[Jacqi] Hm… a few. Let’s go with… Seriousness and time frame on Smallville moving to IL

[Serenity Bly] *chuckles* I take it white shirt coffee guy is going well.

[Jacqi] Very, our visit last weekend went wonderfully. He is coming back this weekend with his oldest.

[Serenity Bly] I don’t do time frames but Miss Michele might be willing to draw a card or two to clarify on a sense of time. But the biggest impression I get is SOMEONE (feels like you) is keeping secrets.

[Miss Michelle] EEK! The visit happened? so awesome! what were the cards?

[Serenity Bly] And I’m not sure where that impression comes from because the cards really don’t seem to point to that. In the past we have Strength (reversed). Present = Eight of Cups (reversed) and future King of Pentacles.

[Miss Michelle] 8 cups is a deception card

[Jacqi] Well, I can’t tell him about the bodies in the basement YET.

[Serenity Bly] It is? I always see it as the “wimp” card. Running away from things because you’re not ready to face the hard parts.

[MoonlitKim] could be the Strength reversed; she may not have shown him her ‘weaker’ side, more vulnerable side yet.

[Miss Michelle] The six of pentacles tells me you are the one biding your time

[Serenity Bly] In this case, the reversal is running toward something because you’re afraid of facing the hard parts. So you might be pushing for things to move faster than you’re really ready for.

[Jacqi] Oh, that’s actually on par. Ok, go on.

[Miss Michelle] also J, you are very strong. You fear he may diminish that strength if you let him so you’re holding back

[Serenity Bly] In the past this Strength reversed makes me feel like you’ve been easy to rile, you’ve been eager to do battle for even the little things because you’re powerful, and strong, when you’re on your ground.

[Jacqi] I have had to be both mom/dad/everything for such a long time I’m used to it. Knowing what he wants, and what that means… albeit a wonderful thought, is also very scary. Giving up control and letting someone help with things.

[Serenity Bly] When you’re calling the shots it feels “safe” so giving up that sense of security, giving up your ground a little to someone else feels “dangerous” “scary” And I can relate, because that’s me too. So let me know if I’m off base and reading too much of me into it.

[Jacqi] Nope not at all. Right on track. Ask jen G. Lol

[Miss Michelle] That’s exactly the sense I’m getting too Jacqi

[Jacqi] It’s like I’ve wanted “this” for a long time and even though that the case, now that the potential is here… I’m kind of like… That’s wicked scary!

[Miss Michelle] However, in terms of time, Pentacles = spring and 6 = June

[Serenity Bly] The Eight of Cups is a clear “WANT” for things to work out and you’re pushing for it, very, very quickly. Be careful you don’t trip over your skirts in your haste.

[Miss Michelle] So soon

[Serenity Bly] Slow down; enjoy the moment a little longer. But the future King of Pentacles is a good omen. He’s very sure of himself and his course in life and he IS coming, when he’s ready.

[Miss Michelle] Also June is approx 6 wks away so I’m pretty clear on timing

[Jacqi] He has some things to take care of there, kids and all. Wait. June? June what?

[Serenity Bly] He’s going to be concerned with making sure he does things right and that he builds on a firm foundation. He’s not about to walk away from all he has but when he comes it’ll be a big change and permanent. The image that comes to mind is like the shifting of tectonic plates. *chuckles*

[Miss Michelle] LOL Jacqi–it will be fine–the faster you let go of a bit of control, the faster it will happen.

[Jacqi] Right? Moving a state away… it’s almost surreal if you think about it.

[Serenity Bly] This just goes to show that “ACE” really is the name for him.

[Jacqi] Oh… *blink*… it is.

[Serenity Bly] But literally, him moving is like moving a mountain. it’s a BIG thing for him to do and when he does it, it stays moved.

[Miss Michelle] I thought you wanted timing of when the relationship will become really serious.

[Serenity Bly] So, it’s a good idea to make sure you’re very ready before pushing ahead for more.

[Jacqi] Oh… Ok, I’m with you now MM.

[Miss Michelle] and now hearing him moving–sounds about right!

[Jacqi] Yeah, I don’t think he’d be moving or even thinking about it seriously for a bit… he has a LOT to hash out legally with his youngest… so… there’s that.

[Miss Michelle] June could be when it gets set into motion. It’s rare I’m so certain on the time, but it all adds up.

[Jacqi] That seems doable, all things considered. I wish we knew what was going on w the baby… he already has custody of his daughter; it’s the baby that would hold things up.

[Miss Michelle] how sad!

[Jacqi] He wouldn’t and I wouldn’t expect him to move w/o his son.

[Serenity Bly] Jacqi, this King of Pentacles shows him needing to get things together in order for it to happen. But I get the impression that when he wants to make something happen, it happens. That is a very good influence to have in your life. Not many men are like that. So enjoy it.

[Jacqi] It seems so SB, he’s been the most straight forward… to the point fella I’ve ever been around. He’s all… I’m going to go home and do X, Y, and Z… and yeah… he did. I was impressed

[Miss Michelle] he’s safe to share yourself with Jacqi

[Jacqi] Aw. You girls are awesome.

