Not so long ago, I was genuinely excited about AI. Go back and look at some of my older posts if you need proof.

Not in the “robots are the future” kind of way. More in the “maybe this can help lighten the mental load a little” kind of way.

Some aspects of AI still intrigue me.

I’ve used AI to brainstorm ideas, organize thoughts, and help untangle moments when my brain felt like I’d accidentally left one hundred and fifty browser tabs open in there. There are still things about it I find useful.

But over the past several months, my perspective has shifted.

Not because I suddenly fear technology. I’ve worked in tech for decades. I build websites. I adapt quickly. I’m not over here yelling at clouds because an app moved a button again. Although some updates absolutely deserve side-eye.

What’s changed is that I’m starting to see the bigger picture more clearly.

Recently, a commencement speaker got booed for calling AI the next Industrial Revolution. That reaction should tell us all something.

People are tired of being sold shiny technological futures that somehow always seem to leave ordinary people more stressed, more exhausted, and somehow paying for twelve subscriptions they didn’t know they signed up for.

We’ve Been Here Before

We heard it with social media.
With hustle culture.
With the gig economy.
With platforms that promised “freedom” and “connection” but often delivered burnout, surveillance, impossible expectations, and the inability to sit through dinner without checking notifications.

And now AI has arrived wrapped in a lot of the same language:
Efficiency.
Optimization.
Productivity.
Scale.

Meanwhile, The Forest Is on Fire

The environmental impact.
The staggering energy consumption.
The water usage required to cool massive data centers.
The rush to replace human workers before anyone fully understands the long-term consequences.
The flattening of creative work into something faster, cheaper, and increasingly soulless.

And we can’t ignore the fact that many of the companies sprinting toward AI while cutting human jobs still haven’t actually seen the miraculous results they promised investors in the first place.

I think a lot of us initially approached AI through the lens of relief.

People are exhausted.
Overworked.
Trying to hold together careers, finances, caregiving, relationships, health, and a world that feels increasingly unstable.

So when AI appeared promising shortcuts and support, of course people were interested.

I was interested too.

I’m Allowed to Rethink Things

But lately I’ve started wondering whether some of these tools are actually helping solve the problem…
or simply one more problem to add to the mix.

I think it’s healthy to ask those questions.

Changing your mind is not weakness.

One of the healthiest things a person can do is reassess when new information, patterns, or consequences start showing up.

I still see positives in AI.

I’m just no longer convinced it’s the superhero some people want us to believe it is.

Because yes, as Spider-Man taught us: with great power comes great responsibility.

And so far? I’m not exactly seeing the people racing to dominate the AI industry acting like responsibility is the priority.

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Once upon a time, I probably would have nodded along with a lot of popular productivity advice.

Work harder.
Stay focused.
Push through.

And honestly, I probably believed it for a long time.

Then my health issues showed up. Chronic pain in particular.

And when that happens, something becomes very clear very quickly.

Your body does not care about motivational quotes.

It doesn’t care about someone’s perfectly optimized morning routine.
It definitely doesn’t care about productivity experts who have never had to negotiate with their joints before getting out of bed.

Suddenly the rules change.

Movement doesn’t just happen anymore. It takes a little patience.

So my mornings start gently.

I get dressed.
I grab a cup of decaf coffee.
And I ease myself into the day instead of charging into it like a bull spotting a red cape.

Ironically, once my body gets going, mornings are often my most productive time. That productivity comes from working with my body instead of trying to overpower it.

I also started noticing something else.

Most productivity advice assumes a life that looks nothing like mine.

Or most women’s, for that matter.

The Toxic Productivity Advice That Pretends Our Lives Don’t Exist

Most productivity advice assumes a very specific kind of life.

• A body without chronic pain.
• A schedule without caregiving responsibilities.
• A home where someone else is quietly handling the invisible labor of daily life.

In other words, a life where the only real job is work. That’s not reality for most women.

Midlife women especially, are often juggling several roles at once.

We may be running businesses or holding demanding jobs.
Managing households.
Carrying the mental load of keeping life running.
Many of us are caring for children, aging parents, or both.

And layered into all of that are the physical realities that the popular productivity books rarely acknowledge.

