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SUPPORT BROOKLYN ARTS EXCHANGE: BID ON THEIR ONLINE AUCTION!

2009-12-07T11:23:00.002-05:00

Just in time for your holiday shopping, the BAX Holiday Online Auction is open! The auction will close on Friday, December 18th at 11PM. We are raising much needed funds for our programs and services, and this is an easy way to keep the arts alive!

CLICK HERE TO VIEW THE AUCTION

There are tons of incredible deals sure to fit every budget size. Some featured items include:

Apple iPod Touch
4 VIP Tickets to the Daily Show with Jon Stewart
Dinner for Two at Prune Restaurant
American Girl Doll
Pilates Classes
Reserved tickets for Shakespeare in the Park (No waiting in line!)
Autographed print of a New Yorker cover by J.J. Sempe
Private Tour of the Museum of Modern Art (MOMA)
Great travel destinations to Chicago, Key West, and the Caribbean
Tickets to the TONY Awards
And so much MORE (no really, so much more!)

This is a fantastic auction - click here now to view the catalogue.

LET THE BIDDING BEGIN
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CHECK OUT BAM'S SESAME STREET FILM FESTIVAL!

2009-12-04T09:23:00.004-05:00

Did you know that Sesame Street is celebrating its 40th anniversary?

Would you like to participate in this momentous occasion?

Come out out to the Brooklyn Academy of Music's BAM Rose Cinema next weekend. On Saturday, December 12 and Sunday December 13, they will be showing a series of Sesame-related films, most of which are 90 minutes long.

Click HERE for the Calendar, then click on "12" to view Saturday's films, and then "13" to view Sunday's films.

If you're someone who likes the "insider scoop," make sure to get tix to the 6:50 Saturday show of The World According to Sesame Street. It's followed by a Q & A session with the directors.

THE POSITIVE POWER OF ACTIVISM

2009-12-04T07:49:00.005-05:00

Reprinted from Buenos Padres; Photo Credit: Alex Gallardo, Los Angeles Times

In mid-September, the Los Angeles Unified School District notified Christina Gutierrez (better known as Miss G. to her students) that she would be laid off from Hamilton High School due to low seniority. For Gutierrez, the news came as a unwanted surprise. "I felt railroaded," she told the Los Angeles Times. "I saw something in the mail and my heart dropped."

However, for this Humanities assistant's students, her removal from the school became an opportunity to forcefully, yet peacefully, let their voices be heard. On her last day of work, 500 students of this culturally diverse school (44% of the student body is Hispanic, 33% Black, 17% White and 5% Asian) organized a sit-in protest as a means of communicating their disapproval of the decision reached.

The protest was much more than a poorly organized brouhaha. A group of 4 students and friends, Noemi Rodriguez, Jimmy Biblarz, David Kamins, and Maya Festinger, teleconferenced twice a week, figuring out logistics and investigating rules and regulations. Via word of mouth, the four students publicized the event and the day of the protest they distributed informational handouts for all the protesters.

As they lined the halls the day of Miss. G's departure, the students knew not to block any exits or disrupt traffic circulation in the building. They also cleverly found a diplomatic way of avoiding the Principal's requests to keep quiet: they started to snap. By the end of the day, the students had gathered 300 letters in support of Gutierrez and felt proud of having successfully completed the job.

However, these student rabble rousers soon realized that their efforts had still fallen short of stimulating a reintegration of their beloved teacher into the school. They knew they needed to do more and, in an unexpected twist of fate, they were presented with the solution.

During Miss G.'s absence from Hamilton High, she took a substitute teaching job in an elementary school while her replacement prefered to work at an elementary school. For the students, the answer was simple: why not switch the two teachers?

With that in mind, they once again geared up and prepared to present their solution at a school district board meeting. As with the protest, the young men and women looked through videos and researched on how to defend their case in the most professional manner. Maya Festinger, one of the student protesters, told the Los Angeles Times, "We want to create a legitimate student representation. We don't want to be belligerent or bludgeoning. A lot of what we are about is proposing solutions, rather than listing grievances."

The students moved and impressed the board members so much that, in an unsual move, they conceded and allowed Miss Gutierrez to return to Hamilton High.

According to Miss Gutierrez, this moment serves as a source of empowerment for the students, of whom she is incredibly proud. The students of Hamilton High prove that anything is possible with a little dedication, organization, intelligence and a lot of heart.

FRANK BIANDO: MAYOR OF SESAME STREET

2009-12-03T18:56:00.002-05:00

How I Got to Frank

I’m about to finish conducting my interview with Kevin Clash, longtime Muppeteer of Elmo and a Co-Producer of Sesame Street. “You know who you should interview next?” Kevin says. “Franky. Frank Biando. He’s the cameraman on Sesame Street and even though he’s behind the scenes, he shapes the mood and the feeling on the set.”

So I call Frank and he tells me he’s filming a show, not Sesame Street, but a special offshoot, When Parents Are Deployed. He’s going to be at the Unitel Building on West 57th Street. Could I come up there while he’s filming to watch and to talk? “Sure thing,” I say. How could I pass up a chance to see Frank and Muppeteers in action? I’ve only dreamed of this moment since I was six years old.

I get to the Unitel Building and wind my way back to where they’re filming. Kevin Clash is there, directing and also playing Elmo, and Fran Brill is playing Elmo’s mom. Costume folks are stitching up Muppets and their outfits, and other folks are painting and repairing sets. Frank’s filming and within minutes of our first interaction, I can see why he is known as The Mayor. He greets me warmly, and, in between takes, he comes to the back of the stage where I am standing to chat with me about his work and personal history. He is warm, funny, engaging, talkative, totally unpretentious. He starts in right away with the beginning…..