[Serenity Bly] Whatever happens, it falls into his hands Jacqi. He’s literally HOLDING it all when he comes. So I expect whatever is going on with the baby he’ll bring the boy with him when he moves.

[Jacqi] You all answer questions my brain doesn’t want to admit to having. Oh thank god. Baby boy needs to be away from his crazy mom. She’s loony tunes. If things shape up like I’d like them to, that would make me very happy. (:

[Serenity Bly] Now you, stop holding back with him. He’s “safe” for you and you don’t need to be afraid. Give up the tough, supermom act, and let yourself lean on him a little.

[Jacqi] I know… I know…. It’s hard to do, but I’m trying.

[Serenity Bly] Show him the real you, Jacqi. It won’t scare him off.

[Jacqi] I made a conscious effort when he was here… to just go with it. I will keep that in mind. *makes note to self*… let the inner J out next time. Lol She doesn’t get out much… so… d:

[Serenity Bly] But, I can very much relate. I’m still working at getting over my depression after MM’s reading yesterday said that I was going to meet a man. In my current reality that is TERRIBLE news. lol

[Miss Michelle] aw!

[Jacqi] OMG I KNOW. it’s like… I want it I want it… no no NO… omg I really don’t (but I secretly do really bad)

[Serenity Bly] So, I’ll look at your relationship with Ace and feel a little reassured that there are men out there that have it together within themselves and so, inviting a man into my life might not be too much like hell.

[Jacqi] It just…happened this way. We are both utterly miffed actually. On more than one occasion when he was here, we’d find ourselves staring at each other then break into WILD laughter and we’re all…. bwAhHAHHAHAhh FARMVILLE…. wtf?! It’s just SO odd how we met online LOL. But hey… is good. Is really good.

[Serenity Bly] Well, don’t blame me when you’re arguing over wedding invitations someday in the future.

[Jacqi] If that’s the case, I fully expect you and Miss Michele to be maids of honor. Wedding colors… Peacock. Ready yourself ladies.

[Serenity Bly] He’ll be going, “Cream? This is all your psychic friends fault. She was all guys drinking coffee in a white shirt….”

[Jacqi] Why thank you, guys. That was a good reading. I will keep all that in mind for this weekend. (: Heh, I’m almost more nervous about meeting his daughter than I was to meet him.

[Serenity Bly] How old is she? And odds are she’ll be harder to win over than him.

[Jacqi] She’s 8

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[Jacqi] My question is: Where is my love life going?

[Serenity Bly] OK, the cards are trying to confuse me.

[Jacqi] No, my life is just confusing. lol

[Serenity Bly] OH! It’s the reversal that makes all the difference. lol I was thinking, hang on, this says “you’ve got it all” but it’s reversed so you’re GOING TO have it all. Let’s go back to the beginning. In the past, we see the Six of Pentacles. Working for the man. I like to say that with some really weird accent, “Worken fur tha maaannnn.”

[MoonlitKim] LOL Exactly right, Serenity!

[Serenity Bly] And, in a sense, that’s what life has been about for you Jacqui, earning your bread by working for others but not really focused on the love life. You’ve been building your sense of security, creating a stable home for yourself.

[Jacqi] Yes, that’s pretty much correct.

[Serenity Bly] The Ten of Pentacles in the present would indicate that you’re living it now. You’ve got the “happy family” and the “abundant home life,” which is why I thought it was confusing me. But, that’s where reversals become important.

[Jacqi] Oh, OK. Go on.

[Serenity Bly] This reversal indicates a sense of building into that. It’s possible you’ve already made great leaps toward it, that sense of security and contentment is right on the fringes. Perhaps it already exists within you but you feel incomplete because your personal sense of “having it all” is different to the common perception. You’re happy, but OTHERS think things are missing from your life, so it creates a sense of doubt and uncertainty about your life choices for you.

[Jacqi] Yes, but *I* also feel things are missing as well.

[Serenity Bly] I’d almost wonder if you were gay. But that’s thinking outside of the box.

[Jacqi] *touches nose* ding ding. Semi. In a lot of ways, yes, outside the “box” thinker here.

[Serenity Bly] Ok, then what I’m sensing here is a resistance to settle into the “mold” of society. You don’t have to settle for one or the other, Jacqi. It’s completely fine to enjoy living life without settling down.

[Jacqi] The thing is that I want to settle down, but I can’t seem to get the swing of that. I keep getting blocked.

[Serenity Bly] What I see in the future with this Ace of Pentacles is a sense of using your material worth to create your future.

[Jacqi] So I’m going to buy my love? Does that make me Richard Gear? I don’t have pearls or a nice coat. Darn.

[Serenity Bly] But that could be my own influence. Because, like you, I swing both ways, but I’m NOT interested in getting married. I’d like to have another baby, so I’ve been considering sperm bank donations. In my world, that would be the Ace of Pentacles I see here, buying my family in the sense of using my material worth to get that ball rolling, but it’s not necessarily the same for you.

[Jacqi] So maybe a paid dating site?

