Read the lyrics to those songs. Have they used dirty talk in such a lyrical way that it doesn’t really seem like dirty talk at all?

You can take some tips from those lyrics. Pick out the parts that make you hot and use them on your partner the next time you’re in bed. If he wonders where you got that idea from, well…put on the music and let the rhythm, as well as the words, take you away!

Men are visual creatures, and making a good first impression will take you far. But if you want more than a one-night-stand, you need to appeal to his desire to conquer you both physically and mentally. If you keep a verbal cat-and-mouse game going, he’s sure to ask you on a second date so he can try to extract more of your innermost secrets.

Here’s what I do…

Pick a few topics that you want to share – and fall back on if you find yourself in an awkward silence. Being prepared to talk about your vacation to Italy will keep you from blurting out something embarrassing or committing the greatest first-date sin of all – talking about an ex.

Make sure to check your chatterbox at the door. Nothing kills a date faster than when one person spends the whole time talking about themselves. If you know that you tend to talk more when you’re nervous, it’s even more important that you prepare yourself ahead of time.

When you do find yourself talking at great length about one subject, make sure that you are sharing the conversation and not lecturing. If your date starts to look bored, that’s a good sign that it’s time to slam on the breaks and give him a chance to talk.

Most important of all – make sure you listen to him. When you listen to what he says, you’re stroking his ego. And listening is the perfect time for some non-verbal flirting. Tilting your head show that you’re listening – and shows off the curve of your neck. Leaning toward him lets him know that you’re interested – and lets him get a glimpse of cleavage. Laughing at his jokes and smiling when he’s talking will only boost his self-confidence and make you that much more appealing to him.

The final secret to successful first date conversation: pick a few things about yourself that you don’t want to share, even if he asks. Throwing out a casual, “That’s a conversation for another time” will add to your air of mystery and tantalize his inner-predator.

But how do you go about it if you’ve never done it before?

One reason many women don’t try phone sex or dirty talk is because they are reserved and fear of failure stops them in their tracks before they can

even begin. The thought of ‘messing it up’ is so mortifying, that it prevents us from opening up a very sexy door in our relationship. We feel we will look silly, say the wrong thing, or screw it up so badly that we will send our lover running out the door.

Fortunately for us, the male mind is very easy to work with when it comes to phone sex and dirty talk. For men, the very idea of something suggestive is enough to get their motors running, and this is a concept that you can use to your advantage when initiating phone sex or dirty talk. Your job is only to plant the seed, get the idea in his head, and take it from there. Start by giving him an idea to work with, and he will ensure that the finish is wonderful for both of you.

When I am feeling a little shy, I like to use the dream scenario. Using dreams, or at least the idea of dreams, can be very arousing for men. When you tell a man that you have had a dream about him, he gets very excited at the thought that he has now entered your subconscious. When you tell a man that you’ve had a dirty dream about him, he won’t let it stop there, he WILL want to learn more.

Start off by telling your man you had a dream about him. Gage his response, it will likely be followed by ‘Oh REALLY?’ At this point you can tease him with it for as long as you like, send him text messages through the day giving him bits and pieces of this sexy story until the two of you are able to settle in for a nice long chat about it.

The dream scenario is almost foolproof when it comes to breaking the ice for phone sex or dirty talk for even the shyest girl. Even if you haven’t had a dream about your man, all you need to do is use one of the fantasies you’ve had about him, and turn that into a ‘dream story’.

You may be surprised with how easy phone sex and dirty talk really is. With this little push, you will be a pro at dirty talk in no time.

Before we get to the fun stuff, we need to take a quick look at the foods that may be getting in the way of you getting it on.

Heavy foods rich in cream or fat can send you and your lover straight to bed – passed out in a food coma! Foods that are high in sugar, salt and preservatives can also lead to a lack-luster libido.  As much as you or your lover may enjoy a hearty meal, if your goal for the evening is mind-blowing sex, you may want to avoid the belt-blowing foods.

When it comes to cocktails, the age-old wisdom holds true: enjoy in moderation. Drinking enough to put a bit of color in your cheeks should be all you need to relax and shed your inhibitions (and clothes!). Any more alcohol than that may just put you over the edge. Nothing kills the mood quicker than girls-gone-wild antics or – even worse – a visit to the porcelain goddess. So, watch your alcohol intake and make sure you know when

to say “no” so later in the evening you can be screaming “yes!”

