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The Secret of Coaching yourself to successful Leadership Habits in 30 days!

2009-12-05T12:13:02Z

Training at JCI Newport, California (USA): JCI Newport organizes a seminar Monday evening 14th December : “The Secret of Coaching yourself to successful Leadership & Personal Habits in 30 days!” by Dr. Paul Koeck, MD, IG.

Program:

During this seminar, we will first analyze how Alexander the Great could build the foundations of his Empire. Next you will discover how an action plan for your own life and dreams should be developed. Then you will learn how the human brain and psychology is wired and how to use your brain in order to develop effective habits for success in your private and professional life. You will get some academic insights in recent findings of medical & psychological research, plus learn how to apply these insights in your own selfcoaching to fulfill your dreams or to coach your beloved ones or professional contacts according to our newest research. We will offer you some practical tools to start your journey after this insightful night!

After this Training, you will know:

The Leadership Secret of Alexander the Great of Macedonia
How to coach yourself and others to develop similar success habits within 30 days
How to prevent relaps to old habits in 180 days
How the human brain learns new habits and how to use this insight for yourself
How to apply this knowlegde in your private life as well as in your professional life

If you want to see video fragments of my previous JCI Strategic Leadership Training in Istanbul, go to: www.coachteam.com/jci .

Registration @ www.newportjaycees.com

JCI World Congress 2009

2009-11-25T21:50:28Z

Dear Friends, last week, I was visiting the JCI World Congress 2009 in Hammamet, Tunesia with our Belgian Delegation. Looking forward to see you there! I hope to learn lot about Leadership, Coaching and Friendship. Some of you have asked me more about my JCI Training opportunities. You now can see for free a video recording of my latest Training “Strategic Leadership at the JCI Training Forum 2009 in Istanbul at www.coachteam.com/jci . Paul Koeck, IG

New pictures have been posted at: http://hammamet.jcitienen.org

Training @ Lithuanian Parliament

2009-11-24T13:06:00Z

On Friday, I will give my training at the Lithuanian Parliament. You can also follow with live video streaming on the internet in English and Lithuanian translation:

„How can Leaders and Governments resolve unemployment with „Solution Focused Reactivation Strategies“?

Gerbiamieji,

Kviečiame Jus į Dr. Paul Koeck, patyrusio lektoriaus, Coachteam® International įkūrėjo ir vadovo, dirbančio su įvairių šalių verslo kompanijų atstovais, paskaitą
„How can Leaders and Governments resolve unemployment
with „Solution Focused Reactivation Strategies“?

Paskaita vyks: spalio 30 d., 9.00 val.
Vieta: Seimo Europos informacijos biuras (Seimo III rūmai, Gedimino pr. 53, Vilnius).
Trukmė: 2 val.
Darbo kalba – anglų k.

Į paskaitą kviečiami visi, kuriems tenka priimti sprendimus, susijusius su nedarbo keliamomis socialinėmis problemomis bei siekiantys keisti negatyvų žmonių požiūrį.

Nepraleiskite šios progos – dalyvavimas nemokamas!
Plačiau apie lektorių Dr. Paul Koeck – http://www.paulkoeck.com/about/
Registracija el. paštu eib@lrs.lt arba tel. (8-5) 239 6000

Teaching Schedule at Vilnius University

2009-11-02T12:04:58Z

My actual teaching schedule:

Monday 26th: teaching the Masters in Organizational Psychology : “Solution Focused Business Coaching” (201 auditorium, faculty of philosophy)
Tuesday 27th: teaching the Masters in Clinical & Health psychology: “Solution Focused Cognitive Therapy” (201 auditorium, faculty of philosophy)
Tuesday 27th: teaching the Masters in Organizational Behavior: “Coaching & Leadership” (204 auditorium, faculty of communication)
Wednesday 28th: teaching in the course “Strategic information and knowledge management” (with prof. Zenona Atkociuniene): “Leadership in an International Context & Strategic Leadership” (203 auditorium, faculty of communication)
Thursday 29th October: Meeting at Belgian Embassy
Thursday 29th October: JCI Training for JCI Vilnius about “The Secret of Coaching yourself to successful Leadership & Personal Habits in 30 days!” ISM university (Arkliu street 18, Vilnius, see: http://www.facebook.com/JCI.VILNIUS )
Friday 30th October: Training Lithuanian Parliament: How can Leaders & Governements resolve unemployent with “Solution Focused Reactivation Strategies”?

Saturday 31th October: Opera “Madame Butterfly”

“The Secret of Coaching yourself to successful Leadership & Personal Habits in 30 days!” with JCI Vilnius

2009-11-25T21:55:07Z

JCI Vilnius organizes a seminar with me on thursday evening 29th October at 18.30 – 22.30 hs: “The Secret of Coaching yourself to successful Leadership & Personal Habits in 30 days!” by Dr. Paul Koeck, IG. (ISM university, Arkliu street 18, Vilnius). .