[Serenity Bly] The Ace is simply the beginning of something entirely new and the Pentacles ties it to your sense of finance, wealth, and career.

[Jen.N] Can I put in something just real quick?

[Jacqi] Sure!

[Serenity Bly] Sure, Jen. I would appreciate the backup since I can’t nail this one down.

[Jen.N] For me, the Ace of Pentacles represents a — to borrow from my little book — “great love.” It’s also symbolic of a very content/harmonious life when it comes up in my readings.

[MoonlitKim] Meeting someone at work? Or going to ritzier places to meet partners?

[Serenity Bly] Oh, love that insight, Kim.

[Jacqi] It’s OK, Serenity, I’m a hard read. I work from home.

[MoonlitKim] Well…

[Serenity Bly] It could also indicate taking your focus away from what you think is “missing” and putting it into the areas of your life that are going well.

[Jacqi] Unless there’s a good man hidden in my couch, not sure how that would go.

[Serenity Bly] Focus on the work, and when you’re not looking for it, the love will find you.

[MoonlitKim] A stable partner, someone who has your same hardworking attitude, perhaps someone interested in working side by side with you?

[Jacqi] I’d like that, but don’t know how to find that.

[MoonlitKim] Yeah, it’s rather tricky. I bet they’ll sneak up on you.

[Jacqi] Can you possibly give me a smidge of insight as to when this person may appear?

[Serenity Bly] I think the biggest message that comes up in this reading is that it’s OK to be happy with where you’re at. Yes, you can be wanting a stable relationship, but it’s not belittling your life not to have one. There is the potential for that in the future. You’re growing into it and it is coming to you. Alas, I never deal in dates. That’s Miss Michele’s area of expertise. I’m always too much in the ether where time doesn’t exist.

[Jacqi] Oh no, I just meant like many, many moons or a few moons.

[Serenity Bly] So, it could be now it could be ten years from now, I’ve no clue. lol

[Jacqi] All right.

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[Jen.N] With regard to writing, particularly the Kat O’Reilly novels and associated things: I wonder if I’m putting the cart before the horse and trying to rush things too much. Am I being too impatient in that area?

[Serenity Bly] *ponders* Well, it’s an interesting future card, but the others are making sense so we’ll wait and see what that one has to say later.

[Jen.N] Interesting can be good. (Last week, I thought the answer would be a resounding YES I’m being too impatient, but now I’m not so sure.)

[Serenity Bly] In the past, we see the Seven of Wands (reversed) and tied to the Four of Wands in the present. I see this as a clear sense of “if not now, when?” You’ve had the ideas and inspirations vying for your attention. They’re demanding and they won’t wait. You HAD to do this now, and there was nothing else you could have done. Those men have been at you and at you making you write their stories and they wouldn’t take no for an answer.

[Jen.N] Oh yeah. I’m writing these books (the Maguire Men series) as fast as I can get them done.

[Serenity Bly] It’s been a bit of a battle knowing which to write when, what to work on, how one story comes together apart from the others, etc.

[Jen.N] I’m already planning the next one. It’ll be the 5th.

[MoonlitKim] You are really on fire, Jen!

[Serenity Bly] In a way, part of me wonders if you need to consider the whole and make sure you haven’t got anyone’s stories mixed up with anyone else’s. That bustle and confusion could have taken a toll on the manuscripts.

[Jen.N] Kim, sometimes I feel like it. I go to bed and they keep me awake. I kind of resent the day job for keeping me from writing.

[Serenity Bly] The Sun shows that continuing fire of inspiration and creativity. Keep writing and writing. Let them guide you while you get it down on paper.

[Jen.N] I’ve actually considered that [possibility of confusion]. I have separate file folders on the computer and 3-ring notebooks for each one to minimize that happening.

[Serenity Bly] I feel like the writing process is where you’re at now, so perhaps the sense of impatience is knowing you have those “finished” books and wanting to push through to publication.

[Jen.N] Defintely!

[Serenity Bly] What I sense here is that the men need you to finish writing them and THEN consider them as a whole when you edit the series.

[Jen.N] Whoo boy.

[Serenity Bly] Yep, that sounds daunting.

[Jen.N] Which could be why they’re overlapping so much now—meaning writing one & planning the next.

[MoonlitKim] Yep, and present them as a whole too. I love your multi-century concept, but a publisher might not be able to “see” it until you can show him what you’re talking about.

[Serenity Bly] What it’s really saying is stay with this energy now, stay in the frame where you’re focusing primarily on getting it written.

[Jen.N] Yeah. Daunting describes it. The series will ultimately be about 15 books.

[Serenity Bly] Worry about what comes next after they’re written.

[Jen.N] OK. So I am being too impatient in that regard.

[Serenity Bly] The Devil in the Future is reversed, warning you against inviting outside influences in at this point. To me, it’s another indication that you might be moving too soon with finding an agent and publisher. Those external influences will want to make changes. They won’t necessarily see the greater picture and they might push you around more than you’re ready for at this point.

[Jen.N] Ah. OK. Which might also actually explain why I haven’t heard anything from anyone yet even though their published response times have come & gone.