How Frank Got to Sesame Street

Once upon a time, cameraman Frank Biando was used to filming big names in show business – Barbara Streisand and Merv Griffin, to name a few. Imagine his shock when he found himself filming, in his own words, “A freakin’ eight-foot bird” and “an orange Muppet in a garbage can.” It was the late 60s and Frank had been brought on set to film the pilot of a new television show after the original filming company had gone on strike.

The show was Sesame Street, and no one knew just how big the show was going to be, including Frank. According to Mr. Biando, the early incarnations of Sesame Street characters were not so great-looking. “Big bird looked a lot different then. His head was whacked out.” Frank was filming these funky-looking characters, wondering “Who in the world is going to watch this stuff?” Thirty-nine years later, working for a show that is televised in 120- plus countries, he has his answer.

How Frank Got Elected to Mayor

Frank has met a lot of creative people in the course of his 39 years of work on the most famous street in the world. He’s interacted and cooperated with thousands of production people, directors, actors, and Muppeteers. But to Frank, those thousands are not just a sea of nameless faces; they are faces with stories and Frank loves to tell their stories. And that’s why Frank is Mayor of Sesame Street: because he uses story-telling to keep the history of the show alive, to weave the moments and the people from past and present together.

Frank is Mayor, too, because he is the one that comes up with the “crazy ideas” that keep people on the set connected to one another. One time, he got cast and crew to bring in baby pictures and guess who was who. He has organized wrap parties where the cast members got to show off their various talents. He created Frankly, Frankly Have I Got a Deal for You – a newsletter for people who work on the show. Frankly was a home-grown publication that included recipes, classified ads, jokes of the week, and letters from the show’s Executive Director. Frank also helped start a nonprofit organization called Make a Kid Smile. With Elmo dolls in tow, he and his family members visit and brighten the days of children hospitalized with serious illnesses.

Where Did Frank Come From?

Having spent his youth surrounded by lots of relatives, it’s not surprising that Frank knows how to create a sense of family among a sizable group of people. He was the eldest of 16 grandchildren and named after a grandfather who came to the U.S. from Sicily. Frank remembers that his grandpa -- a father of nine -- smoked cigars, used a spittoon, made his own wine, and always paid home visits to grandchildren when they were sick. Frank’s grandmother made Sicilian pizza every Sunday night for the entire family.

Frank remembers another part of growing up: dancing. He’d go to church dances, where he did the Cha Cha, the Mambo, and the Lindy. After joining the US Navy at 17, he taught dance classes in the USO in exchange for meals. In his present day life, Frank liked to dance out in Long Island. He describes himself as “a 50s dancer who dances to live band music.” If there’s a dance he doesn’t know, Frank makes a point of learning it. Not long ago, he went and took lessons to learn how to do the Hustle.

It’s A Wrap

After the shoot is done, Frank invites me to have lunch with him and the crew. He and some of his co-workers start telling funny stories about their years together on set and teasing each other good-naturedly about challenging times they’ve gone through. Chuck, one of Frank’s longest-time buddies there, remembers when the two of them set off together to film the Daytona 500, each being assigned to catch the race from a different angle.

After they've reminisced for a while, I say to Chuck and Frank: “You two have seen a lot.” Frank’s reply? “If we died now, we wouldn’t have missed much.” It’s so clear that Frank’s a man who feels full, full and grateful for all the people and stories and Muppets and children and actors whose lives he has been part of over the last four decades. And I realize that Sesame Street would be a very different place without him.

Labels: Frank Biando, Sesame Street

3 Comments:

At 9:54 AM, Joe Hennes said...: Hi Eleanor,

I just wanted to say that I loved the Frank Biondo article. It's always nice to see more interviews with the Sesame veterans.

Cheers!

Joe Hennes
http://www.toughpigs.com
At 10:27 AM, Rob K said...: Great story, Eleanor. Frank's comments are very inspirational.
At 4:04 PM, Pat said...: Hi Eleanor
I enjoyed this post very much! Frank Biando sounds like a very interesting person. I've been a long time muppet fan myself so it's nice to learn a little about the man behind the camera.
Pat ( another blogger from Brooklyn)

FINISHED!

2009-12-02T18:03:00.002-05:00

Every year, I send an end-of-the year card to friends, family, colleagues, and clients. I pick a non-religious card - sometimes, like this year, a non holiday-related card, and also write an alphabetized list of some of the year's highlights.

It all takes time to do, but it is gratifying to think about each person that adds to the richness of my life as I address the envelopes.

Whether you send 5, 50, or 500 holiday cards, make it an exercise in reflecting on and expressing gratitude for every person who makes your life the great adventure that it is.

FROM DAILY OM: EVERYTHING YOU DO MATTERS (THE RIPPLE EFFECT)

2009-12-01T08:13:00.003-05:00

Reprinted from Daily Om

In a world of six billion people, it’s easy to believe that the only way to initiate profound transformation is to take extreme action. Each of us, however, carries within us the capacity to change the world in small ways for better or worse. Everything we do and think affects the people in our lives, and their reactions in turn affect others. As the effect of a seemingly insignificant word passes from person to person, its impact grows and can become a source of great joy, inspiration, anxiety, or pain. Your thoughts and actions are like stones dropped into still waters, causing ripples to spread and expand as they move outward. The impact you have on the world is greater than you could ever imagine, and the choices you make can have far-reaching consequences. You can use the ripple effect to make a positive difference and spread waves of kindness that will wash over the world.

Should the opportunity arise, the recipient of a good deed will likely feel compelled to do a good deed for someone else. Someone feeling the effects of negative energy will be more likely to pass on that negative energy. One act of charity, one thoughtful deed, or even one positive thought can pass from individual to individual, snowballing until it becomes a group movement or the ray of hope that saves someone’s life. Every transformation, just like every ripple, has a point of origin. You must believe in your ability to be that point of origin if you want to use the ripples you create to spread goodness. Consider the effect of your thoughts and actions, and try to act graciously as much as possible.

