptive when it comes to your own thoughts.  Intuitive guidance can be really subtle. That’s fair enough. I mean, if it knocked us over the head really hard once every two minutes then that’d be no fun and we’d feel obliged to follow it.  You’d be like a slave to your spirit guides.  And then you’d have a get-outta-my-head-and-stop-trying-to-control-me revolution where you rebel against it and everything would go to hell.

RIP, Greenie…

I had a moment this weekend when I had intuitive guidance that I didn’t realize was intuitive guidance.  My mum accidentally killed our budgie and I could have prevented it but I didn’t recognize my intuition for what it was.

On Saturday afternoon, we still had two live budgies – Whitey and Greenie – and my mum was in the habit of feeding them dandelion leaves and eucalyptus leaves because apparently it makes them want to have baby budgies.  (She likes breeding things for some reason…maybe because she grew up on a farm!)  But on Saturday, she also threw in some other weed in for good measure and the male budgie ate some and within a few hours was staggering around on the floor of the cage, and then died. 

Actually, she killed the last one that way too without realizing what it was that killed it.  (So, if you have a budgie and you want it to breed, please overcome the urge to feed your budgie weeds – take it from me, most weeds are not a budgie aphrodisiac.)

Anyway, just as I saw her pull up the weed, the words formed in my head ‘you’re going to poison them!’ but I didn’t say it and it felt more like a joke than a warning, probably because me and my mum are always joking anyway.  I failed to save the budgie, because I didn’t pay attention to my thought, which I thought was just a throwaway joke!

So that Whitey doesn’t get lonely, we got a new budgie we called Bertie who doesn’t make any noise, probably because the other budgie has terrified him by telling him what happened to her last two mates. Check him out. He’s the green one.

He hasn’t really got the hang of mirrors Speaking of which…

Insight #3: Intuitive feedback doesn’t just come from Spirit Guides, it’s in everything…

Peoples’ Spirit Guides are frequently pointing out to them that the whole world is just a big (yes, you guessed it!) MIRROR that reflects your inner being back to you.  We can see a whole lot just by reading what is occurring around us – the people we’re attracting, the way our body feels, the physical clutter or space around us and how we feel emotionally are all intuitive feedback.  Our desires are perhaps the most important intuitive feedback of all.

Look at the symbols which crop up in your life…

If your ears hurt, what hurts for you to hear right now? If your roof is leaking, what is leaking in your life?  (maybe your emotions are suppressed and trying to get out.)  If you lost something, why did it happen? Do you even need it?  If your mum accidentally kills two male budgies in a row, what the heck does that mean? 

Basically, what is everything showing you?  If you can approach life with an attitude of ‘everything happens for a reason and in perfect timing’, then you can live an intuitive life that flows and you can see intuitive feedback in everything.

Insight #4: Feel free to get it wrong once in a while

Many of the people on this program worry about ‘getting it wrong’ and imagining things.

How do we tell intuiton from imagination?

In my experience, the most powerful indicator of real intuition is a ‘feeling’ – an energetic signature – that accompanies real intuition.  It’s like a feeling of certainty and excitement that tells you that your insight or impulse is ‘spot on’.  What if you don’t get that? The spirit guides tell me that in the beginning, while you’re learning, that energetic signature is not very strong.  You develop it by getting things right and getting things wrong.

That’s right – you might need to get it wrong once in a while.

Some people’s spirit guides have even given them exercises to read people and asked the student to come up with wrong answers.  They want the student to see what it feels like to be totally, utterly “off” and wrong.  And then sometimes the student gets insightful stuff that accompanies the ‘wrong’ information and she can feel the difference clearly between information is totally, way “off” and information that’s actually true.

The guides told me that if you never get wrong information as a psychic, you’d never improve your level of accuracy.

Insight #5: Invite your spirit guides into your dream and ask specific questions.

Contacting your spirit guides is easy in a dream because you are in a non-physical state while you’re in the astrals, dreaming. And if you want to try receiving intuitive guidance through dreams, the spirit guides have given this tip to one student:

Write a question on a post it note and leave it next to your bed.

Ask your spirit guides to send you a dream that answers the question just before you wake up.