[Serenity Bly] They’re going to want to change your concepts, to make new stories out of the ones you’ve written and you don’t want to bring that into your life.

[Jen.N] Very true.

[Serenity Bly] You’ve not, technically, finished the books yet, even the earlier ones, because when the men all come together those earlier ones will change. It’s in seeing the WHOLE picture that you’ll be able to finish putting the pieces together. You don’t want people coming in early to be stealing pieces of the puzzle before you even know what the big picture is. Does that make sense?

[Jen.N] The last book will take it full circle. During the potato famine, they’ll come to the United States. Then in the last book, which will be modern times, they’ll go back to Ireland.

[Serenity Bly] Ah, in that case it sounds very much like it makes sense.

[Jen.N] It does. I’ve made myself a bit anxious a time or two not wanting too much of it changed when it goes through the publication process.

[Serenity Bly] Try imagining if the first three got published, when you’re writing that final book you’d be STUCK to the “facts” presented in those stories, you can’t change anything then; it’s too late. By holding back and writing the entire series first, you’re free to let that final story tell its story, and then tweak the inconsistencies that might come up. You know how those darn characters sometimes like to say, “Nope, don’t want it done like that do it this way instead.”

[Jen.N] Honestly? I’ve even considered going an e-book self-pub route using Amazon for the Kindle. Don’t know that I will, but…. Very true.

[Serenity Bly] So, I think what it’s saying here is don’t push for publication on any of them yet. Get them written, stay in that energy and space, and let the ideas all come together as a whole before moving on to the next stage. Even if you published the manuscripts as is, right now, when you’ve finished the final book you may wish you could change things.

[Jen.N] I have considered giving the character in the last book the same name as the one in the first book if that wouldn’t make things too confusing. What I might consider, then, is pushing the non-Maguire books, like NAVAJO ROSE. Er… OK. That’s the only one I have right now that’s not in the series.

[Cyn] Not at all. He keeps the papers of his ancestors from Ellis Island and the one he was named after.

[Serenity Bly] Yes. I can see you pushing ahead with non-Maguires in the meantime. You might even find the Maguire men step aside to let you write another book or two off-series in the meantime.

[Jen.N] I’ll be taking a week—maybe 2—off from the day job in May to work just on writing. I can’t wait until September/October. Ack!

[Serenity Bly] But, for their series at least, they need you do do the writing first.

[Jen.N] That makes a *lot* of sense and goes along with what I’ve known in the back of my mind but have ignored..

[Serenity Bly] Of course, I can understand the frustration because you want to spend your time writing but until you’re getting an income from writing you can’t quit your day job.

[Jen.N] That’s a bit of an understatement, but I’ll get there. Thanks so much, Serenity!

[Serenity Bly] And you can’t get an income from writing unless you either publish what you’ve already got or change writing tact and therefore use your energy writing non-fiction, which is worse than the day job in the sense that after writing non-fiction all day, you have no energy left to write fiction. *hugs Jen* I’m glad I could offer some clarity on your uncertainties.

[Jen.N] “Some” clarity?

[MoonlitKim] Oh, yeah, and don’t forget, that even if you publish Navajo Rose, you have to market it and that takes you out of the writing state of mind.

[Jen.N] Yup. That’s definitely a consideration too. But, I’ll be having to do that soon anyway. DEVOTED TO CREATING will be out around the first of May.

[MoonlitKim] Woohoo! Great news, Jen!

[Cyn] Wonderful news!

[Jen.N] I’m excited! And maybe money from that can go to paying for my residency in October.  It’s a book of devotions centered around creativity.

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[Miss Michelle] OH!

[Serenity Bly] Well, my mother does too, but only because I’ve worked on it while at her house. lol

[Miss Michelle] Wait, am I thinking of the same super-secret project? the one you mentioned this morning? Or whichever morning it was I did your yearly spread?

[Serenity Bly] Don’t think it came up in my 12-month. But then I was too preoccupied about the whole man factor. Oh, and THAT wasn’t super secret. Everyone knows I’m considering artificial insemination. *chuckles* Babies without men, I’m all about that.

[Miss Michelle] Damn, and here I went and drew an Empress just for you. Actually, this fits the other super-secret project, too…

[Serenity Bly] Well, you were THINKING about that when you drew so maybe it relates to AI and not SSP? lol

[Miss Michelle] It could relate to EITHER! Dammit. Okay, we have that Death card again… for EITHER to be successful… you need to let go of something. And THAT is what leads me to believe it’s SSP…

[Serenity Bly] Needs to let go of stupid anxiety. We already knew that. And again it relates to both.

[Miss Michelle] AND that your yearly spread could relate to that, too.

[Serenity Bly] I’d much rather my yearly spread relate to babies without men. That would be nice and a yearlong project with a Ten of Cups culmination. My SSP, now that I don’t want to drag on all year long.

[Miss Michelle] Yes, you need to get rid of the anxiety but, as it relates to SSP, specifically the anxiety about writing (can I say that much?) and about FINISHING a project. Esp. a big one. Then we have the Empress, showing a birth… you WILL finish.