As for the chocolate that I mentioned earlier: enjoy that in moderation as well. All you need is a taste to get your mouths watering for each other. Again – overindulging in sweets will keep you from indulging in each other.

Now, for the foods that can really kick your love making up a notch: fruits, vegetables, lean proteins and shellfish.

Yes, I know, it sounds like a grocery list from your personal trainer, but there is a reason that healthier foods increase your libido. These foods give your body what it needs to keep your heart pumping and blood flowing to all the right places.

Fruits contain antioxidants and fiber, vegetable contain important vitamins and minerals, and lean meats – again, enjoyed in moderation – can

provide you with a little protein-boost to lift your energy levels.  Don’t forget that nuts – ahem, the kind you find in the grocery store! – are another excellent source of protein.

And the rumors about oysters, it turns out, are true! They really can increase a man’s virility. Oysters contain zinc, a key mineral when it comes to testosterone production.

Pick out a few of your favorite foods from these categories, and spend a sensuous evening feeding each other bite by erotic bite. Food is a love language of its own, so the next time you want to spice things up, head to the kitchen and try making love from the lips down!

Read stories to get yourself in the mood, and then write one of your own. Make it a fantasy if you want, or write about something you and your lover did a few nights ago…you know, that thing that left you breathless and weak with pleasure? Write about it! Use as many descriptive words as you want. Talk about how it made you feel — both the physical reaction and the emotional one. Describe how you want to do it again, and what it would be like.

You can add all sorts of elements to your erotic story. Has your lover expressed a particular fantasy? Make it come true with your pen and paper! Is there something you’ve always wanted to try, or even some fantastic body-bending scenario that is physically impossible, but turns you on anyway? You might be surprised at how many people have fantasies that make little logical sense…but those fantasies make them hot regardless. Write it all down!

But that’s half of the battle. Once you have the story written the way you want, with all the little twists and turns you desire, it’s time to present it to your lover. How do you do that?

You read it to him!

Take the story to bed with you. Light some candles and relax with a glass of wine. In your best sultry, seductive voice, read your dirty story aloud. Put emphasis on the really naughty bits. Draw out the most tingle-worthy words. Make your partner feel what you’re saying…and while you’re reading, it’s a sure bet you will get just as turned on as he is!

So, what do you think…can you make it to the end of that story before one of you gives up and jumps the other? Why don’t you go find out?

But did you know the same old dirty talk can be brand new if you take it elsewhere?

This past weekend, my husband and I had a long drive ahead of us. We were teasing and playing like we usually do, occasionally copping a feel or saying things that were meant to make somebody blush. This time, however, my husband wasn’t in the waiting mood. So he pulled over at a little

motel, got a room, and ushered me inside.

During that hour or so that we were in the room, what drove me wild was what he had to say! It wasn’t anything unusual for us. It wasn’t anything so downright filthy that it shocked me. No, it was the same words I knew he loved to say, but when they were said in a different place, that passionate fire started raging!

Think about it. It’s one thing to hear your lover call you a slut when you’re in the comfort of your own bedroom…but when he called me his little whore while I was taking a good pounding on the dingy sheets of a seedy hotel room, I almost felt like a streetwalker. The setting was enough to make that dirty talk seem entirely fresh and new.

Of course, that led to a little role playing fantasy he didn’t expect:

“I’ll bet you do this all the time, don’t you?” I asked.

“Do what?”

“You’re such a man whore. You pick up chicks you don’t even know just to get your rocks off, don’t you?”

He got right into the spirit of the fantasy. “I don’t even know your name…unless ‘fucking slut’ counts.”

By the time we were done, we were both so turned on we had to go for another round…only this time I was playing the part of the amorous woman who had just picked a stranger up from a bar and taken him to that hotel room, where all I cared about was my own selfish whims…

You get the idea!

The change of scenery, the illicit thrill of stealing away to a hotel room, and the knowing smile of the guy behind the counter was enough to supercharge the dirty talk. We weren’t doing anything that we wouldn’t be doing at home! The atmosphere made all the difference.

The next time you want to spice things up and you are at a loss for how to do it, take your best sultry dirty talk voice to the local motel…and your lover will be oh-so-glad you did!

The words are: “I had a dream about us last night.”