A smile directed at a stranger, a compliment given to a friend, an attitude of laughter, or a thoughtful gesture can send ripples that spread among your loved ones and associates, out into your community, and finally throughout the world. You have the power to touch the lives of everyone you come into contact with and everyone those people come into contact with. The momentum of your influence will grow as your ripples moves onward and outward. One of those ripples could become a tidal wave of positivity.

TWO WONDERFUL GENTLEMEN IN THE WEST VILLAGE

2009-11-30T21:07:00.008-05:00

Tonight's adventures reminded me of the importance of getting out of my geographical routine. I tend to travel in my own Brooklyn neighborhood; Soho and sometimes Chinatown; and the Upper West Side.

Mike and I met friends in The West Village. Having just had a long dental procedure, I sought out comfort through a cup of gelato at Cones Ice Cream Artisans on 272 Bleecker Street. Since the store was pretty quiet on a cold winter's night, I ended up having the greatest time hanging out with Raul Daloisio, the owner. We chatted about all the different kinds of customers that come in, including celebreties and financial wizards and theater producers; different ice cream joints around New York; and social networking. Raul admits to being low tech: he has no website or email address.

I told him about my blog and how I thought social networking could benefit him. Truly, though,I could see that Raoul does a good business not just because of the yummy treats that are made fresh daily on the premesis but also because he connects so genuinely on a personal level with his customers. I would come back again just to say "Hi" and hear about his interesting adventures as the owner of Cones.

After departing from Cones, I proceeded down the street to bookbook. This bookstore, formerly known as Biography Bookshop, lost its lease and is now located under a new name at 266 Bleecker. I was warmly greeted by Frank Baldaro, a sales associate. Like Raul over at Cones, Frank was delightful to chat with, and he showed me some wonderful books in the cookbook section. One was called The Fat Duck Cookbook which looks more like an art book. The other gem was Cake Wrecks: When Professional Cakes Go Hilariously Wrong. Frank and I stood there laughing as we looked at photos of cakes made with disastrous outcomes.

Even though neither one of these stores is super-techy in terms of having web sites, blogs, or Twitter and Facebook accounts, I truly appreciated the old-fashion hospitality and small-town friendliness which each proprietor extended. That's what makes a place worth returning to, much more than any number of Tweets that they could send.

The personal touch wins every time!

INVITATION TO THIS THURSDAY'S "RABBIS, GOATS & OTHER CHARACTERS"

2009-11-30T07:58:00.004-05:00

Jonathan Blum: Rabbis, Goats and Other CharactersYou are cordially invited to the opening reception of my most ambitious exhibition to date.

Rabbis, Goats and other Characters: Paintings from Jonathan Blum's First Decade in New York: (1999-2009).

OPENING RECEPTION AND AFTERPARTY IS THIS THURSDAY, DECEMBER 3RD, 2009

FROM 6:30pm to 2:30am.

All the action will take place at The Green Building: 450 Union Street (corner of Bond St.) Brooklyn, NY. on the Gowanus Canal.

This will be a great night. Come anytime and plan to stay late if possible. There is a great line up of performers playing throughout the evening. They are all incredible and each one has had an influence on me in some way.

6:30-9:15 Charles Sibirsky Trio with Lena Bloch and Dan Schuman
9:15-9:30 Barry Blumenfeld (from TAPFUSION) with Nir Sadovnik
9:30-10:00 MC and DJ Andy Gensler
10:00-10:45 Jeremiah Lockwood (from Sway Machinery)
10:45-11:15 DJ Baxter
11:15-12:00 Daniel Kelly Trio with Eyal Maoz and Rob Garcia
12:00-12:30 DJ Gensler and/or DJ Baxter
12:30-1:15 Raul Rothblatt introducing Transylvania United with Sarah Alden and Aron Szekely
1:15-1:45 Josh Diamond
1:45-till the end DJ Gensler and/or DJ Baxter

The show will run through Jan 14th and can be seen every Sunday and Thursday from 12 to 6 pm or by appointment.

www.jonathanblumportraits.com

INSPIRATION TO DE-CLUTTER

2009-11-28T07:40:00.006-05:00

Love this message below from Daily Om about Clearing Away the Unnecessary.

And, by the way, if you need some moral support and an extra pair of hands with Clearing Away the Unnecessary - be it clothing that no longer fits/looks good on you; papers that are no longer relevant to your life; books that you no longer read - I'm here to help!

Start the New Year off with a clean slate! Email me, EleanorTraubman, Professional Organizer to Busy New York Women since 1999.

I can be reached at: ETraubman@aol.com

A clutter-free life is only a step away!

CLEARING AWAY THE UNNECESSARY
(Reprinted from Daily Om)

You may enjoy strong self-discipline which enables you to complete your tasks in record time today. With this level of dedication to getting things done, you could make great progress in both your professional and personal endeavors. Even better, you can take this focus to the next level by turning your attention to activities that would ultimately make your life easier later on, such as organizing and de-cluttering your surroundings. If you take some time to think about the areas of your life where you need to be most productive, you will find many opportunities to transform your workflow into one that is easy and unobstructed. In order to make room for this new easy flow, consider clearing away the unnecessary in all aspects of your life today, including professional, domestic, financial, spiritual, and emotional.

Clearing away objects and habits that no longer serve our highest good can make room for more beneficial circumstances to enter. We are accumulators by nature, consistently adding to our store of provisions, collections, tools, and knowledge. Though our store of items can help us feel secure, we can also reach a point when our cluttered surroundings become overwhelming and restrictive. Choosing to clear away the unnecessary things in our lives can instantly lift our moods and energize us, improve our productivity, and create openings for greater abundance to enter our lives. By releasing that which no longer serves you today, you can create a lighter and more productive environment that enhances all aspects of your life.