[Serenity Bly] I’m trying to chunk down, I have SSP’s outline together but am stalling at the writing again. And you know me well enough to see the recurring issues there. I need a firm whack.

[Miss Michelle] thwap! The Three of Rods shows multiple opportunities arising from the completion of this project. This is NOT just a project, it’s the start of an empire… or a larger family if we’re going the other way.

[Serenity Bly] See, it ties beautifully with both situations. The Three being the third child. And the Three being the potential for the SSP.

[Miss Michelle] Yes… it really does. But I typically associate that three with a business opportunity card. But then the Empress… Damn. tarot’s playing games with us.

[Serenity Bly] lol It’s doing exactly what it’s meant to. Making me feel better.

[Miss Michelle] I said, “Does this reading relate to a baby or SSP?” and I got the Hanged Man. I think it’s saying, “wait and see.” In fact, I know it is because I heard it in my mind. LOL

[Serenity Bly] Hanged Man can mean both too. The fact that one is playing a hand in the other. Sacrificing and waiting now is clearing the field for then.

[Miss Michelle] Three majors, too… Whatever it is will be life-changingly significant.

[Serenity Bly] This makes it more about AI than SSP because I don’t really feel SSP is that significant. But the breakthrough involved in both would be. Thank you MM. I feel better, about both.

[Miss Michelle] SSP really could be a stepping stone to a lot of other great things is the sense I’m getting.

[Serenity Bly] thinks my anxiety yesterday and today is probably related to not eating. I’ve been very naughty. Deliberately ignoring hunger until it passes instead of choosing to eat healthy meals at regular times. And I know having an empty stomach makes my anxiety worse.

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[Miss Shin] My question is: I am just wondering whether I am at the right place in my life with my recently made decisions (in terms of relationships and friendships) and whether I am going in the right direction in my life

[Serenity Bly] Great question.

[Miss Shin] Thanks

[Serenity Bly] *ponders* Interesting cards.

[Miss Shin] Hmmm.

[Serenity Bly] Two of them have very distinct meanings that differ on the situation, so I’m just taking an extra moment to tune in on the right one.

[Miss Shin] Hmm. Ok.

[Serenity Bly] I’m pretty sure The Devil in this case is a sense of having felt manipulated and controlled in the past. *big hugs* What I feel here is a sense of abuse, perhaps a boyfriend/husband or father figure. For a long time, that influence had you dancing to his tune and feeling dominated by his arrogance and the choices he made for your life.

[Miss Shin] Wow. That’s true. My boyfriend is really particular about my past.

[Serenity Bly] You weren’t in charge of your own destiny. You were managed by this influence and it was his wishes you obeyed and his opinions that mattered. Your life was his to commend. The energy is very domineering and uncomfortable, like you had to shrink the light inside you to avoid the pain he could bring upon it with the hurt and harm he caused.

[Miss Shin] I guess it was more of an emotional abuse of judgments.

[Serenity Bly] The Ace of Swords in the present shows that you’re just starting to learn to talk about that, to bring it out into the open. Perhaps it’s upsetting your friends or family to know, as if they’d seen your light and had no idea that this was going on in that relationship. They’re surprised, but it’s very good that you’re giving voice to what was going on then. And doing so is shaping a beautiful future. I get the impression there is already a new partner in your life, or on the horizon of your life.

[Miss Shin] Yes! Wow! You’re awesome.

[Serenity Bly] The Ace of Swords is helping you in this new relationship because your new partner senses the timidity that’s below the surface. You hold back when he wants you to give; you’re still protecting yourself.

[Miss Shin] Hmmmm. But in terms of coming to terms with the past, I guess my new partner is not doing too well with that.

[Serenity Bly] And the cards here say, “You don’t need to.” This Ten of Cups is a beautiful union. He’s a wonderful, loving, giving man. Using the Ace of Swords as you are, you can open yourself up with him. Let go of the past influences of your former relationship.

[Miss Shin] Okay. That sounds good.

[Serenity Bly] Be free with your new partner. He loves you, but he NEEDS you to be present with him, to at least be open with how you’re feeling in the moment.

[Miss Shin] Okay. How about friendships?

[Serenity Bly] He’s strong. I think he’ll stick it out, but there is a sense of uncertainty in him that stems from him feeling like he needs kid gloves. He needs to be careful how he handles you. You’re like an injured bird and he’s afraid you’ll disappear if he moves to fast around you or says the wrong thing or touches you in the wrong way, so he needs your assurances. The Ace of Swords was talking about your friendships.

[Miss Shin] I guess his uncertainty is how I move on from here and whether I am able to fit into his mold of social norms. I have decided to remove acquaintances in my life.

[Serenity Bly] About your friends being shocked by your revelations. If they can’t get over it, it’s ok to let them go. He’s NOT judging you Miss Shin. You don’t have to fit into his mold. He just wants you to be the real you with him.

[Miss Shin] Okay, thanks, Serenity.

[Serenity Bly] My pleasure, and good luck.

[Miss Shin] It’s just some of his statements interpreted as he was judging my past.