Chronic pain.
Arthritis.
Perimenopause.
Menopause.
Hormonal shifts that scramble sleep, energy, and concentration.

And I know it’s not just women my age dealing with this.

I’m already watching my own daughter, who’s nearing forty, starting to navigate more frequent medical appointments while juggling family responsibilities and everything else life throws at you.

That tells me something important.

This isn’t some rare exception. It’s simply what life looks like for a lot of women.

Yet toxic productivity culture keeps insisting the answer is simple.

Wake up earlier.
Work harder.
Stop making excuses.

As if every body and every life operates exactly the same way.

They don’t.

The System Wasn’t Designed for Us

Modern work structures were designed around men.

The classic forty-hour workweek assumed a worker who could show up every day, at the same time, with consistent energy and minimal interruption from life outside the office.

It also assumed something else.

Someone else was handling everything at home.

Cooking.
Childcare.
Household logistics.
All the invisible tasks that keep life running.

That model worked reasonably well when workplaces were built around men who had stay-at-home spouses managing the rest of life.

But most women never had that setup. And today, almost no one does. Yet the expectations never changed. We’re still expected to function inside a system that assumes endless stamina and very few competing responsibilities.

Which explains why so many women feel like they’re constantly falling behind.

Not because they’re lazy or lack discipline. Because the system they’re trying to operate inside was never designed with their lives in mind.

The Theater of Hustle Culture

A lot of hustle culture isn’t actually about productivity.

It’s about performance.

Posting pictures of 5 AM workouts.
Sharing elaborate morning routines and late night work sessions.
Talking about how little sleep you need.

It creates the illusion that success comes from sheer willpower. But the reality is much messier than that.

Human energy is not a machine.

Bodies change. Health fluctuates.
Life responsibilities evolve.

Pretending otherwise doesn’t make people more productive. It just makes them feel like they’re failing when they can’t keep up.

Working From Home Wasn’t a Trend for Me

Working from home wasn’t something I adopted during the pandemic.

I’ve owned my own business for almost nineteen years.

Long before remote work became trendy, before Zoom meetings and “work from anywhere” headlines, I was already building my career from home. At the time, it wasn’t about health. It was about necessity, independence, and flexibility.

What I didn’t realize back then was how important that decision would become later. Because when my health issues eventually showed up, chronic pain in particular, I was incredibly fortunate.

I was already working in an environment that allowed me to adapt.

I didn’t have to navigate a commute while my joints were screaming at me or beg for permission to adjust my schedule around medical appointments or bad pain days. I didn’t have to sit in an office pretending everything was fine when my body clearly told me otherwise.

The flexibility was already there.

And I think about that a lot.

Because if I were still working in a traditional office job, the physical demands alone would make it incredibly difficult. Commuting, sitting in an environment I can’t control, trying to schedule medical appointments in such a way that it doesn’t require missing work.

That kind of daily strain adds up quickly.

So for me, remote and flexible work isn’t a perk. It’s what makes it possible for me to continue having a career at all.

And I want to say that plainly, because I know I’m not the only one.

A lot of people need flexible work, not because they’re trying to get away with something, but because it’s the only way they can keep showing up and doing good work without sacrificing their health.

What Trusting Your Own Rhythms Actually Looks Like

Trusting your rhythms doesn’t mean giving up, and it doesn’t mean using your health as an excuse to opt out of working.

It looks like something much harder and much more honest.

Learning to read your own body and building your work around what it actually tells you.

For me, that means protecting the hours when my pain is manageable and not infringing on my brain bandwidth.

It means building buffer into my schedule because some days my body simply won’t cooperate, and fighting that reality only makes things worse.

It looks like making peace with a workday that doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

Because what matters is the output, not how perfectly the process fits someone else’s ideal schedule.

It also means learning the difference between productive discomfort, the kind that stretches you, and harmful pushing that borrows from tomorrow to pay for today.

Nobody in a hustle culture masterclass is going to teach you that.

You learn it by listening to yourself.

The problem is that you were handed someone else’s map and told it would lead to your destination.

Work Should Adapt to Humans

This is the shift I believe we need to make.

Work should adapt to humans. Not the other way around.

For decades, the dominant message has been that if work feels impossible, the problem must be you.