Go on and try it out, and while you are waiting for the text that will come back, and it will, read the rest of this article to find out how to use these 8 words the most eff
This is a powerful phrase to say to any man, and the beauty of it is that no matter how shy you, or your man is, this phrase will be a great foundation to building an all new level in your relationship. There is not a man on the earth that will not want to know exactly what you did dream about, and how this included him….and the two of you.ectively.

The reason this dirty talk phrase works is that it has a powerful effect on the subconscious of your man’s brain. He is now enlightened to the fact that you are thinking of him in your subconscious as well, and there is no greater flattery to any man than knowing you are thinking of him, even when you are sleeping.

You may be in panic mode now thinking well, what now do I tell him? Think about it long and hard and you will realize that yes, you do dream about your man. Whether you do so while you are staring out the window mindlessly at work, or sitting at a red light in traffic, or even as a last drifting thought before you fall asleep, you do dream about him in more ways than you may realize. What is it that you are fantasizing about? Is it a sexy picnic in the country where things go a little further than expected? Or how about in the back of a crowded movie theater for a flick neither of you really wanted to see anyway. Or maybe you just dream about hot torrid nights with the two of you at home alone.

Whatever your dream is, find it, and when he asks, start off with an opening sentence. Don’t be surprised if that’s all you need to say. He will more than likely just take the ball from you and run with it.

Consider these gifts for your lover — and get ready for a mind-blowing time!

A vibrator. Yes, it seems like a typical kind of gift for sexy time, but consider purchasing a vibrator that has a very special feature or two. How about a 24 karat gold vibrator? They are available, and for only a few hundred dollars — much less than you might expect for something so opulent. The vibrating rubber ducky comes with a beautiful boa and a little diamond stud in her pretty beak, and can bring your partner to heights of orgasm in the tub. A creative vibrator is sure to score big points!

Fun lubes. Don’t go with the typical Astroglide or other recommended lubes…though they are tried and proven, they aren’t necessarily sexy. Look for lubes that tingle, warm up when they touch your skin, or even change colors with body heat. Flavored lubes are always good options if you prefer some oral action with your sex. Opt for those in sleek, sophisticated packaging to get bonus points for style.

A how-to book…for YOU. Show your partner how much you want to please them by purchasing a great how-to book and then trying out the tips you learn. Share with your partner what you’re doing, and ask for their guidance. Are you learning to give the best blow-job ever? How about the best cunnilingus? That how-to book will come in quite handy as you learn to give your lover the best of the best!

A pillow. Okay, we’ll be the first to admit, purchasing a pillow for your beloved might not be the first sexy idea that pops into your head. But a good, firm pillow will boost your sex life by boosting her hips, giving his knees a nice place to rest, and helping you both move into all sorts of interesting positions. You can even go further and purchase a pillow made specifically for sexual activity. Items such as The Liberator might look like a nice pillow on your couch, but they are actually designed to make sexual positions easier.

Need more ideas? Come back tomorrow for more ways to thrill your lover this Valentine’s Day!

A dirty book. Pick out a dirty book for your lover. If you are giving a gift to a guy, get something with lots of pictures to satisfy his visual side, and then act out each and every shot. If you’re giving a gift to a woman, find something with steamy erotica and read the hottest passages to her in b

ed. It’s sure to get you both going!

A private party at the strip club. It might be the last thing they expect, which is why it’s so hot. Rent out a room in the strip club and party away, just the two of you. Keep the drinks coming and let the girls enjoy making you both squirm. You might be inspired to try new, even naughtier things if you have the right kind of stripper to show you the way, so to speak. This works especially well for long-term couples who need a bit of spice and don’t mind a bit of jealousy thrown into the mix. Hey…it’s red hot!

Sexy coupons. Are you doing Valentine’s day on a budget…and you’re keen to do your lover? Offer sexy coupons that invite your lover to choose any flavor of sexual favor for their Valentine’s Day treat. Give them several — a dozen is a good number — and let them use them anytime they want. If they can talk you into using all dozen of them in the same night, well…you’ll have to make up a few more!

Massage candles. Enjoy the thrill of a massage and the taboo feeling of candle wax on your body at the same time. Massage candles look like the real thing and smell heavenly, but they burn down to a delicious oil that is slippery on the skin. Dripping warm massage oil onto someone’s body is a sure-fire way to get the mojo moving.

Chocolate paints. Chocolates are a classic Valentine’s Day treat, so why not modernize it with chocolate body paints instead? Draw all over each other and then lick the goodies off as you heat things up. These are not the sweet chocolates of yesteryear, and you’ll both be glad for your innovative, fun idea.

