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Sex coaching is different from traditional therapy, in that the process is client driven, focused on the clients’ present state of sexuality and moves toward future a healthy sexual future . The ultimate goal of sex coaching to equip individuals with the knowledge and tools to live a fulfilling healthy sex positive life.

There are a variety of reasons that an individual may seek out a sex coach:

• Body image issues
• Difficulty experiencing orgasms
• Increase intimacy within a relationship
• Enhance dating skills
• Sexual Inhibitions
• Low sexual desire

It is not necessary to be experiencing a problem for sex coaching to be beneficial. Many individual seek sex coaching simply to increase their sexual knowledge and/or to improve their sexual skill level.

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Adolescence is a time for “sexploration.”  And with the click of a button, the internet has made it extremely easy to acquire information about sex and sexuality!  The internet has increasing become the primary source of sexuality education and information; leaving a generation of adolescents more confused, misinformed and unprepared for the consequences of receiving inaccurate or misleading messages about sexuality which unfortunately results in increasing teen pregnancy rates, increasing rates of sexually transmitted infections including HIV, abortions and/or mental and emotional damage. 

While I am all for the promotion of and accessibility to comprehensive sex education, I am not quite sure I can totally endorse the concept of adolescents totally relying on the internet as a means of receiving true comprehensive sex education.

My concerns are based on the accuracy and reliability of the information and material that may be posted on such “sex education” website. Teens need to have a reputable place to receive education and information about sexuality. Websites like www.beautifully-me.com, Coalition for Positive Sexuality or Planned Parenthood’s www.betterthansexed.org, website offers reliable education and information from a staff of qualified professional sex educators. In addition, Beautifully Me’s website offers readers an opportunity to receive answers to any questions they may have by contacting our professional sex coach via email or telephone. This is an important component to our online sexuality education website because it allows readers to gain clarity or clear up any misconceptions by immediately providing access to someone who is qualified to address their questions or concerns.  That way our reader leaves our site fully informed and empowered!

Another concern with online sex education websites is that the meta tags, which are designed to help users when searching for websites, could possibly be redirect a user to an sex porno, adult chat and/or adult sex & swinger website versus an educational sex website with material that is appropriate for adolescents usage which could potentially present a more dangerous situation for a vulnerable and uninformed adolescent.

Parents need to be aware that your teen maybe viewing some of these “sex education” websites. If you find that to be the case, visit the website yourself to ensure the integrity of the materials on the website.  Review the content of the website with your adolescent to ensure that they understand what they are reading. Use it as a great talking point to begin open and honest conversations about sex.  Remember it is not the responsibility of the internet to educate your adolescent about sexuality. If you are uncomfortable talking with your adolescent about sexuality, refer them to a qualified sex educator.

According to a 2008 survey of 1,280 teens of both sexes on Cosmogirl.com sponsored by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 20% of teens (13-19) had sent nude or semi-nude photographs of themselves electronically. Additionally, 39% of teens and 59% of young adults had sent sexually explicit text messages.

Why are so many teens sexting? I conducted brief interview with teens ages (12- 18), and here are some of the reasons they indicated for sexting. Many teens think that it’s “fun,” “cute,” or “sexy” to send a “sext” message to their boyfriend of girlfriend. Privacy also plays a part of the appeal, but what many teens don’t realize is that the X-rated offerings that are usually intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend, often wind up being shared with others. Some teens admitted to using sexting as a way to “cyber” flirt with someone that they are interested in or have a crush on. Some teens reported using sexting as a way to learn more about sex from their friends because they can’t talk to their parents, guardians or teachers about sex. Low self-esteem also played a huge role in sexting. Mostly teen girls admitted to sexting as a way to “feel love,” “be liked,” “fit in” and/or gain popularity among peers. And finally, so teens reported “getting off” sending and receiving explicit sexual message, images and videos.

Sexting has become so popular that even several television show such as: Good Morning America, The Tyra Banks Show, Law & Order: Special Victims Unit, Degrassi: The Next Generation, have all featured episodes on sexting. In addition, popular songs such “LOL Smiley Face” have glamorized sexting and even encouraging teen girls to engage in this behavior.