FRAN BRILL: THE FIRST LADY OF SESAME STREET

2009-11-27T20:12:00.002-05:00

I am reposting this piece in honor of Sesame Street's 40th anniversary.

“And now, I’d like to introduce a special guest,” announced Fran Brill to the group gathered around the conference table. She seemed to be concluding a presentation about her career in television so I was surprised that someone else would be appearing on the agenda. I waited, expecting Fran to beckon one of us at the table to come forward. Instead, she reached downward, below the table. When her arm came up, she was joined by long-time Sesame Street muppet Prairie Dawn. Using a high-pitched voice, Fran infused the Sesame character with life. Prairie Dawn fielded questions from the audience. “Who is your favorite friend on Sesame Street?” I asked Prairie. “Oh,” she said, “I like Grover and Cookie Monster but I don’t have favorites. I like everybody!”

Fran Brill, the first female muppeteer hired by Jim Henson, has been on the set of Sesame Street nearly all of its 38 years. Here’s the big surprise: Fran didn’t play with puppets as a child. Her primary passion and training was in theatre, starting from when she stole the show in a play that her Brownie troupe performed. In her teens, Fran performed in summer stock and also interned at the Bucks County Playhouse. As a young adult, she chose to attend Boston University College of Fine Arts for its strong theatre department. There, Fran received classical theatre training and also participated in regional theatre.

Fran’s first big acting job was in a theater in Atlanta, where she performed in an original show called Red, White and Maddox. Red was a musical satire of a Georgia governor who wouldn’t serve people of color in his famous restaurant, the Pickrick Cafeteria. In 1969, the show moved to Broadway. Like all Broadway shows, it came to an end and Fran found herself looking for work in The Big Apple. By day, she’d make rounds to the agents with eight- by -ten photos in hand. In the late afternoon, she’d arrive home exhausted and in need of cheering up. Watching Sesame Street and Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood seemed to do the trick.

“Watching those shows, I’d think ‘I could do those voices,’” shared Fran. She had already done radio commercials and voiceover work. In 1970, one of Fran’s agents pointed to an ad in Backstage, which announced Jim Henson’s search for muppeteers for a Christmas television special. Fran called Jim. “I can do the voices,” she said. Jim let her know he didn’t work that way: muppeteers did the voices for their own characters. Interested in her theatre background, Jim invited Fran to come for a workshop in the East Village. Under the tutelage of Jim, Jerry Nelson, and Frank Oz, Fran underwent intense training in the skills of muppeteering. In the end, she made the cut, and was asked to muppeteer in the Christmas special.

From the Christmas special, Fran and Richard Hunt were asked to be in the core group of muppeteers. Fran agreed, with the condition that she could continue to act in plays, musicals, and commercials. Jim agreed, and Fran was on her way to Sesame Street.

Fran remembers well the sparks that ignited Sesame Street. The initial collaborators included “The Four Js”: television producer Joan Ganz Cooney, writer Jon Stone, composer Joe Raposo, and, of course, Jim Henson. With the Head Start Initiative newly underway, the ground was ripe for a show that would educate children about numbers, letters, and other early childhood concepts. The show utilized the format of both magazines and commercials by featuring a combination of live action footage, animation, and muppet inserts. Fran describes the formative years of Sesame as “a rarefied experience in a rarefied atmosphere” and “the perfect storm.” “They invented the wheel as they went along,” she shared. “Nobody thought that the show would be a juggernaut.”

In terms of her own role on the show, Fran started out as Ernie’s right hand – literally. A muppet generally needs two people, one person to operate the head, left hand, and voice and another person to operate the right hand. Eventually, Fran helped create and inhabit a new character - Prairie Dawn. Twenty years down the road, when the show’s producers wanted a female equivalent of Elmo, theyworked with Fran to fashion the character of Zoe. The characters, Fran says, represent different facets of her personality. Her job, as the muppeteer, is to channel "the spirit and personality that lives inside of the puppet."

True to the spirit of Sesame Street, Fran views her role as muppeteer as an ongoing process of growth and education. “I’m constantly learning, trying to be better, trying to please myself.” Fran shares that she strives to be as truthful as possible in her roles – not an easy task since she’s got just her hand and her voice to make the essence of a character shine through. Fran also reflects on the larger experience of being part of Sesame Street. “We’re inheritors, or seeds of Jim Henson,” she relays. She explains how the warmth, compassion, and empathy of the crew, cast, and content of Sesame are reflective of Jim. He was, Fran relays, a man who never raised his voice, never lost his temper, just worked off of praise and respect. “He brought out the best in you as a human and as a performer.” The gentleness, humanity, cross-generational appeal, humor, love, and global concern in Sesame Street was, according to Fran, “Jim Henson’s way of changing the world.”

While Jim firmly remains a legend in the mind of Fran and countless others, Fran herself has clearly won the esteem, love and respect of her audiences. On Fran’s birthday, folks logged onto Muppet Central Forum to share these sentiments with her:

“Happy Birthday Fran Brill, and thanks for all the wonderful characters you’ve given us over the years!”

“Eeeeeeey!! Franny!! You go, girl!”

“As well as continued success with the muppets, I hope to see you performing in tv and movies. You’ve contributed a lot to the entertainment world.”

“Yay! Happy Birthday, Fran!” Hope you’re as blessed as you’ve made us all feel over the years! Thanks.”

“Frog bless you for all the fun and magic you’ve brought into our lives.”