Program:

During this 4-hour seminar, we will first analyze how Alexander the Great could build the foundations of his Empire. Next you will discover how an action plan for your own life and dreams should be developed. Then you will learn how the human brain and psychology is wired and how to use your brain in order to develop effective habits for success in your private and professional life. You will get some academic insights in recent findings of medical & psychological research, plus learn how to apply these insights in your own selfcoaching to fulfill your dreams or to coach your beloved ones or professional contacts according to our newest research. We will offer you some practical tools to start your journey after this insightful night!

After this Training, you will know:

The Leadership Secret of Alexander the Great of Macedonia
How to coach yourself and others to develop similar success habits within 30 days
How to prevent relaps to old habits in 180 days
How the human brain learns new habits and how to use this insight for yourself
How to apply this knowlegde in your private life as well as in your professional life

If you want to see video fragments of my previous JCI Strategic Leadership Training, go to: www.coachteam.com/jci .

Call JCI Vilnius if you want to join my training: www.facebook.com/jcivilnius

The Secret of Gary Kasparov

2009-10-28T22:17:06Z

Chess World Champion Gary kasparov came over to Belgium this week. He analyses his own success secrets. Since it connects very closely to my personal experience as a Business Coach of highly effective leaders, I wanted to summarize some key idea’s:

Reflect on your ‘Decision Process’:
1. analyze how you take decisions in your life: become counscious of how you took your succesfull decisions and make reflecting on your decisions a habit. This will lead to creating a personal decision style.
2. success is the consequence of the quality of your decision processes, and long term success of the quality of your improvement process of making better decisions
Selfconfidence: trust your own decisions
1. Be consistent in your decisions by learning to trust your own decision process
2. flexibility and adaptability to circumstances are not a contradiction to consistency on condition that you choose yourself your own strategy
3. Keep following your plan, and do not let others distract you from your plan.
4. choose your own style and play your own game

The reason why I want to share this with you, is because it correlates with the findings in our coaching survey: clients who have been coached succesfully, all report that the main added value of their coaching process is “reflection”: they all report that they have learned to reflect on their decisions.

Solution Focused Coaching at Vilnius University

2009-10-28T22:18:44Z

Vilnius University invited me to teach some classes in Solution Focused Coaching in their master program of organisational psychology and Solution Focused Therapy to the master students in clinical & health psychology together with some classes at the faculty of communication. It dates since 2004 that I visted Lithuania. I remember teaching my first workshop there about intercultural management in their parliament, only 5 days after the borders had been opened to EU countries. The Baltic states are active since they entered Europe. I am glad to return to this proactive country.

Interview by Dr. Joszef Telkes in Budapest

2009-10-22T14:10:48Z

Last saturday, I was interviewed in Budapest by Hungary’s psychiatrist & celebrity, Dr. Joszef Telkes about our new online e-therapy business:

Internet Assisted Psychotherapy interview by Jozsef Telkes.

JCI Budapest

2009-06-09T21:57:42Z

Tonight I rejoin my friends at the European JCI Conference in Budapest in the Corinthia Hotel till saturday evening. Looking forward to learning new insights and discovering old & new friends. If you are there, leave me a note at the reception so that we can meet.

Co-creating Lasting Love

2009-10-28T22:17:42Z

A discussion with a friend reminded me following transcript of a diaogue among two of my most important mentors. It reflects deeply my personal beliefs about Lasting Love:

In 1959, Jay Haley, the famous family therapist, asks his mentor, Milton H. Erickson, MD, the words most renowned hypnotherapist and psychiatrist: “If you were to describe what a good marriage is, how would you describe it?” Milton H. Erickson replies: When I describe a good marriage to my patients, I point out to them that there are essentailly four kinds of Love:

The infantile type of love, “I love me.”
The next stage, “I love the me in you. I love you becaue you are my brother, my mother, my father, my sister, my dog. The ‘me’ in ‘you’.
Then the adolescent type of love, “I love you because your dancing pleases me, and because your beauty pleases me, and because your brains please me.”
The adult stage of love wherein, “I want to love you and cherish you because I want to see you happy, because i can find my happiness in your happiness. The happier you are, the happier, I’ll be. I’l find my happiness in yours. Il” find delight in your pleasure and intellectual persuits. I’ll find a delight in your enjoyment of dancing.” So the mature love is the capacity to find enjoyment in the enjoyment of the other person’s enjoyment. It works both ways.

Dr. Erickson continues: ‘So in a good marriage upi’ll see some of the “I love me.” You should expect that. You’ll see some of the I love the me in you. You’ll see some of the adolescent variety of your good qualities that please me. But there should be a very considerable percentage of the enjoyment of the other person’s state of happiness.
It isn’t enough to just enjoy your wifes cooking. You ought to enjoy the “pleasure” that she has in cooking. You ought not just enjoy the fact that she keeps the kids quiet while you are working. You want to enjoy, really, the pleasure and satisfaction that she gets out of dealing with the kids, even though you can’t understand why that particular dealing with the kids gives her so much satisfaction. It is beyond your capacity to understand, but you are so glad she enjoys it. You know that as long as she ’s happy, enjoying inexplicable things, you’re going to be happy too.’

I wanted to share this wisdom with you. Who would not dream of such a lasting loving relationship? Paul

P.S.: A friend has sent to right now another interesting related quote:
Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’
Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you’