Now might be a good time to consider saying the one thing you’ve been avoiding…those three little words that mean so much, and can change a relationship forever.

Is it time for the L-word?

Telling someone you love them is not to be taken or given lightly. In a world where sex is easy to find and relationships are tough to maintain, inserting the word “love” into your conversation with your partner is much like jumping off the high dive. You are scared to death at first, but once you do it, you realize the water really does feel just fine, after all.

How can you incorporate that scary word into your conversation without freaking your lover out? The truth is, there isn’t much chance of that. Telling someone you love them will either make or break your relationship, so evaluate the situation long and hard before you take that leap. For instance, telling your fuck buddy you love them might lead to serious consequences, since there was probably an understanding from the beginning. But if you are dating and you are both free to make a deeper commitment, hearing the words “I love you” could launch your new relationship into a serious, enduring bond.

So how do you say it? Valentine’s Day is the best time to declare your love, and there are so many different ways to do it! A favorite is telling your lover while you are in bed together, especially if the lovemaking is fraught with emotion and caring. You can always say it in a card, spell it out with chocolates, or write it on the mirror in bright red lipstick. You can whisper it in her ear or shout it out loud in public — though the shouting part shouldn’t take place unless you know just how she is going to react!

If you’re not quite ready to say the big word yet, tell your partner that you’re close. “I could fall in love with you right now,” is a good way to give a heads-up without freaking them out completely, and it allows both of you the chance to cool things if you feel you’re moving too fast.

Are you ready to take advantage of the day of Love? The most romantic dirty talk ever is made up of three little words. Is it time to take it to the next level?

You know them when you see them. They are the couple that has been together for so long, they can read each other’s thoughts. They might not say a word at the breakfast table, but their looks at each other over the morning paper speaks volumes. They are the ones who touch without realizing they

 
You know them when you see them. But do you know their secret? Do you know how they became so close? How can you capture some of that intimacy for yourself and your lover?do it, who anticipate each other’s needs, and who have a sexual chemistry between them that crackles like fire in a dark room.

Here’s the secret to the happiest couples:

They talk.

They communicate. They pay attention to each other. They talk through things when they come up, they hash out problems as they arise, and they head off most serious problems at the pass by talking about them before they ever come up, and establishing a game plan on how to handle it. They discuss everything, from the simplest of life’s pleasures to the most serious social issues. They know where they stand with each other.

That’s where dirty talk comes in. It’s not just all fun and games in the bedroom – though it certainly is fun, isn’t it? Dirty talk serves a larger purpose than just spiking up your sex life and making your naughty moments hotter than ever. Dirty talk is another avenue for loving couples to express themselves and talk about what they want.

Desires and fantasies reveal quite a bit about a person, and if you know those little secrets to unlock your lover’s passion, your sex life is hot. But did you ever think about how much better it makes your life outside of the bedroom?

The increased intimacy between the two of you spills over into everything else you do. Suddenly you see your lover in a different light. Even the little things take on a richer meaning. You share an intimate secret now – you know something about his innermost thoughts that no one else does. That kind of secret between the two of you is a sweet thing that leads to even more openness, trust and sharing.

The more you share with your partner, the better you know him. The better you know him, the more you understand the things he does – even during those times when you don’t agree with him. You have more patience with him. In turn, he has more to tell you, and now that he knows he can be open with you, he will tell you even more.

Dirty talk leads to all of this! So don’t consider dirty talk to be just another part of your sexual arsenal. Recognize it for the powerful bonding it is, and relish the fact that you now know the secret to happy couples – and with the help of all that increased communication and intimacy, you ARE one of the happy couples!

1. The Hand Job. No, this isn’t what you think it is. Your hands are extensions of you, and speak a lot about you. You can flirt very easily with your hands by touching the rim of your drink, the sleeve of your blouse, etc. If you are feeling a bit brave, use your hands on him in subtle sexy manners. There’s the infamous “nonexistent fluff on the collar” trick, or you can be a little less brazen and simply accidentally brush him when you grab the salt. What your hands should NOT be doing are clenching, tapping, wringing, drumming, or anything that signals nervousness.

2. Posture. You want your posture to be open to his communication. Feet flat on the floor with your torso towards him. Leaning forward is a great cue that signals attraction and interest, as is crossing and uncrossing your legs and tilting your head.