Meeting Fran in person, watching her interact with her fans, and seeing her in action as a muppeteer, I got a clear picture of why she has won the affection of so many people. She is incredibly hard-working, loyal, funny, intelligent, cultured, and down-to-earth. Her lack of pretense is notable: she exhibits a complete willingness to share the events of her professional history without sparing any of the less-than-glamorous details. She does not see herself as separate from or better than her audience. In the end, it comes as no surprise that Prairie Dawn (a/k/a Fran) likes and gets along with all her friends on Sesame Street. She’s a living legend, and a lovable one at that.

PINK-PAGED WEDDING TOAST

2009-11-26T19:49:00.008-05:00

One of the highlights of our small wedding was the toasts that people made - so heartfelt they were.

At one point during the reception dinner, I went over to my woman of honor, Cecilia, and she held up a pink piece of folded-over paper with two pieces of toast drawn on it. She said "This is for the toasts." I laughed, and felt so happy she was there with me and Mike.

Here is page 4 of her pink-paged toast:

I am so happy to be here today with all of you to celebrate Mike and Eleanor's love and commitment to each other. So I'll end by sharing 2 quotes on love.

The first is by the psychoanalyst and alchemist Carl Jung:

"The meeting of 2 personalities is like the contact of 2 chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed."

The second is by the painter Marc Chagall:

"Only love interests me, and I am only in contact with things that revolve around love."

Thank you, Cecilia, for your beautiful toast!

IT REALLY DID HAPPEN

2009-11-26T19:40:00.005-05:00

After enjoying an outstanding Thanksgiving dinner prepared by Mike, I asked him what some of his personal highlights from the wedding were. I shared some, too.Then he asked "Can you believe we got married?" I replied "No, it seems surreal." Then we received photos taken by the photographer at Grand Opening, the wedding venue. Those made it more real.

Here's Mike and me right in front of the venue. The bouquets were made by my dear friend and woman of honor, Cecilia Andre.

FINDING UNQUALIFIED HAPPINESS

2009-11-26T07:27:00.009-05:00

Reprinted from Daily Om

Since most of our experiences are rooted in cause and effect, we naturally want to justify our contentment. We envision grand circumstances, stating that if only we could achieve this goal or obtain that possession, we would finally be in a position to attain happiness. As a result, satisfaction is always just out of reach and the very notion of grabbing hold of it seems like nothing more than a pipe dream. But the truth is that sincere contentment and fulfillment are never wholly the result of external events or situations. Though life’s joyful moments can ignite the spark of contentment within us, that spark is fueled by serenity long established in our souls. When we forget this, it is easy to become stuck in "if only" patterns of thought. If we concentrate on the natural serenity that exists within us, however, we can move forward unimpeded by disappointment.

The circumstances you live through each day have the potential to bring both joy and despair into your life. Relying on the reactions they awaken within you to create an emotional foundation means living on a roller coaster of feeling whose course is determined by chance. Though you may yearn for the object of your desire—be it a new job, financial health, a spouse, or some other symbol of success—you have within you the power to be happy without it. Letting go of your "if only" thinking patterns can be as easy as recognizing that inward emptiness cannot be dispelled with outer world solutions. Try creating a list of your “if only”s. Then literally and figuratively let go of the items on the list by tearing it up or burning it. This simple action can help set in motion the intention to set you free, enabling you to make a fresh and balanced start in the present, unencumbered by regrets and unfulfilled desires.

There will likely be periods in your life in which you find yourself tempted to seek a magic formula for fulfillment that is centered upon a single goal or achievement. But the ingredients that come together to form the seeds of happiness that can sustain your spirit throughout the triumphs and trials of existence come from within rather than from without. When your search for satisfaction is focused on your soul, you will never fail to find the joy you seek.

What do you think?

STUFF I AM GRATEFUL FOR THIS THANKSGIVING

2009-11-25T20:42:00.003-05:00

1. The lovely wedding I had last weekend!

2. A fun, caring group of friends

3. My terrific husband - Mike!

4. A loving, supportive family

5. An apartment in a quiet, homey neighborhood

6. All the cute dogs in New York! Especially the ones I get to pet!

7. Getting to swim at the YMCA

8. Getting to live in such a vibrant part of the country - NEW YORK!

9. Creativity! Love! Glitter! Fairies! Dachsunds! The Westminster Dog Show! Old school hip hop! Puffy paint! Stationary stores!

10. Shaun the Sheep from Wallace and Grommit (see picture above)

BEFORE, DURING, AFTER-WEDDING HIGHLIGHTS

2009-11-22T19:54:00.004-05:00

Thursday, Nov.19th: Had pre-wedding jitters all day at work. Listened to fun stories of other peoples' weddings. Wonderful co-workers gave me good-bye/pre-wedding hugs and wished me well. On the way home, bought flowers and candles for the apartment. Made a mini wedding altar on our kitchen table. Put out pink monkey and Kermit the Frog stuffed animals and had them hold the ring boxes.

Friday, Nov.20th: Took day off of work to prepare mentally and physically. Got manicure and pedicure. Took short trip to SoHo. Got lots of nice phonecalls from family and friends. Walked around neighborhood with Mike and went to the dinner with him. Mopped the floor. Laid out wedding clothes.

Saturday, Nov. 21st - Wedding Day: Gorgeous, sunny and brisk weather! Took walk. Got phone call from great aunt in LA. Had turkey sandwich. Met friend Melissa at beauty salon. Got way way girlified. Got home. Freaked out a bit about girlification. (I usually wear no makeup and sport running shoes.)

Watched Charlie Brown Thanksgiving Special on video while Mike took a power nap.

Called parents while freaking out. (Little did I know, they were here in NY getting ready to go to the wedding!) Got picked up by car service. Picked up friends John and Colleen. Proceeded to Lower East Side. Got there way early. Walked around with J and C. Went back to wedding venue. Greeted friends. And...........suprise! Parents flew out from Cally to be with us!