[Serenity Bly] I suspect it’s you judging your past and it feels like him because your past experience was a judgmental man. Don’t let the ex-boyfriend shadow this new man for you. They’re nothing alike.

[Miss Shin] Okay. Thanks.

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[Lily] Here’s my question about my relationship with a man. We both have feelings, but it is something what I don’t get from him, his approach toward me, so how does he see me and our relationship and possible future with him?

[Serenity Bly] Lily, I get the impression I’m picking up on HIS energy, not yours so this reading may be more about what’s going on in his head. In the past I feel like he’s been very focused on work. It makes me think you two might work together and that you met at work. He’s had to work his way up from the ground, but he’s developed a very strong sense of himself. That’s shown with the Two of Pentacles. In the present, the King of Pentacles shows that he’s still very much focused on developing his career. He’s almost blind to other areas of his life and to people in a sense outside of that sphere. He’s the ultimate “All Business”. It’s entirely possible he sees you more as a function of doing business than as a woman.

[Lily] Yes, he is hard working.

[Serenity Bly] The Five of Swords (reversed) in the future shows other choices, and this one is for you. His focus isn’t on the potential of relationships and might not be for a very long time. In the meantime, consider your other choices, or develop your choices by actively looking outside of this particular man for potential relationships. There isn’t a sense of “never” with this particular man, but the Tarot advises not to wait around for him to be ready. Seek out your options, explore elsewhere, and see how things develop.

[Lily] Interesting.

[Serenity Bly] I hope that helps, Lily.

[Lily] Thank you, Serenity.

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[Cyn] The man can be frustrating. Should I stay or should I go in this relationship?

[Serenity Bly] *blinks* Well THAT is interesting. We’ll come back to interesting later.

[Cyn] A frustrating man, imagine that!

[Serenity Bly] In the past, we see the Five of Swords. You’ve had your pick of men. You had a hard time choosing this one and that is a large part of your uncertainty now. You’re still not sure you make the right choice. That makes me suspect your OTHER choices are still on the horizon, as if you’ve got one foot not quite into this relationship because you’re leaving yourself room to change your mind. The Page of Wands (reversed) in the present tells me that you’ve got to be all in or all out. The cards are all Minor Arcana, making the choice entirely up to you. You’re in command of your destiny and there is no influence outside of yourself making or breaking this deal, but your lack of commitment is possibly what makes him so frustrating. If he senses that you’ve got a foot half-way out the door, he’ll act out, if that makes sense. He’s testing your commitment, because he wants you to be sure, to be all there and 100% on his side and he won’t settle for less.

[Cyn] But he wants so much so soon! Seriously, can’t being exclusive be enough right now? Really though, you’re right on so far.

[Serenity Bly] The Future shows this clearly. Either you go all in, give up those other choices, settle with the choice you made, and MAKE it work. (The Ten of Pentacles (reversed) shows it can work but you’ll have to work together to make it work.) OR if you don’t make a choice to be all in, it’ll slowly come to an end. (The Death card (reversed) shows a slow demise of the relationship being pulled apart at the seams.) It sounds like he’s tossed an ultimatum at your feet and the decision is yours to make. Can you love this man? Can you picture spending the rest of your life with him? Would you feel a great sense of devastation if this relationship ended? The Tarot says it can work if you choose to work it, but the freedom of that choice is yours to make.

[Cyn] See where I’m stuck? It’s been only about 2 months, so much intensity so soon.

[Serenity Bly] I’m going to come back to the Page of Wands because it steers ME on a personal sense. You see, the Page of Wands is my “go for it” card. It’s my throw caution to the wind, stuff the risks, go with it, and make it happen. So, if that were MY reading, it would be saying to jump in feet first and don’t look back, but if you’re not comfortable with the idea, that could be the sign from the universe saying this choice isn’t right for you. and you need to listen to your gut on that.

[Cyn] I’m reserved because it seems too good to be true as well. He has money, he’s grounded, and so on

[MoonlitKim] *nods* A lot of my relationships were “all in” right away. If that’s what he’s expecting, it may bother him that you haven’t leapt yet. Perhaps once you do, he may get more comfortable and tone down the intensity.

[Serenity Bly] If you’re holding back out of fear, then the message says, “Don’t hold back.” It’s not too good to be true, Cyn. If you commit to this, there is marriage, babies, family, a stable home, and a secure and happy life over the horizon. It’s not going to be easy, but it will be a very good situation for you. You don’t need to be afraid of that choice, assuming it’s the fear of that holding you back. If you’re held back because you’re not in love with him, then it’s different again. Yes, you could fake it, and make it work. Avariciously, you could “marry him for the money” and you’ll have a fairly good life, but you deserve better than that. You deserve to be with someone you can love. If it’s not this man, let him go and choose another.

[Cyn] That’s not me at all.  I’d hate that person- I pick up the tabs not to be that person. So I guess I need to evaluate where my feelings really are for him.  Lots to think about here.

[Jen.N] But on the other hand, letting him pick up the tabs sometimes doesn’t make you that person either.