You’re not disciplined enough.
You’re not organized enough.
You’re not committed enough.

But for many women in midlife, the issue isn’t effort.

The problem is that the systems we’re expected to function within were never designed with our lives in mind.

And it’s about time we started questioning it and insisting on something that actually works for real people.

A Different Way Forward

If you’ve been feeling exhausted trying to keep up with hustle culture, you’re not alone.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting a way of working that actually respects your energy, your health, and your life outside of work.

If this is something you’ve been thinking about lately, you might find my guide Work That Loves You Back helpful. It walks through a different approach to designing work that supports your strengths and your real life instead of constantly fighting against them.

And if conversations like this resonate with you, you’re always welcome to join my Shift Notes newsletter. Each week I share ideas, and honest reflections about building work that actually fits the life you’re living.

Because success shouldn’t require ignoring your humanity or pretending your body doesn’t exist.

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If you don’t spend much time on LinkedIn, you might not realize that AI is the main topic over there. Every day it’s the same debate. One side says you’d better learn it fast or you’ll be left behind. The other side says AI is destroying everything.

I think the truth is somewhere in the middle. But that’s not really what this is about.

The Fear That AI Is Replacing People

The big question right now is whether AI is going to replace people. Lawyers. Customer service reps. Designers. Writers. Insert your role here.

I’ll be honest. For a while, I wondered if that might be true. We’ve watched big companies cut thousands of jobs and say AI was part of the reason. Amazon. HP Inc. Dow. Block. Pinterest. When you see headlines like that, it’s easy to think something big is happening.

Then I had an experience that made me stop and think.

Last week I needed to contact customer support for my phone carrier. It was a billing issue. Not simple. The kind of thing where you need someone who can actually think through it with you.

My call went to an AI system. It asked a few questions. Then it sent me a link to a chatbot in the app and hung up.

Even though I had asked to speak to a human.

It’s Just Customer Service…Until It Isn’t

So I opened the app and started chatting. It was clear I was talking to a bot. After several minutes, it finally decided my issue needed a real person and transferred me.

When I got a human, I explained that I’ve been a customer for over 20 years. I’ve bought several phones through them. An Apple Watch. At one point I had multiple lines. I’ve referred family and friends.

Because I’m self-employed, sometimes my payment comes in a few days after the due date. But I’ve always paid within the same month.

Last week I got a 48-hour shutoff warning. The bill wasn’t even ten days late.

That had never happened before.

It seems they now use AI to handle payment issues.

Here’s what hit me.

The system saw a late date. It didn’t see 20 years of history. It didn’t see patterns. It didn’t see loyalty.

And in that moment, I stopped feeling loyal.

That’s what businesses need to think about.

AI can help with efficiency. It can flag problems. It can save money. But when you let it make decisions that affect relationships, you can damage something much bigger than a single payment.

Customer loyalty isn’t emotional decoration. It’s structural support for a business.

It costs more to find new customers than to keep the ones you already have. Loyal customers are more patient. They don’t leave at the first small problem. They recommend you. They buy again.

When companies treat long-time customers like account numbers, they weaken that support.

We’ve already seen how fast loyalty can disappear when customers feel ignored or disrespected. Once trust is gone, it’s hard to get back. Right, Target?

Now, will AI replace some jobs? Yes. Technology has always replaced certain tasks. The telephone changed work. Spreadsheets changed work. Email changed work.

AI will change work too.

AI replaces tasks. It doesn’t replace trust.

Smart businesses will use AI to help their teams, not replace good judgment. They’ll use it to handle routine work while still letting humans make the calls that affect real relationships.

The companies chasing short-term savings without thinking about long-term loyalty may see higher profits for a while.

But when customers stop feeling valued, that shows up later.

And building real relationships still requires human judgment.

That’s something AI, by itself, isn’t built to provide.

AI isn’t going anywhere. The real question is how we use it. If you want practical, human-centered ways to integrate AI into your business without sacrificing trust or voice, you’ll find my AI resources here.

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What’s the biggest fear inducer in business right now?

AI?
The economy?
The fact that everything feels like it’s shifting under our feet?

You could make a solid argument for any of those.

But I think the real culprit is something much older.

