Brian & Trula

Accepting My Husband As He Is

Trula — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 22:43:37 +0000

It is a waste of time trying to change a man’s character. You have to accept your husband as he is.
Queen Elizabeth II

One of the greatest gifts my husband gave to me was acceptance. From the start, he accepted me for me, flaws and all. and I him, from the start I’ve thought he was fine just the way he was. The older I get and the longer we’ve been married and I see how with many other married couples, there is this long-standing struggle to change their spouse. It makes me wonder, why did they marry in the first place. Sure, there are some things about Brian that are not perfect, but overall he is perfect for me. Not only do I love him deeply, I like him a great deal and wouldn’t change a thing about him. I accept him as he is.

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White Flag by Dido

Trula — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 02:58:09 +0000

I love this song so much, it reminds me of when Brian and I almost split up and how we both felt, in turn, about staying together. Our relationship has not always been easy and when we were younger we had years it was quite tumultuous and almost split up in 2002. I’m so glad we stuck it out and worked through our problems.

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Selling Used Car

Trula — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 02:01:53 +0000

We’re finally selling our old 1994 Geo. Took some pics to put on craigslist. It runs but needs lots of work and has two flat tires. Would be great as a Cash for Clunkers Trade-in! $600 OBO. Interested? contact trubreck at gmail dot com

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Personal Growth in Marriage

Trula — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 15:40:10 +0000

The other day Brian said something to be that really, really hurt my feelings. We were watching this comedy show that talked about the various racial stereotypes among women, i.e Asian women and white women being more submissive than black women in relationships. I said to Brian, well that’s not true, you can’t get more submissive than I am. I said this because I tend to be very submissive to Brian in most things; he definitely is the head of our household. So imagine my surprise when he said, Well, you can get a little feisty sometimes.

What???

Feisty?

Me, feisty?

I was floored, because I don’t consider myself feisty at all. But the more I thought about it, the more I could see how some of my words and actions could be misinterpreted this way. I do have a very thin-skin; I’m very sensitive and easily hurt and often feel I have to defend myself. So what to me seems like a perfectly reasonable response to something that triggers me negatively, may seem to others like an over-reaction. I think I am just defending myself but to others I just look ‘feisty’ and like I’m ‘going off’. Truly, this is something I need to work on. It starts with improving my self esteem so that I don’t get my feelings hurt so easily. I also need to keep reminding myself that I can choose how I respond to things, both in word and deed.

I feel I’ve grown a lot in the 13 years we have been together, but I recognize that I have a tremendous amount of growth to undergo. As does Brian. but we have to each work on our individual issues within ourselves.

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Maine Vacation 2009

Trula — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 00:50:52 +0000

We went to Boothbay Harbor, Maine for our vacation this year and had a great time! more pics here

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