When you wake, make sure you explore the metaphors and messages within the dream by journaling about it soon after – this is one half of the process.  The guides say that many messages can only be revealed upon reflection and journaling, or by discussing it with a friend and getting their interpretation on the dream.

The interesting thing with this exercise is that instead of answering your question, the spirit guides may instead give you information they think is more important than your question! They do that, the gits.

If you’re working on communicating with your spirit guides, I hope you found some of these tips useful.

At the end of this week, the spirit guides coaching program, will close for new registrations, as I will be moving to Australia on 21^st November and want participants to get an uninterrupted six week long experience.

After that, the program will re-open again in two months time.  There is room for three more students, so if you are interested in this program, make sure you apply by the end of the week.  (I am also now offering a two pay installment option for this program.)

Got any comments or questions about what I wrote here?  Talk to me

There are plenty of products, books and courses out there for psychic development.   Obviously I haven’t tested them all – I can only recommend the ones that I’ve actually used myself and love.

The first product I am recommending is an audio product that I’ve used almost every day since I discovered it a couple of months ago – a binaural beats mp3. Unlike most products and courses, this is a product that you only need listen to, in order to feel the effects on your psychic abilities. (I know that may sound almost too good to be true!)

In this article, I’ll explain how exactly binaural beats have amplified and improved my psychic abilities so that you can decide whether they could help you too in your psychic development.

What are Binaural Beats?

Binaural beats are rhythmic humming sounds that are created by playing two simple tones in the right and left ears.  They are sold online as mp3’s.  They don’t just include humming.  In order to make them nicer to listen to, they also have water and nature sounds on them, plus some music.  And you have to listen to them using headphones.  These beats have been proven to alter brainwave frequencies, resulting in an altered state of consciousness.

This state of consciousness is called the alpha state.

What is the Alpha State?

For certain states of consciousness and activities, certain brain waves occur.

Alpha is the brain wave that occurs during light sleep, dreams, meditation, daydreams and creative visualization.

It’s the state you need to be in, in order to receive psychic information.

Being in the alpha state is like being in a light trance – you notice what is going on around you, but your usually busy mind is extremely quiet. You become a clear conduit for intuitive information.  If you’ve had a reading with a psychic on the phone or in person, they will have been in this alpha state while talking to you.

The thing is, we all have intuitive guidance available to us, when we can quiet our minds and put ourselves in the alpha state.  But most people don’t know they need to be in the alpha state to receive it.  And most people certainly don’t know how to put themselves in the alpha state at will. And so we may only get glimpses of intuition here and there, and our psychic skills seem to work sometimes, but not at other times.

That is because we spend most of our waking time in a state that is not conducive to receiving psychic information – the beta state.

Beta is the brain wave that occurs when you are fully conscious and awake.  You are concentrating and your brain is engaged and busy, busy, busy in this state.  You cannot receive psychic information in this state, although you may have already tried and failed.

So, quite simply, unless you can quieten your mind and put yourself into the Alpha state, you don’t receive intuitive information when you want it.

I used to think that psychics were born gifted, or special.  But now I know that they are just people who have learned to put themselves into this altered state of consciousness at will and have done some experimenting with processes while in the alpha state.  I know that, because I am one of them.

How Binaural Beats Work

Binaural beats guarantee to put you in a peaceful meditative state, sometimes within just 5 minutes of listening to them. And you can even let your mind wander while listening – you don’t need to try to quieten your mind, because the mp3 does it for you automatically.   And if you listen to binaural beats regularly, it trains your brainwaves to be able to enter that state quickly and easily in future.  It effectively fast-tracks your psychic development.

Another way to fast-track your psychic development is to learn to meditate.  If you can do it regularly and consistently, it will put you in the alpha state too.  That is why meditation is frequently recommended for psychic development – and rightly so.

But the thing is, I never really got that far with meditation.  Meditation is one of my least favourite things to do. And I know a lot of people who feel the same about it.

I had real trouble quietening my thoughts for ten seconds, let alone a whole minute.  My mind would bang on about anything – how I was hungry, thirsty, too hot, too cold, wondered about what I would have for dinner, remarked on how loud the road works are. I am someone who needs to be moving.  I have a lot of nervous energy.  Meditation was like torture to me.  I did the absolute minimum meditation before readings – just enough to enter the alpha state.