Got hitched. First dance to Shining Star by The Manhattans. Walked over to Frankie's to have dinner with the group, a small group of guests. Lovely, heartfelt toasts!

Took cab home. Took hot bath. Opened presents with Mike. Talked about highlights of the day.

Only slept about five hours~

Sunday, Nov.22nd - Day After Wedding - Met parents and cousin at MOMA. They wouldn't take parents' luggage, so we ate at an old hotel in the area. Very fun! Dad showed us pics of wedding on his mini laptop.

Parents left for airport.

Mike and I walked around 5th Avenue, trying to figure out where to register. Saw holiday window displays. Ate giant pretzel. Watched other people eating giant pretzels. Took carriage ride in Central Park.

Took subway home. Looked at friend's slow-mo video of the wedding.

Happy to be with my best friend and be surrounded by so many supportive friends and family members.

Looking forward to the family party in San Diego in December.

GREAT GIFT FROM MY SECOND GRADE TEACHER

2009-11-14T19:06:00.003-05:00

About ten years ago, I tracked down and got in touch with my teacher from the second grade. She was truly an angel to me.

I've stayed with her a bunch of times while visiting out in Seattle. She is a master gardener, so her house is surrounded by beauty. One time while I was there, she let me harvest a whole bunch of lavender.

For my birthday this year, she sent a care package. There were crayons with a note that said "These are for your colorful creative self." There was a chocolate bar that said "This is for your sweet self." And there's a puzzle I have to put together that has a birthday message on it.

I just love these gifts with symbolism and thought behind them!

ON MY BIRTHDAY, I FEEL TRULY BLESSED

2009-11-13T22:07:00.002-05:00

This is the birthday card my fiance gave me.

I received it today, along with lots of heartfelt phone messages, Facebook messages, cards, and phone calls.

Someone at work gave me a Birthday hug.

I feel so blessed to have so many good people in my life!

MY FAIRY TALE WEDDING SHOE DREAM CAME TRUE

2009-11-11T17:14:00.004-05:00

You can ask anyone. I wear running shoes every day for every occasion. I have feet that require them; I'll spare you the details about why.

I figured that getting married was a good enough excuse to ditch the tennies and go for something that seemed fairytale princess-like.

First, a did an online search for wedding shoes. I found a pair I really liked on the Macys wesbite called The Nina Gamma Evening Shoe.

My friend Louise Crawford, who is a lot of fun and a great scout, offered to take me on the hunt. First, we went to Macy's in search of the Ninas. They did not have the shoe I wanted. It was beyond mobbed because of Veterans Day being a day off work for many and also a sale day. I tried on something else but it was white satin-y fabric which gets dirty quickly. More importantly, it was not the Nina Gamma.

I said "Louise, let's get out of here and go to Lord and Taylor. It's calmer and they have better customer service." Once there, we headed straight to all the silver-y looking shoes. Louise reached for a pair and said "Look at these, aren't these cool?" And I said "Hey! Those are the shoes I wanted!" We couldn't believe the good fortune.

Are they comfortable? Heck, no! Are they awesome-looking? Definitely, yes! It's hard to tell from the picture, but the heel is actually a clear wedge. They are a tribute to my former babysitter from San Francisco who let me try on her Candies slip on heels that had a clear plastic strap with colorful 3-D fruit perched on top.

I can't wait to wear my new shoes. But I will definitely have my running shoes on hand for when the dogs start barking.

IN HONOR OF SESAME STREET'S 40TH YEAR: REPRINT OF KEVIN CLASH INTERVIEW

2009-11-10T08:16:00.003-05:00

Originally posted on Friday, July 27, 2007

During a recent family vacation in an island off the coast of Seattle, I spent a lot of time playing with my nephew, Tyler. Tyler is two years and 4 months old. He loves to greet every person who comes in the room, jump on his older brother, and look at picture books. He is full of passion for life. When I play with Tyler, I follow his lead as much as possible. One evening, I sat quietly with Tyler as he lined up crayons next to each other and drew circles of all colors and sizes. One morning at the beach, I held Tyler’s hand as he walked in and out of the water, looking at the waves, the light, the skim boarders at water’s edge. Once in a while, Tyler would let out a shriek of delight accompanied by a joyful leap. Mostly, though, he wanted just to walk and look. I stayed with him as he did that for about a half an hour.

I can think of few activities more rewarding or important than to follow a young person’s mind. It does take a conscious decision to not insert my idea of how things should go. There’s always a pull to worry about how a child is going to “turn out,” and direct him or her to activities that will (seemingly) ensure success in the future as a “productive” or “well adjusted” adult. But I have a hunch that if we adults spent more time following the creative minds and pursuits of young people, more humans would have lives that they are truly passionate about. Kevin Clash is the proof in the pudding.

Kevin Clash is the puppeteer behind Elmo, the lovable, furry red muppet who has won the hearts of millions on Sesame Street. I gathered information about Kevin by reading his book – My Life as a Furry Red Monster – and by meeting him in person at his Sesame Workshop office. Most inspiring was learning the details about a life of love and support from family, friends, neighbors, and mentors who backed Kevin’s passion for puppetry from the start. Kevin’s rich history as a producer and puppeteer shows that good things happen when adults pay close attention to and nurture the creative and artistic sensibilities of children.

Kevin’s Life in a Nutshell
Kevin grew up in a working class, African heritage suburb of Baltimore, Maryland with a mom, a dad, and three siblings. He spent countless childhood hours creating puppets and puppet shows, getting plenty of inspiration from television programs such as Captain Kangaroo, Good Times, and, of course, Sesame Street. During his younger years, Kevin performed shows for neighborhood folks, for audiences in the wider Baltimore area, then for local television programs.