“Shorty just text me, says she want to sex me
LOL smiley face, LOL smiley face
Shorty sent a twitpic saying come and get this,
LOL smiley face, LOL smiley face
Go to my page and follow and if you got a body like a coke bottle, Shorty sent a twitpic saying come and get this,
LOL smiley face, LOL smiley face”

The glamorization of this dangerous combination of teens behaving provocatively and the accessibility to technology makes it extremely unsafe for a variety of reasons, even some which could prove to be deadly:

1. Sext messages can be accidently sent to wrong cell phone number. In the wrong hands, these messages can be forwarded to  other cell phones, posted on school computers or posted online on different social networking sites such as Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, which now presents an even bigger issue.
2.  A jilted boyfriend or girlfriend can use for the “sext” message as blackmail.
3.  Character and/or reputation can be ruined based of negative judgment by others.  Teens face humiliation, embarrassment, or name calling. Girls may be called a whore, slut, easy. Guys may be called jerk, etc.
4.  There’s potential for sexual harassment and/or stalking by other students and/or child predators. Child predators prey the vulnerability of teens and even encourage sexting, posting online profiles and communication via online chat rooms, which can result in a very dangerous even deadly situation.
5. Sexually explicit messages, images and videos can follow you the rest of your life. Once the messages, images or videos are out there, you can’t take them back. Often time teens don’t think long-term and don’t realize that the choices theyake today can affect there future.

The consequences of sexting are so severe that there have been several legal cases and charges ranging from child pornography to felony obscenity and even prison time for teens or young adults that have been caught sexting. In at least one high-profile incident an 18-year-old Ohio woman committed suicide after a former boyfriend widely distributed a nude digital photo of her that she had sent him. Additionally, in some jurisdictions across the country, teens caught sexting may have to register as a sex offender.

The bottom line is that sexting/sending explicit or naughty pictures, words using your cell phone IS NOT seXy, cool or safe. Stick to Using your cell phone for making calls or sending teen “friendly” appropriate messages to your friends.

More resources on sexting. Click on links below.
Sexing Leads to Suicide
Dangers of Sexting

The new female condom is synthetic rubber rather than polyurethane, allowing for a less costly manufacturing process and quieter sound that is less likely to disrupt the intimate act.   The new condoms will be 30% cheaper than its predecessor and are supposed to be more user friendly and hopes the new price will make it more attractive to health organizations for distribution.   In addition, FHC hopes this help in the fight against the global HIV epidemic and other sexually transmitted diseases.  Click here to read our previous blog on women and condoms. 

“Women are becoming more empowered and proactive in taking control of their sexual and reproductive health. It is no longer considered the man’s the responsibility to provide the protection in sexual situations.  The female condom definitely gives women the power to protect themselves without relying on their partner. It is extremely important for women to have the knowledge, skills and tools necessary to facilitate safer sexual experiences!”

After reading an article that the average British person has had indirect sex with 2.8 million people, I was dying to know how many people I’d tangentially slept with. So I went to this website Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners,” a calculator developed by Lloyds Pharmacy designed to scare you the freaking crap out of you or at the very least, make you think!  And while the numbers may or may not be accurate, it definitely helps to promote sexual health awareness and helps you to re-evaluate your sexual behaviors and risks.

Based on the ideal of the Six degrees of separation (also referred to as the “Human Web”) which refers to the thought that, if a person is one step away from each person they know and two steps away from each person who is known by one of the people they know, then everyone is at most six steps away from any other person on Earth. The “Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners” totals up the numbers based on your number of partners, then their previous partners, and their former lovers, and so on for six “generations” of partners.

This information is intended to remind us that when we have sex with someone, we are, in effect, not only having sex with them, but also their previous partners and their partners’ previous partners, and so on. “It’s important that people understand how exposed they are to sexually transmitted infections and take appropriate precautions in protecting themselves.”  In addition, I hope this information will spark open and honest conversations about sex and sexuality. 

It’s so important to ask your mate or potential mate the right questions. You have right to know their sexual thoughts, attitudes and behaviors! If they aren’t willing to divulge the information, then you may want to consider losing that mate and finding a new one! Your life is far more important than a few moments of pleasure. 

 Although this study was conducted in the UK, I can’t only help but to wonder what the average would be for a man and/or woman in the US.  Theoretically thinking about the millions of people you’ve sort-of slept with makes you a little queasy.  

Now that you’re effectively terrified, I still encourage you to use the Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners to help you put things into perspective and make the necessary behavioral changes!  And if you really want a get scared monogamous, ask your mate his or her sex number too.