I didn’t know how much my undisciplined mind was holding me back in my psychic development until I started using binaural beats, which I discovered by accident.

How I Stumbled Upon Binaural Beats

I first discovered binaural beats, via a friend and coach who sent me a hypnosis mp3 to help me sleep.  Firstly, she sent a hypnosis mp3 with her simply talking.  I listened to it a few times but it was just like my meditations – it was hard to get my mind to shut up and pay attention.  So, I wasn’t sure I was being hypnotized.

Then a few days later, she sent me an updated version of the hypnosis, with binaural beats in the background.  When I listened to this mp3, I noticed the difference straight away.  It was like it was speaking to a whole different part of me – that was present, and listening.  I was hypnotized. While listening, I realized that I was in the same state that I’m in when I do readings, and it had happened within a matter of minutes. And I didn’t have to meditate to get there – hurray!

So, I was not surprised when I found out that binaural beats don’t just help you to sleep, they are also used to awaken and improve extra-sensory perception and intuition.  I ordered one of these specialized ESP binaural beats MP3’s from the Unexplainable Store to check it out.

I used it for two weeks, once a day for about thirty minutes and here are some of my experiences while listening to it:

My mind’s eye (the centre of clairvoyance) began to run riot while I was listening…

I spontaneously had vivid meetings with my spirit guides – without even trying.

My chakras opened up spontaneously and I felt tingling in various places on my body.

Any stressful thoughts and anxiety drifted away and my thoughts in general were silenced.

While listening, I spontaeously received a variety of intuitive insights and epiphanies about my life.

Those are just a few of the general experiences I have had. This sort of thing happens every time I listen.  It’s not hit and miss. My students report similar results and I have read that these experiences are par for the course while listening to binaural beats. I like inducing experiences like these on a daily basis – It makes me feel more connected to my guides and spirit.

I also believe that my readings have improved as a result of listening to binaural beats.  Whereas before I would struggle to calm my mind before a reading, now I can do it quickly and it’s not difficult for me anymore.

Why listening to Binaural Beats is more fun than meditation

The thing I love about listening to binaural beats is that it is extremely pleasurable – the first time I used them, I put an update on my Facebook account saying that it was ‘better than sex!’

That might sound strange but it is very enjoyable.  It’s so far from the chore that meditation was.

Other Uses for Binaural Beats

I mentioned binaural beats on my blog a few weeks ago, and since then, several readers and clients have told me that they also use binaural beats for anxiety and stress relief (I can vouch for that as I always emerge from a binaural beats session feeling lighter and in a better mood).  I also know people who use them to help them have lucid dreams.

Are binaural beats right for you?

So, in summary, binaural beats may be right for you if:

You are interested in awakening your psychic abilities.

You want to strengthen your already existing psychic abilities.

You want to learn to meditate but find it hard to relax or quieten your mind.

You do intuitive readings but find that your mind can sometimes get in the way of connecting with people’s spirit guides.

Please note that this ESP binaural beats MP3 is not right for you if you are looking for a quick magic bullet for awakening psychic abilities, permanently. Nothing will do that for you.  You will have to do other work too.

The ESP binaural beats mp3 will definitely train you to be in the alpha state, which is an essential component of receiving psychic information.  But remember that that is one essential part of awakening psychic ability – it’s not the whole process.

Effective psychic development = the alpha state + finding the right process for you, and practicing it too.

For a process to tune into spirit guides and receive intuition, you may also want to read this free article which details how I speak to people’s spirit guides.  If you study and practice that process in addition to this mp3, then you have a clear process that works for accessing your intuitive guidance.

The mp3 that I have used and recommend was from the Unexplainable Store. It cost $14.99 (US dollars) and they have a 60 day money-back guarantee in case you don’t like it.  These recordings are also better sound quality than many of the other binaural beats that I know of which are sold online.

You can order the MP3 that I tried here – Extra-Sensory Perception Binaural Beats MP3.

If you buy the binaural beats, I hope you enjoy listening to them like I have.