Like other children who do something off the beaten path, Kevin got a dose of teasing and raised eyebrows. He also experienced the insidious messages of racism. Fortunately, the love and support he got from his family and community balanced out forces that may have otherwise swayed Kevin from his path. As Kevin says in his book, “Society was still sending a loud message that black children like us didn’t have much to aspire to, but that negative talk was drowned out by our parents, who taught us that our dreams were worthy simply because they were ours.”

Gladys and George Clash operated as a team to back their son’s passion. They kept Kevin well-stocked with art supplies and fabrics; took him to his first gigs as a performer; drove him to hobby shops; and connected Kevin to professionals who would help him along his career path. Kevin also has vivid memories of what each parent did individually to support him. George, a flash welder and neighborhood handyman, helped Kevin build puppet stages out of salvaged scrap wood. He also kept his cool when Kevin used his (George’s) furry church coat to fashion a puppet named Moandy, responding to the discovery of his cut-up coat with a firm yet kind: “Next time, ask.” Gladys, a home-based daycare worker, was a talented seamstress who taught Kevin to sew on her old Singer machine. She was also the one who helped Kevin land one of his first big breaks by connecting him with Kermit Love, a man who would become one of Kevin’s key mentors.

When Kevin was in high school, he saw Kermit Love featured on an episode of Call It Macaroni, a children’s television show. Kevin was blown away by the fact that an adult was making a successful living from his passion – designing costumes and puppets for everyone from George Balanchine’s dancers to Sesame Street’s Big Bird. Through perseverance, Gladys got in touch with Love who in turn invited Kevin to come to his workshop in New York City. Shortly after that visit, Kermit invited Kevin to be Cookie Monster’s puppeteer in the 1979 Macys Thanksgiving Day Parade.

In the 1980s, Kevin became a puppeteer for Sesame Street and also participated in a number of Jim Henson productions. In addition to winning the hearts of millions as Elmo on Sesame Street, Kevin has won multiple awards for his work as co-executive producer of Elmo’s World.

Kevin on Mentoring

In reflecting on the trajectory of his life, Kevin is clear that mentoring and other forms of support have been key to his success. He also recognizes that support can mean space and freedom and it can also mean the kind of tough-love guidance that keeps a person grounded. Kevin acknowledges that he has relied on others to keep him rooted in a life of integrity. Said Kevin during our chat at Sesame Workshop, “Stardom stinks if you don’t have people telling you the truth. You need people who teach you that there are rules to abide by if you want to keep being a success with family and with business.” Kevin fondly described several of the mentors who did help him grow as an artist through truth-telling; these folks include Stu Kerr, Kermit Love, and Jim Henson.

Stu Kerr, a television personality, was Kevin’s first mentor. When Stu saw Kevin’s puppetry at a local fair, he invited Kevin to perform in a television show called Caboose. Through Caboose, Kevin eventually landed a spot on Captain Kangaroo. Kevin credits Stu with teaching him about the importance of cooperation in working with other professionals, both from the creative and business aspect of things.

Speaking about costume and puppet designer Kermit Love, Kevin commented: “He took me under his wing like I was a grandson. He was so positive, guiding me in the right direction. When the time came to decide to go to college, he encouraged me to stay working with Jim Henson.”

And, finally, Kevin said of Jim Henson: “Jim was so approachable; there was no ego. Jim’s message was ‘Let’s have a good time and respect each other and give back.’ With Jim, you learned the craft by watching and by doing. It was intimidating to be the new kid on the set and Jim stuck with me.”

Kevin has been blessed with the sound guidance of these three and countless other guides. He also knows, particularly from his childhood days, that adults must step back enough to trust the rightness of what children love to do and want to pursue. On the topic of supporting young people in their journeys, Kevin says this in his book:

“You can teach your children all the basics and then some, and they will turn right around and use their knowledge in wonderful, powerful ways you can’t even imagine. That’s the beauty of learning. But it can be hard to resist pulling on the reins and, at some point, steering kids away from what they want to learn to what you think they need to know to be successful. […]

Dreams are fragile things, but when they’ve been bolstered by the support of parents and teachers, and reinforced with early success, they can withstand the skeptics and take flight. When I was a kid, my dad and I spent a lot of time together building things, and I can’t help but think of this metaphor: Kids are the architects of their own dreams. I know that I was.”

Labels: Elmo, Henson, Kevin Clash, Sesame Street

6 Comments:

At 6:15 PM, louise crawford said...: beautiful. The picture is great, too.
At 11:17 AM, Missy said...: Wonderful interview, Eleanor!
At 10:16 PM, Morgan Doninger said...: I was touched by this entry, both about your nephew and about Kevin Clash. Keep up the good work!
At 10:23 PM, Cica & Lizzy =D said...: me(lizzy) and my mom read the story together and loved it. it wasn't too long, but gave just the right amount of info. when it ended i realized it was like a essay- especially the ending paragraph(which i thought was really well written). 1st time i was interested in elmo since i was 4! really welldone!!!!cant wait 2 read more of your blog!
At 8:11 AM, Anonymous said...: I see you are really enjoying your summer. Great blog I was touch by your story of your nephew and about Kevin AkaELMO. Keep up the good work see you soon
peace monse
At 11:13 AM, rafiqkie said...: its hard to believe that man is really can do small voice for red monster elmo...quite impress! i grew up watching sesame street since i was 9...thx sesame street! thx very much..

MINI GETAWAYS MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE

2009-11-08T08:42:00.005-05:00

It used to be that whenever I needed a mini getaway, I would take the F train from Brooklyn to the 2nd Avenue stop in Manhattan. There, you can find the Chinatown YMCA as well as Whole Foods. My getaway consists of swimming at the Y (which has a fantastic pool and a really nice Director) and then going to the top floor of Whole Foods. It's a giant, quiet, light-filled loft space where you can sit with a snack and read, write, or hang out with friends.