3. Monkey see, monkey do. Do what he does, it’s called mirroring. If he leans his arm on the table, do the same. If he leans back, do the same. And don’t look too obvious about it. This sends an unconscious cue to him that you are into him and attentive.

4. Watch the substances. Again, too much drinking or chain smoking with your mate will not allow you to conduct your body language moves. As well, you don’t want to be too focused on food if you are dining out, it isn’t very attractive. Keep cool and collected and follow his cues.

5. Lastly, if you are trying all of these steps and getting nothing, abort the mission. Some men just can’t be trained.

Talking dirty to your partner can increase your sexual satisfaction. By telling your lover exactly what feels good and describing in detail what you want him to do, you are sure to reach a higher level of sexual pleasure. The better the satisfaction, the more health benefits.

Sexual satisfaction equates to all sorts of good things. You get a good workout in the midst of lovemaking, especially when things get hot and heavy. Being in bed with your lover brings a sense of excitement, but it also brings a sense of comfort and peace — you’re with someone who cares about you, and in his presence, you can relax. The orgasm that your lover helps you reach will relax you even further.

In fact, orgasm does some great things all on its own. Other than the obvious, of course! It’s a surefire stress reliever, and we all know that reducing stress is key to living a longer, healthier life. It is also a pain reliever; when you orgasm, endorphins are released, which can cure anything from the little aches and pains to a migraine. In addition, sex with a few good orgasms has been proven to improve circulation, boost your immune system and put you in a much better mood.

Dirty talk leads to all this! When you tell your partner exactly what you want in bed, your chances of an orgasm increase. When you show your partner what you want, the chances go up even more. Dirty talk isn’t just a naughty addition to sex, it’s an essential communication!

Besides that, talking dirty to your partner brings you closer together. It gives you both a secret to keep away from the rest of the world. You might be entirely presentable in public, a perfectly modest picture, but your lover knows what a vixen you are in bed. No one else knows what he does! What would his friends think — or your boss, your coworkers, even your family — if they knew those naughty things that came out of your mouth last night?

The fun part of it is that they don’t know — but HE does. You’ve trusted your lover to hear you talk that way, and that gives you a deeper bond than what you had before you crawled between the sheets. That connection is good for your relationship!

The more content you are in your relationship, the better your health will be. Being with your lover will make you feel happier, will reduce stress and even bring more excitement to your life.

See how dirty talk is good for you? Why not try it out tonight and start reaping the benefits — especially those naughty ones — right away?

Autumn is here, as is Halloween, everyone’s favorite holiday to get naughty, and everyone’s favorite night to take off the warm clothing and dress as provocatively as possible. Regardless of how you dress, it’s always about the party and the people around you. So take off that sweater and light the Jack o’ Lantern. It’s time to host a Sexy Halloween Party.

Invitations – If you want to get into some real debauchery, it’s always best to invite willing participants; people who are willing to follow the rules of the theme. Singles are probably best, as couples tend to blow up in the face of jealousy. However, there are plenty of swingers and people in open relationships in your circle of friends, so be sure to ask beforehand. Don’t let anybody get scared away from your sexy Halloween Party.

Atmosphere – Halloween is a dark holiday, so the less artificial lighting you use could prove to be essential. Use a plethora of scented candles. Play some old, dark, classical music in the background and maybe show some soft-core porn on the TV with the volume off. Make the room mystifying and serene. Allow for the sexiness of the Halloween party to overtake everyone, so everyone feels comfortable and willing.

Costumes – As was stated before, this is an erotic occasion and you do want everyone dressing as sexy as their mind can take them. But if you really want to bring out the mystery in the event, have all your guests wear masks (think Stanley Kubrick’s “Eyes Wide Shut”), never revealing their names, and have them try to guess with whom they’re about to have a sexual encounter.

Play Games – There are tons of erotic games out there to keep the party fun and help your guests get to know each other. Play pin the tail on the French maid (granted there’s a French maid there), or challenge each other to body shots of the rock hard surgeon. Have contests for biggest breasts, biggest bulge, hottest ass, etc. Play a huge game of spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven. Be a horny teenager again and have fun!

Porn isn’t just for men anymore. Now there are films geared toward women and couples, and they include every kind of sex you can imagine. If you aren’t sure what kind of fetish would trip your man’s trigger, start with a few of those movies.

Once the creative juices get flowing, you will abandon the films and come up with naughty scenarios of your own!