[Serenity Bly] Just because he is a good man and has money doesn’t make him someone you can’t be with and it doesn’t make him too good to be true. They DO exist. You need to find your heart in this question. Seek that within yourself, Cyn, and listen to those feelings, but don’t wait too long because he really does need to know you’re 100% into this.

[Serenity Bly] The relationship will end if you don’t make a choice. Not immediately. It’ll take time, but that is where it’s landing here. So, seek within, decide how you truly feel, even if it means considering your other options in your head, and then either get in or get out. Know that neither choice is wrong, Cyn. Whichever you choose, you WILL eventually be in that Ten of Pentacles. Either way, it’ll take some work to get there.

[Cyn] I’ll do that, Serenity.  I suppose I’m just being pessimistic here, which is uncharacteristic.

[Serenity Bly] It can be very hard to accept when good things do happen.

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[Katrinia] My question (I think) is this: Last week was full of changes for me. I had to let go of a lot of personal/family belongings and heard the words, “Maybe it’s time to move on.” Is it time to move on and make changes in my personal/family life?

[Serenity Bly] *ponders* Interesting. I’m suddenly wishing Miss Michele were around.

[Katrinia] Go figure I have to be difficult.

[Serenity Bly] In the past, we see the Two of Pentacles (reversed). It shows that your life in general has been almost a chore. Chore is the wrong word, more like apprenticeship.

[Katrinia] Chore fits too.

[Serenity Bly] It’s like you’ve had a hard road learning how to just live, to live a “normal” life. Life itself was hard work. The Seven of Pentacles (reversed) shows that you’ve come to terms with the challenges life has given you and you’ve reached a point where you have a sense of growing security.

[Katrinia] If I made a book of my life, I would be richer and more popular than that guy who wrote “A Child Called It” and not only due to the fact that I can write better than he can.

[Serenity Bly] Now others are coming to you for guidance and leadership. They’re bringing their problems to you. *chuckles* Ironic that you say “a book” because I get a sense of “being able to help others with your story.

[Katrinia] Wow.

[Serenity Bly] But that’s not so much in this reading. The third card shows more to do with existing relationships. I’d almost ask if you’re engaged or likely to be about to be. But I don’t like letting the cards be too literal.

[Katrinia] I’m married.

[Serenity Bly] The Nine of Cups in the future shows a definite harmonious partnership. A union of equals that has insight and depth. I don’t see a sense of moving on. If anything, I’d say, “grab it with both hands,” jump all into this love because it’s REAL.

[Katrinia] Okay, that is confusing.

[Serenity Bly] But it could also be the potential for a establishing a greater partnership in business given that the original cards were both pentacles. In relation to this being more about a business partnership, I see it as a long standing friendship originally. It’s not someone new (or this would be a three, not a nine). It’s someone you’ve been friends with a long time. You have mutual respect and can develop a stronger relationship and union through work/business.

[Katrinia] Mindy.

[Jen.N] The title of the Nine of Cups for the Diamond Tarot is “Material Good Fortune,” so I think the business aspect of the reading is probably right.

[Katrinia] Please let it be Mindy, because I don’t know how to work the net to save my life.

[Serenity Bly] You’re in a good place right now, Kat. Things are going to continue to get better. You’ve come a long way. In a sense, your past week/s have been “making room” for new and better.

[Katrinia] Thank goodness!

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[Jen G] I got the lease on the building. My husband got a full-time out-of-the-house contract gig and he’s got clients coming into the marketing business. What the HELL? Yes, my question is technically, “What the hell?”

[Serenity Bly] Yeah, I’m with you on the What the Hell???

[Jen G] Uh oh. Weird cards? Just please, for the love of Jehosephat, no Seven of Cups. *fingers crossed*

[Serenity Bly] Not even shuffled yet, but I couldn’t make heads or tails of your question. lol

[MoonlitKim] So busy your head is spinning, Jen?

[Jen G] With so much going on, what needs to be my main priority? He has a full time job and a business and I have a business and we have three kids 5 and under. Something’s got to give, methinks, but I’m not sure. Maybe we really can do it all.

[Serenity Bly] Why don’t you want a Seven of Cups?

[MoonlitKim] Wasn’t it in last week’s reading?

[Jen G] Because that would represent my fear and I don’t want to know about my fear. We’re already well acquainted. lol

[Serenity Bly] *ponders* What were the cards from your last reading again?

[Jen G] Chariot, um, King of Pentacles. The first one is escaping me.

[Serenity Bly] Ok, not these cards then, but these are funny.

[Jen G] What are they?

[MoonlitKim] I could be wrong too. It just sounded familiar.

[Serenity Bly] In the past you’ve got my favorite, Page of Wands. Ideas, fire, energy, running with it, and get a complete mess of everything going on in your life because it’s all exciting and filled with passion.

[Jen G] Check.

[Serenity Bly] But, now you’re pregnant again. *hopes she’s joking because Miss Michele is the one who does pregnancy predictions not me*

[Jen G] Not pregnant, so that’s a bonus.

[Serenity Bly] The Empress comes up in the present, and, assuming you’re NOT actually pregnant again, it shows a sense of nurturing, growth, and development.