With wedding planning and a new job, I forgot about my mini-getaway spot. But I remembered it last night when my body telling me it needed some rejuvenation.

By the time I got inspired to go swim, my local Y in Brooklyn was closing in less than an hour. So I decided to take the train up to my Manhattan stomping ground. What a lovely bonus that the Chinatown Y now has extended hours on Saturday night; they are open until 8:45 pm! It was quiet; I had a whole lane to myself and there was barely anyone in the locker room.

After a great swim, I went around the corner to Whole Foods, brought some soup upstairs, and enjoyed reading a celebrity magazine that another Whole Foods patron begifted to me.

I came home feeling so energized. Even though it was late, I spent an hour cleaning up the apartment and getting things organized for the next few days.

Before going to sleep, I read a bit in the NY Times about the 40th birthday of Sesame Street.
Did you know that Michelle Obama was on the show and promoting healthy eating. Go, Michelle!

MY NEW FAVORITE VIDEO

2009-11-02T10:23:00.002-05:00

Mike and I continue to watch Sean the Sheep videos from NetFlix. He is one of the characters from the Wallace and Gromit movies. Sean and friends have some serious dance moves!

FROM DAILY OM: SAVOR EACH SHARED MOMENT

2009-10-30T08:05:00.004-04:00

From Daily Om

October 30, 2009
Savor Each Shared Moment
Scorpio Daily Horoscope

You may be in high spirits and find satisfaction in being active today. Perhaps your good mood is the result of your deep sense of pleasure with life and your desire to absorb everything it has to offer you. Gathering together with friends or engaging in vigorous activities such as sports could further ignite your enthusiastic feelings. If you find some way to marry your passionate feelings today with your zeal for life, you may notice that your sense of time and place dissolve and that you become one with the energy of the universe. Sharing these feelings with others could create a space where everything you do together is beautiful, inspired, and filled with the delight of the present moment.

Savoring the feelings of pleasure and enjoyment we have with our loved ones cultivates a supportive, loving, and fun environment. When we relish the abundance in our lives and do something physical—such as social gatherings or exercise—we become fully open to the beauty of “now” since we are using every aspect of our being to engage completely in our lives. The more we are present in our lives, the more our negative thoughts and feelings fall by the wayside and instead are replaced by a shared sense of joy at being able to take pleasure in our present lives. By sharing your enjoyment of life today, you and your loved ones will begin to awaken to the full power and wonder of each moment.

THRILL OF THE NEW: A GOOD FORECAST FROM DAILY OM

2009-10-23T08:29:00.004-04:00

From the website Daily Om.

October 23, 2009
Thrill of the New
Scorpio Daily Horoscope

You could hear news about something that piques your curiosity today and makes you feel thrilled. Perhaps things have been routine in your life recently, and the anticipation of engaging in something different animates you. Grabbing hold of the new ideas and opportunities that come your way might infuse your life with a sense that there is uncharted territory either in your work, personal, or spiritual life that awaits exploration. Remember that keeping your mind open to whatever you hear about can make you more receptive to the differing ideas and news that come your way today. As you let yourself relish the pleasure that comes from discovering something unusual you might notice that your take on life not only becomes more animated but that you also feel a greater sense of joy at the unexpected twists and turns that life brings your way.

Opening ourselves up to the things that surprise and thrill us makes us more ready to accept the unpredictable. For many of us it is easy to become comfortable with our habits and the ordinariness of our everyday existence. Allowing ourselves to seek the new and to be more responsive to the out-of-the-ordinary events that come along, however, better prepares us for the changes that life brings our way. There is really only one thing that is certain in life—things will always change. By embracing the new today, you will add greater excitement to your life that will nourish you and help you grow.

NEPHEW TYLER SNAPS PHOTOS OF PINK MONKEY AND SWEATER-CLAD RABBIT

2009-10-19T15:44:00.002-04:00

Unbeknownst to my brother and his wife, their 4.5-year0ld son Tyler took their digital camera and did an entire photo shoot of his stuffed animals. Pictured left are Pink Monkey (a gift from me) and Sweater-Clad Bunny.

When I went to visit Tyler almost a year ago, he kept staging and then taking photos of people and of his toys - legos, etc.

I liked that he got how you "frame" a picture and then take it. Taking charge as an artist - something I full-heartedly support in a young person!

OPEN CALL FOR ART, MUSIC & WRITING SUBMISSIONS TO UNDERWATER NEW YORK

2009-10-09T19:27:00.000-04:00

Underwater New York, an online anthology of stories inspired by objects found underwater around New York City, launched Wednesday with a party aboard the Lightship Frying Pan, which was once underwater itself. Underwater New York took over the rusty, barnacled boat with an evening of performances, including a reading by Ben Greenman, sketch comedy by Alex Scordelis and Chris Schell of the Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre, art by Mary Mattingly and Nura Qureshi, musical performances by Supergood! and Lawrence Kim & His Boss, and Michael Hearst Underwater: a Songs for (Underwater) Ice Cream Trucks installation. Nautical music was spun by DJ Dan Selzer, who also made an audio montage of authors reading excerpts from fiction written for the project, which was played into one of The Frying Pan’s creaky cabins. Underwater New York is looking for more stories inspired by their crazy, evocative list of underwater objects, from the whimsical (mysterious goo, runaway giraffe, a fleet of ice cream trucks) to the historical (Coney Island Dreamland, The Princess Anne Steamship) – visit the Underwater New York site to read the full list, sign up for notification of future events and excursions, see the amazing stories created so far for the project, and get inspired to create your own!