Change.

The fear of change in business has been around far longer than ChatGPT, the cloud, or even email. It just keeps putting on new clothes.

And since I’ve got a little mileage on me, I’ve had a front row seat to more than a few rounds of this.

The Day the Typewriter Got Replaced

One of the first waves I remember clearly was the move from electric typewriters to digital word processors.

I loved mine.

I was taking a creative writing course when I got it. I can still see that little strip of text glowing above the keyboard. After years of wrestling with correction ribbons and white-out, being able to edit without retyping an entire page felt revolutionary.

But not everyone was thrilled.

People were convinced power outages would erase everything. They worried about glitches. Office workers quietly wondered if these machines were coming for their jobs. And they weren’t exactly cheap, either. I didn’t get mine until the mid-1980s.

By the late 80s, though, offices were already moving on to PCs. And those weren’t just for typing. They handled spreadsheets. Accounting. Databases.

And then came email.

When Email Was the Villain

It’s hard to imagine now, but businesses were deeply uncomfortable with email.

They were afraid of losing the paper trail. Afraid executives couldn’t hide behind “I never got the memo.” Afraid of a permanent digital record of every comment ever made.

As late as 2005, I worked in offices where supervisors proudly announced they hated email and sometimes just… didn’t open it for days.

I was regularly summoned to “fix” someone’s inbox when all that had happened was they’d accidentally sorted it differently.

I really should have billed tech support back then.

But here’s the thing.

Every single one of those fears felt real.

And yet email didn’t destroy offices. It changed them. It made some things easier. It created new expectations. It reshaped communication.

The pattern repeated.

The Fear of Change in Business Is the Real Constant

After email came laptops. Then the cloud. Then remote work platforms.

Now it’s AI.

Spend five minutes on LinkedIn and you’ll see it. The panic. The moral debates. The “this is the end of creativity” posts. The “if you don’t adopt this immediately you’ll be obsolete” posts.

It’s loud.

And underneath all that noise is the same old thing.

The fear of change in business.

We’re wired to be cautious around the unfamiliar. That’s not weakness. That’s survival instinct. For most of human history, unfamiliar could mean dangerous.

The problem is that our brains don’t distinguish between a tiger in the bushes and a new software tool.

Both feel threatening.

Fear Isn’t the Enemy

Fear is information.

It tells you something is shifting. Something needs attention.

But fear should inform your decisions, not make them for you.

Businesses that refused to adopt email didn’t stay safer. They fell behind.

Companies that ignored the internet didn’t protect themselves. They scrambled later.

And I suspect we’re going to see the same thing with AI.

That doesn’t mean every new tool is good. There are real concerns. Privacy matters. Ethics matter. How we use these tools matters.

But refusing to even explore something because it feels uncomfortable? That rarely ends well.

This Isn’t Just About Technology

If we zoom out, this isn’t even just about AI.

The fear of change in business mirrors something much bigger.

We fear what looks different. Sounds different. Works differently.

“It’s going to take your job.”

“It’s ruining everything.”

“It’s not how we’ve always done it.”

Those phrases show up in technology debates. They also show up in cultural and social conversations.

Fear makes complex shifts feel simple. It gives us something to blame.

But the truth is more nuanced.

Change disrupts. It unsettles. It forces adjustment.

And adjustment is uncomfortable.

We’ve Survived This Before

In my lifetime, we’ve gone from typewriters and mimeograph machines to carrying powerful computers in our pockets.

The things that once caused full-blown office panic are now so normal we barely think about them.

AI will likely follow that same path.

It will integrate. It will evolve. It will become ordinary.

The question isn’t whether change is coming.

It always is.

The question is how you respond to it.

Do you freeze?

Do you panic?

Or do you get curious?

Because if history has taught me anything, it’s this:

The people who stay curious instead of reactive are the ones who shape what comes next.

And eventually, what once felt threatening just becomes… Tuesday.

If you’re navigating change right now, whether it’s AI, your business, or something more personal, you don’t have to sort through it alone. I talk about this kind of shift every week in Shift Notes. The noise. The fear. The decisions underneath it all. If you’d like steady perspective in your inbox instead of hot takes and panic, that’s where I share it.

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