[Jen G] Or just owning all the chaos in my queen-like way, but probably more what you said.

[Serenity Bly] You are cultivating what you already have, harnessing your strengths in the feminine to make your existing ideas flourish and become something great and mighty in their own right.

[Jen G] True.

[Serenity Bly] Your Queen-like way is the Queen of Wands in the future.

[Jen G] SWEET! YES!

[Serenity Bly] It’s showing you really and truly harnessing all that, taking charge, and pulling everything into line. “I am woman, hear me roar,” Jen G style.

[Jen G] Less whiny wife and more my normal self.

[Serenity Bly] And, despite you saying Miss Michele and I don’t know you as well as we think, what I see here is the Jen G. I THINK I know.

[Jen G] I had a discussion with hubby last night that this new biz was MINE not his.

[Serenity Bly] The one who knows how to make things happen and get things done.

[Jen G] I have a split personality that’s pretty dramatic. Not like Sybil or anything, but two sides that are way different.

[MoonlitKim] You’re going to rock it all! Bam-pow!

[Jen G] Most people only know the one half.

[Serenity Bly] There is definite take charge going on here and I’m not sensing any negative from you using your strengths to make this happen. There isn’t a sense of stealing his thunder or stepping on his toes.

[Jen G] Oh, thank goodness!

[Serenity Bly] So, I’m not really sure how to tie all that into “What The Hell?”, but hopefully you’ve already figured it out. lol

[Jen G] So I’ll either get a part time nanny or take the kids to the office. Whatever. It will all be good. That was the most perfect reading ever. Not just because you said exactly what I needed to hear, but hey, it doesn’t hurt.

[Serenity Bly] I see this as you juggling those priorities beautifully, Jen. You can do it all.

[Jen G] Not needed, more like desperately craved.

[Serenity Bly] It’s the kind of superwoman the rest of us working mothers aspire to be.

[Jen G] Thank you so much!

[Serenity Bly] And, Jen, whatever this is, The Empress wants me to remind you, “It’s your baby.” That’ll make more sense to you than me.

[Jen G] Ok. I’ll keep it in mind. I called the business my baby last night, but that’s probably not it.

[Serenity Bly] Actually, that’s probably exactly it.

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[Miss Michelle] For sure!

[plaidearthworm] Cool! This is about Wisecrack Zodiac. An opportunity has been presented to me regarding the book. I don’t have the manuscript finished yet, but I’m wondering if I should pursue this opportunity. Is it worth it?

[Serenity Bly] Oh, whose cards are we doing plaids reading with? Should I be shuffling?

[Miss Michelle] I’ve drawn for Plaid.

[Serenity Bly] Ok, what did you get?

[Miss Michelle] The Devil, the Fool, Queen of Wands. To sum it up in a sentence, Plaid, I would not take this opportunity because there’s a better one on the horizon. However, use it as an impetus to finish the book. Because you’ve been letting temptation and distractions get the better of you. The Fool says if you were to take this opportunity, you’d be jumping in blindly, without all the facts. I’m sensing this may be a royalty-only offer or something equally “eh.” Do your research really well on this company and offer.

[Serenity Bly] The Devil also indicates that you won’t have the freedom to follow your creative interests, you’ll be under someone else’s final call. And you might prefer to do things differently and find your hands tied.

[Miss Michelle] It’s flattering, but you may come across an opportunity that’s even better. Before you sign anything, check Everything over. (And that’s not only with this company, but anything related to this project.)

[plaidearthworm] Bide my time. And it has spurred me into more creativity.

[Miss Michelle] On the other hand, The Fool ALSO has the effect of sparking you on to finish the book. You’re jumping in to it on all 8 cylinders now, just because you’re so excited someone DOES want it.

[Serenity Bly] And, in the project you do in the future YOU lead, and you rule.

[plaidearthworm] Plus we’re getting a tax refund, so I’ll have some spare non-content writing time to focus on finishing the manuscript.

[Miss Michelle] But the Queen of Wands, yes–what she said.

[plaidearthworm] I like it! Thanks so much!

[Miss Michelle] So take the positive energy, and definitely look into the offer — if only to learn what you don’t find desirable about it.

[Serenity Bly] But the ultimate advice is to weigh your options and don’t leap into anything blindly.

[Miss Michelle] Kind of like going on a job interview when you don’t really want the job. Ask the right questions, use it as practice, but then thank them for their time and move on.

[plaidearthworm] Cool. I tried to do a reading myself last night on this, but nothing made sense. What you’re saying lets me know why.

[Miss Michelle] It can be very hard to read for yourself. Serenity Bly and I don’t do it anymore, now that we have each other. Well, aside from my accidental cards, and we saw how THEY turned out. lol

[plaidearthworm] Plus the 10 card spread gets complicated for me. Just trying out the deck Wynter got me.

[Serenity Bly] It’s hardest to read for yourself because you’re vested in the outcome. You try to make the cards say what you WANT them to say. And sometimes, ten cards are too many. They’re great for delving deeply into a situation but when you just need a little insight or guidance three to six cards are better.

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